Kamil Ahmad – The Lives of the Sahabiyyat 04 Sawdah bint Zamah (ra)

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The Prophet's life is a story of love and loss. He lost a woman named Khawla and had a romantic relationship with her. He also lost a woman named Aisha who was married to the Prophetator and had a successful marriage. The Prophet serviced the couple, San't and Aisha, who were married and had a romantic relationship. The Prophetipping of the wife has been a source of wealth for the Prophet and is important for modern day men. The Khaybar region was successful in winning and becoming rich, and the Prophetipping of the region has been a source of wealth for the Prophet.

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			In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most
		
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			Merciful.
		
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			All praise is due to Allah, Lord of
		
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			the worlds.
		
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			And peace and blessings be upon the best
		
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			of Allah's creation, and upon his family, his
		
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			companions, and those who are guided by his
		
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			guidance, and those who wait by his Sunnah
		
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			until the Day of Judgment.
		
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			O Allah, teach us what will benefit us,
		
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			and benefit us with what You have taught
		
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			us, and increase us in knowledge, and show
		
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			us the truth as it is, and grant
		
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			us to follow it, and show us the
		
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			falsehood as it is, and grant us to
		
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			avoid it.
		
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			And make us of those who listen to
		
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			the word, and follow the best of it.
		
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			And after this, peace and blessings be upon
		
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			you.
		
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			Last week we finished going over the biography
		
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			of the mother of the believers, Aisha bint
		
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			Abi Bakr, may Allah be pleased with her.
		
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			And before that, we went through the life
		
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			of Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her.
		
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			The two most important women in the life
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Today we move on to another of the
		
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			Ummahatul Mu'mineen.
		
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			And she is basically the
		
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			wife of the Prophet ﷺ, who Rasulullah ﷺ
		
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			married or lived with after Khadijah, may Allah
		
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			be pleased with her.
		
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			And so she is Saudah bint Zam'a,
		
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			may Allah be pleased with her.
		
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			So she is Saudah bint Zam'a ibn
		
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			Qais al-Amiriya al-Qurashiya.
		
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			And she is the first woman who Rasulullah
		
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			ﷺ consummated his marriage with after Khadijah, may
		
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			Allah be pleased with her.
		
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			Then the question is, what about Aisha, may
		
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			Allah be pleased with her?
		
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			When we spoke about Aisha, didn't we mention
		
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			that she was the next wife of the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ?
		
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			So how do we understand this?
		
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			Anyone?
		
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			How is it that both of these women
		
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			were the first ones that the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			married after Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with
		
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			her?
		
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			Basically, Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her,
		
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			was the first one whom the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			married after Khadijah, in terms of entering into
		
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			a marriage agreement, a Nikah.
		
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			But as we know, at the time, how
		
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			old was she?
		
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			She was six, right?
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ did not consummate that marriage
		
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			until many years later, when she was nine.
		
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			As for Saudah, may Allah be pleased with
		
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			her, who we're going to talk about today,
		
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			then the Prophet ﷺ married her after Khadijah,
		
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			and he consummated that marriage, he lived with
		
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			her.
		
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			Saudah bint Zam'a, may Allah be pleased
		
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			with her, was born in Mecca, and she
		
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			came from a prominent family of Quraysh.
		
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			And she was married to one of her
		
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			cousins, As-Sakran ibn Amr.
		
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			She was married to As-Sakran ibn Amr
		
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			when the Prophet ﷺ started preaching Islam.
		
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			So both she and her husband accepted Islam
		
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			early on.
		
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			They were from among the first Muslims.
		
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			Now due to the persecution that the early
		
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			Muslims were facing in Mecca, she left with
		
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			her husband and her children for Al-Habasha,
		
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			for Abyssinia, with the second wave of the
		
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			Muhajirun.
		
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			So there were two groups that had left
		
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			for Abyssinia, and she left with the second.
		
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			The second group had 83 men and 19
		
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			women.
		
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			So Saudah and her husband, they had left
		
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			for Abyssinia.
		
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			Now Abdullah ibn Abbas, he narrates, he says
		
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			Saudah bint Zam'a was married to As
		
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			-Sakran ibn Amr, the brother of Suhail ibn
		
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			Amr.
		
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			She once had a dream in which she
		
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			saw the Prophet ﷺ walking towards her until
		
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			he placed his foot on her neck.
		
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			She told her husband about the dream and
		
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			he responded by saying, By Allah, if your
		
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			dream is true, I will definitely die and
		
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			Rasool Allah ﷺ will end up marrying you.
		
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			So her husband interpreted that dream for her
		
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			in this way.
		
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			When she heard this, she said, no, that
		
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			can't be true.
		
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			She said that cannot be true.
		
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			Then on another night, Saudah had a dream
		
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			in which a moon had fallen from the
		
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			sky while she was lying down.
		
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			It fell on her, the moon.
		
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			So she told her husband about the dream
		
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			and he said, By Allah, if your dream
		
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			is true, I'm not going to remain alive
		
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			that much longer and you will soon marry
		
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			someone after me.
		
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			So from that day, her husband fell ill
		
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			and it wasn't long before he passed away.
		
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			Now one narration mentions that he passed away
		
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			while he was there in Abyssinia while another
		
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			says that they had come back to Mecca
		
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			and he passed away shortly after that.
		
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			Either way, Saudah was now a widow.
		
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			She was without a husband and she had
		
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			children and now it was the 10th year
		
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			of the Prophethood.
		
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			It was the 10th year of the Prophethood.
		
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			And in this 10th year, we mentioned previously
		
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			when we spoke about Khadijah it was in
		
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			this year that she passed away.
		
