Hussain Yee – Don’t Be Sad #123
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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
the Most Merciful.
All praise is due to Allah.
We praise Him, seek His help, and seek
His forgiveness.
We seek refuge in Allah from the evil
of our souls and from the evil of
our actions.
Whosoever Allah guides, none can misguide him.
And whosoever He guides, none can misguide him.
I bear witness that there is none worthy
of worship except Allah, and I bear witness
that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger.
I seek refuge with Allah from the evil
of my souls and from the evil of
my actions.
Verily, Allah is Ever-Fighting, the Ever-Merciful.
May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah
be upon you.
May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah
be upon you.
All praise is due to Allah.
We'll be page 196 today, I think.
On the topic, Good Manners.
All praise is due to Allah, Rabbul Alamin,
because He is our Creator, our Provider, who
gives us life without we ask, and who
provides all of us all the bounties that
we need without we asking to.
He keeps on giving.
And not only Allah keeps on giving, while
He gives, a lot of people take things
for granted, ungrateful, unthankful.
But He never sends His punishment immediately.
While He gives, He also keeps on forgiving
all of us.
That is the mercy of Allah, Rabbul Alamin.
And may the blessing and the mercy be
upon all His Prophets and Messengers, especially to
our Prophet Muhammad, who was chosen to be
the last and the final Messenger.
Meaning, whoever dares to claim that they are
also Messengers, you just cut them off.
Don't ever get headache thinking about this kind
of people.
In the time of our Prophet, you have
few, even a lady start to claim that
she is also a Prophet.
Musaylimah claimed he is also the Messenger of
Allah.
And of course, for Musaylimah, the one who
killed him is the one who killed Hamzah
in the Battle of Uhud.
And Islam wants somebody who claims to be
a Muslim, but then he denies that Prophet
Muhammad is the last Messenger.
He is no more Muslim.
And he is considered a murtadin.
Either he repents, or he will be killed.
Why?
The fitna is worse than killing.
One person can create and mislead thousands, millions
of people, make people get confused.
It's better to terminate his life and save
thousands or millions of blind followers.
Sometimes, people who don't understand the values will
not value it.
A lot of people who are good, they
want to follow what is right.
But you have certain individuals who have their
personal agenda to mislead this public.
And they come up with all their nonsense
dreams, and their nonsense, hidden, so-called secret
and knowledge, that they got it direct from
Prophet Muhammad and so on.
And the public, who are innocent, may just
believe in it.
So, we keep on asking Allah Almighty to
guide us.
Without fail, every single day when we perform
prayer, we say, Oh Allah, guide all of
us.
We want to be guided.
And that's why the beginning of our class,
I never fail to recite Khutbatul Hajjah.
A very important reminder from our Prophet to
his sahaba, his ummah.
And it continues.
Abu Bakar, Omar, Osman, Ali, all of them
start by reciting this Khutbatul Hajjah.
A lot of us are not aware, when
you want to get married, for those who
are married, also the qadi who conduct the
marriage, who recite that.
It's a very good reminder.
Number one, Khutbatul Hajjah reminds us the importance
to be grateful and to be thankful.
Keep on thanking Allah, the Creator, the
Provider.
If you keep on thanking Almighty Allah, we
believe it's easier for you to be grateful,
be thankful to humans who are kind to
you.
Who is the first people who are kind
to us?
Our parents.
Who is the one who gives us the
love?
Our mama.
Follow up with our papa.
But if you go to Instagram sometimes, when
they call, teach the children, call mama, the
children, baby say papa.
It makes the mama very jealous.
Just an example.
And then the Prophet continue by reminding us,
نحمده ونستعينه ونستكفره Always remind us how important
to be humble.
A humble person always seek help from Allah.
Always call upon Ya Rabb.
People who are not humble, they don't need.
They only call Him when they have problem.
When they have no problem, Allah is not
in their memory, in their heart, nothing.
When they are caught in the situation that
they know nobody is around, then only he
remember Allah.
These are people who are not grateful, are
not humble.
So every day, we Muslims who believe in
Allah, was taught by our Prophet, when you
open your eyes, remember Allah.
Ask Him.
What do you say?
Then make dua.
Ask Allah to bless your morning till the
evening.
We need Allah's blessing.
We need His protection.
We need His guidance.
Keep on asking.
Because He loves people who ask Him.
Not like asking people.
Asking people, after some time people get upset.
Enough.
They will not respond anymore.
Asking Allah, Allah keep on responding.
That is the difference.
Allah loves people who ask.
But be practical in your prayer.
If you are not a president, don't ask,
I want to be a president.
Can be, be a president to yourself.
You lead yourself.
Okay, no problem.
And then the Prophet continue, See how the
Prophet guide us?
When you keep on asking Allah for anything,
don't forget to ask His forgiveness.
He give, He forgive.
We need to be humble.
And we hope that would remind us, if
we do something wrong with anybody who was
our friend before, suddenly you hurt him.
You betray him.
You lie to him.
You borrow his money.
You don't pay.
You don't remember also, sometimes you borrow people's
money.
