Maryam Amir – Political Role of the Women Companions

Maryam Amir
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The speakers discuss the negative impact of Islam on women's, including the need for donations and a structure for women to stay in. They emphasize the importance of creating a trusting and supportive culture for the community, as they are actively working to support them. They end with a recitation of a song by Sir valued by the speaker.
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It was a lot

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when we look at Oh yeah, sorry, just Miriam friend, oh, I know I

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want to be respectful, though, so I do want to give the an

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introduction, if that's okay with you. Oh yeah, you don't need to.

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But sure, okay. I do because I feel like I need to, because we

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should really celebrate the scholars that we have among us,

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especially someone as yourself. So I do just want to take a minute. I

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sent everybody the sheik bio, but I will read it, just in case you

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didn't get a chance. Mariam Ahmed received her master's in education

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from UCLA Bruins. She holds a second bachelor's degree in

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Islamic studies throughout a university, Mariam has studied in

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Egypt, memorized the Quran mashallah and researched a variety

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of religious sciences, ranging from Quranic exit exegesis, oh my

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gosh, I know how to read

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English word

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Islamic jurisprudence, prophetic narrations and commentary women's

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rights within Islamic law and more. For the past 15 years, she's

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featured in a video series on faith produced by goodcast.net

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called the Mariam EMEA show. She actively hosts women who have

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memorized the Quran from around the world to recite and share

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their journeys through her into the revelation series and the

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foremothers campaign. If you aren't familiar with that, please

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go to her Instagram page, because it is phenomenal. She is an

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instructor with Swiss, which is the sohai web Institute and hekma

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institutes, and an author with virtual mosque and online she has

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been interviewed for her work by major news outlet, outlets

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including BBC and PR and CBS. Maryam is focused in the fields of

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spiritual connections, identity actualizations, social justice and

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Women's Studies have humbled her the opportunity to lecture

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throughout the United States and the world, including in Jerusalem,

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Mecca, Medina, Stockholm, London, Toronto, and so many more. And

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this is like the coolest thing, I think, of all of that, she holds a

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second degree black belt mashallah in Taekwondo and speaks multiple

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languages. We are also excited to have you here, Sheikha, and I

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always

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think it's amazing that we have you in the community. You're

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changing so much for us. I me and my sisters talk about this a lot,

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the culture and a lot of the things in, unfortunately, in our

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societies that are conflicting with Islam and actually not not

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Islamic principles, and so I love that you're speaking up and

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bringing all those Hafid and of the Quran to your space and your

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platforms. Recently, I just want to share one thing recently,

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shayka Mariam brought to her platform on social media the first

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individual Down syndrome to memorize the entire Quran. Her

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name is hafida Rawan, which is speaks volume to to mashallah, the

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beauty of the Quran, and also to the capabilities of this

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individual and her intellectual capabilities. So again,

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highlighting very important people in our community, JazakAllah

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khairan and I will meet now

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Hana Kala, PK, thank you so much for having me. It's an honor to be

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here seriously this morning, when we look at the way that we talk

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about women's issues in our community, it's often in a

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particular lens, and that lens is often what what lens would you say

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that you hear about women's issues? Share with me

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that we have, I feel like a lot of times, people tell us the things

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that are haram or prohibited, more of like

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telling us where to go, what to do, and it's not, even though it's

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supposed to be empowering. Islam is empowering women, but that's

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not how it's framed.

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Absolutely, yeah, yeah,

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anything else?

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Like, what are women's roles in Islam? Yeah,

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from the perspective of men,

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so much, so many moments at one time. I almost feel like a lot of

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it is, like, focused on, like, child rearing, and which, like

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mashallah, that's also like, so positive and great. But I feel

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like, like even the women at the time of the profit, like their

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roles were so much more and so it feels like very restricted,

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yes, absolutely, absolute session with focusing on a woman as as one

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particular type of type of space, in one particular type space. Yes,

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anyone

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else? I also feel like sometimes the way we're taught Islamic

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history, it's almost as if women are like sign line sideline

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spectators. In one of our fellows, we had a sister talk to us about

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one of the companions of the prophet that was a woman, and she

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played a vital role, but also a lot of times in like the top of

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Sierra and um.

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Even the way we discuss the companions of the Prophet, the

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men, it's like they were like main characters, and it's almost like

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the women are like peripheral, like background care, you know,

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like in a movie, like background characters, like extras, right?

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Unfortunately, do you? Do you remember?

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Do you remember who they mentioned, which, which companion

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it was,

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unfortunately not the same. And, Aya, you were there. Do you

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remember who it was?

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Desi, you're on mute. I don't know. Um,

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unfortunately I don't remember. I'm so sorry. No, exactly. That's

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why that. No, no, that's, that's literally, but just like power to

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the point that's literally, like part of what, what, what proves

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the point. Subhanallah, I mean, all of the things that you all

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mentioned, whether they were related to just women, kind of

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being told what we should be doing with our lives, or that there's

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really like an emphasis on one specific thing that we should be

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doing with our lives, or the fact that, yeah, we did exist somewhere

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in some place, but who were they? We don't really know. It's kind of

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like the messaging that many of us have heard growing up in the

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Muslim community or in Muslim spaces, even if you come from a

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family where, excuse me, maybe your your parents or your family

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members support you and what you want to do in terms of like, maybe

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you have particular goals you want to fall and you come from that

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kind of background when you walk into the community, not every

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space, obviously, but a lot of spaces kind of focus on this,

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marriage, motherhood, modesty as the most important parts of A

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Muslim woman's life, and of course, they're very important. No

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one's disagreeing that they're important. They're not important.

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But when we actually look at like the time of the companions, we can

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name women companions like when you ask, what are names of women

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companions? Typically, the names that come up very quickly are

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Khadija and Aisha and Fatima rodiloha and hun but what do we

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know about them. When you are taught about Khadija radilo Ha,

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this is typically what we're taught. We're Tada Khadija radilo

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Han Ha, when we give, you know, let's say, a presentation to a

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group of of individuals who are not Muslim, who want to learn

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about Islam, we say things like, she was older than the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wasalam. She was a businesswoman. She was someone

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who supported the Prophet. Peace be upon him. Look at how

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empowering Islam is for a woman. The Prophet's wife proposed to

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him. She was a widow. And we say all of these things as like, these

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empowering, you know,

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points. But when it comes to actually practicing any of those

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in the Muslim community, it's like, yes, Khadija radila Ha was a

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businesswoman, but women should never go into business. Yes, she

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was a widow who was older than Prophet saw them, who proposed the

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props Holy Son, but a woman should never be any of those things like

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the way that we present the few women who we actually talk about

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is such an injustice to who they really were. Because when we even

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look at Khadijah, how many of you have ever thought of her as, have

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you? Have you have any? How many of you have ever thought of her as

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a political revolutionary, because that's who she was, because she

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was the first person who accepted the message of the Prophet

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sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. So she accepted the message of the

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Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasalam. And with that message

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came what a complete, a complete change of the structure of the

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economic system in society and the structure of social hierarchy in

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society. It wasn't simply I accept that I believe in God. It was a

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complete shift of society. So when there is political pushback when

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there are, when there are, when there are the leaders of society

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who are forcing, physically persecuting, to change people, to

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change their perspective. This becomes political. She's the first

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person to accept this message of complete transformation from the

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Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. And when we look at Asmaa

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bint, Abu Bakr, odiloha, anha on Huma, bint, Abu Bakr, Huma, we can

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see that she was a few a political rebel, because what did she do? We

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talk about how she helped the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa

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sallam, Abu Bakr radiloha and Huma rodi Aloha, and who leave and make

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Hijra. And we know that story, and we say that story with pride that

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she was the one of who had the two. She cut her her garment into

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two, and so she was able to use that garment to to support the

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Prophet sallallahu, wasallam. But we have to realize that she was

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aiding fugitives. Was a political act for her to not only put

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herself on the line, but to to to also put her family on the line.

