Dangerous Assumptions

Ibrahim Hindy


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He will sell them said to us in the mail boy Tullio Tamim macadam and UCLA. He said Indeed I was only sent to perfect moral character.

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Allah subhana wa Tada and His messenger, Allah sent His messenger with a goal of perfecting

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and illuminating what moral character really is.

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And so, of the message of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is that he warned us of behavior that undermines excellent character.

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And the reality is that a lack of character harms us. First.

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A lack of character, and lack of morality and ethics may harm other people, and it may harm society.

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But in reality, and first and foremost, it harms us.

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And so today's topic revolves around this concept,

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an evil character, an unworthy character, or characteristic, that the more we engage in it, the more we harm ourselves. The more we engage in it, the more we bring pain to ourselves.

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The more we do it, the more mistrustful or distrustful we are of others, the more paranoid and the more hate filled, we become.

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And this is the character of having or holding evil assumptions about other people. Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran

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Oh, you who believe, avoid most assumptions, or avoid many assumptions. For indeed, some assumptions are sinful.

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Allah does not tell us in this verse, to avoid all assumptions, but rather to avoid most assumptions. Why?

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The Scholars say there are different forms of fun. There are different forms of assumptions. Some assumptions, for instance, are

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almost totally or almost definitive.

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For instance, if someone was angry with you,

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and in the context of being angry with you, he turns his hand into a fist, and he cooks his elbow as though he's going to throw a punch. Is it wrong for me to assume he's angry and may punch me? No, because the number of is the number of evidences to support this assumption are incredibly high.

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Likewise, the scholars talk about a London wajib

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the obligatory assumptions, meaning there are times where we must assume things

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and must delve into assumptions. For instance, if a scholar is criticizing the narrator's of a hadith,

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he may assume certain things make assumptions about some of the narrators in the chain of narration. Likewise, if someone is entering into

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a marriage contract or a business contract,

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we may assume things we may say those assumptions in order to ensure that the contract is what both of us understand.

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But most assumptions we make are not of this nature. Let's be honest. Most assumptions we make fall short of this. For instance, you have a debate with someone or a discussion with someone and they say something and it sounds like maybe it's an insult, but maybe it's not.

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This is what the scholars calls I never too fun. Most likely, He's insulting you, but maybe he's not. There's a possibility to interpret his words. In a way that's not an insult. Here we should avoid

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because Allah tells us to avoid most assumptions.

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Then there are assumptions that are less than that. For instance,

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I didn't invite you to my wedding.

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So you

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You start to assume, Oh, he didn't invite me on purpose. Or he didn't invite me because he doesn't like me. Or he doesn't invite me for this reason or that reason,

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when in reality, maybe he just forgot to invite you.

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So this is a form of suspicion, based on circumstance, but there's no evidence behind it.

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And the final type of one is abundant whammy. The imaginative assumptions that we make. You see a brother driving a nice car. Oh, he must be

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selling drugs. He must be dealing River, he must be doing something how wrong. On what basis was that assumption made? There's no evidence behind it whatsoever.

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You see a brother with a big beard, he must be an extremist. Right? This is pure prejudice. There's no evidence, there's no reality. It's just imaginative assumptions. And most people's assumptions fall under this haram care category rather than

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in a positive category.

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And so having negative assumptions or being suspicious of people, or constantly delving into the intentions of other people, this is a disease of the hearts.

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And usually this disease exists because of our own evil intentions. We tend to project our own sins onto other people. And so if you naturally back bites, if you often back bites,

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it's easy to assume that other people are backbiting you.

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If you would steal from other people, it's easy to feel paranoid that other people are stealing from you.

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Because of this audio, the long one, he said a *ty les avant movie I had in Hira, Leanna hula, elaborate over NFC. He said that the sinful person does not assume good about anyone else. Because he only looks through the prism of his own heart or his own nature. His nature is to do something evil so he assumes other people do evil as well.

