40 Ahadith of Imam An-Nawawi 07 – Religion Is Sincerity

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Hussain Kamani

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On the authority of Tameem ibn Aus ad-Daree (r):
The Prophet said, The deen (religion) is naseehah (advice, sincerity). We said, To whom? He  said, To Allah, His Book, His Messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk. [Muslim]

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Hello Hema Camilla

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hamdulillah have 1000 I'm gonna be burning stuff off. So sanada seguro suniva hottie Milan via our early Hill Ischia was having a Thea ama back.

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Today inshallah we're starting from Hadeeth number seven

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and I believe

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the minute daddy

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or the Allahu taala and then the visit Allahu alayhi wa sallam on

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a demon mercy. Pola lemon Yasser Allah.

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Allah Allah Allah He, while he kitabi he will Eros su de he Wali in Matthew muslimeen. While I'm mad at him.

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The Hadith is narrated by the meme then owes a daddy for the Allahu taala the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the deen is naseeha

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we said, to whom or messenger of Allah. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, sincerity and mercy how to Allah, his book, His Messenger and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk. The Hadith is narrated by Muslim Rahmatullah Yachty

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so this is our seven Hadith seventh hadith of Muslim Rahmatullah. He is 40 Hadith collection. And today's narration is narrated by the main man owes a daddy to the Allahu Allah tamiment also daddy with your loved one was one of the companions of the Prophet along while he was saddam, who was previously a Christian, he wasn't a salani and he accepted Islam towards the end of the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after the Battle of the book in the ninth year after his

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his cornea is a Buddha. And the reason why he's called a Buddha is because he had a daughter who was his only child, whose name was Rupa.

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Why was he called a daddy Tamim been a daddy. So the scholar is different and opinion on why he was actually called that. Some scholars say that it's making reference to his grandfather, one of his grandfather's whose name must have been done so therefore there, Misbah that tribution towards adult. Some say that it's a place during therefore making attribution to the place of doubting he was called a daddy. So there are different opinions on why he was called the meme, the meme and a daddy.

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The meme or the Ola Han was his hobby who was known for reading the poor are excessively

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remember hubiera de la la in a Sierra llama novella when he describes tamiment OSA Dahlia de la one he says to He calls him a lot when the loan is someone who does still our excessively he was always reading the Quran

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masuk says that a person one day came to me from the people of McComb, Oklahoma. And he pointed to this area he said, You know this area right here, this is the place where the mean but also the law one would stand here and read for on the entire night and his Salah, and one time while your brother and your brother meaning your brother in Islam, he was standing here and he was reading for on and he came to one If so, Joshua, he came to iron number 20 assuta Java, and he read the eye and he cried and cried and cried. He just kept repeating the one ayah until the entire night passed by and that I have looked at on his, um has evolved Villa de International,

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Nigella honkala Dina Armand wamena solea solea Saba Maha mama to himself am I comun Allah subhanho wa Taala says, although those who commit evil think we will make them like those who have believed and done righteous deeds make them equal in their life and in their death. Evil is what they judge meaning those who do good evil who do evil can never be equivalent to those who do good. And his concern was that what if I learned from the first category of people who do evil I will never apply find my place with a pious people in the hereafter. He was so particular about his salon, that NSR de la Juan says that he purchased a gown for 1000. Now whether that's 1000 did 100,000 dinar the

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narration is

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Say it says you're just not 100 than the elephant. And he would only wear that very expensive gown that he had. When he would go for standing insula. He would put it on and then stand in front of Allah subhana wa Tada. His Salah was something that was very special to him. How about the moon because there was no law that says that one night I mean, when Elsa daddy or your loved one missed his 200 slot, he overslept and he became so upset with himself that for karma senate and laminam Fie her. He stood an entire year and didn't sleep for one whole year. But Booba lillahi Asana so he can hold himself accountable and punish himself because of the one night he missed in 200 solar.

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One person came to the meme and OSA Dahlia de la Juan and said to him

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gun just how much do you read? What is your other local comics put onto your wreath? So Timmy Mendoza daddy got your loved one became upset with this question. So he said to him, Lana camino Latina chakra Duhamel for Ana sama you speaker for your pool Corrado, and having Layla. You seem like one of those people who might randomly wake up on one night and read a little Quran and wake up in the morning and tell everyone in the world that you read a little Quran last night. He says that's the type of person who seemed like for what led enough CBD learn or suddenly a thalassa rakata Nikita habla la mina, an alcohol for an affiliate in some hospital for

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rehab. He said I would rather do a little a bada

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rather than reading on all night and then waking up and telling people of the eba that I did. He was known for being the Sahabi who would read the entire book on in one Raka. Today while I was preparing for this class, on the way back from the Kalam seminary on the way home I was reading through on my laptop I was going through different biography works to see how many people actually write in his bat write this in his biography, how many famous biographers actually recorded this. And I kid you not I went through 15 to 20 biographies and every one of them right in the beginning they said, God, I asked him for an afro cotton, every one of them that he was a person that would

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read the entire Koran in one record.

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So along with his written love for the Quran, and the 100 slides, you can see

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another thing that he was known for another special honor that he holds is that because he was previously a Christian, and he had common travel to Sham, which is today known as the Syria area, so he would travel there regularly. On one of his journeys there. He saw that the people at nighttime would use these lanterns. So he purchased a lantern, brought it back to Medina, Manila. And what he did was he took the lantern and he hung it in the mosque of the prophets of aloha Davison. In one narration he hunkered in the Prophet's mosque, and another narration he gave it to a young man and said to him stand here. It was night motive time before that day after a motive Salafi The sun was

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set, the most of the prophets of Allah who it was set on would always be dark, people would have to look carefully to recognize one another. This was the first time that ninth year after that a lantern is bought into the mosque of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so the narration says that this person was standing there with a lantern or either he hung it on the wall, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam entered the masjid and he said, and there was this light shining on the prophets face something very new. So the purpose of aloha to a certain segment father Hanna who did this, who bought this lantern and put it in the mask, bottle to me, it's a messenger of a lot It was

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the meme. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then called him and said to him, know what, Islam, you've given light to Islam, know what Allah why they can fit Danielle And may Allah subhanho wa Taala in life in your dunya and also your alpha. And then in one narration, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me, you've done something so beautiful, it's so praiseworthy, you sacrifice and let's so far bought something for our message that was so needed. It's as if you put the message above yourself and above your own household. This is such a praiseworthy trait, that if I had a daughter, I'd marry her to you right now.

