Ieasha Prime – Mending Hearts The Prophetic Model

Ieasha Prime
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The speakers emphasize the importance of shambles and broken hearts in modern times, as well as the need for a patient's mind to restore health and sickness. They touch on personal struggles, such as mental health issues and problems with one person. The conversation covers finding a partner and keeping the relationship going, as well as the struggles of finding a partner and finding a partner who is the same as them. The importance of parents to care for children and educate them on healthy lifestyles is emphasized, along with the need for parents to care for children and educate them on healthy lifestyles.
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So inshallah, I want to You know why

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we're in this time together.

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I want it.

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I want us just to make some intentions.

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All right, I want us just to Jam

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pack this last moments that we have of

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young will Juma together I think this moment

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is thank you to that kind of hit

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this moment of young will Juma is a

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time where the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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said there's a there's a special hour There's

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a special hour on the day of Juma

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that you want to make don't at that

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time I because the door is most the

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job and so many of our scholars believe

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that that hours Hanala is that time like

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right before Margaret comes in like that time

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between awesome and Margaret that last moment because

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after we prayed salatul jumuah We've recited our

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Quran and I want to say a big

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jazak Allah I'd play it for the recitation

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that just Hanala just healed my heart Even

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as I was coming in But so Hanala,

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we don't we want to catch it.

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Hey, we know that this is there.

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This is a time where that baraka is

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descending and When the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam said baraka is descending.

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It's like a blessed rain And that blessed

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rain is something we want to catch There's

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some people when there's a baraka that's descending

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or a blessed rain that's descending They bring

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their cup and they say let me catch

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some of it.

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Hey, there's some excuse me They go out

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and they just expose themselves to it.

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Like here I am.

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It's jumuah.

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I came I'm good enough and that's what

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they got.

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Whatever, you know, just came unto them There's

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some people who come with a cup and

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they said let me catch some of this

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blessing that I may nourish myself Or give

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some to my child by it and then

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there's others who said let me dig a

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trench Let me prepare for this blessing that

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I may benefit from it all year round

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my family my neighborhood my entire Community may

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benefit from it.

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And so we want to be from amongst

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those people We're asking ya Allah by this

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on this day of jumuah and this special

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hour Do not let this day close except

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that you've written us from amongst the true

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believers Ya rabbi we intend by being in

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your in your house Right in this hour

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at this time We intend to be with

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in our

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actions and our deeds in our character and

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our Spirituality in this dunya and the akhirah.

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I intend to give victory to his way

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I gotta be we intend to strengthen the

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ummah of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam We intend to give victory to those

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who are in Philistine We intend to be

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a means of mercy for them we intend

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to be a means of light and hope

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for them We intend this for our brothers

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and sisters in Philistine and Lebanon and in

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Syria and in Yemen in Afghanistan in the

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Congo and in Sudan we intend to let

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them know that their brothers and sisters love

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them We intend to send dua for them

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We intend to please Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala by being in this gathering and sending

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salawat on the Prophet And by this because

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Allah loves the Prophet we intend to attach

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ourselves to everything that Allah loves in who

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he loves We intend to sit with the

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ulama We intend to be in the company

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of the righteous We intend that Allah subhanahu

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wa'ta'ala would grant us his love of

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his gaze of Rida We intend that Allah

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subhanahu wa'ta'ala by us being in his

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house in this moment at this time Seeking

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him and gathered for no other reason Except

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to him we intend that Allah subhanahu wa'ta

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'ala would make this moment a means by

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which we're saved from the torment of the

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grave and the punishment of the hellfire and

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our entire lineage will be from amongst those

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that are saved that our entire lineage and

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those that we love And our family members

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and our friends and those who pray for

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us and support us would be from amongst

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those who enter into Jannatul Firdaus Al-A

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'la wal Habibullah Muhammad salallahu wa'ala alayhi

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wa sallam We intend that all of our

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affairs would be rectified We intend that Allah

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in this moment that you would heal our

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hearts by mentioning you by mentioning the Prophet

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salallahu alayhi wa sallam We intend that our

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deen would be fortified.

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We intend that we would be the people

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of yaqeen, the people of ma'rifah We

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intend to expose ourselves to Allah's mercy in

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his expansion We intend to expose our hearts

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to Allah's light We intend to expose our

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hearts to our fulfillment of our purpose We

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intend that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala would number

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us right our names from amongst those who

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are who are the Successful ones who are

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the happy ones that the ones that Allah

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subhanahu wa'ta'ala has chosen as his elites

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We intend to everything that Allah intended of

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Qayr for the people on the earth in

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all of our teachers We intend that for

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them as well We intend that our teachers

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would be elevated by this moment that our

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teachers would increase in knowledge by this moment

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We intend that by this moment our teachers

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with their hearts would continuously be expanded and

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that we would bless to be in their

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blessed company we intend to feed orphans To

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home to give them a home to close

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them We intend to be a means of

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a better future and a brighter future for

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them We intend that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala

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would grant us a victory from his victory

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fit dunya What I had are and that

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we and our families will be saved from

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the fitna of Masih had the gel Mahoma

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I mean So I want to start by

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saying that when we talk about mending the

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hearts You know the the nature of the

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heart it's that it's it's a part of

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the soul the greater part of the soul

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There are four aspects to the soul And

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the matter of the heart is that that

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having fun Ben Salman is something so significant

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because if it is broken as you just

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if you have any vessel and you want

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to pour Something inside of it, of course

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by nature It's gonna seep out So when

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our hearts are broken We're not able to

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be a sound vessel a sound container for

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knowledge or for spirituality Right literally and I

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want to talk about the type of we're

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gonna talk about in Shambhala the different types

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of broken hearts And when that heart is

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broken and it doesn't have subhanAllah even the

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right healing Like for example, I'm not very

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good at all of the building materials So

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you'll forgive me, but I know that you

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know how you you you have a base

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I and it's a beautiful vase and it's

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broken on the line you put you know,

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maybe just some you find some superglue Right,

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you put some superglue on it, you know,

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you just want to you know, you want

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to just put it back together You just

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want it to make it look like it's

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together.

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You know, don't touch it.

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It's broken Don't don't touch it.

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It's you know, it's it will easily fall

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apart.

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It's very fragile We don't want that type

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of epoxy.

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We want the type that will like seal

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it as if it were never broken Okay,

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then it would seal it in a way.

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So how the law that you would actually

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become new They will look at it someone

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would look at it and say wow, I

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never I never imagined that this heart was

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broken and so when we look at Broken

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hearts again.

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There are different types of broken hearts and

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It depends on what broke it and who

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broke it Okay, and how it got broken

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There's the type of heart broken heart that

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happens For example like the one that we're

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experiencing as a result of them as a

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result of oppression That when we see people

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so kind of law in positions that we

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just feel so weak That we feel so

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insignificant that there's something we want to do

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about it But watching them some kind of

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law in there, you know and all of

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their suffering that breaks our hearts But that

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type of stuff that kind of broken heart

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is a good broken heart That kind of

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like yeah Allah, I don't have you know

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I don't have the means that kind of

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broken heart is the kind that subhanAllah Allah

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can mend I Allah commend all of them

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But it's the type that you want a

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lot to mend you it's a it's a

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type of brokenness That you want to present

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yourself to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala in this

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broken state Right to say yeah Allah.

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I recognize how limited I am.

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I Recognize How weak I am I recognize

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my own smallness and So I present to

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you my brokenness asking you.

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Yeah, I'll do bar.

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Yeah, I'll call we get my team fix

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this Fix this That's one type inshallah.

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We'll we're just gonna list the types and

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we'll come back and talk more in detail

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about them later There's another type of broken

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heart that happens as the result of life

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events someone died a divorce Someone you know

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that you love very closely something about that

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relationship is severed That type of broken heart

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is different Hey, there's a there's a sense

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of literal loss.

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There's a grief that's there and You know

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subhanAllah I was looking at some statistics About

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you know, I remember in my own life.

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There was a time when my heart was

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so broken I actually you know, I could

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I could feel it You know that feeling

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where like you it feels like it's like

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there's a hole Right and you wonder yeah

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Allah will this hole ever Be filled.

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Is there any way like will it ever

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come together again?

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Well, I would this feeling this this so

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how to love this deep rift in my

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chest.

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Will it ever go away?

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But by Allah's grace and mercy, I don't

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feel it.

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No, I Don't feel not only that brokenness

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but that empty space in between Where you

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feel as if there's a there's a darkness

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there, right?

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And so so how long we we learn

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how over time Through events through Allah subhanahu

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wa'ta'ala saying you've learned that lesson.

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So now I've replaced that what I put

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I put something there I put a healing

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medicine on it So that's one type of

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broken heart there's another type of brokenness that

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comes from spiritual diseases That comes from spiritual

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ailments that come from How we would say

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things that are like old types of things

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that can arise from our enough from our

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ego That can happen as a result of

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Vanity grief lust desire Hey, all of those

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things can actually cause deep sicknesses in the

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heart, especially if left untreated if they're left

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to a state of like I Know that

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I'm in a state of ghafla and I'm

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indulging it.

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I Know that I'm in a state of

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laziness and I'm indulging it and There's a

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it can become pounded when especially it It's

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left to be in its in its literally

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diseased state When it's left to kind of

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like pass over and just let it be

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there There's another type that's as a result

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of a deep deep deep anger that becomes

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like a Rage and that kind of rage

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can become a rancor and left untreated literally

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it can become treachery It can become a

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type of bitterness that that heart becomes become

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so hard Right that that heart becomes so

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hard in its rigidness that anything I chips

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away at it Any event any life events?

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That you know the smallest thing happened.

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I came into the machine and someone bumped

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my shoulder Right.

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That's why I don't come to the machine

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That's why I don't hang around with these

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people that's why I don't you know because

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all the Muslims are like that That's a

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hardened heart That literally subhanallah that kind of

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rigidness.

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It just it literally just chips away the

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smallest thing Will cause it to fall apart

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each one of these Alhamdulillah when he left

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him has its treatment has its cure Is

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That the other Five The

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amazing thing about our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam Is that he's a heart doctor

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the amazing thing About the beloved messenger of

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Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Is that even

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his name is a healing?

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That sending Salawat on him is a healing

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To have remembrance of him is a healing

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To read about him is a healing To

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implement his way is a healing that everything

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about him Subhanallah Which means you come at

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the right time That you have excellent timing

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Then if you entered into this door with

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any form of a broken heart That Allah

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subhanahu wa'ta'ala sent this month.

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This moment is for you Then if you

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came into this month knowing Sayyidina Wahabina Siraj

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al munir Rahmatil alameen Yasin Taha If you

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came into this building Knowing the name of

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Habibullah Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Knowing that ya

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Allah By your mercy You chose me to

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know him By your mercy Subhanallah You allowed

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me to be from his Ummah Which means

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that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala Intended healing for

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you And the only reason you walked into

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this door Is because Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala

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says I want to heal you I want

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to fill those Empty spaces I want to

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soften That rigidity I want to remove All

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of the The disease And replace it with

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light And with Nur Subhanallah Subhanallah You're in

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the right place At the right time With

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the right people Knowing having the right doctor

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So when we think about You know How

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can I mend my broken heart The great

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thing about it is like We have an

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exact guidance Right?

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We have an exact way Like not only

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do we have his You know like his

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Not only do we have the book of

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instruction Right?

