A talk about the nature and dangers of pornography and how it takes over peoples’ lives.
Delivered at Dar Al-Tawheed Islamic Centre in Mississauga on December 23, 2016.
Karim Abuzaid – Dangers Of Pornography
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The segment discusses the danger of addiction and the importance of avoiding close proximity to a wall. The success of a study on dobutamine and potential triggering thoughts is highlighted. The importance of finding alternative ways to avoid addiction and finding a way to stop drinking is also emphasized. The need for supervision and learning to handle addiction is emphasized, along with the importance of finding ways to avoid mistakes and address one's addiction. The segment also touches on the importance of learning to handle relationships and finding a way to stop drinking.
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salatu salam ala rasulillah
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my ears respected brothers and sisters in Islam a salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Very sensitive subject, very serious and
a family law that I am to address it.
We ask Allah subhana wa Taala to purify our hearts.
cleanse it.
The oil and the sun indicates that there are two diseases
which can contact that very sensitive limb you have in your chest.
The first type is fitna to show
that your heart possesses a misconception regarding the religion.
misunderstanding
regarding the religion,
the second time that your heart contacts
a settler pertaining to the whims and the desires.
Scroll the shower
that your heart becomes connected with a certain
women.
And this subject of tonight falls into the second particularly
brothers and sisters in Islam, onesie rumina.
Now who was Shiva,
the Quran and the Sunnah, they do two things.
Number one, they immune you. They protect you if you follow it carefully, thoroughly. You can receive the immunity and the protection you need not to fall into any of those two fitness.
And this is the asthma.
But what if you have fallen into them? She said
there is a cure in the forearm and the sooner for those two sickness.
Brothers and sisters in Islam. We're talking about a conspiracy here.
And this conspiracy is the unification of society.
It's an industry
like pharmaceutical people are making money off this.
They just want more members
of the human community, not just the Muslim community, the human community
to be more
addicted to this.
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They actually given it
a very interesting title. They called it the V.
No, no, the T. You know, Egyptians have issues with T and B's that he bombed.
The * bomb.
Some of you may be aware of a show that we had in the US called the Baywatch who heard about this show.
It's okay.
They said we will not have to throw bombs anymore in the Muslim world. to occupy them. All we have to do is throw the watch on them and we will get them.
I would love for you
To go back tonight
and ask Google about the first 10 countries
who are number one,
looking for bureaucracy.
Six of them are Muslims.
Number one is a Muslim country, and I'm not going to name them because I don't want to put down anybody, you can go and find out for yourself.
The first six countries
are Muslims.
So it's a sad reality. It's the brothers and sisters in Islam.
And not talking about it doesn't help either.
We have to talk about it.
We have to address it.
And not because you're sitting here, you're guilty of it.
Allah knows best.
It's between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala.
But at least you hear adopting the method of one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
whose name is
Juliana raffia lavon.
clary sage says, All the companions of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam would ask him about good things.
Now that's what a lot. What if I do this? What good thing do I get? What are the good things which will happen in the future. And I was the one who would normally ask about the bad things
they fitted
in order to protect myself against them.
And a lot of you are fathers, a lot of you are mothers.
And you need to help your children to protect themselves from this. This is why we are talking about it.
We're also addressing it as Muslims, because quite frankly, rational non Muslims concluded that they should stop that stuff.
There is a country called Iceland.
Iceland is a very liberal country, lots of power law, they adopted something that Saudi Arabia does.
Which is what that in *
from the countries because they learn that if stating the impact of this on an individual
brothers and sisters in Islam, we're talking about at death, shalt
not profit is addiction it man
is not a habit.
And go home. And just ask Google again, to give you the difference between a habit,
something that you do because it's a habit,
or something that you do because it's addiction.
What you do, because it's addiction controls you. The addiction takes control over you. But I've had it, you're still in control, you can change.
And that's the danger of this subject.
Go home again, and do your research. And I think you should be engaged in this because it is affecting a lot of people.
But nog Rafi, according to the lawyers of the divorce in the United States of America is becoming a reason number one for divorce.
Why? Because one of the partners is more interested in watching these artificial
virtual and I'm solid use the word
* rather than being with his or her husband or spouse.
They are no longer interested in this. And the way that science and it's so amazing. When you see signs sometimes it's really I mean
validating what you have in
The problem The sooner you see the problem, the sooner states that you should not even get near this wall at Aqaba. Zener. Do not come near it,
avoid it. Because it's dangerous, it will get through you
look at this, how signs explain this.
There is some substance in the brain, they call it dobutamine. I don't know if this is correct or not, some of you will. What is Duminy? a substance which really gets you to do stuff.
