Maryam Amir – Feeling Salah

Maryam Amir
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The speakers stress the importance of finding an emotional connection during busy situations, finding lost and finding it again, and being aware of words in actions to avoid confusion. They also emphasize the importance of physical touch and affirmations, avoiding distraction, and using physical presence as reference. The success of praying and affirmations is also discussed, along with advice on how to handle stress during busy days and recapping the story of a woman namediali.
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There's a verse in the Quran where Allah says, in Allah, you will

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send him over leavers. And then this is a description of Allah

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sending Salawat, sending salaam on the Prophet, peace be upon him,

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and the angels sending salaam to the Prophet, peace be upon him,

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and encouraging that the believers send Salam on the Prophet,

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sallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, Allah, Muhammad. But when this

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verse was revealed, the companion in Medina, those from Mead,

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muhajiri and the amsar from Medina, their response was that

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the Prophet Loy said of God a verse for him. Why don't we have a

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verse for us?

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In the tafsir of Ari, he mentions that the companions were asking,

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What about a verse for us? And so then Allah said a different verse

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for the companion. And this verse is, yeah, from book. This is the

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verse right before it. This verse, who Allah alaika To who Leo

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wejaminal, what can I Binna Rahima? Then Allah sent this

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verse, that this verse is for the believers, and the verse is, he is

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the one that sends his Salam, his Salawat, upon you, upon you, and

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the angels to take you out of the darknesses to the light. So Allah

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sent a verse just to be a comfort for all of us that he sends Salam

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upon us. What does this Salam mean? It's commentators of Quran

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mentioned, it's his mercy upon us, it's his blessings upon us. It's

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his protection for us, it's rewards for us, it's forgiveness

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for us. And this is all from Allah. But he also commanded the

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angels, the angels to send Salam upon us. What does it mean when

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the Angels send Salam upon the believers? There are a number of

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places in the Quran where Allah talks about the presence of angels

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and the actions of angels and what the angels do for believers.

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Angels can't do anything except for what Allah orders them to do,

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which means that there are angels that Allah has literally ordered

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to do nothing but pray for us to say Amin to our dua. Imam Al

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dahlow mentioned that if one angel, only one, were to say Amin

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for the dua of the believers, just one angel, it would be enough for

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the entire Ummah, literally everyone on Earth. But it's not

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just one angel. He has ordered legions upon legions of angels to

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make dua for us. What are the types of dua that they make? Yes,

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they keep asking forgiveness for us. Right after

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that, Allah talks about the angels making dua that we will be

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protected from hellfire, that we will be entered into paradise, not

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just us, but the people that we love with us. It's so lonely to

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think about Jannah by yourself. Jannah is amazing. Jannah, you

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want to be with the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. You

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want to be there with the people that are so incredible from our

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history. But don't you also want to be there with the people that

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you love, and the angels make dua for that the Allah would enter us

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into paradise with the people that we love, subhanho wa taala. So

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when we're looking at the angels having this role in our lives,

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that they come for this protection and this dua and making dua for

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our forgiveness and Allah ordering them to be able to do this for us.

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What? What brings these two things together? The ayah before it,

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this verse, talks about Allah, Salawat,

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and it talks about the angel saying, salam, Salawa upon us. But

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what is the verse before that? The one that we started with? Yeah,

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you Hala, Dina. And that was cool, Allah. So they run Kira, we can

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generally translate praise Allah. Remember, Allah, what time? I'll

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see that. So, you know, say subhanallah, Allahu, Akbar in the

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morning, in the evening. But the commentators of tafsir say this is

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about salah, that you actually pray, that you do your Salah,

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including after fajr and after Asr, excuse me, Fajr time and Asr

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time, that you do the actual Salah. So now we have in the Quran

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this verse that was revealed of Allah upon the best of the

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prophets, upon the best of humanity, the companion saying,

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What about us? We want a verse, a verse coming down for the

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Companions, giving also that glad tidings of salat and salam and

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connected to Salah,

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but for all of us when we're.

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I'm trying to navigate the law. Sometimes it's not necessarily

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easy for us to feel a emotional connection, an emotional

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connection. It's Ramadan. It's already a few days in. How many of

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you have had a moment where you sat back, even though it's just

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been a few days and thought I haven't even achieved one of the

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goals I was planning to this Ramadan, that's 100% theme. Are

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you already just a few days in and thinking I am nowhere, absolutely

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nowhere, and there's no way I'm going to make the bowls I was

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planning because I'm already five days behind, like there's that's

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that that's going to happen. So we already sometimes feel this

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immense form of loss and guilt, and the month has barely even

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started now going into a slot, it's not that easy for us to focus

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on this moment of repentance, of shukur, of gratitude, when your

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child is trying to climb on your back, when you smell that you're

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burning something as you're cooking, when you know you have a

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meeting and you're rushing between jobs, between meetings at your

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work, trying to just get something in when you know that you have all

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these notifications popping up on Your phone, and you wonder what

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it's about when someone just said something about you somewhere

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else, and you're thinking, why did that have to happen? All of those

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thoughts filter through our experiences, and that's not even

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talking about going through trauma or mental health issues or

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struggling in a relationship that you're in the moment. None of

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those things are even addressed when you're simply trying to go

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into Salah and say, Allahu, Akbar. And this is why it's important for

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us to differentiate that when we enter salah, when we're going into

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prayer, there is a difference between Allah bringing the

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blessings of the action, separate from how I feel emotionally about

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the action. Ramadan is a month of blessing. Anyway. If Somaya so

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kindly gave me a bar of chocolate, why didn't you do that today? So

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Maya worst friend. So if she gave me a bar of chocolate, she's such

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a sweet person. Love her. She gave it to me today. She makes me happy

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and shell she gets the reward of that. It's a charity from her.

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Inshallah, it's a gift from her. All those good things, right? If

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she did that exact same action last week. Would she get less

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reward? Yes, because the Ramadan is a different type of blessing.

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She still gets reward, but Ramadan increases the blessings because

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it's Ramadan, same action you change your baby's diaper before

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Ramadan. Not any mad high probably, unless you've been

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struggling with infertility, then being able to change a baby's

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diaper is a moment of awe and joy, because you never thought you'd

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get that opportunity. But now, all of a sudden, in Ramadan, that same

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action, you're doing that same action, and the blessing is

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manifold. It's not your your focus on diaper changing was different.

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It's that the monk itself brought in the blessing. So now think of

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Salah when we're talking about the angels, the angels Biden and will

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say it mentioned that when you pray, there's an angel that comes

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on your right, there's an angel that comes to your left, and

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there's a legion of angels that stand behind you, as big as

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mountains. That is not because you're focused more in Salah. It's

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not because you're weeping and emotional in Salah. It's because

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you are praying. It's the action of prayer itself. So when we're

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navigating how we feel about salah and trying to bring focus, I'm

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sure all of us, all of us honestly, probably want to come to

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prayer and feel like a presence. We want to be able to come to

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prayer and feel like internally. It has changed us. It has moved

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us. We feel grounded, we feel peace. Of course, we want that,

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but think about the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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said that Sophia Radi Allahu Akbar, she saw a group of

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companions making sajda after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam

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passed away while they were reciting a verse of sajda. So

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there are certain places in the Quran where it's recommended it's

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a sudden, that's not required to make sajda in this part. So they

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made sajda, and she said, this is the sajda, but where are the tears

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you're making sajda about a verse that talks about going into sajda

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and you're crying and you're not crying. These are the companions

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seeing companions with Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa after he

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recited a verse that had the sajda, he made sajja, and he said,

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here's the session, but where's the tears? Where is where's the

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crying?

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When he was the Khalifa, a group of people came from Yemen, and

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they came and they saw, they visited with him, and they heard

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the Quran, and they started to weep. And he said, This is how we

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used to be. We used to cry like this. We used to cry like this.

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This is Abu Bakr, really, a long one.

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So obviously, if the people who lived with the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wasallam, if they were raised by the prophet,

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emotionally, spiritually, in all these ways of the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wasallam, are not meeting 24/7 is it okay that

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we, centuries later in America, trying so hard to hold on to our

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religion in the midst of everything else?

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Don't always have an intense emotional connection. Absolutely,

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salah, in and of itself, is blessed simply because we are

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doing the action of Salah. But now, how do we build that

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emotional connection? This is where we need to just take a

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moment to step back and ask ourselves, how do we see prayer?

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Because a lot of times, for all of us, myself, 100% included out of

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mixtape, all of us, perhaps most of us. Sola is something we're

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trying our best to do. Maybe sometimes we are not where we want

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to be with it, but we're trying. We want to be trying, but it

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doesn't necessarily mean

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that it is something that we are excited to do. 24/7,

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probably when we wake up for selectful Pleasure, for example,

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is the first today.

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Maybe, maybe please come give the class, if that's you.