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We have the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Himself and his example And then there are

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Two types of healing we will talk about

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today And inshallah we'll pause for that And

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then we'll come back There are two types

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of healing One There is the self healing

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There is the recognition that I have a

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broken heart I have a splintered soul I'm

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in trouble That's one healing There's another type

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When you are responsible And all of us

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are responsible For being a means Of healing

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somebody else's Broken heart For being a means

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of mending their broken heart And so the

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Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Is an example

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for us in both That We don't Allah

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didn't send us A prophet that actually we

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couldn't relate to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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Sent us a prophet Who experienced a broken

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heart We all know That the beloved messenger

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of Allah Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went through

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a year Of sadness Literally subhanallah His family

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breaking his heart Before that His father being

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born without his father Then of course the

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loss of his mother The loss of his

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grandfather Then the loss of his uncle And

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then subhanallah when he experienced so much love

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And comfort from our mother Khadija Radhi Allahu

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ta'ala Then subhanallah Then the separation of

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her I know some of you Say why

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did you say alayha salam Upon our mother

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Khadija There's a narration Where once the prophet

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Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was coming home And

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this was after the boycott He was coming

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home and the angel Jibril stopped him in

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the middle And he stopped him And he

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said Khadija is Preparing your favorite dish And

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he said Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Has

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a message for him That Allah sends salam

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On Khadija And I send salam On Khadija

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So from that narration I used to think

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Like You send salam On

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she's not a prophet She's not But you

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send salam on her And then you send

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angel Jibril To the messenger of Allah To

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tell us that you send salam on her

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So that the angels would also Send salam

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on her Ya Allah I don't know about

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you but for me That was a huge

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healing especially as a woman The hope The

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hope So this man is coming to tell

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us That is prayer time Make dua between

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the Adhan and the Iqama For surely that

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time of dua Is a dua mufti So

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So we were talking about Of course the

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state of our hearts And thinking about how

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the messenger Of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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First informed us about our hearts And the

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meaning Of its brokenness right The different aspects

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of its brokenness So first I want to

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talk about why does Allah Break our hearts

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Like why would Allah allow our hearts To

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be broken So the first thing is Remember

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we talked about Uh oh When we I'm

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too powerful She's saying I'm powerful I'm weak

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See Okay The first thing is that when

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our hearts are broken That Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala Allows the contents of it To

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literally be exposed to ourselves So that when

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Things happen and we begin To see wow

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I didn't realize that I Had that level

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of attachment I didn't realize That I you

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know had that level Of weakness or I

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didn't Realize that there was vanity There or

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I didn't realize That there was conceit there

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or Sometimes subhanallah the opposite I didn't realize

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that I had that much Resilience I didn't

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realize Subhanallah that I had that much strength

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I didn't realize subhanallah How much Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala Was holding me together Until

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there was something that actually Caused it all

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to just Fall apart And so a lot

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of times we look at our Hearts as

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something that's broken As a result but sometimes

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Allah's Breaking into it There's some aspects of

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it that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Is

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saying I'm breaking it Because there's certain aspects

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of it That are no longer going to

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benefit you There's some parts of your heart

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That you've become that you've grown attached To

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that subhanallah we've got To let that go

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and we need to Grow some new things

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in its place Or in other cases There

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are some tumors There are some diseases that

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you Have inside of it and in order

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Subhanallah because you Because you won't let go

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of that Thing or that person or that

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That trauma or that Thing that's happening because

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of it Subhanallah Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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says Listen I'm going to break your heart

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now But don't worry as a result There's

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a sickness inside I'm going to remove it

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Right and then once I Remove it I'm

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going to put it back Together in a

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way that it never was Before So this

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is some of the reason that Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala Allows our hearts to be

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Broken right not necessarily Because it's It's not

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necessarily Because it's a bad thing When we

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recognize My heart is broken Because of certain

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you know Negative things Then be grateful that

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Allah broke your heart That might Be difficult

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To be able to say ya Allah You

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know me better than I know myself And

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I've been making Dua to go to Jannah

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I've been making Dua right for sometimes The

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highest levels of Jannah And Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala is saying Because you want That

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and I want that For you but this

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type of heart Is not a Jannah heart

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Right this type of heart Subhanallah this Heart

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doesn't have the capacity To hold the kind

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of Iman that's needed to get to That

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level this type of heart Doesn't have the

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level It doesn't have the capacity It doesn't

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have the strength to have the Fortification that

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it needs To do the work that I

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need you to do So as a result

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subhanallah I'm going to break it so I

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can Expand it right So we thank Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala Actually for that That's

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the type of heart that's the kind of

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broken Heart that's meant for heart surgery Right

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where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Is repairing

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subhanallah It's very similar to when the prophet

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Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam When the angel Jibrail

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laid him down Right split open his chest

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And remove certain aspects Remove certain spots from

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his heart So that this subhanallah You've got

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a mission to do you've got a work

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to do And because of that mission And

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that work you've got to do I'm going

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to remove these things from your heart Because

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if it continues to grow Like it is

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It can become bitterness It can become hatred

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It can become It can grow into all

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kinds of things It can actually consume you

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So as a result I'm going to break

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your heart in order to Remove to heal

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To expand to give you A new one

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Sometimes we need a whole new one Anybody

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ever felt like I just need a whole

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heart transplant That yes I just need a

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new one Ya Allah The one I have

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is broke I need a new one So

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there are a couple of things That you

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also can do If you know you recognize

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I have a broken heart I recognize that

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the heart that I have Doesn't have the

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capacity Of the type of Iman that I

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want That I have a broken heart And

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it doesn't have the ability To love like

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I want it to love It doesn't have

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The type of ability to attach To the

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things that Allah loves Or attach to the

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people That Allah loves Or for some reason

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it doesn't have the ability To hold the

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Quran It doesn't have the ability To hold

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on And to be attached to a certain

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Type of knowledge So if you recognize There's

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some parts of your heart That's you know

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There's something wrong That's okay Why?

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Because you at least have the type of

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heart That can recognize it Which means it's

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not dead So the first thing The first

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thing you want to do Is make lots

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and lots And lots of istighfar You want

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to make lots and lots And lots of

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tawbah What tawbah says Is ya rabbi I've

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been feeding my heart the wrong things I've

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been turning my heart And giving my heart

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the attention For the wrong things So literally

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tawbah Comes from tabah which means to turn

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around Say ya Allah Let me expose my

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heart to your light To your mercy To

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your growth To your expansion So you turn

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around And then You make a resolution The

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first one is I don't want to do

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that again I don't want to do that

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again Because I recognize That's leading me the

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wrong way And I'm not interested in going

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the wrong way So you turn around You

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make a resolution I'm not going to do

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that again Then If there's certain people in

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your life That you know Every time I'm

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with you we commit this in Every time

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I leave you I always leave With this

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sickening feeling I always leave With my heart

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more restricted My heart more constricted Should I

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say I don't leave with my heart expanded

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I don't leave more full of light I

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don't leave feeling well I leave knowing something

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is wrong So we got, you know, me

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and you Either we change Or I have

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to change Either something changes about the way

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that we Relate to each other Or I'm

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going to have to change the way that

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I Relate to you See boundaries are setting

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those Boundaries to say I Need to grow

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in this way And sometimes that's very difficult

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to do Sometimes we feel like I don't

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really have the words To say that sister

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Aisha What do I say?

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We just say I'm trying to go to

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heaven Right?

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And there's just some things Some changes I

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have to make in my life Because I'm

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trying to go to heaven Or just keep

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it, you know Even more so like I'm

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real scared These days, you know, I was

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Learning about * It looks, it sounds real

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horrible and I can't go Not even for

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a minute It's not going to work out

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for me Right?

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And again Sometimes those boundaries Are about I

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love you Right?

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And that's part of the problem That my

00:28:04 --> 00:28:07

love for you Causes me to accept Certain

00:28:07 --> 00:28:12

things that I shouldn't And I recognize the

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kind of love The way that you live

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your life And although I respect that that's

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the way You live your life I understand

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that's the way you deal With your heart

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But I can't allow you to be reckless

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with mine I can't allow you to be

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reckless with my life Or reckless with my

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akhira Or reckless with my heart So it

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doesn't mean that I don't care about you

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I will continue to make dua for you

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I definitely, you know I just have to

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make certain decisions About how I want To

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handle my life It's just maybe we have

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different values About the way you handle your

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life And the way you handle your heart

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And I have to kind of determine And

00:29:01 --> 00:29:03

decide for myself The way I want to

00:29:03 --> 00:29:06

handle my heart Because that's going to determine

00:29:06 --> 00:29:09

How I handle my life Right?

00:29:10 --> 00:29:14

And so it's okay to set Gently, lovingly

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Set those boundaries I love you This is

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not going to work out Not me and

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you, me and you are going to always

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work out Alhamdulillah So that's, you know And

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you leave it at that So that's one

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aspect Another thing, alhamdulillah This is like shout

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out To Dr. Rania Is that if you

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know Your heart is broken And it's broken

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from A deep trauma Or a deep pain

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That's okay Nobody's the same way If you

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broke your leg, nobody's expecting you to get

00:29:53 --> 00:29:56

up And run a marathon Nobody's expecting you

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to go You know, beat Shikari Richardson Nobody's

00:30:00 --> 00:30:02

expecting that of you Some of you are

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like, who?

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Don't worry Nobody's expecting you to go run

00:30:06 --> 00:30:08

a hundred meter race Right?

00:30:08 --> 00:30:10

Nobody's expecting that of you If you broke

00:30:10 --> 00:30:13

your leg Sometimes you have to go to

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the doctor You broke your leg You know,

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you gotta go to the doctor I need

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help I need physical therapy There is actually

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a such thing As a broken heart syndrome

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Where people, as we all know If you've

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ever experienced a broken heart You know that

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a broken heart releases cortisol in your brain

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It reduces stress hormones in your brain Right?

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It's in your brain, right?

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Cortisol Somewhere That's what she's for That's why

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you go to the doctor Right?

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Don't go to the teacher, go to the

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doctor That it releases a stress hormone Right?

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You literally start to feel it in your

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body Which is why When it goes untreated

00:31:01 --> 00:31:04

You literally, subhanallah, go into a depression You're

00:31:04 --> 00:31:05

just sick, right?

00:31:05 --> 00:31:06

I just don't want to get out of

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

bed You start to feel pain in your

00:31:08 --> 00:31:09

body When you have that kind of broken

00:31:09 --> 00:31:12

heart You go to the doctor and say,

00:31:12 --> 00:31:16

I need help I need some guidance Alhamdulillah,

00:31:16 --> 00:31:19

preferably you go to someone Because we have

00:31:19 --> 00:31:23

them available Who's trained in our tradition Right?

00:31:24 --> 00:31:27

Someone who can, subhanallah, of course Treat you

00:31:28 --> 00:31:32

From the Quran That is a healing And

00:31:32 --> 00:31:37

a mercy Al shifa ur rahma Who can

00:31:37 --> 00:31:40

give you the tools Sometimes it's true We

00:31:40 --> 00:31:43

just weren't taught certain things We just weren't

00:31:43 --> 00:31:46

You know, there's certain things That just weren't

00:31:46 --> 00:31:48

a part of our You know, that it's

00:31:48 --> 00:31:50

not in our literacy bank It's not in

00:31:50 --> 00:31:53

our emotional literacy Right?

00:31:53 --> 00:31:54

We just don't know them We just don't

00:31:54 --> 00:31:57

have those tools in our toolbox Not everyone

00:31:57 --> 00:32:01

grew up with like The most emotionally intelligent

00:32:01 --> 00:32:04

community Or the most emotionally intelligent parents Not

00:32:04 --> 00:32:06

everybody grew up with that So we don't

00:32:06 --> 00:32:08

all necessarily have those tools And that's not

00:32:08 --> 00:32:11

bad It just recognizes like I don't know

00:32:11 --> 00:32:13

quantum physics Right?

