Maryam Amir – @MuhsenOrg Honoring Muslims Disabilities @QuranicOcean

Maryam Amir
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The speakers discuss the importance of community inclusion and worship in helping individuals with disabilities to live their lives, as small things can happen and small things can happen. They emphasize the need for support and acknowledgement for individuals who commit sin, as small things happen and small things can happen. The importance of preparing for unexpected events and trusting the person who will help them is also emphasized. The speakers stress the need for a plan to help the family and their children, as small things happen and small things can happen, and emphasize the importance of knowing that the will of God will be the one who is the one who is helping them.
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Alright, as salaam alaikum, Rahim, this is your brother, Bilal. Very

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excited to be having, being able to be the host for today's IG live

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with two amazing individuals in Alhamdulillah. This is for

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balancing worship for caregivers. Please make sure to like engage.

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Drop some hearts, some comments, some gems that you hear throughout

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Ali musalaam, alah, Inshallah, we're going to be waiting for

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Alhamdulillah, two of our speakers, Sister Mariam and sister

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Samia Alhamdulillah, and we're so excited to have both of them.

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Alhamdulillah, let's get some energy in the chat. Bismillah,

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let's go. If you're excited, drop a one in the chat. Let's get some

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hearts. Bismillah,

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all right, till we get started in a moment.

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All right, let me know how everyone's at Ramadan is going. If

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you are excited for you know this the final stretch,

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like a summer to love.

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How y'all doing?

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Honored to be here, Alhamdulillah, with yourself and Samia and with

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Mars. May Allah bless you all.

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May Allah bless you all the honors us. We love you both. May Allah

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subhanahu bless you all Marcin and all the caregivers hamdullah, have

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nothing but positive positivity out of all the work that both of

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you all are doing. So we're extremely excited to have you both

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here.

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Thank you so much for inviting me. It's an honor to be here.

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Alhamdulillah. So I think first and foremost, let's, let's hear

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from you both. Let's, let's talk. You know, both of you are doing

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amazing work. Mashallah, Sister medium has an amazing app and and

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sister Sammy has some amazing courses that she's doing. I love

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for you all to kind of just talk a little bit about the work that you

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all are all doing as mothers, as Muslim Muslims, and just kind of

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share a little bit maybe sister medium can go first, and then

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we'll pass out sister Samia before we dive into the program, it's

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such an honor to be with Mohsen specifically, and of course, with

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hafida Samia, being able to join in with such a special community

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who exemplifies so much of what the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa

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salam taught us and how He built his community, Salalah. Salam is

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such an honor for our ummah. Alhamdulillah this Ramadan, our

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team launched Aria, which is the woman Quran reciters app. And it's

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been such a gift and an honor to be connected with so many women

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around the world and so many girls who've talked about the impact of

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hearing women and seeing women reciters. But one of the aspects

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of the app that was very critical for us as a team was to ensure

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that some of the reciters, not some, I mean, any reciters that we

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could access, who were women with disabilities, were part of the

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app. And that was just such an important part of our search, is

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such an important part of the way that we built the app, and

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Alhamdulillah, we're very, very fortunate, very, very grateful and

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blessed that ham did that two of the reciters on the app have Down

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syndrome. One is a hafida of Quran, masha Allah, and the first

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what a first person recorded who has Down syndrome to memorize the

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whole Quran. Another is a child, masha Allah, who has Down

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syndrome. And mashaAllah, student of the Quran. She's the only child

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that we include in the app. Um, and it's such an honor to have

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her, and such an honor to to be able to help other families with

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children with Down syndrome see that they, Inshallah, have such an

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important space in the Quran, of course, and in every part of the

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community. Um, hamdullah, a number of the clarias are blind from

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different parts of the world. Mashallah, from Tanzania and from

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Palestine from Egypt. And it's just been, you know, comments that

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I've received about seeing,

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comments I've received from typically abled women who have

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accessed the app have been things like, Oh, it's so nice that you've

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included women with disability. Oh, it's so inspiring and and I

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appreciate where their sentiment is coming from, but I really would

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like to reframe the way that we talk about individuals with

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disabilities in our community, because it's not like inspiring.

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It is inspiring. Of course, it's not nice. I mean, it's nice that

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anyone's included anywhere, but it's critical, children and women

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and men and anyone with disabilities are critical for our

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community. Our community is not community without you, and if we

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do not look at our community space and think about who is missing

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from the leadership from the those who are at.

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Actively giving lectures from those who have privilege, from

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those who are in spaces that create policy, if we're not

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actively looking at those spaces and thinking,

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who, how are the policies reflected by the people who are

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creating them? Who is missing from thinking about the way that

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policies need to be created because they are not necessarily

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able to always think about

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a reality that may not reflect their reality. Then we are so far

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away from the community of the Prophet sallallahu ALA, because

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the community of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam

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actively include, it's not included. It was it. It was built

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by and with and through individuals with disabilities,

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through companions, rodi Aloha, with disabilities. And so for us,

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we feel very honored that these women and the family of Iman and

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Iman, the younger girl that we have on the app, are a part of the

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app that they feel like they want to be a part of it. We're so

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honored to have their voices, and it's such a gift to be able to

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learn Quran from them. And I just feel like all of you who are

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caregivers or who may be an individual with a disability or

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somehow personally part of a family of someone with a

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disability, I just want you to know how deeply needed you are in

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the community. I hope that you feel that every community that

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you're in and that also as an typically abled individual, I just

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want to share with you that

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I've noticed a huge lack

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in our in our in the typically abled conversation on how Muslims

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with disabilities

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should shape the community, and I'm so grateful for the work that

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you are all doing to help inshallah change that for the

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future generation. Inshallah,

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just like for sharing, and may Allah bless you efforts and your

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team's efforts, I think it's an It's so incredible to offer that

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representation and and to really just set a foundation for future

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generations to see that empowering atmosphere that you all are

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building. So may Allah, subhana wa taala, bless you all. Sister

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Samia, go ahead. I we'd love to hear a little bit about your

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courses and and, you know, mashaAllah, you're inspiring work

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that you're doing

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reward you all. And I feel like what Saddam Mariam said about I

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think normalizing this is really, really important, like the

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families who have special needs children or or children with

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different abilities, I think it's important that they're a part of

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our communities too. It's not like like you said, like, we're not

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doing them a favor by including them. You know, it's not like that

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at all. Like they are. You said, like. You said, like, they're like

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the pillar, they're the foundation. I think that's very

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important, subhanAllah, the way you worded it. And you know, I'll

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tell you just a little about myself, in terms of being a

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caregiver myself. So Hamlet, my daughter Mariam. Her name is

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Maryam, also. My daughter Maryam was born with child syndrome,

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which was very rare syndrome, and Subhanallah, I feel like I've

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evolved in my mentality. You know, sometimes, like, we don't know

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what we should know until, like, Allah puts us in a situation. And

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I think that's what happened to me, like, so after she was born, I

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I've realized the mindset I had that I didn't think I had. And I

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like, I sometimes I continue to surprise myself, that while

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Subhanallah, like we grew up in such a almost like a closed minded

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way from this world that exists, and for organizations like that,

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like mahsin that that show us that these people are a big part of our

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communities, and they're actually a Rahma for, you know, For our

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communities. And after she was born, and

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I was one time taking her to a masjid, to a talk, and it was my

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first time taking her to a talk. So I told one of the organizers,

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you know, is it okay? Mariam is going to be there, you know, with

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her trick, she has a trach, so, you know, she might make noise, I

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might have to suction her. And I was a little like, almost like,

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scared, like, this is, you know, new for me. And then the organizer

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looked at me, and she saw how, like, almost, like, hesitant I

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was, and she was like, Mariam is going to be at the front, she's

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going to be at the front, in front of the speaker, and she's the

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barakah, like, she's the Rahma of this whole talk. Like, don't even,

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like, don't try to hide her, you know. And subhanAllah, I feel like

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people like that, like, just really, really, they're such a

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Rahma for our communities, because they show us that, you know,

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these, these, these children that are essentially gifts from Allah,

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right? Should be at the forefront, right? These people that Allah

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chose, and that's why I named her Maryam, because just like Allah

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chose Mariam to Mariam, I Allah chose her to have this syndrome,

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and that was the inspiration behind her name, but Subhanallah,

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I think, you know, work like Morrison just is really, really

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important. And I feel like, you know, caregivers like myself feel

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feel how important it is, because it just makes us feel just

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included, and it makes us feel seen, and it makes us feel heard.

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So, you know, every time I.