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Almudena Beatty said, great poets, he said he sat. He says, if the person's actions are evil, so too are his intentions are so do are his assumptions. You know the parable I've given before but the parable of someone

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who's sitting, looking at the laundry, that people are hanging outside of his house,

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and he looks at their laundry that they're hanging after they've washed it, they're hanging it to dry, and he says all their laundry is dirty.

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Look at these people, they're hanging their laundry, their sheets too dry, and the sheets are dirty.

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But in reality, it's his window that is dirty. And because his window is dirty, every time he looks outside the window, he thinks everything on the outside is dirty, but he really needs to clean his own window.

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And this is the reality of most of us. Because we have evil intentions. We start to assume everyone else has evil intentions. Because we're looking through the window of our own selves. We're looking through the prism of our own nature, as Ali or the Allahu Ron says, and this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and the Hadith in Bukhari, he said call it SMS to Roger Leah cool. Hello Canice for her Allah Khun is that if you hear the person say if you hear a man saying, the people are ruined? How often do we hear this? People are everybody is so into haram. Everybody is evil. Everybody is this everybody is that. He said when he was here, the person saying that all the

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people are ruined, for who lack whom he is the most ruined of all of them.

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Because he's judging people in the end based on his own self.

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And so the sign of being someone who holds evil suspicions about other people is that we're looking to ascribe hidden intentions to the things that we see.

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We aren't simply simply judging an action or a deed. But we are trying to ascribe hidden intentions and evil motives to the actions that we see. The Prophet sallallahu or other you send them said, Paul, I am not sure man Islam or be the Sunni he will admit him and I'll be

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amenable. He said he was a male milholland Eman. I'll be here. Let's talk tabel Muslimeen what are the tibia or Waratah him Fein now Manitoba our team it's about Allah Who Kurata is

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said oh people who believe with their tongues. But Eman faith has yet to enter their hearts.

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Letter to our rotten Muslim in lots of terrible Muslims do not back by the Muslims and do not follow their fault faults for whoever seeks to follow the faults of his brother, then Allah will seek out his faults and whomever his faults is sought out by Allah, then Allah will disgrace him. What does it mean to follow the faults of a Muslim? the faults of a Muslim are his sins.

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So if you see a Muslim sinning, don't seek it. Don't follow it. What does that mean? Don't talk about it. Don't gossip about it. Don't be interested in it. don't ascribe evil intentions to it.

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The power of this hadith by the way is the profit begins. Men mnb Lisa, Billy Sani here with me after the man Illa Colby. Oh, you who believe with their tongues. But Eman faith has yet to enter the hearts

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because how can the hearts have Eman?

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When it has evil assumptions of others? It's an indication that true Eman has not settled within the hearts. And if you seek out the faults of other people that Allah will seek out your faults. What does that mean? It means Allah will expose your faults. If you're a backbiting about the sins of others and gossiping and assuming the intentions about others than Allah will make your faults that which people are backbiting about and gossiping about and ascribing intentions towards. And this is why some of the scholars they said even if you see your Muslim brother

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with his beard soaked in alcohol, than say to yourself, maybe someone splashed it in his face. And if you see your Muslim brothers screaming, another book coming out, I am your lord the most high then say maybe he's reciting the Quran. When it's quoting for Darwin, rather than he's claiming it about himself. Meaning always look to hold a good assumption about your brother and sister in Islam.

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Automotive photography along we're on he said, lots of newbie Kelly Martin hurry, Jasmine Aki can movement, Shara were integer de la, Phil Hi Rima Mila, he said Never assume that a word Your brother has said your believing brother has said to be evil while there exists the possibility of a good interpretation.

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He says something and it sounds wrong. But maybe there's a way to interpret it positively. Then do so don't always assume the evil intention upon your brother. Instead, we tend to do the opposite.

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Someone says something and we say oh yeah, he said this, but he really means this evil thing. She said this, but she really means this evil thing. And subhanAllah how often do we know our own intentions? How often are we in need of

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doing more hassle of ourselves of asking ourselves? What did I really intend? What was my true intention? What was my true Nia? We have to ask ourselves this question if we're honest, multiple times a day.

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So if we don't know our own intentions,

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how are we able to judge the intentions of other people?

