Channel: Isam Rajab
Special course by Yayasan Ta’lim & Arees University. Conducted by Dr Isam Rajab. PURIFICATION OF THE SOUL (session 5)
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The essence of being a counselor is to be distressed by what harms the other, whether the other person is distressed by that or not. And to be pleased by what benefits the other whether the other person is pleased by this or not. So
this is something that some people don't pay attention to.
If there is something wrong, Your duty is to tell the other person because that's how you feel. Maybe when you tell him or her, she will tell you, it's okay with me. Maybe it's okay with them. But you felt this is not right. And that's the essence of counseling.
You don't counsel only when the person
is asking you, or when you feel the person will need that. You do it when you feel that this should be done. Again, it's you How do you feel you don't counsel as a command, you don't counsel expecting for a return, you just give them the advice, when they give it when you feel that there is something wrong, whether in reality that person felt wrong or not. Whether he told you or that was fine.
It was fine for him, but you didn't feel that way. So that's the essence of counseling. Not what some people think, when your friend is okay with what you tell him or her know, he or she will be upset? Well, it's your duty? No, maybe I don't want to lose the friendship, why would you lose it? If I told them they will be upset. If they are your real friends, they shouldn't be upset because they will feel that you are caring for them. So that's the essence of
counseling, whether the other person is distressed, or whether the person is benefiting or not, at least you did what you feel is right, not waiting for the other person to feel.
This condition which belongs to the relation of counseling is beyond the conditions of friendship. The highest form of friendship is the friendship of the one who shares with you of himself and his wealth beyond what is dutiful, and prefers you to all others. We don't have this in our time in reality,
this is only idealistic situation that happened for a short time in the past, and we don't have it now. Can you say that you have a person?
Not your children, not your parents, even actually, within our family members, we don't feel that anymore. But can you feel that there is a person? If you tell him to take whatever he or she wants, they will take and whatever he or she will leave? You are fine with it.
Can you tell that there is a person like that?
Because this happened during the time of the prophet SAW Solomon, he established the Brotherhood,
the Brotherhood through the immigrants and they saw and we saw great examples when what were one of the men from the answer comes to the immigrant man telling him, this is my money, half of it for you. We don't have this nowadays. We in reality, we don't have this nowadays.
Side demand or the law told the prophet SAW Selim or messenger of Allah, take whatever you want, and leave whatever you want for indeed, whatever you take is more lovely or than whatever you leave.
We don't have this. But that's, again, when you tell someone in your head bucola I love you for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. That's the highest level
of friendship of brotherhood, that's the highest level, what does it mean? It means that you don't care about anything of this dunya your pocket and his pocket are on her pocket and your pockets are one. This is very rare, even with within the husband and the wife. They still have their own account there. See. But with true friendship, this is I would say it's not available.
Nowadays, it used to be there for some time. But now it's only idealistic thing that we talk about, unfortunately.
Don't ask from your friend more than what you are willing to do for him. This is another thing. Friendship is a two way relationship. It's not one way
or he's my friend so I can ask him. Okay, you can ask him but what if he would ask you? No, no, I don't want that. Well, if you don't
quantit How can you ask him? If you say he is your friend? Why would it be okay for you to ask and not for him to ask. And some people are like that. You cannot be selfish. If you say this is really my friend,
you should only ask you should only take what you are willing to give what you are willing to receive that you don't ask from your friend more than what you are willing to do for him. If you ask for more than that, then you are unjust, you are unjust, do not earn anything, unless you are willing to lose it.
Nowadays, people seek a position, political position, financial position, and they do whatever they want, whatever they can campaigns, lobbying, and then once they get it, they think that they are there forever. Well, how you got it first place, you weren't there. So someone was there and lost it. So don't earn anything, unless you are willing to lose it.
That's the nature of life.
And do not assume a position of authority unless you are willing to give it up. Again, this is our problem. Nowadays, once we reach that position, we're not willing to leave it at all. That shouldn't be the case.
Otherwise, you would do harm to yourself, and you would be a person with bad intentions.
No matter how long we live, we will either lose the position and the possession, by us dying, or by this thing wearing out. This is the reality
of life. If it's a position of authority, someone else will come.
Just like we came, we weren't there forever, we shouldn't expect to be there forever.
If you want to fulfill the need of someone who requested your assistance, or of someone who didn't ask, and this is rare also. Yes, many times we wait until someone asks, but what if we know that this person is in need? Why do we wait until he or she asks.
As long as you know that that person is in need, you should fulfill his or her need. This is the character of the Muslim. But anyways, if you want to fulfill the need of someone who requested your assistance, or of someone who did not ask, then you should only do what the person wants, not what you want.
I will repeat that you should only do what the person wants, not what you want. And unfortunately, most people nowadays they do what they think is correct. I give you a simple example.
You bought a TV, you want to connect the satellite, the channels, the cable, whatever service you have here.
And the person came.
He told you the signal is stronger here. But you don't want it there. He said no, no, it has to be there. He said, No, I want it here. Will it work? He said yes. But the signal is weak. If he insisted that it should be there, what will happen? Would you appreciate that?
When he leaves he says you don't understand even if you don't understand you are coming for a service for this person. So you do it the way he asked. The way she asked many times we think our own way. What if he doesn't know? Yes. Even if he doesn't know you told him that's your responsibility. Not at all after that. It's up to him or her. You just told them what you think. One time one of my friends. He works in the car dealership business. So he gets cars for a cheaper price used cars. So I asked him to buy a car for me. He wanted to buy a minivan. I said I don't want minivan. He said no. It's better for you.
Well, that's what he thinks not what I think. If he insisted and bought a minivan what I appreciate that. Unfortunately, most people that's what they do. I want to help you if you really want to help me do it the way I want children
that he let's say let's go there take us there. Okay, I'm going to take you for a picnic to that place. We don't like that place. No, no Let's go there. Well, you are taking them to the place you want not the place they want. Don't say I'm going for you because you're going for yourself. Most people unfortunately that's what they do. You will be very comfortable. At ease when you do the things for people the way they want, not the way you want.
If you are really wanting to do a favor, do it the way they want.
If he doesn't want your help, then do not persist. Some people are shy. So they
Don't want to ask you took the initiative and told them I want to help. Some people when they say Yes, please. And some people say they say no, if they said, No, that's all what you have to do. You You offered your help they refuse, don't persist.
If you go beyond this, you are doing what is bad, not what is good, or I just wanted to help where if you wanted to help, you should have done it the way they asked you.
Remember that always do what people ask you the way they want, not the way you want.
You are blameworthy not praiseworthy, and you are worthy of enmity, not friendship. I thought they will appreciate that. No, because you did it the way you want. Do what you think is better for you, not for them.
don't deliver to your friends news that hurts him. And by its knowledge, he doesn't benefit.
And unfortunately, nowadays, a lot of people do that. They send you emails with
mutated bodies, with people killed and they say look what's happening for Muslims there. Okay, Zach, Allah here, what's the purpose? You're just making me sad. You're making me feeling bad? And what's the purpose? Is there anything you just circulating? Do not tell you friend bad news that will not benefit him if there is a benefit? Yes. Even if it is bad, he has to know
his son, thinking that he goes to the mystery, then he is doing something wrong if he knew he will feel bad, but he has to know it's his son. But something that will not benefit him, it will only make him feel bad, what's the use? Many people are doing that in our times, especially with emails.
Delivering such news is what the base does. Only the people of the low level that they have nothing to do else. They're just doing that making everybody feel bad for no benefit, no use.