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			Khadijah passed away in the 10th year of
		
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			the Prophethood.
		
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			And so this was a very difficult time
		
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			for Rasool Allah ﷺ.
		
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			But as time passed, he needed to have
		
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			a partner because he was all by himself.
		
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			Not just without a wife but also most
		
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			of his children, as we know he had
		
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			daughters and most of them were all married
		
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			off, pretty much all of them were all
		
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			married off.
		
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			They had their own homes and here the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ was all by himself.
		
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			And so he needed to have a wife,
		
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			someone with him in his life.
		
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			So Khawla bint Hakim, Khawla bint Hakim, she
		
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			was a noble companion.
		
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			She was the wife of a noble companion,
		
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			Uthman ibn Madh'un.
		
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			Not Uthman ibn Affan, the famous Khalifa, but
		
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			Uthman ibn Madh'un.
		
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			His wife Khawla bint Hakim and both of
		
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			them had spent time in Abyssinia as well.
		
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			So Khawla here, we could say she was
		
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			a friend of Saudah.
		
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			They had spent time together in Abyssinia.
		
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			So Khawla comes to the Prophet ﷺ after
		
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			the death of Khadijah and she says, O
		
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			Messenger of Allah, will you not get married?
		
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			So he asked, who should I marry?
		
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			Who do you have in mind?
		
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			So she said, if you wish you can
		
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			get married to a virgin or if you
		
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			wish you can get married to a woman
		
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			who was previously married, a tayyib.
		
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			So he asked, who do you have in
		
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			mind?
		
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			Who is the virgin who you have in
		
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			mind?
		
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			And she said, the daughter of the most
		
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			beloved man to you, Aisha bint Abi Bakr.
		
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			And then he asked, how about the tayyib,
		
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			the woman who was previously married?
		
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			She said, Saudah bint Zam'ah.
		
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			And she added, she believed in you and
		
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			she followed you.
		
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			When you started your mission, when you started
		
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			your da'wah, she was one of the
		
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			first to believe in you and she followed
		
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			you.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ said to her, then
		
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			go and propose to both of them.
		
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			Go and propose to both of them.
		
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			So Khawla, she then went first to the
		
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			home of Abu Bakr and proposed for Aisha.
		
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			And we previously mentioned the story of the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ marrying Aisha.
		
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			So this is how Aisha was the first
		
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			to get married to the Prophet ﷺ after
		
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			Khadija.
		
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			Because Khawla first went to the home of
		
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			Aisha.
		
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			She spoke to Abu Bakr and he agreed.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ went and married Aisha
		
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			in terms of the nikah.
		
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			Then Khawla, she went to her friend Saudah.
		
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			And she goes to her house and she
		
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			finds her and she says, I give you
		
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			the glad tidings of good and blessings that
		
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			is going to come in your life.
		
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			So Saudah asked, what is that?
		
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			She said, Rasool Allah ﷺ has sent me
		
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			to propose to you for him.
		
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			So what was her reaction?
		
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			She said, I wish.
		
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			You've truly brought me good news and I
		
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			would love to accept this.
		
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			But then she said, go to my father
		
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			and mention it to him.
		
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			Go to my father and mention it to
		
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			him.
		
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			And so here we can see that even
		
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			in those early days of Islam, we have
		
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			this custom of a woman going through her
		
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			wali to get married and getting the approval
		
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			of her father.
		
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			And her father was a very old man
		
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			and at the time he was not even
		
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			Muslim.
		
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			He was not even Muslim.
		
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			So now Khawla, she goes to the father
		
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			of Saudah, Zam'a.
		
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			His name was Zam'a.
		
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			And she says, Muhammad ibn Abdullah has sent
		
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			me to propose for your daughter Saudah.
		
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			What was his reaction?
		
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			He said, what a noble match.
		
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			What a great match that is.
		
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			Even though he was not a Muslim.
		
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			But he recognized the virtue of Rasool Allah
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ was from among the noble
		
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			men of his people.
		
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			And he was known for his noble character
		
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			and everything before his Islam.
		
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			Before he brought Islam, before he started preaching
		
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			Islam.
		
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			And even after he would preach Islam and
		
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			even after all the opposition from his people
		
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			and the enmity and everything they did to
		
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			him, but yet they still recognized his virtue
		
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			and how special he was.
		
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			Then he asked, the father of Saudah asked
		
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			Khawla.
		
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			He said, what does your friend think?
		
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			Meaning, what does Saudah think about this?
		
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			Khawla said, she agrees.
		
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			She's happy with it.
		
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			So he asked Khawla to go and call
		
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			her.
		
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			When she came, he said to her, he
		
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			said to his daughter, Muhammad ibn Abdullah has
		
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			sent for proposing you in marriage.
		
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			And he is a noble match.
		
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			Shall I marry you to him?
		
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			She said, yes.
		
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			So then he said to Khawla, go and
		
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			call Muhammad so we can conclude this marriage.
		
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			And so Rasulullah ﷺ came.
		
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			And that was how the marriage was conducted
		
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			with Saudah bint Zam'ah.
		
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			And this was in Ramadan of the 10th
		
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			year of the Prophethood.
		
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			Ramadan of the 10th year of the Prophethood.
		
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			Now another narration of the story mentions that
		
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			initially Saudah was hesitant to accept the offer.
		
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			And this was because she already had five
		
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			children.
		
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			And she was afraid that her children would
		
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			disturb the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			She thought that it would be a burden
		
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			on him.
		
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			And he has an important mission that he
		
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			needs to fulfill.
		