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I see Martin, you know, doing things their work in different

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areas of Chicago and Texas and other areas just really, really

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inspiring to see, because it speaks to me on a personal level,

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right? Like, I'm like, that, that, that mom is me, you know, like

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that mom is me, that you're helping, you know, I saw you were

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doing, Martin was doing, instead of babysitting, right? Like, for

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kids with special needs. And I was like, That's amazing, because, you

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know, a lot of these things,

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a lot of caregivers, you know, don't get to do anymore, right? So

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their mud will look different. So just beautiful, just to see the

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work, Alhamdulillah

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that you're doing. May Allah bless you and your family. And I, I

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think one thing transition to the topic, you know, one thing that

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comes to mind, both of you kind of touched on this idea of inclusion.

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And I can't help to reflect on the story of Hajj, where, you know,

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she's in the middle of nowhere, and she dehydrates herself for the

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well being of her child, trying to find water, trying to find some

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sustenance. And you know, Ibrahim alaihi salam makes that dry. You

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know, surround them with with with individuals whose hearts will be

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inclined towards them. And you know, being a mother, at that

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point, a single mother dehydrating herself for the well being of her

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child, having ZEM ZEM water come what we see in Mecca today is

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because of a mother that that strived for the well being of her

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child. And think of all the ibadah, all the worship that came

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from that, you know, yeah, Ibrahim makes the DUA, but the effort from

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that mother, hajid, in that in the desert, subhanAllah, and

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everything that came after that is just amazing. And I think both of

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you as mothers, I'd love to hear kind of what has your Ramadan

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nights have been? How do you all, both, you know, define ay bad? How

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do you find worship as a caregiver, as a mother, as you

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know, someone that's being in the last night? What does that look

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like for both of you?

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I answered the last question first. So a status, Samia. Happy

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to Samia. Should start this one.

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So it's, you know, evolved, you know. And I think, you know,

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growing up, many of you might resonate with this, like, what do

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you think of in Ramadan? Or you think of, you know, late nights at

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the masjid, you know, 10 a week, eating with people, with families,

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and just staying out. And, you know, home is the least place you

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see in Ramadan. That's how my life was growing up, right? It was

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always just out, you know, at the masjid, etcetera, but especially

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as not just a mother, but as a special needs Mother, you know, of

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Mariam, it's really, really shifted completely to the point

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where I might go to the masjid once in the entire month, you

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know, if I'm lucky, right? If, if somebody can come and, you know,

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especially as a single mother myself, right? So if somebody can

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watch her, if I can get someone to watch her, and then be with her,

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who's trained to know how to suction her and all that. So I

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feel like halal. Throughout the years, I've realized that, you

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know, worship is not limited to a single physical activity, right to

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the norm that we grew up with. And it hit me last year, I remember I

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was pulling her syringes because she has a nightly medication, and

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I was pulling the medication, and it was like, at 3am and all my

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friends, you know, most of them, were at pm, at the day, it was

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like the 27th night, but I'm alone, and I'm like, you know,

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like I could be at the masjid, but here I am pulling syringes. And

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then something came to me, and it was like, this is your Pm like

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this. This is your pm right now, like other people are at the

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masjid, but this is how Allah has gifted you in in your capacity

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right now to worship him, right? It's going to look different. And

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just because it looks different doesn't mean that that the reward

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is less, right? Doesn't mean that, you know, Allah has taken

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something away from you. No, Allah has given you something else that

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looks differently. So I think our mindset and our frame work, you

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know, around it is really, really going to make a difference. And

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that's what I, you know, try to tell others around me who you know

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a lot of times, you know, like my friend just had a baby now, so

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her, her mud on this month looks different, like she literally has,

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you know, a baby who's, who's a few weeks old. Others are going

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through different situations always, you know, also, so, you

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know, we have to realize that our ramadans were are not going to

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look the same, and that is okay, right? Like there's a rahma, you

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know, there's a mercy in the fact that we can see different types of

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ramadans, you know, through our lives and and the point is that we

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want to get closer to Allah. So whatever way you're doing that. If

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that means you're staying at home, you're pulling syringes. If that

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means you're staying at home, you're breastfeeding. Does that

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mean, you know, you're staying at home, you're cooking? Whatever it

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means that that is the place Allah put you in. You know, do I in that

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like perfect that, to the best of your capability, take it to him

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and Inshallah, the reward is there.

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Hakila, Samia, you said something at the very end, which was

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wherever Allah has put you in, and that there's a statement of Ibn

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Alta in love, who's a scholar of our Uma, who talks about how you

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wanting to be able to just push aside your responsibilities that

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Allah has given you. Allah has given you these particular.

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Responsibilities, and you want to push them aside so that you can do

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extra worship, so that you can go to the masjid and pray, said away.

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And you know, we saw of Quran and do all of this extra it's actually

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from your own desires. An actual worship comes by taking care of

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the responsibilities that Allah has put in your life, and that

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phrase was what really helped me shift my understanding of worship.

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Because especially when we look at our community growing up, I didn't

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hear that, you know, it's worship to cook or it's worship to take

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care of children, it's worship, you know, I know we do hear these

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things in passing, but when I hear Ramadan lectures. It's how much

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Quran are you going to read this month? How I saw so many posts

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about the last 10 nights in these last 10 nights, stay awake all

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night in these last 10 nights, don't just pray eight, pray all

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the way to 20, and then stay up to Fajr. And I'm like the people

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writing these posts do not have children, or at least they're not

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full time taking care of their children. I just SubhanAllah.

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It's, it's, it's what becomes so popular in how we worship, and so

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many of us who cannot do those acts because of the

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responsibilities of our life, we just think about how we are not

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doing the actual worship. We're not doing full worship. Our

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worship isn't good enough. Why? Because the responsibilities of

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our life take us away from all the extra that we want to be doing.

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And it is so so sweet to be able to stand in Salah in tadawiya with

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an imam who has a beautiful recitation in the community of

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people that you feel safe around and feel the verses and even cry.

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It is so sweet.

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It's not this type of sweetness as changing a diaper. It's not the

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same sweetness as waking up in the middle of the night to take care

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of a sick child, and I mean, like physically sick, like they have a

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cold, of course, you happy the semi are talking about the reality

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of a mother with a child with special needs, and that's going to

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look so different regularly, not just for one or two nights of the

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month. Like I think part of the reason why we internalize that

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we're not good enough in Ramadan if we haven't done all of this,

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you know, extra Salah and extra pm and, oh, when we pray, our focus

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is fully on our worship. I mean, it's very hard to fully focus on

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worship when you have a child climbing your back and another one

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going under your prayer hijab and trying to make it into a test.

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It's very hard to focus on Salah when that's happening. But

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realizing that Allah tells us in a hadith QUT, that the one who

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relieves a distress of a believer in this life, Allah, will relieve

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their distress, though Allah tells us about in Hadith, what we make

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happy, Allah will remove that help. The one who said, who we

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make happy, Allah will help us to become happy. The one who we

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remove the distress from them, Allah will remove our distress.

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This is not just for some random person we meet on the street. This

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is for our own children and our own families, especially for

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mothers and fathers of children with special needs. So being able

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to reframe Ramadan for us into realizing that all of this is

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worship,

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I think, goes back to another wisdom of Ibn Al Taw Allah, who

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says that your hope in your own deeds greater than Allah's Mercy

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is shown when you stop doing those deeds. And you think Allah is not

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going to have mercy on me, you stop doing the Quran, you stop

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doing the salah because you're having to do other things. And of

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course, you do the obligation, of course, but I'm talking about, you

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know, hours and hours and hours of other type of worship. And you

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think, oh, Allah is not pleased with me. He's not pleased with my

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Ramadan. I couldn't do those things. You are having more hope

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in your own deeds and in Allah's mercy. And we know that the

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Prophet, sallAllahu, alayhi wa salam said in the yet that deeds

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are by intention. So how could you as a caregiver, and I mean the

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third person, you not Assad, but how can you know the third person?

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You take a step back and look at your whole day, and look at how

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you are barely functioning because you're so exhausted taking care of

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other people. How can you not think that Allah Shakur, the most

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appreciative, is not going to appreciate that work every single

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second of that is worship, and maybe the worship of someone who's

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making it masjid for hours and hours and hours at a time, and

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just making dua and just asking for Allah's mercy, and just so

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happily. You know, spending that time there, Inshallah, they're

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greatly rewarded. But how can you not see that your one as you're

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quickly trying to between your children, break your fast and you

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don't even have a second to just rest. How can you not know that

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Allah will not answer you. Maybe you don't even have the ability to

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express how you're feeling because of all you have going on, but he's

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going to answer you as if you made that because the only reason

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you're not is because you're just so responsible for so much else.