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So once the hobby, he was there, his name was nofal. That has been Abdulmutallab. He said, Liam Netanya rasulillah a messenger of Allah I have a daughter. So the purpose of Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, then there is no man better than this person right here. And the narration closes by closes off by saying unka who iya Allen McCann that in that gathering, the daughter was brought in, she was introduced, they spoke to one another and then before you know what that nigga was done, and tamiment also data of your loved one is married to a woman malayala Vinton ofin.

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Amongst the great

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stories that are attributed to tamiment OSA daddy or your loved one, one of them is narrated by Amanda happy to have the long alley in a car. It's a story from a person by the name of while you have been Harman. He says I came to Madina, munawwara and I hung around in the mosque of the prophets of Allah white Islam. This is after the Prophet passed away and I hadn't had anything to eat so far.

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I came to the halifa photogravure. Last one and I said to him, I mean, I'm really hungry. You need to find someone who can feed me otherwise, I'm going to die. So I'm going to the last one. He said to him, that I will send you to the house of the person who is the best of the people of Medina Mottola. He is the best of the believers inoculated with meaning. So this while even Herman says I was wondering whose house he would send me to, and your loved ones sent me to the house, that meme and OSA daddy are the last one. So he says, I came to the house at the moment also daddy or your loved one in first hand, who got to witness the famous the 100 salon, the famous recitation of the

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Quran that everyone had been talking about. He said, I got a chance to witness that. He says, however, one day, either How does it not on behera there was a big fire that came out from Holland, this is a famous historical fire, it occurred during a long time and it was a wildfire it started spreading and spreading. So when people came and told me

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that the way that the fire is spreading like crazy, we need to do something about it. So he says pijama illa mean, Amara, the last one came to me but on the other one and he said to him in a heartbeat go to that fire and handle it. So that even also data that your loved one said football Yeah, I mean, I don't mean men and I wanna Who am I What am I how am I going to handle that fire? So I'm gonna have your loved one said to him go

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he kept telling me Follow me as I'll be he had a comma who he kept pushing me and kept pushing into Longmeadow the law enforcement ago so I'm going to do law one and then even do the last one where they were both going to the fire that was spreading like crazy. And this person but this person while he had been been Hotmail, he says, You know what I thought? Let me follow them to fundata Ilana, they started walking towards the fire for Jonathan even for Jonathan Eamonn Yahushua Javier de haut de de la de Xiang. He said that the name is Elsa daddy that your loved one started using his hands and pushing as making a gesture towards the fire as if asked him to move back while he was

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reading some blog. He just kept doing this kept doing this until he says the fire retreated into a valley with the meme of alpha entamoeba knows the value of your loved one went inside the valley following the fire and he kept pushing the fire back yopu and Amara, your loved one was there as far as your armor your food, oh my god, about one was there and he began to say lay some on the law. Come on, let me get off. He said what I'm seeing right now. Those after me will never see this. The one who seen it can never be like the one who hasn't seen it by the Hathor and he said it three times lay someone Kamala Mira, these are the miracles from the companions. And for those of you who

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are struggling to understand the concept of miracles that are trying to find a rational understanding of this whole incident, you need to reevaluate your history and the companions and their lives and the generation that follows that in our Islam, we have no denial to miracles miracles is actually a part of our Deen you open up a any text of al Qaeda of a Slavic creed in the one of the first things, one of the things you'll find in there is caught on top that miracles are reality, and in particular, when they come at the hands of a companion. And there are a Senate that actually links us back to it. And among the narratives is you can go and check

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the references there if you'd like to further another honor that the meme of OSA daddy or your loved one has is that he was the first person to publicly give advice, publicly held spiritual gatherings and Madina munawwara. So during the collapse of American photography a lot Juan Simeon came to him and said to him on immutable meaning, we need some more spiritual gathering someone to come in advise people and you know, emotionally encourage them. So a lot of the law when I originally wasn't comfortable, he kept saying no, no, no, he didn't like the sauce, the people who would share stories.

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Because usually storytellers can drift, drift drift and before you know it, rather than sharing the story that was from the purpose that a lot of money was set up from an authentic tradition, they start adding their own mechanic, they start adding their own stuff, they add their own little piece to the story. So a lot of the a lot one didn't like that idea. He felt that someone would exaggerate or maybe fabricate in the process, you know, the month of revealing overlays here. For those of you who didn't notice, now we're getting those messages everywhere. You know, the message that says that whoever tells another person of the first of the build a wall will be will be blessed with paradise.

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So I got that message earlier today. So I sent I replied to the people who messaged me saying that I just want you to know that this is a fabrication. This is a lie attribute towards the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam you should message everyone that you messaged last night and tell them that you apologize for falsely attributing towards the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and since you took this step without verifying it, you should actually make Toba to Allah subhanho wa Taala because falsely attribute something for the purpose of allowing law to set them is a sin within itself.

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So regardless, I mean, those who love one kept insisting kept insisting until finally Oh my god, Allah

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given permission for them at Sara Lee, when amarante about one time he kept repeating it kept repeating it I'm going to do long one asked him actually before he gave him permission, he asked him, he said maltipoo if you do give advice to people, what what advice would you give them? Tell me what you're going to talk about kind of like a little interview brief interview here. So that means as a crow Allah,

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I will read to them the verses of the Quran. Well, I'm a little hungry, and I was encouraged them to do a good one and a half of mine is shut and I will, I will, I will prevent them from doing evil. So I'm out of your loved one said that that could be that's a very good idea. This is success. This is profitable right here if you stick to that. And so then after that, oh my god a lot one told him your first slot for giving the football the one time that you'll get a chance to give you a lecture or two advice people will be before I come out to them to deliver the jumbo football. So everyone gathered for gemasolar before I cannot you will stand and you will advise people and give them

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encouragement, and Amato the loved one during this cut off or throughout the rest of it. That means also that it'll be a long one with advice people for kind of follow dyadic I fell in love with mono is there's other who frazetta who Yamanaka so when your loved one became Khalifa model your loved one said to him that your advice sessions have been very beneficial. Can you please continue advising, so the memory of your loved one, rather than just giving lecture once a week he started advising or giving his lecture how many times twice a week, he continued to live in with the inner monologue until one of your loved one was murdered. Thereafter, he moved over to Shawn and he

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remained in Sham until he passed away there in the year 40. After higit on he was known for to be not only a scholar in Islam, but he was known as a scholar prior to Islam. In Christianity. He was a he was a great priest of his time. And William says kinda rah, rah him aerocity he, he was one of the greatest rabbis of his times, and atharva, who was a famous Professor when he came to the IOM and in the who are a Makita of suta rod when he came to this ayah and I amines and those people who have the knowledge of the book, meaning the the books before so when he came to this idea, he said this is referring to three people, some modern fancy, because of the so many years, you know, over

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100 years of his life he spent with different priests and studying from them and learning from them. And he said Abdullah bin Sena, who was a Jewish rabbi who lived in Madina, munawwara and accepted Islam as a professor of law. My name is Adam. And he said the third person who this this is referring to Amanda who Makita is tamiment, a daddy of the Oba one many habanero from him, including all the love and I'm gonna be a long one I'm loving our bus. And so the old one, the old one, and I thought he is either lazy Robin opha.