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She was seven months pregnant when she was helping the Prophet

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sallallahu Abu in the desert. The Quraysh physically assaulted her

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for her actions, and yet she continued to be steadfast in the

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form of support the Prophet of the Prophet, sallAllahu alayhi

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wasalam. But how many of us have ever heard of her in that light,

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even the fact that she was seven months pregnant or in the third

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trimester of pregnancy? Has anyone ever heard of this before? Why?

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Is that not focused when we talk about these women who gave up

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everything and yet we only focus on one aspect of their lives? Why?

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So? Why does this happen? There's a an author, Dr Asmaa ziada. She

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wrote a book that her father, who's a sheik, started to write,

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and he passed away before he could complete it, and the the

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introduction that she wrote for his book is so beautiful. She

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talks about her father in such a way. I mean, I was bawling when I

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read her introduction. And the reason I was bawling is because

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the way that he she talks about this father is someone who

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invested in her, and he's starting this work. And what is the work

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called? The work that she completed in his name, door, the

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role al Mara a CSI

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filat. So she is writing a book about the political role of woman

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in the time of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, and

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in the righteous belief in the righteous Khalifa, the Rashidun.

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And in this book, what she talks about is that when people examined

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the time of the past, a lot of times they did it in their own

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lens, right? So like, if somebody wants to write something about the

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time of the Prophet sallallahu, Islam in the Sira, they might be

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looking at a particular aspect of the Sira. They're not necessarily

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looking at woman in the Sierra. So if you're not looking for

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political involvement of women in the zero, then that's not going to

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be a part of the book that you write. And that book, which

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becomes a resource for people to read and for people to spread

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Islam, doesn't include that perspective. So now you have lots

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of books written without this perspective being included, and

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those are the books that are used as resources and references, and

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now this perspective is not even being included. And so her work

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looks at how woman came and gave the baya to the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhisam. That was political. Woman made made hijra two times

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why to seek political asylum. This is political so she's looking at

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the woman companions in a completely different perspective.

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Not simply, yes, women who fought in battle, because there were over

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30 women campaigns who fought in battles, really, Lahore, anwon,

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but also in looking at them in these perspective of in these

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comprehensive perspectives that we would say for men, of course, we

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would say that men were politically involved, but women

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were literally doing the exact same action. Why wouldn't we also

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put that as part of their involvement? So when we simply

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look at the way that we frame women's roles and

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responsibilities, we can absolutely emphasize, and, you

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know, highlight the fact that they were actively involved as mothers

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and actively involved in maintaining their home. But we we

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harm every woman who doesn't fit into that narrative when we don't

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share all of the aspects and all of the faucets of who these women

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were, and even women who do follow that narrative, because some women

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give up everything to be, to be housewives and mothers for their

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entire for their for their youth, through their through their

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middle, middle age, and now they are faced with maybe a marriage

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that might, might, might have been supportive, or maybe they're no

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longer married for whatever reason. And now they have children

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who have grown and what is their role, they have never explored it,

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because they've never been told that it's important for them to do

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so. So we do an injustice to every woman. When we don't give a

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comprehensive picture of who the companions were radila, who were

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women, we don't injustice to all the sacrifices that those women

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gave. Because when we look at the way that Sheik is, he talks about

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how women's roles, unfortunately, have been so mis understood and

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throughout, throughout Islamic history because of politics. So

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for example, Sheik Akram nadaway talks about how there were women

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who were Hadith scholars and felt scholars and scholars of all

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different paths, who taught men scholars. And we all know this. We

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all know that there were, there were women who were scholars in

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Islamic history. But what about the fact that ima mere, ima Hajj,

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Ibn Taymiyyah, all of these great names who we constantly quote, can

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all trace back their teachings to women who taught them. And when we

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look at that and we say, what happened throughout history? There

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was a time period in which Greek books of philosophy were

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translated into Arabic. And this was a time period in which Arab,

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Arab scholar and Muslim scholars who were reading Arabic,

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translating into from the Greek to the Arabic, started using part of

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this, you know, discussion of philosophy, both to refute it and

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also the part some of it was included. And part of that

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discussion had to do with women, and what did women what did it

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have to say about women, that women were not they were

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questioning whether or not we we know this questioning or not

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whether or not women had souls. We've heard that before, and the

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time when Europeans were questioning whether or not women

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had souls. Islam gave women the right.

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To inherit. Islam gave women the right to be a businesswoman. We

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use that as a talking point, but they were also saying that whether

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or not women should actually receive an education, whether or

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not women should actually be a part of these spaces in which they

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in which they are actively involved in society. And so what

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we see from the Greek the time of the Greek philosophers is when

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those started to be translated and they started to become part of the

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text of the Muslims. And those Muslims who identified with being

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philosophers actually took the rule. They became the rulers. They

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started shifting policies related to education. So if they're

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closing the doors of education for a woman, and they're in rule in

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the in the rulership, and this is a policy that's impacting the way

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women are seen in society. How do you think that's going to change

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just a few generations so in just a few generations ago, from women

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who are scholars, who are teaching men and women to to women who are

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not even able to receive the type of education that they had

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received a few generations ago. Because when you set policy that

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starts impacting not just my personal experience, but all of

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our personal experiences, which is why so many of us have the same

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experiences, because the policies in our misadjut are often

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reflective of the culture which the masjid has chosen to create as

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part of their policy. This is why, when you look at the many women

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who have been so honored to interview from mashallah all over

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the world. You see women who's part of their culture's policy is

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that women are in spaces of Quran. So when you have someone like

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Sheik war dahasan, and she is the the woman version of Abdul Basit,

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and she's reciting and she has won on competitions on television, and

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we ask her a question of, where did you learn this from? And she

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says, Oh, I learned this with my whole family, like my dad, my

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everyone in her family has been taught this. And it's not that she

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is. I mean, she's very special in mashallah, but she's not as

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unique. There are so many women who are part of the culture of

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Indonesia who learn Maka mat as children, and she's

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actually an Azhari graduate. She went from Singapore, studied in

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Azhar, and she learned and of Quran. Her Quran is incredible.

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She's won international Quran competitions. When I asked her,

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when did you learn Quran? And she's like, here in Singapore, we

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learn it like you learn a sport in school, like physical education,

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like PE it's part of our curriculum. From the time young

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girls are three five, they are not just learning how to memorize

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Quran. They're learning how to perfect their recitation of the

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Quran because it's the policy, it's their culture. So it's not

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she's so special. She memories Quran. It's the whole culture is

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encouraging all women to memorize the Quran. And you see this panel

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in Malaysia. I went on a on this TV program in Malaysia that is a

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woman, fartuza. She is a Korea who has again won Quran competitions,

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and she is reciting with two other men. They are the host of this

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show, and they're reciting, and they have people call in, and they

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they do recitations with them, and the culture was all about her

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perfection of Quran when she recites the way that the men

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respond, or Allah. It's not stuck for Allah, it's a law. It's this

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upliftment and this enjoyment and this love for the Quran, not

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because she's a woman, why she in this space? Because the way that

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the scholars in that region look at these issues are very different

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from the way that scholars in other regions look at these

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issues. And we see the same thing in Morocco when I interviewed

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hafida Mariam, she's again, another Mashallah. I mean, all of

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these women on TV winning international Quran competitions,

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incredible recitation. And I asked her, like, what is it like for

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women to memorize the Quran like, Are people kind of, you know,

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uncomfortable with you reciting in competitions? And the way she

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responded to me was, Where do you live? I was like, California, and

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she's like, listen, maybe in California, you don't know what

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it's like for a woman to recite the Quran. But here,

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all of the woman, she's actually from Algeria, all of the women

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recite Quran. Women recite in competitions with men and women

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beat men, and the powerful response to her, when I

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interviewed her, I suddenly got like, I can't even count how many

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messages from Morocco and from Algeria, from women who are like,

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I'm also a party. I've also won in Quran and competitions. Can you

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interview me too? I was so shocked at all of a sudden I'm getting so

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many messages from women from this region, that region, and the

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Indonesia, Singapore, Malaysia, like Subhanallah, the amount of

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women who are are Quran, not just Quran memorizers, Quran reciters,

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the perfection of the recitation, and it's something that's

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encouraged in the culture.