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			And I'll be a burden on him with
		
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			my children.
		
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			So she mentioned this to the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ, he said to her,
		
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			trying to convince her that that's not a
		
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			big deal.
		
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			He said to her, the best women ever
		
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			to have ridden the backs of camels are
		
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			the virtuous women of Quraysh.
		
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			Who are the most affectionate towards small children.
		
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			And the most excellent in doing good deeds
		
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			to their husbands when they are wealthy.
		
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			So here the Prophet ﷺ was basically saying
		
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			that you are a woman from Quraysh.
		
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			And the women of Quraysh are known for
		
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			fulfilling the rights of their husbands as well
		
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			as their children.
		
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			Now Saudah she had two brothers.
		
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			One of them had become a Muslim and
		
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			also migrated with them.
		
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			And the other had not become a Muslim
		
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			initially.
		
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			His name was Abd ibn Zam'a.
		
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			And at the time of the marriage, he
		
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			was, he had still not accepted Islam.
		
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			And he heard about this marriage.
		
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			And so he became furious.
		
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			He was not happy.
		
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			And he started throwing dust on his head.
		
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			To show his frustration.
		
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			So later on he became Muslim.
		
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			And he would say, I was foolish the
		
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			day I threw dust on my head.
		
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			For the Prophet ﷺ marrying Saudah.
		
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			And so he was expressing regret for having
		
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			objected to this marriage.
		
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			Which in reality should have been an honor
		
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			for him.
		
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			Here is Muhammad ﷺ marrying my sister.
		
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			That should be an honor for me.
		
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			But obviously, because he was a kafir.
		
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			And he had enmity for the Muslims and
		
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			for the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			He reacted that way initially.
		
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			But then later, when he became a Muslim,
		
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			he regretted what he had done.
		
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			Now the age of Saudah r.a at
		
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			the time of the marriage was around 55.
		
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			While Rasool Allah ﷺ was how old?
		
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			How old was he?
		
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			We're talking about 10 years of being a
		
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			Prophet.
		
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			How old would he be?
		
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			I couldn't hear that.
		
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			50, yes.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ was around 50 years
		
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			old.
		
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			While Saudah was around 55.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ consummated the marriage with
		
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			her.
		
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			Immediately.
		
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			And lived with her in Mecca.
		
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			With her five children.
		
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			Until the hijrah to Medina.
		
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			So she was the only wife of the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ in Mecca.
		
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			After Khadija r.a. Who the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			spent time with.
		
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			And then when it came time for the
		
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			hijrah to Medina.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ ordered Zayd ibn Harithah and
		
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			Abu Rafi' al-Ansari.
		
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			To take his family to Medina.
		
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			As we know, the Prophet ﷺ made his
		
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			way to Medina after all the Muslims had
		
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			left.
		
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			And he left on his own with Abu
		
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			Bakr r.a. So he gave instructions to
		
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			these two companions to take his family.
		
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			And so they took Saudah with her children.
		
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			And Fatima and Umm Kulthum.
		
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			The two daughters of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And Umm Ayman.
		
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			And we're going to come to talk later
		
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			on about Umm Ayman.
		
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			Who she was.
		
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			And Usama ibn Zayd.
		
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			Usama ibn Zayd.
		
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			So this was the household of the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ in Mecca.
		
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			At the time of the hijrah.
		
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			And so after the hijrah.
		
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			For about a year in Medina.
		
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			Again she was by herself with the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			And then it was in the second year
		
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			of the hijrah.
		
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			That the Prophet ﷺ consummated his marriage with
		
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			Aisha r.a. And then after that.
		
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			The other wives over the years started to
		
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			come into his life.
		
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			Now Saudah r.a. was a very special
		
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			woman.
		
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			Even though we don't hear much about her.
		
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			However among her virtues.
		
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			Among her special unique characteristics.
		
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			Was that she was known for having a
		
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			humorous nature.
		
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			She would bring happiness to Rasul Allah ﷺ.
		
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			And make him smile and make him to
		
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			laugh.
		
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			We have to understand when she came into
		
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			the life of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			At a time when he was down.
		
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			That 10th year of the Prophethood was known
		
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			as Aam al-Huzn.
		
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			The year of grief.
		
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			You had his wife, his beloved wife Khadija
		
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			who passed away.
		
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			The mother of all of his daughters.
		
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			And his support from the beginning of the
		
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			Prophethood.
		
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			She passed away.
		
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			And that was shortly after his uncle Abu
		
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			Talib.
		
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			Who was also a big support for him.
		
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			He had also passed away.
		
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			And in that same year.
		
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			When the Prophet ﷺ had almost given up
		
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			on the people of Mecca.
		
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			He said let me go elsewhere.
		
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			Maybe I can find followers elsewhere.
		
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			So he went to Ta'if.
		
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			Which was close to Mecca.
		
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			And he was driven out of that city.
		
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			He was driven out of Ta'if by
		
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			the people there.
		
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			So it was a very very bad year
		
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			for him.
		
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			So now you have this woman Saudah who
		
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			comes into his life.
		
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			And she had that very jolly nature.
		
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			Where she would like to bring happiness to
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Make him smile, make him laugh.
		
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			And she would joke a lot with the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			But obviously when the Prophet ﷺ would joke.
		
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			Or when he would laugh.
		
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			It was within the guidelines that he has
		
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			taught us.
		
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			Not over excessively joking.
		
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			Not joking by making up stories or lying.
		
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			Also Aisha radiallahu anha tells us.
		
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			That I never saw the Messenger of Allah
		
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			laugh fully.
		