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But realistically, a lot of us are like, I need to pray. I need to

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make wudu while maybe your children are already awake for the

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day, or you're just trying to pray and make everything you need to do

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before that happens, before you get ready for work. It's not this

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moment of transformation every single morning I wake up, but it

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should be, of course it should be, but we're human, and Allah didn't

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ask us to make every single Salah a revolution. He asked us to be

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consistent with our salah. And when we look at this concept of

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emotional connection, we need to take a moment to just recognize

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that Allah did not require feelings from us. When my mom and

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I went for hedge hamdules, my mom, may Allah, bless her and bless all

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of you, there was a woman in our group who was very, very

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talkative. Do you remember she sat right across from us. Super

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mashallah, very talkative, very energetic, very excited to meet

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every single person in our tent. There was like 400 people in our

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tent, and then after a fuck, she I saw her the next day, very, very

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down. She was just sitting, staring in one spot. She looked

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very sad, and so I kind of went to her. I said, Sister, are you okay?

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Because I already,

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well, not the morning before Arafa. We went to Arafa. She was

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so, so excited. Allah put away for Arafat, and she was just so down.

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They said, are you okay? And she said, I didn't cry a single time

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in Arafat. I didn't cry a single time in Arafat. So I don't know is

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my head actually accepted? Now I want to walk you backwards to what

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happened in arapa the day before. There were a few people on the

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mic, group leaders. People were trying to encourage DUA and

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encourage salah, and encourage focusing on Allah and on the

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microphone consistently, consistently. If you are not

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crying today in Arafa, how can you call yourself a believer if your

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heart is not soft in alpha, how would you expect it to be soft any

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other day of you, you are in alpha. You're not at home, you're

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in alpha. Okay. What do you think happened to those who could not

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weep the next day? Not everyone weeps when yelled at. Sometimes we

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need an emotional connection. So when we see someone like this,

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beloved sister, I share them. So the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasalam says crying in Hajj is not is not

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crying in Arafa is not hedge just going to Arafat is Hajj.

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Unfortunately, many times and maybe you've heard it. Raise your

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hand if you've heard messages like that, like the real believer cries

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all the time in salah or in Quran, in taraweya. If you are not

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weeping, then what is your heart? What Where did Allah require us to

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weep? For him to accept our deeds? The the Prophet taught us in a

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hadith, would see that Allah tells us that the way that we come close

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to him, is to action. It is through action and then the

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obligatory action, and then the extra. Now, why? For me, this is

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so powerful. If you look in the Surah, a story of Surah Meriam,

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when she is giving birth, she says a statement, yeah, late any Mitsu

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Abu dahabancia. She wished that she had died before this and that

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something completely forgotten. What is so interesting to me, in

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addition to everything else in this verse, so obviously, she's

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saying something very emotional. She's physically in pain. She's

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thinking about what people are going to say about her when she

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brings the baby. She's going through a lot. What does Allah

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say? One he acknowledges how she's feeling. La tefeni, he doesn't

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say, Why do you feel this way? He doesn't condemn her feeling. He

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comforts her. He comforts her. And then he tells her to do something,

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shake the date palm tree. Shake the tree. She's literally giving

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birth. Any of you who've been giving birth not a time to shake a

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treat, in addition to the fact that any of us, any of us who take

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a date from three dates, are not going to rain upon us. But in this

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moment of giving birth, her thoughts are cyclical. They're

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emotional. She has so much, excuse me. You know, I don't speak about

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many has to love, but the verse, the way the verses are talking

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about it's a very.

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Emotional moment, and so Allah points her to something that

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today, Cognitive Behavior therapists tell us to do that when

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someone is going through something very emotional, you can't change

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someone's emotions. You can't change your own emotions. Your

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feelings are your feelings. What you can impact are your actions.

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When you change your actions, you impact your thoughts. When you

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impact your thoughts, you start changing your feelings. So you

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work on the action. Focus on the action that will change the

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thoughts that will impact the feeling. And so what does Allah

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tell her to do the action? It breaks the cycle of thought. Focus

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on the action. And then what prepare yourself to go out after

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resting. Take some time. Take a moment you go out and call to

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nada. It is your responsibility. He didn't give us Panama to Allah,

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to Angel Jibreel. He didn't give it to Prophet zakiriya. He gave it

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to Maryam. Are they hesed? So when she goes out with the baby, this

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is after she's gone through something very emotional. And for

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us, when we're thinking about salah, Salah is going to be in the

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middle of emotional things. It's going to be in the middle of

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yelling at your kids and being so frustrated. It's going to be in

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the middle of having a disagreement with your your spouse

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or a parent or someone you love. It's going to be in the middle of

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maybe hearing really difficult news from your job, if that's the

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reality of life. So how do we then, instead of obsessing over

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the fact that I don't feel an emotional connection with my

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prayer, how can I focus on the action I need to do for prayer,

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and when I do that action, how is that going to ground me? A woman

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who I spoke to, she's in her 60s now, she said she's been praying

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consistently for 40 years. She has not missed a single Salah for 40

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years. She said in 40 years, maybe two times she felt the sweetness

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of Salah, and she had a little bit of tears, but the rest of the time

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she just felt like Salah is what grounds her, because it's what

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Allah has asked her to do. It helps her remind herself of her

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day on how to keep going, but she didn't, you know, melt into a

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puddle of tears out of awe of Allah's piglets, out of which, of

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course, we all want no doubt. But the point is, if you felt that

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every time you prayed, would you actually be worshiping Allah, or

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would you be worshiping an emotion that you want to have over and

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over, that hormonal reaction, that chemical reaction to the feeling

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of the sweetness, if you felt that sweetness, and you've ever wept

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out of sweetness, what, maybe you've seen the Kaaba, or maybe

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you've seen the Kaba and you haven't cried, and that's also

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okay, because not requirement to cry when you see the Kaba, but if

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you've ever felt that emotional sweetness, nod your head. If you'd

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like to feel it again, that emotional sweetness, yeah, we

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probably would like to feel that over and over, but realistically,

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because that's not life, the point is we still do the action that is

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a really committed believer. You are a very committed believer.

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When Salah to you is not something that makes you feel like you're in

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euphoria, but you still do it anyway that is committed belief.

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However, building that relationship is a relationship.

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It's not just an action. When we talk about salah, instead of

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talking about it as something we want to, you know, do as an

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action, we need to do. What if we were to look at it like a

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relationship? We need to build. I remember when I first met Bayan,

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didn't really know her that well, she seemed cool, but I really

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don't. But now, now that I've spent time with her and sayida and

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other sisters here, now I want to be with them, because I've started

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to get to know them. I don't really feel awkward around them.

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There's definitely some people that feel awkward in this room.

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I'm just kidding. There is this point if you build a relationship

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with someone, and the more that you build your relationship, you

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get to see them for who they are, so much more so than that first

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impression sometimes. So what I'd like to ask, Does anyone in this

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room speak more than one language? Okay, raise your hand really high

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if you think you speak a language. Probably most people don't speak

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in this room.

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Okay, what is it?

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Or do other people speak? Or do yes, yeah, okay, yes, Turkish.

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Does anyone else speak? Turkish?

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No, Turkish, no, okay. Can you be our volunteer? Yeah, all right,

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come on up let

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All right, so we have sister right here. Please introduce yourself.

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Say that is going to tell us anything she wants in her gift,

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absolutely anything. Say that for like 30 seconds this I left.

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Okay,

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I have absolutely no

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did anyone have any clues? No, yes, you do. Yeah, I live in

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Turkey so, oh, okay, so you had context clues because you lived in

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Turkey before. Okay, so what did you tell us? I told him I

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lost her. I love you. You.

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Speak

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Turkish to that is when you can speak a language with your parent

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that no one else understands. You can literally be up here giving a

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speech and still telling your daughter you should have done

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this. Okay, watch out a lot. All right, so say that, and I imagine

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if we meet one day and we are let's just say we meet at the

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masjid, and you only speak Turkish and I only speak English, and

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let's try to have a conversation. We can't really, but she's sweet.

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I can feel she's sweet. Hopefully she thinks I'm sweet. Good, cool.

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Okay, now if we try to tell each other about all the things

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happening in our lives. Do you think it would work the same way

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as speaking to someone in the same language? Probably not. You might

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feel like if she saw me cry and she hugged me, I would think, Oh,

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this very sweet sister who spoke Turkish came and she comforted me.

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I didn't understand what she said, but it made me feel so much

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better, right? But now watch what if Saida and I, yada, make this

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happen. Yada, Alabama, Emmy let's roll on. Aloha. Bless us all and

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all of our families. Emmys, what if said and I had met in the

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masjid, and then the next year, we suddenly were in Medina, just

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walking in mashinaba.

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Sudden, I look over, and she looks over, what are we going to do?

