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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
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the Most Merciful.
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All praise is due to Allah, Lord of
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the worlds.
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And peace and blessings be upon the best
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of Allah's creation.
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And upon his family, his companions, and those
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who are guided by his guidance.
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And we await his sunnah until the Day
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of Judgment.
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Allahumma a'allimna ma yanfa'una wa anfa
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'na bima a'allamtana wa zidna a'ilma
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wa arina alhaqqa haqqan warzuqna ittiba'ah wa
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arina albaatila baatilan warzuqna ishtinaabah wa ja'alna
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mimman yastami'una alqawla fa yattabi'una ahsana
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh We
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continue in our series on the lives of
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the sahabiyat and specifically we're going through the
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lives of ummahatul mu'mineen, the mothers of the
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believers, the wives of Rasool Allah ﷺ.
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And so we move on to the sixth
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of the wives that the Prophet ﷺ married.
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And today we're going to be with Umm
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Salamah radiallahu anha.
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Umm Salamah radiallahu anha.
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Umm Salamah was actually her kunyah, her nickname
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that she was known by.
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Her real name is Hind bint Abi Umayyah.
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Hind bint Abi Umayyah ibn al-Mughirah.
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Ibn al-Mughirah from the family of Banu
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Makhzum, which was one of the families of
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Quraysh.
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And so she was born about 25 to
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30 years before the hijrah.
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And her father, Abi Umayyah ibn al-Mughirah,
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was one of the noble men of Quraysh
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and one of their leaders.
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He was a very wealthy businessman and he
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was very generous.
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He was known, one of his nicknames was
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Zad al-Rakib, which means the one who
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would provide for the travelers.
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This was because whenever he would go on
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a journey and he had people with him,
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he wouldn't allow anyone to eat anything they
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brought.
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He would pay the expenses and provide the
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food for every person in that journey.
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So this was her father.
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And by the way, her father was the
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brother of al-Waleed ibn al-Mughirah.
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al-Waleed ibn al-Mughirah, the father of
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Khalid ibn al-Waleed.
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The father of Khalid ibn al-Waleed.
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So she is a cousin of Khalid ibn
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al-Waleed.
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As for her mother, she was Atika bint
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Amir ibn Rabi'ah.
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Atika bint Amir ibn Rabi'ah, also from
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Quraysh.
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So we see how Um Salama radiallahu anha
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came from a noble family of Quraysh, and
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she was brought up in this noble household.
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She had a father who was known for
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being generous, and so on.
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Now Um Salama radiallahu anha was initially married
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to Abu Salama.
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She was initially married to Abu Salama.
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And this was even from before Islam.
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And so both of them were among the
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early Muslims in Mecca.
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They accepted Islam very early on.
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His real name, Abu Salama, his real name
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was Abdullah ibn Abdul Asad.
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And his mother was Barra bint Abdul Muttalib.
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Barra bint Abdul Muttalib, the aunt.
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The aunt of Rasool Allah ﷺ.
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His paternal aunt.
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Abu Salama was also the foster brother of
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Rasool Allah ﷺ.
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So they were breastfed by the same woman.
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So we can see how close Abu Salama
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was to the Prophet ﷺ.
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And so Abu Salama with his wife Um
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Salama, they were very devoted to Islam from
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the very beginning.
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And so since they were among the early
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Muslims, they faced what all the other Muslims
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faced in those early days of Islam, of
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opposition and persecution from their own people and
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their own families.
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As a result, Rasool Allah ﷺ permitted the
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Muslims who were being persecuted, he permitted them
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to migrate on the very first migration, and
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that was to Habesha, Abyssinia.
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And so among the first batch to migrate
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was Um Salama and Abu Salama.
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They were in the first batch to migrate
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to Abyssinia.
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Um Salama, she narrates the story, she says,
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when Mecca became unbearable to live in, and
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the companions of Rasool Allah ﷺ were persecuted
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all for the sake of their deen, and
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they knew that Rasool Allah ﷺ was unable
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to do anything about it, while he was
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protected by his uncle, meaning Abu Talib, and
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none of that which was happening to the
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companions was happening to him, it was then
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that Rasool Allah ﷺ said to them, that
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in the land of Abyssinia there is a
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king whom no one is dealt with unjustly.
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So go to his land, so that Allah
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can grant you relief from that which you
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are currently in.
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She says, so we went there, and we
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ended up in the best land, under the
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best protection, safe with our deen, not fearing
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any oppression.
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So she lived there with her husband, and
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then there was news that the initial persecution
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was kind of decreasing, because certain individuals started
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joining the Muslims, like Umar ibn al-Khattab,
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bringing some power to the Muslims.
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So they ended up coming back to Mecca.
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They ended up coming back to Mecca, however
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they realized that the persecution was still continuing.
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And so they stayed for some time, until
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the major hijrah was announced, and that was
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the hijrah to Medina.
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So now Um Salama, radiallahu anha, along with
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her husband Abu Salama, and their baby son,
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so now they had a son that was
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about two years old, and this was Salama.
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The three of them, they planned to make
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the hijrah together.
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However, this was stopped, when the families of
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both Abu Salama and Um Salama, they found
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out of their plan.
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So they came, and they prevented them.
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Now this is a very very inspiring story,
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so let us hear it from Um Salama
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radiallahu anha.
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She says, We came back from Abyssinia, and
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my husband wanted to go to Abyssinia again.