That is not good at all.
That's why in the Quran, there's only one
page, the longest ayat in Surah Al-Baqarah.
One ayat take one whole page of the
Quran.
Talking about lending and borrowing.
Just talking about lending and borrowing.
How, what to do, everything to guide us.
And come to borrowing and lending, Allah want
you to write it down.
Allah want you to have witnesses.
Allahu Akbar.
All these are reminder to show us how
loving Allah is to all knowing that human,
when come to this, they can forget.
We hope they really forget or they play
innocent.
So this is what the Prophet said.
Then after that, the Prophet continue, وَنَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ
مِنْ شُرُولِ آنفُسِنَا وَمِنْ سَيْعَةِ آمِلٍ Ask Allah
to help you to purify your inner self,
the battle within.
All of us have bad feelings sometimes, negative
thoughts.
Dislike somebody who is better than us.
Somebody who is better than us, sometimes we
are not happy.
We should be happy.
Alhamdulillah.
But sometimes, I should be there.
People should praise me, not praise her.
Why do you have this feeling of jealousy,
envious?
What do this benefit you?
Nothing.
It will kill your good self.
So we ask Allah, help us to purify
our inner self with all the negative feeling
and change to be the positive.
And all the soul is on, who always
have bad thoughts.
May Allah replace with good thoughts.
You have good and bad energy, nobody can
escape.
That is why the Qadar and Qadar is
Taqdeer, good and bad.
But Allah never call us to do the
bad thing, He always call us to do
the good, the good, the good.
To the extent in Surah Hud, Allah say,
إِنَّ الْحَسَنَاتَ يُزْحِبْنَا السَّيِّئَاتَ When you always try
to be good, then all the bad thing
will be wiped out.
You have no time to do bad thing
if you always think of good thing.
You don't have time to entertain all the
nonsense if you are busy doing something good.
There are so many things to do in
this life.
But because you don't have that positive energy,
so you entertain all the negative, who suffer?
At the end, who suffer, brothers and sisters?
We ourselves, we have sleepless night.
People can sleep, Alhamdulillah, we can't sleep.
Thinking, thinking things that do not benefit you
at all.
Just an example.
So the Prophet said, وَنَعَوْزُ بِاللَّهِ مِنْ شُرُولِ
أَنْفُسِنَا وَمِنْ سَيِّئَةِ أَعْمَلِنَا First, the battle within
yourself.
You must know how to control.
We like to speak, we like to talk.
Be careful what you want to say.
A word is like a bullet, when you
shoot out, you cannot pull it back.
So you must be very very careful.
And that's why the Prophet said, مَنْ كَانَ
يُؤْمِنْ بِاللَّهِ يَوْمَ الْآقِرِ فَيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْلِيَسْمُتً Whoever
says, I believe in Allah, the all-knowing,
the all-seeing, the all-hearing.
And I believe in Akhirah, because we are
going there.
And that is the day that everybody who
are bad do not want to face the
bad guy.
But every good people will love to be
in that day, because that is the day
of judgement.
So if you believe that Al-Akhirah is
there, the Prophet said, فَيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْلِيَسْمُتً Anything
you want to say, anything that you want
to speak out, make sure it is good.
With good intention, good words.
Not the four-letter word that people used
to use.
Even they are so intelligent actors, actresses, they
still use this kind of dirty words.
There are so many good words to be
used.
Don't.
If you have no good word to say,
nothing good to say, silent.
وَالِيَسْمُت Alhamdulillah, swallow it.
But it's bitter.
Bitter is medicine.
Don't only take all the sweet, sweet drink.
Get you this bitter drink.
Bitter gourd, good.
Try and take and drink.
I train myself to love all the bitter
drink.
The most bitter, the most I favour.
Because we are very sweet.
All of us have a lot of sugar
in the body.
You are too sweet already.
You add more sugar, it's going to kill
you.
It's time for you to control all the
extra sweetness.
Anything extra, you go for the best one.
The best sweetness is from honey, yes, good.
Honey is a cure, a remedy.
And also, dates.
Early in the morning, take a few dates,
three, one, three, seven, take.
That sweetness, Alhamdulillah.
Not coffee, one small cup, three teaspoons of
sugar.
Astaghfirullah.
Astaghfirullah.
Don't do that.
So, the Prophet said, when you purify your
inner self, the battle within, settle, then, the
second, Wa min Sayyidati Amalina, the battle begins.
You settle down, you and yourself.
Now, you and others.
You must be very careful.
No one knows what is in our heart
and in our mind.
Only Allah and you know.
But people will judge us based on what
we say.
Our appearance, what you do.
Our appearance is something you cannot hide.
That's why he said, don't forget the body
language.
How you react, how you look.
You want to know your body language?
Please, every morning, before you start to do
anything, look into yourself by looking into the
mirror.
Look into the mirror.
What do you see?
You see how you look like.
Now you talk to yourself for a while.
I don't like you.
How is the response?
Do the response say, I like you.
I hate you.
Do you think the response comes, I love
you.
No.
What you say, that is what you get.