00:32:14 --> 00:32:18

I don't When I need it for something

00:32:18 --> 00:32:21

Like even when I'm like chemical engineering I

00:32:21 --> 00:32:23

don't know chemical engineering When it comes time

00:32:23 --> 00:32:24

to like, okay, we gotta figure out How

00:32:24 --> 00:32:26

we're gonna get rid of these parasites in

00:32:26 --> 00:32:27

this water I'm going to a chemical engineer

00:32:27 --> 00:32:33

Cause they know So in this case Go

00:32:33 --> 00:32:36

to somebody who can help you And that's

00:32:36 --> 00:32:38

not I don't want, you know SubhanAllah, we

00:32:38 --> 00:32:40

have so much stigma around it in our

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

community We think, oh that's backbiting I don't

00:32:42 --> 00:32:45

want this No, Alhamdulillah, you're trained to have

00:32:45 --> 00:32:46

confidentiality, right?

00:32:47 --> 00:32:50

Of course You're not gonna put out their

00:32:50 --> 00:32:51

business In the community, right?

00:32:52 --> 00:32:57

Of course not Of course not So I

00:32:57 --> 00:32:59

don't want us to see that as something

00:32:59 --> 00:33:02

That SubhanAllah would be, you know That would

00:33:02 --> 00:33:05

be backbiting Sometimes it's just we need to

00:33:05 --> 00:33:07

get the skills Right?

00:33:07 --> 00:33:10

We need to learn new We need to

00:33:10 --> 00:33:12

learn new habits New ways of communicating New

00:33:12 --> 00:33:15

ways of relating with people New ways for

00:33:15 --> 00:33:17

how to navigate our own life New ways

00:33:17 --> 00:33:20

for actually how to talk And to deal

00:33:20 --> 00:33:22

with our own hearts Right?

00:33:22 --> 00:33:27

So that's one aspect The next one Is

00:33:27 --> 00:33:30

that I cannot express to you How much,

00:33:31 --> 00:33:35

SubhanAllah The Quran The Quran Is a shifa

00:33:35 --> 00:33:39

and rahma It is a healing And a

00:33:39 --> 00:33:43

mercy But I want it to you to

00:33:43 --> 00:33:45

Recite it, not just in a manner That's

00:33:45 --> 00:33:48

on your tongue But to recite the Quran

00:33:48 --> 00:33:54

from your heart That's when you're reciting Recite

00:33:54 --> 00:33:58

it from your heart Reciting, you know, with

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the intention Of healing your heart With the

00:34:02 --> 00:34:05

intention of exposing Yourself to all of its

00:34:05 --> 00:34:10

healing Qualities and its expansion When you're reading

00:34:10 --> 00:34:11

it Right?

00:34:12 --> 00:34:15

You know they say the eyes are the

00:34:15 --> 00:34:17

windows To the soul Let it sink into

00:34:17 --> 00:34:22

your heart Let it Take time To ponder

00:34:22 --> 00:34:27

on its meanings That somehow, SubhanAllah I don't

00:34:27 --> 00:34:30

know what happened But somehow we gave meditation

00:34:30 --> 00:34:33

Over to other traditions Right?

00:34:34 --> 00:34:38

But meditation is something That is directly prophetic

00:34:38 --> 00:34:41

From Rasulullah What was he doing in the

00:34:41 --> 00:34:42

cave for 30 days?

00:34:43 --> 00:34:44

What was he doing?

00:34:44 --> 00:34:44

What was he doing?

00:34:46 --> 00:34:53

He was meditating He was reflecting Over his

00:34:53 --> 00:34:56

own state Over his role and position In

00:34:56 --> 00:34:59

the world Over the magnificence of Allah subhanahu

00:34:59 --> 00:35:03

wa ta'ala About his life's purpose He

00:35:03 --> 00:35:05

was meditating And he had it as a

00:35:05 --> 00:35:09

regular practice And the more and more Revelation

00:35:09 --> 00:35:12

was coming to him The more and more

00:35:12 --> 00:35:18

He increased his time in meditation You have

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

to have time Where actually You're listening to

00:35:21 --> 00:35:24

your heart You actually have to have time

00:35:24 --> 00:35:27

To sit and Actually say to your heart

00:35:28 --> 00:35:29

How are you?

00:35:31 --> 00:35:33

Why are you so angry?

00:35:36 --> 00:35:37

Why are you so sad?

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Or I actually don't know what I'm feeling

00:35:44 --> 00:35:46

Because I haven't had a chance To let

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

it sink in for a minute So you

00:35:48 --> 00:35:51

need those moments Where you have to have

00:35:51 --> 00:35:56

A relationship with your heart So that it

00:35:56 --> 00:36:03

can have a relationship With you You have

00:36:03 --> 00:36:05

to have time where you're sitting And you're

00:36:05 --> 00:36:07

talking to it And you're allowing your heart

00:36:07 --> 00:36:12

To speak back to you Then and only

00:36:12 --> 00:36:16

then Will you know its level Its health

00:36:16 --> 00:36:19

or not Its health or sickness And what

00:36:19 --> 00:36:21

is the nature of its health or its

00:36:21 --> 00:36:31

sickness And then Asmaa al husna Bi

00:36:31 --> 00:36:40

dhikri Allah Dhikri Allah Bi dhikri Allah Tatama

00:36:40 --> 00:36:48

'inoon quloob The dhikri of Allah Is something

00:36:48 --> 00:36:52

where the hearts find rest Right?

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

It's something where the hearts find rest It's

00:36:54 --> 00:37:09

where the hearts, subhanallah, find healing This

00:37:09 --> 00:37:14

takes A certain type of patience with yourself

00:37:18 --> 00:37:23

Allowing your heart Subhanallah There has to be

00:37:23 --> 00:37:27

Where you push back the dunya And you

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

take time To sit with yourself And literally

00:37:29 --> 00:37:32

to reflect Over the names of Allah subhanahu

00:37:32 --> 00:37:37

wa ta'ala Out of the asmaa al

00:37:37 --> 00:37:42

husna There are, what I would say Cures,

00:37:42 --> 00:37:43

right?

00:37:43 --> 00:37:48

For different diseases of the heart So this

00:37:48 --> 00:37:50

is something You want to take your time

00:37:50 --> 00:37:55

with Take time, subhanallah I can tell you

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

that literally Even reciting those names of Allah

00:37:57 --> 00:38:00

subhanahu wa ta'ala From your heart By

00:38:00 --> 00:38:03

the way When you recite the names of

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala From your heart

00:38:05 --> 00:38:08

It's gonna come out in a different voice

00:38:08 --> 00:38:10

Than when you're saying it, let's say from

00:38:10 --> 00:38:13

your lungs Or when you're saying it from

00:38:13 --> 00:38:17

your head You might be surprised the voice

00:38:17 --> 00:38:20

that it comes out It might not be

00:38:20 --> 00:38:24

that strong Powerful voice that you know That

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

like I got it voice It might come

00:38:26 --> 00:38:30

out broken So just be prepared That when

00:38:30 --> 00:38:32

you recite the asmaa al husna From your

00:38:32 --> 00:38:35

heart It might sound like a very different

00:38:35 --> 00:38:43

voice The next thing is Is that you've

00:38:43 --> 00:38:46

got to You've got to Give it nourishment

00:38:46 --> 00:38:50

The heart needs nourishment Dhikr is a part

00:38:50 --> 00:38:57

of its food Qiyamul layn That khalwa with

00:38:57 --> 00:39:02

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala That khalwa with

00:39:02 --> 00:39:09

Allah azawajal That's Subhanallah That's a feast for

00:39:09 --> 00:39:12

the heart Moments where you can stand In

00:39:12 --> 00:39:15

the middle of the night And yes I

00:39:15 --> 00:39:16

want you to stand Subhanallah and if you

00:39:16 --> 00:39:19

can recite the Quran Of course as much

00:39:19 --> 00:39:20

as you can As much as you can

00:39:21 --> 00:39:23

Stand in the night and recite Quran But

00:39:23 --> 00:39:26

also I want you to make dua To

00:39:26 --> 00:39:28

Allah in the middle of the night I'm

00:39:28 --> 00:39:33

not talking about just Quranic dua I'm talking

00:39:33 --> 00:39:36

about When you're like no one's listening You

00:39:36 --> 00:39:38

know whether for me it's like In my

00:39:38 --> 00:39:41

walk in closet Or I'm distant from other

00:39:41 --> 00:39:47

people Or in sujood when you whisper The

00:39:47 --> 00:39:50

moment where you literally Talk to Allah subhanahu

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

wa ta'ala And you admit your brokenness

00:39:52 --> 00:39:56

And you say ya Allah I'm so broken

00:39:57 --> 00:39:58

I don't even know how to fix it

00:40:00 --> 00:40:05

Oh I'm so sad Or Ya Rabbi I'm

00:40:05 --> 00:40:09

so happy That's also true right Ya Rabbi

00:40:09 --> 00:40:14

I'm so happy Please keep me happy Ya

00:40:14 --> 00:40:18

Allah this love I'm experiencing Is so great

00:40:18 --> 00:40:23

Ya Al Wudu Thank you Ya Rabbi thank

00:40:23 --> 00:40:26

you Give shukr Ya Rabbi I gotta tell

00:40:26 --> 00:40:30

you I got something I just wanna talk

00:40:30 --> 00:40:34

to you about it Ya Rabbi I'm so

00:40:34 --> 00:40:40

confused I don't even My heart is not

00:40:40 --> 00:40:42

Matching with my mind We are out of

00:40:42 --> 00:40:51

alignment Hold on to

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

the rope of Allah And don't be divided

00:40:53 --> 00:40:55

Mostly we talk about this as it relates

00:40:55 --> 00:40:57

to the community I'm talking about the community

00:40:57 --> 00:41:01

of self My mind is going one way

00:41:01 --> 00:41:03

My heart is going another My soul is

00:41:03 --> 00:41:05

saying no we should go up My mind

00:41:05 --> 00:41:07

is saying no We have to focus on

00:41:07 --> 00:41:10

the dunya because of these bills My heart

00:41:10 --> 00:41:12

is like But I really like this person

00:41:12 --> 00:41:15

My heart is going in another direction You

00:41:15 --> 00:41:19

need an alignment Ya Rabbi make me a

00:41:19 --> 00:41:28

reflection of Tawheed الذين عاملوا تتمعون

00:41:28 --> 00:41:35

قلوبهم بذكر الله على بذكر الله تتمعون قلوب

00:41:36 --> 00:41:39

The translation is those who have believed And

00:41:39 --> 00:41:42

whose hearts are assured By the remembrance of

00:41:42 --> 00:41:46

Allah Unquestionably By the remembrance of Allah Hearts

00:41:46 --> 00:41:55

are assured The first part is الذين عاملوا

00:41:57 --> 00:42:00

You have to have عاملوا is like It's

00:42:00 --> 00:42:05

not just like faith It's like This is

00:42:05 --> 00:42:07

where I understand that this is where my

00:42:07 --> 00:42:10

safety is It's not just I believe in

00:42:10 --> 00:42:15

Allah It's not just shahada It's not just

00:42:15 --> 00:42:19

shahada It's like Ya Allah I know that

00:42:19 --> 00:42:22

you are my security I know that you

00:42:22 --> 00:42:26

are my safety I have certainty about that

00:42:27 --> 00:42:33

So sometimes it's like I've submitted I have

00:42:33 --> 00:42:37

Islam, I've submitted But to be mu'min It's

00:42:37 --> 00:42:42

another matter So that means For those who

00:42:42 --> 00:42:44

understand that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is

00:42:44 --> 00:42:50

their safety That Allah is their refuge For

00:42:50 --> 00:42:53

those When the more and more And by

00:42:53 --> 00:42:55

the way the way you build up From

00:42:55 --> 00:43:00

just submission to belief Is dhikr Allah But

00:43:00 --> 00:43:03

the one who understands This is my safety

00:43:03 --> 00:43:04

so that's why I run to you You're

00:43:04 --> 00:43:14

my true refuge It's like a It's like

00:43:14 --> 00:43:18

a cycle The more you remember Allah The

00:43:18 --> 00:43:20

more your heart The more you will increase

00:43:20 --> 00:43:22

iman The more you increase in iman The

00:43:22 --> 00:43:24

more you increase in that surety That certainty

00:43:24 --> 00:43:26

that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Is your

00:43:26 --> 00:43:28

refuge and your security The more you have

00:43:28 --> 00:43:30

that and the more you make dhikr of

00:43:30 --> 00:43:31

Allah Right?

