Ibraheem Menk – Deaths Around The Messenger
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The message of Islam is that people are being killed by their actions and the dams are a symbol of a person preparing for death. The narratives and lines discussed in the segment highlight the importance of grieving and not letting people cry until processing the pain of their loss. The message is that people should not cry until they have processed the pain of their loss and practicing the message of Islam is normal for individuals. The segment also emphasizes the importance of not letting people cry and considering their options.
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Death
is one of the most natural things that
human beings have been through
since the beginning of time.
So every single human being
is guaranteed death.
And Allah
tells
us
Every single
person shall taste death.
And indeed you will be given your recompense.
So the one who is averted
and diverted away from the fire
and he has entered into Jannah and such
a person has won
and this Dunya is nothing but
a deception.
So
every single one of us will one day
breathe our last.
And this is something that when we think
of, many of us are afraid.
Many of us fear, many of us think
that
why do I have to leave this dunya?
But in reality a person who is preparing
for the akhira
he will not be
as worried as the one who has built
this world only.
And this is why
back in the past, one of these scholars
was asked,
why is it that we despise
death?
So he says,
It is because you have built your dunya
and you have left
and abandoned your akhira.
So you despise to move from that which
is built up to that which you have
left abandoned.
Imagine
you have a
hotel room that you are living in
and that hotel room obviously you know you
are there for 5, 10, 15 nights possibly
maximum
and then you have to go back home.
But when when you are given and you
check into that room
what you begin to do is you say
I don't like the way this bathroom is.
Right? So let me
develop it. Let me renovate it. Take out
all the tiles. Put what is. Put that
which I like, put a bedding that I
enjoy, change the carpet,
change the ceiling,
change the curtains. Why? Because I don't like
this hotel room.
But you know you are leaving that hotel
room
and that is the dunya for us my
dear brothers and sisters in Islam. We build
it
and we
make it such that it will be luxurious
for our stay. Not realizing one day you
have to check out.
One day you have to leave
and that which is beyond that door is
what is important. The akhira is important.
So Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam was not
only tested in the same manner. He did
not only taste
death himself salallahu alaihi wa sallam
and pass on to the akhirah but
he was tested with death all around him
as well.
He was born without a father.
His father passed away before he died.
His mother passed away when he was only
6 years old
and
his grandfather passed away when he was 8
years old. So you can see in quick
succession people are dying around him. And in
fact he was only 6 years old when
his mother took him on a journey with
Umayman.
And all the way back
his mother passed away
and
came back to Makkah with Muhammad salallahu alaihi
wasallam. Wa salallam alone. Imagine, 6 year old
child
left motherless.
Imagine the emotions going through the hearts of
this young child
but it was none other than Muhammad Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam. So a person may wonder
that why
did Allah test him in this manner?
That is because my dear brothers and sisters
in Islam test
trial, tribulation,
hardship, difficulty, even death around you is not
a bad thing.
But it is Allah
strengthening you as a human being making you
stronger
and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala preparing you for
goodness in the akhirah Allah raising your rank.
So Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's mother passes
away and then his grandfather passes away and
then Abu Talib, his uncle whom he loved
so dearly passes away. And Khadija radiAllahu Anha
passes away. And not only that
but even his children 1 by 1
they pass away.
She is actually
she makes the Hijra and
she becomes ill.
And when it was the battle of Badr,
Usman aladiallahu anhu was married to Ruqaiyah aladiallahu
anha.
So when it was the battle of Badr,
Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasallam
he went out with his companions. And before
going out he told Usman,
for you your battle is at home. You
stay and you look after your wife Ruqayyah.
Radi Abu Anha. She is sick you will
look after her.
So he stayed at home and Rasulullah salallahu
alaihi wa sallam went out and he was
victorious
at battle.
And in the meantime Ruqayyah
radiAllahu
anha gets worse
and she passes on And Rasulullah
Rasulullah Sarrabbath alaihi wa sallam doesn't even know
that his daughter has passed on. But he
sends 2 people
to give
Madinah glad tidings that they have won the
battle. Usama tudmuzayd and Abdullah Nurawala.
He sent these 2 and said go and
give them glad tidings we have won the
battle.
Imagine
he's sending them to give glad tidings not
realizing
that his daughter has passed away as well.
