Ibraheem Menk – Conflict Resolution
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We oftentimes
hear people saying
that if I were
a president of a country,
or if I were a leader of a
country in the region
of Palestine,
I would have done this and I would
have done that to end the
war. And they lay blame
on the leaders of these countries for doing
nothing,
and for sitting back and watching
the butchering of our brothers and sisters in
Gaza.
And the reality is, I'm not here to
talk about that.
But I'd like to highlight something.
I'd like to highlight
an aspect of this that we perhaps have
not considered.
And that is,
what have we done to rectify
the situation,
not in raza,
but in our own masajid.
What have we we done
to rectify
the situation
and the infighting
that we have in our own communities?
What were have we done to rectify
the fighting and the battles that are happening
in our families and extended families?
Before we can talk about unity,
and before we can talk about being together
united as an ummah,
we need to be able to know
how to argue,
and how to resolve
issues.
When a dispute arises,
what is the correct way to go about
resolving that dispute?
If we take a look at our masajid,
most of the masajid, and wallahi, I am
not aware of the politics,
neither in this masjid, nor in any of
the other masajid in London.
So
if you feel this is actually
an attack,
then no, it isn't.
But if you feel
that
this message
seems to have been directed at me,
then that is from Allah
and Allah knows what I am talking about.
Because I don't know about the politics that
are amongst the boards that govern the Masajid
etcetera.
But it's high time we begin to speak
about this.
It's high time we address
the fact that we have
so much political tension within the Masajid,
that trustees
on trustee boards cannot talk to one another.
They don't communicate.
So you have one trustee
attacking another, and the other one backbiting the
other, and you have the chairman speaking bad
about another. And again, I reiterate,
I don't know the politics in the Masajid.
But why is it
that when we have a dispute,
we can't resolve the dispute amicably.
We can't communicate with each other.
We have to reach a point where I'm
no longer talking to that brother.
What happened to
a believing man does not keep away and
not greet his brother for more than 3
days? What happened to that?
What happened to the teachings of Rasulullah Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam?
Was this how the companions of the messenger
salallahu alaihi wa sallam resolved
their disputes?
We are fortunate
to have the Quran in our midst.
We are fortunate to have the ability to
go back to.
Allah said and his messenger said, so why
don't we do that?
Disputes will happen my dear brothers and sisters
in Islam. Disputes
are bound to
happen. Even in your marriage.
You will find that you will have disputes.
You will have difficulties.
You will have problems.
But the manner in which to resolve those
problems is of utmost importance.
1st and foremost,
we need to be sincere
in our dispute
as well.
You know, we often talk about sincerity
towards each other.
And part of that sincerity, a test of
that sincerity
is when you don't get along with your
brother,
but you speak to him in a respectful
way addressing the issue, trying to resolve it
for the sake of who?
Allah.
Not for my sake.
Not for your sake. Not for the sake
of the future generation,
but for the sake of Allah
Evermore so,
in the masajid of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And the Masjidah
for Allah
The Masjid
is not your father's.
The Masjid is not your grandfather's.
The Masjid is not your uncles and your
brothers and your aunts' Masjid.
Even though it may have been founded by
them.
That masjid is for Allah
So what does a believer do? When he
knows that his presence is more toxic and
detrimental to the masjid,
then his absence on the board. He steps
down bravely
by saying, I know no. I now know
that this Masjid will run better without my
presence in the board. So I will leave
for the sake
of
Allah For the sake of
Allah That is sincerity.
Why? Because you can acknowledge
that my presence is now detrimental
to this institution and this is for Allah.
So I will leave for the sake of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Not holding on to power, simply because it
is power. And I must say this, at
times we hold on to power
simply because it is a little bit of
power, and it is only the bit of
power that we have access to. So we
hold dearly onto it because we have control
and authority over people.
That is a small man syndrome.
That is a small man syndrome. If you
are holding on because you feel that, you
You know what? I'm the big man here.
Everybody should listen to me. And remember, bear
in mind. What did I say? Wallahi.
I don't know the politics of this masjid.
And Kassam M billah Allah is my witness.
I don't know the politics any of the
masajid around London. I do my events in
event halls.
So I don't know the
politics,
but I've seen this globally. It is a
phenomenon
where you have people on the board that
are running the Masjid masjid and often times
they are the older generation. We respect them.