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Yes, we're gonna come, we're gonna hug, we're gonna scream, make it

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more. We're gonna be so excited to see each other, and now we say

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goodbye. What do you think if I forget? Almost fine. Oh, one more

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time. It's

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like,

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okay.

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Allah, Allah,

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okay, see already, it's happening that I want to know afraid.

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Doesn't it happen with you when you get to meet someone? Okay? So

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you say, Allah, Allah, alright. Now we said goodbye, but now all

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of a sudden, this was Ramadan the next year. All of a sudden, we are

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in hajj, and I'm in Hajj and she's in hajj, and we see each other

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again. Do you think that the shock of that is going to be even more,

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the emotion is going to be even more? Yes, okay, subhanAllah, we

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met. This is incredible. Now, all of a sudden, we all saw the next

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here, Allah,

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we've seen, do you think the emotion of that is going to be

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increased? Yes, by this time, perhaps I've even tried to learn

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some Turkish, because honestly, Allah has put this person in my

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life. Maybe she loves to learn some English. So when we meet, we

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can actually have a brief conversation. We can actually

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converse a little bit and connect. Okay, now finally, what I want you

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to think about is maybe we've lost touch for like, 10 years, and in

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that time, I've moved to Turkey, or she's moved to the United

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States, I now have a much more greater grasp on Turkish, and she

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has a greater grasp on English. We need. Do you think our

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conversation is going to be, how is the weather?

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Do you think it's gonna be elevator music?

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Do you think it's gonna be so

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great to see you? We're probably even if we've never even talked

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mindless those four times of meeting, just gonna say, remember

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that time and how was your hedge, even if it's broken in our

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languages, right? Because we have what, tell me what it was. That's

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exactly it. We had an emotional connection, an intense emotional

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connection, may Allah bless you. Say that we'll protect your

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family. Bless all the people in Turkey. Bless all the people

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everywhere, all the all the women, the vulnerable, suffering every so

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now, if we have an emotional connection with salah, even if

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it's one time? Do you see how we can go back to Salah in that

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moment of vulnerability? Because we know that the one who heard us

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the first time is always there. Building that emotional connection

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is like a relationship. Right now, there is a very well. It's not

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just right now, it's been very popular. It's five love languages,

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The Five Love Languages of building a relationship. And so

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today, Inshallah, let's talk about salah as a relationship with the

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five love languages that we want to build. What's the relationship

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with salah? Does anyone know what the love languages are? Tell me

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what one is, acts

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of service. That's another times.

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Words of affirmation, words of affirmation in quality time,

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physical touch. Yes. Thank you to all the women.

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What we know is that all the men are practicing it, all of them, so

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we need to be louder. Masha Allah. Masha Allah. So when we talk about

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words of affirmation, when we're going into Salah words of

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affirmation, not only is the entire Salah words of affirming

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who Allah is to us and us asking him, the Fatiha itself is a

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conversation with Allah, and we know that the Fatiha.

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As a conversation with Allah. And maybe you know that Allah responds

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to you every single time you talk to him, that when you say,

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Alhamdulillah, my servant has praised me. Oh Rahman Al Rahim, my

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servant has exalted me. Maliki, oh MIDI, that Allah we recognize that

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he is the king Iain, buay Akin Astari, then we're asking for him,

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and Allah will grant us what we've asked this, this entire the entire

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soul Salah Surat is led to dua that we're praising him, we're,

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we're, we're exalting him, and then we're asking of him, and he

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promises to give us what we ask for. This entire words of

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affirmation when we come into salah the entire time is a

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conversation we're having with Allah. So first recognizing what

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the words mean. If I don't know what sort of Fatiha means, I can

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read a translation, so that before I go into salah, I read the

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translation. I know what the general idea of the surah is, so

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that I know that it's not just me saying words, it's my Lord

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speaking back directly to me and you and you and you and you and

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you and you and you and every single one of us in chattah we I

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remember one time Subhanallah, I saw someone making dua, I had this

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thought for half a second. I was like, I really need to make dua,

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but let me just wait until they're done, so that Allah will have time

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for me. And I was like, Wait a second, that's blacksmith

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literally blossomed a thought, Allah can hear all of us at the

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exact same time with the exact same amount of of intensity when

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we call, when we think about sort of Fatiha is like a dua that we're

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asking of him, Subhan, when we think of Da as pan Allah, Pan

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Allah, the amount of individuals I've heard incredible stories of

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dua, and maybe yourselves have experienced them or know them. And

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I want to hear a few of them from you. I'm going to give you a few

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examples. When we went to Mecca one time, we were with my

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grandmother. And, you know, may Allah, you know, protect all our

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all our grandparents. She's, she's elderly. And my dad just said out

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loud, like, right out of after we got out of the taxi, remember,

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right after we got out of the taxi, he said, I wish we had a

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wheelchair, because it would be easier for her. Literally, like he

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didn't finish that sentence. But this, this young man ran with a

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wheelchair. Ram ran, dropped off a wheelchair, and it ran away.

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Literally. He didn't say his name, he didn't say how much it is, he

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didn't think you need a wheelchair. He just brought a

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wheelchair. And I know that many of you have had those types of

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experiences, or heard those types of experiences in holy places one

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time, SubhanAllah. I want to share with you that there's a sister who

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told me she went to Mecca for the first time, and her mother had

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just converted to Islam SubhanAllah. She comes from a

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family where she's one of the only Muslims, and after years and years

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and years of making for someone to for Allah santola to guide her

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family, her mother accepted Islam Hamidah, and she heard Sheik

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Mohammed a Sharif May Allah mercy on him and enter him into the

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highest paradise and be with his family. Yoda, I don't know how

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many of you had heard that he shared a very vulnerable moment

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when he was in Mecca. He had a live stream many years ago where

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he shared how he was he was navigating trauma when it came to

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being a HEG leader in Mecca. And so one of the things he mentioned

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was, when he came back for Amra, he needed a plastic bag, and he

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didn't have a plastic bag, and he was making dua to Allah, just

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making dua. And as he's making dua, one of the things that

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someone came up to him just ran up and gave him a plastic bag, and he

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passed Hana la like, you know, it's like a sign of Allah

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listening to something as minor as a plastic bag. But you know that

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Allah sees you. He knows the big you need, but also the really

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small. He knows the huge in your life, but also the very minor. And

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knowing that someone cares about you so intensely that something as

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small as a plastic bag makes a difference in your life, for

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someone to care about you to that extent that yes, he will answer,

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even for the minor, even for the wishes of your heart that you

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don't even pray for you just think that you would like to have this

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that Allah answers you. And so this sister told me to as salad in

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the memory of she hasn't come in a Sharif. She brought a bag with

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her, and she was looking everywhere in Mecca to see who

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might need a bag while they're making pawah. And so finally, she

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found someone who didn't have a bag. They were just holding their

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own shoes, and they were holding all these other things. And she

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went and asked if they need a bag, of course, to because they

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language. So she gave the bag and the the look of joy and gratitude

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from this person and SubhanAllah. Just think how Allah answers the

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needs, just like the need of the heart of Shaykh Muhammad Rahman,

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we all enter him into the highest part.

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And just that, just that one act of acceptance of an of a wish of

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his heart, led to someone else doing an action that was

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beneficial to this sister. And who knows if this sister, maybe in the

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future, will say someone did that for me and so on. I'm going to do

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that, that same action for this person. There are so many stories

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of incredible stories, that when you hear them, you think there's

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no way this was answered, except that it was from the Almighty. And

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I want you to raise your hand if you have a story you'd like to

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share.

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I'm going to share one more while I'm waiting for hands to be

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raised, because we'd love to hear your dog stories. They're so

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inspirational, exciting to hear. But kanula Last year, when we were

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starting to publish Claudia, it's a woman for Anne decider app. You

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can download it for free on Google Play and at the stores. This young

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woman, she her name is Maria. She saw me at MCA. So at MCA, I just

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happened to go because I was attending a talk, and I just sat

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and I suddenly had a coughing attack. I wasn't sick. I don't

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know why. I suddenly coughed like crazy. And I left the banquet hall

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so that I wouldn't interrupt the session out of nowhere. Just

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copied like, okay, just know that. So I leave. As I leave the hall,

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this sister sees me, and she's like, I can't believe you're here.

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And I was like, oh yes. And she was like, my my niece, my niece.

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She just has always wanted to meet you. And I'm like, Oh, I would. I

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would be so honored to meet her. So she calls her niece. I didn't

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know she meant, like, right then she calls her niece. She comes

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from Milpitas, MCA, immediately, they all will bless this family. I

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was so surprised. And when I met her, do you know what she told me?

