Ibraheem Menk – Darling, You’re Beautiful!

			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Ashraf al
Anbiya Emmanuel mousseline. Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Ultramarine Amma buried we thank
Allah Allah Boulez that he will JLL for having gathered us here today. And we ask Allah subhanahu wa
taala, to surround us with the mullah Iike, and to cause his mercy and his Sakina to descend upon
us, and to raise us with the Ambia alayhi wa Salatu was Salam, and those whom he has mentioned with
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			they have gone up. These are the words that Gibreel said to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in
the cave. And when he appeared to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then he was in his true
form. It is said that his wingspan was so great that his wings his one wing would expand from the
east to the west, and he had left who said to me it, Jana, and he had 600 wings. Imagine the fright
that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam felt at this point. So he says, ma Anna Bukhari I am not
a recite, I am not one who reads, I am am Unlimited, I cannot read and write. So Gibreel Allah has
salatu salam hugs him and tells him it got up, Read, Recite, and he says ma Anna Bukhari and then
		

			for the third time he says, If Cora and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says MA and OB akari
and then he says it called Bismillah be calory Haluk read in the Name of your Lord who created so
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was terrified. He was worried as to what he had seen. When he
went down the mountain. He went trembling, and the first person that he went to was his wife Khadija
Hello the Allahu anha and he says them Minoo Nizam Maloney cover me cover me. At this juncture we
pause for a moment and look at the actions of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he went
down the mountain trembling and who is it that he looks to for comfort? None other than his wife
		

			Khadija to been to Hawaii with all the Allahu Anhu why? Because he knew that this woman is someone
who might find comfort in this woman is someone who will bring me a lot of comfort. So Allahu Bucha
is that he will Jellal he caused that nawada That love that Rama that Sakeena to be amongst him and
her. So the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam turned to his wife for comfort. The question is
how many of us are willing to even admit that we can turn to our wives for comfort? How many of us
can actually turn to our wives for comfort? How many of us have spouses that will provide comfort
for us? You see, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a beautiful relationship with his
		

			wife, and that was one of peace, comfort, love. This is the type of relationship that we should be
cultivating in our marriages. Today, we have spouses that we cannot turn to. And at times we have
made ourselves people that cannot be lived with in one home for a long period of time, the moment we
enter the house, we begin to frown, we begin to become angry, we become this monster that we weren't
out there. With the rest of the people. We can smile at them. We can treat them well. We can laugh
with them. We can joke with them. The whole community knows us as good people, but the minute we are
with those who are closest to us, we become these monsters, and we become angry and we shout and
		

			people fear us in the home. This is not the type of relationship that Islam encourages you to have.
Allah who believes that you will general tells us I mean, it can mean for the income as well. Later
school Elijah or John Beilein the cool um our data or and from his signs, the great signs of Allah
horrible is that you will Jellal is that he created you
		

			Who are from you spouses, Lita schoolroom? Elaine? What is the primary reason for your marriage? It
is so that you find Sikkim. In her. It is so that you find peace and comfort in your wife. Are you
cultivating that type of a relationship? Do you compliment her? Do you say good things to you to
her? Do you make her feel confident? Or is it that every time that you walk out of the home, your
eyes are wandering and you're looking at everything out there, at least for the time that you are
with your wife, you can control your gaze. That is not what is encouraged. What is encouraged in
Islam is to control your gaze at all times. And today, it doesn't require for us to go out in order
		

			to see that which is in there in the world. It is in the palm of our hands on our mobile devices. If
your wife constantly sees you looking at images of other women, imagine what it does to her inside
it eats up do you think that's the type of spouse that you're going to find peace and comfort him?
		

			You see yet? The Messenger of Allah Allah Bula is that he will Jellal ran to his wife and he says
cover me. He looked for peace in that relationship. And he found the peace as well. So Allah Allah
bless that you will Jalil carries on Lita, schooner, Elijah, order Allah Boehner Kumar, what data no
Rama and he made between you love and mercy. So first and foremost, the primary reason for you to be
married to a person is to find peace, comfort, serenity. And then if there is that peace, we're gyla
Unicode my word data, no drama, and Allah made for you, between you and amongst you, love and mercy,
but only when you have that Sakina Can you have the love and the mercy between you if there is no
		

			Sakina if there is constantly fighting within the home, if there is constantly arguing within the
home, how are you going to have that peace? And do you know what this is one of the signs of Allah
horrible is that evil Jalil as he says, Amin it and it is from amongst his signs. So when you make
the basis of your relationship, Allah bullies that you will Jellal then naturally, you find peace,
you find comfort, you find serenity, you find happiness within your spouse, you tend not to look out
of your home because primarily, you don't want to displease Allah Hara Boulez that you are Gera. So
that is a sign that marriage of two people that were strangers the coming together of these two
		

			people is a sign for Allah Allah Bucha is that he will Gela that shows the power and the great Mr.
magnanimity of Rumble is that he will Jellal Allah who believes that you are general tells us Yeah,
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			that case.
		