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He has 18 ahaadeeth that he narrates for the purpose that allows him there are 18 unique hobbies that he narrates when the hopsital audio system and none of them are narrated by him. I'm hot enough to lie on it. Remember how long it does not narrate anybody from him. In my Muslim Renata la Holly narrates only one Hadith from tamiment. Also value of the long one and that's this heavy throw here. This is the only Hadith Mr. Mr. Muhammad Ali Ali, narrator him. Now I know I just said that. Remember, Heidi doesn't narrate for him. That's half true and half false. How does that have to have false because remember, hydromet Allahu Allah, he has this high standard that he holds to hold

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himself to before he brings the height with its full chain and narrates it into his book. However, if there is a narration that's authentic, but it doesn't meet his condition, generally what he'll do is rather than narrating it with its full chain in the book, that to simplify it, what he'll do is he'll make reference to it in the chapter headings. So you know how, for example, the chapter heading might be the chapter on the importance of purity. And then under that you'll narrate a hobby. What am I mahadi will commonly do and this is exactly what he does. With this hadith right here. He says about Babel calling the beast of Allah while he was selling a demon merci ha naziha

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the chapter with regards to the statement of the prophets of Allah Han He will send them the dean is mercy ha, the deen the religion is sincerity. So what ended that chapter, he brings other ahaadeeth that support this idea, but he doesn't technically narrate the Hadith with his son. So from one perspective, he doesn't narrate anybody from tamiment, also daddy. But from another perspective, he actually does mention this idea, but rather under a chapter, chapter heading. Now, as we mentioned earlier on, when we started off this book, I told you that this is one of those Ahadi that the scholars have said that is one of the foundations of our religion. Mm. odorata. Like it says, it is

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one fourth of our faith. The lesson that is how do you hold the message that is have you hold holds any amount of nowhere under the law, how they actually responds to that statement, that this is one fourth of the religion. He says, Listen, I'm gonna come up and listen, I'm gonna come upon that what they say that this hadith is one fourth of the religion that's not accurate. You know, he says, that's not accurate. But Allah He Medallia Islam. He says this isn't one fourth of the religion. This is the entire religion.

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So he even upset even more that this is how important this Hadeeth right here is. This particular Hadith is narrated from multiple companions in honor of the Allahu I'm so burned out with your loved one of the loving Albus, viola Han Maya and other companions. However, the most authentic chain of this narration comes from the mean but also daddy of your loved one. Now this how do you start this Hadid starts off by the process of a long while it was said I'm saying a demon,

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that the dean is naseeha.

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Those are two Arabic terms. And I kept it that way intentionally because I intend to define each of these individually at Dean and we'll see how a dean What does that mean? a deed means religion. That's how people would generally translate it. But the truth is the word Deen is so compact and holds such a powerful punch. That it's more than just religion. deed actually refers to every element every aspect of your life.

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So the purpose of a long holiday was that I'm saying that your religion actually applies to all of your life. And the most important part of your religion is

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to be submissive means to be sincere. Some people when they use the term to see how they usually mean advice, they use it in the terms of advice, even though the C high does mean advice, but its actual meaning is purity. It means sincerity. And I'll explain that in a moment. So a dino and the SI humming the most important component of your faith is for you to be sincere. Now, what does that sincerely mean? Again, we'll talk about that.

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This statement is similar to another statement of the Prophet sallallahu. It was set up with a possible awesome set of hardrada that the entire Hydras alpha, if there's no autofab there's no hype. So similarly, if there's no sincerity, if you don't care for other people, if you're not there, to advise them and to take advice yourself, then there isn't a religion that you have. You're maybe following some legal framework that you're that keeps you as a Muslim. But as for the essence of Islam, there is nothing of it there at all. Now there's one narration that you can find in the Mustapha alannah, in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam rather than saying this once,

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guttural hatha and he said how many times three times the intimacy ha, at the mercy ha, at the undersea? Ha your religion is sincerely your religion is sincerity. The religion is sincerity.

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And then the companions asked what is sincerity? Or what is the sincerity that you ask us and profit or loss and then explains, so let's first put a definition to

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see how what does this mean sincerity. So I'm a photographer, Allahu Allah says, well, also, if you look at Allah hulu's, that the word naseeha it's derived from the literal word nasaw ha, nose, and nose means something that's pure, you are aloo masala awesome. It is said that I purified Honey,

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you know honey is impure, then it has to go through a process of purification, either phallus to whom in a sham. When I purified of

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what do you call this in candles, they have wax, when you purify the honey from wax, that that process of purifying it is what you call Misato. Meaning I purified it, I cleaned it. So when you clean your heart, and you come to the most sincere, most important part of it. And either you deliver that to yourself or you delivered to another person. So for example, if someone comes to you and says, brother advise me or sister advise me? What advice do you give them? You give them what you're the first thought that comes to your heart? Or do you think about it and really ask yourself what is the best thing for this person? Or do you consider your own benefit and their benefit? And

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then advise them according to your own benefit? What do you do? What do you say when someone asks you something? So I didn't know see how means you don't just give someone a half baked answer. But when you come to people, when you look at people, when you look at society around you, you don't give it half of you, you give it all of you. You really ask yourself how can this society become better? How can people become better? How can individuals become better in order for you to get that answer? You have to really go down inside and purify the honey from the wax. You have to purify your thoughts and make dua to Allah Allah open my heart yet Allah open my heart. Now one thing I want you

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to know, this process of purifying what remains at the end is something very special. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will reward you for what you say even if what you say doesn't end up helping that person. Sometimes you may give advice to someone, but even though you made your best effort, it doesn't work out for that person. You're not sin for that you're not punished for Allah subhana wa tada for that you are so responsible of giving it your best, and then also how to whom I thought I was somehow some way or the other, give buttock on what you say. And people will come to you and they will ask you when their marriages are struggling or when they're struggling with their college

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and they're not sure which degree to follow through with or in a first year college. Everybody knows you change your degree three times. So you're not sure where you want your life to go. Or you're sitting with your friends and you ask them what should we have for dinner?