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And he sees that and he appreciates it, because he is a

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Muslim.

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Sub

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Subhanallah, both of you, mashallah, just dropping gems. And

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I think, what's, you know, my my kids the other day were climbing

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on my back, right? And like, I'm trying to be in hoshu like this.

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Is like this, I'm in my I'm in worship, right? And when you see

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that, I couldn't help but think of how the Prophet Muhammad SAW

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reacted in that situation when he has his grandkids climbing on his

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back. He didn't fling him off. He didn't say, this is prayer, this

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is Salah. He simply just embraced it and and that's mercy. And you

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know, you know, the other day, my my son, didn't want to sleep first

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day of the last 10 nights, he didn't want to sleep 1130 I'm

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like, bro, you gotta sleep. And my heart is wanting to read the Quran

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and where my intention was lying. And my, you know, sometimes the

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heart is going to be on the prayer rug. The heart is going to be in,

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you know, wanting to be in sajd, or wanting to read the Quran. And

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I remember just thinking myself, the Hadith where isallah says that

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whoever shows mercy to those on this earth, that Allah, the Most

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Merciful, will show mercy to you. And I remember just wanting to

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just be like, just go to bed. I want to read Quran and that, like,

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like, Sister Samuel said, like, that's your ibadah, that's your

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hebada taking care of children. And you know that that is that

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form of haibada. And you know the very the first khutbah that I gave

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the Salama dawn, I highlighted how, as moms that have, like my

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wife, for example, for five, six years, has not been able to pray.

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Tara, we have the masjid. And I told dads, I'm like, You guys want

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to. You guys want ay Bada, have be the vehicle, be the facilitator,

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to tell your, you know, your your spouse, I'll cook today. Go take a

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nap. Go read Quran. You know, I will, you know, watch the kids

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while you go pray. Title, we be that facilitator, you know. And I

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think transitioning our minds to think of aribada in different

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dimensions are very powerful to endure and very powerful to just

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to have in our hearts that we can find Ariba through different

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avenues. It is just, it doesn't just have to be the Quran, the DUA

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and all of this. That's, of course, something that that, like

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Samia said, like, we're all, you know, growing up to that. But as

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he SallAllahu sallam said, you know, take care of your youth

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before your old age. You know that your free time before you're

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occupied, when you're occupied, you do have to, you know, maneuver

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your mindset to different forms of ibadah, I'm curious what you know,

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Sister Samia, what is your last 10 nights have been? You know? How

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have you balanced Ariba and caregiving?

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SubhanAllah? I feel like

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it's again. It's a mindset shift for me. Like, if my mindset is

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clear, then my actions are more fluid because then I stressed out,

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you know, mentally about, like, why this? Why that, you know, like

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you were saying, and I think, like, for me, it's, I try to,

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like, refocus and say, okay, zoom out. Like the goal is to, you

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know, attain Allah And Allah's forgiveness, right? So, if that's

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my goal, the physical that's going to take me there is more

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irrelevant, right? Because, you know, it's not as important than

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the goal, right? The goal is to attain Allah. So then wherever

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Allah has put me in, like I said from the beginning, right, if I'm

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able to take that and excel in that, then Allah knows me better

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than anybody, right? So Allah will give me the best thing that I need

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to attain his right. So if that means, and I had a similar

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situation, like, use Hama on on the night of the 23rd

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instead of mud my daughter, it was like, 1am and Maryam didn't want

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to sleep. Like, she was like, I'm not going to sleep. And actually,

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the the funny thing is, I actually found out why she wasn't sleeping,

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because Michelle, she communicates for us on on the through a board.

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She can't talk, but she spells for us, like her thoughts. So I asked

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her, What did you want? And she spelled that she wanted the Eid

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gift. So I had asked her earlier, like, just an hour. Maybe it

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wasn't a good idea on my part, but that's her. What do you want for

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aid? And she said, a clock. She's obsessed with clocks. She has,

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like, literally, 50 clocks, I kid you not. She just loves watching

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the time, putting timers on anyway. So she wanted another

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clock. So I told her, okay, and I just, you know, put it in on my

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car. Okay? And she wants this clock. And she was crying and

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thinking she was gonna get it, like, right now.

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So then she wasn't sleeping, and she was just, like, really upset.

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So then when she finally typed it out, I said, Oh, that's coming

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Inshallah, Monday. Like, and I was like, counting the days for her. I

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was like, today's this day. We're gonna count a few days until

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Monday. So yeah, I have moments like that where I'm realizing, you

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know, that could have been me, you know, really Quran, like you said,

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or praying or making dua, being on my prayer rug, but instead, I was

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here trying to calm her down why she's not getting her gift today.

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So for me, it's been moments like that. Alhamdulillah, there's

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moments where it could be like for me, personally, it's like those.

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Small pockets, like a small window that you appreciate, like alone

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time. And I think sometimes, because, you know, caregivers,

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like, we don't have a lot of alone time, a lot of the time, it's just

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like you're going from thing to thing. You don't you even realize

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how many things you're doing, because you're so stretched out.

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So the moment you do get alone time, I feel like I appreciate it

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so much more than I would have before. So that moment becomes so

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meaningful that I'm, like, pouring it to Allah more than I would have

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ever had if I had, like, 10 hours, you know. So in that moment,

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sometimes I'm just like crying, and I'm like, ya, Allah, like, you

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know, me. And I feel like, because of the all these i Beautiful dua

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of dua al hand, like the dua of the situation we have in the

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Quran, like Prophet Noah said, Allah, I'm overwhelmed. Like, take

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over, right? I need you or or prophet Musa, where he says, I'm

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just in dire need of any good you give me. Like all these I feel

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like prophets stories that we have, like when they ask Allah

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through their situation. I remember them in those moments

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specifically because I'm like, I don't even know what to ask. Like,

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this day has been crazy, so I'm just gonna, like, pour my feeling

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to it. Yeah, Allah, you you know my feeling right now. You know how

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exhausted I am, and you see that. And to me, subhanAllah, I feel

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like that is what, like, Prophets teach us, like, through their duas

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to Allah. Subhana, they just spoke of their situation to Allah. And

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that is my advice to so many sisters who reach out to me, who

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tell me that they're so overwhelmed and like that

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overwhelming feeling, tell it to Allah like, because the Rahma in

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that we have a dua of a prophet that all he said was, I'm

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overwhelmed. Like that is a DUA. Like, how many times do you say to

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someone, you know, I'm overwhelmed today, you know, take that to a

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dua to Allah. You might, you don't even have to be sued. You don't

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even have to be praying for sisters around their periods,

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right? You just say, Yeah, Allah, I'm exhausted. And you know that

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Allah sees that. That is a DUA, you know. And Allah sees that. So

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that is, you know, my advice to myself and to everyone who doesn't

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necessarily have the time to do, you know, all the other Ibadah

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that many people do do,

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sir, madam. Can you talk a little bit about, you know,

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I couldn't help thinking about the verse of the Quran where Allah

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says, when you are grateful, you'll you get more. And you can

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only imagine, you know, how, how, you know, I remember, like Samia

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was mentioning how that one time she's able to go to the masjid,

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there's a sweetness of reunion for the past two years, for anyone

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that goes to the masjid for the very first time after covid, where

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they put their forehead on the ground. Can you talk a little bit

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about, you know, those moments of appreciation, where you finally

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want something and you get it. How do we react as as worshippers, you

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know, coming from a from that lens of gratitude, Pamela, this is the

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first Rama dawn that I went for, said away in the masjid in maybe

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seven years. And I remember when I walked in,

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I was so overwhelmed with how grateful I was to be there, yes,

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but also I was so overwhelmed by all the people that I knew I

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wouldn't be seeing because they've already passed away. And I I, you

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know, I look at the carpet, and I think about all the Roma Daltons

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that I spent with, these, you know older aunties who would pray for

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hours and hours and hours, and

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they passed away recently, or they passed away in some point in the

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past few years, or they're not there because they have a loved

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one who has passed away, who used to take them like A spouse, and

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they're in an elder age.

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And I

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just think about the carpet of the masjid and how the carpet of the

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masjid has seen so many tears, and how the the chairs of the masjid

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have had so many women

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sit on them and prey on them. And I

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just kept thinking about the structure of the masjid itself. I

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am someone who I was so blessed to grow up in the masjid,

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but there are a lot of things that I struggle with when it comes to

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Masjid spaces, because I'm hurt in a lot of ways. And for me, knowing

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what a lot of women and a lot of individuals from more vulnerable

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communities, in our in our in our community, our greater community.