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Sure, and that shift is something that we we don't know. When we

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don't live it, we don't see it, and so we assume it's a

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controversial topic. It's a progressive, liberal, feminist

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opinion, and that's just, you've just been influenced by

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westernization. The other day, there was a girl on Tiktok who is

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asking me, like, why is it that you and she mentioned, like,

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Yasmin will get hit and Dr Rania, she's like, why are you, like, the

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only woman scholars? And I'm like, like, all I'll do respect like

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you, you just don't know who they are. That doesn't mean there are

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none. It means you don't know them. And her reaction to that was

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like, okay, okay. But like, maybe United States, but like, there's,

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like, really, no, you know. Are you influenced? Are Muslim women

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here influenced by western culture? And that's why they are

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speakers, because there's really no speakers, like around the

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world. And I was like, again, with all due respect, you do not know

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they exist. That doesn't mean they don't exist. And part of the

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problem for us here in our community is that we don't have

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structures to create the culture for women to be in these spaces.

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So for example, you might know a few women from social media. Maybe

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you've met a woman in your Masjid. Maybe you know medium to beef mom,

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and you go to her and you ask her for advice. Maybe you have like

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these you know women who are in your masjid, who you can go to,

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and you're like mashallah, that chala, she knows something. I'm

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gonna ask her a question. But how many of you know of a woman in

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your community who has actively been teaching Islam and giving

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lectures, MMA sa Quran? Maybe you know one. Maybe you even know two.

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But do you know that person as a source of authority in your

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community, or Shia RAM Khala that you go to in the masjid. When you

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have advice, you need to ask for advice. The authority that is

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given to women is created in our spaces when we create them, when

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we demand the creation, when we are creating these roles. So that

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all of little sisters who ask me, I want to study Islam, but I don't

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know where to go. I don't know what to do with it after I study

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it, that's what all of us went through. We went and we studied

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Islam, and we come back and we're like, what do I do with this? You

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can teach Islamic school to third graders, which is really, really

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an important role, but you don't need a degree in Sharia to do

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that. Or you can teach Islam in the masjid. Free Sabi da one

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Sheikha, I know, who has a PhD in Islamic law, she could not teach

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Islam in the masjid because they're not willing to pay her at

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all. But she did not have enough of an income on her, on her

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husband's income, so she had to open her own business, and she

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does something completely unrelated to Islam so that they

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can make ends meet. She has a PhD in Islamic law. What kind of

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benefit could she have brought to her community, but the community

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was not willing to support her to be able to live. So when when we

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look at the importance of having women scholars, it's not just this

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is a sister who speaks at a conference that's wonderful,

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that's inspiring, but we need massaged. Who are creating spaces

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where you have an Imam, and the Imam is accessible to men and

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women, but you also have a woman who is a resident scholar, who is

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at the masjid, who is accessible to men and women, but especially

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to women, because I don't know about you, but I have definitely

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gone through the experience of not knowing if my period was done,

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having no clue who to ask, and the only person that I know who to ask

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is the Imam of my masjid, who I don't know how to access, except

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through the men's prayer hall. So I need to find a random man to

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find the Imam to come outside and talk to me about my period. This

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is so absurd, and the fact that that has been so many of our

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experiences speaks to the point that we are not prioritizing

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women's needs in our community, when

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Panama, when we look at Islamic history, and how the way that we

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present women's issues in our community so intentional, and it's

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so skewed. And I don't think that this comes from a malicious place

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by any means. I think truly, we have had generations of trauma

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because of colonialism. With colonialism came the ideas of

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puritanical Christian

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taboos on women. And so we go from again women coming from a time

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where women were flourishing in different places. Colonialism

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happens, ravages Muslims, Muslim space, Muslim majority countries

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and the Imams, the she, you of these countries are making the

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tower to protect women in that time period, to protect women from

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*, to protect women from being harmed. And so a lot of times,

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this concept of protection, the protection from fitna, which is

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two points. It's a completely different one, unrelated to the

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one I'm sharing. But this concept of protection sometimes is

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sincerely to protect women from a serious harm. Of course, we can

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say that we don't want women to be.

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Are going out into the street and, God forbid, facing any sort of

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harm because of colonists who are coming in and literally raising an

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entire an entire city. But did those scholars intend for those

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fatawa to last until, until forever, or was the intention to

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protect women in that time period? And this goes back to the concept

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a set of Lara Yar, which is something that's used so often for

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women. It's the concept of blocking the means to evil before

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you can actually get to that evil. And it's it's really what the

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concept of woman, we say the Quran is based in the woman. We say the

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Quran is not based on ijumara of an ayah in the Quran. It's not

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based on a consensus of of a Hadith from the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi salam. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alays and Muslim ibn

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Muhammad heard a woman recited in the Quran, and he was emotionally

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impacted by her recitation. And we have to realize the woman

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companions were in the time of the revelation. There's more than one

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narration of a woman who recited and memorized the whole qur, a

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whole Surah, like Surah Kahf, or a different surah of the Quran,

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because she heard it from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, he would recite it in the masjid. So the Lahore, they would

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send them, she would hear it. She would memorize it. So you, you

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have to think the woman were memorizing Quran. How do you

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memorize Quran in your head every day, like you have to say it out

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loud, you're reciting Quran. So whether they were reciting in

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their homes, in the way that, of course, women recited in their

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homes, and it was, and it was the walls of their of their home

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wasn't super thick that no one could hear outside. There are too

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many narrations, including the famous one of Amar hearing a

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daughter and a mother speaking about the justice on something

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that they were going to sell. And so he asked his son to propose to

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one of his sons to propose to the daughter. So we have too many

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narrations of women's voices being carried out of their homes, even

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Amar Aldi laho Anu approaching and hearing the wives of the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And he's like, you speak to the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam like this. And they say to

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him, Well, you're like, stern and you're harsh. Of course, we're not

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going to speak to you like that. And Prophet SAW, Islam responds.

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Asthma takes another road from Amarillo Anhu. And so the point is

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that we could hear women's voices in the street. Don't you think

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that if it was haram for a woman to recite the Quran, the Prophet

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sallallahu alaihi salam would have been required to say that it's

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haram for women to recite the Quran in a public space, because

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he would have overheard it multiple times. Sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam. But if it was the norm, if it's part of the norm and the

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abnormal is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasalam hearing it and

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becoming emotionally impacted by it. That is a recording that we

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have. The fact that he was emotionally impacted by hearing

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her recitation. Not the not the fact that the Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam heard a woman reciting that was already normal. And I'm not

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saying, of course, if I saw some hearing the Quran, of course, is

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always emotionally impacted. But I'm saying the point is that we

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choose what we're going to focus on, which is why, when we talk

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about atika radila bin Zayed, who was the wife of Amar Odilo anhu,

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she was the wife of Amar ODI lahohan, who who he did not want

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to go to the masjid because he was very jealous. And we have to also

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realize who was Amma. He was someone who said that we used to

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think of woman as nothing. We used to think of women as absolutely

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nothing, until Allah revealed what he revealed, and he divided what

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he divided. And so he's coming from a time period where women

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were seen as nothing. They were inherited like property. They were

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buried alive as baby girls. That's the culture surrounding woman. So

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what shift Did he go through in just a generation because of the

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revelation, to see woman as his partners, as the Prophet

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sallallahu sallam said, to see women as allies, as the Quran

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says. So now you have to recognize that that shift as he's in a

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position of power and women are coming to him, and he says that

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Omar made a mistake, and it was corrected by a woman, that he is

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making the shift that women are his equal, spiritually, that he's

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taking advice from them, that on his political cabinet, ashif had

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been told. So look at the shift of what he went through and his

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personal preference for his wife, Attika, not to go out. That's his

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personal preference. Now, the way we hear this, I don't know if

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you've ever heard of this narration. Have you heard of the

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narration of Amar being jealous of his wife going to the masjid? Have

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you heard that before

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I heard it? From you? Anyone who has, oh, from me. Okay. Alright.