You do not know how to learn to
smile.
You don't expect people to smile to you.
If you are not friendly, don't expect people
to be friendly to you.
That's what you learn.
But how many of us reflect about what
they see?
So there is also a prayer, Allahumma, Kama
Hassanta Khulqi Fa Hassin Khulqi Oh Allah, how
you have created me in the good shape,
good looking person, Alhamdulillah.
Make me have good character, good manners.
Because that is what value.
Some people can look ugly, but very kind,
friendly, humble.
People will respect them.
Sometimes somebody is so handsome, nice looking, beautiful,
miss this, miss that.
They miss all the good things.
Because they are so egoistic.
The way they walk also, like they don't
see all the small guy.
They look all the way up.
Always look up.
If you don't humble and look down, you
can fall very easily.
Just an example.
Wasay'ati a'malina Mayi hadihillah The Prophet said,
Remember whoever follow the guidance of Allah.
Who Allah guide, because you want to be
guided, you just follow.
Allah said this too.
Nobody can mislead you anymore.
Because you know, you are following what Allah
want you to do.
And the evidence is there.
It's written in the Quran.
Be good, you be good.
Don't lie, you don't lie.
Example.
Be clean.
Allah love people who are clean.
Who don't like cleanliness?
Be humble.
Always you make mistake, ask forgiveness.
You make mistake with your friend, sorry brother,
sorry sister.
Did I say something just now that hurt
you?
If that please.
I ask forgiveness.
I will retract back.
Is that easy to do?
Husband and wife, do you have a very
good communication on and off some?
What do you think?
If you say something wrong, it's easy for
sit there and ask forgiveness.
It's not difficult.
Just be humble.
But if you are not humble, why me?
Why I myself?
There is also another problem.
You don't wait.
Anything you know that you may say something
wrong, you don't know because you are so
used it.
Just be humble.
If I say something, I hurt you, please
forgive me.
Simple as that.
And you see, life will move very smoothly
for you.
That is very important.
And continue the Prophet said, وَمَيُّتْ لِلْفَلَهَا دِيَنَا
Remember, if you choose not to follow the
guidance that Allah has shown us, the Creator.
And He has sent the best man, Prophet
Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم to show you
how to have good character, how to have
good manners.
لَقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةً
Allah said, Indeed in the Prophet, he has
the best character for all of you to
follow.
You follow this one man, you are safe
from all the fitan, from Allah.
But sometimes, how good you are brother and
sister, you will have some group of people
who just don't like.
They will keep on criticizing you because you
are too good for them.
They want you to be like them, you
don't want to be like them.
So they get very jealous and envy, so
they start to create fitna.
Don't worry, there is nothing for you to
get upset because you want to please Allah.
Remember, when you wake up in the morning,
Alhamdulillah, He said, أَحْيَانَ بَعْدَ مَا أَمَاتَنَا وَإِلَيْهِ
النُّشُورِ The minute you open your eyes, the
first you remember Allah, praise Him who has
given you life after your death.
And then, وَإِلَيْهِ النُّشُورِ But it's more important
than you prepare yourself for your final departure
to akhirah.
Asking Allah, Oh Allah, prepare me, help me
to have a good ending.
That's all.
We do not want to regret there.
You regret here, Alhamdulillah.
This is the world for you to make
changes.
Once you are down there, everything stops.
The only thing that will help you is
not who you are now, all the deeds
that you have done when you are here.
This is the world for you to decide
where you want to go.
If you choose to go to paradise, you
just follow the way of paradise.
You will reach paradise.
If you choose to go to *, welcome.
There's another way.
So then you don't keep Oh Allah, save
me from * fire.
But you are following the way to *.
Oh Allah, save me from * fire.
Protect me.
But you still go and follow the road
to *.
Are we okay by doing that?
People will say, I think he's crazy.
He asks for something, he do another thing.
Oh Allah, I don't want to go to
prison.
You do all the bad things that you'll
be qualified to go to prison.
Just an example.
Simple as that.
At the end of this Hadith, Khutbah tul
Hajah, I like to recall because this is
Khutbah, a reminder that the Prophet love to
use.
Because we human, we keep on forgetting a
lot of things.
Even we have been reminded many times, but
we don't know.
We are not committed, we are not serious.
It's like when we pray, we ask Allah,
Oh Allah, guide us to the straight.
Are we serious?
Do you really want to be guided?
Do you want to follow the guidance of
Allah?
No, not yet.
But you are asking and you are not
ready.
If you delay your flight, you know you
have a flight to go to Samoa.
Do you think the flight wait for you?
Bye bye.
If I said two hours before, you have
to check in or one hour you have
to check in, you don't come half an
hour.
Counter close.
The flight is still there.
They show no mercy.
Sorry.
But when they delay, we have to wait.
They keep on delaying.
You said at 7, now you delay to
8.
And then you delay to 12.
No problem.
Be patient.
You see, you see the law here is
not fair.
When you delay for hour and hour, we
have to just wait.
When we delay but the flight is still
there, they said no more.
Counter close.
Why can't you be kind enough if they
don't have check in luggage, just body and
it's still there.
