Ieasha Prime – Mending Hearts The Prophetic Model
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The speakers discuss the importance of remembering words and actions to strengthen one's heart and prevent future injuries, as well as the healing process of a damaged heart, including the use of drugs and physical therapy. They stress the need for people to be aware of their emotions and use them to avoid negative consequences, particularly when dealing with people who are worst-case scenarios. The importance of finding a person to support a woman who passed away and keep it in one's mind is also discussed, as well as the struggles of finding a woman who was in a relationship with someone who passed away and the importance of finding a partner. The hesitation of publicizing public embarrassment and the Yontaro Project for building houses and schools for women is also discussed, as well as the challenges of finding a person to support them.
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So inshallah, I want to You know why
we're in this time together.
I want it.
I want us just to make some intentions.
All right, I want us just to Jam
-pack this last moments that we have of
Yom al-jumu'ah together All right, like
this moment is thank you This moment of
Yom al-jumu'ah is a time where
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said there's
a there's a special hour There's a special
hour on the day of Jumu'ah that
you want to make du'a at that
time I think because the du'a is
mustajab and so many of our scholars believe
that that hour, subhanAllah, is that time like
right before Maghrib comes in like that time
between Asr and Maghrib, that last moment because
after we prayed salatul Jumu'ah We've recited
our Quran and I want to say a
big jazakallah for the recitation that just subhanAllah
Just healed my heart even as I was
coming in But subhanAllah, we don't we want
to catch it.
Hey, we know that this is there.
This is a time where that barakah is
descending and When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said barakah is descending.
It's like a blessed rain And that blessed
rain is something we want to catch There's
some people when there's a barakah that's descending
or a blessed rain that's descending they bring
their cup And they said let me catch
some of it.
I there's some excuse me, they go out
and they just expose themselves to it Like
here I am, it's Jumu'ah, I came,
I'm good enough.
And that's what they got.
Whatever, you know, just came onto them There's
some people who come with a cup and
they said let me catch some of this
blessing that I may nourish myself Or give
some to my child by it.
And then there's others who said let me
dig a trench Hey, let me prepare for
this blessing that I may benefit from it
all year round my family my neighborhood my
Entire community may benefit from it.
And so we want to be from amongst
those people.
We're asking ya Allah By this on this
day of Jumu'ah and this special hour
Do not let this day close except that
you've written us from amongst the true believers
Ya Rabbi, we intend by being in your
in your house Right in this hour at
this time We intend to be with the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in our actions
in our deeds in our character and our
Spirituality in this dunya and the akhira.
Ya Rabbi, I intend to give victory to
his way Ya Rabbi, we intend to strengthen
the ummah of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam We intend just to to give
victory to those who are in Philistine We
intend to be a means of mercy for
them.
We intend to be a means of light
and hope for them We intend this for
our brothers and sisters in Philistine and Lebanon
and in Syria and in Yemen in Afghanistan
In the Congo and in Sudan, we intend
to let them know that their brothers and
sisters love them We intend to send dua
for them We intend to please Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala by being in this gathering and
sending salawat on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam And by this because Allah loves the
Prophet We intend to attach ourselves to everything
that Allah loves and who he loves.
We intend to sit with the ulama We
intend to be in the company of the
righteous We intend that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
would grant us his nazar, his gaze of
rida We intend that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
by us being in his house in this
moment at this time Seeking him and gathered
for no other reason except him We intend
that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala would make this
moment a means by which we're saved from
the torment of the grave and the punishment
of the hellfire and our entire lineage will
be from amongst those that are saved that
our entire lineage and those that we love
and Our family members and our friends and
those who pray for us and support us
would be from amongst those who enter into
janatul Firdaus al-ala wa al-habibullah Muhammad
salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
We intend that all of our affairs would
be rectified We intend that Allah in this
moment that you would heal our hearts by
mentioning you by mentioning the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam We intend that our deen would
be fortified.
We intend that we would be the people
of yaqeen, the people of ma'rifah We
intend to expose ourselves to Allah's mercy in
his expansion.
We intend to expose our hearts to Allah's
light We intend to expose our hearts to
our fulfillment of our purpose We intend that
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala would number us right
our names from amongst those who are who
are the successful Ones who are the happy
ones that the ones that Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala has chosen as his elites We intend
to everything that Allah intended of Qayr for
the people on the earth in all of
our teachers We intend that for them as
well We intend that our teachers would be
elevated by this moment that our teachers would
increase in knowledge by this moment We intend
that by this moment our teachers with their
hearts would continuously be Expanded and that we
were blessed to be in their blessed company.
We intend to feed orphans To home to
give them a home to close them We
intend to be a means of a better
future and a brighter future for them We
intend that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala would grant
us a victory from his victory feed dunya
What I said and that we and our
families will be saved from the fitna of
Masih had to gel Allahumma, I mean So
I want to start by saying that when
we talk about mending the hearts You know
the the nature of the heart is that
it's it's a part of the souls the
greater part of the soul There are four
aspects to the soul and the matter of
the heart is that the having coming by
the Sunni man is something so Significant because
if it is broken as you just if
you have any vessel and you want to
pour something inside of it Of course by
nature It's gonna seep out So when our
hearts are broken We're not able to be
a sound vessel a sound container for knowledge
or for spirituality Right literally and I want
to talk about the type of we're gonna
talk about in Shambhala the different types of
broken hearts And when that heart is broken
and it doesn't have subhanAllah even the right
healing Like for example, I'm not very good
at all of the building materials So you'll
forgive me, but I know that you know
how you you you have a base, right?
It's a beautiful base and it's broken subhanAllah
and you put you know, maybe just some
you find some super glue Well, you put
some super glue on it, you know, you
just want to you know, you want to
just put it back together You just want
it to make it look like it's together.
You know, don't touch it.
It's broken.
All right, don't don't touch it It's you
know, it's it will easily fall apart.
It's very fragile.
We don't want that type of epoxy We
want the type that will like seal it
as if it were never broken Okay, then
it would seal it in a way.
So how long that you would actually become
new They will look at it someone would
look at it and say wow, I never
I never imagined that this heart was broken
and so when we look at broken hearts
again, there are different types of broken hearts
and It depends on what broke it and
who broke it Okay, and how it got
broken There's the type of heart broken heart
that happens For example, like the one that
we're experiencing as a result of them as
a result of oppression That when we see
people subhanAllah in positions that we just feel
so weak That we feel so insignificant That
there's something we want to do about it
But watching them subhanAllah there, you know and
all of their suffering that breaks our hearts
But that type of stuff that kind of
broken heart is a good broken heart That
kind of like yeah Allah I don't have
you know I don't have the means that
kind of broken heart is the kind that
subhanAllah Allah can mend I Allah can mend
all of them But it's the type that
you want Allah to mend you it's a
it's a type of brokenness That you want
to present yourself to Allah subhanAllah in this
broken state Right to say yeah Allah.
I recognize how limited I am.
I Recognize How weak I am I recognize
my own smallness and So I present to
you my brokenness asking you.
Yeah algebra.
Yeah, I'll call we young Mateen fix this
Fix this That's one type inshallah.
