Maryam Amir – Can a woman live on her own

Maryam Amir
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The speaker discusses the importance of women being able to live on their own and navigate the digital world, as it is often difficult to find support in society. They also mention the need for a fatwa based on personal preferences and privacy laws, and recommend studying the rights of women to address issues related to women's issues.

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			Many sisters have asked me whether
or not they can live on their own
		
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			because they want to study in
another state, country, work
		
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			somewhere else, and also,
especially, particularly because
		
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			they experience abuse, emotional,
neglectful abuse in the home.
		
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			Sadly, many sisters have been
taught that the only way they can
		
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			live on their own is if they
actually get married and leave her
		
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			home, which is honestly
devastating, because so many
		
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			sisters then look to marriage as
an escape from their family home,
		
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			and sometimes marriage is a more
abusive circumstance. Able to get
		
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			out of that circumstance, divorce
and go back home, they're stuck in
		
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			this cycle, and they're made to
believe that it's what Islam wants
		
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			from them, when, in reality, Islam
completely allows for a woman to
		
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			live on her own. Ideally, she'd be
able to find roommates who she
		
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			aligns with support one another in
their process. Yes, she can live
		
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			on her own as well. And binbaz
Rahmatullah Ali, when he was asked
		
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			about whether or not a woman can
live on her own in another
		
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			country, he said, Yes, the proof
is simply that there is no
		
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			evidence to say that it's not
allowed. That is the proof in and
		
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			of itself. But I want to navigate
with you a fatwa online that
		
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			you're going to come across if you
look for this question, plenty of
		
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			online resources that are really
not necessarily representative of
		
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			all Islamic scholarship, but
rather personal opinion, and I'm
		
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			going to share with you how to
navigate that. Inshallah, this is
		
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			absolutely no hate to this website
or the scholar who answered it
		
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			respectfully. I don't know
anything about either one, but I
		
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			just want to give you an outline
for how to process what it says.
		
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			So first, after being asked if
this is permissible, the proof
		
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			that they provide as prohibition
is the verse and stay in your
		
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			homes. We've spoken about this
verse in a different video. This
		
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			verse has two different
recitations, la Karna, oh, or lo
		
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			Karna. Lo Karna is to stay in your
home. Wa Karna is to be subtle or
		
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			tranquil, but even wa Karuna has
different understandings amongst
		
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			the scholars, whether it means
that the default is to stay home,
		
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			unless you need to leave, or the
default is to be out and about,
		
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			but that this specific command
came for the Mothers of the
		
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			Believers. Rogilo anhon, this
scholar, uses this verse to say
		
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			that it is a requirement for a
woman to really stay at home
		
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			unless she needs to leave direly,
apparently.
		
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			But that's his interpretation of
this verse, and he uses it as his
		
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			proof for why a woman cannot live
on her own to his adhere to his
		
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			interpretation of this verse, like
she could move out, live on her
		
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			own and still mainly stay at home.
So it doesn't. It's not a proof in
		
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			and of itself. What is his other
proof? In Islam, a woman is well
		
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			protected by her guardian. This is
more important in this era of evil
		
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			and immorality. In the past, it
was about merely protection of
		
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			women from men. Now the issue is
even more than that. It's an era
		
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			of technologies and social media
as well. A person can easily get
		
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			caught up in that when one stays
with one's guardian, that
		
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			decreases the risk of fitna.
There's a lot of assumptions being
		
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			made here by this individual, and
that is about the world and about
		
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			society and about social media,
all of those things can absolutely
		
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			be true, but to make a fatwa based
on personal perspective of these
		
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			tools and society in general is
not really solid evidence in and
		
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			of itself, that's personal opinion
or personal perspective, without
		
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			looking at
		
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			clear cut proof. He does, in fact,
say, we prefer you to continue
		
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			staying with your parents. So
there is a personal preference
		
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			mentioned, and that's important,
the acknowledgement of personal
		
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			preference also. This individual
comes from a another country, and
		
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			maybe in their society, it is very
unsafe for a woman to live on her
		
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			own, so perhaps that could have
been used. The other point is that
		
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			there's a mention of staying with
one guardian, it decreases the
		
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			risk of fitna, but sometimes the
Guardian is the person who causes
		
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			the fitna. Sometimes the Guardian
is an abuser of a man or a woman,
		
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			and so leaving that environment is
actually safer for the person
		
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			living in the home. So sisters, if
this is your circumstance, when
		
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			you're trying to navigate what to
do, please make sure to speak to a
		
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			therapist. Please make sure to
consult people of knowledge that
		
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			you feel comfortable with. But
please know that you have options.
		
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			And I think it's important for us
to recognize that sometimes fatawa
		
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			that are widespread online do show
one particular perspective that's
		
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			not all of Islam, and when we
believe that's all of Islam, it
		
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			really can start impacting our
psyche when it comes to women's
		
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			issues, because unfortunately, the
vast majority of information in
		
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			English when it comes to women's
issues are not necessarily
		
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			and Breath of Islamic law
addressing women and the
		
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			incredible rights of women, and I
recommend studying those rights
		
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			with institutes such as these. I.