Bismillah.
See all this is not difficult but if
you don't have mercy and kindness, you don't
care.
So we ask Allah to help us to
prepare for our departure.
Whether you are ready or not, time come,
you have to return back to Allah.
If we are prophets, we are not prophets
of God, then at least the angel of
death will not come and pull your soul
without your permission.
That is only for prophets and messenger of
Allah.
The angel of death have to present himself
in a good manner, respectful manner and inform
the prophet, are you ready?
Time's up.
Allah is waiting for you.
Only for prophets and most of the prophets
is always ready except the incident happened to
Musa, prophet of Allah, Musa.
Angel of death came and for Musa, Musa
give him a punch.
Musa, he is a very tough guy.
You don't play with Musa.
Jesus is very loving, humble, prophet Muhammad, most
of them, but Musa, no.
Can you imagine he give a punch to
angel of death?
He don't fear angel of death.
For us, collapse.
One angel of death appear, gone.
Everything stop because he will not ask us
for the permission.
He just come, Bismillah, he pull out.
So, it's very important for us to prepare
ourselves.
Now, let us go back to the book.
Don't be sad.
If anyone who don't have this book, please
remember we have two last copies.
You can purchase from us later on.
Today, we talk about good manners.
Good manners.
Good akhlaq.
Good character.
Good manners lead to prosperity.
While bad one lead to misery.
You have a lot of problem.
The Prophet, peace be upon him, said in
one of the Hadith.
Meaning, through good manners or akhlaq or character
or behavior, one reaches the status of the
person who not only fast, but who also
stand late in the night to perform the
prayer, the reward, the comparison.
People who fast should be more beloved to
Allah than those who don't fast.
But, if you have good character, it's better
than just who fast, but sometimes they still
have bad character.
Sometimes, people who fast but don't have patience,
but, that's why the Prophet said, it's better
than the person who fast and it is
better than the person who stay awake the
whole night worshiping Allah.
Qiyamullahi tahajjud is a very good ritual, but
if you don't have good character and there
is a person who don't pray at night,
he just pray five times a day, minimum,
but he have good character, his status is
always better.
Allah don't look at how many deeds you
do.
He want quality deeds, not just many deeds,
no, quality.
That's why the Prophet was asked one day
by the companion, he said, Ya Rasulullah, I
don't do any extra, I only do the
minimum five prayers every day.
No Qiblah, no nothing, except the five prayers.
I only fast in Ramadan, don't call me
to fast other day.
Sunnah, Monday, Thursday, zero.
Yeah, Muharram, zero, nothing except Ramadan.
I only give Zakat, no more Sadaqah.
I don't go for Khash, one, Khash, don't
call me to go Umrah, Umrah, no more.
I want to go to Jannah The Prophet
look at this guy.
So he asked, can I go?
Can I go to Paradise by doing all
the minimum?
Prophet look at him and he is very
serious and Prophet know that he always pray
five times a day with the Prophet.
Yes.
You go to Paradise.
As long as whatever you are doing, you
do your level best, give the best quality.
Not just the ritual without values, plus value.
Prayer will discipline you to keep yourself clean
because before you pray you must clean yourself,
you must wash yourself.
So by all the cleaning that you go
through also remind you make sure your lips
is always your mouth is clean.
Anything you want to say clean.
Anything you want to see clean.
Anything you want to hear clean.
Pure purified filter filter filter.
You have to have a lot of filtering.
Your heart is clean and you worship Allah
sincerely and you are focused.
All this is more important than you do
a lot of other prayer, extra prayer.
Prophet said you will go to paradise.
Another companion come and ask the prophet in
the beginning of Islam he said when is
the day of Qiyamah the doom day.
When will be the judgment day Al Qiyamah.
The prophet never answer.
But the way the prophet respond he ask
him back a question was respond with another
question.
What have you prepare for that day.
The prophet ask the one who question me
when is Qiyamah.
What have you prepare for he said nothing
except I love Allah and I love you.
Simple I love Allah.
But this man when he said he love
Allah tell me he was always ready to
do what Allah want him to do.
And he love prophet Muhammad whatever the prophet
want him to do all the obligatory prayer
or all the thing that is wajib he
will do.
Then the prophet said you will be with
whom you love.
Is that easy to understand.
You will be with whom you love.
You love Allah you are going to see
him.
You love me you are going to meet
me.
I will give you the shafa I will
give you the intercession.
And nothing is more valuable than the intercession
from prophet Muhammad.