We'll and we're just gonna list the types
and we'll come back and talk more in
detail about them later There's another type of
broken heart that happens as the result of
life events someone died a divorce Someone you
know that you love very closely something about
that relationship is severed That type of broken
heart is different Right.
There's a there's a sense of literal loss.
There's a grief that's there and You know
subhanAllah I was looking at some statistics About
you know, I remember in my own life.
There was a time when my heart was
so broken I actually you know, I could
I could feel it You know that feeling
where like you it feels like it's like
there's a hole Right and you wonder yeah
Allah will this hole ever Be filled is
there any way like will it ever come
together again?
Well, I would this feeling this this so
I don't love this deep rift in my
chest.
Will it ever go away?
But by Allah's grace and mercy, I don't
feel it.
No, I Don't feel not only that brokenness
but that empty space in between Where you
feel as if there's a there's a darkness
there.
I and so subhanAllah we we learn how
over time Through events through Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala saying you've learned that lesson So now
I've replaced that what I put I put
something there.
I put a healing medicine on it So
that's one type of broken heart there's another
type of brokenness that comes from spiritual diseases
That comes from spiritual ailments that come from
How we would say things that are like
all types of things that can arise from
our enough from our ego That can happen
as a result of money.
Give me some more spiritual diseases Vanity grief
lust desire Hey, all of those things can
actually cause deep sicknesses in the heart, especially
if left untreated if they're left to a
state of like, oh, I know that I'm
in a state of ghafla and I'm Indulging
it.
I Know that I'm in a state of
laziness and I'm indulging it and there's a
it can be compounded when especially it's It's
left to be in its in its literally
diseased state When it's left to kind of
like pass over and just let it be
there there's another type that's as a result
of a deep deep deep anger that becomes
like a Rage and that kind of rage
can become a rancor and left untreated Literally,
it can become treachery.
It can become a type of bitterness that
that heart becomes become so hard Right that
that heart becomes so hard in its rigidness
that anything I chips away at it Any
event any life events?
That you know the smallest thing happened.
I came into the messian and someone bumped
my shoulder Right, that's why I don't come
to the messian That's why I don't hang
around with these people.
That's why I don't you know Because all
the Muslims are like that I That's a
hardened heart That literally subhanallah that kind of
rigidness.
It just it literally just chips away the
smallest thing Will cause it to fall apart
each one of these Alhamdulillah, when Allah has
its treatment has its cure.
Is that the other?
The Amazing thing about our beloved Prophet salallahu
alayhi wa sallam Is that he's a heart
doctor?
the amazing thing About the beloved messenger of
Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam is
that even his name is a healing That
sending salawat on him is a healing To
have remembrance of him is a healing To
read about him is a healing To implement
his way is a healing that everything about
him subhanallah is shifa Which means you come
at the right time That you have excellent
timing Then if you entered into this door
with any form of a broken heart That
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala said this month this
moment is for you Then if you came
into this month knowing Sayyidina Wahabina Siraj al
munir rahmatil alameen Yasin Tahara If you came
into this building knowing the name of Habibullah
salallahu alayhi wa sallam Knowing that ya Allah
By your mercy you chose me to know
him By your mercy subhanallah You allowed me
to be from his ummah which means that
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala Intended healing for you
and the only reason you walked into this
door is because Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala says
I want to heal you I want to
fill those empty spaces I want to soften
that rigidity I want to remove all of
the disease and replace it with light and
with nur That subhanallah wa bihamdihi subhanallah al
adheem You're in the right place at the
right time with the right people Knowing having
the right doctor Allahumma salli wa sallim wa
barikana sayyidina wa habibina wa maulana muhammad So
when we think about You know, how can
I mend my broken heart?
The great thing about it is like we
have an exact guidance Right, we have an
exact way Like not only do we have
his you know, like his Not only do
we have the book of instruction right we
have the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself
and his example And then there are two
types of healing we will talk about today
and inshallah we'll pause for that and then
we'll come back There are two types of
healing One there is the self healing There
is the recognition that I have a broken
heart.
I have a splintered soul.
I'm in trouble That's one healing There's another
type When you are responsible and all of
us are responsible For being a means of
healing somebody else's broken heart For being a
means of mending their broken heart And so
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is an
example for us in both That walillah and
how we don't Allah didn't send us a
prophet that actually we couldn't relate to Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala sent us a prophet
who experienced a broken heart We all know
that the beloved messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam went through a year of sadness
Literally subhanAllah his family breaking his heart before
that his father being born You know without
his father Then of course the loss of
his mother the loss of his grandfather then
the loss of his uncle and then subhanAllah
He experienced so much love and comfort from
our mother Khadija radiAllahu ta'ala anha al
-kubra alayha as-salam Then subhanAllah Then the
separation of her I know some of you
say Why did you say alayha as-salam
upon our mother Khadija?
There's a narration where once the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam was coming home And this
was after the boycott.
He was coming home and the angel Jibreel
stopped him in the middle and He stopped
him and he said Khadija is preparing your
favorite dish And he said Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala has a message for him Now
Allah sends salam on Khadija And I send
salam on Khadija So from that narration I
used to think like you send salam She's
not a prophet She's not but you send
salam on her and then you send angel
Jibreel to the messenger of Allah To tell
us that you send salam on her So
that the angels would also send salam on
her Ya Allah I don't know about you,
but for me, that was a huge healing
especially as a woman The hope the hope
so this man is coming to tell us
that is prayer time Wa lillahi l-hamd
Make dua between the Adhan and the Iqama
for surely that that time of dua is
a dua mustajab So bismillah rahman rahim alhamdulillah
rabbil alamin wa salatu wa salam ala sayyidina
habibina muhammad wa alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam
So we were talking about of course the
state of our hearts and Thinking about how
the messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
first informed us about our hearts in the
meaning of its brokenness Right the different aspects
of its brokenness.
So first I want to talk about why
does Allah break our hearts?
Like why would Allah allow our hearts to
be broken?
So the first thing is is that what
remember we talked about when that?
Oh When we I'm too powerful Okay
that the first thing is that when our
hearts are broken That Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
allows the contents of it to literally be
exposed to ourselves So that when things happen
and we begin to see Wow, I didn't
realize That I had that level of attachment.
I Didn't realize that I you know had
that level of weakness or I didn't realize
That there was vanity there or I didn't
realize that there was conceit there or sometimes
I didn't realize I had that much resilience.
I didn't realize that I had that much
strength I didn't realize how much Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala was holding me together Until there
was something that actually caused it all to
just fall apart Hey, and so a lot
of times we look at our hearts as
something that's broke that's broken as a result
But sometimes Allah's breaking into it There's some
aspects of it that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
is saying I'm breaking it because there's certain
aspects of it that are no longer Going
to benefit you There's some parts of your
heart that you've become that you've grown attached
to that's what kind of what we've got
to let that go And we need to
grow some new things in its place or
in other cases.
There are some tumors Right, there are some
diseases that you have inside of it and
in order subhanAllah Because you because you won't
let go of that thing or that person
or that that trauma or that thing that's
happening Because of it subhanAllah Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala says listen, I'm gonna break your heart
now, but don't worry as a result There's
a there's a there's a sickness inside.