00:43:31 --> 00:43:36

The more your heart will be calm So

00:43:36 --> 00:43:37

there's a certain time my heart feel like

00:43:37 --> 00:43:41

this We're in a state of duress And

00:43:41 --> 00:43:43

we're in a state of worry and a

00:43:43 --> 00:43:46

state of stress Then there's another time you're

00:43:46 --> 00:43:51

like You ever been in a certain situation

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

You're like I've been here so many times

00:43:52 --> 00:43:55

before Shaytan you can't get me I've seen

00:43:55 --> 00:43:57

Allah rescue me from this so many times

00:43:57 --> 00:44:02

I've seen this already But the way that

00:44:02 --> 00:44:06

happens Is you actually gotta remember Allah You

00:44:06 --> 00:44:10

gotta remember those moments Like yeah We did

00:44:10 --> 00:44:15

this before Allah came to my rescue I'm

00:44:15 --> 00:44:20

grateful Ya Rabbi I know you You're the

00:44:20 --> 00:44:23

rescuer You won't come to me again By

00:44:23 --> 00:44:27

my Lord's permission And you tell me stories

00:44:27 --> 00:44:29

Over and over and over again in the

00:44:29 --> 00:44:31

Quran About how you came to their rescue

00:44:35 --> 00:44:41

So That one Dhikr Allah Qiyamul Ayn The

00:44:41 --> 00:44:48

next one is khidmah Khidmah khidmah khidmah Serve

00:44:48 --> 00:44:50

somebody else Get your mind off your own

00:44:50 --> 00:44:52

problems Trust me There are people who have

00:44:52 --> 00:44:56

bigger problems than you Right There are people

00:44:56 --> 00:44:59

who are And you're thinking that subhanAllah We

00:44:59 --> 00:45:00

may have a lot of problems There's a

00:45:00 --> 00:45:02

privilege that you have That you can serve

00:45:02 --> 00:45:06

from that privilege Even if it's something small

00:45:06 --> 00:45:09

You can wash dishes subhanAllah You can come

00:45:09 --> 00:45:12

read to somebody who's elderly You can just

00:45:12 --> 00:45:14

go bring them Drop them off a bag

00:45:14 --> 00:45:16

of groceries You can provide for them Even

00:45:16 --> 00:45:21

something small From your privilege That you have,

00:45:21 --> 00:45:23

you can benefit somebody else And sometimes in

00:45:23 --> 00:45:26

that khidmah Right, you start to become grateful

00:45:26 --> 00:45:30

For your own situation So khidmah helps Khidmah

00:45:30 --> 00:45:33

is a huge healer So that's when subhanAllah

00:45:33 --> 00:45:35

You're in a state of mending your own

00:45:35 --> 00:45:38

heart Now I want to talk about How

00:45:38 --> 00:45:40

you are when you are the one Who's

00:45:40 --> 00:45:44

responsible for helping others How did the Prophet

00:45:44 --> 00:45:48

Peace be upon him Heal the hearts of

00:45:48 --> 00:45:52

others The first one Which I just find

00:45:52 --> 00:45:55

To be honest so amazing Is he came

00:45:55 --> 00:46:00

to their level And was relatable That yes

00:46:00 --> 00:46:01

he's the messenger Of Allah peace be upon

00:46:01 --> 00:46:06

him But he would literally Relate to them

00:46:08 --> 00:46:11

People would come to them With all kinds

00:46:11 --> 00:46:13

of problems As we're very familiar There's a

00:46:13 --> 00:46:17

woman who had Mental illness And she would

00:46:17 --> 00:46:18

come to the Prophet Peace be upon him

00:46:18 --> 00:46:23

Like I need you I just need to

00:46:23 --> 00:46:26

talk to you And he would say Choose

00:46:26 --> 00:46:30

any street, any alley in Medina I'll be

00:46:30 --> 00:46:36

there And she would find him And he

00:46:36 --> 00:46:39

would sit with her On the street in

00:46:39 --> 00:46:42

Medina Not paved like we have now No

00:46:42 --> 00:46:45

street cleaners Like he'd sit with her And

00:46:45 --> 00:46:50

let her talk And get it out Talk

00:46:50 --> 00:46:54

therapy He would listen to her For hours,

00:46:54 --> 00:46:58

subhanallah Now of course Most of us would

00:46:58 --> 00:47:02

be like listen I'm busy I have like

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

200 people I gotta pick up my kids

00:47:04 --> 00:47:07

from school In addition to that I gotta

00:47:07 --> 00:47:08

get dinner on the table by 7 o

00:47:08 --> 00:47:15

'clock Um I've got work Right He could

00:47:15 --> 00:47:16

have said there are a number of people

00:47:16 --> 00:47:18

Within the community that you can talk to

00:47:19 --> 00:47:21

He didn't say don't you know I'm the

00:47:21 --> 00:47:23

messenger of Allah How many people wanna talk

00:47:23 --> 00:47:28

to me He said choose a street, I'll

00:47:28 --> 00:47:33

be there You'll find me He was relatable

00:47:33 --> 00:47:39

To people Even to children He comes from

00:47:39 --> 00:47:42

the battle of Uhud One of the most

00:47:42 --> 00:47:44

difficult moments In the life of the Prophet

00:47:45 --> 00:47:49

Where literally he has seen His companions dismembered

00:47:52 --> 00:47:55

In the battle of Uhud The companions say

00:47:55 --> 00:47:57

we never heard a groan From the Prophet

00:47:58 --> 00:48:00

Like we heard in that moment When he

00:48:00 --> 00:48:06

saw his uncle Hamza And yet when he

00:48:06 --> 00:48:09

returned back from that battle He heard that

00:48:09 --> 00:48:12

one of the Children in his community His

00:48:12 --> 00:48:17

pet bird Umair had lost his bird So

00:48:17 --> 00:48:19

he said to him, he got down and

00:48:19 --> 00:48:21

he said Tell me about your bird, what

00:48:21 --> 00:48:25

he used to do Meaning he had the

00:48:25 --> 00:48:31

moment Just to relate, I understand loss He

00:48:31 --> 00:48:33

just wanted to take a minute To let

00:48:33 --> 00:48:37

him know that I didn't forget you I

00:48:37 --> 00:48:39

know that that bird Was important to you

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

How many times we come home And our

00:48:43 --> 00:48:47

children want to tell us something Or something

00:48:47 --> 00:48:49

happened with them But we don't, maybe they're

00:48:49 --> 00:48:53

upset About something that happened at school Maybe

00:48:53 --> 00:48:55

we're so busy In our own affairs We

00:48:55 --> 00:48:56

don't take the time to mend their heart

00:48:56 --> 00:48:59

Or take the time to even listen to

00:48:59 --> 00:49:03

their heart How was school?

00:49:04 --> 00:49:10

Fine It was fine Are we listening for

00:49:10 --> 00:49:10

those subtleties?

00:49:14 --> 00:49:17

Hmm That sounds Tell me what was fine

00:49:17 --> 00:49:20

about it Were there any struggles?

00:49:22 --> 00:49:24

We have to just take those moments To

00:49:24 --> 00:49:31

listen Make yourself available As we know One

00:49:31 --> 00:49:33

of my favorite moments In the life of

00:49:33 --> 00:49:40

the prophet He's talking to Amr Him and

00:49:40 --> 00:49:41

Amr are like You know, chatting it up

00:49:41 --> 00:49:44

A woman comes directly to the prophet And

00:49:44 --> 00:49:49

interrupts them I'm like, this woman is bold

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

I Like the prophet I want you to

00:49:53 --> 00:49:57

imagine this thing The prophet The messenger of

00:49:57 --> 00:50:01

Allah is talking to Amr Right Most of

00:50:01 --> 00:50:05

us would be like Yeah No, I'm gonna

00:50:05 --> 00:50:09

wait Right There were women that when Amr

00:50:09 --> 00:50:11

went to a room They ran behind the

00:50:11 --> 00:50:15

curtain Not this woman This woman walks straight

00:50:15 --> 00:50:19

up to the prophet And Amr And was

00:50:19 --> 00:50:21

like Ya Rasulullah, what about the women?

00:50:23 --> 00:50:32

She came from lighthouse Right Those kind of

00:50:32 --> 00:50:39

women, they come from Oakland So she just

00:50:39 --> 00:50:45

Boom, right to the point Amr, his mouth

00:50:45 --> 00:50:52

is agape Right The prophet said Ya Amr,

00:50:52 --> 00:50:54

what do you think about that?

00:50:55 --> 00:50:56

Wallahi I didn't even know women could do

00:50:56 --> 00:51:04

that He smiles, Amr, this is aadi He

00:51:04 --> 00:51:07

turns to her What about the women?

00:51:09 --> 00:51:10

What would make a woman do that?

00:51:13 --> 00:51:16

My heart is tired Of not being noticed

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

My heart is tired Of being on the

00:51:20 --> 00:51:24

outside My heart is tired Of being excluded

00:51:24 --> 00:51:27

My heart is tired of not having access

00:51:28 --> 00:51:30

My heart is broken That other people get

00:51:30 --> 00:51:32

to sit With the messenger of Allah I

00:51:32 --> 00:51:36

sit from afar and just watch And just

00:51:36 --> 00:51:39

yearn And just hope And just wish that

00:51:39 --> 00:51:42

I could be close to him That I

00:51:42 --> 00:51:44

could learn from him My heart is tired

00:51:44 --> 00:51:46

from that My heart is tired And if

00:51:46 --> 00:51:49

I just don't take my chance Maybe I'll

00:51:49 --> 00:51:56

just walk away From this community You know,

00:51:56 --> 00:51:59

I don't feel As if I'm valued So

00:51:59 --> 00:52:03

I'm gonna take my chance So in that

00:52:03 --> 00:52:05

moment The prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam Sent

00:52:05 --> 00:52:09

himself her heart See, we were thinking about

00:52:09 --> 00:52:11

her words and her harshness You know, we're

00:52:11 --> 00:52:14

thinking about that Her character, her boldness But

00:52:14 --> 00:52:16

sometimes that kind of boldness Comes from a

00:52:16 --> 00:52:20

broken heart And the prophet salallahu alayhi wa

00:52:20 --> 00:52:27

sallam Sent himself her heart And said You

00:52:27 --> 00:52:28

know He said, what about the women?

00:52:29 --> 00:52:29

What about them?

00:52:31 --> 00:52:34

He said, we want access to you What's

00:52:34 --> 00:52:35

the date?

00:52:37 --> 00:52:41

Tuesday I'll be there Right?

00:52:42 --> 00:52:43

So that became the day That the prophet

00:52:43 --> 00:52:46

salallahu alayhi wa sallam Tuesday became the day

00:52:46 --> 00:52:49

That the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam sat

00:52:49 --> 00:52:51

for women That that was his day He

00:52:51 --> 00:52:52

came to the masjid just to teach them

00:52:54 --> 00:52:57

Just to teach them You know who he

00:52:57 --> 00:52:58

brought with him?

00:53:02 --> 00:53:04

You know who he brought with him?