Allahu Akbar And the prophet peace be upon
him continue by saying shall I not inform
you of the most beloved to me and
the one seated closest to me in the
day of judgment the day of resurrection those
of you who are best in character how
do you feel brother and sister that you
will be invited to sit beside prophet Muhammad
how do you feel you are moving here
and there suddenly the king appear and he
call come and sit beside me how do
you feel betul ke is it a dream
or what but this is prophet Muhammad peace
be upon him who is better than him
when people offer him to be the king
he do not accept he just want to
be the messenger of Allah I am not
here to rule you I am not here
to be a business I am here to
convey the message of Allah that's all you
don't offer me all this dunya I am
not here for the dunya no I am
here just to convey I am the messenger
of Allah I am his servant and I
will survive that's why the lifestyle the prophet
very humble he was offer stop promoting Islam
stop calling us to Allah we will promote
you you want to be king leader we
select you no no no I am not
here for power I am not here to
be rich I am here to share with
you to convey the message that's all Allahu
Akbar and again Allah in chapter 68 verse
4 remind us and verily you
oh prophet Muhammad are on an exalted standard
of character and I share with you what
the prophet taught us whoever believe in Allah
and the day of judgment if you want
to say anything you want to speak make
sure what you say is good and always
be ready to honor and respect your neighbor
be a good neighbor your neighbor may not
be good to you but you always respond
something good your neighbor throw rubbish to your
area you don't throw back you talk to
them can you please collect if you want
you make me happy we could happy neighbor
you never see I throw anything to your
area because I respect you as my neighbor
you educate them today is that easy to
get that kind of neighbor it depends sometimes
that's why when you want to move house
anytime in the future you need to move
to one place first thing you have to
check what kind of neighbors or neighborhood you
have is very good because when you want
to be there you want to settle down
you want to live in peace you know
but maybe that one is a bit expensive
but it gives you the peace or you
just don't bother who is your neighbor as
long as it's cheap okay then you know
what you are going to experience then you
know so may Allah protect us and the
Prophet continue in the same hajj whoever believe
in Allah and the day of judgment honor
your guests you have guests coming to you
honor them that's all then you have proven
to yourself you believe in Allah and the
day of judgment and Allah continue by reminding
us in chapter 3 verse 159 the meaning
and by the mercy of Allah you dealt
with them gently and had you been severe
and harsh they would have broken away from
you Allah
is reminding his messenger when you approach the
people talk to the people always show mercy
they may be bad they may be the
worst of the people but you must respect
them show that you love and care for
them you are very passionate you are not
here to come and judge and bang on
them you are like shaitan why you call
him of course the shaitan is there already
why you promote shaitan why you promote you
must say seek protection from the shaitan you
don't say you are shaitan no need it's
like children you keep on shaitan shaitan then
he show you the shaitan then you get
very upset no you want him to be
good save him help him if you are
not merciful of course mercy is a gift
from Allah being human brother and sister normally
being human we want to talk about ourselves
if people are rude to you normally how
do you behave people don't like you how
do you react normally stay away you
always try to you see him coming there
you move if possible you don't want to
look at him normally because he don't like
you so it's better you stay away from
him normally when the prophet is approaching his
people who once upon a time respected loved
him but now he is calling them to
one god stay away from idol worshipping believe
in one only one they don't like him
anymore anytime he is coming ha you see
he is coming he is coming this crazy
guy but the prophet never show hatred Allah
give him that mercy go talk to them
invite them but don't use harsh words you
want to go to * you don't listen
to me you go to * then they
will respond no problem we love * what
can you do leave us alone we want
to go to * leave us alone you
don't go in that way come all people
come let us say there is only one
true god we all will end as good
people we will have a good ending we
will be successful that's all that's the only
thing the prophet call and that is the
thing that they dislike but that will stop
the prophet from calling he never say enough
you are stubborn yeah I will pray oh
Allah destroy them no he keep on praying
may Allah guide them Allah said oh Allah
give guidance to them they don't know what
I'm trying to call them to they don't
know the value it may take time for
them to know what really make most of
them start to accept after when the prophet
is back to Mecca with his companion and
the people of Ansar not from the people
of Mecca only Muhajir the Muhajir have migrated
to Medina joined with Ansar they come home
now Fatl Mecca the new chapter the opening
of Mecca back to the believers from that
day everyone who are the Mushrikeen the disbelievers
hope for the mercy of the prophet to
forgive them the prophet can be very hard
on them you remember what you've done to
us you chased us away you tortured the
believers and you killed them yeah you killed
them openly that my Ummah have to flee
to Abyssinia yeah and we have to migrate
to Medina left our property left everything of
course they know this is what they've been
doing they're worried that the prophet is going
to take revenge the prophet never do that
the best word he use you have your
freedom now that is a time the prophet
received the revelation when
the help of Allah come Mecca is open
for the believers it's open now and you
will see a lot of people coming to
Islam it's true in a short while the
whole Mecca became Muslim the whole Meccan all
became Muslim Allahu Akbar but when that ayah
was revealed the prophet also said I
have been signaled by Allah the meaning I
have been informed by Allah to this ayah
that my death is very close my departure
back to Allah is very very near now
everything that happened in the time of the
prophet Allah keep on sending reminder signal but
Alhamdulillah because he was a prophet he was
alert we we don't alert if there is
a signal nothing wrong false signal sometimes there
is a lot of signal reminder one day
prophet Idris known as Enoch he make
friend with the angel of death and he
make angel of death promise one thing please
since we are so close to each other
can you please give me some signal when
my time is up just let me know
send me a reminder if possible just three
time so they depart after sometime suddenly angel
of death appear and said your time is
up you see you promised that you are
going to give me some signal if you
promise three time now you come and said