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You have to give them advice. So make sure you give them advice based off of it's kind of like husband and wife sitting together and husband asked his wife, what do you what should we have for dinner? And rather than saying what would be good, you end up saying what you want, right? You feed your thought onto that person, which is okay, by the way with a husband wife relationship, obviously. But you say what's most sincere and what remains in your heart?

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allama katavi LaHood Allahu Allah, then while giving it a more technical, more Salafi definition, what is sincerely mean? He says, Here, here, here, here, your autoclave. illman suhaila, who naseeha means to give the absolute best answer you can give for the one who seeks your advice. And then Alabama, Georgia had to lie they says that what is the Seahawks, he says naseeha is to call people towards that which is good for them, which is best for them, and to save them from that which is bad for them. Even though they may like it or not. That's another story, but you give them your best. Remember, all the other Swanee says that sincerity is for a person to make their best estimate

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in terms of statements and actions, and then give that to the person who's asking them for advice. Okay, you give the person the best you have for advice. And sometimes what you may tell someone, they may not like it. But your job isn't to entertain them. Unless you're asking that if you if they're asking you for your advice. You give them what's best for them. Someone's coming to you who's 19 years old, but doesn't have a penny into their name and just about to go through college and says, shall I find a girl and I want to get married to her? What do you think? What do you tell them?

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You got to wait. You got to find you got it. You need to earn money, you need to have a life you need to be able to support your family. How are you going to marry someone and live off the dollar of your father and then have the the courage to call the call the shots in your marriage to stand up against possible oppression that made it that may occur against your own spouse, you have to tell that person whether they like it or not, you need to stop what you're doing. This is not good for you. This is not healthy for you. Now when you get to see how when you do advise people, it's important to take into consideration the etiquette of advising people now we'll come to that in a

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few moments. But anyway, advising people to what is best for them. Now, some people one more point I want to mention before I move forward, this is where the term flow button The suhar comes from sincere repentance. It's where you put all of when you where you pull, pull all of the impurity out of your heart and you sincerely repent to Allah. And after that repentance, dislike the wax beads, the honey, all of that drains left in your heart is pure sincerity, and you've washed your heart of sins that's worth over 10 This will help comes from a very sincere from the heart repentance.

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Now there are some people who are just selfish livers. for them. As long as life works for me, I'm happy. I don't care about other people. You know, I don't care about advising other people's none of my business, I'm just going to stay quiet for myself, I'll stay on the public transport and someone else is getting molested. It's none of my business. If someone else is getting racially abused, it's none of my business. It's something wrong is happening to another person. It has nothing to do with me so I'm not going to get involved with it. So for that sort of an attitude, there are some narrations I want to share with you.

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The first is 100. From the amount of the Allahu anhu says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, the one who doesn't care about the affairs of other Muslims. That person who's very comfortable with living in their own ignorance in the bliss of their ignorance, fillet some in home, that person is not from those believers. The one who doesn't care about the affair of the believers is not from them. This is for that person who says, You know what, I don't live in Syria. I don't live in Miramar, Burma. I don't live in that country that's going through that struggle. So it's none of my business. If that's what you think, for a second, then you're not one of them. This

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recently, I was watching this

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this little clip of news, where there was a there was a leader of a country that was that was interviewed. And they said that this leader of the country that one of your neighboring countries, the there are Muslims there who are going through a genocide. They're literally being wiped out, because they're listening, why don't you host them? And you know what this what this person said, this person said, that's their country, their problem, not ours. We're not interested in hosting them, we don't care about them, they can deal with their own issue. And that person then asked this, this leader the country, that don't you know, that there's genocide occurring there, do you accept

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that? So this leader says that it's none of my business. You know, whether it's happening there or not, I don't care. It's none of my business. So for that sort of an attitude of opposite allamani he looks at him says, Man, let me be unreleased me or one narration muslimeen fundraising, the one who doesn't concern themselves or doesn't care about the affair of other Muslims, he is not from us. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in one narration as narrated by God but did not have the long one. didn't even have did not have their loved one says by by alternative use of the language they will send them out Illa Allah, Allah is oneness, equally Muslim. He says that I took allegiance

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at the hands of the prophets that along with a will set him that I will be punctual and on my salon. I will be punctual and giving my

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Jessica, and I will be sincere for other people. Someone needs me, I will be there for them. There's a narration from the validity of your loved one. The Prophet said a long while he was helping me out in a mini system. There are six writes, every believer has upon one another. There are 16 every one of us all one another. What are those 16 speed up? Well, my home out of sutala instead, I just want to have a look. What are those six things he said, he thought a pizza who for sending money. When you meet your brother, your first responsibility is that you send out money for them. When you meet your sister. Your first responsibility is that you say I said on Monday come to them. And then this

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issue comes up what's the ruling of saying Salaam to someone from the opposite gender? Well, if you're saying that I'm to flirt with them, then you're better off without it. But if you can maintain some honesty and some dignity in yourself as a human being, and you can say Salaam to another person without flirting to them, then there's nothing wrong with that at all the companions, the wives of the Prophet allow this and the female companions, they say that one time we were sitting, and there are a group of female companions, this group of them across from Medina monado different women. They said we were sitting in the process of along while he was set up past bias,

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and he raised his hand and he said a cinematic and follow us. So yes, it is found within the people from one gender giving Salaam to another gender. It's just silly. I'm telling you, the guy who doesn't have a problem with giving some to Pete the guy who doesn't have a problem with fist pumping and say hi and you know, shoulder rubbing with people from opposite gender at school or at work or everywhere else. Fuck all of a sudden when it comes to someone, another sister who maybe is carrying 10 bags out of Walmart and going to her car, he says, you know, it's against modesty for me to go to her and says that I'm not equal to her warrior, Mashallah. Super warrior. Right? Put your put

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yourself in balance.

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And the second thing The Prophet said, allamani he was sent him says,

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lady that the aka Jeep, who and when your brother invites you over when he says come over to my house, I would like for you and your siblings to come over. Except that advice. Except invitation. You go to that person's house and someone says to you, I want you to come over to my house. I want you and your parents to come over. It's your responsibility as a Muslim that you always accept invitations because when you accept invitations, you're hartsville bond they will become very strong. And if you refuse someone's invitation what's going to happen

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they're going to feel thinner they won't they'll think that you they weren't worthy of you going to their house while you're the stencil haka fun sadhana Who the hell some says and when he seeks or when someone seeks advice from you. The your etiquette the proper etiquette is that you give them advice. And when someone sneezes, you say, and when someone sneezes, and says and hamdulillah you respond back by saying your hammock Allah and the professor says and when your brother become sick, you will go to visit him sooner that is lost in our times, by the way, people are sick, they're in hospitals, they're at home and nobody cares. Nobody knows everyone's just in their own world.

