Husain Sattar – Obeying your Parents
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The speaker discusses the importance of respecting parents and not blurting out words during a conversation. They emphasize the need to think twice before making statements and to be fearful of speaking to parents. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of treating parents with respect and not being oppressed.
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The individual who disobeys parents.
Understand that the parents' right is very, very
high within the deen.
So much so that it's written in books
of Philip that if you let's say a
man is married to a righteous woman,
the best wife that's available on the planet
earth,
but his mother comes
and his mother says, I don't like her.
I want you to divorce her.
In the the right that that individual should
go ahead and divorce that wife.
That's the level that the parents have,
the respect that's due to a parent. Why?
Because divorce is
a action.
It's an equivocal action, but listening to the
parents is mandatory.
So
even in that case, that's the extremity.
They're highlighting an extremity
of how an individual should obey their parents,
how they should respect their parents, the type
of relationship that a human being should have
with their parents.
So on this day and age, right, at
this particular time, when we do so much
to disobey Allah, and we're so dependent on
his special mercy, especially on these particular nights,
sit down and reflect on the relationship that
we have with our parents.
Where there's a problem, make amends.
And every time in the future, think twice
before you speak. There are certain people that
you never speak until you think twice, but
we're very quick about just reacting and saying
whatever we wanna say.
We go ahead and sometimes say things and
we don't necessarily mean them. Later on, we
regret them because we don't think before we
speak. It's human nature to just blurt out
words and later on say why did I
say that.
But in the case of the parents, it's
very important that you think twice,
think thrice, think 4 times before you make
any statement because you are speaking
to a particular individual that Allah
has raised far above you. And one misstatement
can actually put you from the side of
Allah's servant to the side of someone whom
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala dislikes. So we should
be very particular, very fearful, in fact, of
how we speak to our parents, when we
speak to our parents, the tone with which
we speak to our parents, the way we
look at our parents, the way we treat
our parents, all of this falls under one
particular one ruling within the Sharia, and that
is the exalted status that Allah
has bestowed to parents. Now we don't worship
the parents.
People say, well, what are you worshiping the
parents? No. We don't worship the parents.
Allah raised the parents. We worship Allah.
We are the servants of Allah. Allah says
treat the parents this way, so therefore, we
obey as servants and treat the parents that
way. Whomever Allah raises, we also raise. And
whomever Allah
disgraces,
we also disgrace.
So this isn't an inherent quality.
Your parents do not need to be the
best parents in the world. I can't tell
you the number of emails saying, brother, you
don't know. I tried to treat my parents
properly, but you don't even know how bad
my parents are. You know what? It makes
no difference. They could be the most wicked
people on the planet. It makes absolutely no
difference because we don't treat our parents well
because they treated us well.
We treat them well because Allah told us
to treat them well. In fact, if you
have the most wicked parents on earth, it
is the opportunity of a lifetime for you
to prove that the only reason you treat
them well is because Allah told you to
treat them well. It's very easy to treat
your parents well when they cook for you,
clean for you, serve you, treat you like
a king. Of course, you're gonna treat your
parents well. There's no test there.
The real test lies when your parents actually
oppress you in a way that you feel,
quote, unquote, is oppressive.
Right? Your own feeling, it could be. But
let's say you feel that you're being oppressed.
It's on that circumstance that you have to
stand up and do it for the sake
of Allah.
Treat them with respect, honor their honor and
dignity
because Allah commanded you to do so. So
very important to keep in mind this matter
of the.