Hosai Mojaddidi – Prophetic Prescriptions For The Broken-Hearted

Hosai Mojaddidi
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The importance of understanding the physical and psychological weight of words and actions in relation to one's behavior and well-being is emphasized. The physical and psychological weight of words and actions is highlighted as crucial for achieving a balanced life and healing. The Prophet s.a.w. warns against religious extremism and advises against seeking perfection in life. The importance of spiritual fortification and patience in a difficult life is emphasized, and a strong campaign for a stronger life is ongoing.
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Are you a parent?

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Are you struggling with your kids?

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Do you constantly worry about their future?

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Are you a student and feeling overwhelmed with

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school and the pressure to excel?

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Are you working every day but can't seem

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to get out of debt?

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Are you chronically tired and have a hard

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time focusing?

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If you answered yes to any of these

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questions, know that you are not alone.

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According to the American Psychological Association's Stress in

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America 2022 survey, 66% of adults report

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that money is a major source of stress,

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with 57% stating that they stress the

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most over expenses like food and rent.

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The remaining 43% said they stress mostly

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about money and the future.

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Approximately 75% of US adults stressed over

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violence and crime.

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And around 34% of adults report feeling

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completely overwhelmed by stress on most days and

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they experience forgetfulness, lack of concentration, and difficulty

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making decisions.

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When hearing such alarming statistics, it should come

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as no surprise that a common question perplexing

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many of us today is, how can we

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achieve well-being when life is so overwhelmingly

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and increasingly stressful?

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Everything about our modern lifestyles promotes chronic stress

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and dis-ease in the body and soul,

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which is the complete opposite of balance.

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If we think about aspects of our daily

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lives such as how we eat and drink,

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work, socialize, spend money, waste precious time on

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entertainment and social media, and neglect our overall

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health, we have to conclude that we are

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hardly living at all.

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Additionally, when we consider our family and work

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obligations, fulfilling community rights, and maintaining a spiritual

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practice, we must think about how we can

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bring it all into balance.

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And in a practical sense, what does living

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in balance even mean?

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In Surah Ar-Rahman, Allah says وَالسَّمَاءَ رَفَعَ

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عَهَا وَوَضَعَ الْمِيزَانِ أَلَّا تَتَغَوْفِ الْمِيزَانِ وَأَقِيمُ الْوَزْنَ

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بِالْقِسْتِ وَلَا تُخْسِرُ الْمِيزَانِ The Benevolent One has

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raised the sky and set the balance, so

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you would not overstep the balance.

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So establish weight justly, not letting the balance

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give short measure.

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Just as our Creator has set a balance

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in the natural world, God has also set

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a balance in the human being.

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When we become excessive or deficient in our

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actions, words, and priorities, and thus create distance

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between us and our Creator, we inevitably feel

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an imbalance in our mind, body, and soul.

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So what is this balance, and how do

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we maintain it?

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To answer these questions, we must first understand

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the word balance, or mizan, in Arabic.

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Interestingly, both the English word balance and the

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Arabic word mizan share deep historical roots connected

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with the concept of weighing and measuring, but

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each term gradually came to symbolize broader concepts,

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such as fairness, equality, and harmony.

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In the Islamic tradition, mizan takes on profound

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moral and spiritual significance, linked to the divine

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order and judgment.

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In English, balance has similarly expanded to include

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the equilibrium in various realms, from the physical

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to the psychological and ethical.

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Both terms thus offer great insight into how

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a balanced human being is defined from both

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a metaphysical and practical or physical understanding.

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And just as the verse from Surah Ar

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-Rahman suggests, understanding the weight of our words

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and actions, and how we distribute our time,

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will directly impact how balanced we feel in

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every aspect of our lives.

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Like many great scholars, philosophers, and metaphysicians of

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the past, Imam al-Ghazali studied these ideas

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deeply, as he understood the potentially destructive power

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of imbalanced individuals devoid of self-awareness and

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self-control.

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Not only are such people a threat to

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themselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually, but they can

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often become irrational, volatile, and even violent against

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others, oblivious to the impact of their negative

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behavior.

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A great tool Imam al-Ghazali often referenced

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in many of his spiritual works, in order

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to teach the necessity of living in balance,

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is the idea of the triune human being,

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who is made up of three distinct qualities,

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the intellectual, emotional, and appetitive faculties.

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According to this model, a human being should

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work to bring these three faculties of intellect,

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emotion, and appetite into proper alignment, where the

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intellect is the driving force compelling the emotions

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and appetites to remain in balance and within

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the boundaries defined by God.

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When such an alignment is achieved, then a

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natural feeling of homeostasis will ensue.

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In other words, when human beings remain rational,

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calculating, and weighing their words and actions based

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on what is the most virtuous and beneficial

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behavior pleasing to God and His Messenger, in

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accordance with the understanding of rightly guided interpreters

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among the agreed upon scholars of Islam, they

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will induce a physiological and spiritual state of

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well-being.

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Conversely, when they behave excessively or deficiently, abandoning

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reasoning, morality, and virtue in disobedience to their

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Creator, they become harmful to themselves and those

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around them.

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Observing the state of the world today, with

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increasing global rates of crime, poverty, corruption, drug

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use, sexual abuse, and human trafficking, depravity, and

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other heinous acts of violence and indecency, it

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is undeniable that humanity is in decline.