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The best thing you can do is go to a person who's sick and spend five minutes with them you have no idea how happy you make them. Make this a part of your life. Go and find where the sick people are. Go and ask people is there someone sick send them an email give them a call send them a text even if it's just a random person. Hey, I was in Jamal Salah today and I made an announcement that so and so person was sick and asked the relatives and they told me this is your number. I just want to let you know I'm making the law for you. That's it. You know how happy that person will be? You don't even know that person but you're going through your Facebook feed and you find out that someone's sick

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someone says they're sick send a message on the site. You don't know me but I just want you to know I found out you were sick and I'm making a lot for you. That's to hold on inshallah. Be patient. Don't worry about it. Allah subhana wa tada will purify you through your illness. And the last person the last six thing.

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The opposite allamani was set him says that when you're when he dies when your Muslim brother dies, that you follow his body, you are there with him after he dies for the janazah and for the burial and for the whole process.

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Philemon IOD says that sincerity comes from two different motivators, the first thing that can motivate you to be sincere for someone is fear.

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Okay, so the reason why you give it your best while you're at work is because you fear that if you don't give it your best, what's gonna happen, you're gonna get sacked. That's why. So that's why out of fear you give it your best. But if that person who you fear isn't in front of you, will you be sincere to them in their absence? Not at all. People they talk smack about their bosses all the time. It was a big thing. People used to talk smack about their bosses on social media until the bosses started reading social media and sort of firing and then they realize okay, you know what, let's keep it off social media. We'll just talk smack about our bosses and people who intimidate us

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offline, in our in our private gatherings. But as for someone who is sincere for other people, because of their love for humanity, this person is gold, because they'll be sincere in front of you and they'll be sincere behind you. Even if they're not in the machine. Their thought will be How can I bring benefit to the community? How can I What can I do next? What can I do next? And that Southern person is

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Way more worth the buck. If you find someone in your life who loves you and is sincere to you, because they love you find that person, make that person, your friend, make that person, your brother and sister and never let them go. Because these people are very few in the world. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to the companions of Dina Missy, ha, the dean is sincere. And that sounds like a very vague statement. I mean, I'm not sure if you guys still know where this is going. Probably have an idea from what we've talked about, maybe, maybe not. So the companions they were a little confused by the statement. It's a very broad, very rich statement, but they

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didn't know what what it actually met.

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So now we see the companions they jumped immediately and they say, they said, O Messenger of Allah, sincerity, for whose sincerity for what this shows us how they were very, very eager to learn more. They wanted to know they just weren't listening for the sake of listening they wanted to know. So they asked the Messenger of Allah, what does this mean? And the second thing we learn that when they do ask the professor along while he was submissive, Nemanja rasulillah they say Yasuda law, which teaches us the etiquette and the other they have for the professor long audio system. They don't say yeah, Mohamad. They don't say yeah, about classroom. They say Yasuda ma O Messenger of Allah. And

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Allah Allah Allah Allah says that to remember the purpose to make mention of the prophets of Allah while he was sitting by his kuhnian. calling him a double classroom is a good thing. He says, what the crew who he was he had rissalah acid. But to make reference to the purpose of the long line he was sent him by calling him Yasuda law. Yeah, the viola that is even better. That's why you'll find the scholars when they make reference to the prophets of Allah Hollywood sermon, their lecture, they'll say, the messengers have a long way to set him said, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, because this is one of the best ways to call on to the prophets of Allah. Hi, my name is sir.

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Now before we get into what are the different dimensions of being sincere and how to advise other people, and so on? The most important lesson is, if you can't take advice, don't give advice.

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If you can't listen, don't speak. Don't be that guy, or that girl who just wants to keep advising the whole world on how to become better. The who wants to keep talking to people, that sister who keeps telling their younger sister, this is where your life is messed up. And this is what you need to do. And that way, that's what you need to do with that older brother who keeps telling his younger one, that your life is messed up your your life is messed up there, but isn't willing to listen to criticism themselves. If you can't listen to criticism, you have a very big problem. You know, and that was fit Allen's number one problem. That was the number one problem. These guys had a

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problem with listening to criticism, you know, but I would always wonder to tell everyone, I'm not a vocal Malala. And Otto wanted to tell everyone that all of this wealth is due to my own knowledge. He didn't want to listen to people. And that's what the prophets came every one of the prophets that came to their communities, what do they tell their communities? Well, I'm in the Kumasi when I mean well. unsa Hola, como endocrinological. I mean, they kept saying, I'm here to advise you, I'm here to give you advice. I'm sincere for you. But every time the Prophet came with that message, the people said, we're not interested in listening. If you want to cause change, you have to desire

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change. So you have to be willing to do let change occur to you first, you have to be first you have to first be willing to be changed before you can give change to someone else. And the Quran talks about this Allah Subhana Allah says in Surah Nisa, yeah, you already know. Amina benefits the Shahada, Allah, Allah Allah unfussy can be those who stand as witnesses in face of justice standard with stand with Gurukul Amina will be custodians of justice Shahada, Allah witnesses for Allah subhana wa Tada, even if it means against yourself. If someone comes to you and tells you something that you're wrong, listen to it. Maybe at the time of it's very hard for you to listen, I'm telling

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you from my personal experience, sometimes someone may come to you and just really just unleash their heart and say something really harsh to you.

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But listen to it. Because maybe not today. But a year from now, what they're saying may end up making sense to you. There was a famous scholar from the subcontinent by the name of chef Rashid Ahmed, Chef Rashid Ahmed can go here.

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It is known regarding him that he became blind towards the end of his life. Towards the end of his life, his eyesight became very weak, he couldn't see much. My teachers, teachers, Father, so my teachers, teachers, Father, at that time, he went to shift and she said to shift, your eyesight is weak. I'm sure you could use with the help or someone who can do

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for you and help you out. I want to be that person. So shift as you said, Okay, so what this person would do is he would read shift machines letters to him. She doesn't she was known for being someone who actively stood up in the face of law. So there were many people in India who didn't like him too much. They would actually swear at him and write hate letters to him.