I'm going to remove it All right, and
then once I remove it I'm going to
put it back together in a way that
it never was before So this is some
of the reason that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
allows our hearts to be broken Right, not
necessarily Because it's it's uh, not necessarily because
it's a bad thing.
Hey when we recognize My heart is broken
because of certain, you know negative things Didn't
be grateful that Allah broke your heart That
might be difficult To be able to say
Allah, you know me better than I know
myself and I've been making dua To go
to Jannah.
I've been making dua right for sometimes the
highest levels of Jannah and Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala is saying as Because you want that
and I want that for you, but this
type of heart is not a Jannah heart
right this type of heart subhanAllah this this
heart doesn't have the Capacity to hold the
kind of Iman that's needed to get to
that level This type of heart doesn't have
the level.
It doesn't have the capacity It doesn't have
the strength to have the fortification that it
needs to do the work that I need
you to do So as a result subhanAllah,
I'm going to break it so I can
expand it Okay, so we thank Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala actually for that.
That's the type of heart That's the kind
of broken heart that's meant for heart surgery
All right, where Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala is
repairing subhanAllah Very similar to when the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when the angel Jibreel
laid him down Right split open his chest
and remove certain aspects remove certain spots from
his heart Said that this subhanAllah you've got
a mission to do you've got a work
to do and because of that mission in
that work You've got to do I'm gonna
remove these things from your heart Because if
it continues to grow like it is it
can become bitterness It can become hatred It
can become it can grow into all kinds
of things.
It can actually consume you So as a
result, I'm gonna break your heart in order
to remove to heal to expand to give
you a new one Sometimes we need a
whole new one Anybody ever felt like I
just need a whole heart transplant Then yes
I just need a new one y'all
The one I have is broke Allahumma salli
ala sayyidina habibina muhammad wa ala yusuf wa
sallam So there are a couple of things
that you also can do if you know,
you recognize I have a broken heart.
I Recognize that the heart that I have
doesn't have the capacity of the type of
a man that I want That I have
a broken heart and it doesn't have the
ability to love like I want it to
love it doesn't have the type of ability
to attach to the things that Allah loves
or Attached to the people that Allah loves
or for some reason it doesn't have the
ability to hold the Quran Right.
It doesn't have the ability right to hold
on into and to be attached to a
certain type of knowledge So if you recognize
right there's some parts of your heart, that's
you know, there's there's something wrong That's okay.
Alhamdulillah That's okay.
Why?
Because you at least have the type of
heart that can recognize it which means it's
not dead so the first thing Hey, the
first thing you want to do is make
lots and lots and lots of istighfar You
want to make lots and lots and lots
of tawbah What tawbah says is Ya Rabbi,
I've been feeding my heart the wrong things
I've been turning my heart and giving my
heart the attention for the wrong things So
literally tawbah comes from tawbah which means to
turn around Say ya Allah, let me expose
my heart to your light to your mercy
to your growth to your expansion So you
turn around right and then you make a
resolution The first one is I Don't want
to do that again.
I don't want to do that again because
I recognize that's leading me the wrong way
And I I'm not interested in going the
wrong way Alright, so you turn around you
make a resolution.
I'm not gonna do that again Then if
there's certain people in your life that you
know, I every time I'm with you we
commit this in Every time I leave you
I always leave with this sickening feeling I
always leave with my heart more restricted my
heart more constricted should I say I don't
leave with my heart expanded.
I don't leave more full of light.
I don't leave feeling well I leave knowing
something is wrong.
So we got you know, me and you
either we change I have to change Either
something changes about the way that we relate
to each other or I'm going to have
to change the way that I relate to
you See boundaries are setting those boundaries to
say I I need to grow in this
way All right, and sometimes that's very difficult
to do.
Sometimes we feel like I don't really have
the words to say that sister I sure
what do I say?
You just said I'm trying to go to
heaven Right, and there's just some things some
changes I have to make in my life
because I'm trying to go to heaven or
Just keep it, you know even more so
like I'm real scared these days, you know
I was I was learning about * and
Looks, it sounds real horrible, and I can't
go Not even for a minute It's not
gonna work out for me.
And again, sometimes those boundaries are about I
love you Hey, and that's part of the
problem That my love for you causes me
to accept certain things that I shouldn't And
I recognize the kind of love the way
that you live your life and Although I
I respect that.
That's the way you live your life.
I Understand that's the way you deal with
your heart But I can't allow you to
be reckless with mine.
I Can't allow you to be reckless with
my life or reckless with my Africa or
reckless with my heart So it doesn't mean
that I don't care about you.
I Continue to make the offer you I
Definitely, you know, I just have to make
certain decisions about how I want to handle
my life It's just maybe we have different
values about the way you handle your life
and the way you handle your heart and
I have to kind of determine and decide
for myself the way I want to handle
my heart Because that's gonna determine how I
handle my life And so it's okay to
set gently lovingly set those boundaries I Love
you, which is not gonna work out.
Let me you mean you don't always work
out So that's you know, and you and
you leave it at that so that's one
aspect Another thing what happened to do that?
This is like shout out to dr.
Rania Is that if you know your heart
is broken and it's broken from a deep
trauma or deep pain That's okay nobody's the
same way if you broke your leg nobody's
expecting you to get up and run a
marathon Nobody's expecting you to go, you know
beats Shikari Richardson.
Nobody's expecting that of you Some of you
like who don't worry Behind nobody's expecting you
to go run a hundred meter race, right?
Nobody's expecting that of you if you broke
your leg Sometimes you have to go to
the doctor You broke your leg.
It's you know, you gotta go to the
doctor.
I need help.
I need any physical therapy There is actually
as such thing as a broken heart syndrome
Where people as we all know with you've
ever experienced a broken heart, you know that
a broken heart releases cortisol in your brain
It reduces stress hormones in your brain Right.
It's in your brain, right cortisol Somewhere that's
what she's for.
See anything That's why you go to the
doctor Go to the doctor That it releases
a stress hormone Right, you literally start to
feel it in your body Which is why
when it goes untreated you literally subhanallah go
into a depression.
You just sick, right?
I just don't want to get out of
bed.
You start to feel pain in your body
when you have that kind of broken heart
He's like I you go to the doctor
and say I need help.
I Need some guidance.
I'm when you know Preferably you go to
someone because we have them available who's trained
in our tradition Someone who can subhanallah, of
course treat you from the Quran That is
a healing and a mercy as she found
Rahman who can give you the tools Sometimes
it's true.
We just work.
We just weren't taught certain things We just
weren't you know, there's there's certain things that
just weren't a part of our you know
That it's not in our literacy bank.
It's not in our emotional literacy, right?
We just don't know them We just don't
have those tools in our toolbox Not everyone
grew up with like the most emotionally intelligent
Community or the most emotionally intelligent parents not
everybody grew up with that So we don't
all necessarily have those tools and that's not
bad.
It just recognize like I don't know quantum
physics right, I don't When I need it
for something like even what I like chemical
engineering I don't know chemical engineering when it
comes time to like, okay We got to
figure out how we're gonna get rid of
these parasites in this water I'm going to
a chemical engineer because they know so in
this case go to somebody who can help
you and That's not I don't want you
know subhanallah.
We have so much stigma around it in
our community.