When the brain produces a volume, or a quantity of it, this is what gets you excited about doing things. It's like the reward that I get for drinking that water.
The feeling that I get the dopamine when I see the water, so it triggers. Now they tell you that a person who watches *, that substance is produced in a way that no material drug would do.
That level of excitement, that virtual world.
So what does he do?
Then he goes about, and I'm sorry, again, to use this, he goes about processing that desire, and the danger of *, it is associated with what we know by an adversary and *, both it causes, so he needs to process this, he needs to get rid of this. Now, when he goes into the real world, with his wife, he is no longer interested. He is more interested in the virtual
world, which does not exist.
He doesn't realize
the Timo
whom he watches, or she watches By the way, this, the women are involved in this
is virtual world.
That video
is prepared for you, those people are acting.
These people are artificial.
The beauty is artificial. Their behavior is out to fish, artificial is not real. Now, when you get in the bedroom with your wife, it's the real thing. It's totally different. That domain doesn't come out.
You're not interested in your wife, you're more interested in what produces more dopamine into the brain. And this is why the separation happens gradually between you and your spouse. You're no longer interested in her.
And we as Americans, we receive these phone calls. My husband hasn't slept with me for the last six months, she
is spending his time in front of the computer. He's married to the computer, and I know what she means by this.
So it's brothers and sisters in Islam. It's a dangerous tool. It's a money making for people. It's like that drugs they sell to us. And we become addicted to it. All of the world is no money.
They tell you that the burden of graphic industry brings in trillions of dollars more than ABC, CBS combined
the measurements,
I read another status to 16 more than the NFL
money. It's about money. And the more people they recruit into this, and they offer you this for free. And if you go and study and read some of these studies, it used to be in the past
that you would have to pay for that stuff.
You have to pay for this stuff in the past. If you read, you'd have to pay $10 $1 they call it subscription whatever you pay, but they made it for free.
Why? Because once you get hooked on it,
you need to produce more.
You see that video that used to watch will not be satisfied. You need to go to another level. You need to watch more stuff.
Like somebody who
smokes marijuana, for example, the joint is not enough anymore, he has to actually do two joints, three joints in order to get the same level of being high.
And gradually, he will find himself going into us into cocaine into harder stuff. The same thing happens with blue coffee, even though it is not a material substance, it has to do with your behavior. But it's the same exact process, the more you go into it, you find yourself wanting more materials in order to produce the dhobi. Or sometimes you get into the stuff that you did not even expect yourself to watch to look at, you would consider to be abnormal stuff.
Because you're still looking for that feeling for that satisfaction, which not happening through these small little videos which you have.
Brothers and sisters in Islam. I really intend today to bring our attention to this.
I do not mean
to say that every single person is involved in this. But you could be involved in this. And I'm telling you a lot of people are involved in this.
It's a secret world. Yeah, the government knows about it. Mmm, Brian can indicate in this government mail, Gmail, they know that.
They know all your history, even if you go and delete it, they know it. But regarding your circle, your close circle, nobody knows anything about you. It's between you and Allah Subhana Allah that I don't think the government is going to release any of that stuff. Unless if you go and get in trouble. It's still gonna stay a secret between you and the government. But it's a secret world out there.
A secret world out there. Look, the story that our brother told us.
Remember, Brahim? Imagine this. I read that story before. And it's the version of it is heartbreaking. That these brothers we used to receive the born rule from the grave coming to them from the grave.
They used to cry. This is our friend. And here we are, we're still receiving this from them.
It can get to your life, it can affect you.
Let's talk about the queue for a minute.
What is that you?
First of all, you need to realize that this disease is an addiction.
But in other addiction,
it is an addiction.
And it's actually a very interesting type of addiction, addiction to something that is so accessible.
Right now, wherever you go, you have access to it.
iPhone, smartphones, Samsung Facebook, every place
on the movies, every place
he can escape it. Sometimes actually it happens that you would be doing stuff on the internet, regular stuff. And then you find these clips showing on the site, then you become interested in it. Then it takes you to another clip, then it takes you to another clip, then you find yourself D
he can present it
computers.
The cyber world is becoming
a part of us
who can us holding to our phones.
He can escape it.
Now the problem is if you got hooked on this,
you are literally addictive. You fall into it.
And the treatment brothers and sisters in this lab
number one is to admit this.
A lot of people are in a state of denial. No, that's not me. I'm not doing this. No, you're doing it.
Even when we talk about selling in Islam, committing a sin.
You know, we always go back and reflect upon the
story of Adam and Satan.
And we learned a lot of lessons from that story.
And one of the most important lessons
which we learn
is this very point that I'm trying
to bring out to you
that you actually confess what you don't know
that you're guilty of it.
