Ibraheem Menk – Correct your children correctly

Ibraheem Menk
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The speakers discuss the success of a study on a man named Shane who is supposed to slaughter and kill a young man. They stress the importance of correcting behavior and avoiding negative consequences, as well as the lessons learned from listening to a young man's claims to be the one responsible for damage. They also discuss the importance of protecting one's eyesight and ears during difficult situations, and offer advice on addressing issues such as mobile phones and social media.

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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen illa Allah Al amin will be in a study in
on Sunday only Salim Allah has given me an email from Celine Nabina Muhammad. He was like me a
marine among Melissa inland Nigel tebu sembler one that has either sheet assembler or BSL one or two
I sell them in bulk Roby canister in. We thank Allah police that he will journal for having gathered
us here today once again. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to surround us with the manner he can
and to cause his mercy and His Sakina to descend upon us. And to raise us with the Amelia Island
your Salatu was Salam and those whom he has mentioned with them, I mean,
		
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			it was the year of the wave help with the pilgrimage in which there was Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam was bidding with health to the US have all the Allah
		
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			and Allah sudo Allah salallahu alayhi wa sallam who was writing from was delita to Mina and behind
him was alphab lipner obverse radi Allahu anhu the son of his uncle,
		
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			as he is writing he comes to an gemba to lambda which is the pelting place at one minute at which
Lee pilgrims pelts Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam pelts, he pelts and then he goes to the
place in which he is meant to slaughter and he says, This is the man cup. This is the place in which
we are to slaughter and the whole of Mima is a place of slaughtering. So slaughter where you are.
Also Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam instructs them to slaughter wherever they are. The point
being, that unfortunately not bad for the loved one who is behind him. And he notices this young
lady who comes to ask the messenger salallahu alayhi wasallam a question. And he begins to stare at
		
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			her or sort of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam notices. The woman in turn looks back at this young
boy this young man, it is said his age was only 18 to 19 years and they are looking at each other or
sudo masala Allahu alayhi wa sallam grabs hold of the face of public markbass in a gentle manner,
and he turns it away and then unfolded looks again so soon, lots of a long while he was ill and gets
hold of his face, and he turns it back. He turns it away. And the third time that this happens are
sort of la sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam says, Are you Tulum and sharp bun? Were geria 10 sharp button
for her she to unmute hula hula chiffon. I saw a young man in his prime and a young woman in her
		
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			time, and I wish I was worried that Shane fine would actually get between them. I was worried that
che fun would actually get between them. Or sooner Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is correcting
this young man in the most beautiful of manners. The question is, myself and yourself. When we are
correcting people, how do we do it? Yes, it is important to correct others when they are in the
wrong but the manner in which we do it is very important. Allah subhanho wa Taala says while
		
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			doing
		
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			Why don't
		
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			you
		
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			go
		
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			home and let the D from amongst you a deeper we'll call towards goodness and prevent people from
vise prevent them from that which is wrong. And they are the successful ones. But Allah subhanho wa
Taala also says, we'll
		
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			be we'll be Kevin hikma one my worry about you has wotja de Lune nothing he sent a call to the way
of your Lord with goodness bill Hickman with wisdom. One Memorial center and with intelligence a
good manner of speaking, a good manner of reprimand in a good manner of calling to the way of a
muscle Kanagawa to Allah, wa Jalla de Lune and argue with them, debate with them, but how do you
argue and debate binetti here I
		
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			Send with that which is better. Even when you are arguing even when you are debating argue and
debate with that which is better. Here Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sees a young man in
his prime and a young woman in her prime, where are they standing, they are standing in one of the
most sacred places at one of the most sacred of times. It also Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
does not get angry with them. He turns the face of this young man towards him and says, Hey, don't
do that. What you're doing is bad. But in the way, the way in which he corrected him, is so
beautiful that this young man had the guts to go back and do it again. Meaning he knew what was
		
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			wrong. But He's nuts was so strong that he called him Hey, look, look again. And also lots of lumber
Alejo salon repeats the action, where are they? They are in Minar at the time of high. And who is he
in the presence of none other than Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did the messenger
sallallahu alayhi wasallam become angry that, hey, you're with me, and you're doing this? What's
wrong with you? You know, we put it in today's terms.
		
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			You're sitting in your car with your child, your son, or your daughter. And they stay at a woman or
a man passing by? What do you do? You become angry, you notice and they notice that you've noticed
what do you do you say? How to How dare you do that in my presence. I'm here and you're doing it.
What's wrong with you? As Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn't do that. Also must Allah
Allah your Salaam remained calm. He gently, you know moved his face towards him. Imagine you were to
do that. It would be a moment in which perhaps you could actually look back at later and you know,
smile at each other laugh at each other at what happened, why the correction happened. You knew what
		
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			was wrong was taking place and you corrected them in the correct manner. So you can actually be easy
about it later on. So this is the lesson that we learn from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Look at how the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says he to learn and sharpen. I noticed a
young man, a young man. So he's telling this man, this young man, I've noticed you, you're a young
man. And I acknowledge that you have got a strong desire. So he acknowledged the circumstance. I
know your desire is strong. So this is why you're looking at this young woman. And then he says
we're sure button, you know, what sharp button or jharia 10. Sharp, and a young woman that are
		
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			looking at each other. So he acknowledged that the way and he knew why they were looking at each
other. Who does he blame? He says for hashey to and yet hula, you know my show you pan. So I feared
that shavon will enter between them. He didn't tell him you're an evil person. How are you doing
this at hedge? Why are you doing it? How dare you do it in my presence? No, he can't down he said,
Okay, look, I'm blaming che pan, and your desire is there but don't do it. And then Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells them he tells this young man
		