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			Ilana doll awful. Oh, you, oh mankind. He doesn't address the believers alone. He says all mankind I
created you from male and female. And I made you into nations and tribes and what is the purpose of
this lead out of so that you may get to know each other. So you see the marriage of two people is
actually the building unit. It is the building block of a community. When two parties get together
we often say and we repeat it here that it is two families getting together. They are getting
together and strengthening the bond of that community. Hence showing Pon becomes very happy when
people become divorced. It is said in the Hadith that shaytan establishes His throne on the water
		

			and then he asked the people for the day at the end of the day he asked the devil that are gathered
What have you achieved today? One of them says I made a man drink alcohol the other man says I made
a man commit Zina the other one says that I made this man go to the nightclub and he says you have
achieved nothing you have achieved much. And then someone says I managed to separate between a man
and his wife. He says Anta Anta Anta you you you come here sit right next to me. You deserve a
position in pole at the top right up the
		

			hierarchy of the devils. Why? Because he's achieved something and that is the splitting of the
building block of a community when a marriage splits then the community becomes distant. Why?
Because Allah subhanahu wa taala created us Meenu little mini Cal Bruneian yes should do ba boo bah
bah. The movement is for the believer is like a building one for another is like a building each
block strengthening the other and when that one block splits in a wall what happens not long after
the entire wall comes crumbling down. Today Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam
		

			Allah Allah Bula is that he will Jalan has given us Tallac as a last measure. But what do we do? The
minute there is something wrong a man shouts out at the top of his voice in anger. Allah Tala Tala
Hold on, hold on even in that divorce and the manner in which to do it. Allah has given you
guidance. Allah has told you how to do it. There is a merciful way and a peaceful way for you to
part we have seen some people that part on good terms, this is the ideal way if you cannot find any
other recourse and you cannot repair that marriage. Allah subhanahu Attallah tells us then they
should separate with goodness, they should separate with goodness Allah Allah believes that you will
		

			Joanne says to the man for insert can be mount roofing Otis three Ruby San, so he should hold on
with goodness. He should hold his spouse with goodness. Oh let her go with the goodness as well.
Even if you have parted into for Raka use me love who coulomb insight. If they are to part then
Allah subhanahu wa taala will provide for each of them from his vast mercy. Do you think that Allah
Hara Bullis that he will Jalil does not have enough yet he owns the dominion of the heavens and the
earth. Allah subhanahu wa taala will provide for you and will provide for hurt if you made the basis
of your marriage in the first place. The your relationship and your connection with Allah Allah
		

			believes that you will general Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says how Eurocom how you
calmly Lee the best of you are the best who is to his family. The best of you are those who are best
to his family. Well, Anna, you come early, and I am the best to my family. He is sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam comes into the home and he asks, is there anything to eat? There is nothing to eat. He
says even unassigned then I'm going to be fasting today. What is the reaction of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to there being no food in the home? Does he shouted at his wife does he
become angry? I've been out all day addressing the concerns of the people helping the OMA and now I
		

			come back here and there's no food. Does he do that? Or does he just say simply in the morning,
there is no food Alhamdulillah Vina will be fasting it is an opportunity to earn reward from Allah
Allah, Allah is that you will Gera. We need to learn from this. We need to understand that the best
of examples is in Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when we come home, there is no food
prepared, or perhaps the food is too salty. Or perhaps there is something slightly not to our
liking. We need to learn to dip our mouths and say Alhamdulillah Allah provided this for me. I'm
going to eat it regardless. For 20 years I've been eating, everything's been okay. And today that
		

			the salt is more I will eat it and drink more water. It doesn't matter. But what we do we become
angry. Hey, look at this, oh, I can't even eat this food. No, calm down. That is not the reaction of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that is not the way of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. So we should cultivate a relationship of mercy a relationship of Sakina of peace. And this
is done by communicating. Oftentimes I receive emails, I receive direct messages. Chef, I have a
problem. You know, I can't communicate with my spouse. The minute I try to initiate any
conversation, any communication, there is a barrage of swear words that come my way. I can't do
		

			this. I don't know how to approach Him. We need to open the doors of communication
		

			Shouldn't with our spouses. Today we can connect with the person in America and New Zealand and
Saudi Arabia and in the rest of the world, but the person in front of us whom we wake up next to
every day, we can't say a single word of goodness to. We can't say Darling, you look beautiful
today. Do you know what that does to a woman? Do you know how it changes her heart, and it softens
her heart towards you. This is the example of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In fact, he
gave his wife a nickname. And that nickname was hi ish, or Chroma era, and who made up because she
would blush in her cheeks. So he should he would say, oh one who blushes Oh, one who blushes. You
		

			see the load. The kindness in the words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Dear Brothers and
Sisters in Islam. I remind you to recap, there are two recourses of action number one, which is to
communicate and to speak with your spouse. And number two, is to make your relationship the basis of
your relationship. The love of Allah Allah is that he will challenge the One who created love will
place love within your marriage, but you've got to make him the basis of your marriage. First and
foremost, we ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to grant us the ability to comprehend and we ask Allah
subhanho wa Taala to grant us good marriages and the ability to communicate and be good to our
		

			spouses. I mean, well sal Allahu wa salam O Allah Carla, and abuna Mohammed while early he was me,
he urged me