00:53:05 --> 00:53:09

Somebody else that might feel left out You

00:53:09 --> 00:53:14

know That might feel like You know I'm

00:53:14 --> 00:53:16

not always included I'm not always viewed a

00:53:16 --> 00:53:21

particular way By the community, Ya Rasulullah So

00:53:21 --> 00:53:23

the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam took Bilal

00:53:25 --> 00:53:30

Radi Allahu ta'ala Said, Bilal, I know

00:53:30 --> 00:53:31

how people make you feel I know how

00:53:31 --> 00:53:34

people break your hearts in community Come be

00:53:34 --> 00:53:36

beside me Me and you gonna hang out

00:53:38 --> 00:53:41

Not only that I'm gonna empower you The

00:53:41 --> 00:53:46

same way I empowered those women You're gonna

00:53:46 --> 00:53:52

do something That every single masjid Every prayer

00:53:52 --> 00:53:58

They're gonna do what you did They're gonna

00:53:58 --> 00:54:01

call the event And for people who used

00:54:01 --> 00:54:04

to Look down to you I'm gonna uplift

00:54:04 --> 00:54:08

you You're gonna walk on their shoulders And

00:54:08 --> 00:54:09

you're gonna stand on top of the Kaaba

00:54:11 --> 00:54:13

And you're gonna call the event From on

00:54:13 --> 00:54:17

top of the Kaaba And it's not Yes,

00:54:17 --> 00:54:19

it's for you To uplift you, to empower

00:54:19 --> 00:54:22

you To heal your heart and let you

00:54:22 --> 00:54:24

know How much I value you and I

00:54:24 --> 00:54:31

love you I'm not gonna dismiss you Dismiss

00:54:31 --> 00:54:36

your concerns The same way, subhanallah When Someone

00:54:36 --> 00:54:38

called Bilal Oh you son of a black

00:54:38 --> 00:54:42

woman He came to the prophet Sallallahu alayhi

00:54:42 --> 00:54:48

wa sallam This is This is what this

00:54:48 --> 00:54:50

Muslim said about me My brother that I'm

00:54:50 --> 00:54:52

standing with in Salah This is what he

00:54:52 --> 00:54:54

said about me Now the prophet sallallahu alayhi

00:54:54 --> 00:54:56

wa sallam could have said Well you are

00:54:56 --> 00:54:58

a son of a black woman Right?

00:54:59 --> 00:55:04

But he saw his heart I understand what's

00:55:04 --> 00:55:09

happening Your brother broke your heart Because he

00:55:09 --> 00:55:14

discriminated against you So he doesn't say Bilal,

00:55:14 --> 00:55:18

come on, be strong Leave it You are

00:55:18 --> 00:55:19

a son of a black woman, why are

00:55:19 --> 00:55:20

you worried?

00:55:21 --> 00:55:27

He didn't dismiss him He listened He recognized

00:55:27 --> 00:55:30

what the problem is He turned to the

00:55:30 --> 00:55:33

one with the sick heart And said You

00:55:33 --> 00:55:38

still have Jahiliyyah in your heart He reprimanded

00:55:38 --> 00:55:43

him So when we are in positions Where

00:55:43 --> 00:55:47

someone comes to us and says I'm feeling

00:55:47 --> 00:55:52

discriminated I'm feeling excluded I'm feeling like I

00:55:52 --> 00:55:54

want to be close I want to have

00:55:54 --> 00:55:59

that brotherly and sisterly love But I'm feeling

00:55:59 --> 00:56:01

broken hearted I'm not feeling like I'm getting

00:56:01 --> 00:56:04

a part of that We don't dismiss them

00:56:06 --> 00:56:06

Right?

00:56:07 --> 00:56:09

We let them know how we value them

00:56:10 --> 00:56:13

We raise them up Right?

00:56:13 --> 00:56:15

We let their voice shine through the crowd

00:56:18 --> 00:56:20

We look at their strengths, subhanallah And say

00:56:20 --> 00:56:23

wow, look, Bilal He was a great mathematician

00:56:24 --> 00:56:25

He was great at math, he was great

00:56:25 --> 00:56:28

at business He became the minister of finance

00:56:32 --> 00:56:34

So I don't want them to think That

00:56:34 --> 00:56:35

the only thing you can do is sing

00:56:35 --> 00:56:39

well I want them to respect your mind

00:56:41 --> 00:56:41

Right?

00:56:42 --> 00:56:44

And it's not like, you know, it's not

00:56:44 --> 00:56:49

tokenism You're qualified But I see you I

00:56:49 --> 00:56:57

see you're qualified I see you I see

00:56:57 --> 00:57:00

you So that's another way The other one,

00:57:00 --> 00:57:02

of course, the one we always And he

00:57:02 --> 00:57:07

smiled He smiled He would smile at people

00:57:07 --> 00:57:09

and make them feel like You know that

00:57:09 --> 00:57:12

feeling When someone smiles so bright And they

00:57:12 --> 00:57:14

make you feel so welcome You wonder like,

00:57:14 --> 00:57:15

are they smiling at somebody else?

00:57:17 --> 00:57:17

Me?

00:57:20 --> 00:57:20

Me?

00:57:21 --> 00:57:25

Something about that smile Just like warms your

00:57:25 --> 00:57:29

heart It's healing And so he would smile

00:57:29 --> 00:57:36

at people With a beautiful smile Any of

00:57:36 --> 00:57:39

them, subhanallah Give them salaam, he'd pass by

00:57:39 --> 00:57:42

the women Making salaam or in the masjid

00:57:42 --> 00:57:45

Salaamu alaikum He wasn't the only woman in

00:57:45 --> 00:57:49

the masjid No Salaamu alaikum, I see you

00:57:49 --> 00:57:56

You're not invisible I see you You're not

00:57:56 --> 00:57:58

so You're not a fitna to the point

00:57:58 --> 00:58:01

that I can't give you salaam I see

00:58:01 --> 00:58:06

you I mean, of course, who doesn't want

00:58:06 --> 00:58:10

a salaam from a prophet The prophet sends

00:58:10 --> 00:58:11

salaam on you I just want to be

00:58:11 --> 00:58:17

in the masjid Salaam Alaikum salaam Allah, Allah,

00:58:17 --> 00:58:22

Allah The next one is that Subhanallah for

00:58:22 --> 00:58:23

the worried heart There was a man in

00:58:23 --> 00:58:27

his masjid And he was sitting And he

00:58:27 --> 00:58:30

was weeping And he was clearly worried And

00:58:30 --> 00:58:37

he was stressed And the prophet salallahu alayhi

00:58:37 --> 00:58:41

wa sallam Came, noticed him Sat next to

00:58:41 --> 00:58:42

him What's wrong?

00:58:43 --> 00:58:44

What's wrong?

00:58:45 --> 00:58:47

He started to tell The prophet salallahu alayhi

00:58:47 --> 00:58:49

wa sallam About his debts and his bills

00:58:49 --> 00:58:52

He started to just literally Pour his heart

00:58:52 --> 00:58:54

out to the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam

00:58:54 --> 00:58:58

And the prophet Made dua for him But

00:58:58 --> 00:59:01

also gave him a dua So when someone

00:59:01 --> 00:59:03

comes to you Right?

00:59:04 --> 00:59:07

Let's make dua together I'm gonna pray for

00:59:07 --> 00:59:11

you But also subhanallah Here's a dua If

00:59:11 --> 00:59:24

you know a dua He gave him He

00:59:24 --> 00:59:27

gave him that dua Which also is like

00:59:27 --> 00:59:32

He gave him like a comprehensive Dua That

00:59:32 --> 00:59:38

was specific من غالبات ديني وقهر الرجال Like

00:59:38 --> 00:59:40

he gave him one specific Okay, you're complaining

00:59:40 --> 00:59:42

about your debt And you're overpowered by, you

00:59:42 --> 00:59:45

know, people are You know, demanding their money

00:59:45 --> 00:59:47

from you But also I see that it's

00:59:47 --> 00:59:50

worrying you Right?

00:59:52 --> 00:59:55

So he's saying, I see you I see

00:59:55 --> 00:59:57

what it's doing to you So I'm gonna

00:59:57 --> 01:00:00

give you this dua Right?

01:00:00 --> 01:00:05

That's for the whole of your condition When

01:00:05 --> 01:00:07

you're crying for yourself And by the way

01:00:07 --> 01:00:11

Crying is a big healer We know that

01:00:11 --> 01:00:16

The prophet When his children passed away He

01:00:16 --> 01:00:24

wept When Khadija passed away He wept When

01:00:24 --> 01:00:29

he missed you He wept There's a time

01:00:29 --> 01:00:31

He's sitting in his masjid and he's crying

01:00:31 --> 01:00:35

So profusely That his beard, his beloved beard

01:00:35 --> 01:00:40

Is dripping with tears Dripping wet And the

01:00:40 --> 01:00:43

companions are like Ya Rasulullah, what's wrong?

01:00:44 --> 01:00:49

I miss my brothers I miss them I

01:00:49 --> 01:00:51

said, Ya Rasulullah We're right here He said,

01:00:51 --> 01:00:56

no You're my companions My brothers and my

01:00:56 --> 01:01:00

sisters They're the ones that They believe in

01:01:00 --> 01:01:05

me And they've never seen me They love

01:01:05 --> 01:01:11

me, they've never met me They've never seen

01:01:11 --> 01:01:17

my face He longed for you The way

01:01:17 --> 01:01:22

you longed for him He yearned for your

01:01:22 --> 01:01:24

company The way you yearned for his company

01:01:24 --> 01:01:29

He missed you So he shared In our

01:01:29 --> 01:01:36

brokenheartedness From missing each other So of course

01:01:37 --> 01:01:42

Crying For yourself And for others Cry in

01:01:42 --> 01:01:47

sujood Cry for your brothers and sisters That

01:01:47 --> 01:01:49

becomes a healing Subhanallah, when you make dua

01:01:49 --> 01:01:53

Right, for them Allah also answers the dua

01:01:53 --> 01:01:56

for you as well But it becomes a

01:01:56 --> 01:01:59

healing They just, subhanallah They split, you ever

01:01:59 --> 01:02:01

felt like I can feel somebody praying for

01:02:01 --> 01:02:05

me I can feel somebody Is making dua

01:02:05 --> 01:02:08

for me Right, cause I'm getting strength That

01:02:08 --> 01:02:10

I know I didn't have Somebody is making

01:02:10 --> 01:02:14

dua for me Especially when they're on umrah

01:02:14 --> 01:02:17

Or they're on hajj Somebody's like, I just

01:02:17 --> 01:02:19

said I just made dua for you in

01:02:19 --> 01:02:20

front of the Ka'bah You're like, I

01:02:20 --> 01:02:23

felt it, I knew it Right, but even

01:02:23 --> 01:02:25

that message You just all of a sudden

01:02:25 --> 01:02:28

feel like Alhamdulillah, things are gonna get better

01:02:28 --> 01:02:32

Because you know Somebody cares enough about me

01:02:32 --> 01:02:35

To mention my name To Allah subhanahu wa

01:02:35 --> 01:02:40

ta'ala To remember me When I'm not

01:02:40 --> 01:02:43

with them To remember me in my absence

01:02:43 --> 01:02:47

That's a huge healing That you'll show that

01:02:47 --> 01:02:50

I'm concerned about you I care about you

01:02:50 --> 01:02:53

So, this is what the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi

01:02:53 --> 01:02:57

wasallam If we were to list The ways

01:02:57 --> 01:03:02

that he mended hearts He was relatable He

01:03:02 --> 01:03:05

saw people He saw their hearts And then

01:03:05 --> 01:03:09

he empowered them He included them He made

01:03:09 --> 01:03:11

dua for them He gave dua to them

01:03:11 --> 01:03:18

He smiled upon them He cared genuinely And

01:03:18 --> 01:03:21

he listened To them Whether he had the

01:03:21 --> 01:03:28

answer or not Sometimes you're like, I I

01:03:28 --> 01:03:30

actually don't have The answer for that Other

01:03:30 --> 01:03:33

than let's make dua together It doesn't always

01:03:33 --> 01:03:37

mean you have You know, the answer You

01:03:37 --> 01:03:38

don't always have to have the like I

01:03:38 --> 01:03:42

can solve this problem Maybe there's some khidmah

01:03:43 --> 01:03:45

That you can do to help Or maybe

01:03:45 --> 01:03:47

it's one of those situations That you dislike

01:03:49 --> 01:03:51

All you can say is that is tough

01:03:52 --> 01:03:55

Let's make dua right now For Allah to

01:03:55 --> 01:03:58

remove that burden from you And to heal

01:03:58 --> 01:04:02

your heart I'm gonna ask Allah subhanahu wa

01:04:02 --> 01:04:07

ta'ala To heal you To comfort you

01:04:09 --> 01:04:11

I'm gonna sit and make a specific dua

01:04:11 --> 01:04:14

I'm gonna sit and say A hundred Ya

01:04:14 --> 01:04:18

Latif, ya Latif For you I can see

01:04:18 --> 01:04:21

that you're Afflicted by many things And when

01:04:21 --> 01:04:24

I make my adhkar I'm gonna definitely make

01:04:24 --> 01:04:26

you a part of my intention When I'm

01:04:26 --> 01:04:32

reading my adhkar So these are the ways

01:04:32 --> 01:04:36

subhanallah Also being in community, sohbah With each

01:04:36 --> 01:04:40

other It's healing, subhanallah It's healing It's healing

01:04:48 --> 01:04:48

Any questions?