And do not keep from him. What would harm him to be ignorant of, again, something that he should have known. Don't say, Oh, I'm afraid if you told him he will be upset, he has to know even if he becomes upset. You care about him? about her. That's why you are telling him or her keeping such news from your friend is what the wicked does. If you really his or her friend, you should tell him or her
do not rejoice in being praised for things you do not have. But you should be distressed by such praise because it is really your shortcoming that the people are pointing out and law logging about and thus it is ridicule to you with which only at the muted fool is contempt.
I gave this example before you come late
you're supposed to be here nine o'clock you come 930 with your eyes read and people say Mashallah, you will have been doing family a lot and you say yes. And you were watching TV all night long. So if you're happy with that, actually, this is foolishness. Why this is not praise that is done to you. This is criticism. This is shortcoming because you will realize that you didn't do well and you were supposed to do.
Like many Muslim leaders nowadays, they portray them as the perfect leaders. They are just there. And they're not doing anything of that. They like that. If you're happy with this, this is great foolishness. And not only that, Allah subhanaw taala mission in solidarity. I'm Ron
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don't think that those who are happy with praise that they didn't earn, don't think they are protected from punishment. And we have many people like that. So it is shortcoming why people didn't know but you know, within yourself that you didn't do that. So you should pay attention to this. People are saying things that are not true about you and you are happy. Yes, yes, that is only foolishness. Sooner or later they will know. You can apply to everybody all the time.
Because it is really your shortcoming that the people are pointing out and learning about and thus it is ridiculed to you with which only a dim witted fool is content. People are divided according to their Morales into seven categories.
People of the first category praise a person. This is in regards to speaking in terms of praise and criticism about people. When was the last time you're sitting in group and people started talking about someone or I heard her when she came Mashallah, how nice you are. Okay, how often this happens that people talk in terms of praise and criticism about someone. Well, we have seven groups of
People in this regard the first group, people of the first category praise a person in his face and slander him behind his back. And unfortunately, many people like that. This is the character of the slander, hypocrites.
Okay, that's hypocrisy.
It is a quality that is endemic to many people. True or false?
Isn't that what we have nowadays?
I told you the, the young boy
who was with his father when a friend of his father visited them and he kept gazing at his face.
And the man asked the son of his friend, what's the matter why you're looking at me? He said, my father said you have to face man.
So this happens right? behind the back. You say every horrible thing. In the face. You say every nice thing.
This is the character of the slander. hypocrite.
People of the second category,
this phrase a person in his face and behind his back.
Okay. All right. I'm not going to praise him his face. I'm going to dispraise him. There are people so Pamela just like flies just like the worst of creatures. Nothing is good for them. They always do the nitpicking they always so they are criticizing. They are slandering people in their face and behind their back. They don't care. That's the second category. This is the character of the shame, shameless, imprudent.
Are there people like that? Yes, but not as much as the first category, you have to be really rude to be like that.
You have to be really careless.
People of the third category praise a person in his face and behind his back.
Well, that sounds good, but not really.
Always praising in the face. And behind the back. This is the character of the abortionist
people who always praise
there has to be something here.
Eventually, you'll notice that they are only trying to take advantage
like the poet's in an early age. That's what they used to do. They go and they praise the Khalifa. They praise the VIP person to get money. And then they go and talk why it's not real. It is just for money. It is just for another thing to take advantage.
The people of the fourth category this praise the person in his face and praise him behind his back.
In his face, you're not good. And when he goes you say no, no, he's good. Well, why you did that? Maybe you didn't want him to feel arrogant. Maybe this is rare, but it happens. So what is this category of people? This is the character of the fatuous fool.
And again, it is not really common. People of the fifth category are the people of generosity. They do not praise or this praise the person in his face, but they praise Him or at least they do not despise him behind his back. Okay, so that's the category that you want to be on.
You don't praise or this praise in the face, you're calm, you're quiet. behind the back, you only say the good things. That's all
people have the sixth category are the fault finders, they do not praise or this praise a person who needs face, but they speak of his faults behind his back.
And the people of the seventh category are the people who seek safety they refrain from praising or dis praising a person whether in his face or behind his back. So again, these are seven categories according to man has Muhammad Allah, the best of them is the one that
you don't talk in the face, whether positive or negative, but behind the back, you only talk in a positive manner. That's all this is what you should do.
The last category not to talk at all this is very rare, very difficult. So again,
Look back at yourself which one of them you are? Are you the fault finder?
You only talk of bad things
or you are the fatuous fool.
You talk bad.
behind the back or the route one that talks always in the face and the back are the hypocrites in the face you thought good and in the back you only say the negative things. So which one you are.
If you advise someone, then do it in confidentiality
and use sign language. These are two conditions. When was the last time you try to advise someone.
Amanda Shafi Rahim Allah says that Amanda Nina ferati was unable to say hi to Phil, Gemma, make sure you give me advice in seclusion in private.
And avoid advising me in front of people.
For in the most humane and nasty normal, Toby, if you give me an advice, a piece of advice in front of people. That's not an advice anymore. This is what
kind of rebuking, which I don't like to hear. If you don't do what I'm telling you to do, then don't be surprised if I didn't listen to you.
And this is one of the main problems. We like to advise someone. No, no, that's wrong in front of everyone. Well, I wanted him to know, if you wanted him to know you could have waited until you talk to him in private. But you spoke in front of everyone because you wanted people to know that you know.
Okay, make sure that when you want to give a piece of advice, that's really your intention. your intention is not to get the credit, your intention is not for people to say you are a good man, your intention is to give a piece of advice. So do it in seclusion.
And use sign language. That's another thing. You don't understand you. This is wrong. Never say that even to your children. You want them to listen to you try to use kind words. Two simple things. A lot of people don't do them. Do it in private, alone.
Because there is the thing, they like people to announce your faults in front of everyone. Do you like an entire page on Facebook with all the shortcomings you have? Even if it is true, you don't like that? People also don't like that. So if you have an issue, go directly to the person. Talk to him or her in private. That's the best way to do it.
If you want to center someone, do not add you attribute the center to someone else. Again, you come to someone and tell him people are talking about what you did last night. I think you should change that.
Okay. People really are it's you. But you are relating that to people. I think people don't like that not speak for people speak for yourself. I tell you, I gave you this example one time one of the brothers came to me and he said, You are quick in your salute. Please prolong this a little bit.
Everybody wants that. I told him Okay, and demonstrate we have two lines.
At least we have 50 people. I told him give me two of everybody to say that they want this to be longer and I don't mind. He never came back. So while you say people say it's me, don't attribute something to people that you survey people everybody was unhappy with what you did really everybody or it is you just because we feel something that doesn't make it everybody's feelings. Remember that so do not attribute that to
others that otherwise you are calumny.
If you use harsh language, you would alienate him.
You wanted to advise but you use harsh language or harsh language What happened? Allah says about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Well, it couldn't have been a little can be learned from booming Holic. Had you were harsh, hard hearted person what happened? They would have dispersed from you. People would wouldn't listen even if you are the best of men.
Okay, even when Allah subhanaw taala sent musala salaam to Freetown around did he do something minor or something terrible? What was the terrible thing around it?
Allah Allah, Allah Allah He said, I am your Lord your Supreme Lord. Yet masala cinema
was told for all Allahu kolon leyna talk to him in a nice way, even to Pharaoh frown. So don't say Oh, that was terrible even if it is terrible. You want it to be change, your harsh language won't do any any better. And the prophets are seldom said.
But Shirou relax enough to give claddagh glad tidings do not alienate people. Unfortunately, nowadays, many people do the opposite.
We shouldn't be doing this. This is haram, this is wrong. This is and we are only giving commands giving wrong things. We're not using the nice language, the good things.