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You know, the conversations that we have about access and inclusion

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sometimes that hurt really causes us to feel upset, rightly so,

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until the point that we don't even feel comfortable praying in the

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message we just don't want to go. We're tired of hearing one

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chutzpah after another about something that has absolutely

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nothing to do with us or and that's at best, at worst, it's

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offensive and it's hurtful, and sometimes the this the physical

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space doesn't allow us to have access, as you know, as a.

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As a mother without,

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as a mother with children, typically, it typically able

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children the mother, like having a Samia with a child with a

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disability. I mean, we all have different points of realizing that

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our massage could do so much more to help mothers and fathers feel

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like the mustard space is also for us to to thrive in.

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But even with all of that, and with, you know, there's so much

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more, I mean, so so much pain that's, you know, whether it's

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spiritual abuse or racism or sexism or whatever it is that our

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massages struggle with, there is still so much good in so many

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massage it, and there's so much intention, intentionality brought

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by people who did it in the best way they could, who founded it in

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the best way they could. That doesn't excuse what we need to

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fix, but the fact that they tried, and the fact that it became this

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place where so many people kept coming. For me, I was really

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overwhelmed by all those emotions, because it was personal. It was, I

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can't believe like that was the spot that I used to pray, and that

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was the spot that, you know, I stood with this auntie. That was

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the spot where, you know, I used to reset Quran. And it was just

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very emotional in that sense, because it had been so long since

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I had the honor of going into the masjid for today.

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That's, that's in one sense, but the other sense of, you know, at

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the end of the day, I've, I haven't seen so many of my

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community members who have, who have passed on and and kind of who

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would have been here had Allah will for them to continue their

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life. And so when we're thinking about an ayah like, if you are

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grateful, I will surely increase you

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in one aspect, it's, how can I show my gratitude? Like Ali

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uraldillahu anhu, he was given the option, and he was asked if you

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were to drink cold water on a hot day or warm water on a hot which

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one would you choose? Like the zohad option of warm water on a

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hot day or the like easier option of like the cold water on a hot

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day. And he chose the cold water. He chose the the very cold water

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really long. Why? Because he said, it will make my heart more

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grateful. I will be more grateful from the depths of my heart for

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the cold water on a hot day,

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realizing that there are blessings in our lives that we can be

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grateful for. Of course, you know, sitting and writing blessings

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every day, writing three blessings a day. It actually, researchers

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have found that it psychologically will impact the way that you look

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at the world. It changes your perception. So yes, like spending

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time every single day to just think of reasons why I should be

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grateful, can help me be more grateful, but also recognizing

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that if I have reason to be upset and if I have reason to be hurt, I

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still need a place to heal.

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And it may not be in a particular Masjid like maybe something has

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happened and I can't enter it, but if that hasn't happened and I can,

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or if I can find a different one, finding healing in the house of

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Allah is just. So

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it's so necessary to realize this is the house of Allah. It's not

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the house of an individual or the board or whoever else that anyone

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has a struggle with. It's the house of Allah, and the house of

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Allah is for me, and House of Allah for my children, and the

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house of Allah is for those who are coming broken. And it's not

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just for the righteous. It's not just for the people who pray and

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fast and who just do, you know, all they do is think about Allah.

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It's for the person who is struggling and they want Allah but

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they don't know how to connect with him. And when we have that

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realization going into a masjid space, it I think, for for anyone

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who hasn't been there for a very long time for reasons that they

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struggle with, it allows them to bring their heart back to a space

00:33:50 --> 00:33:54

of gratitude, because then I can realize that Allah has honored me

00:33:54 --> 00:33:58

with being here in his house, and I could be anywhere else he could

00:33:58 --> 00:34:00

have chosen for me to spend the entire night in the Mall. And I'm

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not saying anything wrong for someone and that, I mean, they

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could have million intentions for why they're doing that, but he's

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chosen for me to be in the masjid for a reason, and and he sees

00:34:11 --> 00:34:14

something inside of my heart that maybe I don't even see. And So

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alhamdulillah for the blessing and the honor of being in this space,

00:34:17 --> 00:34:22

being able to worship him and being with being being with people

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who are, who are here to worship him together, and making to offer

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the people who've already passed away. Subhan Allah, I just can't

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stop thinking of the people who have already passed away.

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SubhanAllah. May Allah have so much mercy on all of them and

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enter them into the paradise and accept all of their worship and

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and allow the the masjid itself, to be a witness for them on the

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Day of Judgment and allow, allow our homes and our our the message,

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the place that we worship, to be that witness for us as well.

00:34:49 --> 00:34:53

I mean, Sister Sammy want to jump off, off of anything of that, in

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terms of gratitude or of anything that she sister madam had said,

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no, no, *. I just said.

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Just one point, I feel like, first of all, I love how you mentioned,

00:35:02 --> 00:35:06

like, made like the carpet witness for you. And I think those moments

00:35:06 --> 00:35:07

of Pan Allah, like,

00:35:08 --> 00:35:11

I think it's nice to just pause and realize that, yeah, like,

00:35:11 --> 00:35:14

like, you said, like, and if you take it even further, if you're

00:35:14 --> 00:35:17

not able to go to the masjid, like, the places you're in right

00:35:17 --> 00:35:20

here in your home, those will witness for you too, right? Like,

00:35:20 --> 00:35:23

even your heart want, like, like brother Vida said, like, wanting

00:35:23 --> 00:35:26

to do something that you cannot be, that you cannot do, that will

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witness for you too. You know, a lot of other rewards our

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intentions and ways beyond us, really, subhanAllah

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and and speaking of that, I just want to share this story like

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that, that this is one of my favorite stories in the Quran of a

00:35:40 --> 00:35:44

man who, we don't even know his name, subhanAllah, but it's in

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Surat, and he said he's mentioned briefly, just one verse of Han

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Allah. But this man, when Allah, sent down the verses, to migrate,

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you know, to escape the persecution of her Makkah, to

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Medina and to join Prophet Muhammad, saw this migration, and

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the reward for migration and to, you know, finally, practice your

00:36:02 --> 00:36:07

religion freely. So this man was old, and he lived in Mecca and the

00:36:07 --> 00:36:10

ayat in Surat, and he sat said, you know, there's an exception for

00:36:10 --> 00:36:13

you. If you're old, if you're not physically able, you don't have to

00:36:13 --> 00:36:17

migrate. But this older man was insistent that he wanted to

00:36:17 --> 00:36:19

migrate, you know, with the Prophet Muhammad, with the

00:36:19 --> 00:36:22

believers, and his whole family was, like, against it, like, don't

00:36:22 --> 00:36:26

migrate. Like, don't do this. Not a good idea. You know, you know

00:36:26 --> 00:36:29

you're physically, not well, your health, etcetera. But this man

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just really wanted the reward. He really wanted to go with her last

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to migrate, to be a part of this, you know, big change, you know, of

00:36:38 --> 00:36:41

finally being able to practice your religion freely, without the

00:36:41 --> 00:36:46

persecution of the people in Mecca. So this man convinces his

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family, and he goes to Medina. On the way to Medina, he passes away.

00:36:51 --> 00:36:56

He passed away on the way to Medina, and it says that, you

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know. It said that the people around him almost pitied him. Like

00:37:00 --> 00:37:03

to say that, you know, oh, you know, haram. Like, he didn't make

00:37:03 --> 00:37:07

it all the way, you know. Like, oh, like, bachara, like, Oh, man.

00:37:07 --> 00:37:10

Like, how did he not make it all the way there? Like, you know, if

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only he had made it to Medina, he would have been rewarded. But then

00:37:15 --> 00:37:20

Allah reveals a verse that says it is incumbent on Allah to reward

00:37:20 --> 00:37:24

him. In verse 100 I believe that it is a must on Allah to reward

00:37:24 --> 00:37:29

him. And to me, it's like, do we not know who Allah is? Right? Do

00:37:29 --> 00:37:33

we think that we have to reach the destination right for Allah to

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reward us? And here Allah, you know, Allah could have told

00:37:36 --> 00:37:39

Prophet Muhammad, saw them, hey, tell them that the reward is

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there. But instead, we have a verse that we recite all the time,

00:37:43 --> 00:37:46

right? It's every single Ramadan when in Tahoe, this verse is going

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to be recited out loud to tell us that it's not about reaching the

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

destination, seeing the outcome you want. It's about your

00:37:53 --> 00:37:57

intention, right? The reward is there? The fact that Allah says it

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is incumbent. It is a must. Allah made it all must on himself to

00:38:02 --> 00:38:05

reward him fully every time I get there. Subhanallah, like never

00:38:05 --> 00:38:10

minimize the effort you do for Allah. You know, there's no such

00:38:10 --> 00:38:15

thing as an effort that is too little to be seen by Allah. So we

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have to, number one, know that. And then, in terms of the ayah

00:38:19 --> 00:38:24

that you mentioned that if you're grateful, you know, Allah will

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increase you. I remember as a kid, I used to always think that that

00:38:27 --> 00:38:31

was like, like, literal, right? Like, if you're grateful for this

00:38:31 --> 00:38:34

one thing, Allah didn't give you 10 things right away, you know.