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			To such an extent that I could see
		
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			his tonsils.
		
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			Meaning he wouldn't open up his mouth laughing
		
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			in that sense.
		
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			But rather he would smile.
		
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			Or when he would be very happy.
		
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			You could see his teeth.
		
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			This is what has been mentioned by various
		
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			companions.
		
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			So an example of her humorous nature.
		
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			One night Rasool Allah ﷺ prayed Qiyamul Layl.
		
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			With Saudah praying behind him.
		
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			And as was the practice of the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			He would pray very long.
		
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			His Qiyamul Layl would be very long.
		
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			Once Abdullah ibn Mas'ud who was one
		
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			of the young companions.
		
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			And he was one of the early Muslims
		
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			as well.
		
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			He says he prayed Qiyam with the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ one night.
		
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			And it was so long that he says
		
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			he was about to give up.
		
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			And just sit down.
		
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			And leave the Prophet ﷺ standing by himself.
		
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			So anyways.
		
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			After the Prophet ﷺ finished the Salah.
		
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			Saudah said to him, O Messenger of Allah.
		
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			I prayed behind you tonight.
		
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			And your Ruku' was so long that I
		
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			had to hold on to my nose.
		
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			Because I was afraid that I was going
		
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			to bleed.
		
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			That my nose would bleed.
		
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			So she was just joking.
		
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			To let the Prophet ﷺ know.
		
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			That his Salah was very long.
		
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			It was too long for her.
		
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			And then the Prophet ﷺ smiled.
		
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			He smiled when he heard this.
		
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			And so this is a very very good
		
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			characteristic of a righteous wife.
		
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			That she jokes around with her husband from
		
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			time to time.
		
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			Bringing a happy, jolly atmosphere to the home.
		
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			And to the relationship.
		
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			Not always being serious or not complaining.
		
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			Notice how Saudah ﷺ, Although she was agitated
		
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			by how long the Prophet ﷺ prayed.
		
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			But she did not complain.
		
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			Right after Salah she didn't say, O Messenger
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			That was long.
		
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			That was too long for me.
		
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			She didn't complain.
		
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			Instead, she did it in a way that
		
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			brought a smile to his face.
		
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			And this is something we should learn from
		
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			these women.
		
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			The best of the women of this Ummah.
		
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			In another incident, The Prophet ﷺ was once
		
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			with both Saudah and Aisha.
		
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			And Aisha is the one who narrates this
		
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			story.
		
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			Aisha, she says, I brought a dish that
		
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			was known as Khazeera.
		
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			It was like a dish of porridge.
		
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			She says, I had prepared it for the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			So I had come and I saw Saudah
		
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			there.
		
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			And I said to Saudah, While the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ was sitting between me and her.
		
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			I said to Saudah, eat.
		
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			She refused.
		
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			So I said, you have to eat.
		
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			Otherwise, I'm going to smear your face with
		
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			it.
		
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			So she still refused.
		
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			Aisha says, So I put my hand in
		
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			the porridge.
		
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			And I smeared her face with it.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ laughed.
		
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			And with his hand, He signaled for her,
		
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			for Saudah to do the same to me.
		
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			So Saudah, she took some of it, smeared
		
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			my face with it.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ laughed again.
		
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			Then guess who shows up.
		
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			Umar ibn al-Khattab.
		
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			He came, he passed by, and he was
		
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			calling out.
		
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			And when the Prophet ﷺ heard Umar, he
		
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			was afraid he would come in.
		
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			So he told the two of them, Get
		
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			up and wash your faces.
		
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			Get up and wash your faces.
		
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			Aisha says, Since that day, I have always
		
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			held a deep respect and awe for Umar
		
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			ibn al-Khattab.
		
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			Because of the respect and the awe that
		
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			Rasool Allah ﷺ had for him.
		
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			And so we see from this story that
		
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			Umar, As we know from his life, he
		
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			was a very serious man.
		
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			He was very straightforward.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ used to treat him
		
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			in that same manner.
		
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			But this story shows us the playful and
		
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			light-hearted moments between the Prophet ﷺ and
		
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			his wives.
		
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			And it reflects the affectionate and harmonious nature
		
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			of their relationships.
		
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			As well as the mutual respect that existed
		
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			between them.
		
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			There was also another story similar to this.
		
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			But here we have two of the wives
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Who knowing Saudah's nature, they also would take
		
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			opportunities to joke with her.
		
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			So on one occasion, it was Hafsa and
		
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			Aisha.
		
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			They came to her and they tried to
		
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			make her believe that the Dajjal had appeared.
		
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			That a Dajjal had emerged.
		
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			They came to her, to Saudah and said,
		
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			The Dajjal has come.
		
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			So Saudah, she was terrified by this.
		
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			She took it seriously.
		
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			And then she rushed to hide.
		
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			And she found there was like a room
		
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			or a house where they used to light
		
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			fires.
		
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			It was a dirty room.
		
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			And she went and she hid there.
		
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			So Hafsa and Aisha they laughed at her
		
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			reaction.
		
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			When the Prophet ﷺ came and saw them
		
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			laughing, He asked, what is the matter with
		
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			the two of you?
		
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			They told him about what happened with Saudah.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ went to Saudah.
		
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			And when she saw him, she asked, Oh
		
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			Messenger of Allah, has the Dajjal emerged?
		
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			He replied, no, he has not.
		
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			But he is coming soon.
		
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			And this is what the Prophet ﷺ has
		
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			taught us.
		
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			That the Dajjal is coming very very soon.
		
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			And we shouldn't think that the Dajjal is
		
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			very far off.
		