time is up he said I have been
sending you signal more than that example just
example how many people who die at your
area and you were there or maybe ten
time ten time I signal you already ten
time I send you sign gone time is
up time is up oh okay okay so
sometimes the sign is there but we overlook
we thought that I'm still young I'm still
healthy yes but death have nothing to do
with age your time come go back that's
all so you cannot just excuse yourself and
I think I still have time if you
have the guarantee from Allah you know Allah
said oh Hassan you only die in twenty
sixty Alhamdulillah then Hassan do anything you like
now twenty fifty nine you become good guy
there is no such message from Allah he
just said wal tanzurun nafsun ma qadamat li
ghadin look into yourself what you have prepared
for your tomorrow everyday before you sleep you
make dua and ask Allah that tomorrow will
be a better day but sometimes we feel
sad everyday you give somebody will call you
tell you more problem that is not the
life we want to move forward we want
a new day with new spirit yeah with
new yeah I will say new what with
good news happy day yeah Malaysian have many
days that we have holiday yeah I think
in the world Malaysian have the most holidays
so the prophet was warned by Allah you
must deal with people with gentle passion soft
heart if you are hard hearted with people
you are too aggressive you are just mental
people are sure to run away from you
just share with all of us if you
are a grandmother and grandfather do you love
your grandchildren how do you feel love grandchildren
I love to see my grandchildren each time
when you talk to me make me very
happy because they are healthy they are happy
Alhamdulillah you can see them it make you
so happy but if you are hard on
them do you think they like to see
you if their parents say let's go to
grandpa grandpa no way they heard grandpa like
seeing angel of death but maybe they like
grandma grandma is very loving caring talk to
them Alhamdulillah just an example it's really a
suffering to see somebody you don't like but
you have no choice you have to see
him it's like you don't like your boss
but you are working there and so happen
the boss love the worker they say every
morning 15 minutes I will come and give
a talk to all of you some boss
are very very active he want to see
their worker every day but you don't like
this one but you cannot be delay when
you delay one day you should check it
at night I am in the office at
night you only come at 9.30 second
day they give you ok third day he
give you a letter you don't like me
you are welcome exit facing seeing people you
don't like is suffering departing from people that
you love is that suffering too yeah people
that you love and they are going to
say bye bye you feel so sad yeah
but people you don't love anytime they want
to say bye bye before they say bye
when are you going to leave meeting somebody
that you love is Allah it's really a
mercy a blessing yeah and you don't have
to see people that you hate you have
no problem but the opposite you will suffer
yeah so always remember so and speak good
to people in Quran chapter 2 verse 83
Allah said speak good to people Aisha describe
the prophet peace be upon him personality when
people ask Aisha who know about us than
our wife who know about this man than
his wife because they are very close no
secret among them everything is very transparent among
husband and wife so the husband know the
wife better than anyone and the wife know
the husband more than any friend so they
ask Aisha the character the manners of prophet
Muhammad and she said his character was the
Quran how Allah is so merciful forgiving kind
keep on providing and that is how the
prophet Muhammad behave it's like he is the
walking Quran walk talk to walk and walk
to talk he is that man he is
the best the best youth the best businessman
the best husband the best father the best
leader care for everybody who keep on praying
for everyone and he have been praying for
all of us from that day that's why
he ask his companion he said do you
know that there is a group of people
who is very close to me they were
shocked they thought they are the closest because
they are with the prophet then they ask
who are they are we not the one
are we not the one the prophet said
no you believe in me because you saw
me you see me you see all the
miracle I show you so you believe in
me there will come a time there are
a group of people who believe in me
without seeing me who are they we all
believe in the prophet and the saint without
seeing him they are the one who is
very close to me they get jealous of
it but Alhamdulillah as long as we try
our best to follow the sunnah of the
prophet brother and sister in our daily life
the way you talk the way you dress
the way you behave the way you eat
the way you drink the way you communicate
with one another if you do everything you
try to follow this one man the messenger
of Allah you will never regret you will
never fail yourself is that easy?
it can be easy too because you don't
have to break a head and think of
death just follow SOP is there just be
humble and follow the only thing that you
will be facing a lot of challenges because
the surrounding are not helping you you want
to be good but when you go out
and mix with other friends they are not
the kind of people that the prophet is
talking about righteous sincere good manners but if
you are among the righteous people sure it
will be easier because this group of people
when you talk they don't use bad words
they don't curse they don't gossip they don't
talk bad they just talk what is good
what we should do not about what people
is doing what we should do there are
so many bad things happen what should we
do it's good that we know that what
is bad is bad that is a good
sign if you don't know what is bad
is bad is dangerous then you stay away
then you promote what is good is that
easy when it comes to food do we
want to always eat the good food you
know how to choose good food when you
want to buy some shoes you know where
to go to and buy you don't go
to bata anymore that brand is an antique
brand from my time from the 50's 60's
bata exists already until now B-A-T
-A but the young generation bata no way
what is this bata just example but anything
you want to do remember I share with
you other hadith in adab mufrad the prophet
s.a.w. even said the
prophet said there is nothing in the day
of judgment weighs way heavier in the balance
in the weight of Allah Allah has his
day of judgment he has a scale and
everything that you do will be weigh the
prophet said nothing weighs way heavier in the
day of judgment in the balance of Allah
than good character they said so try
your best to have good character by be
good to yourself be clean be kind respectful
and then always serve people with the best
talk talk with respect don't be a burden
to anybody and even the prophet also said
in the other hadith he said that fahishan
wala mutafahsha he
said the best of you is the one
who has the best character is that easy
to have good character brothers is that easy
to have good character and manners, sisters, alhamdulillah.