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She said just the other day, she had written in her notebook that

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the person that she wants to meet, she mentioned my name. I don't

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know why she want to meet me, but she mentioned my name that she

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wants to meet me. And then she's like, I can't believe that I'm

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right here. And I just made this job, and I was praying to meet

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you, and it was in my notebook, and you're right here. And I

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thought, subhanAllah, I was not planning to come to this event. It

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was very last minute thing that everything worked out for me to be

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able to go. And the only reason I'm standing in front of you is

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because I had a crazy covenant attack out of nowhere, and now

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Subhanallah had the blessing and the opportunity to meet her. And

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again, like, don't know why she wants to meet me, but I was very

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humbled that I felt like a lot gets the answer, just the huge

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which we all need, but something as minor is like, I just want to

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meet someone and Allah facilitating, like bringing things

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from the heavens and the earth to come together, just to answer the

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need of one person. You know, when it comes to sometimes, we don't

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necessarily always see that. We wonder why there might be a job

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you've been making for 10 years and you haven't seen the answer,

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and you wonder, should you still keep making it like whether or not

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it's even worth something you should keep doing? And you wonder

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about that. And that's very real. That's real we all go through

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that. There are jobs I've been making for 10 years, and until

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after 10 years, Allah answered it, and others I've been making for

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more, and they're still not answer them. They pray they will be. But

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that's a very real, vulnerable process to go into Salah and to

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know that the one you're speaking to is the one who answers the

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small. He's the one who answers the big, but sometimes he

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withholds, and he withholds because he knows it's for your

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protection. Does anyone else have a story that they would like to

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share with us. Yes, same story that you just mentioned happened

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10 minutes ago. Asmaa, so my husband and I, we filled up the

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truck with the yard waste from the masjid we are taking to our

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property on the mountain to jump in. Okay. Nice to you, Allah, I

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wanted to have Mariam stock in person. I attended the race. Oh,

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and I said, You Allah, I wanted to attend. And she's here. I'm

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leaving. And guess what? We found out that highway 17 is blocked. So

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here I when Allah has to block a freeway for all people,

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everyone's scheduled need to be changed for you said, I'm so

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honored that you wanted to come the mail to open the path for

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everybody. But what an honor to

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have over here.

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Strategies to meet you. It's funny to meet you. Auntie. Okay, so

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Padala, does anyone else have a crazy story like that? If you

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don't want to speak, it's a really small

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you think It's nothing much. So I was back home in my country bucks.

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Now, last year, it was really rainy, cloudy, and I talked to

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myself, and this is like that perfect baton shy moment, and I

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wish I could have this giant. I'm thinking, you know, why am I going

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to get this? So walk into the first shop, and it's a jewelry

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store, and the guy asked me, goes, would you like some giant? And my

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sister's like, no, no, no. My sister goes.

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Should have asked for something. I

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just said, No, Allah, bless you and answer that.

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To add the small and the big for you and all of us here up all the

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time, that's such a moment of like, Allah's listening, you know,

00:35:06 --> 00:35:09

like, I just feel like sometimes he gives us the small to come for

00:35:09 --> 00:35:12

us that we're not always going to get the big, but he's listening to

00:35:12 --> 00:35:15

even the small SubhanAllah. That is so comforting. I always, I

00:35:15 --> 00:35:18

always say, like, when, when I make dogs like that, I used to

00:35:18 --> 00:35:19

just be like, Oh, I wish I could have some, like, ice cream or

00:35:19 --> 00:35:22

something, right? I'm like, wow, we should have some ice cream. And

00:35:22 --> 00:35:25

also, 7 million and also $7 million and all these things you

00:35:25 --> 00:35:28

never know, and all those hotels gonna answer that specifically,

00:35:28 --> 00:35:32

any other dog. Sorry, yeah. So I prayed the hedge one time, and I

00:35:32 --> 00:35:35

was just like, God, just throw any job at me.

00:35:37 --> 00:35:40

Couple hours later that day, I got a call from a recruiter, you know,

00:35:40 --> 00:35:43

we're having this job, and then, and they just offered it without

00:35:43 --> 00:35:44

interviews, just,

00:35:47 --> 00:35:48

you know, started, wow,

00:35:57 --> 00:35:57

there's a kid on

00:35:58 --> 00:36:02

this. Yeah, she used to be very important. That's beautiful. This.

00:36:02 --> 00:36:07

Also interesting about your job? You didn't say, oh, Allah, let me

00:36:07 --> 00:36:10

get a job without an interview. You just had a job. But he

00:36:10 --> 00:36:14

facilitated even that aspect of this town. It's so generous. Thank

00:36:14 --> 00:36:17

you. That was beautiful. Thank you. Anyone else? Yes. So when

00:36:19 --> 00:36:23

we were driving the middle of nowhere in Canada, and we're going

00:36:23 --> 00:36:27

to a camp, and I had just given birth of a few weeks back, and I

00:36:27 --> 00:36:30

was really thirsty. It was middle of summer, and I was just craving

00:36:30 --> 00:36:33

this. You know, the all 100% all food bar the strawberry,

00:36:33 --> 00:36:37

strawberry one. And now we know middle of nowhere on a mountain,

00:36:37 --> 00:36:41

and there were no stores, and my husband came into like we just

00:36:41 --> 00:36:43

happened to pass by one storyboarding. Your shirt was

00:36:43 --> 00:36:46

open, and he goes in. He's like, Okay, I'll try to see something

00:36:46 --> 00:36:47

along the lines

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

of what you want. He comes back, and

00:36:56 --> 00:36:57

he's like, You shouldn't be back. 100%

00:36:58 --> 00:37:00

strawberry, exactly what your husband said. Like, make the draw

00:37:00 --> 00:37:04

you up with something bigger. Absolutely, yes, I have, like, a

00:37:04 --> 00:37:07

really sweet, lighthearted one, but actually really powerful. So

00:37:07 --> 00:37:07

when we

00:37:10 --> 00:37:13

went from a family in 2019 and so my younger

00:37:15 --> 00:37:15

son and,

00:37:17 --> 00:37:18

like, Inshallah, if

00:37:19 --> 00:37:22

you guys don't mind, like, please don't ever tell him if you know.

00:37:23 --> 00:37:23

But

00:37:24 --> 00:37:29

so he is obsessed with candy. Like, I mean, he has to have it

00:37:29 --> 00:37:33

every day. Like, his life of all dried candy, imagines Jenna very

00:37:34 --> 00:37:34

differently.

00:37:38 --> 00:37:41

And so, you know, I wanted to, I wanted to just, like, reward him

00:37:41 --> 00:37:45

off and things like that. And so, you know, I tried to, like, give

00:37:45 --> 00:37:49

him candy. And he was only, like, maybe seven years old at the time,

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

and so

00:37:51 --> 00:37:55

he made with the first time we made the walk. There was candy

00:37:55 --> 00:38:01

involved. And so he associated with making a lot. So he genuinely

00:38:01 --> 00:38:04

was like, I love this place, like candy falls from

00:38:12 --> 00:38:16

this guy. And so the next time that we went through the walk

00:38:16 --> 00:38:19

together, you know, he was making the same glass, holding his hand,

00:38:19 --> 00:38:21

pulling around, you know, grabbing him tight. And I'm like, just

00:38:21 --> 00:38:21

think

00:38:28 --> 00:38:31

about anything candy. And literally, there was a man who was

00:38:31 --> 00:38:34

also doing the loft, and he had these lollipops, like heart shaped

00:38:34 --> 00:38:35

raffle off, just giving them

00:38:37 --> 00:38:38

out. So he literally

00:38:39 --> 00:38:43

just came by and just like, put it in his hand, and it's so crowded,

00:38:43 --> 00:38:46

so you can't even tell, like, if someone comes and put something in

00:38:46 --> 00:38:47

your hand. And so

00:38:49 --> 00:38:55

he, he genuinely like the association he has with doing ona

00:38:55 --> 00:38:59

and like, doing go up and like, just that, you know that area

00:38:59 --> 00:39:10

around the GABA and sweet is like candy. One genuine, very innocent

00:39:10 --> 00:39:13

and very real vlog that he made, and like

00:39:17 --> 00:39:21

Avenue. So it makes us even as adults, absolutely, absolutely.

00:39:21 --> 00:39:24

I'm sure all of us saw our Imaan increasing, and just hearing that

00:39:24 --> 00:39:29

story that, like Allah allows candy to fall from the sky for May

00:39:29 --> 00:39:32

Allah protect your your son, and always allow that to happen for

00:39:32 --> 00:39:35

him, ya rab, but that he he does those same type of blessings for

00:39:35 --> 00:39:38

us in different ways in our lives. And we may not see it in that

00:39:38 --> 00:39:41

exact way. This pan Allah, that he listens to the small, but to him,

00:39:41 --> 00:39:44

this is big. He listens to the big as well. He listens to the very

00:39:44 --> 00:39:47

big as well. That was so beautiful. Thank you so much. Do

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we want to share one more? Anyone? Yes,

00:39:50 --> 00:39:53

this has happened recurring times to me, so I'm really, really

00:39:53 --> 00:39:58

grateful having that. But it's like every time I lose something,

00:39:59 --> 00:39:59

I just have this.