So they come and they give God tidings
to the people of Madinah
but there are some who are grieving the
passing of the daughter of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam.
In fact, the narration goes as far as
to say that
Zayd
arrived, Usamatul Nuzayd. He arrived in Madinah
and they were burying
Ruqayah,
the daughter of Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
so when the messenger Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
gets back
he is
shocked by the news
and what does he do?
He goes to
the graveyard
and Al Baqir what is known as Al
Baqir today and he raises his hands and
he makes dua
for
Ruqayyah,
for Maghfirah and for Rahma, for Ruqayyah radiAllahu
anha. This is his own daughter passing away
Sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam.
Imagine what was going through his heart, the
sadness that he felt. And they say that
when Qulthumb
radiAllahu anha passed away, there is mention of
tears that fell from the blessed face of
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Allahu Akbar.
In fact,
all of his children died
except for Fatima Radiallahu
Anha and
the only son that he had at the
time
1 year before he passed away Ibrahim
he actually
was
breathing his lust as well.
And Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam is given
the news. Your son is breathing his lust.
So he goes to the date palms of
Madinah in a home where he was and
he lifts up his son
and places him into his lap. And one
narration says he went and he
took
a smell, you know, he smelled the sun.
You know how when you love someone, you
breathe the ascent in.
This is what he did and then he
put the sun into his lap
and his eyes teared.
If you just think of that at that
moment
he
his only son
at the time
and his breathing is lost in his hands.
And his eyes tear so the companion
radiAllahu anhu with him says that,
did you not stop us from crying? Did
you not stop us from showing this emotion?
So he says,
I did not stop you and prohibit you
from this.
This is a yahma jaa Allahu
fee rebadeer ruhamah.
Allah has placed this in the hearts of
those who are merciful.
And then he says,
But I stopped you from 2 different
evil and bad types of voices.
1, when you scream out, you know, when
people go and they party and they are
happy and they scream out and they shout
and wail and do all sorts of things.
That is what Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam
prevented from. And the second voice he says,
this foolish
second voice that you are never meant to
do is to tear your clothes and wail
at the top of your voice and to
scratch your face. That I have stopped you
from doing. That I have prohibited for you
from doing. And then he says,
indeed the eye will tear
and indeed the heart will become sad
But we will only say that which is
pleasing to Allah
You see it is normal and human for
you to cry when you lose loved ones.
It is normal and human for you to
feel sad when you lose a loved one.
You should process that pain. And part of
processing the pain is to actually cry.
Part of processing the pain is to cry.
You know, there are some people who are
so shocked that they cannot cry initially,
And it concerns
those around them. Why is this person not
crying? This is a time where they should
be crying, but they haven't processed it. They
haven't processed the fact that this person is
gone and I will never see this person
in this dunya again. And when they process
it, it is as though
a ton of bricks has hit them and
you see them break down in tears. That
is Rahmah from Allah.
A system that he created within us for
us to become
stable once again. It is important for you
to grieve and this is why when we
see videos
of places where a person is saying don't
cry, don't cry,
you are not meant to cry. No. That
is not Islam.
Your child has died. You are meant to
cry. It is only human to cry. If
you don't cry, then there's something wrong with
you.
Yes. Perhaps it is at a time where
you want to show a bit of strength
to the enemy, etcetera. Understandable.
Don't cry there. But don't stop people from
crying behind closed doors with themselves,
with their families. It is okay. It is
normal for you to grieve. Even Rasoolullah salallahu
alayhi wa sallam grieved. But what did he
say?
And indeed the heart also becomes sad.
But we will not say anything except for
that which pleases Allah. And
this is where we make a mistake. This
is where we now sometimes question
why Allah
did that to us. And the question why
is to never be post to Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
Because Allah
is the decider.
Allah is the creator. Allah
is in control. And we as believers have
admitted and submitted that
Allah is in control. We surrender, Allah. We
are there admitting that we are the slaves
and you are the controller. You are the
master and we are the servants and we
come to you horribly You Allah begging for
your forgiveness. So he says,
and we will not say anything except for
that which pleases Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. You
see
not long afterwards
Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam carries on with
his life
and he continues
and Fatimatkah happens.
So Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam never got stuck
in that moment and that is what many
of us
tend to do when something bad happens in
our lives.
Something severe perhaps sometimes a motor vehicle accident
where 3 or 4 of our family members
have died. And it is so difficult, so
heart wrenching you begin to wonder what is
the purpose of of life anymore? Why should
I live here anymore?
But I believe in Allah says,
Inna Lillah wa Inna Ila Yajiyun
indeed we belong to Allah and to him
we shall return.
And he carries on with his life. What
does that statement mean?
We belong to Allah. You you Allah. We
give our lives to you. We admit that
our lives belong to you. We accept your
decree, oh Allah. And we know we are
going back to you as well. We know
we are returning to you as well. So
in the same manner that these people have
got, we will go to. And we admit
and accept and carry on with our lives.
Sometimes
you find
and especially
the females when a woman's
husband passes away and he was
very very good to her.
What does she say? She says, I will
never marry again.
I will never marry again because I will
never find anyone like him.
But this happened to none other than the
wife of Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam. Her
husband
was very good
to her so she says I will never
find like Abu Salama. This was salama radiAllahu
anha and Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam told
her make a dua Allahumma
ajurnifimusibati.
Oh, Allah reward me in this calamity of
mine.
And give me better than this calamity that
I have been through. Give me better than
Abu Salaba. Just make that dua.
Why? Because it is not beyond Allahuqun Izzati
waljalal to give you better. In your limited
eyesight and capacity
you may think that it is not possible.
But for Allah nothing is impossible.
So make this dua
and do you know whom she married after
that? She married none other than Rasoolullah Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam and he was better than Abu
salam.
And she says she relates this hadith
and she relates this story to us and
tells us, so Allah gave me better bint
Abu salam. So never put anything beyond Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala. There is life
beyond your calamity. There is life beyond your
moseebah. There is life beyond the death of
a loved one as well. You can move
on and tell yourself you will move on.
Give yourself enough time to grieve. And then
you must move on because Allah chose life
for you and he chose death death for
them. So they have gone but they themselves,
if they were living today and you were
to ask them, how would you want me
to live my life? They would say, I
want you to carry on. I want you
to be happy. I want you to live
your life.
They themselves would be happy for you to
live. So why are you now saying my
life is over? So we need to understand
that beyond calamity even the most heinous of
times, there is actually life. And we can
carry on and we can live. And at
times when you find it difficult then you
may reach out to those who can help
you either medically or psychiatrically.
Or it may be such that you need
to just sit and speak to someone about
it. It is okay. These are processing mechanisms.
It is important for you to do them.
Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam as we see
he himself grieved,
he himself cried and he moved on. One
last thing
before we end of today Insha'Allah,
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was not a father
of any men
and there is a lot of wisdom behind
that. Allahuqun Izzati wal Jalaal says,
And Muhammad was not a
father for any of your men but he
was the messenger
of Allah and the seal of prophethood.
He was the last of prophets. There is
nobody to come after him as a prophet
and this is why Allah
caused for all of his sons
to die during his lifetime
because he didn't want people to come afterwards
and say this is the lineage of Muhammad
salallahu alayhi wasalam. So nubuwa remains today. Prophethood
is there today. No. Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam did not leave sons behind. Hence, he
did not leave a lineage behind.
Yes. His daughter carried on
the blood of Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam.
But the lineage of Rasulullah
salallahu alaihi wa sallam in Islam is according
to the father. Call them by their fathers.
If someone has a son, his name will
carry on. But he has a daughter, his
blood will carry on. Yes. But his lineage
ends there. So Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's
lineage
end ended there. And this is why we
see
in
the in Suratul Qosa, Allah says
Indeed it is your enemy who claims
that you are barren and you have left
behind no sons.
You have no lineage and you are cut
off. It is Him
who is barren and it is He who
is cut off and He has no son
and no lineage. You know why? Because Muhammad
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam despite not having sons
that remained alive after him and despite not
having a lineage that continued, his message is
spread throughout the globe. And today we are
only sitting here
because
Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam passed the message on
from Allah
So his message
went farther
and much,
much further beyond
what a person may actually achieve from his
son carrying on his lineage. May Allah
grant us the ability
to practice upon what has been said. And
may Allah
grant us the ability to understand and to
improve our lives.