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Have not okay. Often times when I've heard this, the way that it's

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presented is, see sisters, someone as great as Amma did not want his

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wife to go to the masjid. So you should realize the importance of a

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woman not going to the masjid because someone, as you know,

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someone who, who's, who's a guaranteed paradise, worldly,

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Allahu anhu, such an amazing example for us all. Didn't want

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that for his wife. The problem is that this doesn't look at the full

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picture, because atyaka had put in her marriage contract that she

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wanted to go to the masjid before she married him. This is mentioned

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in Ibn hazard book. And then after that, she asks Amma, why about

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why? Why he's not stopping her, and Ibn Amar has a narration when

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he asks her so.

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This is basically his stepmom. She's going to the masjid. And Ibn

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AMR is asking her, why are you going when you know the armor

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doesn't like you to go? And he's respond. She's responding and

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saying, Why doesn't he ban me from going? And the response to her,

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Radi Allahu anhu, from Ibn AMR is that because of the words of the

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Prophet sallallahu, sallallahu alayhi salam, do not prevent the

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the maid servants of Allah from going to the from going to the

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house of Allah, that TAM Naru, ima Allah, Sajid, Allah, and so she

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keeps going. Now, what happens when she goes? Amra radila huanhu

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is stabbed. He eventually is martyred. Rodi Allahu, Anhu. And

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again, the way I've heard this story, atiak was in the masjid

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when he was murdered, doing something that he did not approve

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of. So you might think that as a wife, she could feel guilty, she

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could feel regret, she could feel like I should have listened to the

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person I loved so much I was in love with my husband. I should

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have done what he wanted me to do. He died and I was doing something

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that he didn't love. Instead, when she gets married again to azube

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rodi Aloha anhu, she puts it in her marriage contract again that

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he cannot stop her from going to the masjid because the masjid was

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so important to the woman of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, who surrounded him. This is why Sophia radila. Maybe you've

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heard of the narration. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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is walking with one of his wives, and he sees a couple of

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companions, and they're saying to them, and then he clarifies that

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This is Sophia rodilla Juan, and they're like, of course, we would

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never think something of you. And there and then he talks about, you

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know the how she Aton can run through your blood, that the

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importance of clarifying these matters. Have you heard this

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before? But have you heard why they were walking together? Do you

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know why they were walking together?

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No, because she was praying at the mosque. She went to the masjid to

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visit the Prophet sallallahu Alam. He was making Arti Caf. She went

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to visit him. Visiting is a voluntary action. It's not an

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obligation to go to the masjid to visit someone. Azikef is a time of

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seclusion. You don't talk. You stay in the masjid, you focus on

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your worship. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam didn't tell her

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to leave because she came to visit and hang out. The Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spent time with her in the masjid, and

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then didn't walk her back because it was necessary for her to walk

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back with him, because she walked there without him. SallAllahu,

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alayhi wa sallam. She walked back. He walked back with her to spend

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more time with her. Salalah and atikaf. You don't leave ratikaf

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Unless it's a necessity. Or, for example, like Ibn Abbas mentions,

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or might have been Ibn Maserati Lohan, who I unfortunately forgot

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off the top of my head. I have to look at the the narration again,

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but that if somebody comes to ask you for some sort of help, it's

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more beloved to you, to for the for Allah to for you to go and

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help that person, than making a tikkap and that mister to the

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proposed some for a number of years. So yes, there are times to

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leave your attikaf, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa left

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it just to spend more time with his wife. And why aren't we

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focusing on the fact that that Sofia rodilla, as a Mother of the

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Believers, went to the masjid just for fun to see your husband. Why

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isn't that our focus? Instead of clarifying gender relations as the

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only part of that of that narration, and when we look again

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at the way that we pitch specific stories of the woman companions.

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Think about the daughters of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa

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salam, like Zainab ardilo Juan Ha, what narrations come to your mind

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when you hear about Zainab rodi la Juan Ha,

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none, literally none.

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Okay. Oh, sorry, yeah, the one about how pleased that she'll be

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the first one to follow

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him. Oh, yes, this was his wife. Oh, rodilla, a different Zainab.

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Great. Great point. Excellent point. No, no, this is an

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excellent point that actually brings up a totally, a totally a

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totally different point that we're actually going to get to you.

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Segued me into the next point, Baraka Loki, but Zainab radilowha.

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So there's a narration in which she is Wait, waits for the Prophet

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sallallahu, alays to start salah. And they're praying. They start

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salah. They're praying. And she calls out with her voice over the

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salah that she has given basically security to her husband, who, at

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the time, was not yet Muslim, and there were wars between Muslims

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and the Quraysh, and he she gave him security. So she calls this

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out across the Masjid. After the Salah is done, the prophet Allah,

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while they will send them, talks about how he had no idea she was

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going to say this. And then he goes to her and she and he talks

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to her Salalah about, what about the rulings on how she should

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interact with alas. And he goes to the Companions and talks about the

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rulings of the property of alas. He never says, you should have

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should not.

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Have raised your voice in the masjid, because women, being a

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part of the masjid space, being a part of the masjid where their

00:35:06 --> 00:35:09

voices were heard asking other men companions, Hey, I didn't hear

00:35:09 --> 00:35:12

what the Prophet sallallahu alaihi salam said. Can you repeat for me?

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Are all in our books, because they were present in society as full

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time mothers and as not. They were just part of society and all the

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different roles that they could be. And when we talk about Zainab

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roll the Allahu anha, the wife of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, how

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did she have the longest hand? How did the longest hand amongst them,

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which meant the most generous one? How is she going to be the one to

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join the Prophet sallallahu? Sallam, how did she have money?

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The Prophet sallallahu lived in poverty. How did she have money,

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unless she was working to make money, the wife of Ibn Saud,

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another Zainab,

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asked about giving zakat to Ibn azaud And to her family. How did

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she have money to give zakat if she was not working. These women

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were actively part of society in all different ways, and until we

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start looking at them in a comprehensive way that talks about

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all the roles in which they fulfilled, whether they were

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political or whether they were full time moms, or whether they

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were a part of the masjid space, or whether they prayed at home,

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about a woman praying. I already gave a lecture on this. I don't

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want to like share it here, because I don't want to waste your

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time. But there is a difference of opinion on whether or not it's

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better for a woman to pray a homer in the masjid, because some of the

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scholars talk about the hadith of umaid and being and being better

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to pray in her home, being contextual for her situation

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because of her marriage. Sheik jaser oda talks about this that

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that was never intended to restrict all of the Hadith that

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talk about the benefits of praying in the masjid in congregation.

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When the Prophet sallallahu is talking about the extra reward of

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praying in congregation, the fact that you go to the masjid and your

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sins are forgiven as you're walking to the masjid, all of the

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benefits of praying in the masjid, does he ever say only four men,

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and in fact, when he mentions the word men,

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Ibn mentions that that description of men isn't intended to be only

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men. It's intended to be used as men and women, because if women

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pray in the masjid, they get the same reward. So the point is that

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we have taken narrations, and we oftentimes use them to talk about

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paint a very specific picture of what women's world should be,

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when, in reality, women's were very vast. And to conclude with

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women's roles, because I realized that we want to leave time for Q A

00:37:33 --> 00:37:36

for sure, or just discussion in general, because I'm the one who's

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here to ask you all and learn from you, is that, um, haram, she

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wanted to be with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi. He was sent

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them. Or, excuse me, she wanted not, not, of course, she wanted to

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be the Prophet. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi had a dream, or

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had a had a dream of the which is like a vision of the companions

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going to a particular battle in the future. And so she asked that

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, salam, make dua that she could be

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with that group of people who go and they was over the sea,

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and Subhan Allah, He made dua that she be with them, and she was with

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them. It was after the passing of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam,

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and Abu Shukla takes from this, and he says, Do you see how

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praiseworthy it is for a woman to be a part of the battle? Because

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the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam could have told her, don't

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worry, you get the same reward when you stay at home. But he

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didn't. He made dua for her to join as she requested, and she

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did, and that is how she passed away. So when we look at the rules

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of women who come to the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, and

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they talk about how, you know, men are on the battlefield, and

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they're doing all these things, and we're at home with the kids,

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and he's comforting these women, and he's saying you get the same

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reward of the as the men who are doing all of these things. You get

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the same reward by what you're doing. It's not because they

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weren't allowed to be on the battlefield, because they were on

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the battlefield. It's because he's giving them comfort that even if

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you're not doing all these things, even though it's not your only

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role, maybe for many of us as women, it becomes our primary

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role. And instead of wishing that you could be out there and do

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other things and wishing you didn't have the responsibilities

00:39:09 --> 00:39:12

of your kids, embrace the role that Allah has given you, because

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there is so much reward in that, and honor in that, and status in

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that, that does not negate doing other parts of social work as

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well, but it encourages and it comforts someone who may feel

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sometimes stuck, because this is a very real feeling for a woman who

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others sometimes, as much as you love your kids and as much as you

00:39:32 --> 00:39:34

want to focus on them, when you give your all to them, you

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sometimes feel like you've lost yourself. NOTICE recognizing that

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you're honored, and that is so important. The Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam is comforting these women. They're the status of their role,

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while also giving us so many other examples that you can be this and

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that, that you can be someone who loves praying in the masjid while

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you bring your children with you, because the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam when, when there were a.