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Experience or, I mean, from Allah, I have so many different

00:40:04 --> 00:40:06

instances, and I'm just gonna say generally,

00:40:07 --> 00:40:10

where I'm just looking. And I remember this one time we lost,

00:40:10 --> 00:40:13

like, this really small ball. It wasn't a big thing, right? But my

00:40:13 --> 00:40:15

brother really wanted it, and we were just looking, I don't know

00:40:15 --> 00:40:19

what to do. And then suddenly I'm like, Okay, let me just make dua.

00:40:19 --> 00:40:22

So, like, that's five minutes in, and I didn't even realize I should

00:40:22 --> 00:40:25

be like, you know, praying for this. And as soon as I started

00:40:25 --> 00:40:28

saying dua, like, when I'm when I'm looking for something lost, I

00:40:28 --> 00:40:28

say, I didn't even

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finish it, and it's like, right there.

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The same thing happened another time. I think I lost, like, the

00:40:36 --> 00:40:39

smallest gearing, you know, and I'm just like, looking around, and

00:40:39 --> 00:40:40

it's just like, right there,

00:40:43 --> 00:40:47

SubhanAllah. Subhanallah, you know, just Pamela that Allah, you

00:40:47 --> 00:40:50

know, anytime you look for something lost, you know, it's

00:40:50 --> 00:40:53

such a reminder that he, he there are people who can be lost from

00:40:53 --> 00:40:56

him, but he can still guide them. And just like a that was so

00:40:56 --> 00:40:59

beautiful, like all of us have gone through that experience of

00:40:59 --> 00:41:02

losing something, but for me, anytime I lose something, you

00:41:02 --> 00:41:05

know, one of the things that I think about is, Oh Allah, as you

00:41:05 --> 00:41:09

have, as you have, caused me to lose this item and find it. Let me

00:41:09 --> 00:41:11

find you again. You know, let the people who have missed you, who

00:41:11 --> 00:41:14

who missed seeing you, who didn't even know about you, to find you

00:41:14 --> 00:41:18

again. And Pamela, one of the things, thank you so much for all

00:41:18 --> 00:41:20

of you that was so beautiful. That was for all the stories that you

00:41:20 --> 00:41:23

shared, one of the ways that when we're thinking about salah is

00:41:23 --> 00:41:26

finding him again. That sometimes, for many of us, Ramadan is the

00:41:26 --> 00:41:29

time that we're like, I'm going to try to be intentional about my

00:41:29 --> 00:41:32

salah. I'm going to try to focus more in it. I'm going to try to do

00:41:32 --> 00:41:35

actually said a weyah, and this is the time to build on that

00:41:35 --> 00:41:37

relationship with Him, SubhanAllah. So we talked about

00:41:37 --> 00:41:40

words of affirmation as one of the ways of Salah, that when you're in

00:41:40 --> 00:41:43

Salah, you are having a conversation with Allah, that even

00:41:43 --> 00:41:46

if you don't necessarily see everything happening with the

00:41:46 --> 00:41:50

angels and everything else, you are in conversation with Allah,

00:41:50 --> 00:41:54

subhanho wa taala, he is listening to you, he is responding to you,

00:41:55 --> 00:41:58

and that this is the very sacred connection and a safe place for

00:41:58 --> 00:42:02

you. The second part of the love languages is quality time,

00:42:02 --> 00:42:06

spending quality time with someone. It simply means having

00:42:06 --> 00:42:09

full focus in the conversation that you're having and that time

00:42:09 --> 00:42:12

that you're spending together. When the companions and the

00:42:12 --> 00:42:15

righteous people used to recycle Quran in Ramadan, specifically,

00:42:15 --> 00:42:17

they would recite Allah. They would leave everything at the

00:42:17 --> 00:42:21

meme, would recite the Quran 60 times in Ramadan. That's finishing

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

it twice a day. Basically, there were, you know, basically, there

00:42:23 --> 00:42:26

were Imam Ali. He would stop all of the khalafats of Victor and

00:42:26 --> 00:42:30

knowledge and just focus on Quran. So this was definitely a time, a

00:42:30 --> 00:42:33

percent in Quran, a ton. But realistically, many of us can't

00:42:33 --> 00:42:37

even finish the Quran one time in Ramadan, especially if our native

00:42:37 --> 00:42:40

language is not Arabic, and we don't understand what we're

00:42:40 --> 00:42:42

saying, and we're trying and we're trying and we're trying, but even

00:42:42 --> 00:42:45

if we do finish the whole thing, doesn't necessarily mean that we

00:42:45 --> 00:42:48

felt connected to the Quran and Ramadan, because sometimes we

00:42:48 --> 00:42:51

don't understand what we've been reciting for hours and hours and

00:42:51 --> 00:42:54

hours the entire month. So when we're looking at the companions

00:42:54 --> 00:42:57

and the way that they used to connect to Salah, what they would

00:42:57 --> 00:43:02

do is they would take an ayah, and I just realized this mean is, here

00:43:03 --> 00:43:08

may Allah bless her, have some history. So, good history, really

00:43:08 --> 00:43:12

good history. Only good history. So when you go into salah, what

00:43:12 --> 00:43:16

they would do is they would recite when Aya over and over and over

00:43:16 --> 00:43:20

again. So asmaath, little dial, the daughter of Buk, she her

00:43:20 --> 00:43:24

nephew said that she went, he went into her home, and she was in

00:43:24 --> 00:43:28

Salah, and she was reciting out loud. So this must have been an he

00:43:28 --> 00:43:34

was it was an extra Salah. So she was reciting out loud, and so he

00:43:34 --> 00:43:35

could hear her, and she was

00:43:36 --> 00:43:44

saying, famine, Allah, you know, was put he like put blessings upon

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

us and protected us from from the punishment. And then again, she

00:43:47 --> 00:43:49

said it again, and then she recited it

00:43:53 --> 00:43:58

again, and then she recited it again. He went to the market, he

00:43:58 --> 00:44:01

came back, and she was still reciting the same ayah over and

00:44:01 --> 00:44:05

over and over and over and over and over again. When you're citing

00:44:05 --> 00:44:08

the same ayah over and over, you're not just thinking about one

00:44:08 --> 00:44:11

time, okay, Allah is going to give us paradoxical and I think Allah

00:44:11 --> 00:44:14

protects from * for a goal. No. What does it mean? What does this

00:44:14 --> 00:44:17

verse mean? And my relationship right now with my Lord and the

00:44:17 --> 00:44:20

people that I know, what does this mean for the person that I love,

00:44:20 --> 00:44:23

who may not care about Islam at all, and I believe for them, what

00:44:23 --> 00:44:25

does it mean for me when I struggle in my relationship with

00:44:25 --> 00:44:28

Allah, if I'm having doubts in Islam, what does that Aya mean?

00:44:28 --> 00:44:32

Over and over again, Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa salam all

00:44:32 --> 00:44:36

night, one time he just tried, recited one ayah into Abu hum

00:44:38 --> 00:44:39

Fain,

00:44:40 --> 00:44:44

that if you forgive them, that they are your sorry, if you punish

00:44:44 --> 00:44:47

them, that they are your slaves, and if you forgive them, then you

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

are the one who's the mighty and the wise. Over and over and over,

00:44:49 --> 00:44:53

just this one verse in another narration, Hassan Al Basri. He was

00:44:53 --> 00:44:58

one of the scholars of our time, of our of our Ummah, that he would

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

just lay down in his bed and OH.