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But I feel like, as as I grow up, I realized that, you know, it's

00:38:37 --> 00:38:42

not literal in a sense, but it's more feeling right, that if you're

00:38:42 --> 00:38:45

grateful for this one thing you have, Allah will help you see more

00:38:45 --> 00:38:49

of what you already have, right? You'll be able to actually, like,

00:38:50 --> 00:38:53

it's meta, you know, like, enjoy the blessings that you were not

00:38:53 --> 00:38:58

seeing before, simply because you chose to see through a lens of

00:38:58 --> 00:39:02

gratitude today, right? So when we choose to see with a lens of

00:39:02 --> 00:39:05

gratitude, you know, and Allah enables us to do that, we're going

00:39:05 --> 00:39:09

to see more of what we already have that we were blinded my by,

00:39:09 --> 00:39:12

perhaps because we were just, you know, looking at other things,

00:39:12 --> 00:39:16

right, or or not focusing on what we have. So I feel like gratitude

00:39:16 --> 00:39:19

is so fulfilling at the end of the day, and that is what, you know,

00:39:19 --> 00:39:23

the ayah pulls us to just that fulfillment you feel through being

00:39:23 --> 00:39:24

grateful for what you have, Alhamdulillah,

00:39:27 --> 00:39:31

for sharing. I have one question before we like, kind of jump back

00:39:31 --> 00:39:35

in because you mentioned, like, you know, you know people around

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this person that passed away having pity. And a question that

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came in was family members and friends tell us that it's a

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punishment from Allah to have special needs children, and we are

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getting purified in the zunya. Is that true? Now I know this answer,

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

but I want to hear from from both.

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How do you respond to maybe

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that situation and that question? Yeah.

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I'll let you answer.

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I appreciate that both of you are like, ah, like, when you heard

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this, when you heard this question, that is a disgusting

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statement that is so ridiculous,

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and for anyone to say this to someone else, as if you are giving

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somebody you know,

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comfort. Oh, you know, you poor thing, your child has special

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needs. Oh, at least in the Hereafter, you're going to go to

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Paradise lahaula, Where has our Ummah come to the the Prophet

00:40:37 --> 00:40:42

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam appointed when he left Medina for

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a campaign, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam appointed

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Abdullah, Abdullah ibn umaq RadiAllahu Abu to lead the city,

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to lead the salah. Abdullah ibn umaktum Who as a as a man who is

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blind and not

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excused from being a part of the Army, the way he passed away was

00:41:04 --> 00:41:08

because he wanted to be the flag bearer for Muslims holding the

00:41:08 --> 00:41:13

flag rodi Allahu anhu, and he was martyred. Rodi Aloha Anhu. Is this

00:41:14 --> 00:41:17

community the Prophet salallahu alays, built where so many men and

00:41:17 --> 00:41:21

women were individuals with disabilities, and they sometimes

00:41:21 --> 00:41:23

had leadership positions, and sometimes they didn't. Sometimes

00:41:23 --> 00:41:26

they wanted to be in leadership. And sometimes, like one of the

00:41:26 --> 00:41:29

companions, he asked the Prophet sallallahu, Islam, to come to his

00:41:29 --> 00:41:32

home and make the Adam there. So the Prophet sallallahu, sallam,

00:41:32 --> 00:41:36

did so, so that this man writes bad radila, could make the masjid

00:41:36 --> 00:41:40

his own, his home, his own masjid, because it was too difficult for

00:41:40 --> 00:41:43

him to come to the masjid itself. We have individuals in our

00:41:43 --> 00:41:47

community who want to actively be a part of the masjid and want to

00:41:47 --> 00:41:50

stay home, and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam, because

00:41:50 --> 00:41:52

of their reality, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam

00:41:53 --> 00:41:57

facilitated for both. He never said, Oh, this is a punishment.

00:41:57 --> 00:42:00

And you don't even need to pray. Oh, this is a punishment so that

00:42:00 --> 00:42:05

in the hereafter you're going to go to paradise that is so

00:42:05 --> 00:42:09

ridiculously disgusting. May Allah forgive all of these people, guide

00:42:09 --> 00:42:13

them and guide us all. This is an honor and a gift. All children are

00:42:13 --> 00:42:16

an honor and a gift and a test. All children, typically abled

00:42:16 --> 00:42:20

children and children with special needs. It is a gift and a blessing

00:42:20 --> 00:42:23

and a test to be a parent. And

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the only way I can see this

00:42:27 --> 00:42:32

shifting in terms of someone who has a typically able child, excuse

00:42:32 --> 00:42:37

me, a child with a disability, is that Inshallah, you have more and

00:42:37 --> 00:42:41

more and more of the blessings of Allah and more and more of the

00:42:41 --> 00:42:45

presence of the angel with whom brings barakah and mercy and

00:42:45 --> 00:42:48

protection. If somebody says something like, Oh, this is

00:42:48 --> 00:42:51

because of a, you know, a mistake that you made, or a sin that you

00:42:51 --> 00:42:54

committed, what does that say about the state of this person's

00:42:54 --> 00:42:57

heart, that this is the way that they're viewing a gift from Allah,

00:42:57 --> 00:43:00

that this is the way that they're viewing a child that Allah

00:43:00 --> 00:43:04

created. And Allah, in more than one place in the Quran, says that

00:43:05 --> 00:43:08

noone takes the burden, no, like, if someone commits a sin,

00:43:08 --> 00:43:11

basically, I'm terrible. It's not a translation. If someone commits

00:43:11 --> 00:43:15

a sin, the consequence of that sin is not going to be on someone

00:43:15 --> 00:43:19

else. So if you're saying, Oh, you committed a sin, or you lived a

00:43:19 --> 00:43:22

life of sin, or whatever, even if you didn't, you're, you're going

00:43:22 --> 00:43:25

to go to a higher rank in paradise. But because you're not

00:43:25 --> 00:43:29

pure enough, Allah gave someone else the the consequence of that,

00:43:29 --> 00:43:32

and therefore you have to, you know, go through the suffering.

00:43:32 --> 00:43:36

Why do you have to phrase it as suffering? Why do you even need to

00:43:36 --> 00:43:41

look at it as suffering? It is, it is an honor for our community that

00:43:41 --> 00:43:44

we have Muslims with special needs, it is a gift to our

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

community, and for someone to see it as other than a gift is a

00:43:47 --> 00:43:51

problem that they have, but it's also a communal problem in the way

00:43:51 --> 00:43:54

that we phrase and have the paradigm of looking at Muslims

00:43:54 --> 00:43:58

with special needs. Part of the reason why I believe people make

00:43:58 --> 00:44:01

these statements is because we have a very uneducated community.

00:44:01 --> 00:44:04

We are very educated in engineering, and some of our in

00:44:04 --> 00:44:08

some of the immigrant founded massage it that are in the

00:44:08 --> 00:44:11

suburbs, engineering doctors in these particular segments of the

00:44:11 --> 00:44:14

community. But it comes to mental health, or when it comes to

00:44:14 --> 00:44:18

physical disabilities, and the way that we look at that spiritually,

00:44:18 --> 00:44:23

when we connect that with spirituality, we are very, very

00:44:23 --> 00:44:27

ignorant of the history of Islamic science and Islamic legacy when it

00:44:27 --> 00:44:30

comes to Muslims with special needs. And if anything, I think

00:44:30 --> 00:44:33

the way that we need to start address and not start addressing

00:44:33 --> 00:44:35

it continue. I mean, Mufson, you're already doing this work,

00:44:35 --> 00:44:39

but the fact that mukhtin needs to exist is a problem. I feel like

00:44:39 --> 00:44:43

it's one thing for mush to be like, we're here to support

00:44:43 --> 00:44:48

families, and we're here to like, you know, you know every, every

00:44:48 --> 00:44:51

everyone needs a support system. And like, every everyone, it

00:44:51 --> 00:44:54

doesn't matter what your background is, but the fact that

00:44:54 --> 00:44:58

you even need to advocate is a problem there should we just

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

shouldn't need it. It should already exist.