01:04:55 --> 01:04:55

Any questions?

01:04:58 --> 01:05:00

Another thing I wanna say The Prophet ﷺ

01:05:00 --> 01:05:03

used to laugh at people When they would

01:05:03 --> 01:05:05

talk about things He would listen, and when

01:05:05 --> 01:05:09

they laughed, he would laugh I don't know

01:05:09 --> 01:05:10

about you, but the thought of the Prophet

01:05:10 --> 01:05:14

ﷺ Laughing The thought of his beautiful teeth

01:05:14 --> 01:05:15

To the point that you could see his

01:05:15 --> 01:05:42

molars That's healing Yes So

01:05:42 --> 01:05:45

when you send salawat On the Prophet ﷺ

01:05:46 --> 01:05:48

You have two dhikrs in between You have

01:05:48 --> 01:05:51

the mention of Allah And the Prophet ﷺ

01:05:51 --> 01:05:54

Right, you say, Allahumma sani ala Sayyidina Muhammad

01:05:54 --> 01:05:56

Right, so it is a dua So you're

01:05:56 --> 01:05:59

mentioning, you have dhikr of Allah While dhikr

01:05:59 --> 01:06:01

of the Prophet ﷺ So I don't want

01:06:01 --> 01:06:02

you to think that If you send salawat

01:06:02 --> 01:06:05

on the Prophet ﷺ Right, because what do

01:06:05 --> 01:06:05

you say?

01:06:05 --> 01:06:08

Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam So if you mention

01:06:08 --> 01:06:11

the Prophet ﷺ And you're sending salawat, you've

01:06:11 --> 01:06:13

mentioned Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So I

01:06:13 --> 01:06:15

don't want you to think that Like these

01:06:15 --> 01:06:18

are You know, separate So when is a

01:06:18 --> 01:06:19

good time to send salawat?

01:06:20 --> 01:06:23

Every time, every time, anytime You say in

01:06:23 --> 01:06:24

the morning, in the night In the afternoon

01:06:24 --> 01:06:28

After your prayers During, you know, of course

01:06:28 --> 01:06:30

Laylatul Juma'ah, right?

01:06:31 --> 01:06:35

Juma'ah itself Rabi' al Awal Sha'ban,

01:06:35 --> 01:06:40

Ramadan, Muharram All of it Send salawats on

01:06:40 --> 01:06:43

the Prophet ﷺ Why?

01:06:43 --> 01:06:47

Innalahu malaikatu yusalluna ala nabiyyaya aladhina amno Sallu

01:06:47 --> 01:06:49

alayhi wa sallim wa taslima Like even in

01:06:49 --> 01:06:52

sending salawat on the Prophet ﷺ You're obeying

01:06:52 --> 01:06:55

a command from Allah Because Allah says Sallu

01:06:55 --> 01:06:58

alayhi wa sallim wa taslima So even in

01:06:58 --> 01:07:01

that salawat You're in a state of ibadah

01:07:01 --> 01:07:04

You're in a state of obeying A specific

01:07:04 --> 01:07:06

commandment from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala In

01:07:06 --> 01:07:09

addition to You're choosing to place yourself in

01:07:09 --> 01:07:11

the company With Allah and His angels, why?

01:07:11 --> 01:07:15

Because Allah says Innalahu malaikatu That Allah and

01:07:15 --> 01:07:17

the angels are sending salawat on the Prophet

01:07:17 --> 01:07:19

ﷺ So if you sit and send salawat

01:07:19 --> 01:07:20

on the Prophet ﷺ Now you're in the

01:07:20 --> 01:07:23

company of Allah and His angels Right?

01:07:23 --> 01:07:26

So now, when can you do asma and

01:07:26 --> 01:07:27

husna?

01:07:31 --> 01:07:33

Except Post-marital relations, that's the only thing

01:07:33 --> 01:07:36

Any other than that?

01:07:37 --> 01:07:39

Bismillah Would you like to say more about

01:07:39 --> 01:07:39

that?

01:07:41 --> 01:07:51

Yes Marital relations Post-marital relations Post-marital

01:07:51 --> 01:07:55

relations That's not the time Yes, or Marital

01:07:55 --> 01:08:00

relations Before but not after Before, you got

01:08:00 --> 01:08:00

me?

01:08:00 --> 01:08:05

Yes Yes You can do it in both

01:08:05 --> 01:08:07

states But being in the state of wudu

01:08:07 --> 01:08:08

is best Right?

01:08:08 --> 01:08:10

The only time is not in the state

01:08:10 --> 01:08:15

of janabah Anybody else?

01:08:15 --> 01:08:24

Yes, bismillah Wa alaikum salam to Allah Hmm

01:08:26 --> 01:08:29

Yes She said, how can we heal a

01:08:29 --> 01:08:31

broken heart When someone has passed away?

01:08:31 --> 01:08:33

Yeah, so the One of the things is

01:08:33 --> 01:08:37

that recognize That you are definitely In the

01:08:37 --> 01:08:40

sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ Number one, he

01:08:40 --> 01:08:43

was sad When someone passed away So I

01:08:43 --> 01:08:47

don't want you to necessarily think That That

01:08:47 --> 01:08:50

that broken heart is a bad thing Right?

01:08:50 --> 01:08:52

Like that's actually a sign that your heart

01:08:52 --> 01:08:55

is alive And a sign of mercy But

01:08:55 --> 01:08:58

the other thing is Is that the remembrance

01:08:58 --> 01:09:00

that This dunya is not forever, inshallah You'll

01:09:00 --> 01:09:06

see them again Especially if they're Muslim, alhamdulillah

01:09:06 --> 01:09:12

You're gonna see them again, inshallah Hmm And

01:09:12 --> 01:09:14

their levels Right, their levels For example, even

01:09:14 --> 01:09:20

in the case of Nabiullah Yaqub When He

01:09:20 --> 01:09:25

lost Yusuf He We know that he cried

01:09:25 --> 01:09:28

Until subhanallah there's a coating over his eyes

01:09:28 --> 01:09:30

But he was like, I'm just gonna Complain

01:09:30 --> 01:09:33

of my grief and sorrow to Allah So

01:09:33 --> 01:09:37

he Never stopped making dua Right And the

01:09:37 --> 01:09:40

truth of it is that subhanallah Allah, this

01:09:40 --> 01:09:43

love that Allah ﷺ Puts in our hearts

01:09:43 --> 01:09:48

You know, it's It's from al-wadood So

01:09:49 --> 01:09:51

We just keep asking Allah, Ya Rabbi Grant

01:09:51 --> 01:09:53

them husnul khatm, Ya Rabbi, please Bless me

01:09:53 --> 01:09:56

to be in jannah with them Make so

01:09:56 --> 01:09:58

much dua for them Maybe establish a sadaqah

01:09:58 --> 01:10:00

jariah for them There are things, what I

01:10:00 --> 01:10:04

learned Is that subhanallah The relationship with that

01:10:04 --> 01:10:08

person is not over See sometimes We think

01:10:08 --> 01:10:11

like death, I used to think Like death

01:10:11 --> 01:10:13

is such a final thing When my family

01:10:13 --> 01:10:16

Members passed away and it was Extremely difficult

01:10:16 --> 01:10:19

for me It was the first time In

01:10:19 --> 01:10:21

my life that I was like, okay After

01:10:21 --> 01:10:23

a year, I was like, okay now I'm

01:10:23 --> 01:10:25

willing To go to therapy, this is just

01:10:25 --> 01:10:30

Not getting better, right So But I was

01:10:30 --> 01:10:32

thinking that my relationship With them was over

01:10:34 --> 01:10:35

But then what I learned is that It's

01:10:35 --> 01:10:40

not over If they're Muslims, subhanallah There's so

01:10:40 --> 01:10:41

many things that you can do To keep

01:10:41 --> 01:10:46

that relationship going Right, dua for them Sadaqah

01:10:46 --> 01:10:47

for them, different things That you can do

01:10:47 --> 01:10:50

for them that subhanallah That the relationship is

01:10:50 --> 01:10:55

not It's not final That inshallah bi-idni

01:10:55 --> 01:10:57

Rabbi Also make dua, Ya Rabbi, please Give

01:10:57 --> 01:11:02

them jannah Make their graves spacious Let them

01:11:02 --> 01:11:04

be visited by the prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa

01:11:04 --> 01:11:07

sallam I can recite Quran and give it

01:11:07 --> 01:11:09

to them There are different things That you

01:11:09 --> 01:11:11

can do for them, inshallah So that you

01:11:11 --> 01:11:14

keep that relationship going And bi-idni Rabbi,

01:11:14 --> 01:11:17

they will visit you In your dreams, inshallah

01:11:18 --> 01:11:20

I just find that comforting when I see

01:11:20 --> 01:12:16

them Yes I

01:12:16 --> 01:12:22

mean you just did You just did One

01:12:22 --> 01:12:28

of the first things is that We always

01:12:28 --> 01:12:34

have to Know That there is Something to

01:12:34 --> 01:12:39

smile about Even subhanallah In all of the

01:12:39 --> 01:12:43

darkness And the crazy Then I'll give you

01:12:43 --> 01:12:49

an example There was a mother Probably we

01:12:49 --> 01:12:51

all heard this narration Maybe If there was

01:12:51 --> 01:12:54

a mother, long story short This was in

01:12:54 --> 01:13:00

Gaza And Basically, long story short They were

01:13:00 --> 01:13:03

told to go from One place to another

01:13:03 --> 01:13:06

And they did what they were told But

01:13:06 --> 01:13:09

as they started to walk From the north

01:13:09 --> 01:13:11

to the south To the Rafah border at

01:13:11 --> 01:13:14

that time Then bombs started to go off

01:13:14 --> 01:13:17

So she had gotten Separated from her son

01:13:17 --> 01:13:21

So as her son Was running toward her

01:13:21 --> 01:13:27

Basically a bomb separated them And you know

01:13:27 --> 01:13:32

of course Her heart as a mother Subhanallah

01:13:32 --> 01:13:35

That night she had a dream The story

01:13:35 --> 01:13:38

is from her She said that night She

01:13:38 --> 01:13:41

had a dream of her son And she

01:13:41 --> 01:13:44

asked him What happened He said Mama I

01:13:44 --> 01:13:47

don't know I was running toward you And

01:13:47 --> 01:13:49

then all of a sudden I was running

01:13:49 --> 01:13:51

like to run toward you in the street

01:13:51 --> 01:13:52

And then all of a sudden I saw

01:13:52 --> 01:14:01

myself running in a garden When I think

01:14:01 --> 01:14:04

about the hadith Of the prophet Saying that

01:14:04 --> 01:14:07

the parents Who lost their children in the

01:14:07 --> 01:14:11

dunya That they are with Prophet Ibrahim In

01:14:11 --> 01:14:15

this beautiful garden And that they will stand

01:14:15 --> 01:14:18

At the gateways of paradise And on the

01:14:18 --> 01:14:21

day of judgment They will cry out to

01:14:21 --> 01:14:23

Allah Asking for their parents And Allah just

01:14:23 --> 01:14:27

to quiet their To remove their cries And

01:14:27 --> 01:14:29

to calm their heart Will bring them their

01:14:29 --> 01:14:32

parents And they will enter into Jannah With

01:14:32 --> 01:14:37

their parents hand in hand That's what I

01:14:37 --> 01:14:41

think about That keeps me smiling I You

01:14:41 --> 01:14:44

know I might be a little bit odd

01:14:44 --> 01:14:46

But even when I think about In the

01:14:46 --> 01:14:51

moment of Uhud The companions Met with the

01:14:51 --> 01:14:55

disbelievers And they were looking over the bodies

01:14:55 --> 01:14:57

And as they were looking Over the bodies

01:14:57 --> 01:15:01

At first the kuffar were laughing And then

01:15:01 --> 01:15:03

the Muslims started to laugh And have like

01:15:03 --> 01:15:06

beautiful smiles And the disbelievers were like Why

01:15:06 --> 01:15:07

are you laughing?