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			But he is coming very soon.
		
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			Anyways, once she was reassured, Saudah she came
		
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			out from the place she was hiding.
		
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			And she brushed off spider webs.
		
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			So this was like a dirty room.
		
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			It was a place where they used to
		
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			light fires.
		
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			An abandoned room or house.
		
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			And she was brushing off spider webs from
		
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			herself.
		
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			So this is what Saudah was known for.
		
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			She was also known for her generosity.
		
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			One day in the time of Umar ibn
		
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			Khattab when he was a Khalifa.
		
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			He sent a bunch of Dirhams.
		
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			And Dirhams are basically gold coins.
		
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			He sent them to Saudah.
		
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			And he would do this after the death
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Him being the head of the state.
		
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			He used to take good care of the
		
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			wives of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Making sure they had what they needed, etc.
		
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			So he sent a bunch of Dirhams for
		
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			Saudah.
		
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			She asked, what is this?
		
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			She was told that these are Dirhams that
		
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			have been sent for her from Umar.
		
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			She took them and she distributed all of
		
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			them to the poor and the needy.
		
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			And she didn't keep anything for herself.
		
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			But what is interesting about Saudah is that
		
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			she was not only generous with her wealth.
		
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			But she was also generous with something else.
		
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			And that was her marital rights.
		
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			And we spoke about this last week.
		
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			When we spoke about Aisha.
		
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			While the Prophet ﷺ was in Mecca, we
		
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			said that Saudah was his only wife.
		
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			But after the Hijrah, the Prophet ﷺ started
		
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			marrying other women.
		
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			And some of these women were younger and
		
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			more beautiful than she was.
		
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			And Saudah she was described as being tall.
		
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			And having a large figure.
		
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			So now she was afraid that perhaps the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ would no longer be interested in
		
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			her.
		
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			And would perhaps divorce her.
		
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			So she came to the Prophet ﷺ and
		
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			said, O Messenger of Allah, I give up
		
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			my night for Aisha.
		
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			I give up my night for Aisha.
		
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			As we know, Islam teaches us that we
		
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			have to equally distribute the time.
		
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			That the man, if he has more than
		
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			one wife, he has to equally distribute the
		
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			time that he spends with them.
		
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			And basically each wife had a night.
		
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			And Saudah came here and she gave up
		
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			what exclusively belonged to her.
		
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			To Aisha because she knew how much the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ loved Aisha.
		
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			And so she did it for two reasons.
		
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			Number one, to make the Prophet ﷺ happy
		
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			and pleased.
		
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			And so she didn't give up her day
		
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			to just any of his other wives.
		
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			But specifically to the most beloved, to him.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because she wants him to be happy.
		
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			And number two, she did it in order
		
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			to be with Rasool Allah ﷺ in the
		
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			Akhirah.
		
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			And so she sacrificed her right out of
		
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			fear that Rasool Allah ﷺ would divorce her.
		
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			And then she would come on the Day
		
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			of Judgment without the Prophet ﷺ as her
		
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			husband.
		
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			So she would rather give up her right
		
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			of one night for an eternity with the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			In exchange for living forever with the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ in Jannah.
		
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			And so this shows us the level of
		
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			her Iman and her preference of the Akhirah
		
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			over the Dunya.
		
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			Her preference of the Akhirah over the Dunya.
		
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			If it was one of us, we would
		
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			never do such a thing.
		
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			Because most of us, we are attached more
		
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			to the Dunya than the Akhirah.
		
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			And we don't want to let go what
		
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			we have in the Dunya.
		
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			But again, this is a huge lesson we
		
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			should learn from the life of Saudah.
		
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			And this is what we notice among all
		
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			of the companions of the Prophet ﷺ, male
		
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			or female.
		
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			We find this quality among pretty much all
		
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			of them.
		
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			How they were willing to sacrifice what they
		
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			had in the Dunya for what is with
		
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			Allah in the Akhirah.
		
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			According to a narration by Ibn Abbas, he
		
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			says that Saudah feared that the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			might divorce her.
		
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			So she approached him and said, O Messenger
		
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			of Allah, do not divorce me and give
		
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			my day to Aisha.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ accepted her request and did
		
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			so.
		
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			Then the following verse was revealed.
		
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			The following verse from Surah An-Nisa was
		
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			revealed.
		
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			وَإِنِ امْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِن بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا
		
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			فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَن يُصْلِحَ بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا وَصُلْحُ
		
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			خَيْرًا This is verse 128 of Surah An
		
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			-Nisa.
		
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			Allah ﷻ says if a woman fears indifference
		
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			or neglect from her husband, she's afraid that
		
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			her husband is no longer interested in her,
		
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			Allah says there is no blame on either
		
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			of them to seek a fair settlement, sulh.
		
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			And Allah says seeking a settlement is best.
		
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			To reconcile, to come to an agreement is
		
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			better than a divorce, right?
		
00:38:04 --> 00:38:07
			So Ibn Abbas is saying that this is
		
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			why this ayah was revealed.
		
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			This is why this ayah was revealed, talking
		
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			about Saudah ﷺ and what she did.
		
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			In one narration, it mentions that the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ did actually divorce her.
		
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			So she came to him and said, O
		
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			Messenger of Allah, I have no interest in
		
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			men.
		
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			Meaning, if the reason you divorce me is
		
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			because you fear that you are not fulfilling
		
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			my desire for intimacy, and that there are
		
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			other men who can fulfill that, and that's
		
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			why you're divorcing me so that some other
		
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			man can marry me, then I am telling
		
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			you that I have no interest in that.
		