And speak to him gently. This is about freedom for all allow coralina and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, he said,
Well after enough you do not alienate people. If you offer an advice on the condition that it must be accepted, then you are being unjust. Again, that's not an advice anymore. This is what I recommend. Only the command that should be obeyed but an advice you expect people don't listen. So don't say oh, I'm not going to give him a piece of advice. Why they won't listen, who said that they have to listen.
Even the Prophet sallallahu sallam.
People didn't listen to him
happy but on the lawn.
He owned one palm tree, and he refused to be replaced with the palm tree in paradise. There is no better offer than that. The prophet SAW said and told him your palm tree is in the land in the form of another companion. So give it to him. And you will be getting a palm tree in paradise. He said no. It says palm tree is free. He refused profits. I certainly didn't tell him you are bad you He didn't tell him. So who are you to think that every time you say something people will listen to? You are unjust. If you think that you won't give an advice unless it is accepted.
For you might be wrong in your advice. And that's the other thing. Oh, no, no, I want to advise him he's doing something wrong. Maybe what you think is right is actually wrong. Just because you think it's right doesn't make it right. One time I was praying in Makkah,
during the Hajj time, and it was you know how people are there during Hajj, and I was outside, outside the it's not clean the ground, so I kept my slippers on. While in the prayer A man came and he wanted to take them off. While I was praying to Him, He thought that this is the right thing. I was praying So after I finished I told him What's the matter with you. He said you shouldn't pray with this. I said actually it is the sooner
it is the sooner to pray with your slippers just because we have carpets now, we don't pray with our shoes on. But at the time of the prophet SAW Selim they used to pray with their slippers. So to him he thought what he's doing is right just because you think what you're doing is right doesn't make it right.
So remember that. Make sure that what you know or what you're saying is right and then advise not on the condition that it has to be accepted.
And thus you would be expecting the advice to accept something wrong instead of what is right.
The scorn vanity is to substitute an elaborate, purposeless garment for another garment, similar in elaboration and lack of purpose and to move from one meaningless state to another meaningless state without a compelling reason.
What does that mean? I'll tell you what does that mean? Have you heard the word fashion?
You have? What does it mean?
What does it mean fashion? This is the fashion. What's the matter? Is the wire wearing these weird clothes? Or no, no, this is the fashion releases
and the fashion now what happened last year or last month? What will happen next year. So you are alternating meaningless government for another meaningless government? And unfortunately, many people do that.
True or false?
But to use cloth according to one's ability.
You cannot afford that. No, no, but I have to wear it. What are people going to say about me? Well, you're worried about people and you're not worried about your religion, about the last $100 you have to borrow money just to wear that. And unfortunately some people do that as well.
But to use clothes according to one's ability and need and to
forsake what is excessive is a significant form of rationality and wisdom, which unfortunately a lot of people lack.
Where what you can afford, what is the purpose of clothes?
It is covering the hour. Does that mean anything covered the hour we wearing? No, nobody's telling you, you don't wear nice clothes in a large Boogeyman. But going beyond that making this your main objective of every day, you wake up and you are worried what you're going to wear. Why? Because you want people to pay attention to what you're wearing. That is a terrible thing that unfortunately, a lot of people are doing.
Here's the thing, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, who is the example of goodness and whose character is praised by Allah, and in whom Allah planted all virtues, and who is the freeze from fourth? You see, all these qualities of the prophet SAW Selim used to visit the sick, walking from one end of the city to the other end without foot covers. Okay, here's the thing.
When was the last time you walk barefoot?
No, nothing inside the house. I know every day I sleep there.
going to the mall?
No. Why? Why is it because of people they're going to say about you?
Do you know that the prophets are seldom? Sometimes occasionally he would walk barefoot?
What's the big deal?
I'm not saying to do that on purpose, but just to do it.
Rarely, what will happen?
So he would walk from one end of the city to another endow
and without headgear. Okay. Last time I gave the class on Sunday, and I was asked, Where is my
I said, it's here, but I'm not going to wear it. Who said that I have to wear Actually, today I was going to come with jeans.
Why not? Who said that this is the Muslim clothes.
You wear what people are wearing. One time I was leading the prayer. And of course I gave this class before so I want people to know first.
And I was wearing jeans. When was the last time we saw any man wearing jeans and a T shirt. So one of the brothers came in he said What is your uniform?
I said there is no uniform. Why? Because here's the example of it. It doesn't get any better. The Perfect example the example of the profits, I sell them. So here's one thing, he would walk from one end of the city to another end barefooted without headgear. He used to wear a camel's hair garment or a soft embroidered garment. Okay, one cheap and one expensive clothes.
If that was what was available, again, this is the thing, what is available, let's well
that should be the character of the Muslim. You don't go from one end of the city to another end driving going from one mode to another just to buy a specific type of clothes. So people would say Mashallah, that's nice. What? Whatever is available, that's sufficient. He never bothered with the things that he did not need. Is that something you need of something you want, always differentiate what we want and what we need. If you need Go ahead.
Okay. But if you don't need it shouldn't bother looking for it
and did not abandon what he needed. He managed by substituting what is available for what is not available. Sometimes he walked barefoot and sometimes he walked with foot covers. Sometimes he rode a fine mule, sometimes.
Pure bird horse so again, one cheap and one expensive car if you want in our terms.
What is a cheap car?
kellisa cansia or Mercedes whatever is available. No, no, this is my level. This is my style. prophets. I seldom was able to ride only the best of horses but he didn't do that.
He brought what was available
Sometimes a donkey. Okay, and that is the cheapest. So you have a camel, expensive horse even more expensive and a donkey
whatever is available
and carried some of his companions with him.
No, no, this is my car nobody gets in.
Why? Come on you? I don't know on my way. Let's go.
Sometimes he ate this without bread and sometimes it dry bread, dry bread. That's, I mean, that's the lowest of forms of food. Not only bread, but also it's dry. So it has been wild.
And nowadays on iftaar we have so many types of food and we say that's all. Pamela. This is the truth. Sometimes he ate barbecued goat meat. That's very expensive. barbecued goat meat, that's a high level of food and sometimes a juicy watermelon without other desserts, so even desserts, he would have some he used to eat what is necessary and leave out the excess and what he does not need. He did not consume beyond his need. He did not feel angry for himself but for the sake of Allah, the Exalted full of majesty. So who in our time can say I follow this Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim. Okay. Unfortunately we focus on many sooner how to raise the hands what's the level here or here but
we don't focus on that soon. This is soon as well. Well I told you I was going to come with jeans I don't care whatever are people going to say about me because it was never reported that the profits are selling maintained wearing something specific. Sometimes he would wear
bizarre our and Rida the two matching clothes that men wear during a hump, sometimes a clock, expensive one matching what is lower, sometimes whatever was available shirt and long shirt. So whatever was available, it was never reported that even Muslims new Muslims, when was the last time they were told, or because they are Muslim, now you have to change your government.
Actually, the government of the Muslims used to be made in the kofod land. So whatever is available, you wear it as long as it covers the hour. It is maintaining and guarding your modesty, that's what you have to do.
So remember that this is one of the best paragraphs of the book actually about following the Sunnah of the Prophet Solomon, these things people nowadays are so consumed with things that will not benefit them. What people are going to say about me, I have to wear that dress, I have to pay for it, I have to afford it. Even if you don't have the money,
whatever is available, use it.
essence of rationality is being obedient to Allah and cultivating the virtues, who is the rational in our time, when we say someone is rational, I still remember the time when I finished high school, I finished in Kuwait. And I was the only one with my friend amongst the 50 top people, graduates from high school. The rest are all females. We were very unique that two males and the rest are females. The top I was the fifth of the entire country. And people asked me what do you want to study I said, I will study Islamic Studies. They said You're crazy. So rationality to them that someone with good skills, someone can get high scores should go where to medical school. Nowadays
people also have the same thing. You're crazy. If you have money, and you don't spend it on these things. You're crazy. If you can get this job and you leave it because you cannot pray on time.