We think all that's backbiting I don't want
us know how many left do you you're
trying to have confidentiality, right?
of course You're not gonna put out their
business in the community, right?
Of course not.
Of course not So I don't want us
to see that as something that subhanallah would
be you know, that would be backbiting Sometimes
it's just we need to get the skills
Right, we need to we need to learn
new we need to learn new habits new
ways of communicating new ways of relating with
people New ways for how to navigate our
own life new ways for actually how to
talk and to deal with our own hearts
So that's one aspect The next one is
that I cannot express to you how much
subhanallah the Quran The Quran is a shifa
or ahma.
It is a healing and a mercy But
I want it to you to recite it
not just in a manner that's on your
tongue But to recite the Quran from your
heart That's when you're reciting recite it from
your heart Reciting you know with the intention
of Healing your heart with the intention of
exposing yourself to all of its healing qualities
and its expansion When you're reading it, right?
Let your let the you know, they say
the eyes are the windows to the soul.
Let it sink into your heart Take time
to ponder on its meanings That somehow subhanallah.
I don't know what happened.
But somehow we gave meditation over to other
traditions right Right, but meditation is something that
is that is directly prophetic from Rasul Allah
Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
What was he doing in the cave for
30 days?
What was he doing He was meditating he
was reflecting Over his own state Over his
role and position in the world over the
magnificence of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala About
his life's purpose.
He was meditating and he had it as
a regular practice and the more and more
Revelation as it was coming to him the
more and more he increased his time in
meditation You have to have time.
We're actually you're listening to your heart You
actually have to have time to sit in
and actually say to your heart.
How are you?
Why are you so angry Why are you
so sad Or I actually don't know what
I'm feeling Because I haven't had a chance
to let it sink in for a minute
So you need those moments where you're living
you had you have to have a relationship
with your heart So that it can have
a relationship with you You have to have
time where you're sitting and you're talking to
it and you're allowing your heart to speak
back to you Then and only then Will
you know it's level its health or not
Its health or sickness and what is the
nature of its health or its sickness?
and then Asmaa al-husna Bi dhikrillah Dhikrillah
Tatama'inun Qulubu That the dhikr of Allah
is something where the hearts find rest Right,
it's something where the hearts find rest.
It's where the hearts subhanAllah find healing this
takes a Certain type of patience with yourself
Allowing your heart subhanAllah to have there has
to be where you push back the dunya
And you take time to sit with yourself
and literally to reflect over the names of
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala Up out of the
Asmaa al-husna There are what I would
say cures right for different diseases of the
heart So this is something you want to
take your time with Take time subhanAllah I
can tell you that literally even reciting those
names of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala from your
heart by the way When you when you
recite the names of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
from your heart It's gonna it's gonna come
out in a different voice than when you're
saying it.
Let's say from your lungs or When you're
saying it from your head You might be
surprised the voice that it comes out It
might not be that strong powerful voice that
you know that like I got it voice.
It might come out broken So Just be
prepared that when you recite the Asmaa al
-husna from your heart it might sound like
a very different voice the next thing is
Is that you've got to you've got to
give it nourishment The heart needs nourishment Dhikr
is a part of its food Qiyam al
-layl That khalwa with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
That khalwa with Allah azawajal That's SubhanAllah, that's
a that's a that's a that's a feast
for the heart moments where you can stand
in the middle of the night and Yes,
I want you to stand subhanAllah and if
you can recite the Quran of course as
much as you can as much as you
Can stand in the night and recite Quran,
but also I want you to make dua
to Allah in the middle of the night
I'm not I'm not talking about just Quranic
dua.
I'm talking about when you're like, no one's
listening You know whether for me is like
in my walk-in closet Or I'm distant
from other people or in sujood when you
whisper The moment where you literally talk to
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala and you admit your
brokenness and you say yeah Allah I'm so
broken.
I don't even know how to fix it
No, I'm so sad Or Yeah, I'll be
I'm so happy That's also true, right?
I love you.
I am so happy.
Please keep me happy But hey Yeah, I
love this love.
I'm experiencing.
It's so great.
Yeah, I would do.
Thank you Yeah, I'll be thank you give
sugar gotta be I gotta tell you I
Got that I just want to talk to
you about it.
Oh Yeah, I'll be I'm so confused I
Don't even my heart is not matching with
my mind we are out of alignment So
it will tussle may be happy laughing to
me and what I thought I could Hold
on to the rope of Allah and don't
be divided.
Mostly we talking about this as it relates
to the community I'm talking about the community
of self When my mind is going one
way my heart is going another my soul
is saying no we should go up My
mind is saying no we have to focus
on the dunya because of these bills Right.
My heart is like but I really like
this person.
My heart is going in another direction You
need an alignment Yeah, I'll be making me
a reflection of toheem And then you know,
I'm gonna put them on the Colombo home
beat the kitty left I'll be the kitty
lady.
That's a my own on Colombo That the
translation is those who have believed and whose
hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah
Unquestionably by the remembrance of Allah arts are
assured the first part is And Nadina Amanu
You have to have I mean it was
like it's it's not just like faith It's
Like there's this is where I understand that
this is where my safety is.
It's not just I believe in Allah I
it's not just Shahada It's not just Shahada
It's like Allah I know that you're my
security I know that you're my safety I
Have certainty about that So sometimes it's like
I've submitted Right, I have Islam I've submitted
But to be moment is as another matter
So that means right, but for those who
understand that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala is their
safety That Allah is their refuge For those
when they when when the the more and
more and by the way The way you
build up from just submission to believe right
is the good Allah But the one who
understands you ought to be this is my
safety so that's why I run to you
you my true refuge it's like a It's
like a cycle The more you remember Allah
the more your heart the more you will
increase Iman the more you increase in Iman
the more you increase In that surety that
certainty that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala is your
refuge in your security the more you have
done the more you make Right, the more
your heart will be Calm So there's a
certain time I heart to like this We're
in a state of duress and we're in
the state of worry in the state of
stress Then there's another time you're like cut
it on my shot on it You ever
been in a certain situation you like I've
been here so many times before Shaitan.
You can't get me I Seen Allah rescue
me from this so many times.
I've seen this already But The way that
happens is you actually got to remember Allah
you got to remember those moments like Yeah
We did this before Allah came to my
rescue.
I'm grateful.
Yeah, I'd be I Know you You're the
rescuer You won't come to me again be
in there.
I'll be and And you tell me stories
and over and over and over again in
the Quran about how you came to their
rescue so That one the car Allah Yeah,
I'm Elaine Quran the next one is Hidma
Hidma Hidma Hidma Serve somebody else get your
mind off your own problems.
Trust me.
There are people who have bigger problems than
you Okay, there are people who are and
you're thinking that's a kind of line you
we may have a lot of problems There's
a privilege that you have that you can
serve from that privilege Hey Even if it's
something small you can wash dishes.
I know you can come read to somebody
who's elderly You can just go bring them
drop them off a bag of groceries.
You can provide for them even something small
From your privilege that you have you can
benefit somebody else and sometimes in that Hidma
Why you start to become grateful for your
own situation?
