Channel: Karim Abuzaid
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ilaha illallah wa sallahu la sharika
a shadow a number hamedan Aveda who was
Allahumma salli ala Muhammad Allah Allah Muhammad can also late Allah Ibrahim Allah early Ibrahim NACA Hamid Majeed Allahumma barik ala Muhammad wa ala Muhammad
Allah Ibrahim Ali, Ali Ibrahim, NACA hamidou magit.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam in an authentic hadith he said, Whoever guarantee the protection of two limbs in his body
secure those two limbs.
The private part and that
I will guarantee Jenna for the person
So, no illegal sexual
violation with the tongue.
And in another hurry here for imagine every single day.
All the limbs, big the tongue, please don't get us in trouble.
All the rest of your body parts.
They make a plea to the tongue. Please don't get us in trouble.
Don't do that.
Oh Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one day he actually stuck his tongue out. And he held it like this.
And then later on, he said to
I'm sick I'll
make sure that you have a good control command of the slim.
Then more I've
commented by saying, do people go to Hill because of the tongue?
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said yes it is.
And in another Hadees in our module later kandalama will kalama Mensa hace la la de La Habra, la foto de finetti Sabina halifa how do you choose highly memorable head
that the man or the person will say one word carelessly thinking that this is nothing
that's okay to say that layer up labella
his bill literally what he said
and that kalama will be
the reason for this person to sink to fall down
and travel all the way down to hell the distance of seven years
masala haha the subject is is
when it comes to law have never
made that statement when he said that if there is a limb in your body that you should give a life sentence meaning jail
should be the tongue
and it is a big issue that a lot of fitna
a lot of harm,
a lot of disruption to the Muslim community to their Muslim family. Because he said she said
rumors moving around
or somebody uses the tongue in order to spoil the relationship between two Muslim brothers. He said that about you.
And all of this is
and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam defined a Muslim and we know our Muslim is someone who fulfills the five pillars but he defined the Muslim in a different way when he said Allah Muslim,
and Muslim men Saleemul Muslim una melissani he wired. The Muslim is the one the rest of the Muslims are protected from his hand and his tongue.
This is the true Muslim once it comes to characters
We're talking today about,
of course, you can commit many sins with the tongue.
There witnessing false testimony. That's what the tongue shahadat is Oh, that's the top of the live
spread of rumors.
You walk between two people to spoil the relationship. That is three
other things that you can do with the tongue, curse, cursing,
all of these are Sins of the time
which a person
may commit but today inshallah we want to talk about backbiting and slandering those two,
in brief inshallah.
One day, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked his companions, this question
at the dawn ml ye.
Howdy, sila Muslim Hadith, of the Alon, one day the Prophet addressed his companions and he said to them, Do you know what backbiting is?
Do you know what, what backbiting is?
Of course, you know, normally when somebody who's learned asks a question, you should say, go ahead, you know, answer, because this is in a way, some sort of a conversation and that's how they know that. But if he insists, then you should answer
or if he demands then you should answer so the companion said, Allahu, Allahu Allahu Allah. Or if you don't know you say Allah and His Messenger know best.
Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, backbiting said is the Kuru aha Kamiya Keira
that you say something about your brother in their absence that they do not like?
Be careful here. Look at the next question. What did the companion says? Your rasulillah are a tear in Ken as he
What if I am saying about him about him is correct.
So I'm saying something that is what true.
Here is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam responded by saying in Ghana fee for cada tableta
he's confirming it. If what you're saying about this person is correct.
Then you have bit back bet him. So it's still considered backbiting for you? We're Illa Mia con fee. He What if you're saying about him is not in him is not correct, for cut back?
Then you slandered him.
So slandering, that's when you accuse somebody of something that he did not want to do? Or you say something about him, which is not correct, but what is backbiting? What is the criteria for backbiting here?
What is the criteria for backbiting?
doesn't like is that
so let's say that I don't have knowledge. And I don't like the fact that people saying he doesn't know anything. And you go out there and you say he doesn't know anything.
That's you backed by bitnami.
Now we come to that million dollar questions, which I don't have either I would love to have million dollars, but it's a million dollar question. When it is permissible
to actually say something about somebody
in their absence.
And you have not committed a sin.
Because if you think about it, there are some cases you have to work.