00:45:00 --> 00:45:03

Act, and we need to get to a place where from the massage head,

00:45:03 --> 00:45:06

that's already part of the policy. It's not a question. It's already

00:45:06 --> 00:45:09

part of the policy. It's already part of the way that we see

00:45:09 --> 00:45:11

massage and reflecting, and not just massaging conferences

00:45:11 --> 00:45:14

everywhere. And I know this isn't Muslim specific. I know this is a

00:45:14 --> 00:45:17

greater conversation in society, and I know that different

00:45:17 --> 00:45:20

countries have very different points of access, but the point is

00:45:20 --> 00:45:25

that when we start framing our conversations and change the

00:45:25 --> 00:45:29

policies and the way that we look at Muslims with disabilities, it's

00:45:29 --> 00:45:33

going to shift the way that people talk about it too, change the

00:45:33 --> 00:45:36

policy, and it will impact the way that people talk about it

00:45:36 --> 00:45:38

internally. And of course, it's going to impact the way that a

00:45:38 --> 00:45:44

caregiver feels or a child feels about him or herself as a person

00:45:44 --> 00:45:49

within with a disability. It's just, you know, I I've heard from

00:45:50 --> 00:45:54

an adult now who shared she's actually with smile Canada. Smile

00:45:54 --> 00:45:56

Canada is another you know organization, which I'm sure often

00:45:56 --> 00:45:59

knows about, that specifically works with families with

00:45:59 --> 00:46:02

disabilities. And she's someone with a disability, and she said

00:46:02 --> 00:46:05

that her whole life, she grew up hearing, Oh, you don't really need

00:46:05 --> 00:46:07

to pray, or you don't write myself Quran, because your promise

00:46:07 --> 00:46:12

paradise anyway. And the idea that your promised paradise because you

00:46:12 --> 00:46:15

have, you know, a disability is beautiful, Okay, wonderful. I have

00:46:15 --> 00:46:19

promised paradise Inshallah, but that you don't need to experience

00:46:20 --> 00:46:24

the you don't need to experience the faith, you don't need to

00:46:24 --> 00:46:26

experience worship, you don't need to work and feel the community

00:46:28 --> 00:46:32

space. And also, that's not true. Disabilities are different. Maybe

00:46:32 --> 00:46:35

someone with a cognitive disability experience particular

00:46:35 --> 00:46:39

types of cognitive disabilities have some a very different reality

00:46:39 --> 00:46:42

of the hereafter. But there's so many different types of

00:46:42 --> 00:46:45

disabilities, and to just have this type of like blanket

00:46:45 --> 00:46:50

statement without understanding the impact on a child who grows up

00:46:50 --> 00:46:53

to be an adult and who feels like she doesn't belong because she has

00:46:53 --> 00:46:56

a disability and therefore she doesn't even need to read the

00:46:56 --> 00:46:58

Quran, that is just so devastating. It's devastating for

00:46:58 --> 00:47:02

that individual. It's devastating for their family, and it's

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

devastating for our community, because our community is not a

00:47:04 --> 00:47:08

community without individuals with disabilities, for someone to make

00:47:08 --> 00:47:11

a statement like that, May Allah guide them, and may Allah forgive

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

our whole Oman help.

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

And thank you, Marcin, for the work that you do that shouldn't

00:47:15 --> 00:47:18

need to be needed, but it's so needed, and I'm so grateful that

00:47:18 --> 00:47:21

hamdullah, that you, Inshallah, for the next generation, you're

00:47:21 --> 00:47:23

helping shift the way that we have these conversations.

00:47:24 --> 00:47:28

Definitely. Yeah, no. Jazakall for sharing. And you know, this is

00:47:28 --> 00:47:32

actually the like that, that wording of you're being punished

00:47:32 --> 00:47:36

for your actions. It's a wording of the Quraysh, 1400 years ago,

00:47:36 --> 00:47:39

pre pre Islamic Arabia. They would say, don't associate yourself with

00:47:39 --> 00:47:43

those with special needs, because you'll inherit the curse. And you

00:47:43 --> 00:47:47

know, what do we when the Prophet Muhammad says that Allah touched

00:47:47 --> 00:47:50

those that he loves? What do we tell Musa alaihi salam, who is

00:47:50 --> 00:47:54

saved because of his speech impairment? Yes, he went to the

00:47:54 --> 00:48:00

coal and that burned his, burned his, his lip. That's what saved

00:48:00 --> 00:48:03

him. And even though he had that speech impairment, he didn't stop

00:48:03 --> 00:48:06

him. It didn't stop him from asking Allah to make it easy for

00:48:06 --> 00:48:09

it, to make it easy for him to go to fit Alan, you know, what do we

00:48:09 --> 00:48:12

tell ya, who went blind in his eyes because of the sadness that

00:48:12 --> 00:48:16

he that overtook him by losing his child? Yusuf, what do we tell

00:48:16 --> 00:48:19

Ayub, who had an illness of his skin? You know, when shaytan

00:48:19 --> 00:48:23

knocks on Ayub door after this, he says, you know, like, like, like,

00:48:23 --> 00:48:26

you're Ayub. You're the one that prays to God, you know, look what

00:48:26 --> 00:48:29

Allah did to you. And he's like, you know, I've been like this for,

00:48:29 --> 00:48:33

for I've been healthy for 70 years, and for seven years I've

00:48:33 --> 00:48:36

been unhealthy. Like, I'm too embarrassed to, you know, talk to

00:48:36 --> 00:48:39

Allah and tell allah how, like, I'm too shy to ask him. I he wants

00:48:39 --> 00:48:43

to be grateful. And you know, in that moment of of telling someone

00:48:43 --> 00:48:46

that you're being punished for your sins, you're being punished

00:48:46 --> 00:48:50

for your mistakes, it's a jahidiya statement. It really is. It really

00:48:50 --> 00:48:50

is.

00:48:52 --> 00:48:54

Sister Samia, you know,

00:48:55 --> 00:48:59

Sister Maria mentioned this, and I'm curious to see, you know, what

00:48:59 --> 00:49:02

is it? You know, being a part of like, community.

00:49:03 --> 00:49:07

How do you envision, or, like, if you were on, like, a board, right

00:49:07 --> 00:49:11

now, a board of a masjid, or you were in front of a masjid, what

00:49:11 --> 00:49:16

would you want the masjid to know, the community to know? How, like,

00:49:16 --> 00:49:22

how could they, you know, accommodate you during Ramadan

00:49:22 --> 00:49:24

like, what would or accommodating you during outside of Ramadan?

00:49:24 --> 00:49:29

Like, what would you want to tell someone as a caregiver of going to

00:49:29 --> 00:49:34

a community? How would you want the community to welcome you as a

00:49:34 --> 00:49:40

caregiver, welcome your family and just make your place of worship a

00:49:40 --> 00:49:42

place of accommodation and acceptance.

00:49:44 --> 00:49:48

I think, like at the gist of it is like to be seen, you know, to be

00:49:51 --> 00:49:56

to be seen and to just be supported in first of all, I think

00:49:56 --> 00:49:59

the words itself sometimes mean more than the actions. You know.

00:50:00 --> 00:50:03

Know. So I, for instance, I had one friend the day before Ramadan,

00:50:03 --> 00:50:08

may Allah reward her. She said, Samia, you know, I want you to

00:50:08 --> 00:50:12

pick from now any day in Ramadan, and that day I'm going to come and

00:50:12 --> 00:50:15

I'm going to stay with your kids, and I'm going to stay with Maryam,

00:50:15 --> 00:50:20

and you go wherever you want, and Subhanallah just her saying that,

00:50:20 --> 00:50:24

I felt like, wow, subhanAllah, like that meant so much to me and

00:50:24 --> 00:50:28

and so I feel like just small things like this, really, really

00:50:28 --> 00:50:33

matter like and even them asking, know, how can we be there for you,

00:50:33 --> 00:50:37

right? I feel like just to be seen to, and to know that, hey, we want

00:50:37 --> 00:50:41

to be there for you. Tell us how we can do that, for instance, or

00:50:41 --> 00:50:42

even to create,

00:50:43 --> 00:50:46

you know how they have like areas, at least in my masjid, they have

00:50:46 --> 00:50:49

like, an area where it's like mommy and me, like during tui, so

00:50:49 --> 00:50:52

the mom can bring the child. So to have, like, maybe an area where

00:50:52 --> 00:50:56

there's where, if kids are more, like vulnerable, like medically

00:50:56 --> 00:50:58

like Mariam, like, maybe to have another room for her, right, like,

00:50:58 --> 00:51:01

who she can't be around a lot of people because of her medical

00:51:01 --> 00:51:03

condition, right? To maybe have certain children who can't be

00:51:03 --> 00:51:07

around, of around, a lot of other children, like, hey, we have this

00:51:07 --> 00:51:11

designated room for Special Needs Moms too, right? Because we're

00:51:11 --> 00:51:13

not, especially those who are medically fragile, let's say,

00:51:13 --> 00:51:17

right, because of, you know, because of that reason in general.