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			Then she said, but rather I want to
		
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			be resurrected among your wives on the Day
		
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			of Judgment.
		
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			So she was saying to the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			that if you're not interested in me, then
		
00:39:08 --> 00:39:10
			at least keep me as your wife.
		
00:39:12 --> 00:39:16
			And I'm willing to give up my night,
		
00:39:16 --> 00:39:18
			my day with you.
		
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			But as long as I can remain your
		
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			wife so that I could be your wife
		
00:39:23 --> 00:39:23
			in the Akhirah.
		
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			And then she said, so I ask you
		
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			by the one who revealed the book to
		
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			you, did you divorce me because I did
		
00:39:30 --> 00:39:31
			something you didn't like?
		
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			He said, no.
		
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			She said, then I ask you by Allah
		
00:39:34 --> 00:39:35
			to take me back.
		
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			So Rasulullah ﷺ took her back, and then
		
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			she said that she would give up her
		
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			day to Aisha radiallahu anha.
		
00:39:48 --> 00:39:51
			Now another verse that is said to have
		
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			been revealed regarding Saudah radiallahu anha is a
		
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			very very important ayah in the Qur'an,
		
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			and that is the ayah of Hijab, the
		
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			verse commanding the Hijab.
		
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			In Sahih al-Bukhari, Aisha radiallahu anha narrates,
		
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			she says the wives of the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			used to go to an open place near
		
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			Baqi' the graveyard Baqi' to answer the call
		
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			of nature at night.
		
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			So they did not have washrooms and toilets,
		
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			and the women would go in groups in
		
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			the evening when it's dark to an open
		
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			area outside the city.
		
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			So Umar, Aisha says Umar radiallahu anha used
		
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			to say to the Prophet ﷺ, cover your
		
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			wives, let them be veiled, let them to
		
00:41:05 --> 00:41:07
			cover themselves.
		
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			So until now, the women were not required
		
00:41:13 --> 00:41:14
			to wear the Hijab.
		
00:41:16 --> 00:41:19
			And Umar radiallahu anha, he wanted that.
		
00:41:19 --> 00:41:24
			He wanted that at least the wives of
		
00:41:24 --> 00:41:25
			the Prophet ﷺ should be covered.
		
00:41:26 --> 00:41:29
			Look at how much he cared for the
		
00:41:29 --> 00:41:31
			wives of the Prophet ﷺ, that he doesn't
		
00:41:31 --> 00:41:33
			want other men to be looking at them,
		
00:41:34 --> 00:41:34
			etc.
		
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			So what was the response of the Prophet
		
00:41:38 --> 00:41:38
			ﷺ?
		
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			He said no.
		
00:41:39 --> 00:41:42
			He didn't command his women to do so.
		
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			So one night, Saudah bint Zam'a, she
		
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			went out in the evening, it was around
		
00:41:52 --> 00:41:55
			Aisha time, and Aisha says she was a
		
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			tall woman, she was a tall woman.
		
00:41:59 --> 00:42:02
			So Umar saw her, Umar radiallahu anha saw
		
00:42:02 --> 00:42:06
			her, and he said to her, Oh Saudah,
		
00:42:06 --> 00:42:07
			I have recognized you.
		
00:42:08 --> 00:42:10
			Oh Saudah, I know who you are.
		
00:42:12 --> 00:42:18
			Because it's dark, it's night time, but because
		
00:42:18 --> 00:42:22
			of her figure, she was easily recognized by
		
00:42:22 --> 00:42:23
			Umar radiallahu anha.
		
00:42:24 --> 00:42:26
			And why did he say this?
		
00:42:26 --> 00:42:30
			He said this because he was hoping that
		
00:42:30 --> 00:42:33
			ayat of Hijab would be revealed.
		
00:42:33 --> 00:42:38
			He wanted this to reach the Prophet ﷺ.
		
00:42:38 --> 00:42:43
			That, you know, I have recognized Saudah.
		
00:42:44 --> 00:42:45
			That's why he said that.
		
00:42:46 --> 00:42:47
			And guess what?
		
00:42:47 --> 00:42:51
			Aisha radiallahu anha says, So Allah ﷻ revealed
		
00:42:51 --> 00:42:54
			the ayat of Hijab soon after that.
		
00:42:55 --> 00:43:00
			Allah ﷻ says in Surah al-Ahzab, and
		
00:43:00 --> 00:43:03
			this is verse 59, يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ
		
00:43:03 --> 00:43:08
			لِأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ
		
00:43:08 --> 00:43:13
			جَلَابِي بِهِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ
		
00:43:14 --> 00:43:18
			O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters
		
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			and the believing women that they should cover
		
00:43:22 --> 00:43:25
			themselves with jilbabs.
		
00:43:25 --> 00:43:30
			That is better for them so that they
		
00:43:30 --> 00:43:33
			are not recognized and thus they are not
		
00:43:33 --> 00:43:33
			harmed.
		
00:43:35 --> 00:43:37
			And by the way, this is one of
		
00:43:37 --> 00:43:41
			the many times that the opinion of Umar
		
00:43:41 --> 00:43:44
			radiallahu anhu would be backed by revelation from
		
00:43:44 --> 00:43:44
			Allah.
		
00:43:45 --> 00:43:46
			This was not the first time.
		
00:43:47 --> 00:43:52
			There are many other examples of how Umar
		
00:43:52 --> 00:43:57
			radiallahu anhu would have a certain opinion in
		
00:43:57 --> 00:44:03
			a certain matter and the Prophet ﷺ would
		
00:44:03 --> 00:44:07
			disagree and then Allah would send an ayah
		
00:44:07 --> 00:44:11
			supporting the opinion of Umar radiallahu anhu.
		