It's not really difficult.
If you think difficult, then it's difficult.
To be good is so easy.
Wherever you go, you know you'll be good.
You don't cause problem to yourself and to
others.
You don't break the law.
You are not a lawless person.
You follow the law, you have no problem.
When you try, you follow the law.
You don't get finger coming out from the
window.
No problem.
Just be good.
So may Allah, Rabbul Alamin, brothers and sisters,
help us to have good character.
The best way, be in a good company.
Be in a good environment.
Inshallah, that will help us a lot.
At the end of the day, the Prophet
also remind us by saying, Al-mar' ala
deeni qaleeli far yanzur ahadukum man yuqalil Everything
has been spelled out by our Prophet.
He said, human, a person, character depend on
his environment.
If his or her environment is good, so
easily he or she become good.
But if your environment is bad, even you
are good, it's really a challenge.
You always choose the good word, they choose
the opposite.
You have patient, they always scream, shout.
They always like the bad.
You don't like smoke, they love smoke.
From the cigarette, they change to what?
Whip.
Whip have more smoke.
So if you are around that group of
people, you will be smoked by them.
I normally will signal when people smoke, I
stay away from them.
People may say, ah, she don't know.
Smoking, wah, um of smoking.
Inspiration, ah.
Alhamdulillah, when I was not yet a Muslim
from age nine, I have been smoking.
I stopped when I became a Muslim.
You can change if you want, it's up
to you.
Never when you experience the smoke, cigarette will
just fly into your mouth, force you to
open your mouth and force you to, you
know.
Smoke, no, he never do that.
You have to walk so far, going by.
You see, smoking is like killing yourself.
Please don't excuse yourself, it's very hard for
me to abandon, I'm hooked into it.
I cannot survive without smoke.
Did your mother give birth to you with
a cigarette inside your mouth?
No.
They give you the best food, the purest
drink, milk, to build your immunity.
Now you are exposed, I know, sometimes you
are exposed to the wrong company.
Time to migrate.
Minimize that kind of, until you are strong,
you bring changes to them.
Good.
Don't let them change you, you change them.
They want to know more about cigarette, bring
them here.
Let me have a deeper discussion with them.
So may Allah protect all of us, so
that we all will end with people with
good character, which what the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, have said, that all the character
that is good will carry the heaviest in
the scale of Allah.
So may Allah protect our children, our grandchildren,
from being exposed to the bad environment.
Ameen.
If there's any question, we open for Q
&A.
Any question, any question online?
Sisters, any question from the sisters?
No question from the sisters.
Any question from the younger, younger men?
You say, be kind to people, yes?
Again?
You said be kind to people, right?
You said in your manners.
Be kind?
Okay.
When someone is not nice to you, in
what way do you have to respond in
kind to them?
When somebody is negative to you, there are
two kinds of negative, yes?
One is he don't say bad about you,
but he don't like you, but he don't
talk about you.
He just try to stay away from you.
Then you act normally.
If you see him, by right, he come
to you, he give salam, he don't give
salam.
You see him, salam alaikum, nothing wrong.
You pray for the best.
But if he is showing you, not just
by his look, he talk bad about, he
humiliate you in front other people.
He's very mean.
He go for the killer, he humiliate you.
He scream at you, he said you are
this in front of people.
Then you know, you are not, believe me,
a normal person.
And what did Allah said about this kind
of people?
If the people dare to say bad thing
in front of you, don't like you, what
is hidden in his heart is double.
Stay away, kalas.
You don't have to waste your time.
Just stay away from this kind.
Disconnect yourself.
You have the right, but you don't talk
bad.
And the second thing around the language, right?
Say you come from a society or a
culture where the language is quite different to,
you know, say.
And give me one simple example about language,
about words.
Give me one example.
About the words or, you know, say a
four letter word could be used as an
expression rather than an insult to someone, right?
An expression of one's feelings rather than someone
being insulted in a way.
One simple example.
The four letter word, right?
I'd say it can be used as an
expression rather than.
No, no, no.
There are so many words to use, brother.
Why are you going to follow some crazy
people who come up with this four letter
word?
And then you thought that it's another expression.
No, no, no.
Very filtered.
That means your mouth is so dirty.
That shows that what is in your stomach
is so bad.
Don't use that.
Even how angry you are, control.
You can raise up your, why you behave
like that?
You can raise up your voice if you
think you need to wake him up.
