Ibrahim Nuhu – Riyadh us Saliheen – 30-5-2023
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The segment discusses the cultural shyness of men and women, including the importance of knowing the rules of the church and avoiding sexual embarrassment. The use of shyness as a way to detect sexuality and avoid privacy is emphasized. The importance of apologizing for mistakes and staying away from things that cause embarrassment is emphasized, as it is used to detect strong shyness and avoid negative consequences. The use of hesitation as a way to protect someone from potential consequences is also emphasized, and caution should be given to not sharing secret until one is complete and ready to pursue education.
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So today inshallah we continue from where we stopped last week.
This is the heavy sofa beside him could call a cannon, maybe you sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can also realize that Allahu alayhi wa sallam I should the higher Aminullah if he fiddly
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our of Matthew out of neurophysiology. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam, as we mentioned last time, he used to have this shyness much more than the young girl
much more than a young girl in, in her room.
In the past, this is what the culture is all about this kind of shyness is there, you don't see go out of the house shouting, screaming, actually, it isn't appropriate even for the brothers.
To hear about a man shouting in the street, or Suhana law nowadays, it all changes.
In the past, even it is a shameful thing for a man you know, to be shouting in the street, when he shouts everyone's going to look at him, you know, what's happened here is to ask him what's wrong with you.
So they start strong shyness, and this is part of their nature.
Because when it comes to shyness, Sisters is more shy than, than the brothers. That's natural, as Hala mixing with other arrays, especially, you know, other cultures that are related to other people, especially the western way of thinking, you know, have changes almost everything, even that which is known to be part of the cultural practice of a people even if Islam doesn't tell them something,
because they are common sense which are not appropriate. You don't need a religion to tell you what to do is part of your nature. So how likely this one also is gone. Nowadays, common sense also somebody needs is a need of reminder by others.
So they wanted to tell you how much you know, shyness, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had, they described him this because in the past
is very difficult for them to talk about, especially as much as they're related to,
to the sisters. He will allow when we were young, you know, it's not easy to find any home woman discussing matters that are deeply related to the systems in the presence of others.
But nowadays is all changed you know, she can give you a PhD in
yoga, it's part of the nature they can't they just cannot, you know, discuss they can discuss among themselves, but especially when there are other people involved. They don't. That's where certain lines that Allahu alayhi wa sallam says if a father is to ask his daughter, whether she wants to accept somebody for marriage,
because the norm in the in the community is that she will not reply.
If the father has to stay there forever and ever she will never say anything to him.
Whether she likes it or she doesn't like there will be a problem because the father
As a no and Islamically he is not allowed to force her to marry somebody who she doesn't like.
Yeah, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave us another method to detect whether she agrees or not, which is also part of their nature, just to keep quiet, to keep silent. So he says,
he says will be cute to seven, or even
similar to her. But she keeps quiet. That's when she agrees.
Because if she doesn't agree, probably she's going to talk to somebody who she's having the freedom to speak to them about the matter that she doesn't want this.
If she doesn't agree she's going to address the matter with others. So the promise that Allahu Allah has said of us and if she keeps quiet, that's mean she is in agreement.
As Carla said, how if How about when she Christ
you tell her that
Hamid is coming to your house, she cries How do you know that? She's interested? Oh, she's not.
Hammad will have a lot of translation if they told me she cried when? Yeah, but how do I know? Hola. Hola, them, they have their own method. They said you should touch the tears that are coming into from the eyes.
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that skin sheet doesn't lie.
Wherever they're called, they said the code that is of somebody who cries out of happiness, because it is a fact that somebody can cry out of happiness. There are some people when you give them good news, they cry.
Yeah, out of happiness.
I just said, I never know that somebody can cry out of happiness. Until the time I see my father receiving the news that he is going to migrate with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said I saw my father cry. She ever thought that somebody cries out of happiness.
Anyway, so I just want you to understand that kind of community they were living and this shine, Paula is necessary is needed.
Because this is a very important protection sister has that takes her from anything that will destroy her honor and dignity. Those who have strong shyness she will not have a relationship in the way Allah Sparta does like you will not have Xena being committed from people like that, you know, the shyness will take away from anything that is not appropriate.