00:44:11 --> 00:44:13
			And this is one example of that.
		
00:44:13 --> 00:44:17
			And that's why the Prophet ﷺ said that
		
00:44:17 --> 00:44:18
			if there was to be a prophet after
		
00:44:18 --> 00:44:19
			me, it would be Umar.
		
00:44:20 --> 00:44:22
			But as we know, there is no prophet
		
00:44:22 --> 00:44:24
			after Muhammad ﷺ.
		
00:44:27 --> 00:44:30
			Also among the virtues of Saudah radiallahu anha
		
00:44:30 --> 00:44:36
			is that she was present with Rasulallah ﷺ
		
00:44:36 --> 00:44:38
			in the battle of Khaybar.
		
00:44:39 --> 00:44:47
			And so it seems that it was
		
00:44:47 --> 00:44:52
			basically the Prophet ﷺ whenever he used to
		
00:44:52 --> 00:44:55
			go on a journey, as Aisha radiallahu anha
		
00:44:55 --> 00:44:57
			tells us, that whenever he would go on
		
00:44:57 --> 00:45:04
			a journey he would draw lots between his
		
00:45:04 --> 00:45:04
			wives.
		
00:45:05 --> 00:45:07
			So he wouldn't just always take, for example,
		
00:45:08 --> 00:45:08
			Aisha.
		
00:45:09 --> 00:45:13
			He would be fair, but obviously sometimes he
		
00:45:13 --> 00:45:14
			can't take all of his wives.
		
00:45:15 --> 00:45:18
			So he would do a draw and whoever's
		
00:45:18 --> 00:45:20
			name comes out, that's who would go with
		
00:45:20 --> 00:45:20
			him.
		
00:45:20 --> 00:45:23
			So it seems that Saudah radiallahu anha, she
		
00:45:23 --> 00:45:25
			was lucky to go with the Prophet ﷺ
		
00:45:25 --> 00:45:28
			on this journey to Khaybar.
		
00:45:28 --> 00:45:32
			And this particular battle brought in a lot
		
00:45:32 --> 00:45:34
			of wealth.
		
00:45:34 --> 00:45:39
			The Muslims were victorious and Khaybar was a
		
00:45:39 --> 00:45:40
			rich place.
		
00:45:40 --> 00:45:44
			So basically the Jews of Khaybar, they had
		
00:45:44 --> 00:45:47
			amassed wealth and they had their farms.
		
00:45:49 --> 00:45:52
			So the spoils from Khaybar became a huge
		
00:45:52 --> 00:45:55
			source of revenue for the Prophet ﷺ and
		
00:45:55 --> 00:45:55
			for the Muslims.
		
00:45:56 --> 00:45:59
			And prior to this, we know that the
		
00:45:59 --> 00:46:01
			Prophet ﷺ and the Sahaba, they lived in
		
00:46:01 --> 00:46:01
			poverty.
		
00:46:03 --> 00:46:05
			But now with the victory in Khaybar they
		
00:46:05 --> 00:46:07
			had become rich.
		
00:46:07 --> 00:46:11
			So since Saudah was present, the Prophet ﷺ
		
00:46:11 --> 00:46:15
			gave her a share of the spoils.
		
00:46:15 --> 00:46:22
			He gave her 80 wisq of dates and
		
00:46:22 --> 00:46:25
			20 wisq of wheat.
		
00:46:26 --> 00:46:31
			A wisq is a measurement that is estimated
		
00:46:31 --> 00:46:36
			to weigh about 130 kilograms.
		
00:46:37 --> 00:46:41
			So one wisq is supposed to be around
		
00:46:41 --> 00:46:42
			130 kilograms.
		
00:46:42 --> 00:46:48
			So he gave her 80 of those in
		
00:46:48 --> 00:46:48
			dates.
		
00:46:48 --> 00:46:52
			So 80 times 130 is more than 10
		
00:46:52 --> 00:46:54
			,000 kilograms of dates.
		
00:46:55 --> 00:47:00
			And 20 wisq of wheat, so something like
		
00:47:00 --> 00:47:03
			2,600 kilograms of wheat.
		
00:47:03 --> 00:47:04
			So obviously it was a huge amount.
		
00:47:07 --> 00:47:10
			And this is something that the Prophet ﷺ
		
00:47:10 --> 00:47:11
			gave to Saudah.
		
00:47:14 --> 00:47:16
			Now in the 10th year of the Hijrah,
		
00:47:21 --> 00:47:24
			two years before the Prophet ﷺ passed away,
		
00:47:25 --> 00:47:29
			or a year before the Prophet ﷺ passed
		
00:47:29 --> 00:47:33
			away, or even less than a year, the
		
00:47:33 --> 00:47:36
			Prophet ﷺ went on the farewell hajj.
		
00:47:37 --> 00:47:38
			The farewell hajj.
		
00:47:40 --> 00:47:43
			And he took his wives with him.
		
00:47:45 --> 00:47:50
			In Suheel Bukhari, Aisha radiallahu anha narrates, she
		
00:47:50 --> 00:47:54
			narrates that we got to Al-Muzdalifah.
		
00:47:54 --> 00:47:59
			So when you go for hajj, there is
		
00:47:59 --> 00:48:00
			the day of Arafah.
		
00:48:00 --> 00:48:03
			You spend time in the plains of Arafah.
		