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The widespread criminal networks masquerading as governments and

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world leaders and the faithless postmodern agenda that

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they heavily promote through media and secular education

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have created hordes of imbalanced human beings who

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are multiplying at rapid rates in every corner

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of the world, and belong to every culture,

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race, religious group, and socioeconomic class.

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Without a strong spiritual force to combat the

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torrential waves of widespread debauchery, moral decay, lawlessness,

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and vice, the erosion of tradition, family, and

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decency will continue to spread, plunging humanity into

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another, yet far more dangerous, dark age.

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More than ever before, our world and our

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species need a global reset, a restoration of

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reason, balance, and light in our homes, families,

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communities, governments, and most importantly in ourselves.

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To cleanse the spiritual stains of sinfulness and

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heedlessness from our hearts, we need to dive

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into the medicinal reservoir of light and healing,

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and take from the best of creation the

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most balanced human being to ever have existed.

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The epitome of perfection, the exemplar of virtue

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and refinement, he teaches us to be both

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weighty and delicate, to remove darkness with light,

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to repel evil with good, and to face

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ugliness with beauty.

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On the virtue of gentleness, which is a

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manifestation of balance, our beloved mother, Sayyida Aisha

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r.a, reported that the Messenger of Allah

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s.a.w. said, إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ

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رِفْقٌ فِي أَمْرِ كُلِّ Verily, Allah is gentle,

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and He loves gentleness in all matters.

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In another hadith reported by Salman al-Farsi

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r.a, our beloved Prophet s.a.w.

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said to him, Your Lord has a right

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over you, your soul has a right over

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you, and your family has a right over

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you, so give everyone their due right.

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And in another narration, the Prophet s.a

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.w. warns against religious extremism, Religion is easy,

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and whoever makes it difficult will not be

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able to continue in that way, so do

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not be extremists, but try to be near

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perfection, and receive good tidings.

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Even in everyday actions such as how and

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with whom we spend our time and how

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we speak, the Prophet s.a.w. called

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for a balanced approach.

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Once when addressing Abdullah ibn Umar, the Prophet

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s.a.w. said to him, Oh Abdullah,

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have I not been informed that you fast

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all day and pray all night?

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And Abdullah replied, Yes, O Messenger of Allah.

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And the Prophet s.a.w. said to

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him, Do not do that, fast and break

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your fast, pray and sleep, for your body

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has a right over you, your eyes have

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a right over you, and your wife has

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a right over you.

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In another narration, the Prophet s.a.w.

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said, The best of you is the best

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to his family, and I am the best

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among you to my family.

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He also warned s.a.w. against the

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harms of the tongue and said, The believer

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is not one who slanders, curses, speaks obscenely,

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or behaves in a vulgar manner.

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In every possible scenario, whether he was modeling

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or instructing directly, the Prophet s.a.w.

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was teaching excellence and perfect character.

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He knew and warned us about the inherent

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dangers of this worldly life and the need

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for spiritual fortification to offset the harms.

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He s.a.w. said, Verily every nation

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has a trial, and the trial of my

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nation is wealth.

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In another narration reported by Ibn Umar, the

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Prophet s.a.w. said, Two ferocious wolves

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in a pen of sheep, devouring and destroying,

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are not as harmful than the love of

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high status and wealth are to the religion

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of a Muslim.

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Striking a balance in a time of immense

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imbalance is no easy feat.

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However, the timeless wisdom and exemplary life of

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our beloved s.a.w. are more than

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enough to give each of us a fighting

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chance.

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Indeed, it is only through holding on to

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his sunnah, striving to perfect ourselves through modeling

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his impeccable character, and remaining steadfast in our

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faith that we can survive this difficult world

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which our beloved s.a.w. reminds us

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is a prison for the believer.

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الدنيا سجن المؤمن وجنة الكافر Whenever the prison

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walls of dunya feel like they're closing in,

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I am reminded of something that my beloved

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mother, Allah yarhamha, would say to me whenever

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I complained about any aspect of my life.

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Though she could have easily rebuked me for

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my petty complaints, she didn't.

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She would listen attentively, without interrupting me, and

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as soon as I finished venting, she would

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respond simply with the same balanced advice every

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single time.

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Say alhamdulillah, have shukr, and have sabr.

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دير آيات درست آيات Which in Dari roughly

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means, even if it is late, be content

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that all will be sufficient in the end.

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In other words, be patient because the best

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things are worth the wait.

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The prison walls will collapse before you even

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know it.

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May Allah s.w.t. guide us and

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increase us in patience and balance.

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May He give us the strength to endure

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the confinement and uncertainty of this difficult life,

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with the knowledge of our beloved Messenger s

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.a.w. We have the greatest champion, guide,

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and healer in our Messenger s.a.w.

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May we remain firm on our path, walking

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as best as we can, though we will

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certainly stumble in His blessed footsteps, and remember

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that the keys that will eventually unlock and

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swing open the doors of this prison cell

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directly into the guards of paradise remain firmly

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fixed in His blessed hands s.a.w.

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May we taste the sweetness of faith and

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find solace in His praise, and may Allah

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s.w.t. bless all of us and

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our families with increased love for His beloved

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s.a.w. in this blessed month of

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Rabi' al-Awwal and every day forward.

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Ameen.

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Jazakumullahu khayran.

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