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So she has a sheet every day, his students would come and read letters to him. You know, this letter came today, and he would do killer response to him and he would write a response to him. So what

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She'd said to him

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earlier. Yeah. Oh, yeah. yahama dasuki happening. What happened? Our friends stopped writing letters to us. Where's the fan mail gone? He's actually talking about what?

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The haters, the hate mail. So then she'd said,

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has mercy, Mr. cardinia t shirt, I can't read those letters, I can't, how am I going to read letters out loud, in which openly that person is cussing at my teacher, and one of the big scholars of our time and using foul language. So Sheila said, wouldn't go be Pollyanna coin is here to hug him up now. Because when I

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read those two, don't skip those. Because within that foul language, there might be something in there that I can use to fix myself, make myself a better person. That's a whole different level of teskey, sincerity, humbleness, or someone standing in front of you, who's cussing at you, and being very harsh to you, you can still listen to them. That's why even if someone's really angry, and they're really just laying it on you, they're lashing you out. Just listen to them. You don't have to respond. Just listen to them, though. Because who knows, maybe five days from now a month from now, you might think about that incident again. And you might be able to fight through all of the

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aggression that you had, and just pay attention to their words. And you might find what they're saying actually has a lot of meaning has a lot of meaning.

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Yvonne Judy Rahim Allahu taala says that you can never be a sincere person advising others until you learn to advise yourself. And he says you can only advise yourself if you go and seek knowledge.

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And you know that shaytaan is your enemy. And you learn how to save yourself from shavon and see where he's leading this here. Learn to protect yourself before you go out and advise other people. Now let's come to the honey that stuff coming back to the honey. The Companions as well doesn't have a lot. Be sincere for who? The man for Who should we be sincere. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam starts off by saying first and foremost be sincere for Allah subhana wa Tada. What does it mean to be sincere for Allah because that kind of means that Allah subhanaw taala is asking for our sincerity, hence in need of our sincerity, therefore we need to be sincere for Allah. So Allah

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Allahu Allah says we're happy to have him evolve. Rajasthan Illa de phenos he had enough see here in LA. He says, even though it's the language is be sincere for Allah. In essence what it actually means is bs sincere to yourself when it comes to your relationship with Allah subhana wa Tada. The actual Ivanova is to yourself, it's you don't need to be sincere for Allah. You need to be sincere to yourself when it comes to your relationship with Allah subhana wa Tada. He says, Well hold on to you and I'm just calling us in because Allah subhanho wa Taala does not need anyone's advice. Allah subhana wa tada is above that and greater than that.

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So what does it mean to be sincere to yourself when it comes to a relationship with Allah, the first thing, having sound faith in Allah subhana wa Tada. That's the most important thing you can give yourself. That's the best way for you to build your relationship with Allah have sound faith, chiffon will come every now and then and whisper and whisper and try to mess with your mind. We've become a people that have been that are found with our own intellect. Right? And we very easily take theories for facts. You guys understand that? we misunderstand what theory is. And we interpret it and read it as facts. So you hear people saying stuff like

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the fact of evolution, when it's not a fact, this is a theory. Ultimately, you have to remember that no matter whatever theory, human beings come up, have come up with your sincerity. The most important thing you can give to yourself is don't let those theories impact your belief in Allah subhana wa Tada. As a theory it is what it is, right? People come up with theories all the time. I'm sure each of you have your crazy theories here. And you know, but the reality is that we believe in what is monism in a law what has been set down by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And I'm not saying that we need to brush evolution out the window, maybe a part of it, not maybe it's very possible that a

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part of it has its place in reality, but then there's a part of it that may clash with your emotion. That's where you need to hold your ground and say the most important thing for me, how can I be sincere with myself is hold my emotions strong

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to believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala has oneness, to be sincere when you worship Allah subhana wa tada to spend all of your power and all of your strength when it comes to obeying the law and when it comes to staying away from Allah subhanaw taala has told you to stay away from being sincere to Allah subhana wa tada means that you sit with yourself and you talk to yourself and you acknowledge the favors that Allah subhanho wa Taala has showered upon you being sincere to Allah subhanho wa Taala means you've your friend those who are the friends of Allah subhanho wa Taala. being sincere to yourself with Allah subhanho wa Taala means you draw up

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Those friends and those people from your life who have no interest in their Creator Allah subhana wa tada distanced yourself from them because a marijuana dainius Lee, one person will take color from the person they hang out with. You are affected by your friends, this is what it means to be sincere for Allah. Then after that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says when he kitabi he and to be sincere for the book of Allah subhanahu wa tada What does it mean to be sincere for the book of Allah? Again, the Quran doesn't need our sincerity, how you can be sincere to yourself and build a connection with Allah on first and foremost you believe in the Quran, the opening versus sort of

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Baccarat What is it? Alif Lam mean?

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vansickle kita. Laurie, Buffy that's us saying Yella I'm going to press everything I read in this book. I'm not going to doubt it. I'm going to trust it. Some of it may not make logical sense resurrection after death may not make logical sense to you rather I'm here after may not make logical sense to you. Gentlemen Johanna may sound like a dream to you. That's what some may interpreted. But if the Quran says it, yeah.

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I will submit myself to it.

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And then also, to accept that this put on and every part of it is revelation. It was revealed by Allah subhanho wa Taala There is no doubt in its preservation what you're reading is what was revealed, and that it is impossible for any person to ever bring Calum to bring a speech to bring anything that can ever compare to their to the column of Allah subhana wa tada for the Quran. And to read the Koran properly pronounce its words properly fulfill the rulings that need to be fulfilled when reading the Quran. To accept the warnings of the Quran, to accept the promises of the Quran, and to reflect over the miraculous nature of the Quran, to practice the commands of the Quran and to

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accept the part of the Quran that may be difficult for you to understand, like what is the meaning of Alif laam mean? You except Allah subhanaw taala has put it there. It has a meaning but it's beyond me. You submit yourself to the put on, you give time to the put on, not just have a copy and let that dust gather on your shelf, read it, commit yourself to the Quran. And then when you have a Sunni here to be sincere to the messenger again the same thing, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam doesn't mean are sincere, be sincere to yourself to help build a bond with the Prophet salallahu audio system. What does that mean? First and foremost, you accept his prophethood you

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accept that he was a messenger. You accept everything that he brought and everything that he called towards science, you may or may not accept it. We are a people that are obsessed with science. That's what our issue is. I don't mind using science as a additional tool for dogma. But to base your whole religion on science as unhealthy because science is still being developed. While revelation has come to an end.

