Maryam Amir – Fertility and Infertility Tafsir and Discussion Ustada Hosai Mojaddidi

Are they his salaam trying to process the fact that she has a

baby girl instead of a baby boy. This is very interesting, because

she has a baby girl at a time when she's expecting to have a boy. And

the mother of Musa alaihi salam has a baby boy when she could have

had a baby girl. And if she had had a baby girl, she wouldn't have

been worried about the fact that her baby boy might be slaughtered

and the genocide against children from the from the from the Pharaoh

and yeah, Allah decreed for Musa to be a boy, and he had to be a

boy in order to make the global changes he made and the impact

that he made, not only in Benu Israel, but the whole entire

world. And in the same way, Meriam alaihi salam's mother had to have

a girl because Mariam alaihi salam's role was one in which was

so massive, so revolutionary, that only a little girl who became a

young woman who became the mother of Jesus. Peace be upon them. All

could have held that role. When we look at the ayah itself, this ayah

is her expressing surprise. She delivers and she says, falama,

will do I tell Paul, let's Rob be in me. Will lock to her. Will low,

be male, will not well, they said, the

baby. And when you listen to the translation of the first part of

the aya, she says, My Lord, I have given birth to a girl. Now, that's

her statement, and Allah fully knew what she had delivered. And

the male is not like the female. And then the next part is, I have

named her Mary, and I seek Your protection for her and her

offspring from Satan, the accursed. In Arabic, this ayah

keeps saying, wain me, wain me, what in me? What in me? Indeed, I,

indeed, I, indeed, I, indeed, I. Why a number of different scholars

of Quranic commentary explain that she was stumbling over her words

as she's talking to Allah because she was shocked that she had a

girl instead of a boy. So she is saying, My Lord, I have indeed

delivered. I've delivered a girl. Okay? So she's shocked, and Allah

knows what she has delivered. Well, they said that karuke, why

does she say the boy is not like the girl? Why? Because in her

shock, she is trying to rectify her emotional feelings to the

surprise. So Allah knows her feelings. Allah knows how she is

feeling internally. This was not part of her life plan. At this

moment, her life plan was, she was going to dedicate her baby to

betel mechdis and beitel mektis, Jerusalem, mastral Aqsa, at the

time only allowed for boys. So what is she now going to do?

So when she says this part of the verse that says the male is not

like the female, what the the scholars of tafsir are saying say

about her saying this is what she's actually saying, is the male

that I wanted is not like the girl that Allah gave me. That Allah

gave me a greater gift. Walay said that karu kelunta, Allah gave me a

greater gift than a boy by giving me a girl. And then in the next

part, she says, What in Nisa may to hamari. Why?

Because, in the Arabic again, she's waini. Waini wain me. So in

order for her to now show her pleasure with Allah's decree, she

names her baby Maryam. And in naming her Maryam, Maryam means a

servant of Allah. So just like she had previously, in the previous

Aya, dedicated, whom is in her womb, to Allah, she now has

Mariam. And in an act of expression of her appreciation for

whom Allah has gifted her, she names her a servant of Allah,

Maryam, the servants of Allah.

And then she makes a dua for Meriam. And in making that dura,

she is showing Allah that even if, in the beginning she was shocked,

and honestly, some of the words of tafsir mentions karaha, which

means dislike. And it's not because she wasn't happy that she

had a girl that she disliked her baby girl. It's not because she

wanted, she felt a boy was better than a girl. Many cultures believe

this, even until today, many, even Muslims, have this wrong notion.

But rather, what she was having that dislike feeling, was that she

just didn't know what she was going to do, like we just

mentioned, sometimes you have a plan for your life. You have an

you have a you have envisioned what your life is going to be

like, and suddenly your plan is come.

Completely shifted, and in that moment, are you like?

Alhamdulillah, my life plan. Alhamdulillah, the plan I've been

my my safety. Alhamdulillah, it's done. Alhamdulillah, it's changed.