Unfortunately, that's the definition of rationality in our time. The true definition is being obedient to Allah subhanaw taala the rational is the one who obeys Allah subhanho wa Taala that is the true rational.
This essence also implies avoiding any disobedience to Allah and all vices. Okay, how come you left this job? You were paid so much money? Are you crazy? No, but I cannot pray on time. I have to pray later. So what allies forget
Isn't that what people do nowadays? Isn't that what they are saying?
to them? That's rationality. It's about dunia.
A sister, two brothers proposed to her. One of them is not so rich. But Mashallah his character is good. his religion is good than the other one is rich. But he said, which one her family will tell her to marry?
We know unfortunately we know that's the thing we know.
The true rationality is being obedient to Allah this essence also implies avoiding any disobedience to Allah and all vices. Allah, the Exalted, stated in more than one place in his book, that who is disobedient to him is irrational. The true irrational is the one who is disobedient to Allah.
Allah the Exalted said about certain people will call you They said, had we not listened or being rational, low can smell or not, you know, macronucleus herbicide.
We shouldn't be among the companions of the blazing fire. And Allah, the Exalted, approved of what they said by stating so they confess their sins, but far is forgiveness from the companions of the blazing fire. Who are those people saying had we only listened and being rational? Those people add their time everybody looked up to them. Those people add their time everybody thought they are, they are the wise ones. They are the ones that achieved the dream. They made it
in terms of dunya Yes, the companions of around they were rich, they were powerful, but they only obeyed around so where did it leave them? the obedience of Iran to Hellfire but unfortunately, it's too late later, that's what happened. A lot confessed that they are irrational, although everybody said they were rational. Nowadays, they look at someone Mashallah, what a man what a character.
He's well known, he's successful, but he doesn't pray, what kind of success is that? Doesn't mean that you don't aim for a nice job for a good position. For a good field to study. It's okay. But the main thing is to be obedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala. That's the main thing. Those people Allah approved what they said that they are irrational. Although at their time they were rich. They had everything of this dunya but they were disobedient.
It is also irrational to be consumed by the affairs of this world, to try hard to please people in order to serve one's goals. Whether these goals are bad or not shameful or not. to employ clever means to increase one's wealth and fame and to secure high positions by wicked, irreligious means, isn't that what we see nowadays from people, they say I have a good objective. Even if you have a good objective, you cannot use bad means. Politicians, celebrities and other people. That's what they are using.
nano as long as my goal is noble, the means are justified. No.
It doesn't make it right.
The essence if it's not right, the end cannot be right.
The people mentioned above who confessed that they were irrational. And whose confession Allah approved were consumed by the affairs of this world worked hard to increase their wealth followed obediently their kings, okay. So don't think that those people, even nowadays, people are looking up to they are rational, even if they have a lot of even if they are obedient to the elite, why they are irrational because they are putting first pleasing people and dounia instead of pleasing Allah. and thereafter, that is the problem. Nobody is telling you, you cannot be rich, or you cannot achieve a high position. Nobody is telling you that you can, as long as you put the obedience to
Allah first and foremost.
Those people were consumed by the affairs of this world worked hard to increase the wealth followed immediately there kings and were protective of their leadership positions. But still, in terms of the reality in terms of a law, they are irrational.
So at our time, look at the people who are truly rational and irrational, because unfortunately, the terms and the definitions have been changed in our time, one time the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
sitting with the companions, and a man, a poor man.
Not very well known, passed by. So he asked the companions, who would marry this man to his daughter or to his female relative? They said, well, no one of us He is a poor man unknown. If he spoke, he wouldn't be listened to. If he proposed, he wouldn't be given. Then another man passed by rich man. And he told them, what do you think of this man? They said, Oh my God, this man is rich.
If he spoke, he should be listened to if he proposed they should be given he said, the bad one is better than the entire Earth fold with this one.
These are the two standards
that we don't realize sometimes. In another occasion, the prophet SAW Selim told the companions about the people who spoke in their cradle the children. How many of you know that spoke in their cradle?
One of them is a solid, salaam, who else?
Okay, let's leave that as a homework.
I will give you one of them. The prophet SAW Selim said, of the children of Israel, a woman that was breastfeeding her baby.
And a man passed by a very rich man. So he said, Oh, Allah make my son like him again. That's what the people are looking up to. So he left breastfeeding and he spoke and he said, Oh, Allah Don't make me like him.
Then another man, a poor man passed by and she said, Oh, Allah don't make my son like that. He left again and he said, Oh, Allah made me like him. She said, What's the matter with you? He said, Batman is disobedient to Allah subhana wa Tada. So who would think like that?
Through rationality, being obedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
The fundamental virtues are for every other virtue is composed of these fundamental virtues. They are
justice, understanding, courage, and generosity.
Now this division is not by the book of Allah or the son of the prophet SAW Selim, but it's just something by research that the man thinks that this is the correct thing. What kind of qualities do you have? Do you have carriage? Do you have generosity? Do you have justice? Mm Scheffer. Pamela says the center with Harvey for Cooley live in New York. He cannot
cover all your shortcomings with generosity for every shortcoming is covered by generosity.
The fundamental vices are for every other device is composed of these fundamental vices. They are the opposite to the virtues we enumerated above. Thus they are injustice, ignorance, cowardice and miserliness. And they are indeed very bad attributes. You shouldn't be
described with any of them
covered this? injustice,
ignorance, and miserliness.
You look at all the true companions of the Prophet SAW Selim. None of them had any of those four bad qualities, none of them.
trustworthiness and honesty are forms of justice and carriage.
trustworthiness and honesty
is a form of justice, and courage. uprightness is a virtue that is composed of courage and generosity, perseverance to is so composed. Okay. So you might say, well, I need this I need to be honest. Honesty is not mentioned in these four things. generosity, justice, well, it goes under them. That's the only thing.
Nobody's telling you. You only have to have these four things. generosity, courage, justice, and knowledge. No, there are other things but eventually they will go to one of them. forbearance is a unique form of courage. That's the true courageous, not the one who always seeks revenge, but the one who is able to forgive.
Not only forgive but also forget that is forbearance. It's a rare form of carriage.
Nothing is more aboard than lying. That is the worst characteristic ever.
Never, ever let people describe you as a liar. Never ever tell a lie, no matter what the cost is. Lying is the worst characteristic. Even the prophet SAW Solomon, he was asked by the companions as Rick and Muslim would a Muslim steal. And he said maybe it is possible. Would he commit adultery? Maybe it is possible would he lie? He said, No, the true believer wouldn't lie.
Look how bad is lying. And nowadays, many people take it lightly. Come, they tell their children and they pretend that they have something and there is nothing that's a form of lying. There is a form of lying.
What should one think of a sin of which gopher disobedience to Allah is the species. This is the reality of lying. It's like a big circle. And the smaller circle is covered. So all types of disbelief in Allah, they are inside lying. When you say God is three, that's a lie. A lie is one. It's a lie, and it's cover. But not all lies are goofy. So lying is a bigger circle. That's why gopher is a species. It's
theme of line which has many other things.
Every golfer is a form of lying. Thus lying is a Genesis and Khufu is a species that belongs to it.
Lying is generated by injustice, cowardice and ignorance.
Every liar is a coward.
Otherwise, if you are courageous, you wouldn't cry.
If you think deeply every liar, he is coward, he cannot tell the truth he is afraid.
So lying is generated by injustice, cowardice and ignorance for cowardice produces low self esteem. And lying is a cause for low self esteem. It prevents the self from feeling honor and praise worthiness.
Well, why didn't you speak the truth? I was afraid I was afraid of the consequences I was.