We love them. We appreciate
the fact that they set up these masajid
for who?
For the sake of Allah
and that is the only reason why we
perform
after Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. That is the
only reason why we perform
salah in this masajid.
They are here today because 50 years ago
they made an effort.
There was,
you know,
rampant
you know, fitna around them as well. People
were doing whatever they wanted to do, going
to the nightclubs, etcetera. They came to these
countries and set up beautiful houses of Allah
We thank them for that, and we appreciate
them for that, and we make dua for
them for that.
But
at the same time,
we must call out
a wrongdoing when it is a wrongdoing,
And it becomes a wrongdoing, and you should
ask yourself. I'm not asking the community to
kick out those members.
The member himself should ask himself,
that is my presence now more detrimental to
the masjid
than it is beneficial? And if the question
if the answer is yes,
then at that juncture, you need to recuse
yourself
and say, I've done this, I set it
up for Allah. I served for Allah, and
I live for Allah.
Say, indeed my salah,
my life, my living,
and my death, and my salah, and my
sacrifice is for Allah, Lord of the worlds.
Why? Because
we belong to Allah and to him we
shall return. I will one day answer to
Allah.
And it's time we involve the youth in
our boards.
Get them involved. Give them a role. Why?
Because the youth understand the youth. The youth
get the youth. The youth know how to
approach and tackle the issues regarding the youth.
So give them an opportunity.
Set up a board,
an independent
board
of
the trustees and the chairman and the
executive, etcetera,
that has given
these youth a certain number of youth that
are mature and responsible,
the ability to set up programs in the
masjid.
What will happen? You'll find the masjid becomes
alive again. The masjid becomes alive again. And
where they
are, if it is a slight mistake,
did you not make mistakes
along the road?
Yes, you did.
So, have mercy upon them. Let them learn
from their mistakes.
Be there in a position
that is guiding them.
And what is the idea behind these committees,
these youth committees? It is to have
them take over one day.
You are grooming them for leadership
because you are not here forever,
and that is sincerity.
Deen is sincerity.
We said for who?
It's for Allah and His Messenger
and for the rest of the people, your
community.
The sincerity is in you stepping down, step
down uncle. It's time.
Understand.
And, the leaders as well. Sincerity is for
the leaders as well. So I hope that
this statement and this word of mine today
is sincere. None of us knows 100% whether
we are sincere or or not.
We try to be sincere,
and we try to be honest and straightforward
in our speech, but we can't be 100%
certain. So I hope and I pray that
my word as well is sincere here today.
I never intended it as an attack.
Secondly, you find
in the home.
You have disputes, problems,
difficulties,
hardships.
What happens? You are arguing.
And it is so common today
for people not to sit down and communicate,
just to talk.
But it is so common
for the man to say, I have given
you
and it's over and she's gone.
One, you've committed a bidah by doing it
3 times like that. According to the Hanafi
madhab as well.
You've done a bidi talak which is to
give it 3 times in a go. Let
alone the discussion of whether 3 is 1
and 1 is 3 etcetera. Let alone that
discussion put it aside.
So you don't have
a period where the person sits, walks away,
thinks about what he should do next. He
utters it immediately.
And the sister says, I want out immediately.
Due to small
petty issues we are hearing, brother got married
today, got divorced next week. What's going on?
And you spent 50 k on that wedding.
Did you forget
that that nikah is for Allah
as well?
3 things.
The seriousness of his it is serious and
joking is also serious. How many times? We
have a brother that comes and says, I
divorced my wife, but I was just joking.
No.
Even if you were joking that divorce counts.
So be serious when you want to say
those words, ensure that you are ready to
split up forever, and you don't want to
be with that person.
And I have patience before that, try to
resolve the issue.
Part of the problem
is that we don't communicate.
We don't talk to each other. We don't
sit down and thrash it out.
Evermore so, when you have husband, wife, mother-in-law,
father-in-law, and all of them living in one
home, sometimes 3, 4 brothers living in one
home.
It becomes difficult to live simply by the
fact and the virtue that you are living
together.
It's normal,
but if you want to live or you
are forced to live in this type of
a situation,
you need to have a weekly or
biweekly
gathering where you sit together and say, let's
talk.
Air out your problems. What do you have
to say? What do you have to say?
What happens
because such a short while has passed?