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You know, we don't accommodate revelation into science we accommodate science into revelation, because science is the comprehension of human beings. It's a result of what the human beings put their effort into. While revelation is the kingdom of Allah subhana wa tada it's a speech of Allah subhana wa Tada. And it is flawless without any doubt at all, and that you follow the command of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you refrain from what he told you to refrain from. You give preference to his love over yourself and over your children over your own family members. And some scholars who say while you're slowly he His Messenger, could be a broad category could be a Jim's,

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which means you are sincere to all of the messengers of Allah, which includes all the prophets and all the messengers. And you can also include angels because angels are also messengers of Allah subhana wa tada allow us to female and melodica t rousselot. Dominus Allah subhana wa tada selects messengers from people and also from angels. Why in Medina muslimeen and that you are sincere to the leaders of the Muslims. Now, what is this leaders of Muslims talking about? Some scholars, they say this is talking about the technical, governmental position and alpha are the not able to hit the the successor, someone who governs the Muslim body or someone who's a successor of the one who governs

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them somebody?

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If that's the case, then what does it mean? First and foremost, we obey them. If we have leaders upon us who are in positions that they've been elected into, or they've been appointed into, we have to obey them. The mirror of your image will come to me part later on versus keep this on someone who's actually in a political position. So you obey what they say. Second of all, you don't rebel against them. rebellion against your leaders is not a good thing. It's not something that's praiseworthy. Similarly, when you mention it, when you mentioned them, when you make when you talk about them, talk about them with honor and respect. And if they make a mistake, you remind them

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you're there to remind them and you, you, you build a relationship with them from your heart, you know, I'm gonna help one of your loved one when he was appointed as Khalifa. And similarly, the last one when he was appointed as Khalifa the first and they told everyone was it

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If we if we guide you towards that which is right follow us. And if we make a mistake be there to correct us. We want you to be the people that correct us. Another group of scholars they say

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this isn't restricted to the law or the people in a legal position in a political position. This actually refers to mimin Yakumo be a Moodle Muslim. He admits hobbling denial. This refers to anyone who takes the responsibility of taking care of the affairs of the Muslims. So this will not go to the president of your membership. The president of your MSA, the president of your Muslim, your Muslim club at the high school, this goes to your local imams your teacher, that you are sincere to them. What is sincerity? Does that mean? Again similarly

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that you follow their you follow their commands, you're not disrespectful to them publicly or privately that you love them, you appreciate the good they do. You're there to advise them if they make a mistake, and you follow them. You're scholars when it comes to legal rulings, and you always have good thought of them. You know that one of the saddest things about our oma today,

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if you become president of anything, any Muslim organization or any Muslim body, you know that someone in the community is going to think that this person did it to stroke their own ego or to embezzle the funds of the Muslim community. That is like definitely going to happen. Someone in the community is gonna say, how do you think Dr. sobs driving a Lexus? They forgot the fact that the guys, he's got a full time job. And he's doing something. I mean, people, how's the mom? You know, driving a Ferrari Ferrari is not a good example. Because the moms don't drive those. But how's the mom driving a BMW? How is he driving a Mercedes? Everyone somehow assumes that the machine is like

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this golden pot that there's just a lot of money sitting around. And whoever joins the machine can just come and take whatever money they want to leave.

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Trust me, man, that's not true. I've been around for many years, and I've been advisor to many massages. And I'll tell you had it not been for the favorite of a lot financially, most massages wouldn't be able to function. It's just a favorite of a lot of luggages Baraka and Allah subhanaw taala blesses the community members to donate to the community. And that's how these massagin function have been. Think good about your leaders don't think that everyone's embezzling, and everyone's trying to stroke their own ego and get their one up on others.

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And the last part of the Hadith while he Amati him, and to be sincere to the to the common folk, to the common person, how can you be sincere to the common person, you save them from any harm that's coming to them, you teach them that which they don't know from their worldly, and they're here after affairs, someone's applying for a job and you know about it, rather than just letting them sit there? What should you do? Help them, help them with the interview, you know, someone's working on at the gym, and you know that they're doing that benchpress completely wrong, or they're doing their arm curl completely wrong while they're doing their arm curl their back is like, flopping back and

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forth like a springboard, you need to go and tell them brother, you're going to have spinal injury, that to keep your back straight, lower the weight if you need to. But watch out someone who's trying to lose weight and you see them eating doughnuts.

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Now, you almost Cannot you can't do this my friend, but I went to the gym, well, 20% gym 80% diet, you got to learn to watch after your diet. They say Healthy People are made in the kitchen, not in the gym, give them advice, be there for them, how people, if you've gone through an ailment, or if your physician needs someone sees him, see someone that's on the ground, go and go and help them go and advise them be there for them

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when they are mad at him, and to help them with your statement and with your actions and to cover their flaws. This is also your sincerity. You know what someone's flaw, don't talk about it. Keep it a secret between you and Allah unless you have to disclose it to save other people from their harm.

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To save them from any harm that's coming out there, bring good towards them, command them for good save them from doing evil, to honor the elder of them to be merciful upon the younger one of them.

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To not back by them to not be jealous of them. Jealousy is the disease of our age. Every one of us probably has some element of jealousy in our heart. You know, they say 100 watts or

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people of one generation will always hate one another. That people who are in your class, people who you studied with when you move on with life, it's very possible you'll keep looking at them and seeing whether they're ahead of you or you're ahead of them 100 Masada alone, when I follow people from one generation, will all we have jealousy between one another so you may go out a lot less popular purifies your heart, you might wish to have to lie yadi

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he has one very beautiful line of poetry. He says

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Dom madonie be new speaker fi inferiority. This is now we're coming to the etiquettes of advisor and we're going to close with this now. I think how do you advise someone all of these people let's say for example, whether it's a leader whether it's a common person, your parents, if you have to advise someone, how do you advise them? on WhatsApp? You notice you're in like a family 100 group and you notice someone just said something really silly.

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You want to say something about it? You want to call them out? What do you do?

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I met the Venus HCA fee in ferati. Remember Sheffield love it says, if you want to advise me, please advise me when we're alone.

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Well, gentlemen, Phil, Gemma, and please never correct me in front of the people saying this has been a nasty note on minute Toby's law out of our HTML. He said, because when you correct me in front of other people, in reality, you're insulting me. And I have no desire to listen to someone insulting me in front of people publicly. The first lesson if you want to be sincere to someone, never correct someone publicly to privately call them to the side for even a out says.

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And let me know yes to the way Elsa will fight you to.