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But he heard that Medina was the new
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destination for hijrah, and that there are some
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Muslims there right now, so he decided to
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take his family and go to Medina.
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So he got me on a camel, and
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put my son on my lap, and we
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were ready to leave Mecca.
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But then my family came to me and
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said, We're not going to allow you to
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go with your husband.
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We're not going to allow him to take
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you with him to that foreign land.
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So they pulled me away from my husband.
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So now her family prevents her from leaving.
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She says, when Banu al-Asad, basically the
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family of Abu Salama, when they heard this,
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they came, and they stepped in, and they
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said, Well, if you're going to prevent her
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from going with her husband, then we're not
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going to allow you to take the child.
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So basically they were going to keep Um
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Salama with them, but now what about the
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child?
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Salama, the child, was with her.
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But the family of Abu Salama, they said,
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we have more right to this child than
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you do.
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So they started to pull the child.
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It's mentioned in some narrations that they were
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pulling till Salama's arm broke, his shoulder got
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dislodged.
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And so the family of Abu Salama, they
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end up taking the child.
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As for Abu Salama, then he was free
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to go.
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So he left for Medina.
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He left for Medina, all by himself.
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So now you have Abu Salama separated from
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Um Salama, and they're both separated from their
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son.
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And so Abu Salama leaves to Medina, and
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Um Salama, along with her son, are in
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Mecca, but separated.
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Um Salama, she says, I would go out
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every day in the morning to the outskirts
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of Mecca, basically that place where they were
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separated.
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And I would sit on a rock and
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cry for hours.
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And I would do that on a daily
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basis.
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And this continued for about a year.
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And so imagine this woman, missing her husband,
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missing her child, completely devastated.
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She says, so then one of Banu al
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-Maghira, basically my relatives, she said one of
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my relatives, saw the condition I was in,
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this depressed condition I was in, crying every
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day.
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And so he came, he was someone who
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pitied her.
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And he came and he said to my
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family, will you not have any mercy and
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sympathy on this woman?
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Allow her to go and join her husband.
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So they finally agreed.
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And they told Um Salama, you're free to
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go and join your husband if you wish
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to do so.
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So now when the family of Abu Salama
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heard about that, they handed over the child,
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Salama, to her.
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And they said, now you can go and
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join your husband.
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So finally, the relief from Allah subhanahu wa
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ta'ala came.
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And she now has her son with her.
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And so she picked up her son.
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She mounted a camel.
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And she started making her journey to Medina
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all alone.
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She had no one with her.
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Imagine, a woman all by herself, traveling in
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the desert.
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And this is, we're talking about a distance
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between Mecca and Medina.
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A distance of more than 450 kilometers.
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In those days, it would take some 10
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to 12 days for that journey.
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So she started heading out.
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And when she reached a place called Tan
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'im, this is just a few kilometers outside
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of Mecca, on the boundary of the Haram
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land.
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When she reached there, there was a very
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noble man from Quraysh.
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Uthman ibn Talha.
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Uthman ibn Talha.
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He saw her.
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And when he saw her, he recognized her.
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And he said, Daughter of Abu Umayyah, where
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are you heading?
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She said, I'm going to Medina.
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He asked, do you have anyone accompanying you?
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She said, no, but I have Allah and
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this son of mine.
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He said, in that case, I will accompany
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you.
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It's not appropriate to leave you alone on
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this long journey.
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Now, Uthman ibn Talha was a mushrik at
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that time.
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But he saw this woman and he felt
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sympathy for her.
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And he wanted to help her out.
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And she was not just any ordinary woman.
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She was, you know, from this noble family
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of Quraysh.
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Umm Salama, she says, I swear I have
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never been in the company of any Arab
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more noble than him.
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Whenever we would make a stop, he would
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make my camel kneel, and then he would
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move away until I dismounted.
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Then he would come back and take the
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camel and tie it.
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Then he would leave and sleep under a
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tree far away from me.
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Next day in the morning, he would bring
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my camel, prepare the saddle, and then he
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would call me to come and mount.
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And then he would leave.
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When I was on the camel, he would
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come back and then he would guide me
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throughout the journey.
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She says he continued doing that throughout the
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journey until we reached the outskirts of Medina.
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And we could see Qubah in the distance.
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So Qubah was just outside of Medina.
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That is where the Prophet ﷺ first arrived
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in his own hijrah.
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And that is where he built Masjid Qubah
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before continuing and entering into Medina itself.
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So she says, once we reached the outskirts
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of Medina, we could see Qubah in the
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distance.
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He pointed to Qubah and he said, you
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see that village over there?
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That is where your husband is.
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That is where your husband is.
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Basically Abu Salamah was staying there at the
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time.
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And he said, now you're on your own.
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And then he left, returning to Mecca.
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Umm Salamah she comments on Uthman ibn Talha.
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She says, I know of no other family
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in Islam who suffered like that of Abu
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Salamah.
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Meaning our own family.
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And I swear I have never had a
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more noble companion than Uthman ibn Talha.
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And so she said this because she was
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impressed by him.
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Even though we have to understand there was
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this enmity between the Muslims and the Kuffar
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of Quraysh.
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Right?
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There was this animosity and enmity.
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And here you had Uthman ibn Talha who
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was not a Muslim.
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He went out of his way to accompany
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a woman who's leaving Mecca.
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Which was a big no-no.
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You weren't supposed to leave Mecca for Medina.
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And you weren't supposed to be helping anyone
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to do that.