00:45:00 --> 00:45:03

Word over, he would say the same verse, the same ayah,

00:45:05 --> 00:45:09

what do your but Allah? If you try to count the blessings of Allah,

00:45:09 --> 00:45:13

you're never going to be able to count every single one of them in

00:45:13 --> 00:45:16

Allah, he is so forgiving. There's no way we can count the amount of

00:45:16 --> 00:45:19

blessings. And he's still so forgiving of that. Subhanho wa

00:45:19 --> 00:45:23

taala. He's still so forgiving. He recited this verse every over and

00:45:23 --> 00:45:26

over and over. And he said, every time he recite this verse, He sees

00:45:26 --> 00:45:29

more blessings come into his life over and over and over again. So I

00:45:29 --> 00:45:32

mean, juve a real one of the things that one of the verses that

00:45:32 --> 00:45:33

he would recite,

00:45:36 --> 00:45:39

panelist, suddenly, I lost it. But okay, same concept, he would just

00:45:39 --> 00:45:42

recite it over and over and over. So why I want to mention this to

00:45:42 --> 00:45:45

you is because sometimes, especially, you know, when we go

00:45:45 --> 00:45:48

into the masjid, or we go to JAMA, the message that we hear about

00:45:48 --> 00:45:51

Ramallah in particular is, how much Quran are you reciting? Are

00:45:51 --> 00:45:54

you reciting this much every single day? I've heard this many

00:45:54 --> 00:45:56

times at another undue Masjid locally, where somebody will make

00:45:56 --> 00:46:01

a khatira after aid and salah, and they will keep saying, Have you

00:46:01 --> 00:46:04

finished the Quran yet? Have you read your Bible just a day? Have

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

you read your five years that day? That's okay. I

00:46:07 --> 00:46:09

remember at that time I would hear him say this, and I'm like, I

00:46:09 --> 00:46:12

don't even know how to read Arabic. Like, at that time, I

00:46:12 --> 00:46:15

didn't even know how to read Arabic. But, you know, the goal is

00:46:15 --> 00:46:18

so much higher than what I can even imagine. But what if I were

00:46:18 --> 00:46:22

to start it with the language that I understand. My mom one time, she

00:46:22 --> 00:46:25

passed by my room, and I was trying so hard to read Arabic, I

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

could barely do it. And she was like, why don't you read it in

00:46:27 --> 00:46:30

English too, so you understand? And that moment changed my life.

00:46:30 --> 00:46:33

Reading it in the English where you understand the message of the

00:46:33 --> 00:46:37

Quran to you changes your life because it changes your action.

00:46:38 --> 00:46:42

Allah did not reveal the Quran in Japanese to to Arabs. He revealed

00:46:42 --> 00:46:46

it in Arabic for people who spoke Arabic. So for all of us, of

00:46:46 --> 00:46:49

course, if we can read Arabic, we should absolutely, there's only

00:46:49 --> 00:46:50

blessings in reading it in Arabic.

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

I have talked about shayntan fleeing from the home of the one

00:46:54 --> 00:46:57

who's reciting the Quran. So we should absolutely read it in

00:46:57 --> 00:47:00

Arabic, but also read it in a language that we understand, so

00:47:00 --> 00:47:04

that when we come to Salah, we can speak to Allah, knowing what he's

00:47:04 --> 00:47:09

telling us. And I want us to just focus on Surah Al if loss ahead.

00:47:10 --> 00:47:13

Many of us recite Hulu Allahu ahead, of course, because when

00:47:13 --> 00:47:16

we're too busy for Suratul, all of it, you know, it's just the one

00:47:16 --> 00:47:20

that we do. But realistically, many of us recite shulu Allahu

00:47:20 --> 00:47:24

ahead, probably at least multiple times a day, and very likely

00:47:24 --> 00:47:26

because it's not even intentional. It's just what we immediately go

00:47:26 --> 00:47:29

to. We don't even realize we recite it until we're done, and

00:47:29 --> 00:47:31

then we're like, oh, I should probably pick another Surah, but

00:47:31 --> 00:47:34

that one so fast, realistically, that's probably most of us. But

00:47:34 --> 00:47:38

you know, when we think about this surah, sometimes we feel guilty

00:47:38 --> 00:47:42

about that, sometimes we feel ashamed about that. Sometimes

00:47:42 --> 00:47:45

you're like, oh, I should probably know more unless you were just

00:47:45 --> 00:47:48

memorizing the Quran, or you just converted, or you just are

00:47:48 --> 00:47:52

starting, and you're like, wow, I know this surah, that feeling of,

00:47:52 --> 00:47:54

Wow, I know this surah is the feeling we should actually have

00:47:54 --> 00:47:58

when we come to social if love because quality time is about

00:47:58 --> 00:48:02

spending time thinking about the meaning, the weight, the power of

00:48:02 --> 00:48:05

these words when you go Suratul

00:48:06 --> 00:48:10

Isla in two different narrations. One companion was promised

00:48:10 --> 00:48:14

paradise because of his love for Suratul if lost. Another companion

00:48:14 --> 00:48:18

was promised that Allah loves him. Was told Allah loves him because

00:48:18 --> 00:48:22

he loves the descriptions of the merciful from this surah. If you

00:48:22 --> 00:48:25

recite this surah 10 times, Allah will build you a house in

00:48:25 --> 00:48:28

paradise. This is an authentic NARRATION The Prophet sallallahu

00:48:28 --> 00:48:31

alayhi wa sallam, one time. Ask the Companions, can any of you

00:48:31 --> 00:48:35

recite a third of the Quran in In the evening, at night? And they,

00:48:35 --> 00:48:37

they were like, Ow, that's so much. And the Prophet SAW taught

00:48:37 --> 00:48:42

them Surah Al IFLA is a third of the Quran. This surah is so

00:48:42 --> 00:48:46

weighty that it is probably one time. So some heard a man reciting

00:48:46 --> 00:48:50

and reciting circle Islam, and he said, It is his rights. And the

00:48:50 --> 00:48:53

companion said, What? What is his right? And the Prophet sallallahu

00:48:53 --> 00:48:56

alayhi wa sallam taught them that he going to paradise. Paradise is

00:48:56 --> 00:49:01

his right because he's reciting with Allah. So if I want to go to

00:49:01 --> 00:49:05

Salah, and I know I have the craziness of the kids and work and

00:49:05 --> 00:49:09

everything else, and instead of thinking, Oh, I feel so bad that I

00:49:09 --> 00:49:13

can't even focus, or I don't even want to think this surah could be

00:49:13 --> 00:49:16

what makes Allah love me because of my love for this surah. This

00:49:16 --> 00:49:19

surah In this moment could be the reason that I am entered into

00:49:19 --> 00:49:22

Paradise because of my love for this surah. The reason I'm

00:49:22 --> 00:49:26

reciting this surah is because it describes Allah in His Oneness.

00:49:26 --> 00:49:31

What if Allah chooses me to be entered into the highest paradise

00:49:31 --> 00:49:35

only because of my love for this surah? Yes, I'm every single rakat

00:49:35 --> 00:49:39

because it's such a powerful Surah that shift in perspective when

00:49:39 --> 00:49:43

we're thinking about Allah's quality time impacts not the it

00:49:43 --> 00:49:46

doesn't change what we do. It just changed the way we look at the law

00:49:46 --> 00:49:49

and our interactions with prayer. So that's talking about quality

00:49:49 --> 00:49:54

time. Now let's look at physical touch. A lot of physical touch.

00:49:54 --> 00:49:58

You go down, you first, obviously you touch. I tell you, really

00:49:58 --> 00:49:59

nice, bro. So, um.

00:50:00 --> 00:50:03

One time, Alhamdulillah was blessed to go to go to Medina. And

00:50:04 --> 00:50:07

you know, I was just calling for Salah for the first time. It was

00:50:07 --> 00:50:11

so emotional. I felt, you know, standing or praying behind the the

00:50:11 --> 00:50:16

Imam. I start, I put my hands here. I'm just like following my

00:50:16 --> 00:50:20

eyes out, like really having a moment. And I didn't, you know,

00:50:20 --> 00:50:23

you know sometimes, if you've ever prayed next to someone crying,

00:50:23 --> 00:50:26

sometimes you can't tell, but other times you can. Have you ever

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

prayed next to someone you can tell they're crying. Their

00:50:28 --> 00:50:30

shoulders are, like, heaving, like I was. I felt really bad. I wasn't

00:50:30 --> 00:50:33

trying to, like, disrupt anyone, but it was very focused this

00:50:33 --> 00:50:37

little sister next to me. She's praying too, and we're both

00:50:37 --> 00:50:42

praying. And her Salah is not her focusing on her salah. It's her

00:50:42 --> 00:50:46

moving my hand to be here. So she's like grabbing my hand in

00:50:46 --> 00:50:49

Salah and trying to move my hand so that I can position my hand to

00:50:49 --> 00:50:53

be just like her hand position is because perhaps that's the only

00:50:53 --> 00:50:56

way she learns that is the correct way of right. I understand, but

00:50:56 --> 00:50:59

it's a lot. You know, we don't need to do this, especially when

00:50:59 --> 00:51:02

you're investing the memory and try and have a moment. But the

00:51:02 --> 00:51:07

point is that physical experience of Salah is so real that other

00:51:07 --> 00:51:10

people can see you having a physical experience with salah.