He says Satan was commanded to Prostrate to Adam. he disobeyed Allah and he refused. He turned down the human
animals commanded not to eat from the tree, he ate from the tree. The question here, why Satan is cursed, even though both of them have sinned. Both of them committed the sin that is obedience. But why Adam was given a second chance, and Satan not because of this, the attitude.
Adam said, Oh, I made a mistake. I'm weak, we're all weak. We were trapped. We're all trapped into this. Some of us got into this without even knowing some of us even did it without even knowing that this is actually addiction,
that it can become a disease that extremely difficult to leave.
You have to rehab yourself for months and months, and train yourself for months and months. Some of us for years and years to come out of it.
You didn't know that. But confess that you're doing it. You cannot be in a state of denial. Now because you go through the history and delete history, then you're done. No, you're still guilty of it before Allah subhanho wa Taala. When Satan was asked, Why didn't you prostrate Moroccan lettuce to the amount? What did he say?
Should you be commanding me to do this?
Adam Adam Kumar until Kuma shujaa.
In the shaitana tomato movie, what did they say Adam and Eve color.
All we didn't we, we made a mistake. Because I'm telling you something. The only one who can protect you from this is a loss of habitat.
We're going to talk about means which you can take. But the only one who can take you out of this is a lot.
You cannot do it on your own. And this is step number two, after you confess regret what you have done wrong.
You will be the last piloti
to take you out of this
because you're sick of it.
And the only one who can choose is Allah subhanho wa Taala were either married or who is fee. And this is why you need to step up out there and say Allah, help me out. Take me out of this.
Now, beside these three steps,
you confess it, you regret it.
And you make dua.
Now it's time to act upon it.
Find out what triggers this.
When do you have the tendency to do this stuff.
That's important because this is a very individual thing. It varies from one person to another, by the way, some of us when they face a problem, they actually run away to this like it when you have a problem with your life with your medical your spouse, and then you'll just run away to the computer.
The person will run away to the computer. Some of us Oh, I have time on my hand. I just want to do it
that some people actually and this is a very interesting piece, especially with the the voted Muslims, and you will be surprised to hear devoted Muslims doing this. Actually, some of them justified this way. I'm not gonna commit adultery.
That's how they actually get themselves into doing this. There is no way I'm gonna commit adultery. And this is the least of the two evils.
So let me just watch that.
So for him, he doesn't want to commit adultery. Now, the way you
To avoid committing adultery is to do this. So, every one of us develop a psychology that triggers
the world that desire
which later on after being addicted, it becomes a must, you must you need it, it's no longer a desire. See, you need to analyze yourself, why am when do I do this?
When do I do this?
Now, try to find alternative for this.
say, Okay, what I become upset, you know what I'm gonna do this in state
instead of this, but you have to figure out when, because I want to stress this, this varies from one person to another.
Now, what else you can do is, do not access the internet alone,
you will find the people who are into this, they spend hours and hours in front of the computer, and they do this embroiders know, get a big screen in the living room somewhere
with
you know, huge resolutions, so everybody would be watching what you're doing, put it in the kitchen,
put it in the living room, stay away from laptops.
If you have a way to prevent this stuff, filter the stuff in your home with your internet service, do this especially for your own kids do this, but try to get supervision from the people around you. This is extremely important. And to this brothers and sisters in Islam, the most important of the more
like we spoke at the very beginning of my talk about the duty the two diseases, the misconceptions, the shughart and the whims and desires a shower
and ale takes care of the first one knowledge, if you will, that you will the first disease which contact This heart is through knowledge that you learn
through the reliable sources, reliable people. But if you want to take care of the second
one he man he man
any image any believes
any to increase your image and imagine cases through the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala
and one of the most important pillars of this deal that can help you should truly take care of this matter is a solid.
Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, in a small data
data in a small data
really fascia
established the salon.
Indeed the salon will help you stop in fact chef will help you stop
some of the brothers and the sisters normally will say yes if I agree, and I'm still doing it.
Athena's Sana
three Salatin maybe
not useful. Now Allah, Allah, Allah, no brainer follows the prophets a lot in setting them up in Asana, the way it should be performed.
Body and Soul, the presence of the heart, it will help you
and then during the day, used to commit sins.
And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was told that at night, he raised the head with
the measures.
Look at the contradiction here. The head You know what? He said some of our lives and the salehoo belaid.
His Salah at night will help him stop his sin one day.
Melissa
when we say addiction
we're talking about
the hunger
tainted
The best parable I'd like to give, you know a spawn,
strange Illa spawn right? When you put a pin a pin on the top of that standard in a sponge and you keep it for a while what happens is the ink ink goes way penetrates exactly, your heart becomes like this with a with an addiction
that your heart suck.