You are able to thrash it out. You
are able to go past that problem easily.
Because you know, last week mom you did
this, and you did that, and you said
this and you said that, and it hurts
me.
What happens? Mom apologizes.
Maybe she doesn't apologize. It's okay. It's fine.
She got to here.
It was communicated
to her in a good way so the
behavior changes.
And if it doesn't change
every biweekly we are sitting, every week we
are sitting and discussing, it will come up
again,
It will recur. So, we there is healthy
discussion.
You need to have this majlis and this
sitting in your house. Don't sweep things under
the rug.
Do you know what happens? We say, hey,
let it go. Have sabr, have patience. And
this happens ever more so from and I'm
not attacking the males again. You know, it's
a problem in this country.
When you want to talk and you say
the males do something wrong, they say, you
are so and so. You see, you are
just a a simp, and that's why you're
talking about the the the males being wrong.
You never ever talk about the females. The
females are also wrong in certain cases.
But you do find that
when a man's mother and father is wrong,
he finds it very difficult to stand up
for his wife And to say, mom, dad,
here you're wrong. And where his wife is
wrong,
he finds it very difficult as well to
say, hey. You're wrong here. And they are
right.
But you have to. Why? Not because of
me and not because of the next man.
Because Allah
says,
Oh you who have believed,
stand up for justice,
upright.
Even if it is against yourself, I am
wrong, I am sorry.
I am wrong, I am sorry.
That's all you need to say.
When your mother and father is wrong,
all you need to say is respect fully.
Mom, dad, here I think she is right
and you are wrong.
Wallahi, you need to say it. Why?
Not because I said it. Not because the
next man said it. Because Allah has said
it.
Because you're not here forever brother and sister.
You are going to stand before Allah
Did you forget about that? Do you doubt
that? Is that why you don't stand up
for justice in your homes?
You see what I mean by
when I say
that we are easy to pay lip service
and say we stand for Palestine, and we
will fight for them, and we will give
our lives if we have to. But you
can't give up
a little bit of your is that what
they call is that your honor.
And just say, you know, here I am
wrong.
It's okay. I apologize. I'm sorry. Stomp on
your ego.
And you know what happens?
When you practice this, it becomes easier for
you to do it.
And Allah
actually raises
a person,
And Allah, He raises a person when he
forgives,
and he raises a person when he puts
himself down for the sake of Allah
You think you are humiliating yourself
because I needed to apologize. It is me
humiliating myself.
But in reality, you are raising yourself in
the eyes of Allah
Imagine, you leave
that argument. You know, sometimes arguments get to
a point where it's toxic, and you know
you are not winning this argument.
You know you are not going anywhere.
And you know that now after this, I
will break a relationship.
What do you do?
You simply say,
even though you are right, you say brother,
I acknowledge I am wrong, I apologize.
For the sake of
Allah and you are being raised in His
ranks. And
you are guaranteed a place in
I am guaranteeing
a pay a person, a place in Jannah
when he leaves argument even though he has
the right.
He has the right to say, yes, I
am right,
and you are wrong. But what does he
say, brother, I'm wrong. Why?
Because
I know I'm returning to
Allah I know it reached a point where
this person is not hearing sense anymore.
It's not going to change anything. In fact,
it will be more detrimental
for me to pursue this argument.
So I leave it for the sake of
Allah
A few tips
before we go on to a few tips.
Why is it
that we speak to everyone
about our problems,
and this we know
which gender is
more well known to do this?
Why is it that my bestie
knows about my problems,
but my husband doesn't know about my problems
with him?
Why is it that my best friend knows
the intimate details of the going ons of
my house,
but my husband does not know
what is going on in our marriage. Why?
Why can't we address the issue with our
spouses? Sit down and say, Listen, whether it
is husband or wife, sit down and say,
I am with you to live
until death do us apart as they say.
So we need to live in this marriage
in a good way.
So
let me address this. I have this problem,
that problem, that problem with you, but we
will go to
everyone else. If I have a problem with
this brother in the community, and don't worry,
I don't have a problem with you. Barakallahu
fiqh.
If I have a problem with him,
then I will go to him and him
and him and him and him and him
and him and him and tell everyone, you
know what that brother did to me? This
is what he did.
But I will not go to the brother
and say, brother, please forgive me. You know?
Oh, please. This is what you did to
me.