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Um children who were crying, he would shorten his prayer so that a

00:40:04 --> 00:40:09

woman would not feel distressed. And that is because he put more

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priority, as Abu Shaka mentions in women going to the masjid and

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feeling like it's accessible, than increasing the prayer, even though

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there's more reward in a long prayer, access for a woman who had

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children was more important to the Prophet, sallAllahu, alayhi wa

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salam, than the reward of an extremely long prayer. And that's

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why women kept coming back to the masjid with their kids as part of

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the society of the Prophet. So Allah, who are they? He was of

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them. And I see that somebody wrote about a particular Masjid.

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So I want to clarify also firsthand too, like for my

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lecture, but the the role of the Imam, I think, like, you know,

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it's so important for me to clarify. The Imams of my Masjid

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are so amazing Mashallah. They're very accessible. They care about

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women, they smile, they welcome us when we have questions. But the

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message itself doesn't have the infrastructure that openly makes

00:41:01 --> 00:41:05

it easy for us to ask questions. I know when I got older, they

00:41:05 --> 00:41:08

created some sort of office hours for the Imam. So hamdullah for at

00:41:08 --> 00:41:11

least having office hours for the Imam, but for people who can't

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make those office hours, and the Imam should not be required to

00:41:13 --> 00:41:18

work at all times. But this is why there can be a structure set where

00:41:18 --> 00:41:21

there are also women scholars as part of the masjid space where you

00:41:21 --> 00:41:24

can divide up the time, where women know how to access scholars.

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So it's just so important to realize that sometimes it's not

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because the Imam isn't accessible and doesn't want to support women.

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It's just the structure. It's physical, physical architecture.

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And how can we create that in a way where women know they're able

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to ask questions and know that they're welcome? Okay, so

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Inshallah, we're going to segue to discussion questions. It's so good

00:41:44 --> 00:41:48

to see all of your faces, mashallah and so many. Nuran, it's

00:41:48 --> 00:41:52

good to see you. Maria, and is this Iman or is this Asmaa

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where?

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Oh,

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the person are you asking about Yeah, no, I'm Noura. I actually

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attended one of your

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probably like,

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something like that. So, so nice to see you again. Thanks for you.

00:42:16 --> 00:42:20

Thanks for doing I'm so sorry because I saw your face when you

00:42:20 --> 00:42:22

got up close to the camera, that's when I saw you. But from from

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back, from when you were in the back, I couldn't really tell. So

00:42:25 --> 00:42:27

I'm so sorry for getting your name wrong. Noura,

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does that go hide on? Um, that was phenomenal. I feel like we could

00:42:34 --> 00:42:38

talk about this all day. But on a more practical, yeah, on a more

00:42:38 --> 00:42:42

practical perspective, for instance, like when I walk into

00:42:42 --> 00:42:44

the masjid here, I actually don't like to go to the masjid,

00:42:44 --> 00:42:48

unfortunately, because I feel like I'm a second class citizen.

00:42:48 --> 00:42:52

There's, like, not a really clean space. There's no accessibility,

00:42:52 --> 00:42:55

like you were talking like I just, I don't even enjoy going, because

00:42:55 --> 00:43:04

that's how I feel when I'm there. But how can I practically act ask

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for that when the mentality is the mentality we've been talking about

00:43:08 --> 00:43:12

with, like this patriarchal mentality, and even, like

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demanding these things, or even when I try to join groups or

00:43:18 --> 00:43:23

boards or whatever, feeling like, my opinion, is value valued. And

00:43:23 --> 00:43:26

in a person of authority almost feels like, unless a man says it,

00:43:26 --> 00:43:30

it's not really beneficial. I mean, practically, how do I even

00:43:30 --> 00:43:35

do that when I'm the only one, for instance, trying to change

00:43:35 --> 00:43:37

something here? Or maybe there's other women that I'm not saying

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I'm the only one, but that that have been discouraged and don't

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come anymore, something like that. You know, when you just go into

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

them as, yeah, I don't want to prolong the question. You get it?

00:43:48 --> 00:43:53

No, no. I think all of us have felt some sort of version of that.

00:43:53 --> 00:43:56

And again, like it really depends on your Masjid space, like this

00:43:56 --> 00:43:59

particular answer would really depend, like, I'd ask you so many

00:43:59 --> 00:44:02

follow up questions, but let's say you do, you try, you try to

00:44:02 --> 00:44:05

change. You call for change. It's not working. This is why people

00:44:05 --> 00:44:08

are creating third spaces. This is literally why people are creating

00:44:08 --> 00:44:11

a space outside of the masjid, because the people on the board

00:44:11 --> 00:44:13

sometimes are not ready to listen, and they're the same people who

00:44:13 --> 00:44:16

are cycling for generations, and so they're just not willing to

00:44:16 --> 00:44:19

listen for generations, and you're stuck with that. There's so many

00:44:19 --> 00:44:21

people have left the mission, they haven't come back, and

00:44:21 --> 00:44:24

Alhamdulillah, that you still even try. But the reality is that so

00:44:24 --> 00:44:28

many people feel so isolated that they just don't want to try again.

00:44:28 --> 00:44:31

And Alhamdulillah, things are changing. I feel like things are

00:44:31 --> 00:44:35

really changing slowly, very slowly, but at the same time, what

00:44:35 --> 00:44:40

we can do is honestly, I'll be honest, and people may have a

00:44:40 --> 00:44:43

really big issue with this suggestion I did when someone

00:44:43 --> 00:44:46

first recommended it, I was like, why would you do that? But now I

00:44:46 --> 00:44:49

see the benefit of it. To be honest, if you know people who are

00:44:49 --> 00:44:54

contributors to the masjid, who are active donors to the masjid,

00:44:54 --> 00:44:58

you target them. You go to them and you say, I know you donate

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

every month, and I know.

00:45:00 --> 00:45:04

Donate a significant amount, and more than half of the population

00:45:04 --> 00:45:07

who is supposed to come to this Masjid many times, who are

00:45:07 --> 00:45:11

bringing the little half of the masjid who are supposed to carry

00:45:11 --> 00:45:16

on this Masjid are not welcome. We don't feel like our bathrooms are

00:45:16 --> 00:45:19

clean. We don't feel like we can even pray without you know, we

00:45:19 --> 00:45:22

can't even hear the emails speaking. We don't even know what

00:45:22 --> 00:45:25

the email looks like sometimes. So you go to these people and you

00:45:25 --> 00:45:30

say, you know, please go to the masjid like, sign, write a

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petition, right? Let them know, you know, if, within the next

00:45:34 --> 00:45:37

year, these issues are not changed, we will no longer be

00:45:37 --> 00:45:40

donating to this masjid, and we're going to find a different message

00:45:40 --> 00:45:44

to support our to send our funds to so that you, you, you, you

00:45:44 --> 00:45:47

pressure them into making that change. And when I first heard I

00:45:47 --> 00:45:51

didn't hear this. I heard an idea. It was one woman who said, I'm not

00:45:51 --> 00:45:54

donating to a masjid that doesn't give me space to pray. And I was

00:45:54 --> 00:45:57

like, Yeah, but what about all the men who want to pray there, which

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I still feel, of course, we don't want to close down a masjid. We

00:46:00 --> 00:46:03

want all Masjid to be open, but what if that Masjid is reading

00:46:03 --> 00:46:05

people are leaving Islam? What if their experiences in that Masjid

00:46:05 --> 00:46:09

are so painful that they feel like they can't even stay Muslim?