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The believer secretly advises he calls someone to the side and privately talks to him. while fighting juliaca and the transgressor publicly humiliate. He gets a kick out of it, to stand in front of the whole congregation and say, What you said is wrong. Is it possible what that person said was wrong? It's very possible. Is it possible that Imam may have made a mistake and a reference? It's very possible that happens? We're all human beings? Well, if you want to correct someone, come to them privately. Talk to them privately. help them learn privately. Because here's the question. This leads to the second point, second etiquette of advising. When we're advising

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someone, before you say a word, you need to ask yourself a very important question.

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Am I trying to help that person? Or am I trying to stroke my own ego and prove I got one up on them? Because if I'm trying to advise that person, I need to turn the volume down. I need to sift through my words and select words that will help that person not stand in front of that person rather than rather stand next to that person. Rather than saying view, focus more on saying we rather than saying your life is messed up saying we need to focus on being more punctual in our lives, we need to focus on that not backbiting. So because when you say we, you you're putting that person in the spotlight, they don't listen to anymore, say we kill it, bring it onto yourself, kill the anger,

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kill the rage. Rather than calling up someone when you're angry, let's say husband or wife, get into an argument. Don't correct someone when you're angry, because you won't correct anyone. You're going to harm yourself, you're going to harm your marriage. It happens all the time. If you have to say something, when you're angry, wait for the anger to pass by and then say it. But just don't say something because it's very, very probable that you might see something to your mother and father that you will regret even after you bury them in the ground. Maybe you might say something to your children, that you'll have to regret if you outlive them. Never Say something. So someone when

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you're angry. There are the etiquettes you know, a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has so many examples of this.

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And then, as the one who has been given the advice, never rejected, like we were saying at the beginning, someone gives you advice, be ready to listen to it, and accept it. If someone if you ask someone for advice, and they tell you something you don't like, Don't humiliate that person in the community like this happened to me, once someone came to me and said to me, Chef, my husband, my son is getting married, we'd like for you to give him some advice. So I used to do this class before someone was getting married, I would tell the couple to come in the husband and wife to be to come in and I would give them a one hour introduction to marriage class.

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So I tell the parents usually that if you guys want to be there, you're more than welcome to be there. But I advise you not be there. Because I might say some say certain things that you will like. So one father said, you know, no, no, no, I love you. You're very good person, I'm gonna come. That was his biggest mistake he came. Because I don't hold back from giving advice. If someone asked me for advice, be very careful before you ask me because I'll say it to you. So they sat down. And a part of my advice, I was giving advice on how to deal with the in laws. And the one of the one of the best advice I can give to someone who's planning to get married. In particular, considering our

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culture, our environment in the western America. My advice usually is after you get married, don't live with your parents, share a wall with them live next door to them, but don't live with them. live next door, if you have to live in the unit on top living in the unit, the bottom. If you want to live in one house, make sure that the door has a key that leaves into your side of the home that can only be opened by someone who possesses that key. And all of that person should have a copy of the key who lives with you downstairs. You understand, you want to go upstairs, there's no way to come inside upstairs, downstairs, you can't come open one door and come inside. You want to come

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downstairs, walk around the house and come downstairs. So when I said this, that father said the shifts turn to turn our kids access. And he went on this smear campaign against me that you know this shift right here just turn turn the kids against the parents and he was one thing to love their parents. And he doesn't understand the Koran says this and the husband says this, and it's high that he became so much more refined and he was just really on he really really after me. Afterwards I went to that brother and I said to him, what you've done was the greatest piano. You've You've betrayed, because you asked me for my trust.

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I gave it to you, and then you betrayed me. You want my trust, you have to make sure you really you really want. If you ask for my trust, you have to really want it. It's kind of like a parent who says to their child,

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that, you know, he says to the chef, Chef, my child came back from college other day. And they said that he said that he found a girl who's willing to convert to Islam to so that he can marry that so he can marry the girl. But his parents, me and my husband are not happy with it. So can you tell our son how important it is to obey his parents. So you sit down with a Sunday say, young man, young girl, it's so important you obey your parents, and your parents are not happy. So

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somehow this guy, he got he runs into this is Okay, you know what my mom and dad aren't happy? Okay, I won't do it. Then one year later, the mom comes back in office and says shift. We found it, we found one of our cousin's to marry our son, and he they're not ready to get married. But now our son, he's not willing to do the marriage the way we want to do it. Can you please tell him how important it is for him to obey his parents? And I said, Young man, young, young girl, what's wrong? Why don't you want to have the marriage the way your parents wanted? He says shift You're the one who told me that I need to make religion a priority in my life. My parents want music and dancing.

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And I told him that's wrong. So we're not doing it. And now they're angry. So we select when we want religion when we don't want religion. So I told his parents that I'm sorry, what your what your son is saying from a religious standpoint is right, what you're telling them to do.

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So they said,

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This is what you teach kids to speak back to their parents. You teach children to rebel against their parents. This is pure Fianna someone comes to you for advice. You're going to tell them what you feel, you have not the choice to take it or leave it. But you can never go after that person and smear that person for giving advice. What are some benefits of giving advice? First and foremost, know that being sincere to other people, is a gem from your faith. If you can care about every one that you see, every animal that you interact with every road that you walk on every tree that you stand under, if you can be sincere to it, know that your Iman is actually doing something to you.

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It's having an impact on your know that spiritually you're growing.

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Second thing, if you can be sincere to others, this is a proof that you are no longer selfless, and you are not willing to make sacrifice for other people. Serving. The moment you become you start giving advice for the people sincerely and you genuinely care about other people. Your friends list on Facebook will increase that on Facebook, literally your family, your friend numbers will increase the feeder is hot, the scholars who say you'll have more companions, because everyone wants someone who genuinely cares about them. And that was one of the most beautiful characteristics of the Prophet allamani was to them. And the most important the greatest benefit of this is that you will

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be a positive contributor to our society. Every day. If you give one positive piece of advice to someone and you take one positive piece of advice for yourself. society around you, the people around you will slowly start improving and each person will bring change in their life. So we close off with this beautiful Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu it was said of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the deen religion isn't sincere we said to whom a messenger of Allah He said to Allah, his book, His Messenger and to the leader of the leaders of the Muslims, and the common folk. This Hadith is narrated by Mr. La Jolla. And so he pray that Allah subhanaw taala purifies our

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hearts and allows us to experience this level of sincerity for ourselves and for humanity at large. Pray that Allah subhana wa tada delivers sincere advice to all of those that are searching for it. And that Allah subhanho wa Taala inspires the hearts of those who are advising others with sincerity. Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all in our affairs was that a lot a lot. I sent him home and said I want to live on Academy