There are some cases I tell you, it's impossible.
Because no one is perfect. We all have shortcomings.
One of the scholars glued them together in six cases.
He said I'll cut the whole laser the rebirth in thesis that in
back biting is not considered backbiting in six cases.
Number one, methodically mean
someone who's wrong
Someone wronged you
you're gonna go to the man
if the man can help you
for sure you're going to say things about this person
that he doesn't want like
or if you happen to go to the police station What are you going to say that you're going to say that this guy is an angel I'm just here to to waste your time.
So you're gonna say what the person did to you but here's the thing that a lot of Muslims do once it comes to this issue. So when when when they go out there and they report somebody so they end up maybe that person did one thing so they end up compiling every bad thing
you know, it's exactly like when you I don't know if you guys ever received this or not when you receive a lawsuit from the you know somebody you find all these accusations allegations The only one allegation is correct.
But you know, they they do that thing is called what you know, when you when you spread the the mud splashed on the on the wall, you're hoping one of them will work.
And it doesn't matter which one he just won't work to hook up what
that is with taqwa comes handy, you know, no tequila,
tequila, what is the evidence that our own person may reveal the wrongdoing of the other person? how light Allah is Allah? La la la hora de su Amina Kohli. Illa Mongolian
Allah Subhana Allah does not like
you to speak that about someone else. Unless you are wrong.
Where the letter will move from Little enamel boo Hurry. Hurry howdy Sabu hora de la Juan. And then came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam ala rasulillah he said O Messenger of Allah in Niger Ebola many my neighbor has wronged me.
So he said to him go and take your household and leave the house and place your household on the street.
And if the people pass by you tell them that your neighbor did this to you.
So of course when you have your household you're homeless you know you're in the street people are gonna pass by you what's what happened after you What? What is your house? Oh, I left the house because of my neighbor he did this and that people would say every time he would say that, Lana hola
you know the people who may Allah Kherson who did this to his neighbor like this? Lana, Houma,
la Houma. Hola. So the neighbor came running to come on, I'm sorry, man, come back, I will not do this again.
But the showerhead, that if you're wrong, you can go ahead. But again, be careful with exceeding
throwing allegations at the person. So this is case scenario number one, Motovun limine. Number two, Mohammed.
ideal scenario here.
He receive a phone call, you're the Imam of this community. You receive a phone call, I know you're married, but we're just going to do it. A tribe is proposing to my daughter, probably your wife is going to hear that and get you in trouble.
Wife is not here
We're going to open that.
So a tie is proposing to my daughter
and he lives in your community.
Would you recommend him as a husband for my wife? For my, for my wife for my daughter?
Would you recommend him as a husband for my daughter?
Now I know Ty
is not I mean, it's all hypothetical.
Should I reveal that to the person or should I hide this away from him?
Answering I should
but I should do it in a way to that I don't attack the honor of the man.
Eros also allow us to send him actually did it in a very interesting way and he teaches us really to be smart when you want any hint.
You know, I don't know him very well. But you know
Maybe you need to think about that.
but you shouldn't be saying oh he does this and he does that and he does this
a woman at the at the time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam received their marriage proposal from two individuals.
So she came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam consulting him so and so proposed to me Should I accept that marriage proposal?
Look as for this one is poof he doesn't have money
if money is a variable that concern
but look at the second as the second one, Abidjan his name he always has a stick in his in his shoulder
laya aulassa on KTP
What does it mean that you have a stick in your shoulder?
Yeah, you want to call it firm? Yeah, that's that's very nice. firm is very nice.
Well, it could it actually in the Arabia, it could mean something, something else that he's never home.
Why because normally when people travel in the desert, they put the water in one side and the food on the other side, and they carry the stick in the shoulder and they are traveling all the time during the visit that means he is not going to be home at all. So a shed is how did the profits or loss eliminate that when you want to report something reports in an intelligent way so that you protecting
the honor of the person
and you're letting the people know that Listen, this is not something that you should go for. So definitely,
it is the right because you see a lot of audio send them a Muslim when he named the lights of a Muslim upon another Muslim. He mentioned five and six.
What are the rights of a Muslim on another Muslim? Can we name these rights?
reduce Allah answering the seller to
you invite you to his food you should accept the invitation three
when he sneezes you say your home cola for
when you sick you visit him when he dies.