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And so he went out of his way
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and helped her in this noble way.
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And so she was impressed by it and
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she appreciated it.
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Uthman ibn Talha, he would later on become
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a Muslim after most of the prominent members
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of his family were killed in the Battle
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of Uhud.
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And he was also from the family who
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were the keepers of the keys of the
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Kaaba.
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And Rasulullah ﷺ kept the keys with them
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after he conquered Mecca.
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And the keys are actually still with them
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till this very day.
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The family of Banu Abd al-Dar.
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The family of Banu Abd al-Dar.
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Now before continuing, there are two lessons that
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we can learn from this story.
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The first lesson is that when Iman settles
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deep in the heart it becomes impossible for
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a person to put forward anything at the
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cost of his Iman.
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Even if it is something as dear as
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his family being separated from him.
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So Abu Salama, he did not cave into
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the pressure when he was forcibly separated from
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his wife and his child.
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He continued on his Hijrah because that was
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a part of his Iman.
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We have to understand in those days when
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the Hijrah was announced everyone had to leave
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Mecca to make Hijrah migrate to Medina.
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And no one was excused except those who
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were unable to.
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They were being held back.
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Like as we saw Umm Salama herself.
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But they did not stop him.
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Abu Salama, they didn't stop him from leaving.
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So he said, you know, as long as
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I'm free, then I'm not going to stay
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behind.
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But that was a huge sacrifice, right?
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It was a huge sacrifice.
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He could have said, well, let me stay
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behind with my wife and my child.
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I'll be excused.
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But he understood that no, Hijrah was mandatory
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on everyone.
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And so he made this huge sacrifice.
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And by doing so, he was victorious over
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the enemies of Islam because the only reason
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they did that was they thought that perhaps
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it would make him change his mind and
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make him stay behind.
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The second lesson that we learn is that
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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will always make
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a way out for those who fear Him.
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For those who fear Him, for those who
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have Taqwa of Allah.
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Iman and Taqwa.
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وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مَخْرَجًا And whoever
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has the Taqwa of Allah, whoever fears Allah,
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Allah will make a way out for him.
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And so Umm Salama was determined to make
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that long and dangerous journey in the middle
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of the desert, even if on her own,
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right?
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She was prepared to do that.
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So as a result, Allah subhanahu wa ta
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'ala sent her someone who would accompany her
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and give her protection.
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And so this is how Allah takes care
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of His believing servants, right?
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When you do things for the sake of
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Allah, then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will
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make a way out for you, will make
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things easy for you.
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And we also see in this story the
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Fitrah and how it acted in the heart
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of Uthman ibn Talha, which is what later
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led him to accept Islam.
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So now, Umm Salama radiallahu anha is reunited
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with her family and they enjoy each other's
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company in their new home in Medina.
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And now they end up having three more
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children, Umar, Zaynab and Ruqayyah.
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So now they have four children, along with
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Salama.
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And Abu Salama, he went on to participate
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in the Battle of Badr, which was in
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the second year of the Hijrah.
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And then the following year, he participated in
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the Battle of Uhud.
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And it was in the Battle of Uhud
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that he was injured.
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He did not die in the battle, but
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he was badly injured.
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And after the battle he was being treated
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for his injury.
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And then Rasulullah ﷺ sent him on a
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military expedition.
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So his wound was getting healed, but then
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it ruptured again.
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And when he came back, basically his health
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deteriorated and he soon passed away after that.
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Now before he passed away, Abu Salama had
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an interesting conversation with his wife, Um Salama.
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He said to her, if a husband dies
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and his wife does not get married after
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him, they would be brought together again in
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Jannah.
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That is if both of them are destined
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to go to Jannah.
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If a husband dies and his wife does
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not get married after him, they would be
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brought together again in Jannah, if they are
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both destined for Jannah.
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So he made an agreement with Um Salama
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that if either of them dies first, the
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other one will not get married again.
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So Um Salama, she agreed.
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But then Abu Salama, he changed his mind.
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So he thought about it and he realized
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that, no, for the sake of Um Salama,
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if I pass away before her, it is
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best for her to get married, for someone
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to be there for her, not only for
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her but also our children.
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So he said no.
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I asked Allah that if I die, he
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replaces me with someone better for you who
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will marry you and will not harm you
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or hurt you.
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Um Salama, she then said, and who could
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possibly be better than Abu Salama?
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She couldn't imagine that there was someone who
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could possibly be better than him, in terms
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of his deen, his nobility.
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He had so many good qualities, among the
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first to embrace Islam, having made hijrah to
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Abyssinia and then later on to Medina, and
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then fought in both of the major battles,
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and now he's passing away from that wound.
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And so this tells us that they had
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a very strong relationship and a very loving
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relationship.
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And so he ends up passing away, and
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now Um Salama radiAllahu anha, she is all
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alone with her small children, and she had
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no other family with her.
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Remember her family, they were non-Muslims, and
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they were back in Mecca.
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Her only main source of support was Abu
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Salama.
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And so Um Salama, she goes to the
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Prophet ﷺ, and she tells him that Abu
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Salama has passed away.
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So Rasulullah ﷺ told her, he basically told
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her to say the following du'a.
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What was this du'a?
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He said, Say, Oh Allah, reward
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me for this calamity that I'm going through,
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and replace it with something better.
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So she made this du'a.
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In another narration, Um Salama says, that I
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once heard the Prophet ﷺ say, that there
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is no Muslim who is struck with a
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calamity.