So that was also realized.
In whatever they mentioned, they talk about Rasulullah sallallahu. So he is the best Allah says in the Quran, Allah Caloocan of a
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So he's defining what is higher, what does have means. It says is is a whole
you know, is a mana behavior that necessitate staying away from anything that is evil, staying away from evil,
Mara and the behavior that somebody has which takes him away from evil and also prevent him from being negligent in terms of given the rights of those who deserve the rights that shines. In other words, the best definition is to use the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
is having really urge
you guys to you know, as so much it says it has a letter for Salah salata what Rasul Allah so, whenever you pray, pray, like the prayer of somebody who is informed by an angel that this is the last pray you have in this life.
Imagine if you're that person and your death medical mode tells you this is last prayer, how are you going to pray that way?
It says suddenly select a model and this should be all of the nature of all of your active worship and you do it. You do it as if this is the last one. Sincerely a lot. And also metabo Listen, let me say last, because you know, the importance of this because if you are going to do it as if this last one because now you know that you're going to meet Allah subhanaw taala for sure.
And I cannot imagine RIA taking place in this moment.
Well, I can't imagine if somebody is going
To meet Allah subhanaw taala and he also he's doing the RIA at that moment, I cannot imagine how is it going to be possible
and also at the same time you will try to do it according to the Sunnah of Mohamed Salah Salem before you might be doing things in the way you want, because you don't want people to make comments on you. So you do it like, you know it is wrong, but you're still doing it like I wasn't there. But when it is the last moment in your life. Do you care about others? No.
You shouldn't. What exactly, people are going to say about you, you're going to live this life. Whatever they say it will never follow you know to agree.
It helps the person who believes in this hadith properly and apply it to be sincere in his act of worship, and also to make sure that every single part of his activities is taken from the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
call it a solid, solid, solid ammonia. He says Walla Valley che Cha tell you in
in some narration where a year go by your
he said, Don't you ever do something that you will need to go and apologize to others? All I love this so much. Because all of us are like that, how many times we apologize, every time we apologize if you personalize Allah. So destroy your image, try be very serious person stay away from negligent. So don't do things which will push you towards the I'm sorry. You know, the moment you're saying I'm sorry, what is your status, very, very humble, very humiliated. But somebody doesn't want you to do this, you know, Lamborghini movement and you didn't.
It is wrong for you to put yourself in a place that brings humiliation to yourself. Muslim shouldn't do this and Muslim as is.
That's why you try to be you know, serious in all of your, your activities, your matters, and stay away from things which you know, at the end of the day, you have to go and apologize. And you have to be under their mercy, whether they accept your apology, or they don't, you know, given to open your mouth and say I'm sorry, is enough as humiliation, although apology is a virtue. When you do something wrong, you should apologize. But as soon as the last time I want you to be at the best
in the status, well, he says, Don't you ever do things which will push you to one and say I'm sorry.
That's exactly what he's trying to say here what he says to stay away from taxi happy, which will necessitate apology in the future. If a person has virtues so the last thing the promise Allahu alayhi salam I mentioned in that hadith he says watch by Mimaki alienness
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Your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala is perfect. When it comes to human being the prophets Allah. Allah said, Give everyone who deserved the right is right. And don't ever be negligent. Then three things which you have to go out of politics is whether they accept your apology or not. And also don't chew never let somebody understand that you like that which he has.
See how rasilla Salsa is guiding you towards great virtues will lie. Don't ever let somebody understand that you love and you want what he has.
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what does that mean? It can last who watch I
always ask Allah subhanaw taala and be as easiness don't ask others what they have done the relationship between you and there is going to be perfect human beings the more you ask, the more they stay away from from you. Approach says lettuce Elena.
When I had them I had
a salad lady available letter. It said Do not ask. Even human means anything.
He said always ask the one that his doors were never closed. Everyday Allah's was telling you come come come come
and you're going to humiliate yourself with others. A creator who has everything who owns everything is telling you a cow I will give you cow and then you go to others. He got all types of rejections and humiliation sometimes. So he says don't ask
me Adam hedges and was selling lady
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what what are you Adam? He you know us
He says Allah gets angry if you don't ask.