You follow his Gen Ed's This is five right? What is the sixth one? Now see what he has done Sokka found
when he seeks sincere naziha from you should give him a sincere Nazi
he shouldn't you know that the man is going to give his daughter and this by the way applies also to
like, you know, when you write your resume
and you know, some people they say yeah, put me as a reference.
And I'm gonna, you know, deceive your employer so that, you know, he can hire you and get in trouble. He shouldn't do that. Even if he's not a Muslim by the way.
Even if he's not a Muslim,
he can just do a favor to somebody when the person is not a good worker. You gotta give a sincere, sincere advice unless if you make an agreement with this man that he will change his pattern of four Will you Will you promise me that you will be a better worker will if I'm going to put my name in there you know, at least free yourself from that responsibility. So, this is what second case I will control a salary but in FY 13 number one matava limin one more irif in one Mojave maarif there are people
Subhana Allah who are known by a certain name
and especially once it comes to the field of Hadith when we studied it
like someone whose name is an hour is known by our our means
one is a large had a large large animal our honey but they became famous because of what
mater well and who
alarma who's in Alma.
diploma to correct so he has a name but Subhanallah that the title the blind over to
so when you say that in no
You are what
you are backbiting the person but you're trying to get the people to know who you're talking about.
one time just to show you that it is based on your intention.
One day, I shot the lavonne and we know the jealousy of the wives.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam brought up the name of Sophia, in front of him, Sophia, the daughter of the Jewish man, if not,
Sophia was known to be what
for she said to the prophets, Allah Allah has mocha in Patiala
be aware because she showed
Rasul Allah Sal looked at her and he said, You have said a word.
If it is to be mixed with the sea water with the ocean, it will change the color because their intention was not what to identify her. Her intention was the jealousy and of
says, Don't do this again.
Sometimes Be careful because you could be
trying to identify the person but in your tone in the way that you're identifying this person. You really ridiculing them
for what they are.
So this is case number three, case number four, most effort in
If you come to the shape, and you want to seek fatwa regarding a situation that happened between you and a brother
Hmm, certainly, you're gonna kill everything that what?
He said that, and they said that, then he did that, then he took my money, then I took his money, then
we have a situation that the wife of Abu sufian
of the law when
she came to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. And she said Dr. rasulillah, in Abba, Sophia, or Julian miseq. Abu sufian is stingy. He doesn't. She's backbiting us, but
marriage is telling the brothers or salad that my husband is what? So that's backbiting but what she's trying to do here she's trying to ask for what a religious ruling, what should they do?
It's okay to do that. But be careful brothers and sisters in Islam. Try to distinguish between when you go to the Imam.
You see, the Imam will give you the verdict or the religious ruling or what we know in Arabi fatwa based on what you tell him.
So if you're lying, if you're not telling the truth, its own you're not on the map. You're getting that
and differentiate between the situation when the Imam has to become a judge.
Like ideally, when when the ladies in the Muslim world lately discovered that ruling regarding Hola.
Hola is right, that the wife can work
can lift lift you that's literally lift you up. That's what if you read it, you literally translate it, like, lift you out, you know that like throw you out. And I will holla
provided that she, you know, doesn't demand some of her rights or she gave up some of the things which she received when they discovered this so they will come to the Imam
and they expect the Imam to give them the hola without hearing the husband.
Be careful. And a lot of Imams and recently by the way, somebody I don't know if you ever heard about this or not in Texas. He actually sued an Imam and he got money from him.
Because he given hola to his wife from him without
contacting him. he sued the email. I don't know how do you do that? But
you know, and that is what because it's true. You have to you have to hear both sides. Listen, you can still grant her the whole
the hula he can. She's entitled to that. Because, you know the wife of one of the community realized he's perfect, but I just want to be with him.
fabric did not isolation mess, his wife came here as well. There is nothing I can say that about him is a good husband, he said, but I just don't agree with him.
He said, Go ahead, give her give her, give him back the dowry and universal.
But you still have to
hear both sides of the story there is a difference between a fatwa and you becoming
a judge that you're ruling over a case but the shed that unless we have one such that in the Quran regarding this, you know, there is a hole such that in the Quran regard the story of who
And actually was tested by that the wood was praying and two Angel jumped.
One Angel, I'm sorry, jumped in a form of a human.