00:46:09 --> 00:46:12

People leave Islam not because they don't believe in Islam, but

00:46:12 --> 00:46:16

because they don't feel at all like they can connect to the

00:46:16 --> 00:46:20

Muslim space. And while they might love Islam, they see it as a

00:46:20 --> 00:46:24

reflection of religion, and so they leave. So really, this is

00:46:24 --> 00:46:28

like we need to stop prioritizing the concept of it's better for

00:46:28 --> 00:46:31

women to pray at home, and therefore we're not going to

00:46:31 --> 00:46:33

create as much space for women. We're, in fact, it's going to make

00:46:33 --> 00:46:37

her feel guilty and disgusting by even coming we're going to make

00:46:37 --> 00:46:39

her feel like it's better for her to pray at home, because we don't

00:46:39 --> 00:46:42

need to prioritize her spirituality when that is the

00:46:42 --> 00:46:47

message I I mean, what? Where do we expect the future generations

00:46:47 --> 00:46:51

go? This is something that boggles my mind, like all of us right now,

00:46:51 --> 00:46:54

okay, I'm assuming that you know, we're in a generally same time,

00:46:54 --> 00:46:58

you know, age in our life, like you know we're in our 20s, 30s,

00:46:58 --> 00:47:03

40s, like that, that time period. Okay, so now let's say some of us

00:47:03 --> 00:47:08

in the future, maybe, if, Allah, you know, has maybe, maybe if, for

00:47:08 --> 00:47:11

some reason, some of us have children, and then those children

00:47:11 --> 00:47:13

have children. Now we're just talking about our great

00:47:13 --> 00:47:18

grandchildren. Okay, so what if the woman whose children, what if

00:47:18 --> 00:47:21

those women who have children right now don't feel connected to

00:47:21 --> 00:47:24

Islam, don't feel connected to the masjid, and they leave, or they

00:47:24 --> 00:47:27

don't even leave, Inshallah, not Islam itself, but they just leave

00:47:27 --> 00:47:29

being part of the community. Their children don't grow up in the

00:47:29 --> 00:47:32

community. Their children don't grow up with Muslim spaces. Maybe

00:47:32 --> 00:47:34

they have Muslim friends from outside, maybe they have a third

00:47:34 --> 00:47:37

space, but maybe they don't maybe they're fed up, and they just

00:47:37 --> 00:47:40

don't like don't want to deal with this community, the toxicity that

00:47:40 --> 00:47:43

they feel. They don't want to pass this on to their children. What

00:47:43 --> 00:47:45

happens to the great grandchildren? Maybe those kids

00:47:45 --> 00:47:48

find Islam again, but maybe they don't. So now we have great

00:47:48 --> 00:47:51

grandchildren who don't feel connected to Islam because their

00:47:51 --> 00:47:54

mothers didn't feel connected to Islam. And those mother the

00:47:54 --> 00:47:56

mothers of those children, didn't feel connected to Islam. That's

00:47:56 --> 00:47:59

our generation. So in just a couple generations, if we wonder,

00:47:59 --> 00:48:03

where are our children? Where are the Masjid? What happened to our

00:48:03 --> 00:48:07

ummah? Who is to blame is not the the mother who didn't feel

00:48:07 --> 00:48:10

connected to Allah? I mean, that's a part of it. All of it is

00:48:10 --> 00:48:13

personal responsibility, of course, but at the end of the day,

00:48:13 --> 00:48:16

are we going to finally prioritize the fact that we have generational

00:48:16 --> 00:48:19

impact as women, or are we going to continue to say it's just

00:48:19 --> 00:48:22

better for women not to be here, and that's why we prioritize

00:48:24 --> 00:48:25

Ben. Aloha. Stan,

00:48:26 --> 00:48:29

second, I'll say, Oh, that was like, so on point, like so many of

00:48:29 --> 00:48:32

these things, I think we've like been feeling and, you know,

00:48:32 --> 00:48:35

thinking about for a long time, and it's good to just, like,

00:48:35 --> 00:48:38

discuss it and talk about it. I wanted to ask you specifically

00:48:38 --> 00:48:40

about I know, when I was in California,

00:48:41 --> 00:48:44

but one of a friend of mine, she had, like, started, I don't know

00:48:44 --> 00:48:48

if you've heard about the woman's mosque there, and I wonder how you

00:48:48 --> 00:48:53

feel about, like, maybe having more spaces like this, where it's

00:48:53 --> 00:48:56

like a women's center, or something like that, you know,

00:48:56 --> 00:48:59

where maybe a woman scholar is accessible, where women do feel

00:48:59 --> 00:49:03

comfortable. So I just wanted you to speak on that. If you could

00:49:03 --> 00:49:06

just I could, yeah, so the controversy surrounding that, the

00:49:06 --> 00:49:10

issue was praying Juma, specifically that a woman was

00:49:10 --> 00:49:13

giving the chutzpah and she was leading Juma. And that's not an

00:49:13 --> 00:49:16

opinion that I follow. I don't think it's permissible for a woman

00:49:16 --> 00:49:19

to give a chutzpah for Juma and to pray. Jamal scholars who talk

00:49:19 --> 00:49:23

about this issue say that maybe a woman could give like a short and

00:49:23 --> 00:49:26

they can pray for Kaz, for the like, if they can't, you know,

00:49:26 --> 00:49:28

access the masjid, then maybe they can come together on a Friday,

00:49:28 --> 00:49:31

pray the whole together. A woman can give a give a give a khatira,

00:49:32 --> 00:49:35

no worries. But that's different from counting it as Juma. That's

00:49:35 --> 00:49:38

my that's the opinion that I, I think is that's, that's the

00:49:38 --> 00:49:41

opinion I follow from the scholars. But at the end of the

00:49:41 --> 00:49:45

day that if that's not the issue, if it's to create a space for a

00:49:45 --> 00:49:50

woman to just join together and pray, then that's, you know it one

00:49:50 --> 00:49:53

it's something that we see, you know it that's created mashallah

00:49:53 --> 00:49:57

and rabata does an amazing job of this online. But they have like

00:49:57 --> 00:49:59

this, this woman's woman led woman.

00:50:00 --> 00:50:04

Fueled women attended space where it's really empowering women and

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just helping women feel safe. And so I think it's really, you know,

00:50:07 --> 00:50:10

it's really necessary for us to have these spaces where we know

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that we are safe and and I know that that's like a word to use.

00:50:13 --> 00:50:16

People are like, What do you mean safe? No, I literally mean safe.

00:50:16 --> 00:50:19

Because I'm approached by women who are domestic violence

00:50:19 --> 00:50:23

survivors and they don't feel safe because they've talked to the Imam

00:50:23 --> 00:50:26

of the masjid, and that Imam has told them they should just be

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

patient and try to seduce their husband when he's holding a knife

00:50:28 --> 00:50:35

to her neck. That Illa the haul. And this is so common. I've heard

00:50:35 --> 00:50:38

from so many women who shared the story with me like different

00:50:38 --> 00:50:41

versions of that story, and so, yeah, sometimes women don't feel

00:50:41 --> 00:50:44

physically safe because they go to the masjid, and the masjid

00:50:44 --> 00:50:47

protects the abuser. They don't protect the victim and survivor,

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and so they we need spaces where women feel safe.

00:50:52 --> 00:50:54

Follow up question. And again, if someone else has a question I

00:50:54 --> 00:50:57

don't want to ask too. If someone else has one,

00:50:59 --> 00:51:04

okay, I'll go ahead and ask it, how do we it's almost like the

00:51:04 --> 00:51:08

same narrative, not specific to Muslim women, but in general, like

00:51:08 --> 00:51:13

building allies. A lot of this has to be work done by men and people

00:51:13 --> 00:51:16

in the masjid, and they have to come to this realization. You

00:51:16 --> 00:51:19

know, we can talk all we want to them and educate them, but if

00:51:19 --> 00:51:23

they're not convinced by it, then the change is less likely to

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happen. They have to be the ones to also make the change with us.