00:51:10 --> 00:51:13

They can even move your hands, because they're like, Salah is

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physical, and it must be done in this way. In reality, we know

00:51:15 --> 00:51:18

there's times that you know differences of opinion amongst my

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

life, that's fine, no problem. The point is that salah is a very

00:51:20 --> 00:51:24

physical experience, and way you move your body impacts the way you

00:51:24 --> 00:51:28

feel in your heart. It brings rest, it brings peace. It brings

00:51:28 --> 00:51:33

this calmness and grounding to the center of who we are. One time, I

00:51:33 --> 00:51:39

was at acupuncture, and I had the lady that the doctor, excuse me,

00:51:39 --> 00:51:42

the doctor, she put a needle here. We were, like, deep in

00:51:42 --> 00:51:44

conversation, talking, talking, and then she suddenly put a needle

00:51:44 --> 00:51:49

here. And I, I just calmed down. And within a flip, I was just so

00:51:49 --> 00:51:53

calm. And I was like, very slowly, like, what did you do? Because I

00:51:53 --> 00:51:56

was talking so fast and so much. Oh, I probably should have told

00:51:56 --> 00:52:00

you. Like, when you put something right here, this piece part, it's

00:52:00 --> 00:52:03

like, it's like a grounding place for your whole body, and it will

00:52:03 --> 00:52:06

center your whole body and will calm you. And the first thing I

00:52:06 --> 00:52:08

thought of was, yes,

00:52:11 --> 00:52:15

we do this, we have pressure points on our body. Pressure

00:52:15 --> 00:52:17

points on our body that Chinese medicine has, you know, been

00:52:17 --> 00:52:22

discussing for centuries, and this is part of our divine revelation,

00:52:22 --> 00:52:27

and how to center our bodies, to have a physical, emotional, mental

00:52:27 --> 00:52:30

connection with our spiritual, with our spirit, with our

00:52:30 --> 00:52:35

spirituality, with Allah. So Salah as we know physical touch, sajda

00:52:35 --> 00:52:40

itself. Sajda going down to sujood is the most, is the closest place

00:52:40 --> 00:52:44

that we can be to Allah, the humility and the awe that we

00:52:44 --> 00:52:48

express in putting our faces onto the ground is the place in which

00:52:48 --> 00:52:50

we are raised. One time, a companion went to the Prophet

00:52:50 --> 00:52:53

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

00:52:53 --> 00:52:56

sallam asked what he wants, like anything. What is anything that he

00:52:56 --> 00:52:58

wants to ask for? And he said, I want to be with you in paradise.

00:52:58 --> 00:53:02

And the Prophet saw someone was like, anything else? And the man

00:53:02 --> 00:53:04

was like, No, this is what I want. And so the Prophet sallallahu,

00:53:04 --> 00:53:09

Sallam told him, help, help. Help by making sujood just constantly

00:53:09 --> 00:53:12

make such that, as in pray, Allah, do a lot of prayers. Make such

00:53:12 --> 00:53:15

often, because this is something that will raise your ranks. When

00:53:15 --> 00:53:19

you go into sajda, Your sins are forgiven, your status is raised.

00:53:19 --> 00:53:22

It's a space of your being answered. We are going down

00:53:22 --> 00:53:27

physically, but our status in front of Allah is being raised

00:53:27 --> 00:53:31

upon of Musa ALA. It's a physical experience. Every time we go for

00:53:31 --> 00:53:33

Salah, I'm going to go a little bit faster, just because I know

00:53:33 --> 00:53:36

that we're supposed to have Q and A so let me go to the next part

00:53:36 --> 00:53:39

very quickly. We talked about words of affirmation. We talked

00:53:39 --> 00:53:42

about physical touch, and now we're going to we talked about

00:53:42 --> 00:53:46

quality time, and now we're going talk to talk, excuse me, about

00:53:46 --> 00:53:51

acts of service. So acts of service, Salah is not just about

00:53:51 --> 00:53:56

the physical action, right? How many of us know someone who prays

00:53:56 --> 00:53:58

and they are so rude? How many of us have been to the masjid and

00:53:58 --> 00:54:01

there's somebody praying and praying and praying and praying,

00:54:01 --> 00:54:04

and in the next moment, they're literally yelling at Have you ever

00:54:04 --> 00:54:07

had that experience before? Would you say that like, when you go to

00:54:07 --> 00:54:10

the masjid you're like, welcomed with this extreme positive energy,

00:54:10 --> 00:54:13

except for WMA, of course, because mashaAllah alumna and brother

00:54:13 --> 00:54:16

Hesham and teacher, Azza and mashallah, wonderful community

00:54:16 --> 00:54:20

here. But most of the time, many of us have Masjid stories of

00:54:20 --> 00:54:22

someone who's yelled at us and someone who's made us feel

00:54:22 --> 00:54:25

unwelcome, and someone who makes us feel like, Why did I come in

00:54:25 --> 00:54:27

the first place? And many people choose never to come back, and we

00:54:27 --> 00:54:31

probably know people like that that is someone who prays and

00:54:31 --> 00:54:36

they're not actually acting upon salah. Acting upon salah? Well,

00:54:36 --> 00:54:38

maybe they're trying, maybe they're misinformed on how to act

00:54:38 --> 00:54:43

on salah, but acts of service looks like taking your prayer to

00:54:43 --> 00:54:48

action. Ibn Abbas told you all one time he saw a man come into

00:54:48 --> 00:54:51

mashtara Nibali while he was in cast, and this man was crying and

00:54:51 --> 00:54:54

very down. Just looked very, very down. So he asked him, like,

00:54:54 --> 00:54:57

what's wrong? Are you okay? And the man said that he's in debt.

00:54:57 --> 00:54:59

He's in a really big debt with someone else, and he just doesn't

00:54:59 --> 00:54:59

know.

00:55:00 --> 00:55:03

He's going to do if an adve asked him, Do you want me to talk to the

00:55:03 --> 00:55:06

person, like, try to help? And the man was like, yeah, yeah. I mean,

00:55:06 --> 00:55:09

if you, if you're open to that. But then he asked him, aren't you

00:55:09 --> 00:55:12

in an IT cap? It cap is the time where you're supposed to stay in

00:55:12 --> 00:55:15

the masjid unless there's, like, a dire reason you're not supposed to

00:55:15 --> 00:55:17

really leave. You're not supposed to, like, have a whole lot of

00:55:17 --> 00:55:22

conversations at the time of focus and worship. And so the best

00:55:22 --> 00:55:24

points to the grave of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi. He was seven.

00:55:24 --> 00:55:29

His eyes filled with tears. And he says that the man in that grave,

00:55:29 --> 00:55:32

sallallahu alayhi, wasalam, the one in that grave, sallallahu

00:55:32 --> 00:55:35

alayhi wa sallam taught him. Taught him listen to make our TCAF

00:55:36 --> 00:55:40

every day you make our TCAF between you and between the

00:55:40 --> 00:55:44

punishment of the Hereafter is the entire width of the heavens and

00:55:44 --> 00:55:49

the earth or the east to the west. That's huge. One day of empty calf

00:55:49 --> 00:55:54

is that distance puts you in that distance from punishment to help

00:55:54 --> 00:55:57

one person is 10 years of

00:55:59 --> 00:56:04

so Ibn Abba lefty calf, not at MCA, not at wvma, not at the

00:56:04 --> 00:56:09

student. No, he left RT cap and Masjid navawi to stand up to leave

00:56:09 --> 00:56:12

and to help this brother. Excuse me,

00:56:14 --> 00:56:21

Ramadan dry so the law and who took his salah, his Siyam, his

00:56:21 --> 00:56:25

worship to action. What is the action that we are going to do

00:56:25 --> 00:56:29

when it comes to Salah? I want to give you very real examples. When

00:56:29 --> 00:56:32

you are with your children, when you are tired, when you've been

00:56:32 --> 00:56:35

fasting, and your child says, Can you help me play this

00:56:37 --> 00:56:40

favorite, everyone's favorite phrase, can you help me draw? Can

00:56:40 --> 00:56:44

you play with me? Can you help me? And you're like to catalyze so

00:56:44 --> 00:56:49

much to do, but they want to spend time with you. They need your

00:56:49 --> 00:56:52

help. You're relieving the stress of a little believer when you

00:56:52 --> 00:56:56

spend time with them. Allah teaches us, if you relieve the

00:56:56 --> 00:56:59

stress of a believer in this life, he will relieve distress for you

00:56:59 --> 00:57:03

in the Hereafter, when you're at work, and you have something that

00:57:03 --> 00:57:07

happens at work, and you know that this person is falling behind, and

00:57:07 --> 00:57:11

there's something you can do to help them. You are lifting

00:57:11 --> 00:57:14

hardship from someone when you know that you are giving charity

00:57:14 --> 00:57:18

to someone who's in debt and helping them in that process,

00:57:18 --> 00:57:22

don't you know that Allah is going to relieve you that acts of

00:57:22 --> 00:57:26

service that you do because of the Salah that you engage in is a

00:57:26 --> 00:57:30

direct impact. Has a direct impact on the salah that you continue to

00:57:30 --> 00:57:35

engage in. So when we want to have this peace, this this, this

00:57:35 --> 00:57:40

closeness in our hearts for Salah, then do actions outside of Salah

00:57:40 --> 00:57:44

that will impact the salah that we do. And finally, the last one

00:57:44 --> 00:57:47

anyone know, which one we haven't covered yet? Gifts, gifts.

