Johari Abdul-Malik – Millionaire Manners in Islam Part 2. Interview Hosted
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Praising Allah and thanking Allah, and I
have again with me,
my guest, Sadiq Ali, and his millionaire manners.
And, you know, I wanted to to get
in a little deeper with you on
how do you disseminate? What's your your program
for disseminating
this message?
Is it just a book?
You guys at home and read it?
Because I think it you actually have something
else,
in mind,
in writing this. It's not just not just
something to put on your coffee table or,
you know, you you read it and you
say, why this is really this really benefits
me as an individual.
Can you tell us more about,
about
what your vision is
for this platform? Alhamdulillah.
You you you're absolutely you're absolutely correct.
Earlier, you know, earlier you said, you paid
a compliment to to the book and I
know that that means a lot coming from
from this brother who's read almost as many
books, probably more books than what you see
in the background here. So I really, really
appreciate those words. But, Alhamdulillah, when I wrote
the book and it's funny you mentioned that
as well because
at the end of the chapter,
I'm sorry, at the end of the book,
the final chapter in the book talks about
the fact that I don't want this book
to just sit on a bookshelf and collect
dust.
It is really meant to be a practical
guide for you to go out and implement
many of the things that, that you read
about in the book. Again, much like our
Quran.
Not that I'm comparing millionaire manners to our
Quran by any stretch, but,
the same sort of application that we are,
implored to take. You know, I'm reminded,
since you since you opened it up. Right?
That the way the companions of the prophet
Muhammad alayhis salam
approached the Quran
wasn't just to, like,
read through it and then say, oh, great.
I read the whole book.
Said never did they acquire more than a
few ayats. Some say
3 verses, some say 10,
except at first,
they contemplated
on its meaning until they understood.
2nd,
they memorized it.
And 3rd, they didn't move on to additional
verses
until they applied it to their daily
lives.
So it's a the the methodology
of how one learns.
Right? You memorize the manners first,
then you try to understand
the depth of the manners.
And then now that you understand
them and you have and it's a part
of your being,
then you go out and exemplify
it in your daily life. Absolutely.
How does this book work like that? The
book is actually broken down, and I'm not
I'm not sure if we mentioned it already,
but of course the book can be purchased.
That's the first method of getting the information.
You have to purchase the book. That's right.
I see. You can purchase the book on
our website, which is millionaire
dash manners.com.
I see that. Right? Of course, on Amazon
it's also available. Yeah. I don't know. But
you prefer to go to the website. That's
that's the first method. That's the first method.
But the second method,
is is as you're reading a book, the
book is broken down into 3 different parts.
The book is broken into attitude,
image, and manners. We call that our aim
philosophy. You know, aim for success, aim
for something higher.
The attitude represents our internal feelings, our thoughts,
our beliefs, etcetera.
If your internal is not correct, if it's
not right, then everything else is is is
not gonna be correct. You know, I'm I'm
again, you
the influence of Islam,
we have over and over in the Quran,
at least 2 dozen times. Mhmm.
The first part is having
a connection
Mhmm. With with the supreme, with with the
creator, with Allah.
And if that connection internally
is right,
then
naturally flows out of
it. Righteous deeds, good deeds.
So you're right,
you're you're in prophetic order.
So the first part is an internal piece.
What's the second? The second part is the
image, which is how we manifest,
or how we present ourselves
to the outside world which has,
definitely
the piece of the internal included in that
because
there's self image but then there's also your
outward image. But
again the attitude deals with the internal, the
image deals with the external, how I present
myself,
and then the last part is the manners.
So you should be clean, the promises of
the church. That when you come to the
prayer, you should scent yourself so that
I think what's that? You got 12
12 by 12? And and and in the
book, this is what Iman Jaharie's favorite pieces
in the book, favorite points.