You always hear that? No, tell the truth. If you think good of yourself, you would never tolerate lying. You wouldn't like people to lie to you. So why would you lie to them? I didn't want to upset them, this is another thing you lie, you think people will be happy? Well, they will be happy,
short term, but on the long run, what will happen? They will not be happy.
They will be unhappy. So again, that's a form of ignorance delight.
I found people divided into three categories according to their speech, which which distinguishes them from donkeys, dogs and insects.
Again, what's the difference if we lose our rationality?
If you look at animals, the only quality we have is being able to speak, they don't speak. They can communicate through but they don't have speech we have speech. So in terms of speech, people are divided into three categories. The people of the first category say whatever comes to their minds without attempting to verify whether what they say agrees with facts or not. And unfortunately, some people are like that. Whatever they hear whatever they think is true. They just say whatever comes to mind. What Why did you say that? Well, I wanted to say it. Just because you wanted to say doesn't make you or should not make you saying it. You have to think first, by the way, the true Muslim. He
is talkative in general or he is more quiet.
The prophets saw Selim used to speak only when it is necessary.
And sometimes he would repeat three times, three times repeating the words until they are fully comprehended. They are fully understood.
Nowadays, we just speak fast. What's the rush?
Make sure that you speak only what you ought to speak because every single word you utter, cannot retract. It doesn't go back. Even if you say I'm sorry, it's too late. Even if you're sorry, the word is said already, and you will be held accountable for it on the Day of Judgment. So always, always, it's better not to speak always. The only time when it is better to speak when there is injustice and
You are quiet
that's the only time other than that Be quiet so the first category say whatever comes to their minds without attempting to verify whether what they say agrees with facts or not. Most people are of this category Why did you forward this to me? Harder harder puncture
Why did you forward this email to me? Well I received it just because you received this email doesn't make you forwarding it to everybody.
Verifying check whether it's true or not, not only that some people they think that they are doing good thing please circulated please send it to 10 people at least.
So Pamela, Who told you that this is true to begin with. Even the prophets are seldom said Kapha will model if men and you have difficulty messin
with money, Kevin, sufficient is lying for the one who tells everything he heard.
Because if you try to recall everything, you will make a mistake. So only choose the best of words. Even Allah says in the Quran, Allah, Venus, the moon and Cola, those who listen to speech and follow the best of it for your own Santa, you follow the best of speech, because if you try to follow everything, it will be hard, it will be hard.
So most people, unfortunately, they just say what they feel they want to say. They always say what they hear everything they hear. People have the second category affirm what they believe to be true, and deny what they believe to be false without actually examining the facts, but only stating what they think. Okay, so they are a little bit advanced a little bit better. At least they thought about it, according to their own
limitations. And that's the problem, not according to the true facts to the true evidences, but according to what they know. No, this is wrong. Why this is wrong, because everybody is doing the opposite. Well, just because everybody's doing the opposite doesn't make it wrong.
So but at least they did some filtering, some filtering. That's the second category.
They didn't actually examine the facts, but they only stated what they thought. Many people are of this category, though not as many as those of the first category. People of the third category say only what ought to be said, only what ought to be said, How can you know that? Whenever you say I shouldn't have said that. You're not in that category.
I wish I waited.
I shouldn't have said that. You say only what ought to be said. Here is an example. Was it ever the prophets I seldom regretted the word that he said, ever? No.
So try to be like that.
I'm not saying you have to be arrogant. You know, you're wrong. But you say I don't want to admit it. No, you say only what ought to be said.
Those are the best of people. But unfortunately they are the rarest. People of this category are rarer than bread, sulfur. Nowadays, actually, we have a lot of red sulfur, but that is time and demand, Stan there wasn't. Now maybe we could say rarer than Platinum or diamond. Very rare. Those people are very rare.
Whoever is distressed by the truth will be distressed greatly and for a long time.
Truth shouldn't make you upset.
If you are upset with truth, you will be upset for a long time.
Why? Because truth will prevail eventually.
So you have to be submissive to truth to the fact
there are two traits that are very comfortable. The first is greatly praised and the second is greatly scorned. To Trey's two traits, one of them is greatly praised and one of them is greatly scorned. They are not being concerned by the affairs of this world and not being concerned by matters of shame.
The first one is greatly praised.
You lose a fortune. You're not worried. Why? Because it's dunya money comes on course.
You lose business. Still you're not worried why your main objective is what to please Allah subhanaw taala you know for a fact that this could happen
So is this praise or not?
It is praised. Why? Because you, you are so attached to the hereafter to Las panatela, that nothing of this dunya matters. So that will give you comfort, you will be very comfortable. The second trait, not being concerned by matters of shame. You don't have any sense of shame.
People, some of them are very rude, you tell them this is not appropriate, they don't care. Is this something that is praised?
This is something that this is not a good trait. They do everything. They don't mind doing anything. Why they don't have any sense of shame. The Muslim does or doesn't have sense of shame.
Higher, you have that.
stripped of that, totally, this is not a good thing at all. But people who are like that they don't mind. They don't think so they're not worried. But is that a good thing? No, it's not a good thing. Eventually, those two people are not worried. But one of them because of good cause. They are so attached to the hereafter and the other one for a bad cause. Because they are
careless, they are reckless, they don't care about anything. They don't have any sense of shame. So, Pamela, you have the two feelings, the two outcomes are similar, but each one has a different intention and a different characteristic.
The following observation is sufficient to make one less concerned with this worldly life.
Are you concerned about this worldly life? What will happen tomorrow I want to secure my future. I want to have insurance and if you are thinking about this paragraph, it should give you some relief inshallah.
Every person in this world when he sleeps, forgets everything that he cares about in this world, everything that troubles him, and everything that he desires is asleep. A person does not remember a sun family. affluence is laziness. governance, dismissal from a position of authority, wealth, poverty or calamity. There should be a sufficient lesson in this observation for whoever thinks rationally Okay, why you are so worried about this dunya just two hours later you're asleep and you forget everything
you will not think about anything so why you are you are so worried even during time when you are awake train yourself to be like that. Not that you don't
pay attention to what are the duties what are the obligations? Yes Do then
make a schedule do a plan do whatever but don't be so concerned Don't be so consumed Don't be so worried. Why because this is the nature of life. Even in your sleep you forget everything The most important thing and the worst thing as well you will forget them and you are still here but you are asleep. So try to train yourself to be free from worries while you are awake as well.
Among the examples of the marvelous planning of Allah the Exalted full of Majesty is that
well, we need to ask them if they How long can you stay for how long can you stay before I can do Can we go for another half an hour? Or that will be too late who cannot? Or cannot go for another half an hour?
No class no class today Don't worry about the next class.
There is no class. So can we go for another half an hour?
What if I can't
Parking Zoo give him the number or the current number and
Okay, we will finish this paragraph five minutes break and come back inshallah. Okay, don't go. We are we have the tendency.
Among the examples of the marvelous planning of Allah, the Exalted full of Majesty is that whatever is most needed is made plentiful.
Okay, this is one of the gems of this book.
Whatever is most needed is made plentiful. What do we need most again, not what we want.
What we need most?
What is the most thing that you need?
Water? How much does it cost to get water? How long can you go without water? The maximum? Three days? That's the maximum, you will die. In this weather with humidity with heat, you might last less than three days. What is more needed than water?
air that you breathe?
How much are you charged?
for sea to?
For the oxygen? How much are you charging?
Free? Have you thought about that? When was the last time you thank the law for the free air that you breathe? What about your pulse? Your heart? Beats?
Do you need that or no? What will happen if your heart stopped?
How much does it cost? And inshallah no none of you needs that the heart The Pacer?
Yeah, the pacemaker, how much does it cost?