And human beings if you ask them, they get back.
The first time they give a second time, because they will start thinking about what happens the third time, they might want you.
Allah subhanaw taala he wants you to come first, second, third, you know, we'd know and he wants you every time to come and tell them I want and he will give. And don't you ever think that you're reducing Allah subhanaw taala and anything Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam I said
it all of the creation has to be in one place and everyone will ask Allah subhanaw taala where he wants, Allah will give each and every one of us what he wants, and actually multiple times. And still, we don't reduce the bounties of Allah subhanaw taala if there is any decrease, it's just like when you go to an ocean with a needle and you put it inside and you bring it out
that drop this tiny drop of water that you pick up from from the sea
is the thing that Alaska gave us, the sea the ocean that left this is like the bounties of the last round. So in the way that drop of water did not reduce the sea basis how also our needs are not decrease in Alaska hotel and this is just an example to to bring it closer to your understanding. Otherwise, Allah subhanho wa Taala is bounties have no end, Allah says mind urine further warmer and the light back what you have will perish and what Allah subhanaw taala has remained
so why you still worry if you have Allah subhanaw taala on your side. So we could
have a good relationship with Allah subhanaw taala even the lines that were to color to
Inshallah, all of you invocations will hit the right target.
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So at least another definition given by this scholar that, to see the normal philosopher or to to recognize them, you know, that Allah subhanaw taala is good a person you recognize all of them, and also you focus on what you're doing, compare the name of Allah subhanaw taala with your life.
And he does call us when he talks about a reason why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, whenever he comes out of the bathroom, he says what?
Confront
the witch is authentic, go for
it, least a while before other people don't go to the bathroom and commit sin.
But some of the explanation given by the by the scholars, although the real wisdom and justification behind that is to say Allahu Allah, that was what was done by Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihe Salam and we also do like that the scholar sometimes it will try to understand what
he says because one of the reasons why is he saying woof Ronak Yeah, ALLAH forgive my sins is
the person who gets into the battle of economical Allah, you know, what is he doing, relieving himself from those things? In which if they are to remain in Him, they could be harmful to his life.
Yeah, this thing if they remain in you, you know, go and ask the doctors to tell you if a person is constipated. You know,
I heard somebody mentioned
around 11 diseases that are related so that you can understand how much Allah's are the less
you eat Allah take out only the one that is not beneficial. And you go and throw it away. That's Nirma Allah which is price
is less we cannot pay for that. So they saying that the one who is using
the bathroom when you see this number and then you compare this number with your righteousness. You know, you can see them you know, the inconsistency is very clear very little.
What you're doing is very little. So they say maybe that's the reason why the Prophet said Allah Allah celebrate is saying a whole ferrata whatever he comes from the
The bathroom but as I said, the staff of halal and justification the best is to
say, Allah, Allah because the prophets Allah hate somebody did not
mention the reason why you will see in this so what is higher according to the mention of this color is to understand and to recognize the Nirvana of Allah subhanho wa Taala and also match it with the with the taxes that you are doing negligible of a new attitude and behavior and so given that
from there
you know how much we'll ever do they approach a lot smarter they get what you're looking for, they increase their right
and you Allah whenever you look at Allah subhanho wa Taala mercies and also
you know, Eman is in the heart it is supposed to lead you to have more
Eman in a nice way
it is supposed to lead you to have more Iman Allah subhanaw taala So, my advice to each and every one of us is to focus focus whatever
happens in your life that is the wisdom behind right behind that
Karla
preservation of the secret
secret we know secrets right somebody told you something is it okay for somebody to share the secrets with others?
Is it okay for somebody to share his secrets with others?
Come on I'm on which dunya which planet are you living in?
We all do, yeah, it depends. There are issues which are secret, but you have to give them to somebody because they need to know in case you are living this life, they have to take action accordingly. But if it is not necessary, it is always better not to share your secret with anyone.