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And then he says, what Allah has told
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us to say, And then he says, The
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same du'a, Oh Allah, reward me for
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my calamity, and compensate me with something better.
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Whoever says this, the Prophet ﷺ said, Allah
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will compensate him with something better.
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It is a promise from Allah.
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She says, So when Abu Salama passed away,
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I asked, who among the Muslims could possibly
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have been better than Abu Salama?
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The first household to migrate, to join the
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Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
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But then I said it.
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So initially, she had this hesitation, wondering, you
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know, who could possibly be better than Abu
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Salama?
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What's the point of me saying this?
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She says, Then I said it.
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And Allah ﷻ compensated me, replaced for me,
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none other than Rasulullah ﷺ.
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And so we learn a huge lesson in
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submission here.
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Losing a loved one is a huge calamity.
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And it tests a person in the most
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extreme way.
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But here, Um Salama, she didn't just lose
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anyone.
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She lost a husband who meant everything to
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her.
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So she couldn't imagine any other person in
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the world who could possibly fill his place
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in a better way.
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But then when we are told something by
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Allah and His Messenger, we have to believe
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it.
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Putting our own opinions and thoughts and emotions
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to the side.
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And that is exactly what Um Salama did.
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It was the unwavering iman of Um Salama
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that made her to say that dua with
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certainty.
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Right?
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She said it because of her iman.
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She said it knowing that whatever Rasulullah ﷺ
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tells us, it is true.
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Right?
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It is true.
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Even if I cannot seem to make sense
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of it.
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Right?
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So that's the lesson we learn from this.
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That there are certain things that sometimes we
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cannot make sense of.
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But as long as Allah and His Messenger
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have said it, then we have to submit.
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Because there is a wisdom in it.
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But we may not see it.
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And it could be that we may never
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see it.
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But there is good in it.
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And so, she said it with iman, with
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yaqeen, this dua.
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Basically she is saying, Oh Allah, replace for
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me something better than what I have lost.
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And so, look at how that resulted in
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Allah blessing her with a companion better than
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anything she could have imagined Rasulullah ﷺ himself.
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Right?
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Abu Salama, he has his virtues.
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He was a righteous believer.
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Right?
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There is no doubt about his goodness and
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his righteousness and all of his other virtues.
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But in the end of the day, there
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is no comparison between him and Rasulullah ﷺ.
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So, how did it happen?
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After her waiting period of four months and
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ten days, the waiting period for a widow
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whose husband passes away, she has to wait
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four months and ten days before she marries
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someone else.
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Once that was completed, she started receiving proposals.
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And this was due to who she was
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and the family she comes from, etc.
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So initially, it was Abu Bakr ﷺ who
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came and proposed to marry her.
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But she declined.
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Then Umar ibn al-Khattab came proposing to
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her.
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And she, once again, declined.
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And then, the Prophet ﷺ sent someone to
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propose for him.
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And she said, I welcome that, but tell
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Rasulullah ﷺ that I am a very, very
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jealous woman and I have young children.
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And on top of that, none of my
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male relatives are present to marry me off
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to him.
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So, she agreed, but she wanted Rasulullah ﷺ
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to know her condition.
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That first of all, she's a very jealous
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woman.
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And Rasulullah ﷺ was already married to several
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wives.
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And she was afraid that maybe she would
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do something that would, as a result of
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her jealousy, that would anger the Prophet ﷺ
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and then she would be punished by Allah.
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And she mentioned that she had young children
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who might be a burden for the Prophet
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ﷺ.
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And she mentioned that she did not have
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any wali to marry her to him.
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So the Prophet ﷺ said, you said that
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you have children, Allah will take care of
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those children.
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And you said you are very jealous, and
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so I am going to ask Allah to
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take that jealousy away.
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As for the walis who are absent, and
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those who are dead, then none of them
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would refuse to marry you to me.
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Basically, none of them would have any objection
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to me marrying you.
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In one narration, it says that Umm Salama
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said, I agree, but I am getting old.
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Right?
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I am getting old.
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Now, Umm Salama was basically making excuses.
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Right?
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How old was she?
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She was in her 30s only.
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She was only in her 30s.
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But she was saying that, O Messenger of
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Allah, there are other women who are younger
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than me who you can marry.
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So when she said, I am getting old,
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the Prophet ﷺ said, if you are old,
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then I am older than you.
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But all of this shows us that the
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00:34:16
intention of Rasulullah ﷺ behind this marriage, and
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many other marriages, as we have seen so
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far, was not as the enemies of Islam
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claim.
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Right?
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But rather, he married for the sake of
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00:34:30
the Deen.
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And so, Umm Salama, she would go on
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to be the second most narrator of hadith
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from the women after Aisha ﷺ.
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And so she conveyed this knowledge from the
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00:34:48
Prophet ﷺ, which no one else could.
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00:34:50
Right?
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00:34:51
So this was one of the reasons that
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00:34:54
we mentioned in the marriage of Aisha ﷺ.
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00:34:58
And this is also one of the reasons
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00:35:00
the Prophet ﷺ married Umm Salama.
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00:35:02
She was known for her intelligence, for her
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00:35:05
knowledge, for her wisdom, as we are going
00:35:05 -->
00:35:05
to see.
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00:35:08
And on top of that, she was widowed.
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00:35:10
Right?
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00:35:13
And the Prophet ﷺ cared about his companions.
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00:35:14
He cared about them.