01:15:08 --> 01:15:11

Because your dead are in * fire And

01:15:11 --> 01:15:15

our dead are in Jannah Right And I

01:15:15 --> 01:15:17

can Like for us it's not the end

01:15:17 --> 01:15:21

Right, for us Like the dunya is not

01:15:21 --> 01:15:24

the end Like Allah is gonna have The

01:15:24 --> 01:15:28

final say And just the thought of Subhanallah

01:15:28 --> 01:15:33

like Even just thinking How Allah is sending

01:15:33 --> 01:15:38

Subhanallah People to Jannah like shuhada We were

01:15:38 --> 01:15:40

thinking like this was just For the time

01:15:40 --> 01:15:44

of the sahaba Right And yeah Allah subhanahu

01:15:44 --> 01:15:46

wa ta'ala is giving us That chance

01:15:48 --> 01:15:54

Subhanal khaliq Subhanal khaliq And you know I

01:15:54 --> 01:15:57

live in a place that Alhamdulillah has so

01:15:57 --> 01:15:59

much beauty To be honest, so much beauty

01:15:59 --> 01:16:02

So much light, so much noor But yeah

01:16:02 --> 01:16:05

there's so much poverty In certain areas And

01:16:05 --> 01:16:12

so much like So much sickness And you

01:16:12 --> 01:16:14

know sometimes we go to Rural areas and

01:16:14 --> 01:16:24

you're like And

01:16:24 --> 01:16:28

yet they smile And greet me And sing,

01:16:28 --> 01:16:36

and sing salawat And I'm like And Children

01:16:36 --> 01:16:40

who have no parents Children who Have all

01:16:40 --> 01:16:44

kinds of Diseases and They're smiling I met

01:16:44 --> 01:16:54

this little boy About Four days ago And

01:16:54 --> 01:16:55

he came and he kissed my hand And

01:16:55 --> 01:16:59

he was like He was the sweetest Little

01:16:59 --> 01:17:03

boy I mean just like You know the

01:17:03 --> 01:17:07

sweetest Oh my goodness He came and he

01:17:07 --> 01:17:10

kissed my hand And he said I want

01:17:10 --> 01:17:14

you on Celebrate Mercy And he was so

01:17:14 --> 01:17:15

So sweet, I mean I just can't tell

01:17:15 --> 01:17:17

you how sweet he was And he just

01:17:17 --> 01:17:19

sat there With me and he was just

01:17:19 --> 01:17:20

like talking to me He was mostly just

01:17:20 --> 01:17:23

listening You know you just have some children

01:17:23 --> 01:17:25

They're just like you are just so angelic

01:17:25 --> 01:17:33

Right His mom was weeping And My scheduler

01:17:33 --> 01:17:36

Who was with me Said make dua for

01:17:36 --> 01:17:38

him His mom says that he has a

01:17:38 --> 01:17:46

chronic Disease And I was like Subhanallah, does

01:17:46 --> 01:17:53

he know She's like yeah He knows I

01:17:53 --> 01:17:58

was like La ilaha illallah I was like

01:17:58 --> 01:18:02

That was like this little Sheik right here

01:18:03 --> 01:18:08

Like Subhanallah And again no it's not popular

01:18:08 --> 01:18:16

In our culture We smile Just Keep your

01:18:16 --> 01:18:19

Keep your light Don't let them dim our

01:18:19 --> 01:18:23

light Don't let them take our smile They're

01:18:23 --> 01:18:25

not worthy of that They don't get to

01:18:25 --> 01:18:28

rip the smiles off our faces No they

01:18:28 --> 01:18:34

don't They don't They don't deserve that To

01:18:34 --> 01:18:40

not smile Yes to smile Yeah I find

01:18:40 --> 01:18:45

our smiles to be a resistance Our smile

01:18:45 --> 01:18:51

is a resistance Yeah Tell me not to

01:18:51 --> 01:18:57

smile Allah akbar Alhamdulillah In addition to when

01:18:57 --> 01:19:00

you smile It does something to the heart

01:19:00 --> 01:19:04

Right it lifts the heart Alhamdulillah Okay dear

01:19:04 --> 01:19:06

brothers what's your question I know you got

01:19:06 --> 01:19:11

one right Just raise your hand brothers Gotta

01:19:11 --> 01:19:18

do this I have one from online From

01:19:18 --> 01:19:22

one of the online viewers How can I

01:19:22 --> 01:19:25

amend a broken heart From spiritual abuse I

01:19:25 --> 01:19:27

was spiritually abused by a Muslim brother Who

01:19:27 --> 01:19:30

prays on conferences first I no longer feel

01:19:30 --> 01:19:31

comfortable going to the mosque Because the leadership

01:19:31 --> 01:19:34

has done nothing And he is there often

01:19:34 --> 01:19:39

What do I do One of the first

01:19:39 --> 01:19:45

thing is Is that Definitely definitely definitely There

01:19:45 --> 01:19:48

are counselors who are specialists in spiritual abuse

01:19:48 --> 01:19:52

Let me say that The second thing is

01:19:52 --> 01:19:58

Definitely If you are able Find another Masjid

01:19:58 --> 01:20:02

or another place Where that person can go

01:20:04 --> 01:20:08

Another thing is like As challenging as it

01:20:08 --> 01:20:09

is And I feel like this is a

01:20:09 --> 01:20:15

question for Dr. Rania Honestly Because sometimes of

01:20:15 --> 01:20:18

course A certain type of trauma makes us

01:20:18 --> 01:20:23

feel Not comfortable Not easy Or have anxiety

01:20:23 --> 01:20:27

in places In crowds In places that are

01:20:27 --> 01:20:31

That remind us of that trauma And so

01:20:31 --> 01:20:35

I know That's not always easy So that's

01:20:35 --> 01:20:40

a process Just like any other Any other

01:20:40 --> 01:20:42

trauma It's a process to heal from that

01:20:43 --> 01:20:46

Two small things I want to say And

01:20:46 --> 01:20:48

I definitely want to hear from Dr. Rania

01:20:48 --> 01:20:52

On this one One is never blame Allah

01:20:52 --> 01:20:58

For what people do People's diseases Are not

01:20:58 --> 01:21:04

the deen They are people's diseases The other

01:21:04 --> 01:21:12

thing is Is that At least part of

01:21:12 --> 01:21:14

how I deal With certain things that have

01:21:14 --> 01:21:17

happened In my life Is that I always

01:21:17 --> 01:21:23

try to Say you know what This person

01:21:23 --> 01:21:27

does not have right To my heart They

01:21:27 --> 01:21:31

don't have right To my personality They don't

01:21:31 --> 01:21:36

have So let me remove Whatever that person

01:21:36 --> 01:21:37

has done Let me give it back to

01:21:37 --> 01:21:40

them Let me give them back their trauma

01:21:40 --> 01:21:42

Let me give them back their issues Let

01:21:42 --> 01:21:44

me hand that back to them And remove

01:21:44 --> 01:21:50

myself Because they don't have For me There

01:21:50 --> 01:21:54

is a certain resistance In saying I don't

01:21:54 --> 01:21:57

give you permission To affect me for the

01:21:57 --> 01:22:00

rest of my life I don't give you

01:22:00 --> 01:22:03

Permission to dictate My spirituality I don't give

01:22:03 --> 01:22:06

you permission to dictate Where I go and

01:22:06 --> 01:22:14

come Hi I just wanted to say About

01:22:14 --> 01:22:16

the spiritual abuse discussion Is that for the

01:22:16 --> 01:22:19

person who is asking This is real I

01:22:19 --> 01:22:20

want you to know that this is real

01:22:20 --> 01:22:23

And as many times as people try to

01:22:23 --> 01:22:25

tell you That it's not I want you

01:22:25 --> 01:22:27

to know that it is a possible type

01:22:27 --> 01:22:30

Of trauma and abuse There are good resources

01:22:30 --> 01:22:32

out there Please take a look at our

01:22:32 --> 01:22:34

teachers Who have worked on this topic in

01:22:34 --> 01:22:37

particular Dr. Ingrid Madsen Who has the Hurma

01:22:37 --> 01:22:41

project She has a podcast On this topic

01:22:41 --> 01:22:44

as well And a lot of resources Defining

01:22:44 --> 01:22:46

it, understanding it, healing from it Counselors that

01:22:46 --> 01:22:48

work with it That way you have a

01:22:48 --> 01:22:51

better sense And please do not feel that

01:22:51 --> 01:22:54

you have to be The one who calls

01:22:54 --> 01:22:57

out This person publicly Although we hope that

01:22:57 --> 01:22:59

a group of people Will come forward together

01:22:59 --> 01:23:03

Because we know that perpetrators only Stop when

01:23:03 --> 01:23:05

they are publicly shamed And called out, unfortunately

01:23:05 --> 01:23:08

It's part of human psychology And this is

01:23:08 --> 01:23:10

why in our Deen we have measures In

01:23:10 --> 01:23:12

place to do such a thing But there

01:23:12 --> 01:23:14

is no vigilantism either So you do not

01:23:14 --> 01:23:15

have to do this on your own or

01:23:15 --> 01:23:17

by yourself But I want you to know

01:23:17 --> 01:23:19

that this is real And I pray that

01:23:19 --> 01:23:20

Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la Heals

01:23:20 --> 01:23:24

your heart But you're absolutely right, Sheikha This

01:23:24 --> 01:23:26

person and no person Has control over your

01:23:26 --> 01:23:29

heart or your Deen May you heal and

01:23:29 --> 01:23:47

move forward In better ways Brothers I

01:23:47 --> 01:23:49

was wondering the hadith That you share often

01:23:49 --> 01:23:51

about the tradition Of the woman who approaches

01:23:51 --> 01:23:54

the Prophet Muhammad And she has mental health

01:23:54 --> 01:23:57

issues And he says, go to any street

01:23:57 --> 01:23:59

Go to any area and you'll find me

01:23:59 --> 01:24:01

there Do you ever think about Or apply

01:24:01 --> 01:24:03

that hadith in a way that's Relevant to

01:24:03 --> 01:24:07

us, where the Prophet Muhammad Isn't physically near

01:24:07 --> 01:24:08

But just to go to him when we

01:24:08 --> 01:24:13

have Ideas or we're struggling with Whatever we

01:24:13 --> 01:24:15

may be struggling with But falling back on

01:24:15 --> 01:24:17

the hadith As a reassurance that we can

01:24:17 --> 01:24:19

find him Where we look for him Yes,

01:24:19 --> 01:24:23

even inside of that In the ayah That

01:24:23 --> 01:24:25

Allah commands us to send salawat On the

01:24:25 --> 01:24:27

Prophet, salallahu alayhi wa sallam And we're not

01:24:27 --> 01:24:34

always in Medina So The The answer to

01:24:34 --> 01:24:38

that is Absolutely Absolutely, yes and yes And

01:24:38 --> 01:24:54

yes again The

01:24:54 --> 01:24:56

Prophet, salallahu alayhi wa sallam Is amongst you

01:25:09 --> 01:25:13

Bismillah, yes Yes I can tell you about

01:25:13 --> 01:25:16

the orphanage, the Yontaru project For which this

01:25:16 --> 01:25:19

QR code is for So in the Gambia

01:25:19 --> 01:25:21

The name of the project is called Yontaru

01:25:21 --> 01:25:24

project, Yontaru Means the blessed collective, which comes