Sometimes you really need to share because you need you need advice from one of the scholars and he needs to know what exactly is going on these type of things is okay. Because this one will not go to others and tell them
the law told me this and that you know,
but other than that, whenever you want something to remain as a secret, do not tell it to others. Imam Shafi says if you share your secrets with others, and they go and tell it to other people, you should not blame anyone. You should blame yourself
it's either Dr. Sutherland Maria uncivil in the heat and Sadhguru letting us know there are several other
he said if your chests not accommodate your secret Corinne also his chest also is full of secrets. He cannot accommodate other people's secrets.
That's why when a man tells me I will go to bed I tell him
you know this is this is secretive. Please don't share with anyone because of drama told me I should I even told him you will lie sometimes you know that I tell them up drama told me not to share with anyone. Hammad will say instead of telling me but if he says the secret why do you share?
You have to you will like the moment somebody tells you that this person who told me this he says the secret you shouldn't listen no matter how much he tried to tell him no. He said the secret you have to respect that that's why the prophets Allah, Allah Magellan among
you will love very comprehensive have Ecco Majelis Amma what does that mean? Whenever you have a major issue with some people that you discuss with them secret nobody amongst them is allowed to share the secret with others.
Witch Hunt Allah we we always go against this. That's why my shadow said just don't share with others.
Yeah, because it's hardly to find somebody who would be honest in this regard. So what do we do I go to him I tell him it is secret, but please don't share with anyone. He also will go to college and to college. Yeah, this is secret, but don't share with anyone tell you to go to another person. It is secret venture with anyone. Before you realize almost everyone knows about that secret. But don't share with anyone but everyone knows.
So try your best
can see EDFs
It's very important sometimes to be looking for a job.
Talk to everyone you're about to attain success, you talk to everyone, these are all wrong practices.
Don't you ever do that?
Yeah, that is
it wisdom I call it wisdom because the chain is
is having some issues. So, we take it as a wisdom it says
bill each month for in the near month in my suit.
Seek the support, you know,
ah, you know, in doing all of your activities with one allocate money it might make sense to hide it to keep, conceal and share with anyone
until you finish fine Nicola, the name Massoud
everyone who is given a virtual blessing by Allah subhanaw taala to help define some people they are having acid towards him.
It has it has been hassled towards you because you have
Why is he having this hazard? Because he knows, how did he look? Most likely you told him?
You might say I don't care. You should care.
Yeah, it's part of the Muslim right? I care about him to see how to protect him from committing a sin. If I know that this person has this attitude of hustle. I shouldn't share with him any of my shipment.
What am I doing? I'm protecting him. And what is the benefit of telling him? There is no benefit because I'm just going to put him into more trouble with Allah subhanho wa taala.
See the story of Amash and,
and
one of them said, Let's go around the city.
One of them has problem in his ears and other one has problems with his nose. So the one who says let's go out, the other one told him no, if we go together, people see us although we are great scholars among them, but they will make comment.
They will make them and they will.
So the other one says but this is the problem. He said no. Isn't it always better?
That we shouldn't do something that will put others into trouble.
We stay home me and you financial wisdom.
You will be saved and they will also be saved. I go alone. It's okay. When you go alone. It's okay. But why don't we go together people might talk.
I love this attitude of the sulfasalazine. When they're very concerned about their brothers and sisters, they don't say this is his problem. They try their best to make sure that they keep him away from getting into trouble with Allah subhanho wa taala. So try your best don't to ever share your secret with others unless if it is necessary.
Let's see if it is necessary. Otherwise, some of these people that you might be sharing the secret with them will lie they will be the reason why you will lose it. There are some people who are so evil you know, their hazard is so strong and everything they don't fight for it to be missing. But they will get harmed. What is hazard?
Has it has two definitions.
One of both okay. But one is stronger than the other one. The first definition says it has to devote to men needs someone needs a while
to wish seeing the blessing of Allah subhanaw taala been taken away from a person
that Allah bless somebody with something but if you'd like to see it with him so you pray for this thing to be taken away from him as an asset
and others call us know how handset is more comprehensive than this? It says here Whoa ha ha to Nirmal Allahu Allah.