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00:35:17
And when he saw that she has no
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00:35:20
one to take care of her, he married
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00:35:20
her.
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00:35:25
Now, the Prophet ﷺ married Umm Salama and
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00:35:29
said, I'm going to give you your mahr,
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00:35:33
your dowry, equal to that which I gave
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00:35:34
to Zaynab.
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00:35:38
So if you recall, the last of the
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00:35:41
wives of the Prophet ﷺ that we covered
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00:35:44
was Zaynab bint Khuzaymah.
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00:35:47
Zaynab bint Khuzaymah.
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00:35:50
And the Prophet ﷺ had just recently married
00:35:50 -->
00:35:53
her, and she had passed away.
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00:35:56
And so the Prophet ﷺ said, I'm going
00:35:56 -->
00:35:59
to give you furniture equal to that which
00:35:59 -->
00:35:59
I gave to Zaynab.
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00:36:01
So what was this furniture?
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00:36:06
You know, today we go to furniture shops
00:36:06 -->
00:36:09
and we buy all kinds of things for
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00:36:10
a newly wed couple.
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00:36:12
But let's see what the Prophet ﷺ got
00:36:12 -->
00:36:13
for Umm Salama.
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00:36:16
Keeping in mind that he is the best
00:36:16 -->
00:36:17
of mankind.
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00:36:21
Keeping in mind that by now he wasn't
00:36:21 -->
00:36:22
poor.
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00:36:25
From all of these battles that he had
00:36:25 -->
00:36:28
fought, there was income coming in.
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00:36:32
So he could have easily spent most of
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00:36:34
that money on his family.
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00:36:36
And no one would have complained.
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00:36:38
After all, he is the Messenger of Allah.
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00:36:42
He deserved to live in a comfortable way.
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00:36:48
He said, he ﷺ said to her, I
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00:36:50
will give you no less than what I
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00:36:51
gave to Zaynab.
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00:36:55
I will give you two stone mills, stone
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00:36:59
mills, which they used to make flour with.
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00:37:03
I'll give you two stone mills, two clay
00:37:03 -->
00:37:06
jars, and pillows stuffed with leaf.
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00:37:08
That's it.
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00:37:10
That was it.
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00:37:14
He is our example and we should follow
00:37:14 -->
00:37:17
in his footsteps, which Muslims today have unfortunately
00:37:17 -->
00:37:18
abandoned.
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00:37:22
When we marry off our children, we spend
00:37:23 -->
00:37:24
extravagantly on them.
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00:37:28
We're talking about crazy amounts.
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00:37:33
So anyways, this would now make Umm Salama
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00:37:36
the sixth wife of the Prophet ﷺ.
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00:37:40
Now we mentioned, Umm Salama was known for
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00:37:45
her intelligence, her knowledge, her wisdom.
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00:37:50
And there are many examples of this, but
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00:37:52
we'll mention one example of this.
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00:37:58
And this is a very famous example that
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00:38:04
took place during the Sulh al-Hudaibiyah.
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00:38:08
The treaty of Hudaibiyah.
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00:38:14
And so in the sixth year of the
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00:38:18
Hijrah, in the sixth year of the Hijrah,
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00:38:20
so we're talking about two or three years
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00:38:27
after the marriage, the Prophet ﷺ left with
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00:38:33
the companions for Mecca, intending on performing Umrah.
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00:38:37
And he took Umm Salama with him.
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00:38:42
When they reached close to Mecca, they were
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00:38:45
prevented by Quraysh from entering Mecca.
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00:38:48
So they camped outside Mecca at a place
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00:38:49
known as Hudaibiyah.
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00:38:53
And this was where they started to have
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00:38:55
negotiations with Quraysh.
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00:39:00
So Quraysh sent their envoys to meet the
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00:39:01
Prophet ﷺ.
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00:39:04
And there was a back and forth.
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00:39:08
Basically, they entered into a peace treaty.
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00:39:13
And this peace treaty became known as the
00:39:13 -->
00:39:15
treaty of Hudaibiyah.
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00:39:17
And so in the end, it was decided
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00:39:22
that the Muslims would not perform Umrah on
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00:39:26
this journey in this year, but rather they
00:39:26 -->
00:39:29
would be allowed to come back the following
00:39:29 -->
00:39:30
year to make Umrah.
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00:39:37
But this was extremely difficult for the Muslims
00:39:37 -->
00:39:38
to digest.
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00:39:44
Imagine the Muslims who had left their homes
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00:39:47
from Medina with the intention of performing Umrah,
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00:39:53
and they were still in their Ihram, and
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00:39:55
now you're telling them they have to go
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00:39:57
back to Medina?
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00:40:00
It was a tense situation.
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00:40:02
They felt that they had been humiliated by
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00:40:04
being prevented from entering Mecca.
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00:40:08
This by an enemy who they felt that
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00:40:10
they had finally overpowered.
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00:40:12
And they were about to defeat.
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00:40:15
We had the battle of Badr, then Uhud,
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00:40:18
then after that the next major battle was
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00:40:23
the battle of Ahzab, in which Quraysh left
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00:40:24
humiliated.
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00:40:29
So the Muslims felt that the balance of
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00:40:32
power was turning in their favor, and we
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00:40:35
should just enter Mecca with our weapons, and
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00:40:37
let's just force our way in.
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00:40:41
So now they're told that no, they have
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00:40:42
to return back to Medina.
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00:40:44
And so they felt that this was a
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00:40:48
setback, and they didn't know how they could
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00:40:50
return to Medina.