And the battery you need to and so you are getting all that for free?
Why is it free? Because you don't need it. You need it most. That's why it is free. This is the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala something you need a lot. It is free. So that's of the marvelous things of Allah. subhanaw taala.
Whatever is not needed is made rare.
It is rare. Why? Because you don't need it.
Think of red Ruby. Again. That's what they had in our time. What is rare?
diamond? How much does it cost?
Let's say a kilogram of diamonds. Wow. Right? It's a lot of money.
It's a lot of money. But why? Because you don't need it. If you never came across diamond, your entire life? Would that really affect your life? No. So why it's expensive because you don't need it.
That is why but who thinks like that? Have you ever thought of things like that? Because that's the reality of things. That's the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala things that are needed. They are plentiful, they are abundant. Things that are not needed, they are rare. That's why they are expensive, because you don't need them. Even when it comes to cars, yes, there are expensive cars and there are cheap cars, car should be a means of transportation from point A to point B. So
to serve this purpose, it's cheap, but to have extra features, sunroof, cup carrier, GPS system. And so it will be expensive, why you don't need that.
You could replace one expensive car with at least 10 or 12 cars maybe.
So again, think about everything like that you will be very comfortable life. Don't worry, oh, I cannot afford it. If you cannot afford it, you have to know for a fact you don't need it. You don't need it. That's the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala. But very few people think like that. The example of people's concerns is that of the cattle in the prairies, once they have covered a piece of land, new territories lie open before them. Similarly, every time a person satisfies a concern, new concerns often before
that is the example of life. Don't think that you will never have any new task. There will be always tasks. That's the nature of life, nature of life is not that you sit and rest, you want rest, it will be in general inshallah, here in this dunya there will be a lot of difficulties. But you try your best to do whatever you can, and you have priorities. And this is a beautiful example.
You have cattle, they are covering a land, that doesn't mean they stop. Next day they need to eat again. So they cover another length. So that's the example of life.
One tells the truth if he says that the rational person is troubled in this life
Is the rational person troubled in this life, you can tell the truth. Here's how. When you see people, disobedient, you worry about them. You want them to be obedient, you want them to be guided. So that is a trouble for the true person who cares.
And if he says that the rational person is comfortable in this life, on the other hand, he could say he is comfortable How?
Because you know that you are trying your best. You don't worry about the doula. So either way, it's good. But depending on what the mean when you say he is comfortable, or he is trouble, but more things could be true.
His trouble is that he sees the spread of false hood, and its dominance and the difficulty of making the truth prevail. That's the trouble.
His comfort is that he is not concerned with what consumes his film.
So both of them are true. Whether you say he is troubled, or he is comfortable, depending on what the that's all.
Stay away from agreeing with the wicked companion. And from helping people even a little in matters that are harmful to your heart to your hereafter, or your religion.
For you gain no benefit from doing this save regret, where regret is of no help to you.
Many times, people don't want to do things, but they were made to do them by their friends. They didn't literally force them, but they entice them, they there they, they encourage them. And the companion most of the time is
doing exactly like his companion copy in personality. That's why it's important to choose good friends. Many times as also as at the same time, you alone wouldn't do something. But when you are in group, you have a gang you do these things together.
you encourage each other. So stay away from that. Stay away from that. Why? Because at the time, it sounded nice like like teenagers. Let's destroy this car. Let's throw eggs in that car. Let's go alone. You wouldn't dare to do that. But together you did it What happened? Yeah, it was fun at the time, but later there is only regret, only consequences. So never help people even a little in matters that will harm your hereafter
and your religion and will not get you any benefit.
Where regret is of no help to you. And those whom you helped will not be grateful to you, you think they will appreciate that on the hereafter. Everybody will say I am responsible for myself only.
Actually, as I mentioned in the Quran, Allah, Allah Yama, even baba baba Nadu friends on the Day of Judgment, they are enemies to one another, except the righteous.
Not only that, alas, panatela told us what will happen.
They will start throwing the blame on each other.
The week will say Oh Allah, we only follow our masters.
The Masters would say, Oh Allah, we didn't force them to follow us. So each one will start blaming the other. But is that going to help it's too late. So don't agree with people in things that will only harm you.
And those whom you helped, will not be grateful to you, but they will feel satisfaction in your misfortune, at least which is guaranteed those whom you helped will care nothing about any bad consequences of your deeds.
They can't help you can tell them everyone on his or her own. On the day of
even hearing this domain, let's say you were caught for a crime. And you said he is the one who enticed me.
And it was indeed he who told you
there is no physical evidence. Police will say well not anytime a person tells you something, you go and you do it.
If he said even if he wanted to help, he said okay, you are my friend I want to serve
time in prison. Instead of you Will that work?
It doesn't work. It doesn't work. So there is
however, do not see conflict, even a little with your companions and the people of your Iraq in matters that do not have your religion or your hereafter. Here's another thing. People sometimes they have this nature of criticizing
or trying to
point to mistakes. You're telling the story and you said 10 cars, someone stops you and say no, no, it was nine cars, really nine or 10 how different it will be? Will that we appreciate it.
It doesn't mean that you agree with the wrong or the mistake. But you are raising hatred. That's all you are creating division. Yes, if it is necessary thing, nobody is telling you, you have to approve of it. Or you have to agree with it if it's wrong, but do not disagree with people just for the sake of disagree. And we have people like that. They always like to be singled out. They always like to be known know, my opinion, my opinion is different. And then
there is nothing tangible and the outcome is almost the same, but they want to be known. So don't seek conflict, even a little with your companions and the people of your era in matters that do not harm your religion, or your hereafter for such conflict leads to harm, tension and enmity. This may even lead to great detriments without there being any benefit originally, you didn't benefit.
If there is no escape from choosing between angering people and angering Allah, the Exalted full of majesty, or between rejecting people and rejecting the truth, then choose to anger people and to reject them, but never anger Allah or reject the truth.
Isn't that what we see nowadays? Unfortunately, some people they try
to reconcile. Nobody is telling you make Allah happy and don't displace people. If you can do both, that's fine. But if there is no escape, you have to displace one.
Then let it be at the expense of displacing people, for the sake of obeying Allah. I don't know if I told you this story of a woman. She was married.
And her husband threatened her.
This happened, she's a reporter journalist.
She was married, happily married, not for a long time for a short time. Then she came asking for consultation. So she asked, I want to remove my hijab. You move your hijab? She said, Yes. My husband threatened me. If I don't remove my hijab, he will divorce me. What do you tell her?
Now, destroying marriage? Is that an easy thing? It's never an easy thing. But to keep that what are you going to do?
You will displace a lot removing hijab. So what should be the answer? Honestly, what would you tell her?
get a divorce.
Keep the job even though he will
see the consequences first. Well, that was the advice.
Never ever take off your job. It's a command from Allah subhanaw taala. But she was afraid she didn't listen.
So she removed her hijab. And unfortunately, until this day, she doesn't wear hijab. What happened? In less than a month her husband divorced her.
So she displays the law and her husband was displeased with her. She took it off to please her husband, but he divorced her anyways.
This is a true story. Tell him until this very day, she doesn't wear hijab, and she lost that marriage that she wanted to maintain at the expense of displacing a lot.
So never ever displays a lot. If you can please vote Yes, go ahead. But if there is no escape, you have to displease either people or a lot not let it be the entire people.
At least I am pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala.
It is beautiful to following the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in admonishing the people of ignorance, disobedience to Allah and sin. However, admonishes sternly and harshly is mistaken has transgressed and in most matters entices the admonished person to persist in his or her own
Nice ways in order to infuriate the harsh ad manager, and this is true
even though the person is convinced he's still doing what you are telling him exactly not to do just to make you upset, because your way was not appropriate. Now, this shouldn't be an excuse for someone to maintain during the scenes but your way was a factor.