And he started presenting his case, my brother has 99 sheep, and I only have one sheep.
Look, if you really read the Quran, in
the shadow, this eroded away, if you read it out of this world, I mean, just to show you, like the brothers of Houston when they came to their father at night, you know, crying and weeping, and they, you know, they thrown him to the will and they're still crying and all of this. So they are doing like this in action. My brother has 99 sheep. And all what I have is one sheet. And you want to take it away from you, from me.
I mean, what do you need? I mean, this is what a perfect piece.
I mean, that that you could say, that wouldn't be lavalla
He shouldn't have done that. Immediately, immediately, they would realize that he failed the test that he realized that he failed the test. He went down and he said I'm sorry, I shouldn't have done that. I should have listened to what
even the cases what
because each story has two sides and tried. Tried, tried tried that person who will tell it to you in a very emotional and look at the other side, very emotional.
For the the the case here is when you're given a factor, make sure that you let the person know listen, I'm giving you a factor based on what in what you told me. I'm not gonna verify what you're giving me if you're telling me is the truth, then that's the ruling. And I almost do that when somebody calls me if what you're telling me is the truth is the ruling and remember, I'm not a judge here.
Don't go to your husband and say that he mom said that because you know you told me that because I have to hear him too.
But I'm letting you know what you should do.
What is the next case here?
enjoining good and forbidding evil.
You're trying to enjoin good and forbid evil.
Like you see somebody out there in the car is trying to break into one of the cars and you're gonna come and you know that person you will come into the machine and say brothers this this person is doing that. Can you hear in a way that you're backbiting him but you're trying to stop what? Stop evil the last case scenario here insha Allah is warning the community like if there is somebody who you know molest children, someone who sells drugs and he goes around the youth, he should report you should report that to the authorities inshallah. But we should stay away from this as well. We should be constructive now. You see, how do you do it? How do you do it? You see this tongue? If you
have the type of tongue that needs to mumble all the time.
Some people are like that.
Some people like to talk some people's hands. When you sit with them, they do what they want to do.
Now what about engaging with the Quran
engaging with so Panama Alhamdulillah more if the tongue has to work, then get the time to do what?
lick you actually wouldn't make a lot of Massenet
you know, engage in giving down Why Why don't you go if you like to talk to people like this, go to the downtown Washington DC and have one of these podiums and stand out there and act like your your you know, your you know, give power to the people
you know, so, look for a better use of the tongue. If he can work. Some people take it easy they just they hardly speak only
They're asked question that's the best. I mean, that's the safest way. But as a matter of fact, I'd rather use my tongue in beneficial constructive things rather than what destructive things. This is number one. Always Yeah. It takes two to tango.
It's gonna take
you see somebody comes to you.
And he went back by another Muslim in front of you. Right?
What should you do?
What should you do?
defend defend the honor and we have actually a situation
over in Macau. No, I'm sorry can move nomadic one of the three companions who did not join?
He used to be by the way, a very prestigious person in Jay Z.
For suzzallo arias lm remember them and he did not join the battle. So we're sitting with his companions in the book
and cabbies in Medina
for Rasul salatu salam said to his companions, what happened to cap
How come he is not with us?
Then immediately one of the people came and he said yeah Rasul Allah, O Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa Navarro feeling heavy. Like I said, gab used to be
like a king and J. Li, like, he used to be a point. You know, the points are like, they used to be like, like news media out like CNN, like now or Fox, because the people will stand in front of them and they will say that, and they they will influence what they normally are brainstorming. If you want to promote something around your town, you just hire two poets and they will just go around and we'll spread it for you. But
it's likely that the media machine so he used to be very eloquent very prestigious person, that this man is saying your rasulillah
why he's not here because he is busy with his good looks. Basically. He's worrying too much about what
look more admirable is sitting down in front of this
big semicircle. What an awful thing you said about him. When lahia Rasul Allah, Allah, Allah, by Allah messenger of Allah, we only know good things about him
defending the honoree who will Hadith will lie out of the menorah danielda he
was he not imagine if you protect the honor of your brother in his absence? A law will protect your face from Hill in the day of judgment
will sit seniors to
protect the honor of of one another. It is not good to spread these things around in the light on the Sakamoto hayleigh I have to go otherwise the hotel is gonna call me
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