Mansoor Danish – How to Master Your Emotions at Workplace Abira Consulting

			Hi everyone, in today's video, we're talking about a very important topic. And that is, how to
master emotions at your workplace, how to avoid ego trap. This is an important topic, because often
at our workplace will always come across that one or two individual who are always trying to get
under the skin, who's always trying to upset us or irritate us. So how are we going to tackle these
people? How are we going to manage our emotions when dealing with such people, please remember, your
family, your personal life, your relatives, and those who are in your close circle, are often
forgiving about your behavior, about your nature about your reaction. So if you tend to be reactive
		

			with your family members, they may tend to overlook your behavior. But at your workplace, if you try
to express these negative emotions, it is going to be detrimental for your professional career. It's
a suicide in your professional career. And therefore, this topic becomes extremely critical for all
of those out there who have this weakness, where the given to their emotions, they react to a
situation with anger with resentment. Now, at the outset, we must understand the consequences of
these decisions, or rather the consequence of reacting through your ego or through your emotions,
expression of your emotions, what happens generally is that when you are worked up, and you are
		

			irritated with someone, and you are trying to react to that situation, in a manner, which is not
befitting for your workplace, you will be clouded in your vision, you will be clouded in your
judgment about the situation. And therefore, any kind of decision that you're going to take in that
state of mind, it is going to backfire in the long run, or maybe in the immediate future. Not only
is it detrimental for the organization, but it is also as I said, detrimental for your own future at
the workplace. And therefore it is extremely critical that you take a backseat, that you take a step
back and try to analyze your anger, your emotions, your behavior, before you allow yourself to react
		

			to that situation. Look, to be rational in a situation so that you don't get into your emotion is
easier said than done. In fact, you would be surprised to know that more people think they are
rational at the workplace than they actually are. There is a tendency amongst people to think that
we are very rational, we know how to handle the situation, but you put them through the test, and
you will find that they will start reacting to the situation. Now in the workplace scenario, this
can handle your promotion, it can handle your growth in the organization, it will create an image
about you which will spread across the organization that here's a person who's very emotional in
		

			nature, here's a person who's very reactive in nature, here's a person who has no control over his
hang anger, he may not be fit to move to the next role, or he may not be fit to lead a large team,
you can see the consequences how the management starts to perceive your behavior. Because you were
not trying to work on your emotions, you will not try to control your anger, you will not trying to
control what I call your ego.
		

			This is extremely important. I link it to your ego. It's your ego which tells you react to the
situation. It's a matter of your personal respect, react to the situation and therefore you given
you feel that you have to give a befitting response right down and that's where catastrophe happens.
Now, the way you have to become rationale is to practice and believe you me, if you can put this
into practice one day at a time, you will see that in no time you would have been able to control a
large part of your behavior which was react or what was which was reactive in nature. So how do you
do that? Well, first and foremost, when you are faced with a situation where some people are trying
		

			to make personal remarks, or some people are trying to say things which are disrespectful, where you
are feeling worked up, the first thing to do is to withdraw from the situation. I have a remote
control here. This is your emotions. Keep your emotions in your control. If you hand over this
control into the hands of someone else, they're going to use it against you. So the way to keep keep
the emotions under control is to withdraw from the situation. move a step back. Don't give into that
situation. You can hold back your reaction, even if it's first
		

			Know, even if you feel that this may be disrespectful, you can actually find a better solution to it
by focusing on the larger picture. Remember, as a leader, you always have to talk from a perspective
of what is good for the organization, you're not out there to look for personal glory. So if someone
is trying to malign you personally, yes, you can try to settle the scores there. But in trying to
settle the scores, don't make it a personal ego clash. Because when you do that, you are going for
personal glory, rather than looking at what's good for the organization. So the first step is to get
a better control of your emotion by not reacting into the situation by giving into the situation.
		

			The second thing is, and this is a practice which you have to do is you have to take a step back and
ask yourself, why is it that I am reactive in nature? Why is it for example, when I'm driving on the
road, and if somebody changes the car lane and move into my lane? It upsets me, it irritates me, it
irks me to the point that it leads to road rage or road fury. Why? Why am I giving him? Why am I so
weak, that I have no control over my emotion, as the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon
him, beautifully articulated that strongest is a man who has control over his emotions. He is not
the one who wrestles is not the one who shows Fury is not the one who shows anger, he is not the one
		

			who is reactive, but rather, he is one who takes a step back and takes control over his emotions.
That's what we've been talking in so many words in this video of us today. So there are two
important steps that I'm sharing with you. The first is to take a step back. So if you have to react
to a situation, you do that by taking a step back, and not uttering a word at that situation, ask
yourself, Do I really need to respond to this? Is this going to help me in my career in my
profession, is it for the benefit of the organization? If it isn't, then I can settle the score
later on a later date. At that moment, I need to take control of my emotions. Now, when you do that,
		

			you are now seen as a person who has control over his emotion. When he is faced with difficult
situation. He is not reactive. Rather, he looks at the larger picture. He looks at the larger good
of the organization. Look, my friends, it's challenging, isn't it? But that's the beauty about
workplace that it is a game of strategy that you're playing at your workplace. So you are going to
face challenges. You will find people who will try to urge you to irritate you to upset you. But
like I said, the strongest is He who controls his emotion in the words of the Prophet Muhammad,
peace and blessings be upon him with that will leave you in this video. Please share your thoughts.
		

			Share your experiences, and do remember to share this video with more people so that they can also
benefit from this. Thank you for watching this video.