Remember, we said you want to advise, it is in seclusion in private, in a nice way, not in a harsh way that was not the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu Lucy.
In this way, the person who is offering the advice is blameworthy rather than being praiseworthy. Just because your intention is good. doesn't give you the right to change the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim. Yeah, what he's doing is wrong. Yeah, he should be advised. But that doesn't mean you don't follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sizer.
admonish, kindly, softly and with a smile,
kindly, softly and with a smile,
as if you are offering counsel and informing about the deeds of someone other than the admonished person.
What does that mean?
Let's say you advise people and they refused. Again, some people think that the minute they tell people they will obey, your work starts when they say no, not when they say yes. People are not children. You tell them and they obey. You're not giving them commands, you are giving them pieces of advice. So they said no, what do you do? You smile? You talk kindly. They refused. What do you do? You admonish, this is the example.
As you are offering a counsel, what do you think if you can do this, this works, even with children, instead of telling your child go and bring that tell him or her, can you bring me that? It will be very effective, to be very effective. Even the prophets are seldom when the companions would ask him, they are asking him so they want to listen to him. So they are willing to do whatever he says, But still, he says,
maybe this would be better.
He doesn't tell him you should do this.
in shape, if you want. That's exactly what the prophet SAW Selim used to say, in shader. Allah says in the Quran, lo ledger, why why did they not bring then
you didn't say they should have brought. So it is always better in a way of counseling.
As if you are offering your counsel and informing about the deeds of someone other than the admonished that's another thing.
You want to advise someone?
He is addicted to smoking.
It is Ramadan. You told him smoking haram didn't work. I know it's heroin, but I can't quit. Smoking is harmful. I know. I have been telling you this. It doesn't work. So you come to him, You tell him, you see that neighbor? I never ever thought that he would quit smoking. But Mashallah, from day one of Ramadan, he quit smoking.
So that's another way.
You imply that you want him to do the same thing. You didn't tell him but you offered it as someone else did it. So if he did it, you can do it as well. That's another way.
If the person rejects the admonishment, then the ad manager should attempt to make the admonished person feel embarrassed by his erroneous ways. You did that? I never ever thought that you do something like that. Why? Because you are better than that. See, this is another way. I don't think you are the type of person who does these things. Only low people, only the bass. Do that. Not you. So that's another way also see it's not only one way that's it you advised and they listened or they advised and they didn't listen and you go No, there are many ways.
He should do this in again, confidentiality. If he still rejects their management, then the ad manager should try to acknowledge the person in front of someone in whose presence the admonished person feels embarrassed. This is another effective way many times. A sister comes her husband is not
listening to her. She's tired. She told him several times. So I tell her well, even if I spoke to him, maybe he will not listen. But would he listen to his father? Yes. So you have to speak to his father? Not at first at first, yes, you try. Not every time you go and tell people outside. But if that didn't work the other way didn't work. But this person,
the one we want to advise pays a lot of respect to him. So in his present, he will in his presence, he will be ashamed. So that would be
an excellent next step. And sometimes it works.
So, make it in front of someone in whose presence the admonished person feels embarrassed. These are the manners taught by Allah, as he commanded us to admonish, but be kind. Okay, so why people are not listening to us. First, ask yourself, did you do it the right way? Because chances are, if you follow these steps, most likely it will work. Most likely and even if it didn't work, you exhausted all ways. So you have nothing further to do to offer hungry
cannot always make people listen to you. That's a lost job. Your job is only to advise them.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to admonish indirectly by saying what is the matter with people who are doing such and such? Again, he would stand up on the pulpit and he says, What is the matter of he doesn't say you did this in front of everyone. Make it as a standard for the person. You think the person would appreciate that? No matter laquan What is the matter with people doing such and such? That's the sooner the prophets awesome.
He enjoined people to be kind and commanded them to make things easy for others and forbid people from repulsing others. He used to be selective in his admonishment. So he would not cause the admonished person to be bored with his constant advice. This is another thing
in the masjid, for instance, is it a good thing to have talks after every single seller?
That was not the son of the Prophet Tyson. People will be bored. What's the big deal? Every salon there is a talk who would care who would listen, if I missed that there will be a talk. Next slide. If I missed that, be selective. Don't just be talking all the time. Every time. A lot of muscle draw the line, he would talk to the successors only one time a week on Thursday. So they wanted more, they told him, give us more he said no. Prophet SAW Selim used to be selected.
And the problem when they say more, okay, have you done everything you heard? No. So why you're asking for more just to kill time, trying to do what you heard, then you can take more. So be selective.
He used to be selective in his admonishment so he would not cause the admonished person to be bored with his constant advice.
Allah subhanaw taala says the exalted said when a quota for one valuable,
booming Holic if you were severe, or harsh hearted, they would have broken away from about you.
But severity and harshness is obligatory only in enforcing the bounds of Allah. That's when you need to be firm. When you enforce ahead of Allah subhanho wa Taala like a punishment, someone stole you don't say let's be kind. Be kind to who? If you are kind to the thief. What about the one that was stolen from nowadays? This is the problem with many secular systems. And misty, no death penalty, well, no death penalty. This is a killer. So what about the killed? Is he cheaper, his life is cheaper than the life of the killer. That's the problem. Killing is
harsh, cruel. Well, if it's cruel, he shouldn't have done it.
This is only payment for what he did.
So in this matter, the matter of enforcing the the penalties of Allah subhanaw taala Yes, you need to be harsh. You need to be firm.
And otherwise another aspect that is quite effective in delivering admonishment is to praise in the presence of the person whose behavior is to be corrected someone
Else whose deeds are opposite to the wrong ways of the first person.
As I told you, somebody is smoking.
Instead of telling him smoking is bad, you tell him, you see that person, he never smokes, he doesn't have any problems with his heart Mashallah he's so you are telling him about the good behavior of exactly the opposite of what he's doing. That could be also effective.
This would invite the first person to change his ways and engage in righteousness. I now have no value for praising someone other than this one, which is to encourage those who hear the praise to do likewise. Again, why would we praise someone? Is it to make him arrogant? Isn't to give them credit false credit? No, it is to encourage others. That's why we have biographies of the scholars. When we hear about stories that nobody knows, how did it come to us? It was documented. Does that mean they were hypocrites? They were doing that to let us know No, they wanted to chronicle that so we would benefit from it. We would follow lead
it for this reason that people should make it part of their tradition to keep track of virtuous deeds and vices. So a person would stay away from the vices because they are scored in the tradition and emulate those whose virtuous deeds are hos virtuous deeds are remembered in the tradition and he would learn from the lessons of the people before his time. This is exactly why we have a lot of books, biographies of discovers there is one book only one book 33 volumes 33 volumes of people from the past Colm novella in Amazon Allah, he wrote all the biographies starting from the companions, the prophets, I send them the noble ones and moving on to his time. So you would read and you would
be amazed what those pious predecessors have done.
I have pondered all terrestrial beings, and I have thought about them for long, I found that everything living or inanimate, in its very nature, if it has the capability is to attempt to bestow its qualities on other things and attribute to them. Its modifications. We see the world with our eyes. I am righteous I think everybody is righteous. I am wicked, so I think everybody is wicked. I am bad person. I want people to be bad. I drink I want people to drink. This is what happened to the people of loot.
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people have loot, they wanted to kick away. Loot a sermon, his family Why? What was the problem? What was their crime in the home on Estonia takaharu. Their only crime they purify themselves. So purification was a crime to them. Why? Because everybody is filthy. Everybody is involved in this sodomy in this act. So you are either doing what you're doing, or we don't want you. So that's the nature of human beings. That's the nature of animals. Whoever is dominant, will prevail and will try to based on its characteristics on others. This is why even parents, I want my son to be like me, well, what if he doesn't like that? That but that's our nature. That's how we think doesn't mean
that this is correct. But that's how we think.