00:51:27 --> 00:51:31

So how do how do you suggest we get those allies? I mean, how do

00:51:31 --> 00:51:35

we get our Imams and people in the Majed to talk about these things

00:51:35 --> 00:51:37

and change the way they think? So on

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one person, on one hand, it's really important to recognize

00:51:41 --> 00:51:44

there are so many Imams who many Imams who are actively working for

00:51:44 --> 00:51:47

women's access. Like, I can't tell you how many moms I was so, like,

00:51:47 --> 00:51:50

I worked with a lot of Imams before I started the foremothers

00:51:50 --> 00:51:55

campaign, just just researching women recite ruins recitation.

00:51:55 --> 00:51:58

Super famous imams in our community who like, everyone's

00:51:58 --> 00:52:02

name, you would know I talked to them about it, and they were like,

00:52:02 --> 00:52:05

there's nothing in Phil that would prevent it. There's nothing solid.

00:52:06 --> 00:52:08

But it's based on set of it's based on these concepts of

00:52:08 --> 00:52:11

preventing fitna. There's not like an ijmara on this from the Quran

00:52:11 --> 00:52:14

or the Sunnah. Like, you're not going to find delille that's going

00:52:14 --> 00:52:16

to say, like, no way woman shouldn't do this. But what you're

00:52:16 --> 00:52:19

going to see is that our community is very emotional, and so we're

00:52:19 --> 00:52:22

going to react emotionally. And our community might not be ready

00:52:22 --> 00:52:26

for this, but when I started the campaign, I cannot even tell you

00:52:26 --> 00:52:30

how many Imams messaged me privately, saying, if you need any

00:52:30 --> 00:52:33

support, if you need anything, know that I support this. I'm so

00:52:33 --> 00:52:36

excited that you're doing this. Thank you for doing this for women

00:52:37 --> 00:52:40

inviting me to their masjid so that I could go to their masjid

00:52:40 --> 00:52:45

and share the message of women being reciters. And they share my

00:52:45 --> 00:52:49

posts and say, you know, share the recitations. Say like this, you

00:52:49 --> 00:52:52

know, follow, follow this work. And again, I know I'm saying I

00:52:52 --> 00:52:55

it's from my account. It is from my account, but it's not about me.

00:52:55 --> 00:52:58

It's a concept of women who are out there, who are doing these

00:52:58 --> 00:53:01

amazing things, and these are men who are scholars, who are

00:53:01 --> 00:53:04

supporting them, because they realize, look, we're in the United

00:53:04 --> 00:53:08

States. What are we exposed to? We don't live in a place where women

00:53:08 --> 00:53:11

have, you know, our own sides of the job and our own universities

00:53:11 --> 00:53:15

and our own, you know, spaces and our own gyms. And we live in a

00:53:15 --> 00:53:19

society where the Wap Song is something that is celebrated as

00:53:19 --> 00:53:24

women's empowerment, if that is what we are taking for our younger

00:53:24 --> 00:53:28

generation as examples, then of course, these scholars are

00:53:28 --> 00:53:32

recognizing that, like, look, this is not, it's not a fits not, by

00:53:32 --> 00:53:35

the way, the concept of a woman's voice being fitna when reciting

00:53:35 --> 00:53:38

Quran, the word we use is temptation. A lot of times, like a

00:53:38 --> 00:53:41

man might be tempted by her voice. It's not, it's not temptation.

00:53:41 --> 00:53:45

It's he's sexually aroused. If a man is aroused, listening to the

00:53:45 --> 00:53:50

Quran, he has muddled, which is what the Quran says. That the

00:53:50 --> 00:53:53

issue is, someone who has muddled, they have a serious disease in

00:53:53 --> 00:53:57

their heart. So alhamdulillah, imams now are recognizing like

00:53:57 --> 00:54:01

look, men here have exposure to a lot of other things. So for us to

00:54:01 --> 00:54:04

close the door for women's recitation, we're closing the door

00:54:04 --> 00:54:08

for women to access other women, which is more important than the

00:54:08 --> 00:54:11

potential of a man having this level of disease in his heart. So

00:54:12 --> 00:54:15

I think Alhamdulillah, right now we have a lot of men who are

00:54:15 --> 00:54:19

actively working to support women, but there are definitely so many

00:54:19 --> 00:54:23

Imams who could, could, could benefit from hearing from those

00:54:23 --> 00:54:26

other emails. And I think this goes back to, like, honestly,

00:54:26 --> 00:54:30

networking and grassworks, grassroots organ organizing. So

00:54:30 --> 00:54:34

where we have these Imams who support women, who to gain access

00:54:34 --> 00:54:39

to knowledge, to gain the ability to, you know, I love there was a

00:54:39 --> 00:54:43

young girl, not a young girl, she she's a she's in her 20s, and she

00:54:43 --> 00:54:45

told me, when she was a young girl, she was memorizing the Quran

00:54:45 --> 00:54:48

with her brothers, and when she became like around 12 years old,

00:54:48 --> 00:54:51

the Imam said he can no longer teach her because she was on the

00:54:51 --> 00:54:55

cusp of womanhood, and so it would be hot on for him to teach her.

00:54:55 --> 00:54:59

And she stopped learning. He was the only imam in her mister. This

00:54:59 --> 00:54:59

was before.

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They had online institutes and or maybe she's 30, but anyway, she's

00:55:04 --> 00:55:08

older. That's the point, older than teens and her brothers, masha

00:55:08 --> 00:55:11

Allah Now, are memorizers of the Quran. They've memorized the

00:55:11 --> 00:55:13

Quran. They lead taraweeh. They are actively well with the masjid.

00:55:14 --> 00:55:16

And she said that she never continued with the Quran because

00:55:16 --> 00:55:19

she was discouraged. And then after seeing the foremothers

00:55:19 --> 00:55:22

campaign, she said, I'm going to start again now. I feel like that

00:55:22 --> 00:55:25

inspired. I didn't know woman could continue to do it as they

00:55:25 --> 00:55:30

were adults. And she excused the Imam by saying, I understand why

00:55:30 --> 00:55:34

he wasn't okay with me learning from him. I could have become a

00:55:34 --> 00:55:38

fitna for him. And I was so angry hearing this because of the

00:55:38 --> 00:55:44

internalized discussion that she, as a 1213, 1415, year old girl,

00:55:44 --> 00:55:48

could not be top Quran man because he was worried that she might be a

00:55:48 --> 00:55:56

fitna for him, like a that's literally illegal for him to feel

00:55:56 --> 00:55:59

like, for anything to happen from, from that there's like so much in

00:55:59 --> 00:56:02

our community that has come from like, yes, we have grooming in our

00:56:02 --> 00:56:05

community. We have * in our community. These are real

00:56:05 --> 00:56:09

issues. So if any ma'am knows this about himself that he needs to

00:56:09 --> 00:56:13

prevent teaching a little girl, a young teenager, because he's

00:56:13 --> 00:56:17

worried about what might happen to him, then it is his responsibility

00:56:17 --> 00:56:21

to go to the masjid and say, We need to hire another Quran

00:56:21 --> 00:56:26

teacher, or we need to hire another Imam who's a Quran

00:56:26 --> 00:56:29

teacher. Can be a woman an imam who's a man who is comfortable

00:56:29 --> 00:56:32

teaching young girls, because it's not right that all of the

00:56:32 --> 00:56:36

community can't learn because one man is concerned about what might

00:56:36 --> 00:56:39

happen to his heart. Like yes, we protect our men with their hearts.

00:56:39 --> 00:56:43

Of course, no doubt we want our Imams. We hear about issues in our

00:56:43 --> 00:56:48

community when people in religious leadership have made serious,

00:56:48 --> 00:56:51

serious breaches of trust, of trust. So we know that's real.