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Yeah, you Alladhina amanu age 10 He will cafiero min of one. Oh you who believe? Avoid most assumptions. It's YNAB

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it's tiny boo. HT NAB means to avoid something severely.

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And it's interesting the Quran only uses the word HT NAB in a few circumstances.

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For instance,

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vegetable rich seminal outside which Teddy bucola Zoar. Avoid idolatry, the impurities of idolatry.

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Allah mentions it as well when he talks about alcohol and toxicants and gambling in the Mahamadou and Masonville ensemble exam rich Suman, I'm going to shaytaan Fench 20 Boom, avoid these things. Get away from it. And the scholars mentioned, notice that every time Allah uses the word each 10 evil, he uses it about things that are destructive.

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So he uses it about idolatry. Idolatry is destructive.

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to your relationship with Allah, it's destructive to the pure Aki that the pure monotheism until Hades

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and he uses it about alcohol. And alcohol is destructive to a person's mental capacity

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and ability to think and make good judgment. And he uses it about gambling, and gambling is destructive to someone's wealth and money. How many people have gone bankrupt because of gambling? And he uses it about assumptions. It's tenable. Kaffee, ramen oven, and assumptions are destructive to brotherhood and sisterhood. They're destructive to being brothers in a SNAM. And for always assuming the worst of each other. How are we going to be brothers to one another? How are we going to be Brothers and Sisters in Islam, if every time someone does something, we want to assume the worst about what they've done.

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The Prophet said er can was done for in a one, a cable, Hadith, the prophets that I warn you, or be aware of assumptions. For indeed, assumptions are the most lying of words, the most false of tales. The thing that contains the most lies are the assumptions we hold about other people. And then the Prophet continued, while at the hustle, whether to just assume when at a house I do, when I today borrow what I tell her do, what Kuhn where he by the law, he acquires

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beautiful Hadith, he said, and do not spy do not seek each other's faults, and do not spy on one another. And do not contend with each other, and do not envy one another and do not hate each other and do not turn away from one another. Rather be a bad Allah, the servants of Allah, one brothers to one another.

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As panela the Prophet mentions all of these evil, socially destructive sins, seeking each other's faults, you know, you're looking to see is that guy, that guy do something wrong so I can expose his sins, you know, seeking each other's faults spying on one another, backbiting each other, contending negatively with each other, envying each other, all of these sins.

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But what's the first thing the Prophet told you? Yeah, come with one. For in a one equitable Hadith. I warn you about assumptions because assumptions are the most false of tales. And it's as if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling us, what is it that leads the person to seek the faults of his brother and sister in Islam? What is it that leads the person to spy on his brothers and sisters in Islam? What is it that leads the person to have negative competition with his brothers and sisters in the SNAM? What is it that leads the person from hating each other, their brothers and sisters in Islam and envying their brothers and sisters? What is it that is the root of

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all of this? It's the evil assumptions we hold about each other. It's because we don't stop ourselves at the beginning

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and say to ourselves, maybe there's a good reason he did that.

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Maybe I should make excuses for him.

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Maybe I should assume the best about him. And if we stop ourselves at the beginning, all of those sins don't happen. So the prophet tells you beware of assumptions, and be aware of all these other sins. And then in the end, he tells you what Coonawarra he, by the law, he wanna be the servants of Allah and brothers to each other. How can we be brothers to each other, and servants to Allah, when we're not able to assume the best of one another. And so it's important that we preserve our brotherhood, by always assuming the best about one another. And one of the powerful stories in this regard as well, something for us really to think about, is the story of Osama bin Hussein or the

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Allahu Han, who is fighting on the battlefield. And he's fighting on the battlefield with surely someone who's trying to kill him.

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But in the battle, whoo, Sama is victorious. The person drops his sword. And Sandra has dominance over him.

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And the man says, let you know in the law.

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Now Santa is looking at the circumstances. We're fighting on the battlefield. He didn't say the shahada until he dropped a sword. Only after he drops his sword. He says, Now you know the law.

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And if Santa was the one who drops the sword,

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he assumes, surely the other men would have killed me.