Are you like? Ya Allah, what am I going to do? Ya Allah, what am I

going to do? So she's in her Ya Allah, what am I going to do and

to rectify that, that she sees her baby, and that's her response that

she names her Mariam, and she makes to offer her, and the fact

that she made to offer her is an affirmation that she is happy with

Allah's decree and happy with the fact that she has a girl. Why is

her reaction so interesting? Because when you look at the story

of Maryam alaihi salam, which is described just a few verses later,

and also in Surah Maryam, the way that Arisa is gifted to Mariam,

alaihi salam, when she is told that you are you are given the

glad tidings. You're given the gift that you're going to have

this baby. The Quran uses two different words, wahaba and the

the ubeshir so so that we are giving Glad Tidings to you. Sorry,

I'm having so much trouble in this moment with recalling the verse.

But the the word is Bushra, it's glad tidings. And the other one is

gift, and Maryam Alaihe salam's response is not one where she's

like Alhamdulillah, what an amazing gift. Alhamdulillah, what

amazing, glad me, great tidings. That's not her reaction. Her

reaction is like, How is this possible? And the Quran chooses to

record that. The Quran chooses to record her words, Maryam, when she

is giving birth, and she says, I wish I had died before this, the

Quran is recording woman in moments of trial, in moments of

shock, in moments of worry and fear and loss. And their reaction

is human. It is the human reaction to say, How is this possible, or

this wasn't what I was expecting, or what am I going to do? And yet,

with that reaction, they are teaching us to still maintain our

trust in Allah, because we may not be able to see the outcome, but

Allah knows what is best for our life, and that is why, when He

decrees what He decrees, when He decrees what He decrees, that we

say in the canteen that you are the one who is the All Hearing,

you are the one who is all knowing. I don't know my future. I

don't know what is best for my plan. I don't know what is best

for my life, or am I hereafter. But I know that you are the All

Hearing, I know that you are the all seeing, you are the All

Knowing and that Allah, You have heard the voices of the woman who

called out to you in fear and in trial and in and in pain. You

recorded their voices in those moments. We have the same hauda

Radi Allahu anha in the opening of Surah mujadila, where she mentions

the same she Allah spent on Tyler describes himself with what words

that he is, Samir, Basir, that he is all hearing, and he is the all,

the one who sees all because even if someone, even if someone sees

you at all times, they might Not necessarily, excuse me, hears you

at all times they might not have been there to witness what you

needed them to witness. And are they going to believe you if they

didn't see it?

Allah sees, he knows, he hears, and he affirms

that as the greatest woman went through their trials, and yet they

still maintained their faith, that we as men and women can go through

our trials and we can maintain our faith, and that Allah never leaves

us to our own selves, even for the blink of an eye. And that's one of

the beautiful duas that we can make in the morning and the

evening. Yeah, Hey, you. Yeah, by you. Oh, ever living Oh sustainer

buchareef that I seek from with I seek refuge in Your mercy. Do not

leave me for even one second, for even the blink of an eye. Never

leave me even for the blink of an eye. And making the DUA in

remembrance of the people who went through the same hardships that we

are going through and even worse and even harder, and yet, they

knew that Allah was always with them. So always remember that

you're not alone. And also that being said, I know this is a

little bit different, a bit of a different shift, but brother,

Munib, I saw mention many moments ago that he mashallah Tabata kala

after three years of being, of having his best friend, caregiver,

Tabata Kala is now engaged, and I'm so happy for you because

brother, Munib, I remember you mentioning in the past that this

is your community that celebrate mercy. Is your community because

of disability and inability to go to the community physically. And

Alhamdulillah, I'm so happy to hear that news. May all.