You cannot say, what the four letter?
Then people will not respond to you.
You think people are happy?
Then after that it's so common.
You use four letter, he use four letter
but double.
Double doses.
Then are you going to respond triple?
Then what is there to talk?
Nothing to talk.
Everything is four letter.
I better stop.
Example.
I know sometimes we are carried away.
We are frustrated.
We thought that by reusing that word, it
release.
No, you don't release anything.
It show that how filthy you are.
How dirty you are.
You remember what like the Allah said, what
they say, if it's so negative, what is
their heart is double.
So what should you do?
If people use, hey brother, I hope you
know how to use a better word in
the future when you talk to me.
If not, you don't talk to me.
No problem.
Easier.
You don't like to talk to me, don't
talk to me.
No problem.
If you want to talk, we can talk,
but don't use that kind of word.
Is that easier?
If you ask me, I will talk to
a person, if he have no respect to
me, I just, do you have a better
word to say to me?
If not, I'm not going to repeat like
him.
Because I'm not like him.
I don't want to be like him.
They may provoke you.
Okay.
Then you have to cut him off.
Just get out.
Easier.
I know sometimes certain culture, they use a
lot of bad word, but when I'm with
them, I inform them.
Certain culture like my people, if they're upset,
they bring your father, your mother all inside.
They bring your father and mother, you know,
all the bad things come in their conversation.
So, before I was not yet Muslim, I
may respond the same, but it's normal.
You bring my father, you bring my mother,
all the bad word is coming in.
Now, when I become Muslim, we're not allowed,
we are not allowed to make any negative
comment and be rude to our parents.
We are not allowed to show disrespect to
them.
We cannot do that.
And the Prophet will ask, you know, did
people curse their parents?
They use bad word to their parents.
Normally, people don't do that.
The Prophet, yes, yes.
How you do that?
You curse other people's parents.
You show disrespect.
You condemn them.
Then the people condemn your parents, like how
you condemn their parents, see, so that you
must be careful.
So, after I knew all this value, I
go and mix with my old people again.
They still use that word to me.
Then I get where I say, brother, friend,
you want to talk to me, you talk
about me.
You don't bring my papa, my mama inside.
If you don't like me, talk to me.
You don't bring my parents inside.
I don't allow them to use that anymore.
When they talk to me, you put a
stand, be firm.
If not, we don't talk.
Who give you a right to criticize my
parents?
Who gives you a right to use bad
word towards my parents?
It's me.
You don't like, talk to me.
You want to curse me, you curse me.
Let me listen.
Why you curse me?
I want to know.
That's how anything negative respond with positive.
Can we do that?
Yes.
Be ready, always ready for the worst to
come, but don't behave like that.
Don't behave like that.
Clear?
Another question?
Good.
Alhamdulillah.
Any other question from the sisters again?
No?
So, sister normally no problem, Alhamdulillah.
It's good when the sister have no problem.
Because sister play a very important role in
building the society.
If all of us are positive, positive, we
hope the generation will be positive.
Because the one that's closer to the children
are the mother.
So, if the mother is always positive, may
Allah grant all the family members with all
the positive values, with positive mindset, and always
use positive approach.
Okay?
So, may Allah bless.
Any question online?
No?
Today, no question online.
We have to ask, keep on asking why?
Because on off, I will get messages from
online students said, why they don't respond to
our questions?
That's why I keep on asking.
No?
We don't want to abandon them.
So, please send my salam to the family
who are not with us, and then send
my salam to all the jamaat which I
have been, I mean, I have attended giving
lecture to them in other area.
We encourage them to follow up.
Why?
Because we need a reminder, ongoing reminder.
Because the challenges in this world never stop.
More and more challenges is coming in.
And if we have been reminded again and
again, it brings benefit.
Allah said, always remind each other for the
sake of Allah, because reminding one another brings
benefit for those who believe.
Yeah?
So, may Allah protect all of us, make
us a better Muslim who always have better
manners and character.
Before I give salam, brother and sister, always
try and remember that any time when you
say, ashadu an la ilaha illallah, you hear
the azan, raise up your finger, get used
with this finger, index finger.
Use this.
Every time you say la ilaha illallah, or
you heard people say la ilaha illallah, raise
up this finger.
It will help you a lot when the
time you really need it.
This is the sign of a good Muslim,
because he remembers Allah.
Each time shahada, la ilaha illallah.
The azan, la ilaha illallah, raise up your
hand.
It's a signal to say the oneness of
Allah.
It's a sunnah.
And especially when you are not well, you
may not be able to say anything, but
you want your mind, your heart to respond
la ilaha illallah.
Somebody may come and whisper to you, oh
sister, don't forget to say la ilaha illallah.
You may say, but I don't know, because
I can't hear you.
But when your finger moves, then it gives
me the calmness.
It gives me that you are responding, because
that is the best word for you to
end your life.
The prophet said, whoever can say that before
he died, he will go to paradise.
Good ending.
So please remember this.
When you have a selfie, group picture, freestyle,
back to one style.
La ilaha illallah.
Use this style.