Understand
that what you did to me was wrong.
Let's resolve it. Let's, you know,
finish
it. And that is the way of Islam.
That is the way of Allah
It doesn't end there. It's okay. I will
come back to you tomorrow. We will talk
about it again.
Now you're beginning to think that you really
have a problem with me. Hey?
Barakallahu feek. Look. So we must address these
issues. Don't sweep them under the rug. It
won't go anywhere.
That rug, they will just the heap will
just keep getting bigger underneath.
Until one day, you can't go past the
rug except if you trip over it. Meaning,
that problem will be so big
that you won't be able to resolve it
now. It will be too much.
And even
even when you reach the point of divorce
and you know there is no going back
now, we need to end this marriage. Sometimes
it is better to divorce than to remain
in a toxic,
bad, evil
relationship.
You get these relationships where they are evil.
They are toxic. It's bad. You are at
each other's throats every day. You are swearing
at each other every day. When that happens,
well, you don't need to wait for that.
But if it gets to the point where
you have to divorce,
then divorce with goodness.
Why is it that when I
Allah protect our marriages.
Ameen. Ameen.
When something
happens and I reach the point where I
can't get along anymore,
and we separate or divorce, what do I
what do I do? I go to everyone
and say, do you know how bad that
family is? I stop talking to them. I
leave them. And now the families are torn
apart. You are serving the cause of the
devil by doing so.
I heard of a couple
who got divorced, and do you know how
they did it? I was amazed.
They went to their
parents and said, look,
we've reached a point where we've discussed every
possible option,
and we wish
we could have gotten you involved,
and you could have helped the situation, but
we know it won't help. So instead instead
of the word getting out there and the
reasons
for our divorce getting out there, we are
just here to tell you that this is
what's happening,
and we want it to be a
divorce
within reason where we understand each other and
we part ways, and we go our separative
ways and Allah will provide for us. And
to date,
that
ex couple gets along in the sense that
there's no issues, there's no problems. They still
get along. What is that?
And
if they separate,
then Allah will give each one of them
from his riches, from his wealth. They get
along. They are fine. What happens? Allah is
even happy with the way that that divorce
happened.
Doesn't mean that Allah is happy with divorce.
He's happy with the way that that divorce
happened. Why? Because the families are still talking
to each other. I remember this uncle
who said to me,
that he's actually from our country, from Zimbabwe.
And he came to London once
or the UK. I don't know where in
the UK, but in the UK somewhere.
And he met his ex father-in-law.
And his ex father-in-law
hugged him and, you know, hey. How's it
going? How are you? Come in. Come to
the house. No problem. What have you.
And people are watching, thinking, doesn't this man
divorce his daughter?
So they went to this man and said,
didn't he divorce your daughter? So he says,
yes. He divorced my daughter. Did he divorce
me?
Did he divorce me? And wallahi, that question
is so profound because it's so true.
I have no problem with him. They didn't
get along, it didn't work. Allah will provide
for both parties.
No problem. Alhamdulillah.
So try and hold your tongue even in
divorce.
Try and keep that divorce amicable.
And Allah
will bless
your parting as well.
Allah will bless your parting as well. So
the same applies
to when we have a relationship with a
community member. We've had an argument, we've had
a dispute, we've had a problem, sometimes we
are business partners, The partnership never worked out.
Don't say our relationship never worked out. Say
the partnership never worked out. It fell through.
It never worked, but I'm still friends.
I was in business
with people,
with a man who
it never worked out with. Today, we still
talk, we laugh, we smile. I'm not here
to blow my trumpet.
But I'm trying to give an example. There's
no need for me to cut my relationship
with him. Say, do you know that man
did me down, etcetera. Yes. Hack is hack.
And the right that you are that you
deserve from that partnership when you split apart
is important. You should get your right. You
should get your money
and your fair share, etcetera. And if you
have been wronged, yes, you have been wronged,
but you can still maintain a relationship. When
we look,
can still maintain
a relationship. When we look
at these community issues in this way, dear
brothers and sisters in Islam, we will build
a strong
lasting community that will be able to thrive
together.
Even if I disagree and don't like a
certain brother, I still greet him. Why? Because
he deserves my salaam. When I pass him,
Assalamu alaikumu rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. No problem.
What is the harm in doing that? Because
ultimately,
you and that brother,
you both hope that one day you will
meet in Jannah. Even though you disagree and
you don't like him.