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			in the moon man mela caffee some who Abbasali Santa who fear Allah. Oh, young man, oh, son of my
uncle, the one who
		
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			protects his hearing his eyesight and his tongue in this day will be forgiven. The one who does this
will be forgiven. So here he addresses the young man and he tells him that look. You are supposed to
be protecting your tongue, your eyesight your ears in this day, and what will happen you will be
forgiven again. Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam addresses the one who is close to him. Who is
that? The son of his uncle? He leaves the woman alone. He doesn't address her directly. Why? Because
she's a foreigner. She's come and she's asking him a question. Perhaps it is the first time that he
is seeing her he leaves alone but the message gets to her. He correct say in a beautiful manner. And
		
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			this young man is being told that protect your eyesight, protect your ears, protect your tongue, why
you will be forgiven as a result. So surulere sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gives him the award of him
protecting himself. He says Look, if you are to protect Allah subhanho wa Taala will forgive you.
This was the beauty of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam when dealing with those who are close
to him and correcting them. Now, when it comes to those who are further Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wasallam once passes by a young man who's talking with some women, and he says to him Yeah, what
		
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			What are you doing talking to these women? The man's name was Howard. So he says, What are you doing
talking to these women? So the man says, Look, my camera was actually last. So I'm looking for that
camera. I asked these women, that ways the camera. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
okay, and he leaves. Look at the Hickman, look at the wisdom. He leaves him for that moment. And
then the next time he meets him, he says, Yes, what my father shall do generally what happened to
the running away of your candle? Or sudo Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam knew that this young man
just found an excuse. And he's finding some way out of this difficult situation. So he told me
		
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			something. And he asked him what the same question in order to awaken him to the realization that
what I was doing is wrong. I actually was talking to these women, I found an excuse Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam recognizes it. But he didn't reprimand him immediately, he found the
right opportunity to tell him that matter. I feel like usually what happened to the running away of
your cannabis? And then he sees him again? And he asked him the same question. And the man has no
real answer. So one day he says that I sort of
		
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			walked in to me once in on me whilst I was performing my Salah, it must be the number one. And he
noticed that I was there. So he stood and he waited. So I actually lengthen my Salah in order to
avoid seeing the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I didn't know what Phase I would go to him
with how I talk to him what I would address him with. So he says, I lived in my Salah. And then I
noticed that he's still standing. So I lengthened it even further. And then I noticed that he's
still standing. And then also Lola sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, following a lead will probably
take long or don't take long. I'm waiting for you. Oh, what? So the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam waits for him. He finishes his Salah is his masala shih tzu generally, what happened to the
honey away if your camel please says one minute from the day that my Islam became good. My camel
milk.
		
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			loved one. So you see how beautiful the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in his turning the
people to Islam in bringing calling the people to Islam. He was actually beautiful in this manner.
You know, the reason why I bring this up today is because
		
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			it is very likely, especially with the advent of the mobile phone, and social media, that you one
day come across your child going through something wrong, some something has done something bad,
something evil, you know, you look at the looking at something immoral, you find them looking at the
picture of a woman who is scantily dressed, or perhaps not even dressed at all. May Allah subhanho
wa Taala protect us, it's possible that this can happen. How will you address that situation? How
will you talk to that young child, remember that you may be harsh with them, you may actually say
I'm taking away your phone and it's never coming back to you, you're not going to do this, you're
		
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			not going to do that and be harsh with them what will happen, it becomes easy for them to go go to
school and look at their friends phones, to pick up a phone of another person to pick up their own
parents phone and look at these images. Look at these wrongdoings, you know these bad these sins. So
the best way in which to address this issue would be to discuss with them, talk to them, talk to
them at their level, What is wrong? Why are you looking at this? Do you know it's wrong for us to
look at this? Why did you do this? Let's talk about it. Talk to them and find a solution together.
The time when you know you could pick up a stick and beat him up and say hey, what you're doing is
		
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			wrong and he would listen is gone. That time is gone. It no longer works today. So it's important
for us to discuss with our children and think about these issues before they even happen before they
even take place. Why so that we don't react in the wrong manner. If and when they do happen. May
Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us it is a difficult time it is an evil time, it is a time in which
people have access to all sorts of things on the phones. So, it is important for us to think about
how to address these issues and each case is different. You find that certain people have a very
easy going relationship with their children. And they are easily available to talk to they can speak
		
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			to their children, their children can speak to them, others cannot do so. And it is those that
concern us. You know, you can't speak to your own child. Your own child can't speak to you what is
going to happen to those children.
		
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			Open up that avenue, open up that door, make it easy for them to talk to, for them to talk to you.
Make the door open, open that door and speak to them regularly. What's going on in your life? What's
happening? How are you, you know, dealing with your peers, etc? What do you do on the weekends take
an interest in their lives. It is important, it is of utmost importance. Why? When you now go to the
counselor or the chef, by that time, it is quite late. It's never too late, but it is quite late.
You're going to the chef to ask him, you know, I caught my child doing this. I don't know how to
address him. I've already reprimanded him. You've already created a barrier between you and that
		
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			child. So before you do so, try to talk to that child, open up the barriers, break the doors down,
make sure that you can communicate with your own children and with your peers. And at the end of the
day, we know that what we should do is correct them when they are wrong, but correct them in the
right manner. May Allah Subhana Allah protect us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability
to correct our children in a beautiful manner in the correct manner. I mean, or sallallahu wasallam
albaraka an enemy no Mohammed was early he was happy as your main