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So Osama

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does not accept the Shahada. This man makes and he kills him.

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And he goes back to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and informs him of what took place.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells him, architecture will bow down in LA. He said, Did you kill him after he said that you know, in Allah

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and Osama tells the Prophet Allah so Allah, He didn't mean it. He said it but he didn't mean it. And the prophet tells him again call Alcatel Jehovah don't call Allah, Allah. Did you kill him after he said La Ilaha illa Allah. And again, Osama is protesting so as long as you drove Allah, but he said it, but you never meant it.

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The prophets of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells him all FLK Fatah's narrow villa in La vida to Mariama, he said, What will you do with La Ilaha? Illa Allah, if it comes on the Day of Judgment, meaning you don't know if he said it, truthfully or not, you don't know what his intentions were? And if his intention was truly to say that Ilaha illa Allah, then what are you going to do when a Muslim comes with La Ilaha illa Allah, on the day of judgment?

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And that's a question for all of us to think about.

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Because there are people who are going to come on the day of judgment, and they have said La Ilaha illa Allah, and maybe we didn't kill them with a sword, but maybe we killed them with our tongue.

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Maybe with our tongue, we said something, to harm them, to hurt them to destroy them.

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So like the prophet tells Santa for K fastener or Billa Illa Allah, what are you going to do with that, you know, in the law, that we need to ask ourselves, what are we going to do with La Ilaha illa Allah if it comes on the Day of Judgment

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Allah subhanaw taala tells us

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do not pursue that what you do not have knowledge, for indeed, the hearing, and the sight and the hearts. All of those will be questioned. We are going to be questioned on the Day of Judgment about our hearing, and our sight in our hearts. But Allah tells us don't pursue that which you have no knowledge of. Don't worry about other people, especially about things that we have no knowledge of, we don't know what's going on inside their hearts.

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Don't be obsessed with it. Because in the end, you're going to be asked about what's your own hearing, and your own sights and your own hearts. And so it's important for us to be aware of this. We know the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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when he was talking to his wife, Sophia outside of the masjid, and he had just married her.

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And some of the Muslims see the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam speaking to a woman and they start walking a little bit faster. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with his emotional intelligence, he understands what's happening. So he calls them

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and he tells them, this is my wife, Sophia.

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They said, O Messenger of Allah.

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We're not going to think evil of you.

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You know, how are we? This is how to lay out so Allah, Allah, how are we going to think evil of you? You're the Messenger of Allah, we're not going to assume anything bad about you. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in the Shavon, Yejide, mineral, Insan, Nigeria dumb. He said, Indeed, shaytaan runs through the human being, like blood runs through the veins.

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And so the Prophet sallallahu wasallam of his great moral character, as he tried to make sure he didn't put himself in a situation where people were going to assume bad things about him. And if he felt they might, he clarified, so Allah who it was Senator, but he teaches us this lesson. He teaches us this lesson, that shaytaan runs through us. And that means we have to be constantly constantly guarding ourselves, against shaytaan whispering in our ears, what is that person doing? What do you think their intentions are? And instead we have to realize and really internalize that our brothers and sisters in a SNAM they are from us, and we are from them.

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And Imam Al Ghazali Rahim Allah and he says that, just like our tongues need to remain silence from the evils of our brothers because if we speak then it's considered backbiting. The heart needs to remain silence from the evil

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goes of other people. And what does that mean? He says,

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The SU oven because the evil assumptions is lead but it is the backbiting of the hearts. And so we ask Allah subhanaw taala to protect us from that, and rather to allow our hearts to have love for our brothers and sisters in Islam, and to always assume the best of our brothers and sisters in Islam. In Allahu Allah Ketu Soluna Nebia you Alladhina amanu Sallu alayhi wa sallam with Sima Allama Sunni wa sallam analyses you know whenever you know have you been Mohamed Salah Allah Muhammad metacoda Quran and abroad, mostly ALLAH hiragana Matador myschool affair Sundiata Europeana salatu salam, and immediately Ahmed Dean was early he was happy to even get in. Well, I don't matter mean,

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