01:25:24 --> 01:25:27

from Nana Asma'o Nana Asma'o went

01:25:27 --> 01:25:32

to over 800 villages in West Africa Literally

01:25:32 --> 01:25:36

teaching sacred Knowledge, giving women Economic empowerment, as

01:25:36 --> 01:25:39

well as Like building clinics and building schools

01:25:39 --> 01:25:41

And so That's what we're trying to do,

01:25:41 --> 01:25:45

literally follow in that Legacy, mostly what we're

01:25:45 --> 01:25:46

Trying to do is go to heaven, to

01:25:46 --> 01:25:48

be honest Let me just keep it real

01:25:48 --> 01:25:52

Is that inside the Yontaru Project, there are

01:25:52 --> 01:25:55

We focus mostly on things that are Sadaqah

01:25:55 --> 01:25:58

jariyah related So one of them is of

01:25:58 --> 01:26:00

course Which not, you know, all of us

01:26:00 --> 01:26:02

are like We're trying to go to Jannah

01:26:02 --> 01:26:04

with the Prophet Salallahu alayhi wa sallam And

01:26:04 --> 01:26:06

so the Prophet, salallahu alayhi wa sallam said

01:26:07 --> 01:26:09

That whoever takes care of an orphan Will

01:26:09 --> 01:26:11

stand next to me like this On Yom

01:26:11 --> 01:26:15

Qiyamah So I'm like Yes, that's what I

01:26:15 --> 01:26:21

gotta do Bismillah So What we have, subhanallah,

01:26:21 --> 01:26:25

is a school And in the Gambia Alhamdulillah,

01:26:25 --> 01:26:27

we have So we take care of a

01:26:27 --> 01:26:30

number of orphans And let me Kind of

01:26:30 --> 01:26:33

give a short little demonstration For how that

01:26:33 --> 01:26:34

goes, so the first thing is that We

01:26:34 --> 01:26:37

have our own school, Horeya Academy Which is

01:26:37 --> 01:26:40

a boarding school Where there are 20 orphans

01:26:40 --> 01:26:43

Which is currently in our direct care And

01:26:43 --> 01:26:47

they're Also integrated, so it's not just Our

01:26:47 --> 01:26:50

goal Is for them to feel like They're

01:26:50 --> 01:26:52

a part of everyday society We don't want

01:26:52 --> 01:26:54

to constantly I don't call them orphans, I

01:26:54 --> 01:26:57

call them my babies But to let them

01:26:57 --> 01:27:00

know That you are with other children You

01:27:00 --> 01:27:05

are Valuable enough to receive The same education

01:27:06 --> 01:27:10

Clothing, shelter, medical care As other children As

01:27:10 --> 01:27:13

we would want, subhanallah May Allah forbid if

01:27:13 --> 01:27:14

something were to happen to us That we

01:27:14 --> 01:27:19

would want that for our children So But

01:27:19 --> 01:27:21

alhamdulillah, it's challenging To take care of 20

01:27:21 --> 01:27:21

children, right?

01:27:21 --> 01:27:23

And we currently have 43 that are on

01:27:23 --> 01:27:27

the waiting list So the children That are

01:27:27 --> 01:27:29

in our direct care Came from very rural

01:27:29 --> 01:27:34

areas So we build Solar powered water systems

01:27:34 --> 01:27:37

In rural areas Where there is no running

01:27:37 --> 01:27:39

water A lot of times there is no

01:27:39 --> 01:27:41

running electricity Which is why they're solar powered

01:27:42 --> 01:27:44

As a result, when there is When there's

01:27:44 --> 01:27:47

just a well or no running water There's

01:27:47 --> 01:27:49

high level of death As it relates to,

01:27:49 --> 01:27:52

you know, waterborne illness Like parasitic infection Of

01:27:52 --> 01:27:57

course, water that's affected by Ground contamination A

01:27:57 --> 01:27:59

lot of times Girls can't go to school

01:27:59 --> 01:28:01

as a result For having to walk sometimes

01:28:01 --> 01:28:03

an hour Sometimes more one way to get

01:28:03 --> 01:28:06

water And bring it back So because they're

01:28:06 --> 01:28:09

considered, you know, that girls You know, if

01:28:09 --> 01:28:11

we had to choose Between who would work

01:28:11 --> 01:28:13

in the family The boys would go and

01:28:13 --> 01:28:15

the girls would Fetch the water for the

01:28:15 --> 01:28:17

family So then girls can't go to school

01:28:17 --> 01:28:20

As a result of that, of having that

01:28:20 --> 01:28:24

job In the family In addition to, of

01:28:24 --> 01:28:25

course As a result of them walking long

01:28:25 --> 01:28:28

distances Let's just say many things can happen

01:28:28 --> 01:28:30

to them Along the way So what we

01:28:30 --> 01:28:34

do is we build It underground We dig

01:28:34 --> 01:28:36

to the deep clean water aquifers And put

01:28:36 --> 01:28:39

in basically A solar powered pump And then

01:28:39 --> 01:28:42

we bring taps To either a central region

01:28:42 --> 01:28:44

or to houses So that means the girls

01:28:44 --> 01:28:47

can go to school It reduces the water

01:28:47 --> 01:28:49

infection Of course when there's an open well

01:28:49 --> 01:28:53

Mosquito swarm causes malaria Childhood blindness, all kinds

01:28:53 --> 01:28:55

of problems So we actually Even if we

01:28:55 --> 01:28:56

go to an area that has a well

01:28:56 --> 01:28:59

We seal it and dig it underground As

01:28:59 --> 01:29:02

we have, right Underground pipes and things like

01:29:02 --> 01:29:05

that Which literally subhanallah When those girls can

01:29:05 --> 01:29:07

go to school You literally subhanallah change the

01:29:07 --> 01:29:09

trajectory Not just for their lives but for

01:29:09 --> 01:29:13

that entire village And then of course Subhanallah

01:29:13 --> 01:29:16

reduces the illness And the sickness which reduces

01:29:16 --> 01:29:18

the amount of orphans Who actually are in

01:29:18 --> 01:29:21

that community But meanwhile There are a lot

01:29:21 --> 01:29:24

of orphans in those regions So then it's

01:29:24 --> 01:29:28

not When a child is orphaned Many times

01:29:28 --> 01:29:30

there's no one to pay for them It's

01:29:30 --> 01:29:32

not just their school fees Even though there

01:29:32 --> 01:29:35

are school fees It's usually like Who's going

01:29:35 --> 01:29:37

to pay for their books Who's going to

01:29:37 --> 01:29:40

give them backpacks And pay for their food

01:29:40 --> 01:29:43

when they go to school Or their notebooks

01:29:43 --> 01:29:45

and pens And uniform And those things that

01:29:45 --> 01:29:46

even if you're in public school You have

01:29:46 --> 01:29:49

to have uniform So a lot of times

01:29:49 --> 01:29:52

children who are orphaned They don't have that

01:29:52 --> 01:29:54

So then there's nobody to care for them

01:29:54 --> 01:29:56

So as a result They end up just

01:29:56 --> 01:30:02

kind of being Used as Like manual labor

01:30:02 --> 01:30:06

In someone's home And they usually don't have

01:30:06 --> 01:30:08

a good quality of life So in those

01:30:08 --> 01:30:10

A lot of those villages What we did

01:30:10 --> 01:30:12

for those that we could currently house We

01:30:12 --> 01:30:15

actually brought them into our facility That's why

01:30:15 --> 01:30:17

they're boarding there So that when they live

01:30:17 --> 01:30:19

there We know that they're going to get

01:30:19 --> 01:30:21

breakfast They're going to get lunch They're going

01:30:21 --> 01:30:23

to get dinner They're going to get someone

01:30:23 --> 01:30:24

who will care for them Give them medical

01:30:24 --> 01:30:28

care, dental care Make sure they're bathed properly

01:30:28 --> 01:30:32

We take care of them Literally like our

01:30:32 --> 01:30:36

own children So that's That's the project in

01:30:36 --> 01:30:40

the Gambia That's the project in the Gambia

01:30:41 --> 01:30:44

So if you are interested In orphan care

01:30:44 --> 01:30:46

or sponsoring an orphan Please let me know

01:30:46 --> 01:30:48

Or you can go to the QR code

01:30:48 --> 01:30:49

And there's a link for that Right now

01:30:49 --> 01:30:51

we're raising We're having like a back to

01:30:51 --> 01:30:54

school Because they start school September 30th So

01:30:54 --> 01:30:57

we're looking for It's a back to school

01:30:57 --> 01:31:00

campaign Where we can get new uniforms for

01:31:00 --> 01:31:03

them Because they're growing fast now And as

01:31:03 --> 01:31:05

well as they need backpacks And all the

01:31:05 --> 01:31:08

things that kids need When they're going back

01:31:08 --> 01:31:11

to school And so if you're interested in

01:31:11 --> 01:31:12

that When you go to the link You'll

01:31:12 --> 01:31:15

see the back to school campaigns Or if

01:31:15 --> 01:31:28

you're interested in sponsoring a child Yes Depending

01:31:28 --> 01:31:32

on how many you have You got 20?

01:31:33 --> 01:31:34

You have to get a suitcase But yeah,

01:31:34 --> 01:31:46

it's possible Alhamdulillah Inshallah Yes, they

01:31:46 --> 01:31:57

are as a cat eligible Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah

01:32:08 --> 01:32:11

We ask that you bless every single one

01:32:11 --> 01:32:13

Of these people in this masjid tonight To

01:32:13 --> 01:32:15

be from amongst the inhabitants Of Jannat al

01:32:15 --> 01:32:18

-Firdaws Bless them to see the Prophet In

01:32:18 --> 01:32:22

their dreams Ya Allah, make us from amongst

01:32:22 --> 01:32:25

Those who have Increase us in knowledge and

01:32:25 --> 01:32:28

wisdom Ya Allah, heal our hearts Ya Allah,

01:32:29 --> 01:32:31

we ask that you illuminate Our hearts with

01:32:31 --> 01:32:32

a light from your light And a guidance

01:32:32 --> 01:32:35

from your guidance And make us from amongst

01:32:35 --> 01:32:38

those Who have success in this life And

01:32:38 --> 01:32:41

success in the hereafter And make this gathering

01:32:41 --> 01:32:42

a means by which we're all Saved from

01:32:42 --> 01:32:44

the torment of the grave, the punishment Of

01:32:44 --> 01:32:45

the hellfire, even for the blink of an

01:32:45 --> 01:32:48

eye Ya Rabbi, please protect and preserve Our

01:32:48 --> 01:32:50

children and those that are close To us

01:32:50 --> 01:32:52

and love us and our entire Lineage to

01:32:52 --> 01:32:56

Yawm al-Qiyamah Ya Rabbi, bless MCC forever

01:32:56 --> 01:32:58

Ya Allah, and all of our teachers And

01:32:58 --> 01:33:07

all those who support This community Allahumma, ameen

01:33:07 --> 01:33:11

Jazakumullahu khair, assalamu alaykum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

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