And we will remove
that of hatred that they have in their
hearts beneath, and they will be in Jannah,
beneath which the rivers will be flowing. You
will be with who? People whom you disliked.
People whom you hated. People whom you didn't
want to see. Allah removes the hatred from
your heart and you will be with them.
So why?
Why then when you come into the Masjid,
you can't even say, Assalamu alaikum. This
difference of, you know, I am Salafi and
he is Sunni and he is this one
is that and that one is Barelwy and
that one is, whatever he is.
That difference was sold in amongst our communities
by those who are our enemies.
Those who don't like us. And we have
taken up the cause and picked it up
and said, right. We will champion this course.
Let's go ahead. Let's go forth.
No. We are Muslimim.
And that's all that matters.
I believe in this. This is my banner
of faith. This is my brother who utters
the same shahada. I'm going to
greet him. I'm going to love him. I'm
going to respect him
despite my differences with him. I'm not saying
you don't have an
the right to refute the ideology.
You want to refute a certain ideology, get
up on the mimbar and speak about it,
no problems.
Speak up and say what you think is
the hap. At least you have a huja
and evidence with Allah spoke the haqq.
But don't go out there and say, there
is an imam of such and such a
masjid. He did this. That is now fueling
discord and hatred
amongst the Muslimi.
And who is better than the one who
calls to Allah and He does good deeds?
And then what does Allah say?
And he says, I am from amongst the
Muslims. I will ask you a question. If
someone were to walk into this masjid right
now, right here with a gun,
and was to point that gun
at any one of us and start firing.
Are you telling me that if you believe
and you know that this brother is a
Salafi or a Dewbandi,
and you are not,
then you will say, yes, kill him. No.
You won't. Why? Because you know he is
a human being who is a Muslim.
I will defend my brother despite my differences.
Let's put our differences aside.
That is now serving the cause of Allah
When the day comes
where we need to stand up, we need
to rise up to defend the ummah of
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, we are ready. We
are united despite our differences.
So treat your communities
like you are
a marriage.
We will live together despite our differences.
If
a believing man does not like a certain
characteristic
of a believing woman, there are others that
he loves.
There are others that he loves. So he
doesn't hate her. He doesn't cause problems towards
with her simply because she has certain weaknesses.
And the same applies, you don't cause problems
with your husband simply because he has certain
weaknesses.
You overlook them and this brings me to
the next point. In fact, before we get
to the next point,
I would like to leave you with a
few pointers on communication.
Listen actively.
When you are communicating
with someone,
1st and foremost, renew your intention in your
heart. Tell yourself this is for Allah.
Then sit with the brother and listen to
what he has to say. Sit with the
sister and listen to what she has to
say. Listen actively.
Intending to actually hear,
intending to understand
where they come from and what they are
saying.
That is the first part of communication
before you even open your mouth. Listen to
the person,
lend them an ear. What happens today? You
are sitting, you are the father,
and you have your daughter or your son
speaking.
And as soon as it is in disagreement
with you, you view it as disrespect and
you become angry. Hey, you keep quiet, you
don't talk to me. No, calm down.
Relax.
He's not disrespecting you. He has said,
mom, dad, spoken with respect,
and he's addressing an issue that he needs
to address. Let him speak.
Listen to him. Let him be heard.
And then, you can now speak and have
your say.
Secondly, stay calm and composed.
Connect yourself
to your own body. Listen to your breathing.
Listen to your breath going in and out.
And b, stay within your body.
Stay within
your feelings.
Don't be connected to your feelings. Why do
I say this? When a man is angry
and he's shouting at the top of his
voice, he's not connected to his feelings anymore.
And that is when you find
that is when you find words that are
said that are so cutting
that this person will never view you the
same again. You will never have the same
relationship again.
You've now uttered words that you will regret
for life for life.
Some fathers disowning their children,
Some brothers and sisters who shared one womb,
you shared one womb.
You were born from the same passageway. You
share 1 mother, 1 father, and today you
don't speak to each other. Why? Because he
said this about my daughter's wedding.
Allahu Akbar.
Could you not just sit down and resolve
that issue? Talk, calm down, talk with a
calm voice. When you are angry, say,
walk away and come back and sit at
the table again when you need to. But
thrash it out, dear brothers and sisters in
Islam.