So in the book, I talk about first
impressions, how just
critical those are in every aspect of our
lives. Brothers, if you're single and you're looking
to,
you're looking to get married, your first impressions
need to be very, very good. You have
to impress upon that sister's father,
her walee, if she has brothers,
all those opinions matter. So her friends So
their social network. And most importantly her.
So the first impression is is critical. So,
you know, I have a, a system in
the book. It's called the 12,
the 12 by 12 by 12, which represents
how you look, right, how your appearance, you
know, we call it swagger. What's that like
from 12 feet away?
The next 12 is how do you look
from 12 inches away? Now you're talking about
how do you smell? What's your grooming like?
Is that brother's mustache trim? Is his beard
shapely?
And then the last 12 are the first
twelve words that come
out of your mouth. Is it with a
smile? Are you leading with a warm smile?
Mhmm. And words of kindness, which again Rassoulullah
told us that if you don't have anything
else to offer
for charity, of course Even a smile of
tzedakah. Even a smile of tzedakah.
And the freshness of the breath. At 12
and at 12.
All that goes in there,
which leads into that last part, which is
the manners, which is the manifestation
of
those other 2. So that's 3. So what's
3? So the 3rd is the manners. So
attitude,
image, and then manners. It's how we manifest
those other 2. What are the actions?
How do you implement? How do you apply
what you got out of improving your attitude,
improving your self image,
how you project your image on onto others,
etcetera. And then it you become a full
package. Alright. So because, you know, when when
you first start,
I mean, you mentioned Dale Carnegie and some
other people in this book.
This sounds like it's deeper than just sort
of a makeover.
I can go into the tailor,
have them cut me a nice suit, go
to the barbershop,
whatever whatever, get my teeth whitened and and
go out and shake somebody's hand. Mhmm.
But you're talking about something
in this AIM strategy,
that's deeper than that. Yeah. I'm I'm glad
you brought that up.
I've had a couple of folks actually thank
me for including what I'm getting ready to
share with you right now. Mhmm. And that
is a disclaimer of sorts that I put
into the book on purpose,
which is the fact that,
right? Yes. If you attempt to use
what is in this book
for, to make ill gotten gains or to,
to con on folks Con on the or
to become some sort of charlatan or put
on an act that is not really you,
folks will see through it eventually.
And everything that you work for,
this particular manner, and it's a deceitful manner,
will backfire.
So But I but I but there's also
something else, and I think and I think
we should close with this. Mhmm.
Which is,
in behavioral psychology,
some
psychotherapists like to change you from the inside
out.
Behavioral scientists
like to change you in part from the
outside. So you pick up new habits. Mhmm.
Right? You start picking up,
you present yourself in a different way.
And what happens is and you mentioned it
here. Mhmm.
Even if you didn't start out
being sincere,
it starts working its way from outside back
in. Absolutely. People say, man, you're such a
polite person. You're so honest and outstanding, and
you're like,
oh, yeah. I guess so. You know?
And and and I'm sure you're gonna help
us. And you're like,
yeah. I guess I I am. That maybe
those deficiencies,
if I continue applying
this method,
eventually,
it winds up taking me to higher and
higher levels of internal self improvement. Absolutely. It's
inevitable. My guest today, Sadiq Ali,
Millionaire Manners.
How can people get in touch to get
involved with the programming?
The programming. So,
the Millionaire Manners Academy is actually a full
service training and educational consultancy.
And we target 3 different types of organizations.
How good if I had a school group
Oh, absolutely. I could call you Yes. Yes.
I'm sorry. On on our website at, www.millionairedashmanners.com,
there's a contact us form Mhmm. Or you
can just shoot an email directly to us
at info
at millionairedashmanners.com,
and we'll get right back with
you. I hope it's affordable because I hope
it's not a $1,000,000.
No. No. I said it's not.
So I'll make it successful,
and I encourage everyone,
go to go to the website and buy
the book.
Read the book.
Contemplate on the book until you understand its
meaning,
and don't put it down until you apply
it to your daily life.
Thank you.