We think that this is right, we think everybody should think the same way.
You see the virtues wishes that all people will be virtuous and the inadequate wishes that all people would also be inadequate. And you see that whoever mentioned something, instigates others to follow what he says. So he might say, I perform such and such deeds. Again, many times will mention personal things. Why? Because we think it's a good example for you.
I went for Ramadan. So what is the big deal if you went for an MRI or not? While you are telling us about your armor? You want to make a point that this has happened to me so it might happen to you. That's why people say I did this. I did that that's happened to me. And you see the one who follows a certain set wishes that everyone would follow the same set. No one would say I'm following something that is wrong. Everyone thinks that what he or she is following is right and everybody else should do the same. This is the nature
And you also see this in the elements if an element is more
efficacious than other, it attempts to change it to its kind. What is the dominant color?
colors? What is the strongest color?
If you are drawing
black, black, so it's very hard to change that. But whenever you put black on any other color, what will happen? To turn to black? Why? Because it is the dominant color.
So that's the same thing with elements.
And you see this in the composition of trees and in their dependence in their feeding on water and the wet Earth and how they transfer this into wet tissues. Glory be to the one who created the nature of things and sustains them. There is no deity but he is pinata.
Among the wonders of Allah omnipotence is the enormous multitude of creation, you will never see two things that are exactly alike. So, actually, this is something amazing, if you go to a factory to a plant, they are manufacturing something, they can manufacture identical things, but with the creation of a law, how many leaves are there, one three, how many leaves, they will not be exactly the same? How many people even twins, they look alike, but not exactly, there has to be differences. That is the creation of Allah subhanaw taala. Unlike the creation of human beings, it is identical. If there is a difference, it would be an error, it would be a mistake, it will be a shortcoming. But
with the creation of alights perfection, it is perfection, everything is different, there has to be a difference.
I have asked one who lived for long and whose age was at whether he has ever seen an image exactly similar to the one I was showing to him. He said to me, no, every image has its own unique aspects. This is true throughout the world, trees, leaves, creation, everything. Even zebras, can you tell
they have stripes, but there are differences. Everything in all the creation of Allah subhanaw taala there is difference.
The one who wanders the compositions of bodies and of instruments and encounters them frequently and looks at them harder than they will definitely distinguish between them and observe differences between them that are known by him and which he cannot express in words. So Glory be to the exalted the most wise, whose powers have no limits.
We still have
about five pages. So what should we do?
Do you have a suggested time? Because now it will not be enough actually, even if we go for another half an hour, it won't be enough. We need at least an hour an hour and a half at least to cover the rest and I'm sorry about that. This is the only class
who can come tomorrow.
I don't mind anytime I'm free.
We have so hold on we continue.
What time Can we have tomorrow? What do you have here?
There is a class
only after Friday, so tomorrow morning there is no classes
until 11 and then
so 11 o'clock. Would that be a good time?
that will give us until 1230 1245 Yeah, that would be is that good. Anybody cannot come tomorrow. Why?
When can you come?
Okay, who else cannot come tomorrow?
Is 1234 you're minority you don't count?
Yes. So isn't it's going to be recorded. So would that be okay, inshallah.
Again, I'm sorry about that, but
hamdulillah this is what happened.
I thought of moving into another classes, but I realized then that not all of you are attending the same classes. Some of you come only four o'clock, some of you come only four.
Otherwise, I would have covered this, let's say on Sunday morning, but not all of you are coming for that class. So tomorrow inshallah 1115. And whoever cannot come hamdulillah you can watch it on YouTube.
There are no classes between the 29th of July until I'm doing okay, there is I think this is a question Solomonic come, in the case of husband and wife, when the husband advises his wife, does the wife
have the right to take the advice? Or this regard that?
Does she have or Doesn't she have to listen to her husband?
She has, and she should?
Well, it's not really like a certain way that this is has to be done. The husband shouldn't force his wife. But if he felt that this is important,
this is something needed. And he advised her she should be listening. Prophet SAW Selim said, If I were to command anyone, to prostrate the creature, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate to her husband. But again, you cannot take that always telling the wife, you have to do this because this is what the prophet SAW, Selim said, it's really something that is coming to a mutual agreement.
If you see something wrong, and you want to explain to your children that what the others are doing are wrong, what should you do?
Why it is wrong, that's what you need to say, regardless of others or not others why it is wrong. That's what you need to say. Especially when you see your claws in laws. Yeah, it's always the problem.
Or mother in law are mistreating their mate
Again, our issue is not with the mother in law, our issue with the wrong action, whether it's the mother in law, or the father in law, or anybody, it is the action. So focus on the action and explain why it is wrong, then the children will understand. How do you advise ladies who don't cover a job? properly exposed hands? And it's so common? I don't know why it is common here.
Why Really? I don't see that. Well, where did I see it? I don't think I saw it anywhere else in the world. That the entire hand is exposed.
So the easiest way is the direct way. This is not allowed. Your entire body is our Have you have to cover your entire body. That's the easiest way. I was in what's the name of the shop one.
Yeah. And there was a lady.
The picture, she has a job but she's not wearing hijab. So I asked her. She said they don't alone.
That was new to me. I asked her This was two days ago and she's not wearing hijab, but I looked at it I pretended I don't know I told her Is that you?
And she said yes. I said what is the hijab? She said no, he told me don't tell. Is that true?
you allow that to happen?
Go and advise them.
So the easiest way is the direct way. Just tell them that this is haram.
Just because there is common Remember what we said earlier the same class.
One of the worst excuses people are given that everybody else is doing it even if everybody else is doing that doesn't make it right. Okay, what is right is right based on our religion and what is wrong is wrong. Even if nobody is doing it. It is still wrong.
What do you do if society around you especially young girls
They're dressing especially in the back train.
Do you cover your eyes? You do your best.
You do your best.
To bottom fiddle as much as you can. Is the train common here?
Where I haven't seen them?
Really I saw buses but I didn't see train
I thought in town people are more modest than people here in the city.
No. Well again,
trying to enjoin good and forbidding evil three levels first enforcing it and you cannot because that's the law enforcement job. Second speaking about it, tell them tell them simply if they are Muslims, tell them that this is haram they are not Muslims. Maybe it's a way of giving doubt you cannot do that you do it with your heart that you don't agree with that and they try to turn your faces I cannot believe that it's everywhere.
But if it is, then yeah, you have either to avoid going to the train finding an alternative place or you try your best closing your eyes.
He's waiting, so don't keep him waiting.
Nowadays most speakers talk in reference of Qur'an but
always close the talk with
what is the sun understand
all the villa
of the villa This led to the
in confidence of the usage of Quran
verses reference which we should be
I don't understand. Nowadays most speakers talk and difference of Quran but always
close the talks with now the villa. So what's the question?
Yeah, feel confident you shouldn't doubt about it. But there is nothing wrong with always relying on a Lost Planet Allah.
No, this word itself is wrong because you're saying now the hangman Amina
mina zelan now the meaning seeking refuge with Allah from being correct.
This is wrong you seek refuge with a lot from being wrong not from being right. Now that
is correct. So it's not something that is a sadhana from the classroom you have to close with it. Not everybody do it. I don't do it. So it's just something that speaker feels it's better
Allah knows best Yes. Because does allow doesn't allow knows best. He does know best. So Allah knows best.
That's why it's some of them do it. They feel it's right. Some of them don't do it. They feel it's not right.
There is no straightforward answer. Everyone has a different approach.