00:51:17 --> 00:51:20

So things like that, if you like, make a really, really big

00:51:20 --> 00:51:23

difference. Or even, you know, support through meals. And this is

00:51:23 --> 00:51:26

even for, you know, single moms in general, right? Like, you know,

00:51:27 --> 00:51:28

supporting them through,

00:51:29 --> 00:51:33

through meals or through, you know, if thoughts so small, things

00:51:33 --> 00:51:37

like that. So it doesn't even have to be anything big, something

00:51:37 --> 00:51:40

Morrison did for me personally, that I'll never forget. It was the

00:51:40 --> 00:51:45

year my daughter, Mariam got the trach. Before she had the trach,

00:51:45 --> 00:51:50

she was in the hospital for a few months, and at that time, because

00:51:50 --> 00:51:54

I had lived in the hospital for so long, Ramadan was coming up, and I

00:51:54 --> 00:51:57

hadn't even thought about, you know, my house Ramadan decorations

00:51:57 --> 00:52:00

like I was literally living in the hospital. But I have an older

00:52:00 --> 00:52:03

daughter. I have an older daughter who was living at home at the time

00:52:03 --> 00:52:08

with family, and when I was coming back home one day from the

00:52:08 --> 00:52:11

hospital, and I was thinking, in Ramadan is like two days, you

00:52:11 --> 00:52:13

know, I want her to feel in Aldon, you know, I don't want her to feel

00:52:13 --> 00:52:16

like, you know, it's not a mud on just because I'm living in the

00:52:16 --> 00:52:18

hospital with medium and there's a lot of other things going on. So

00:52:18 --> 00:52:22

SubhanaHu, as soon as I got home, I had A package from my son.

00:52:24 --> 00:52:25

Sorry.

00:52:29 --> 00:52:31

The package was i

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with the creations.

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

It was a star,

00:52:53 --> 00:52:56

a star lamp and a banner

00:52:58 --> 00:53:02

that's a mobile cam or Mubarak, something like that.

00:53:03 --> 00:53:06

So subhala. As soon as I got home,

00:53:07 --> 00:53:08

I was so grateful

00:53:10 --> 00:53:13

that I was seen, that Mariam was seen. So

00:53:15 --> 00:53:18

Subhanallah, you know, a friend came and right away helped me put,

00:53:19 --> 00:53:21

you know, decorate the house with them, subhanAllah, like

00:53:23 --> 00:53:25

I will never, never forget that moment you know, never, ever

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and

00:53:28 --> 00:53:32

reminds me of the verse in Surat Ashura, Allah says, Allahu atifo

00:53:32 --> 00:53:35

and be a bad that Allah

00:53:36 --> 00:53:38

is so kind and subtle

00:53:39 --> 00:53:44

to His people, and he will give whoever He wills and to me, that

00:53:44 --> 00:53:47

was a giving right. That was me being seen by a lot through an

00:53:47 --> 00:53:48

organization like so,

00:53:50 --> 00:53:54

small things like that, you never know, can go a long way, or even,

00:53:54 --> 00:53:57

you know, moments where you know people know that, hey, I was in

00:53:57 --> 00:54:00

the hospital for a week for for you know, mariams. Mariam had a

00:54:00 --> 00:54:03

virus, so I was in the hospital for a week, and somebody says,

00:54:03 --> 00:54:06

hey, the day you get home, I'm cooking for you, you know, small

00:54:06 --> 00:54:09

things like that, you know, and you're gonna forget the meal you

00:54:09 --> 00:54:12

cooked just the next day. You know, like, this is something so

00:54:12 --> 00:54:15

simple that people can do. But for people who are, you know,

00:54:15 --> 00:54:20

struggling in the moment means so, so much. You know, Pamela. So for

00:54:20 --> 00:54:23

any of you, you know, this is my advice to you, if you know anybody

00:54:23 --> 00:54:27

who has a special needs child, just do something small for them,

00:54:28 --> 00:54:31

you know, for the family. And you know you don't know, to you, it

00:54:31 --> 00:54:34

might seem so, so minimal, but I promise you, first of all, the

00:54:34 --> 00:54:37

reward for the law is going to be even bigger than you can ever

00:54:37 --> 00:54:40

imagine. And then also, the person will never forget it. The family

00:54:40 --> 00:54:42

will never forget it. Inshallah,

00:54:45 --> 00:54:49

for sharing, may Allah subhanahu wa bless you. And we are rounding

00:54:49 --> 00:54:53

the the hour. I want to respect both of your times, but we do have

00:54:53 --> 00:54:57

one question, and I think I'll pass this to sister Mariam. And I

00:54:57 --> 00:54:59

think this is primarily comes from.

00:55:00 --> 00:55:04

An advocate, advocacy perspective, and I know mashallah, you have a

00:55:04 --> 00:55:05

black belt, so we gotta,

00:55:07 --> 00:55:11

we gotta see mashallah if, if you can advocate for this and or at

00:55:11 --> 00:55:13

least kind of give us some advice about it,

00:55:15 --> 00:55:19

is that as a as caregivers, we're constantly worried about the

00:55:19 --> 00:55:22

future of our child when we pass away, what will happen to our

00:55:22 --> 00:55:24

child with special needs? How do we calm ourselves down and

00:55:24 --> 00:55:28

increase our tawakkul? And I think you know that this, this is a

00:55:28 --> 00:55:30

really heavy question,

00:55:31 --> 00:55:35

and and I'd love to hear kind of your thoughts on this, if you

00:55:35 --> 00:55:38

don't mind, and it involves a lot of community advocacy and

00:55:38 --> 00:55:42

awareness as well. Yes, we're so blessed,

00:55:45 --> 00:55:49

Alhamdulillah, that we do have organizations now, like smile

00:55:49 --> 00:55:52

Canada, like Dean services, there are organizations that are

00:55:52 --> 00:55:55

dedicated specifically to supporting caregivers and

00:55:55 --> 00:55:59

families. So alhamdulillah, for having that support system

00:55:59 --> 00:56:00

starting to be built.

00:56:01 --> 00:56:06

That's a blessing to be able to have that resource. But on an

00:56:06 --> 00:56:10

individual level, the fear that as a caregiver you have for your

00:56:10 --> 00:56:15

child, you know Will someone else know how to support them,

00:56:15 --> 00:56:19

physically, emotionally, if you're no longer there. And first May

00:56:19 --> 00:56:21

Allah protect you for your children and protect your children

00:56:21 --> 00:56:23

for you. And second,

00:56:25 --> 00:56:28

I'm sure you've already done this, so I apologize if this is

00:56:28 --> 00:56:32

extremely basic, but having some sort of plan can be helpful for

00:56:32 --> 00:56:37

tawakkul. Of course, we may have to, we make dua, we make dua, we

00:56:37 --> 00:56:40

make dua, and we ask Allah, and we have trust that he's going to

00:56:40 --> 00:56:45

facilitate everything, but we also make a plan as best we're able to.

00:56:45 --> 00:56:48

So this is something that every parent should have, whether they

00:56:48 --> 00:56:50

have a child with disabilities or a child who's typically abled

00:56:51 --> 00:56:55

having, you know, a written will on what is going to happen with

00:56:55 --> 00:57:00

your child, God forbid if something unexpected happens with

00:57:00 --> 00:57:04

your life. So who is going to take your child? What is that going to

00:57:04 --> 00:57:09

look like for for you, and especially a child with a

00:57:09 --> 00:57:12

disability, being able to reach out to these organizations like

00:57:12 --> 00:57:14

Marcin and seeing what kind of

00:57:16 --> 00:57:21

resources are available that you can set in place to be able to

00:57:21 --> 00:57:26

help transition if theory, I I know that a lot of times we talk

00:57:26 --> 00:57:30

about to ako, like, you know I am making dua, but I feel like I'm

00:57:30 --> 00:57:33

not, I'm not hopeful enough. I'm making dua, but I feel like I

00:57:33 --> 00:57:35

don't have enough trust. And sometimes it's really because we

00:57:35 --> 00:57:38

don't feel like there's anything we've been able to do to prepare.