So Hidma helps Hidma is a huge healer,
so that's when subhanAllah you're in a state
of mending your own heart Now I want
to talk about how you are when you
are the one who's responsible for helping others
How did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam?
Heal the hearts of others the first one
Which I just find to me up to
be honest so amazing is he came to
their level and was relatable That yes, he's
the messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
But he would literally relate to them Okay,
people would come to them with with all
kinds of problems as we're very familiar there's
a woman who had mental illness and She
would come to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam and said ya Rasulullah like I need
you I need you.
I just need to talk to you and
He would say choose any street any alley
in Medina I'll be there And she would
find him and he would sit with her
on the street in Medina not paved like
we have now No street cleaners like he'd
sit up with her and let her talk
and get it out Talk therapy he would
listen to her for hours Now of course
most of us are like listen I'm busy.
I Have like 200 people.
I had to pick up my kids from
school In addition to that I got to
get dinner on the table by 7 o
'clock I've got work Hey, he could have
said there are a number of people within
the community that you can talk to He
didn't say don't you know him the messenger
of Allah How many people want to talk
to me?
He said choose a street.
I'll be there.
You'll find me He was relatable Even to
children He comes from the Battle of Uhud
One of the most difficult moments in the
life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Where literally he has seen his companions dismembered
on the in the Battle of Uhud the
companions say we never heard a groan from
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Like we
heard in that moment when he saw his
uncle Hamza but I do a little timeline
and Yeah, when he would turn back from
that battle He heard that one of the
children and that children in his community his
his pet bird mayor had lost his bird
Hey, so he said to him he got
down and he said tell me about your
bird what he used to do Meaning he
had the moment just to relate.
I understand loss You lost your bird He
just wanted to take a minute to let
him know that I didn't forget you.
I know that that bird was important to
you How many times we come home and
our children want to tell us something?
Hey or something happened with them, but we
don't maybe they're upset about something that happened
at school Maybe we're so busy in our
own affairs.
We don't take the time to mend their
heart Or take the time to even listen
to their heart How was school?
fine It was fine Are we listening for
those subtleties That sounds tell me what was
fine about it Were there any struggles?
We have to just take those moments to
listen Make yourself available as we know One
of my favorite moments in the life of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He's talking
to our mother With him and our mother
like, you know, tighten it up a woman
comes directly to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam And interrupts them I'm like this woman
is bold Fine like the Prophet I want
you to imagine this thing the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam The Messenger of Allah is
talking to Omar Ibn Khattab Right.
Most of us would be like Yeah No,
I'm gonna wait Right, there were women that
when Omar went to a room they ran
behind the curtain not this woman This woman
walked straight up to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam and Omar Ibn Khattab And was
like Ya Rasulullah, what about the women?
She came from lighthouse Those kind of women
they come from Okinawa Alhamdulillah So she just
go right to the point Omar his mouth
is a gate Like The Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said, Ya Omar, what do you
think about that?
Wallahi, I didn't even know women could do
that He smiles, Omar this is Adi, he
turns to her what about the women?
What would make a woman do that My
heart is tired of not being noticed My
heart is tired of being on the outside
My heart is tired of being excluded.
My heart is tired of not having access
My heart is broken that other people get
to sit with a messenger of Allah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam I sit from afar and
just watch and Just yearn and just hope
and just wish that I could be close
to him That I could learn from him.
My heart is tired from that And if
I just don't take my chance Maybe I'll
just walk away from this community.
I You know, I don't feel as if
I'm valued So I'm gonna take my chance
So in that moment the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam saw her heart See We were
thinking about her words and her harshness and
you know, we're thinking about that her character
her boldness but sometimes that kind of boldness
comes from a broken heart and The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw her heart and
said You know, he said what about the
women what about them?
Said we want access to you Ya Rasulullah
What's day?
Tuesday Tuesday I'll be there So that became
the day that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam Tuesday became the day that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sat for women that
that was his day He came to the
Masjid just to teach them Just to teach
them You know who he brought with them
You know who he brought with them Somebody
else that might feel left out That might
feel like You know, I'm not always included
I'm not always viewed a particular way by
the community Ya Rasulullah So the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam took Bilal Radi Allahu ta
'ala Said Bilal I know how people make
you feel.
I know how people break your hearts in
community.
Come be beside me Me and you gonna
hang out Not only that I'm gonna empower
you the same way I empowered those women
I'm gonna you're gonna you're gonna do something
That every single Masjid every prayer they're gonna
do what you did They're gonna call the
event and for people who used to look
down to you.
I'm gonna uplift you You're gonna walk on
their shoulders and you're gonna stand on top
of the Kaaba and You're gonna call the
event from on top of the Kaaba and
it's not yes It's for you to uplift
you to empower you To heal your heart
and let you know how much I value
you and I love you I'm not gonna
dismiss you dismiss your concerns the same way.
So how to love and Someone called me
now.
Oh you son of a black woman Hey,
he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam.
They got us all the law Like this
is This is what this Muslim said about
me my brother that I'm studying with them.
So long.
This is what he said about me Now
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said could
have said well you are a son of
a black woman Right, but he saw his
heart.
I Understand what's happening?
Your brother broke your heart because he discriminated
against you So he doesn't say It out.
Come on be strong Leave it You are
a son of a black woman.
Why are you worried?
He didn't dismiss him He listen he recognized
what the problem is He turned to the
one with the sick heart And said you
still have jahiliya in your heart He reprimanded
him So when we are in positions where
someone comes to us and says And I'm
feeling discriminated.
I'm feeling excluded I'm feeling like, you know,
I want to be close I want to
have you know, I want to be have
that brotherly and sisterly love, but I'm feeling
brokenhearted I'm not feeling like I'm getting a
part of that We don't dismiss them We
let them know how we value them We
raise them up Hey, we let their voice
shine through the crowd We look at their
strengths so how to love and say wow
like be loud one of the great he
was a great mathematician He was great at
math.
He was great at business.
He became the Minister of Finance So I
don't want them to think that the only
thing you can do is sing well I
Want them to respect your mind and it's
not like I you know, it's not tokenism
you qualify But I see you I see
you qualified I See you So that's another
way The other one of course don't know
when we always and he smiled He smiled
He would smile at people and make them
feel like You know that feeling with someone
smile so bright and they make you feel
so welcome.
You wonder like are they spending somebody else?
Hey me Something about that smile just like
warms your heart.
It's healing All right, and so he would
smile at people with a beautiful smile Any
of them give them salam, he'd pass by
the women making Salah or in the masjid
salam alaikum He wasn't that was women in
the masjid No, I see you.
You're not invisible.
I see you You're not so you're not
a fit not to the point that I
can't give you a salam I see you
I Mean of course who doesn't want a
salam from a prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam
The next one is that so kind of
love for the worried heart there was a
man in the his masjid and He was
sitting and he was weeping and he was
clearly worried that he was stressed and the
Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam came and noticed
him Sat next to him.
What's wrong?
What's wrong?
he started to tell the Prophet salallahu alayhi
wa sallam about his debts and his bills
and Like all his we started to just
literally pour his heart out to the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam The Prophet alayhi salatu
was salam made dua for him, but also
gave him a dua So when come when
someone comes to you, right?
Let's let's make dua together.