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00:40:56
So now, Rasulullah ﷺ, who is being guided
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00:41:00
by Allah, he tells his companions to start
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00:41:01
packing up.
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00:41:07
And he orders them to cancel their state
00:41:07 -->
00:41:09
of Ihram that they were in.
00:41:09 -->
00:41:10
How?
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00:41:12
How do you get out of the state
00:41:12 -->
00:41:12
of Ihram?
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00:41:13
By shaving your heads.
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00:41:17
So he told them, he gave them instructions.
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00:41:21
Everyone, shave your heads, and slaughter your animals
00:41:21 -->
00:41:22
that you brought.
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00:41:24
So your sacrificial animals.
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00:41:27
But you don't do that until after you're
00:41:27 -->
00:41:28
done Umrah or Hajj.
00:41:29 -->
00:41:29
Right?
00:41:32 -->
00:41:34
So the Prophet ﷺ gave them these instructions,
00:41:35 -->
00:41:37
and not a single person moved.
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00:41:39
Imagine that.
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00:41:45
Whenever Rasulullah ﷺ would order his companions to
00:41:45 -->
00:41:48
do anything, they would immediately rush to it.
00:41:49 -->
00:41:50
Without any hesitation.
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00:41:54
But this time no one moved.
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00:41:56
So he said it again.
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00:41:58
And again no one got up.
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00:42:03
The third time, and once again, not a
00:42:03 -->
00:42:08
single man moved when they refused to comply
00:42:08 -->
00:42:09
by his orders.
00:42:12 -->
00:42:12
Right?
00:42:13 -->
00:42:14
And he wasn't used to this.
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00:42:16
The Prophet ﷺ was not used to this.
00:42:18 -->
00:42:22
And so when he, when they refused, he
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00:42:27
went into his tent, and who was there?
00:42:28 -->
00:42:30
Um Salama رضي الله عنها.
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00:42:32
He was angry.
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00:42:35
And she could see the anger in his
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00:42:35
face.
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00:42:36
She asked him, what happened?
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00:42:42
So he said to her, you know, my
00:42:42 -->
00:42:45
companions, they are destroying themselves.
00:42:46 -->
00:42:48
I have given them an order, and they
00:42:48 -->
00:42:49
have disobeyed.
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00:42:54
Obviously, you know, when we talk about their
00:42:54 -->
00:42:59
disobedience here, it doesn't mean that their disobedience
00:42:59 -->
00:43:01
was one of stubbornness.
00:43:01 -->
00:43:05
Like, you know, Ahlul Kitab, like how Bani
00:43:05 -->
00:43:07
Israel were to Musa ﷺ.
00:43:07 -->
00:43:07
Right?
00:43:08 -->
00:43:13
Where they said, قَالُوا سَمِعْنَا وَعَصَيْنَا We hear
00:43:13 -->
00:43:14
what you are saying, but we are disobeying
00:43:14 -->
00:43:14
you.
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00:43:15
No.
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00:43:17
It wasn't the same.
00:43:18 -->
00:43:22
The scholars mentioned that the Sahaba here were
00:43:22 -->
00:43:23
only hesitating a bit.
00:43:25 -->
00:43:30
They were waiting in hope that perhaps the
00:43:30 -->
00:43:33
Prophet ﷺ will receive some revelation that would
00:43:33 -->
00:43:35
change the situation at hand.
00:43:35 -->
00:43:37
And that maybe there is a glimpse of
00:43:37 -->
00:43:42
hope that we might be able to continue
00:43:42 -->
00:43:43
our Umrah.
00:43:43 -->
00:43:46
They were just hoping that the Prophet ﷺ
00:43:46 -->
00:43:47
would change his mind or that Allah would
00:43:49 -->
00:43:53
basically cancel that order, and so that's why
00:43:53 -->
00:43:53
they weren't moving.
00:43:54 -->
00:43:58
So anyways, when the Prophet ﷺ told Umm
00:43:58 -->
00:44:03
Salama what happened, look at her wisdom.
00:44:04 -->
00:44:05
Look at her wisdom.
00:44:06 -->
00:44:10
She said, O Messenger of Allah, they have
00:44:10 -->
00:44:12
gone through what you can see.
00:44:12 -->
00:44:13
They've been through a lot.
00:44:16 -->
00:44:17
They've been through a lot.
00:44:18 -->
00:44:19
This is very difficult for them.
00:44:20 -->
00:44:23
So don't talk to them about it, but
00:44:23 -->
00:44:25
rather if you want them to follow your
00:44:25 -->
00:44:29
order, then go out and do it yourself
00:44:29 -->
00:44:30
in front of them.
00:44:32 -->
00:44:35
So basically, actions speak louder than words.
00:44:37 -->
00:44:38
That's what she was telling him.
00:44:40 -->
00:44:40
Right?
00:44:41 -->
00:44:46
So the Prophet ﷺ, he went out without
00:44:46 -->
00:44:47
saying a word to anyone.
00:44:49 -->
00:44:51
And he had his shaver, the one who
00:44:51 -->
00:44:54
would shave him, he called him, and he
00:44:54 -->
00:44:57
had his own head shaved, and then he
00:44:57 -->
00:45:01
slaughtered his camels, and then he sat down,
00:45:01 -->
00:45:07
and when he did that, everyone immediately got
00:45:07 -->
00:45:09
up and carried out his orders.
00:45:12 -->
00:45:12
Why?