00:57:38 --> 00:57:41

There's a certain level of preparation that we know we can

00:57:41 --> 00:57:45

do, and we can go ahead and work towards that, but beyond that,

00:57:45 --> 00:57:49

once we've done our and we've done our preparation, it does go back

00:57:49 --> 00:57:53

to I've done everything I can, and I'm going to trust that the one

00:57:53 --> 00:57:57

who chose to gift me with this child is going to protect this

00:57:57 --> 00:58:01

child, even when I can't protect them because he's Panama. Tala is

00:58:01 --> 00:58:05

the protector, and he is the one who, out of his wisdom, because

00:58:05 --> 00:58:08

he's al Hakim, has chosen to create this child as beautifully

00:58:08 --> 00:58:12

as he has. So even if that child is an adult, as an adult child,

00:58:12 --> 00:58:16

and you're not sure how they're going to have that support, then

00:58:16 --> 00:58:19

knowing that you've, you've, you've you've done all the work

00:58:19 --> 00:58:23

necessary, you've made all of the and the Allah is truly the one

00:58:24 --> 00:58:28

who, like he put you in, put this child in your womb, that he is

00:58:28 --> 00:58:31

going to protect your child in this life. And inshallah.

00:58:31 --> 00:58:35

Inshallah, you know, it's kind of like you don't know.

00:58:36 --> 00:58:41

You don't know Allah's mercy when you're not there. You don't know

00:58:41 --> 00:58:45

how, like you are mercy, right? But you don't know how, when you

00:58:45 --> 00:58:49

are removed, how Allah will bring mercy instead. And again, may

00:58:49 --> 00:58:51

Allah protect you for your child and your children for you, so

00:58:51 --> 00:58:54

that, Inshallah, there's never a situation where you experience

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

this. But if this,

00:58:57 --> 00:59:01

this this mindset of knowing that if Allah gifted me this person,

00:59:01 --> 00:59:06

then he is the one who is, you know, who he is, the best

00:59:06 --> 00:59:10

protector. And I can know that, you know I can. I can rest knowing

00:59:10 --> 00:59:14

that he is the best who's chosen the situation for me and for my

00:59:14 --> 00:59:18

family. I also feel very unequipped to answer this question

00:59:18 --> 00:59:22

in front of an actual special needs, mother and Watson, so

00:59:22 --> 00:59:24

please forgive me for even talking. Inshallah, I hope you'd

00:59:24 --> 00:59:26

be able to answer much better than I was able to.

00:59:28 --> 00:59:35

No, no, you did great. And finally, that's a question I get a

00:59:35 --> 00:59:38

lot, and that's a question that I think of a lot, not even just in

00:59:38 --> 00:59:41

the in the long term, like, you know, in terms of, like, if I die,

00:59:41 --> 00:59:44

you know, before her or or when am I going to die, and if it's

00:59:44 --> 00:59:46

sudden, etc, right? Like, these are realities that we have to

00:59:46 --> 00:59:49

think of. But even like, if you stop for a second, if you think of

00:59:49 --> 00:59:53

even small vacations, like, I'll just give you an example. I had to

00:59:54 --> 00:59:57

take a 24 hour trip to Maryland for my Quran graduation in

00:59:57 --> 00:59:59

September, and I did what.

01:00:00 --> 01:00:02

You said, like, so to plan, right? You plan who's going to watch her.

01:00:02 --> 01:00:08

So I had a nurse who knew her care really well, confirmed she'll be

01:00:08 --> 01:00:10

there for the 24 hours. You know, we had the house set up. We had

01:00:10 --> 01:00:14

everything set up, so the planning was there, but still, my heart was

01:00:14 --> 01:00:18

not at ease. And my friend who was coming with me to the Quran

01:00:18 --> 01:00:20

graduation, I called her. I'm like, Hey, listen, I think I'm

01:00:20 --> 01:00:24

going to back out. I'm having too much anxiety about this, like she

01:00:24 --> 01:00:26

was. And then she she said something really powerful I won't

01:00:26 --> 01:00:30

forget. She said, right now, right now, you're not home, right? I

01:00:30 --> 01:00:32

said, No, I'm out. She said, Okay, right now, your your daughter's

01:00:32 --> 01:00:35

not with you. She's with that same nurse. And I'm like, yeah, so

01:00:35 --> 01:00:38

Okay, so are you controlling her heartbeat right now while talking

01:00:38 --> 01:00:43

to me? And I'm like, no, she said, Allah is controlling her

01:00:43 --> 01:00:47

heartbeat. Allah is with her, and you're a means. You are nothing

01:00:47 --> 01:00:50

but a means, and you and you are nothing but a means like that.

01:00:50 --> 01:00:53

That's what you are, and Allah is using you. And Allah can use

01:00:53 --> 01:00:56

anybody to take care of her, because he's she belongs to Him,

01:00:56 --> 01:01:00

not to you at the end of the day. And her words, of Hannah just

01:01:00 --> 01:01:04

really pierced through my heart, you know. And, and I ended up

01:01:04 --> 01:01:08

going with her other trip, and I just, I felt like this, this piece

01:01:08 --> 01:01:12

of Hannah, lot like I felt like this piece like, sometimes we just

01:01:12 --> 01:01:14

need to let go. Sometimes we're like, the mother of Musa. I feel

01:01:14 --> 01:01:17

like, you know, we can resonate with her in this moment that you

01:01:17 --> 01:01:21

know, ALLAH SubhanA is who took care of Musa is, you know, you

01:01:21 --> 01:01:25

know Allah did, right? Yes, the mother did what she could in that

01:01:25 --> 01:01:30

moment. The end of the day, it was Allah. It is always Allah. And

01:01:30 --> 01:01:33

like the sheik said, plan, you know from now, like, if you have a

01:01:33 --> 01:01:38

special needs child right now, and if you know, you want to entrust

01:01:38 --> 01:01:42

this person, you know, this child, to somebody, then have this game

01:01:42 --> 01:01:45

plan Inshallah, right? Have this game plan so important to write a

01:01:45 --> 01:01:49

will, just like you said, not just for special needs children, but

01:01:49 --> 01:01:52

all children, families in general, should have this game plan,

01:01:52 --> 01:01:56

because that helps us fall powerless to Allah, subhana more,

01:01:56 --> 01:01:59

because we're doing what we can within our capacity, right?

01:01:59 --> 01:02:02

Mastadana like as much as we're capable. And that's it. And then

01:02:02 --> 01:02:05

we release it to all release it to Allah, and that will help calm you

01:02:05 --> 01:02:07

down at the end of the day. So it's like this balance of doing

01:02:07 --> 01:02:12

what you can and then trusting Allah with it, and just like Allah

01:02:12 --> 01:02:15

is trusting you with it now, like, like you said, like Allah gave you

01:02:15 --> 01:02:18

this gift, and you're entrusted with it, and you might not be

01:02:18 --> 01:02:22

interested with it forever, you know in this child's life, right?

01:02:22 --> 01:02:26

So use that in what you can right now, and know that Allah, it's his

01:02:26 --> 01:02:30

gift to begin with, right? And He will use you know whomever he

01:02:30 --> 01:02:33

sees. You know, you know fit inshallah the best way.

01:02:35 --> 01:02:39

May Allah bless you both. May Allah bless your families, grant

01:02:39 --> 01:02:43

you all the highest level of Jannah. Build palaces for you and

01:02:43 --> 01:02:47

your family in the highest level of Jannah. Jezek, your time, may

01:02:47 --> 01:02:51

Allah bless every single person that's that, that's that's here

01:02:51 --> 01:02:54

all the audience. Please make sure to like, share this video. Say

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videos may benefit. Inshallah, we'll we'll save it. And with that

01:02:59 --> 01:03:03

being said, jazacha, may Allah accept aramavans Allow us to find

01:03:03 --> 01:03:06

ladies and Qadr and the individuals that are rewarded the

01:03:06 --> 01:03:08

highest level of Jannah. JazakAllah,

01:03:10 --> 01:03:14

Baraka, thank you, Marcin, for all you do and happy des for all you

01:03:14 --> 01:03:16

do. Barakla, he come like as

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long as.

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