00:56:51 --> 00:56:55

Yes, we want to protect our Imams, but not at the expense of not

00:56:55 --> 00:57:00

continuing to teach women. So we need a solution. If this is the

00:57:00 --> 00:57:02

issue, then we need people who are honest and say, we need more

00:57:02 --> 00:57:06

individuals who are able to teach women and that just needs to be

00:57:06 --> 00:57:10

part of the masjid policy. How do we create that culture that you're

00:57:10 --> 00:57:13

asking about? How do we get these allies? We start writing we write

00:57:13 --> 00:57:18

documents that have co signatures from different massages that go up

00:57:18 --> 00:57:21

to these Masjid spaces and say, Please create this position, we

00:57:21 --> 00:57:24

have people who are willing to donate. We have we have launched

00:57:24 --> 00:57:27

good campaigns that can pay for the position for a year, while you

00:57:27 --> 00:57:30

guys figure out how you're going to support this position. We have

00:57:30 --> 00:57:34

a whole community who is here and ready to change the culture of our

00:57:34 --> 00:57:37

community so that women know that we have access to knowledge and we

00:57:37 --> 00:57:40

are welcome to seek knowledge, and that we know that we have a space

00:57:40 --> 00:57:41

to be in.

00:57:47 --> 00:57:48

I think my name is typing something.

00:57:53 --> 00:57:55

Oh, I'm laughing at it, because it's not a very important thing.

00:57:56 --> 00:57:59

Oh, okay, well, you could just tell it's not, it's funny. No, I

00:57:59 --> 00:58:01

was just, this is what I was typing.

00:58:03 --> 00:58:03

I could,

00:58:05 --> 00:58:10

yeah, money's not an issue for a community, which is also another

00:58:10 --> 00:58:13

thing is like, it's crazy that our community doesn't like it's just,

00:58:13 --> 00:58:18

it's, it's crazy how much there is money and like and worldly

00:58:18 --> 00:58:22

opportunities and and all that's missing is just like, directing

00:58:22 --> 00:58:25

that towards something that spiritually grows our community.

00:58:25 --> 00:58:28

Anyways, sorry, yeah, I think it's important to note that, like,

00:58:28 --> 00:58:30

Miriam and I come from the same community, and like, that

00:58:30 --> 00:58:34

community has, like, the highest like, oh my god, Mashallah. Like,

00:58:34 --> 00:58:39

the the the rents, the to buy a home is so expensive. Like, you

00:58:39 --> 00:58:42

have to have a two family income, or you have to have someone who is

00:58:42 --> 00:58:45

really, like, making a lot of money to be able to just survive

00:58:45 --> 00:58:48

there, so that masjid, masha Allah has a lot of donations, and that's

00:58:48 --> 00:58:51

really, really important to take into account. Because, yes, we can

00:58:51 --> 00:58:54

afford this. If we made it a priority instead of buying another

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

two buildings, maybe we could create, you know, create the

00:58:56 --> 00:58:59

structure and infrastructure necessary for our own building

00:58:59 --> 00:59:02

first and then open up to other ones. And I'm not going to, I

00:59:02 --> 00:59:04

don't mean, comment, this isn't a personal thing, like May Allah

00:59:04 --> 00:59:07

reward them so much for what they're trying. Of course, you

00:59:07 --> 00:59:10

know, more space to do different things, to rent it out, to build

00:59:10 --> 00:59:12

an income. That's awesome. All of that is so important. I'm not

00:59:12 --> 00:59:15

trying to diminish how important that is. But there are other

00:59:15 --> 00:59:18

communities that don't have that level of financial, you know,

00:59:18 --> 00:59:21

stability, and they really just are basically trying to survive.

00:59:21 --> 00:59:23

And this is a longer discussion, like we've talked about this, how

00:59:23 --> 00:59:25

do we make massages self sufficient, so that it's not

00:59:25 --> 00:59:28

always about monthly donations and about Ramadan donations, it's how

00:59:28 --> 00:59:31

do we make massages self sufficient? And I think it's part

00:59:31 --> 00:59:33

of the discussion that I've never heard is, how do we make massages

00:59:33 --> 00:59:37

self sufficient and ensure that in an exclusion, in its inclusion of

00:59:37 --> 00:59:41

sufficiency, are actively accessible spaces for women,

00:59:41 --> 00:59:44

because it's not just about having a lounger woman can sit and

00:59:44 --> 00:59:47

gossip, which is not I said. I said gossip, not because that. I

00:59:47 --> 00:59:51

meant for that to be my word. I meant that to be a stereotype.

00:59:51 --> 00:59:53

Because unfortunately, a lot of times people say women just come

00:59:53 --> 00:59:56

to the message to gossip. And that's so it makes me so angry. It

00:59:56 --> 00:59:59

makes me so angry when, like, women removing their hijab is

00:59:59 --> 00:59:59

because they're upset.

01:00:00 --> 01:00:02

With the dunya women come to the message because they just want to

01:00:02 --> 01:00:05

gossip like, please stop care. Like, making these caricatures of

01:00:05 --> 01:00:08

women as like, women who are obsessed with materialism and

01:00:08 --> 01:00:12

beauty and gossip like, no. You know why women struggle with these

01:00:12 --> 01:00:15

issues? Because that's all you focus on. That becomes all we are

01:00:15 --> 01:00:19

to you. And so, yeah, what do you expect? Even though that's wrong

01:00:19 --> 01:00:23

in the first place? Um, I'm really sorry, because I have to go. I

01:00:23 --> 01:00:26

have another appointment right now, but it was such a gift to be

01:00:26 --> 01:00:29

here. Thank you so much for having for listening, mainly to me

01:00:29 --> 01:00:32

speaking, ranting.

01:00:33 --> 01:00:38

Oh, thank you so much for coming you guys, or ladies, mashallah,

01:00:39 --> 01:00:42

like, has a full schedule, so we've kind of been going back and

01:00:42 --> 01:00:47

forth for like, months, and I'm so happy a year I literally, may

01:00:47 --> 01:00:50

Allah, bless Ella so much. So she's like, literally, I looked up

01:00:50 --> 01:00:53

my calendar a couple of weeks ago and I'm no, it was like a month

01:00:53 --> 01:00:57

ago almost, and I was like, Huh, why do i Why do we have that

01:00:57 --> 01:01:00

written on july 11? Because I was supposed to. I gave a lecture

01:01:00 --> 01:01:02

right before this, and I was looking at my schedule, and I'm

01:01:02 --> 01:01:06

like, What time can I do that lecture? Because I have something

01:01:06 --> 01:01:10

else on my schedule. And then I messaged her, and she's like, Oh,

01:01:10 --> 01:01:11

yeah. Like, a year ago we scheduled,

01:01:14 --> 01:01:17

because she kept asking me when I could do and I couldn't do any of

01:01:17 --> 01:01:22

those times. And so we just scheduled out into the future. So

01:01:22 --> 01:01:26

much. Thank you all so much for coming. Thank you, Mariam, like, I

01:01:26 --> 01:01:30

know you're busy, and I appreciate it. Keep her in your doors,

01:01:30 --> 01:01:34

everyone. And we'll end with if you need to go, Mariam, that's

01:01:34 --> 01:01:38

okay, so you're not late. But no, of course. But let me just say,

01:01:38 --> 01:01:41

subhanho, we haven't mentioned on that either kind of too late. Go

01:01:41 --> 01:01:41

ahead.

01:01:43 --> 01:01:47

Okay, out of Allah regime, Bismillah, Rahman, oh, maybe we

01:01:47 --> 01:01:50

should have Sheikha. Actually. Mariam, would you recite? Oh,

01:01:53 --> 01:01:57

no, no, no, really, no, no, please. I'd love to hear your

01:01:57 --> 01:02:03

recitation. Okay, out of Allah regime, Bismillahirrahmanirrahim,

01:02:03 --> 01:02:11

well last in San Anna fee horse. All will help you with the well so

01:02:11 --> 01:02:12

this,

01:02:16 --> 01:02:17

thank you.

01:02:18 --> 01:02:21

Thank you so much. Welcome. Sanaa, so

01:02:27 --> 01:02:28

good to see all of you. Mashallah, bye.

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