Hosai Mojaddidi – Mastering Patience Overcoming Anger & Forgiving Others

So I want to go I'm gonna have a delay here, but I can't do this

morning at Fudger I opened up my phone to see a text message from a

very close friend. She sent me an image of a Facebook post from one

of our teachers, the esteemed and honorable Sheikh Mohammed Jacobi.

Have you the whole law, who said today in a post on Facebook, he

said tonight is the night of misfits Shaban. It is the night of

forgiveness, the night of having a pure heart towards brothers and

sisters, the night of coming back to Allah, beseeching him to

forgive us. And in order to receive His forgiveness, we need

to prepare ourselves by forgiving all others. As I read the text,

and then reread it, I thought to myself, Subhan Allah and just a

few words, Chef Muhammad, again had to the whole law perfectly and

concisely covered the topic of forgiveness in Islam, which is

what I was asked to speak about today. Specifically on mastering

patients by overcoming anger and forgiving others. What Sheikh

Muhammad expressed so succinctly, yet powerfully in his post is

something that many people miss when the topic of forgiveness in

Islam comes up. Instead of understanding that forgiveness of

any person or group for any wrongdoing is not about being

benevolent toward that person or group as much as it is about

securing one's own relationship. And standing with ALLAH SubhanA wa

Tada. I get questions all the time from different people Cicero's

side, how can I forgive someone who has hurt me? betrayed me,

cheated on me, lie to me, abused me? What if I can't forgive them?

Will Allah subhanaw taala be displeased with me? How can I let

go of the anger and resentment? What if I don't want to, or feel

ready to forgive them? I always respond the same way. Your focus

is misplaced. Because indeed, the ego the nafs, the greatest enemy

of the human being deceives us distorts reality and conceals the

truth. It's the difference between what our scholars call the camel

vision and the donkey vision. The camel was always looking ahead and

above the donkey is myopic, and limited to what's right in front

and below. So instead of realizing the great opportunity for reward

that stands between us and Allah subhana wa Tada. When we are

tested in our relationships, some of us get too focused on trying to

expunge negative feelings from our heart, which isn't always easy to

do. We're human beings after all, not robots. So in some cases, even

after forgiving someone, the pain still lingers and takes time to

dissipate. And that's okay, because we've already turned to

Allah subhanaw taala and put our trust in Him and the process that

he's laid out for us, which is fail proof, forgive others and

ensuring you will be forgiven. In other words, forgive others and

reap the rewards and benefits that our Generous Lord has in store for

us. Do not worry about the lingering feelings. And what can

we possibly want more than that? More than the forgiveness of Allah

subhanho wa Taala Why are we so focused on feelings which Allah

Subhana Allah can remove from our hearts in an instant, he is on

McCullough Buckelew after all, we just need to submit to Him and

leave the rest of time. Even our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi

wa sallam who forgave more people who harmed him, needed time in

some cases because the pain of their actions are so severe. For

example, after the conquest of Mecca, the prophesy centum forgave

many people like Abu Sophia and Lachey and hand all of whom caused

him a great deal of pain and suffering, before they made Toba

and sought His forgiveness. But with washi especially there was

more distance, because he was often reminded when the promises

and we'll look at why she was reminded of what he did to his

beloved uncle Hamza radiola on during the Battle of a hood. So

when we talk about forgiveness that is in Islam, it is not about

righting the wrongs of the other person, getting our just desserts,

as they say, or withholding forgiveness is an act of self

preservation, or a defense mechanism. It is about returning

to Allah subhanho wa taala. It is about recognizing our own

shortcomings, failures and infractions. First in our acts of

disobedience and of US law, which we're all guilty of, and second in

our harm towards others, which we may not even be aware of. For

example, how many of us sitting here today are guilty of direct

disobedience of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada knowing knowingly disobeying

our Creator. Every hand should go up if we're being honest and

taking a poll. How many of us disobeyed Him even today?

How many

times have we hurt slighted offended or even abused someone

through our words our actions or inactions whether we intended harm

or not. Perhaps we were insensitive or negligent,

inconsiderate or dismissive. Sometimes we are aware of

ourselves and sometimes it is our gross negligence that causes harm.

Just spent one day in the masjid Observing how children are treated

and spoken to in the house of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada a place

where our beloved son Allah audio said and prayed and played

alongside children, and never once disrespected them or treated them

like they were nuisances. But how many of us look at them with

scorn, because they are being children playing and we feel more

entitled title to the house of Allah than them. May Allah

subhanaw taala forgive us.

What I've always found fascinating about human nature is our tendency

to see ourselves in the best light, even when there is ample

evidence to the contrary. But when we're reflecting on bad habits,

vices and poor character we never think of ourselves doing. Rather,

we immediately think of others. If I shared a long list of bad

qualities right now, how many of us would think of family members,

friends, co workers, neighbors, community members, and how many of

us would think first of ourselves, very few among us, we can be sure

of that. For ourselves, we wear rose colored glasses, but for

others, we have magnifying glasses ready to call out every mistake

and faults. This delusion of the self is why the Prophet sallallahu

alayhi salam warned us to be inwardly focused and self reflect

to Ballymun shoveler. Who is able, and are you been nurse? Blessed is

he who is occupied with his own faults over the faults of people.

The reality the reality of your brothers and sisters is that we

all fall short, every one of us is fallible, and we have accumulated

many wrongs against our own souls and against others, whether we

know it or not. And that's why we must understand that the act of

forgiveness is not something that we do from a place of privilege,

but rather from a place of humility and self reflection,

because there's a great opportunity for Toba rectification

of the soul and drawing closer to our Creator. Allah subhana wa Tada

out of His infinite generosity and mercy for us, has not taken many

of us to task for all of our egregious mistakes, violating not

only his laws and clearly defined boundaries of halal and haram, but

also harming his creation. So isn't it time for us to think

twice about holding grudges, withholding forgiveness, and

allowing rancor and resentment to consume our hearts? Isn't it time

for us to see the hypocrisy and Refusing to forgive forgive others

and demanding justice? While we have yet to answer for our own

misdeeds against our Creator and His creation?

Forgiveness is a path to Jannah an act of belief, conviction and

trust in one's Creator and a measure of strength. When asked

what is manhood one of the great scholars have enough even place

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forbearance at a time of anger and forgiveness at a time of power.

And the perfect example of forgiveness at a time of power on

multiple occasions, but especially during the FATF Mecca is the

demeanor disposition and the grace of our beloved sallallahu alayhi

wa sallam. It would have asked further added Allah has commanded

patients at a time of anger and forbearance and forgiveness at a

time of being wronged. If what if some if one does so Allah Subhana

Allah kind of that will protect them from shaitan and subdue their

enemies such that they become like dear friends, and even Liam, may

Allah have mercy on him also said forgiveness is more beloved to

Allah subhanaw taala than vengeance. Mercy is more beloved

to him than punishment. Grace is more beloved to him than justice

and giving is more beloved to him than withholding. So dear brothers

and sisters, if you think forgiveness is difficult or

impossible, it is because you are entrusting the matter to your own

soul. We are deficient and cannot do anything worthwhile without

Allah subhanho data. So we must turn to Allah subhanaw taala

especially on this beautiful night of Miss Shavon and certainly

between now in the month of Ramadan. Allahumma but other than

that, I'm Yvonne

and ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada to help us to overcome our enough's,

to forgive others easily for his sake, and to become worthy of His

forgiveness. May Allah subhanaw taala make us people of truth,

even against our own souls and people of Toba. And may He forgive

us all. I mean, just like I'm a little hidden or Sidama they come

Rahmatullah here but again,