Allah
hated to see Allah Subhana Allah blessing somebody even if you don't want the thing to be taken away from him, but he just hate seeing this
bleaching this person this is happening.
And this is one of the worst type of diseases that
they're finding a cure for it is is not easy.
Mama shabby says what are
colonists like in the high city? Madera, who was that was the Managua.
He said I try to convince
and to have a good relation.
Shabbat everyone.
I tried to I succeeded with all of the excellence that we had together. But he says it doesn't work. It's a lesson
I can has any Madeira to as it was in Managua except the one who is having acid towards me is this one. I try my best I failed. But then later on, he says, So I realized that actually I was wasting my time.
He says, I realized that I was wasting my time. Why is this working for you? Who has it and it opened up last one? How is it possible for you to convince somebody to stop hating the name of Allah smart Allah upon you? If there is nothing that can please this person except to see that name have been taken away from you? The only thing that can make him happy is to see is this this Nirma being taken away from you?
That's why my dear brothers, sisters, always put your trust and Allah subhanho wa taala.
Whenever somebody tells you about an AMA that Allah SWaCH a blessing with the happy forces have to be happy, congratulate him and do everything possible to make sure that you helped him to preserve that and raise of your hand.
It will I don't see it significant in any way. Why do you want to get what he gets?
Well, why can't you ask Allah the one who gave him to give you better than what he gave him? Why do I restrict myself to what he has?
How did he get it? Who gave you Allah?
Why is it mentioned in the Quran that you will never get it? We don't have this that's been so you're also eligible to get it go and do that which Allah, Allah wants and ask him, Allah will give.
Why do I need to destroy my relationship with Allah, my relationship with that person, you know, I just saw myself and also I lose the sight of Allah subhanho wa taala. So that's why you should be happy and raise your hand if you want that thing and ask Allah smarter to grant you better. Don't just restrict yourself to that one. ask Allah to keep his risk. ask Allah to bless him in his risk, ask Allah to guide it and to make it a source of success for him. And at the same time, raise your hand and say Allah, I also need this type of things yet Allah bless me with something better. So inshallah the next class be equally light as we will listen to the muscles coated by Imam and now
we'll be under this chapter of hip the 70s in light as Raja Subhana Allah will be handling a shadow La Land as the precursor to be late.
Okay, that is a question about sharing the secret with this caller.
Let's say somebody told you something
and you know that this person is going to get into trouble if there is nobody who is going to advise
and you believe that Islamically he has to be advice.
In this case, when you go to the scholar, and you mention
the things that he could be advice, this one is okay because it is for his own benefit.
And if you're going to talk about what is going on with some people without mentioning the name of the one who is doing and also you believe 100% That this person that you're talking would never be able to know who you are talking about.
Yeah, because sometimes we talk about something, you know, the one that we're talking to he already knows, the moment you start speaking about it he, he can trace, who are you talking about? Yeah, this is considered as violating the secret of your era.
The same goes to work, right?
If you're talking in a way that nobody knows what you do, who you are talking about the event took place in another country and you are discussing the matter in another country where nobody knows that person. You don't mention his name. It's okay. It's not worth writing. But if you talk about him in the place, where people could be able to detect the why while who
was involved, that this is back right.
So generally,
speaking, a person should stay away from exposing the secret between him and others, no matter what to be Oracle address, the matter must be addressed. Otherwise the person might get into trouble or lose his life. For instance, somebody told you that he is planning to commit suicide
and you try to convince him he doesn't want to
believe in and you know that this person is going to is going to do it, you know, if nobody stops him, you can talk to others. Or you will realize that somebody told other people you know that he's going to commit a crime. And you are aware of this. Yeah, this kind of secrets. You have to expose them because they before they happened, you cannot keep them if somebody told you, you have to you stop him from doing it. First. You tell them Allah either you stop or else I'm going to share with with the authority.
Allah subhanaw taala grant is good until he can be with us wherever we are in our ecology million Kafeel Subhana Allah Morbihan shadowline Testa forgot to re Laker Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.