Suck this fitness,
your heart like a sponge, suck that ink. Now for you to take that ink out.
You think it's sufficient to wash that sponge one time?
How many times you have to wash that sponge?
How many times multiple times maybe 10 times maybe 20,
maybe 30 times to remove this incompletely out of the sponge because it's down gave down D
and you know what I'm telling you. Sometimes it will take a trial and field theme, an applied theme and
a lot of the brothers that negotiate I do it for a week and then I come back, I repent for a month, then I come back for six months, I come back, keep trying.
Keep watching this one
mahallesi you would rather receive the Angel of Death crying. When you're trying to stop this, then you submitted he said I'm not going to leave it. I'm going to die with this.
Which is better.
You know, maybe the angel of death will come
and find you in a state when you are actually clean from this.
So you have to keep trying with the Salah that I do that night.
adapt
this young man
when he approached
the swivel the monster dilemma
when he approached the gathering,
the Prophet and his companions
and what did he say your soul Allah, messenger of Allah is barely visible.
Can you give me a permission to commit adultery? embeddedness is asking the prophets or sellers permission to commit adultery.
Of course, the Sahaba the companions of the Prophet looked at them and they're about to beat him up. No, leave him alone.
And he said to this young man wouldn't
come close. And he asked him a series of questions. I thought why
would you like someone to do this model? He said though,
he said willingness, people will not like
someone to do this to the models. Why would you do this? I thought I had the optic. What about your system? Would you like somebody to do this? What about your app? What about your
visit? No. And then at the end there was also a salad made to offer this young man Allahumma
waha sin follow jack
Vitaly
Oh Allah purify his heart. Make him chaste. Make him God His Bride pots.
This man because of that autumn, Debbie Salatu
left the whole thing.
He said the script of women became relevant to me.
I'm no longer interested that
they have to keep up with this brothers and sisters in Islam.
The brothers want to allow question and answer and I will do this.
But
I want to say something at the end.
Brothers not equals
something someone is involved in his.
He should be outcast.
He should be by us.
He should be outcast.
Or he he should be like looked down upon. That's the point I'm trying to make. No.
You know what a lot of good people are involved in this. They are good people.
But they are involved in this. They just got hooked up with it.
And I have an evidence from the son
of
a man, whose name is Abdullah hypno him up, that's his name.
Every time
they bring him to the profits of the Law Center in order to establish how to build
the criminal punishment in Islam for drinking alcohol,
he drinks he gets drunk and every time he is brought to the officer salon to establish the hardener. So one of the people who are there establishing the hibernates Allahu Mallanna.
He often been brought to this, he's brought over and over again.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said about this man whose
alcoholic
is addicted to alcohol. Don't do this.
He loves a lion, his messengers.
Listen, like I said a minute ago, this is a disease.
This is an addiction.
This is an addiction.
Another point to make 100 so impressed by the youth being present in this.
Some of the youth they say
to themselves, because really the the range of the age, according to the study that I came across 13 to 17.
Those are the most curious people,
over 90%
of 13 to 17, expose themselves to this 60 once it comes to feelings.
So what they do,
they want to learn.
And a lot of the Muslim Brothers
at this age group, they say,
Oh, I'm just gonna do this until I get married. And after I get married, I will leave this.
No.
If you fall into this, you become addicted to this and you will do
that phenomena out there that marriage will cue This is low.
Because again, the process of the brain,
the dopamine,
that natural, regular thing doesn't excite you anymore.
What causes the production of that dopamine is the abnormal virtual
that you watch your life
that this is a misconception number one
another misconception.
Brothers and sisters in Islam. A lot of the brothers they justify this by saying well, I want to learn how to do it.
So they actually look at this material to be what kinda educational in how to have a relationship with one spouse, I want to learn more stuff.
You need to understand that your wife or your spouse, or not the time that you watch.
You see, you hardly see kissing. You see remarkable romance in these videos. You see machines, people acting up.
It's it's not. And this is what you want to do in the bedroom with your wife.
That's not the reality. That's not the right thing.
No.
And
a lot of times we find actually brothers expecting the wives or their spouses to do things that they watch,
which is abnormal.
And sometimes it's actually how long to
try to combine everything in those 45 minutes. Allow 15 minutes for question and answer. But like I said, brothers and sisters in Islam, it's a matter that you cannot ignore.
It's a problem in our homes, in our societies that we should not ignore. We should talk about it. We should address it. This is important. Ignore
It is not going to help you is not going to help you. We ask Allah Subhana Allah Allah to protect our youth and our children. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to purify our hearts, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to fill our hearts with Eman and faith so that we overcome such fit in our army inshallah Hello, hello