And thirdly,
take time
to respond.
You know, there is a difference between a
reaction
and a response. So if you tell me
something, I can immediately say something back to
you, or I can sit
and I can take 3 seconds deep breathing.
Okay. Even one breath. You see?
Take one breath in and then respond calmly.
What's happened?
There's a difference between a reaction and a
response.
Even on WhatsApp, what happens? We get a
message. We want to respond immediately. No.
Take time.
Think about it. Think clearly.
Consult.
Speak to someone, and then respond. Hey. This
person messaged me about this issue. I want
to talk to them, communicate it to them.
And ever more so, there is no reason
for us not to communicate
today
because there is no excuse.
You have your phone,
you have email, you have all sorts of
methods of communication,
employ those methods, use them for goodness. Instead
of using them for goodness, what we find
ourselves doing is we are going through reels
and videos all day, that's all we can
do on the phone. No. Use it for
goodness.
Send a message to that person
if you can't talk to them,
and they will listen. Why? Because they are
reading the message. Use these methods to actually
communicate with each other. So half of the
the problem will be resolved when you actually
communicate and you speak.
Thirdly, suspicion.
Sorry. How long have I been going on
for anyone keeping track of the time?
Too long.
Uncle doesn't like me. Forgive me if I
said anything against you. We might as well
just do it now.
Okay. Just as well.
35 minutes. Okay. So I will wrap up
soon, Insha'Allah. I'll try to,
go through my
yeah. I will try and wrap up soon,
Insha'Allah.
So
I think I've addressed most of the issues
anyways, but the
but the other thing I want to say
is suspicion.
What is the role of suspicion in a
community?
Suspicion can destroy a community completely.
When you are
a suspicious person and you speak to someone
else about your suspicion, you are actually engaging
in a sin.
Because you have no evidence of what you
are saying.
I know an aunt,
not my aunt, but I know an auntie
who
goes around telling people
in her family
that so and so, I suspect them of
doing magic. And this is common. So and
so, I suspect them of doing magic.
But you have no evidence.
You don't know whether that person has done
it or not.
You have no clear evidence.
Don't say it because
it is actually a sin.
What does the hadith teach us?
Beware of suspicion.
For indeed suspicion is the
most baseless of speech.
It's the
speech in which there is more likely a
lie than there is a truth.
So don't say it. The minute you say
it, you've actually
engaged in a sin. Change that thought
and make dua for the person,
and make dua of protection for you and
your family if you want to. No problem.
But don't go around speaking of things that
you have no knowledge about,
because
you can actually cause
serious problems,
serious problems.
When that person finds out, and they will.
If you are speaking
What do you think their feeling will be?
Do you think that's helping the community be
united?
Do you think that is helping the community
come together? Do you think that is helping
the family come together?
And besides, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect
us even if he there is magic.
Even if there is magic, have you forgotten
that Allah can protect you from that magic
without you delving deeper into it? I read
my adkar everyday. I know Allah has got
me. I know Allah will protect me. That's
the attitude of a believer.
That's the attitude of a Muslim.
So don't go around talking about that person.
This is what they did. That's what they
did. If you really must in this in
this instance and you suspect the person, go
to them and speak to them. Say, you
know, I have these feelings.
You have the guts to do so, go
and do it now. Why? Because if you
don't do it today, you will have to
face
up to that person
before Allah Are you prepared?
Are you ready
to say that, yes,
I spoke about
you.
On that day,
the secrets will be revealed.
So there will be no strength and power
against Allah.
And there will be no how to against
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. You will have to
answer, you will have to face
and don't speak. Why? Simply because I know
I will have to answer before Allah. And
if you change your thought process, and you
think goodness of this person,
then you will be rewarded for that good
thought. You see how merciful Allah
and you will find in no time your
relationship will actually become better with that person.
Why? Because
You have been sincere with that person. For
the sake of Allah
So dear brothers and sisters in Islam, my
message is simple.
My message is
one of sincerity.
Where we should be sincere to each other.
We should sit and advise each other. We
should learn how to fight
before we learn how to get along.
We should learn how to argue
before we learn how to actually get along
and then we will find
unity in our communities.
May Allah
accept from us. May Allah
give us the love that we need for
each other for his sake and may Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala unite the Ummah against the
forces that are against us today. Amin,