00:57:49 --> 00:57:50

I want to focus on one gift,

00:57:52 --> 00:57:55

Abu Bakr Rahima Allah. Was he the Imam?

00:57:57 --> 00:58:02

No. Was he the imam in Medina? No. But would you probably say that

00:58:02 --> 00:58:06

the amount of rewards that he has received for the more than a

00:58:06 --> 00:58:08

billion people who know who he is and who have memorized with his

00:58:08 --> 00:58:12

recitation now and inshallah for many centuries to have is probably

00:58:12 --> 00:58:17

more rewarded than if he had led Salah in me or Medina

00:58:18 --> 00:58:21

Allah told this person, Edmund, shall we and josaria, this group

00:58:21 --> 00:58:26

of men who had amazing recitations at this time period, he chose

00:58:26 --> 00:58:30

them, and maybe in their lifetime, they could have thought, If only I

00:58:30 --> 00:58:33

could lead Salah in Medina, if only I could lead Salah in beta.

00:58:34 --> 00:58:39

Allah chose them in a different way. When we looked at Abdul

00:58:39 --> 00:58:43

Basit, one of his contemporaries was also named Abdul Basit, and he

00:58:43 --> 00:58:47

has a very similar recitation style to this Abdul Basa. It is a

00:58:47 --> 00:58:49

style, very similar recitation style, if you stream his

00:58:49 --> 00:58:54

recitation this Abdul bas teacher was shefa

00:58:55 --> 00:58:59

Om Sai Shem side. She passed away in 2006 Rahman she had the

00:58:59 --> 00:59:03

shortest Senate, shortest credentialing and one type of

00:59:03 --> 00:59:07

recitation in the world. So men and women would travel from Kuwait

00:59:07 --> 00:59:11

and Saudi Arabia and Palestine to come to Egypt and study under her.

00:59:11 --> 00:59:15

Abdullah was one of her students now who was her teacher. Her

00:59:15 --> 00:59:20

teacher was Sheikha Nafisa. Sheikha Nafisa was the teacher of

00:59:20 --> 00:59:25

Shah inside she Nafisa. So now I want you to go to the 1920s she

00:59:25 --> 00:59:31

was one of five reciters in Cairo's radio station. At that

00:59:31 --> 00:59:34

time, Cairo had women reciting on the Republic radio until the

00:59:34 --> 00:59:38

Cairo's radio channel would have five women who were reciters,

00:59:38 --> 00:59:41

along with the contemporaries like Abdul Basa and others, and they

00:59:41 --> 00:59:47

would recite, and one of those reciters in the generation before

00:59:47 --> 00:59:51

them is she hasta mabruka. I want to give you 10 seconds of

00:59:51 --> 00:59:54

listening to her recitation. Who has Claudia? Anybody? Does anyone

00:59:54 --> 00:59:59

have Claria? You open it? Can you open it for me? I'm so honored.

00:59:59 --> 00:59:59

You.

01:00:00 --> 01:00:00

Too.

01:00:04 --> 01:00:05

Thank you. May Allah. Bless you

01:00:08 --> 01:00:11

so Claudia, the women are ciders after you can download for free

01:00:11 --> 01:00:15

today on Apple and Google Play stores, we have recitations of

01:00:15 --> 01:00:21

women from the early 1900s and this is Shea mabruka. I want you

01:00:21 --> 01:00:24

to just spend 30 seconds listening to her recitation. Go.

01:01:33 --> 01:01:34

Who does she sound like?

01:01:35 --> 01:01:40

Yes, but she was she was reciting this recitation before Abdul Basit

01:01:40 --> 01:01:45

was born. He was born in the 1920s this recitation is before he was

01:01:45 --> 01:01:49

even born. So is it Abdul Basit that we're hearing his style, the

01:01:49 --> 01:01:52

Abdul bastard style that we attribute to Him? Is it his

01:01:52 --> 01:01:56

recitation style, or is it Sheikha mabruka And the people who used to

01:01:56 --> 01:02:01

recite like her in her time, whose names we may not know, but like

01:02:01 --> 01:02:06

she Nafisa and the Sheikha and the shuyuk, the men and the women who

01:02:06 --> 01:02:09

each each learn from each other. They may not be big names that

01:02:09 --> 01:02:13

everybody knows, but Allah has written their names with him.

01:02:14 --> 01:02:16

Thank you so much, sister, may Allah bless you. Thank you for

01:02:16 --> 01:02:16

having me.

01:02:19 --> 01:02:22

Why this is so important when we're talking about salah is

01:02:22 --> 01:02:24

because this whole time, because it's not been working, I've just

01:02:25 --> 01:02:25

been

01:02:26 --> 01:02:30

screaming. I mean, it works. It's just I haven't been using it. So

01:02:30 --> 01:02:34

when we're talking about something like salah, is that every single

01:02:34 --> 01:02:36

one of you who has impacted someone in your life and taught

01:02:36 --> 01:02:41

them something, it is a gift. It is Sadia, it is the gift that

01:02:41 --> 01:02:44

you're giving if you have taught your child how to pray, if you

01:02:44 --> 01:02:47

have taught a sibling to say subhanallah, if you have taught a

01:02:47 --> 01:02:50

cousin or a student like teacher Azama, Allah protects and bless

01:02:50 --> 01:02:55

her generations of students. Something about being kind to

01:02:55 --> 01:02:59

someone else, giving charity in some way connected to Allah. That

01:02:59 --> 01:03:04

is the gift that you keep giving, and that impacts the way that

01:03:04 --> 01:03:08

you're praying. All of these things are connected. Maybe in

01:03:08 --> 01:03:11

your life, you're going through hardships so that your children

01:03:11 --> 01:03:14

are spared of that same hardship. May Allah protect you all. Maybe

01:03:14 --> 01:03:16

because you've helped someone else in something that they're going

01:03:16 --> 01:03:21

through, maybe Allah will help someone that you love because of

01:03:21 --> 01:03:24

someone, some help that you gave to someone else. You don't know

01:03:24 --> 01:03:27

where the blessings that Allah are that he's going to put in your

01:03:27 --> 01:03:31

life. And it goes back to this moment, this presence, this

01:03:31 --> 01:03:36

intentionality about maintaining the one connection that he

01:03:36 --> 01:03:39

required from us five times a day. Yes, of course we should make Jai

01:03:39 --> 01:03:43

whenever we can. Yes, of course we should, whenever we can, but the

01:03:43 --> 01:03:49

requirement for us is only Salah. So how important is this from him,

01:03:49 --> 01:03:53

from the way that he sees our connection with him, for us to

01:03:53 --> 01:03:56

continue it, and finally, to close, we have time for Q and A

01:03:56 --> 01:03:59

insha Allah. There's a narration in the tafsir of an ayah that

01:03:59 --> 01:04:00

speaks about

01:04:01 --> 01:04:06

being in Jannah and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa Salam sahibin

01:04:06 --> 01:04:11

will say, Abu Asmaa, he mentioned that a person will come to Jannah

01:04:11 --> 01:04:15

and they're in Paradise, and they're looking around and they

01:04:15 --> 01:04:19

say, oh, Allah, my lord. Where is my Where is my dad?

01:04:20 --> 01:04:21

Where's my grandpa? Well,

01:04:22 --> 01:04:26

where are my kids? And they mention all of these people who

01:04:26 --> 01:04:30

they don't see in Jannah that they want to be in Jannah with. And

01:04:30 --> 01:04:31

it's told to them

01:04:32 --> 01:04:37

that you worked. You, you you were you did this work. You did the

01:04:37 --> 01:04:40

work. Of course, Allah's mercy. Of course, Allah's mercy. But also

01:04:40 --> 01:04:44

you put in the effort to be here, and they didn't. They didn't do

01:04:44 --> 01:04:48

that same effort. Maybe they didn't care. Maybe they literally

01:04:48 --> 01:04:51

just did not care. They believed at some point, they do have

01:04:51 --> 01:04:57

belief, but they don't care. And so what it said, This person says,

01:04:57 --> 01:04:57

You.

01:05:00 --> 01:05:04

This person says, I worked for myself, but I also worked for

01:05:04 --> 01:05:10

them. I worked for myself, but I also worked for them. And so

01:05:10 --> 01:05:14

because Allah is so merciful and he doesn't want anyone to be sad

01:05:14 --> 01:05:19

in Jannah, he brings those people who don't necessarily care, but

01:05:19 --> 01:05:23

they believe, but they didn't do any work that he will uplift these

01:05:23 --> 01:05:26

people and bring them into the level that this person is in, just

01:05:26 --> 01:05:30

to comfort and allow this person to have joy in Jannah.

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