00:45:14 -->
00:45:17
Because now it was obvious that there's no
00:45:17 -->
00:45:19
way we're going to complete our Umrah.
00:45:20 -->
00:45:22
There's no way that there's going to be
00:45:22 -->
00:45:23
a change here.
00:45:24 -->
00:45:24
Right?
00:45:24 -->
00:45:26
If the Prophet ﷺ has shaved his head,
00:45:26 -->
00:45:27
then that's it.
00:45:27 -->
00:45:31
There's no, it basically shattered their hopes.
00:45:31 -->
00:45:34
And they knew that there's no turning back
00:45:34 -->
00:45:34
now.
00:45:34 -->
00:45:36
You know, we have to go back to
00:45:36 -->
00:45:36
Medina now.
00:45:38 -->
00:45:40
And so this incident, it really shows us
00:45:40 -->
00:45:43
something of the personality of Umm Salamah.
00:45:44 -->
00:45:47
You know, it shows us her problem-solving
00:45:47 -->
00:45:47
skills.
00:45:48 -->
00:45:50
It shows us her intelligence, her wisdom.
00:45:51 -->
00:45:54
In a very difficult, intense situation, look at
00:45:54 -->
00:45:58
how she calmed down the best of creation,
00:45:58 -->
00:45:59
Rasulullah ﷺ.
00:45:59 -->
00:46:03
And then how she also guided him on
00:46:03 -->
00:46:04
what he should do.
00:46:05 -->
00:46:07
Even though he was the Messenger of Allah,
00:46:08 -->
00:46:10
and the most knowledgeable, and the most wise
00:46:10 -->
00:46:11
of this Ummah.
00:46:12 -->
00:46:17
But sometimes, Allah ﷻ conceals certain things from
00:46:17 -->
00:46:20
him so that he could learn from others.
00:46:21 -->
00:46:22
Right?
00:46:22 -->
00:46:23
And this was not the only time.
00:46:24 -->
00:46:27
There were many other incidents in the life
00:46:27 -->
00:46:31
of the Prophet ﷺ where he wouldn't know
00:46:31 -->
00:46:32
what to do.
00:46:32 -->
00:46:32
Right?
00:46:33 -->
00:46:35
Because Allah would not tell him what to
00:46:35 -->
00:46:36
do in a particular situation.
00:46:38 -->
00:46:40
This shows us that he was a human
00:46:40 -->
00:46:41
being in the end of the day.
00:46:42 -->
00:46:42
Right?
00:46:43 -->
00:46:48
And it also shows us that Allah ﷻ
00:46:48 -->
00:46:52
wanted to teach the Ummah that he was
00:46:52 -->
00:46:53
a human being in the end of the
00:46:53 -->
00:46:53
day.
00:46:54 -->
00:46:56
And there are times when he has to
00:46:56 -->
00:46:57
make his own decisions.
00:46:57 -->
00:46:58
Right?
00:46:58 -->
00:47:02
We saw that for example in the battle
00:47:02 -->
00:47:03
of Ahzab.
00:47:04 -->
00:47:07
When the enemy was coming and the Prophet
00:47:07 -->
00:47:09
ﷺ didn't know what to do.
00:47:09 -->
00:47:10
What should we do?
00:47:11 -->
00:47:14
So it was Salman al-Farisi who gave
00:47:14 -->
00:47:16
him the idea to build the trench.
00:47:17 -->
00:47:18
He said this is what we do back
00:47:18 -->
00:47:18
in Persia.
00:47:19 -->
00:47:21
And this was unknown to the Arabs.
00:47:22 -->
00:47:24
So he gave him that idea and the
00:47:24 -->
00:47:26
Prophet ﷺ liked it and immediately they dug
00:47:26 -->
00:47:27
the trench.
00:47:27 -->
00:47:29
The point is that we see how sometimes
00:47:29 -->
00:47:31
the Prophet ﷺ would not know what to
00:47:31 -->
00:47:31
do.
00:47:32 -->
00:47:36
And it would be his companions who would
00:47:36 -->
00:47:38
give him suggestions and advice and in this
00:47:38 -->
00:47:41
case it was his wife Umm Salama رضي
00:47:41 -->
00:47:42
الله عنها.
00:47:42 -->
00:47:45
And we also see how the Prophet ﷺ
00:47:45 -->
00:47:46
did not act arrogantly here.
00:47:47 -->
00:47:48
He was furious.
00:47:49 -->
00:47:49
Right?
00:47:50 -->
00:47:54
If it was any other man, if he
00:47:54 -->
00:47:57
was in that situation, he would tell his
00:47:57 -->
00:48:00
wife who would give him such a suggestion,
00:48:01 -->
00:48:05
be quiet, mind your own business, let me
00:48:05 -->
00:48:06
think about it, I don't like your idea,
00:48:08 -->
00:48:08
etc.
00:48:09 -->
00:48:09
Right?
00:48:10 -->
00:48:14
But we see even though he was the
00:48:14 -->
00:48:19
Messenger of Allah, even though he has the
00:48:19 -->
00:48:22
authority to do as he wishes.
00:48:23 -->
00:48:26
When it came to this advice, he took
00:48:26 -->
00:48:30
it and he implemented it and he did
00:48:30 -->
00:48:32
not reject the advice that Umm Salama رضي
00:48:32 -->
00:48:37
الله عنها gave and so as a result
00:48:37 -->
00:48:39
of taking her advice, we see how a
00:48:39 -->
00:48:42
very tense situation was diffused.