I'm gonna pray for you But also subhanAllah,
here's a dua.
You know a dua, right?
He gave him Allahumma la'udhu bika min
alhammu buhazan, wa'udhu bika min ajizu kasan,
wa'udhu bika min jubunu bukhul, wa'udhu
bika min ghalabati daini wa qahri rija'an
He gave him that dua Which also is
like He gave him like a comprehensive dua
That was specific min ghalabati daini wa qahri
rija'an Like he gave him one specific.
Okay, you're complaining about your debt and you're
overpowered by you know, people are you know
Demanding their money from you.
But also I see that it's worrying you
Allahumma la'udhu bika min alhammu buhazan, wa
'udhu bika min ajizu kasan, wa'udhu bika
min ajizu kasan He's saying I see you
I see what it's doing to you.
So I'm gonna give you this dua Right
that's for the whole of your condition When
you're crying for yourself, and by the way,
crying is a big healer We know that
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when his
children passed away, he wept When Khadija passed
away, he wept When he missed you, he
wept There's a time he's sitting in his
masjid, and he's crying so profusely That his
beard, his beloved beard is dripping with tears
Dripping wet, and the companions are like, Ya
Rasulullah, what's wrong?
He said, I miss my brothers.
I miss them He said, Ya Rasulullah, we're
right here.
He said, no, you're my companions My brothers
and my sisters, they're the ones that They
believe in me, and they've never seen me
They love me, they've never met me They
sing salawat, they've never seen my face He
longed for you the way you longed for
him He yearned for your company the way
you yearned for his company So he shared
in our brokenheartedness from missing each other So
of course, crying For yourself and for others,
crying in sujood, crying for your brothers and
sisters That becomes a healing, subhanallah, when you
make dua, right, for them Allah also answers
the dua for you as well But it
becomes a healing, they just, subhanallah, they split,
you ever felt like I can feel somebody
praying for me?
I can feel somebody is making dua for
me Right, because I'm getting strength that I
just, I know I didn't have, somebody is
making dua for me Especially when they're on
umrah or they're on hajj, or you're like,
somebody's like, I just said, right I just
made dua for you in front of the
Ka'bah, you're like, I felt it, I
knew it But even that message you just
all of a sudden feel like, alhamdulillah, it's
gonna get, things are gonna get better Because
you know Somebody cares enough about me to
mention my name to Allah, subhanahu wa ta
'ala To remember me when I'm not with
them, to remember me in my absence, that's
a huge healing That you'll show that I'm
concerned about you I care about you This
is what the Prophet, salallahu alayhi wa sahbihi
wa sallam If we were to list the
ways that he mended hearts He was relatable
He saw people, he saw their hearts, and
then he empowered them He included them, he
made dua for them, he gave dua to
them, he smiled upon them He cared genuinely
And he listened to them Whether he had
the answer or not Sometimes you're like, I
I Actually don't have the answer for that,
other than let's make dua together It doesn't
always mean you have, you know, the answer
You don't always have to have the like,
I can solve this problem Maybe there's some
khidmah that you can do to help, or
maybe it's one of those situations that you're
just like All you can say is that
is tough Let's make dua right now For
Allah to remove that burden from you and
to heal your heart I'm gonna ask Allah,
subhanahu wa ta'ala, to heal you To
comfort you I'm gonna sit and make a
specific dua, I'm gonna sit and say a
hundred, ya Latif, ya Latif, for you I
can see that you're afflicted by many things
I'm gonna sit and when I make my
adhkar, I'm gonna definitely make you a part
of my intention when I'm reading my adhkar
So these are the ways, subhanAllah, just also
being in community, sohbah, with each other It's
healing, subhanAllah, it's healing, it's healing Subhanakallahumma wa
bihamdika ashadu an la ilaha ila anta wa
nastaghfiruka wa natuhu wa inaik Any questions?
Any questions?
Another thing I want to say, the Prophet,
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, used to laugh with
people When they would talk about things, he
would listen, and when they laughed, he would
laugh I don't know about you, but the
thought of the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
laughing The thought of his beautiful teeth to
the point that you could see his molars
That's human Yes So
when you send salawat on the Prophet, sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, and he answers your prayer
You have two dhikrs in between, you have
the mention of Allah and the Prophet, sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam Right, you say Allahumma sani
ala Sayyidina Muhammad So it is a dua,
so you're mentioning, you have dhikr of Allah
while dhikr of the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam So I don't want you to think
that if you send salawat on the Prophet,
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Right, because what do
you say?
Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam So there's, if you
mention the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and
you're sending salawat, you have mentioned Allah, subhanahu
wa ta'ala So I don't want you
to think that, like these are, you know,
separate So, when is a good time to
send salawat?
Every time, every time, any time You say
in the morning, in the night, in the
afternoon, after, after your prayers during, you know,
on, of course, Laylatul Juma'ah Right, Laylatul
Juma'ah, Juma'ah itself Rabi'a al
Awal Shaban, Ramadan Muharram All of it, send
salawat on the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Why?
Innalahu malaikatu yusalluna ala nabiyyaya ala dina amna,
salluwa alayhi wa sallimu taslima Like, even in
sending salawat on the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, you're obeying a command from Allah Because
Allah says, salluwa alayhi wa sallimu taslima Right,
so even in that salawat, you're, you're in
a state of ibadah, you're in a state
of Obeying a specific commandment from Allah, subhanahu
wa ta'ala In addition to, you're choosing
to place yourself in the company with Allah
and His angels Why?
Because Allah says, innalahu malaikatu Right, that Allah
and the angels are sending salawat on the
Prophet So if you sit and send salawat
on the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Now
you're in the company of Allah and His
angels Right, so now, when can you do
asma'al husna?
Except post-mortem, like, that's the only time
Don't, any other than that?
Bismillah, would you like to say more about
that?
No, that's for you Yes Marital relations Post
-marital relations Post-marital relations, that's not the
time Yes, or Marital relations Before, but not
after before, you got me?
Yes, you with me, yes You can do
it in both states, but being in a
state of wudu is best Right, the only
time is not in a state of janabah
Anybody else?
Yes, bismillah Wa alaikum salam to Allah Yes
She said, how can we heal a broken
heart when someone has passed away?
Yeah, so the, one of the things is
that recognize That you are definitely in the
sunnah of the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Number one, he was sad when someone passed
away So I don't want you to necessarily
think that That that broken heart is a
bad thing Right, like that's actually a sign
that your heart is alive And a sign
of mercy But the other thing is, is
that the remembrance that This dunya is not
forever, inshallah, you'll see them again Right Especially
if they're Muslims, alhamdulillah, you're gonna see them
again, inshallah And they're levels, right, they're levels
For example, even in the case of Nabiullah
Yaqub When he lost Yusuf We know that
he cried until, subhanallah, there's a coating over
his eyes And he was like, I'm just
gonna complain of my grief and sorrow to
Allah So he never stopped making dua Right
And the truth of it is that, subhanallah,
Allah This love that Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala puts in our hearts You know, it's
from al-wadood So, we just keep asking
Allah Ya Rabbi grant them husnul khatm, Ya
Rabbi please Bless me to be in jannah
with them And make so much dua for
them, maybe establish a sadaqah jariah for them
There are things, what I learned Is that,
subhanallah, the relationship with that person is not
over See, sometimes we think like death I
used to think, like death is such a
final thing One of my family members passed
away and it was Extremely difficult for me
It was the first time in my life
that I was like, okay, I'm, you know,
after a year I was like, okay, now
I'm willing to go to therapy This is
just not getting better, right?