Bless you, may Allah reward you and protect you and bless your

marriage and inshallah always bless your, bless your, bless

your, your Inshallah, upcoming union inshallah. That was such a

beautiful news to hear after, after thinking about you, thinking

about the way you, you describe that, that dua that you may have

been making in different ways to see that that cycle is a gift for

me. Thank you so much for sharing that may Allah span on Tala always

answer all of the dua of every single one of us and everyone in

Laza and Sudan and every part of this.

I mean, Jose kare, thank you that was that was so beautiful. We will

bring back stata hosai as well for any, any additional commentary on

that specific passage that you mentioned

of her receiving the news of having a girl and her response to

that, and anything you'd like to add to that, also the husaila,

remind the audience. If you have any specific questions, please

share them in the chat. Inshallah

Abdullah, I'm sure I speak on behalf of everyone. We could just

keep listening to you. Sheik Ramayan, you're just such a

passionate speaker. Masha Allah, and I so appreciate that you you

know the reminder that, even though these are, you know, Mariam

Alam, as we know is one of the four perfect women, complete

women, and to humanize her, so that we ourselves remind ourselves

that we're going to have those moments of doubt and frailty and

uncertainty, and especially because dunya is designed

literally to do that to us. But we have to know what are the right

responses, you know? And that's what subring Jimmy it is, which is

what they're exemplifying for us, that yes, in their humanness, they

are reacting in those human ways. But then they also realize, which

is, again, what we have been highlighting this entire evening

that we all go back to Allah. We came from Allah. We all go back to

Allah. So the best way to respond to any news that is shocking,

destabilizing, you know, just that that's terrifying, is to go back

to your Creator and know that he is the only one who can change

your circumstance. He's the only one who can make right whatever

you deem to be. You know that you're you're having an issue with

whatever the outcome you seek. Seek it through Allah, Subhanahu

wa Ta and that's why that pairing that Sheikha marim was talking

about is so important that we can be human. But to remember, to

immediately turn to Allah to ask ALLAH SubhanA for guidance and for

answers and for hope and all of those beautiful things that we see

from him. So Josiah really enjoyed your your mashallah session. I

mean your commentary, as I always do so

Mubarak too. Brother. Was it Munir or Munir?

Mubarak as well. Thank you again for pointing that I missed that

comment. But alhamdulillah, we're always very happy to hear of any

blessed union. So Mubarak from myself as well. Alhamdulillah, we

see a sister Tia, who said, I'm a barren woman, but Inshallah, only

Allah knows best. It's very hard and frustrating at times. So this

reflection is hitting me very deeply.

Can I respond to Tia? Tia, may Allah bless you so much in every

single way. And I just want you to know that the one thank you for

sharing that, because I am positive there are other women who

have experienced the same type of pain and and this, like this hole

in your heart, kind of experience where only Allah knows how he can

fill it. And, and they don't, they don't say it because there,

there's almost a sometimes that, or it can be a taboo, and

expressing it, or not knowing how anyone's going to experience or or

process it. So one, thank you for every single woman and man who has

wanted to have their own child and they haven't been able to, for any

reason, their bio a biological child. Thank you for expressing

that. And I think all of us understand the pain on different

levels of that type of of of the struggles of infertility and all

things associated with it. All of us know different realities

related to that. I think many people in the chat have that

experience too, and I just want all of us to remember that Allah

has placed examples of women on every single circumstance, whether

it was Aisha Radi Allahu anha who was unable to have biological

children, or it was mothers who lost their children in in their in

different stages of pregnancy, including stillbirths, or women

who have lost their children soon after having them, or at some

point in their lives. The reality of this cycle is one that all of

us are deeply connected with.

So Tia, thank you so much for mentioning it. I'm so sorry for

any pain that you are going through, and I'm sitting with my

sisters who or and my brothers who feel this type of pain and this

loss, and know that Allah sees you, and I know that you know that

may Allah bless you in every single way and and open the best

doors to answer the DUA that you are making with so much more than

you can imagine. Allah from the AMI,

I mean, I mean I shall Abu.