00:48:04 --> 00:48:07
			And then once the sun sets on that
		
00:48:07 --> 00:48:11
			day, everyone makes their way to an open
		
00:48:11 --> 00:48:16
			area called Muzdalifah, which is not too far
		
00:48:16 --> 00:48:16
			from Mina.
		
00:48:18 --> 00:48:20
			And you're supposed to spend the night there,
		
00:48:21 --> 00:48:22
			at Muzdalifah.
		
00:48:23 --> 00:48:28
			And then the next morning, everyone basically moves
		
00:48:28 --> 00:48:33
			on to Mina, where they stone the pillars,
		
00:48:34 --> 00:48:35
			and then they go to Mecca for Tawaf.
		
00:48:36 --> 00:48:39
			The next day is basically, it is the
		
00:48:39 --> 00:48:42
			day of Eid for us, and it is
		
00:48:42 --> 00:48:44
			the most busiest day for the people who
		
00:48:44 --> 00:48:45
			go for hajj.
		
00:48:46 --> 00:48:50
			So Aisha says, we got down at Muzdalifah,
		
00:48:51 --> 00:48:54
			and Saudah came to the Prophet ﷺ and
		
00:48:54 --> 00:48:59
			asked permission to leave early, before the rush
		
00:48:59 --> 00:48:59
			of the people.
		
00:49:00 --> 00:49:06
			Meaning, she wanted to leave early onwards to
		
00:49:06 --> 00:49:10
			Mina, instead of spending the entire night in
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:10
			Muzdalifah.
		
00:49:11 --> 00:49:14
			Aisha says, and she was a heavy and
		
00:49:14 --> 00:49:17
			slow woman, and so the Prophet ﷺ gave
		
00:49:17 --> 00:49:18
			her permission.
		
00:49:18 --> 00:49:21
			So she departed before the rush of the
		
00:49:21 --> 00:49:21
			people.
		
00:49:24 --> 00:49:28
			Aisha says, we stayed on in Muzdalifah until
		
00:49:28 --> 00:49:32
			Fajr, and then we prayed Fajr, and then
		
00:49:32 --> 00:49:33
			after that we set out with the Prophet
		
00:49:33 --> 00:49:34
			ﷺ.
		
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			She says, and I suffered so much that
		
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			I wish I had taken that permission of
		
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			Rasulullah ﷺ, as Saudah had done.
		
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			And that would have been more dearer to
		
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			me than any other joy.
		
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			So basically, here, Aisha is saying that she
		
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			regrets not having sought permission to leave early
		
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			with Saudah.
		
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			Because, as you know, I mean for those
		
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			who have gone for hajj, when everyone is
		
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			rushing at the same time, leaving Muzdalifah, it's
		
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			very busy.
		
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			And so, Saudah radiallahu anha, she was smart,
		
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			very intelligent, and she knew that she's very
		
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			slow, she's an elder woman, by now we
		
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			could say she's well in her 60s, and
		
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			so she had that privilege of leaving early.
		
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			And from this hadith, the scholars say that
		
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			although spending the night in Muzdalifah is mandatory,
		
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			it is okay for women, children, elderly, and
		
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			others who need to leave early, for them
		
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			to leave early.
		
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			Now due to how difficult this hajj was
		
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			for Saudah radiallahu anha, she did not leave
		
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			after that, to travel anywhere after returning to
		
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			Medina, or to perform another hajj.
		
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			She just stayed at home until she passed
		
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			away.
		
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			Unlike the other wives of the Prophet ﷺ,
		
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			except for Zaynab bint Jahsh.
		
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			So Saudah and Zaynab bint Jahsh, they never
		
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			made hajj after that.
		
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			The other wives, the four Khulafa after the
		
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			death of the Prophet ﷺ, they would take
		
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			the wives of the Prophet ﷺ for hajj,
		
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			and they would facilitate it for them after
		
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			the death of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			But Saudah says that after making hajj with
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ, that's it.
		
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			So basically she was saying it was a
		
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			very difficult hajj, and she is happy with
		
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			having made hajj with the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Saudah radiallahu anha, she went on to live
		
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			long after the death of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			However, unlike Aisha radiallahu anha, she did not
		
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			narrate that many ahadith.
		
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			So although she lived long after the death
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ, people wouldn't come to
		
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			her for narrating ahadith like they would go
		
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			to Aisha.
		
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			We spoke about Aisha radiallahu anha last week,
		
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			and how she is among the top narrators
		
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			of hadith, having narrated so many ahadith, and
		
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			this is because she would devote her time
		
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			for that.
		
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			It is mentioned that Saudah radiallahu anha has
		
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			only narrated some five ahadith.
		
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			Only some five ahadith have been narrated by
		
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			Saudah.
		
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			Saudah radiallahu anha, she eventually passed away.
		
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			Some estimates mention that she passed away at
		
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			the end of the Khilafah of Umar ibn
		
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			Khattab radiallahu anha.
		
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			While others say that it was in the
		
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			time of Mu'awiyah when he was Khalifa,
		
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			and that is after Ali radiallahu anha, and
		
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			after Al-Hasan, and Allah knows best.
		
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			So this is the life of Saudah bint
		
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			Zam'a radiallahu anha, the mother of the
		
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			believers.
		
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			May Allah be pleased with her, and accept
		
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			her sacrifices, and grant her the highest level
		
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			in Jannah.
		
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			Insha'Allah next week we'll continue our series,
		
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			moving on to another very very important sahabiya,
		
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			and mother of the believers, and that is
		
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			Hafsa, the daughter of Umar ibn Khattab radiallahu
		
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			anha.
		
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			So we'll conclude here insha'Allah.