So, but I was thinking that my relationship
with them was over But then what I
learned is that it's not over If they're
Muslims, subhanallah There are so many things that
you can do to keep that relationship going
Right Dua for them, sadaqah for them Different
things that you can do for them, that's
subhanallah That the relationship is not, it's not,
it's not final Right And insha'Allah, bi
-idhni rabbi Also make dua, ya rabbi, please
give them jannah Make their graves spacious Let
them be visited by the prophet, sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam I can recite Quran and give
it to them There are different things that
you can do for them, insha'Allah So
that you keep that relationship going And bi
-idhni rabbi, they will visit you in your
dreams Insha'Allah I just find that comforting
when I see them, yes Ma'alikum salam
to all One of the first things is
that We always have to know That there
is something to smile about Even, subhanallah, in
all of the darkness and the crazy Then
I'll give you an example There was a
mother, and probably we all heard this narration,
maybe If there was a mother, long story
short This was in Gaza And She, basically,
long story short, they had gotten They were
told to go from one place to another
And they, you know, did what they were
told But as they started to walk from
the north to the south To the Rafah
border at that time Then bombs started to
go off So she had gotten separated from
her son So as her son was running
toward her Basically, a bomb separated them And,
you know, of course, this, you know, just
Her heart, as a mother Subhanallah That night
she had a dream The story is from
her She said that night, she had a
dream of her son And she asked him,
what happened?
He said, mama, I don't know I was
running toward you And then, all of a
sudden, I was running Like, to run toward
you in the street And then all of
a sudden, I saw myself running in a
garden When I think about the hadith of
the Prophet ï·º Saying that the parents who've
lost their children in the dunya That they
are with Prophet Ibrahim, peace be upon him
In this beautiful garden And that they will
stand at the gateways of paradise And on
the day of judgment, they will cry out
to Allah Asking for their parents And Allah,
just to quiet their To remove their cries
and to calm their heart Will bring them
their parents And they will enter into Jannah
with their parents hand in hand That's what
I think about that keeps me smiling It's,
you know, I might be a little bit
odd But even when I think about in
the moment of Tauhid The companions met with
the disbelievers And they were looking over the
bodies And as they were looking over the
bodies At first, the kuffar were laughing And
then the Muslims started to laugh And have,
like, beautiful smiles And the disbelievers were like,
why are you laughing?
Because your dead are in hellfire And our
dead are in Jannah Right?
And I can, like, for us, it's not
the end Right?
For us, if you, like, the dunya is
not the end Like, Allah is gonna have
the final say And just the thought of,
subhanallah, like Even just thinking How Allah is
sending, subhanallah People to Jannah, like shuhada We
were thinking, like, this was just for the
time of the sahaba Right?
And yeah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
giving us that chance Like, subhanal khaliq Like,
subhanal khaliq And you know, I live in
a place that Alhamdulillah, has so much beauty
to be honest So much beauty, so much
light, so much nur But yeah, there's so
much poverty in certain areas And so much,
like, so much sickness And you know, sometimes
we go to rural areas And you're like
And yet they smile And greet me and
sing And sing salawat And I'm like Children
who have no parents Children who Have all
kinds of diseases and They're smiling I met
this little boy About four days ago And
he came and he kissed my hand And
he was like He was the, I mean,
the sweetest little boy I mean, just like
You know those teenagers are so, oh my
goodness He came and he kissed my hand
And he said I want you on Celebrate
Mercy And he was so, so sweet I
mean, I just can't tell you how sweet
he was And he just sat there with
me And he was just, like, talking to
me He was mostly just listening And he,
to be honest You know you just have
some children They're just like, you are just
so angelic Right?
His mom was weeping And My scheduler who
was with me Said make dua for him
His mom says that he has a chronic
disease And I was like, subhanallah Does he
know?
She's like, yeah, he knows I was like
La ilaha illallah I was like this That
was like This little sheikh right here Right?
Like, subhanallah And again, no, it's not popular
in our culture Right?
Do we smile at him?
Just Keep your Keep your light Don't let
them dim our light Don't let them take
our smile They're not worthy of that They
don't get to rip the smiles off our
faces No they don't They don't They don't
deserve that To not smile?
Yes, to smile Yeah I find our smiles
to be a resistance Right?
Our smile is a resistance Yeah Tell me
not to smile In addition to When you
smile It does something to the heart Right?
It lifts the heart Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah Okay, dear
brothers What's your question?
I know you got one, right?
You have one?
Just raise your hand, brothers Come on Gotta
do this I have one from online From
one of the online viewers I'll read it
off to you How can I amend a
broken heart from spiritual abuse?
I was spiritually abused by a Muslim brother
Who prays on conferences first I no longer
feel comfortable going to the mosque Because the
leadership has done nothing And he is there
often What do I do?
One of the first thing is Is that
Definitely, definitely, definitely There are counselors who are
specialists in spiritual abuse Let me say that
The second thing is Definitely If you're able
Find another masjid Or another place where that
person can go Another thing is like It's
as challenging as it is And I feel
like this is a question for Dr. Rania,
honestly Because sometimes, of course A certain type
of trauma makes us feel Not comfortable, not
easy Or have anxiety in places Right?
In crowds, in people In places that are,
that remind us Of that trauma And so
I know, subhanAllah That's not always easy So
that's a process Just like any other You
know Any other trauma It's a process to
heal from that Two small things I want
to say And I definitely want to hear
from Dr. Rania on this one One Is
never blame Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala For
what people do Right People's diseases are not
the deem They're people's diseases The other thing
is Is that At least part of how
I deal With certain things that have happened
in my life I always try to Say,
you know what This person does not have
right To my heart They don't have right
to my personality They don't have So let
me remove Right Whatever that person has done
Let me give it back to them Let
me give them back their trauma Let me
give them back their issues Let me hand
that back to them And remove myself Right
Because they don't have For me, there is
a certain resistance In saying I don't give
you permission To affect me for the rest
of my life I don't give you permission
to dictate My spirituality I don't give you
permission to dictate where I go and come
I just wanted to say About the spiritual
abuse discussion is that For this person who's
asking This is real I want you to
know that this is real And as many
times as people try to tell you that
it's not I want you to know that
it is a possible type of trauma and
abuse There are good resources out there Please
take a look at our teachers who've worked
on this topic in particular Dr. Ingrid Madsen
Who has the Hurma Project She has a
podcast on this topic as well And a
lot of resources Defining it, understanding it, healing
from it Counselors that work with it That
way you have a better sense, Inshallah And
please do not feel that you have to
be the one Who calls out this person
publicly Although we hope that a group of
people will come forward together Because we know
that perpetrators only stop When they're publicly shamed
and called out Unfortunately It's part of human
psychology And this is why in our deen
we have measures in place to do such
a thing But there's no vigilantism either So
you do not have to do this on
your own or by yourself But I want
you to know that this is real And
I pray that Allah subhana wa ta'ala
heals your heart But you're absolutely right, Sheikha
This person and no person Has control over
your heart or your deen May you heal
and move forward, Inshallah In better ways, Ya
Rabbi Brothers Wa
alaikum salam I was wondering, the hadith that
you share often About the tradition of the
woman who approaches the Prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi
wasalam And she has mental health issues And
he says, go to any street, go to
any area and you'll find me there Do
you ever think about or apply that hadith
in a way that's relevant to us Where
the Prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi wasalam isn't physically
near But just to go to him when
we have ideas Or we're struggling with Whatever
we may be struggling with But falling back
on that hadith as a reassurance That we
can find him where we look for him
Yes Even inside of that In the ayah
That Allah commands us to send salawats on
the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam And we're not
always in Medina Right?