00:48:44 -->
00:48:47
Umm Salama رضي الله عنها she went on
00:48:47 -->
00:48:52
to narrate close to 400 Ahadith.
00:48:52 -->
00:48:56
So she was only second to Aisha رضي
00:48:56 -->
00:49:00
الله عنها but then again there is no
00:49:00 -->
00:49:01
comparison.
00:49:01 -->
00:49:03
We mentioned when we spoke about Aisha رضي
00:49:03 -->
00:49:08
الله عنها that she narrated almost 2000 something
00:49:08 -->
00:49:12
Ahadith and here the only one behind her
00:49:12 -->
00:49:19
is Umm Salama who narrated some 378 Ahadith
00:49:21 -->
00:49:25
and she like Aisha رضي الله عنها was
00:49:25 -->
00:49:29
one of the leading companions whom other companions
00:49:30 -->
00:49:33
the likes of Ibn Abbas would go to
00:49:33 -->
00:49:38
her to ask her questions and seek knowledge
00:49:38 -->
00:49:44
from her and ask her questions and fatwa
00:49:44 -->
00:49:45
and so on and so forth.
00:49:47 -->
00:49:50
So like Aisha رضي الله عنها Umm Salama
00:49:51 -->
00:49:56
was a beacon of light, of knowledge that
00:49:56 -->
00:49:58
people used to come to her to hear
00:49:58 -->
00:50:01
Ahadith from her and to take knowledge from
00:50:01 -->
00:50:01
her.
00:50:02 -->
00:50:04
And also like Aisha رضي الله عنها Umm
00:50:04 -->
00:50:08
Salama was very inquisitive.
00:50:09 -->
00:50:14
She would ask the Prophet ﷺ questions like
00:50:14 -->
00:50:17
Aisha رضي الله عنها and as a result
00:50:17 -->
00:50:18
we have learned so much.
00:50:19 -->
00:50:22
We mentioned this with regards to Aisha رضي
00:50:22 -->
00:50:24
الله عنها that if she was not so
00:50:24 -->
00:50:28
inquisitive, if she didn't ask the kind of
00:50:28 -->
00:50:30
questions that she asked there are things we
00:50:30 -->
00:50:31
would not have learned.
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And the same can be said about Umm
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Salama.
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One example was actually an ayah that Allah
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revealed as a result of Umm Salama asking
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a question.
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So one day she asked the Prophet ﷺ
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Why have men been mentioned and addressed by
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Allah in the Quran?
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But not as women.
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Throughout the Quran Allah addresses men those who
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do righteous good deeds and they do x,
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y, and z they will get such and
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such reward like jihad and so on and
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so forth.
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And in one narration she specifically asked about
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jihad that why is it that men get
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to go for jihad and get all of
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this reward but not the women.
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So the Prophet ﷺ did not say anything
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and then Allah ﷻ revealed an ayah.
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Allah revealed an ayah and Umm Salama she
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says she was at home one day and
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she was combing her hair and she heard
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the Prophet ﷺ addressing the people in the
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masjid.
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As we know the houses, the apartments of
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the wives of the Prophet ﷺ were attached
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to the masjid with only a curtain separating
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them from the masjid.
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So she heard the Prophet ﷺ addressing the
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Muslims saying that the following has been revealed
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to me.
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And this is the ayah in Surah Al
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-Ahzab in Surah Al-Ahzab verse 35 Allah
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ﷻ says Allah
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ﷻ
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says
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For both Muslim men and women believing men
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and women devout men and women truthful men
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and women patient men and women humble men
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and women gentle men and women charitable, generous
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men and women fasting men and women men
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and women who guard their chastity and men
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and women who remember Allah ﷻ often for
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all of them Allah ﷻ has prepared forgiveness
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and a great reward.
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And so women are the counterparts of men.
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They share with them in all the rulings
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of Islam except those that are specific to
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either gender.
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So for example jihad this is specific for
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men.
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However in the Qur'an when Allah ﷻ
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addresses the believers it often comes directed towards
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men and that's mainly because of the language.
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Not to indicate that rulings are exclusive to
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men without including women.
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So when Allah ﷻ says those who do
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such and such this is the masculine form
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and the feminine form of that is In
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English we say those but in Arabic each
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one has a specific word for it.
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And in the Qur'an in order to
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maintain this uniformity of language Allah ﷻ just
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addresses using the masculine form.
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So she thought it means that Allah ﷻ
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is only addressing men and not addressing women
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so Allah ﷻ reveals this ayah and this
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is how he responds to this question of
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Umm Salama and this is how she was
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honoured by Allah ﷻ by having an entire
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ayah revealed in response to her query.
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Umm Salama r.a she went on to
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live a very very long life.
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In fact she was the last of the
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Ummahatul Mu'mineen to pass away.
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Even though some of them were younger than
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her like Aisha and Hafsa but she went
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on to outlive them and so she passed
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away after the Khilafah of Muawiyah it was
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now the Khilafah of his son Yazid ibn
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Muawiyah and she passed away in the year
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64 of the Hijrah and so this put
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her in the 80s or close to being
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90 years of age and so it was
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Abu Hurairah r.a who prayed her Janazah
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and she was buried in the graveyard of
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Baqi' r.a and may Allah be pleased
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with all of the Ummahatul Mu'mineen the mothers
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of the believers and so this is where
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we'll stop for today