So The The answer to that is Absolutely
Absolutely Yes and yes and yes again Bismillah
Yes Yes, I can tell you about the
orphanage The Yontaro Project For which this QR
code is for So in the Gambia The
name of the project is called Yontaro Project
Yontaro means the blessed collective Which comes from
Nana Asma'un Nana Asma'un went to
over 800 villages In West Africa Literally teaching
sacred knowledge Giving women economic empowerment As well
as like building clinics and building schools And
so That's what we're trying to do Literally
follow in that legacy Mostly what we're trying
to do is go to heaven To be
honest Let me just keep it real Inside
the Yontaro Project There are We focus mostly
on things that are Sadaqah Jariyah related So
one of them is of course Is which
not You know all of us are like
We're trying to go to Jannah with the
Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasalam And so the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasalam said That whoever takes care
of an orphan Will stand next to me
like this on Yawmul Qiyamah So I'm like
Yes That's what I gotta do Bismillah So
What we have subhanallah Is a school And
in the Gambia Alhamdulillah We have So we
take care of a number of orphans And
let me Kind of give a short little
demonstration For how that goes So the first
thing is that We have our own school
Huraya Academy Which is a boarding school Where
there are 20 orphans Currently in our direct
care And they're They're also integrated So it's
not just Our goal is for them to
feel like You know They're a part of
everyday society We don't want to constantly Like
I don't call them orphans I call them
my babies Right But to let them know
That you know You are with other children
You are You know You are valuable enough
To receive the same education Right Clothing Shelter
Medical care As other children As we would
want Subhanallah If may Allah forbid If something
were to happen to us That we would
want that for our children So But Alhamdulillah
It's challenging To take care of 20 children
Right And we currently have 43 That are
on the waiting list So the children That
are in our direct care Came from very
rural areas So we build Solar powered water
systems In rural areas Where there is no
running water A lot of times there is
no running electricity Which is why they're solar
powered As a result When there is When
there's just a well Or no running water
There's high level of death As it relates
to You know Water borne illness Like parasitic
infection Of course water that's affected by Ground
contamination A lot of times Girls can't go
to school As a result For having to
walk Sometimes an hour Sometimes more one way
To get water And bring it back So
because they're considered You know That girls You
know If we had to choose Between who
would work In the family The boys would
go And the girls would fetch the water
For the family So then girls can't go
to school As a result of that Of
having that job In the family In addition
to Of course As a result of them
Walking long distances Let's just say many things
Can happen to them Along the way So
what we do is We build underground As
you know We dig to the deep Clean
water aquifers And put in Basically a solar
powered pump And then we bring taps To
either a central region Or to houses So
that means The girls can go to school
It reduces the water infection Of course When
there's an open well Mosquito swarm Causes malaria
Childhood blindness All kinds of problems So we
actually Even if we go to an area
That has a well We seal it And
dig it underground As we have Right?
Underground pipes And things like that Which literally
Subhanallah When those girls can go to school
You literally Subhanallah Change the trajectory Not just
for their lives But for that entire village
And then of course Subhanallah Reduces the illness
And the sickness Which reduces the amount Of
orphans Who actually Are in that community But
meanwhile There are a lot of orphans In
those regions So then It's not When a
child is orphaned Many times There's no one
To pay for them It's not just Their
school fees Even though there are School fees
It's usually like Who's going to pay For
their books?
Who's going to give them Backpacks and You
know Pay for their food When they go
to school Or their You know Notebooks and
pens And uniform And those things That even
if you're In public school You have to
have uniform So a lot of times Children
who are orphaned They don't have that So
then There's nobody To care for them So
as a result They end up Just kind
of being Used as Like manual labor In
someone's home Right?
And they usually Don't have a good Quality
of life So in those A lot of
those villages What we did for those That
we could Currently house We actually Brought them
Into our facility That's why they're Boarding there
So that When they live there We know
that they're Going to get breakfast They're going
to get lunch They're going to get dinner
They're going to get You know Someone who
will Care for them Give them medical care
Dental care Make sure You know They're bathed
properly We make sure We take care of
them Like you You know Literally like Our
own children So that's That's the project In
the Gambia That's the project In the Gambia
So If you are Interested in Orphan care
Or sponsoring an orphan Please let me know
Or you Can go to the QR code
And there's a link for that Right now
We're raising We're having like a Back to
school Because they start school September 30th So
we're looking for You know We're trying to
It's a back to school campaign Where we
can get new Uniforms for them Because they
grow They're growing fast now Right?
And as well as They need backpacks And
you know All the things All the things
That kids do need When they're going back
to school And so If you're interested in
that When you go to the link You'll
see the Back to school campaigns Or if
you're interested In sponsoring the child Yes Depending
on how many you have You got 20?
You have to get a suitcase But yeah
It's possible Alhamdulillah Insha'Allah Insha'Allah Wa
alaikum salatu wa salam Yes They are As
a cat Eligible Well Alhamdulillah I'm ready Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Alhamdulillah Rabbil Alamin Wassalamu ala Sayyidina Habibina Mawlana
Muhammad Wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam
Ya awwalin awwalin Ya akhirin akhirin Ya dhukuwatin
matinin Ya rahmin masakin Ya rahmu rahimin Ya
rabbi We ask that you bless Every single
one of these people In this masjid tonight
Ya rabbi To be from amongst the inhabitants
Of Jannatul Fardaws al-ana Ya rabbi Bless
them to see the prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam In their dreams Ya Allah Ya rabbi
Make us from amongst Those who have Fitur
al-arifeen Ya rabbi Increase us in knowledge
And in wisdom Ya rabbi Heal our hearts
Ya Allah Ya rabbi We ask that you
illuminate Our hearts with a light From your
light And a guidance From your guidance Ya
rahmu rahimin And make us from amongst Those
who have success In this life And success
in the hereafter And make this gathering A
means by which we're all safe From the
torment of the grave The punishment of the
hawfar Even for the blink of an eye
Ya rabbi Please protect and preserve Our children
And those that are close to us And
love us And our entire lineage To yawm
al-qiyamah Ya rabbi Bless MCC Forever Ya
Allah And all of our teachers And all
those who support This community Subhanak Allahumma Wa
bihamdik Ashadu an la ilaha ilana anta wa
nastaghfiruka wa natubu ilayk Allahumma Ameen Jazakum Allah
And khayr Assalamu alaykum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Thank you