Hosai Mojaddidi – Mastering Patience Overcoming Anger & Forgiving Others

Hosai Mojaddidi
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Forgiveness is the responsibility of the individual to remove negative emotions from their bodies and their environments, but not just the act of forgiveness. The speaker emphasizes the importance of forgiveness in realizing the great potential for rewarding others and avoiding harms from others. They also discuss the use of rose colored glasses and delusion of the self, as well as the need for everyone to be honest and honest. The transcript ends with a call for forgiveness and a request for forgiveness.

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			So I want to go I'm gonna have a
delay here, but I can't do this
		
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			morning at Fudger I opened up my
phone to see a text message from a
		
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			very close friend. She sent me an
image of a Facebook post from one
		
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			of our teachers, the esteemed and
honorable Sheikh Mohammed Jacobi.
		
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			Have you the whole law, who said
today in a post on Facebook, he
		
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			said tonight is the night of
misfits Shaban. It is the night of
		
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			forgiveness, the night of having a
pure heart towards brothers and
		
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			sisters, the night of coming back
to Allah, beseeching him to
		
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			forgive us. And in order to
receive His forgiveness, we need
		
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			to prepare ourselves by forgiving
all others. As I read the text,
		
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			and then reread it, I thought to
myself, Subhan Allah and just a
		
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			few words, Chef Muhammad, again
had to the whole law perfectly and
		
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			concisely covered the topic of
forgiveness in Islam, which is
		
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			what I was asked to speak about
today. Specifically on mastering
		
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			patients by overcoming anger and
forgiving others. What Sheikh
		
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			Muhammad expressed so succinctly,
yet powerfully in his post is
		
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			something that many people miss
when the topic of forgiveness in
		
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			Islam comes up. Instead of
understanding that forgiveness of
		
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			any person or group for any
wrongdoing is not about being
		
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			benevolent toward that person or
group as much as it is about
		
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			securing one's own relationship.
And standing with ALLAH SubhanA wa
		
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			Tada. I get questions all the time
from different people Cicero's
		
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			side, how can I forgive someone
who has hurt me? betrayed me,
		
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			cheated on me, lie to me, abused
me? What if I can't forgive them?
		
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			Will Allah subhanaw taala be
displeased with me? How can I let
		
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			go of the anger and resentment?
What if I don't want to, or feel
		
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			ready to forgive them? I always
respond the same way. Your focus
		
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			is misplaced. Because indeed, the
ego the nafs, the greatest enemy
		
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			of the human being deceives us
distorts reality and conceals the
		
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			truth. It's the difference between
what our scholars call the camel
		
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			vision and the donkey vision. The
camel was always looking ahead and
		
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			above the donkey is myopic, and
limited to what's right in front
		
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			and below. So instead of realizing
the great opportunity for reward
		
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			that stands between us and Allah
subhana wa Tada. When we are
		
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			tested in our relationships, some
of us get too focused on trying to
		
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			expunge negative feelings from our
heart, which isn't always easy to
		
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			do. We're human beings after all,
not robots. So in some cases, even
		
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			after forgiving someone, the pain
still lingers and takes time to
		
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			dissipate. And that's okay,
because we've already turned to
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala and put our
trust in Him and the process that
		
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			he's laid out for us, which is
fail proof, forgive others and
		
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			ensuring you will be forgiven. In
other words, forgive others and
		
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			reap the rewards and benefits that
our Generous Lord has in store for
		
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			us. Do not worry about the
lingering feelings. And what can
		
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			we possibly want more than that?
More than the forgiveness of Allah
		
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			subhanho wa Taala Why are we so
focused on feelings which Allah
		
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			Subhana Allah can remove from our
hearts in an instant, he is on
		
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			McCullough Buckelew after all, we
just need to submit to Him and
		
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			leave the rest of time. Even our
beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam who forgave more people
who harmed him, needed time in
		
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			some cases because the pain of
their actions are so severe. For
		
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			example, after the conquest of
Mecca, the prophesy centum forgave
		
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			many people like Abu Sophia and
Lachey and hand all of whom caused
		
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			him a great deal of pain and
suffering, before they made Toba
		
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			and sought His forgiveness. But
with washi especially there was
		
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			more distance, because he was
often reminded when the promises
		
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			and we'll look at why she was
reminded of what he did to his
		
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			beloved uncle Hamza radiola on
during the Battle of a hood. So
		
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			when we talk about forgiveness
that is in Islam, it is not about
		
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			righting the wrongs of the other
person, getting our just desserts,
		
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			as they say, or withholding
forgiveness is an act of self
		
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			preservation, or a defense
mechanism. It is about returning
		
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			to Allah subhanho wa taala. It is
about recognizing our own
		
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			shortcomings, failures and
infractions. First in our acts of
		
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			disobedience and of US law, which
we're all guilty of, and second in
		
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			our harm towards others, which we
may not even be aware of. For
		
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			example, how many of us sitting
here today are guilty of direct
		
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			disobedience of ALLAH SubhanA wa
Tada knowing knowingly disobeying
		
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			our Creator. Every hand should go
up if we're being honest and
		
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			taking a poll. How many of us
disobeyed Him even today?
		
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			How many
		
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			times have we hurt slighted
offended or even abused someone
		
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			through our words our actions or
inactions whether we intended harm
		
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			or not. Perhaps we were
insensitive or negligent,
		
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			inconsiderate or dismissive.
Sometimes we are aware of
		
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			ourselves and sometimes it is our
gross negligence that causes harm.
		
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			Just spent one day in the masjid
Observing how children are treated
		
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			and spoken to in the house of
ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada a place
		
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			where our beloved son Allah audio
said and prayed and played
		
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			alongside children, and never once
disrespected them or treated them
		
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			like they were nuisances. But how
many of us look at them with
		
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			scorn, because they are being
children playing and we feel more
		
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			entitled title to the house of
Allah than them. May Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala forgive us.
		
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			What I've always found fascinating
about human nature is our tendency
		
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			to see ourselves in the best
light, even when there is ample
		
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			evidence to the contrary. But when
we're reflecting on bad habits,
		
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			vices and poor character we never
think of ourselves doing. Rather,
		
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			we immediately think of others. If
I shared a long list of bad
		
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			qualities right now, how many of
us would think of family members,
		
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			friends, co workers, neighbors,
community members, and how many of
		
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			us would think first of ourselves,
very few among us, we can be sure
		
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			of that. For ourselves, we wear
rose colored glasses, but for
		
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			others, we have magnifying glasses
ready to call out every mistake
		
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			and faults. This delusion of the
self is why the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhi salam warned us to be
inwardly focused and self reflect
		
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			to Ballymun shoveler. Who is able,
and are you been nurse? Blessed is
		
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			he who is occupied with his own
faults over the faults of people.
		
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			The reality the reality of your
brothers and sisters is that we
		
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			all fall short, every one of us is
fallible, and we have accumulated
		
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			many wrongs against our own souls
and against others, whether we
		
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			know it or not. And that's why we
must understand that the act of
		
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			forgiveness is not something that
we do from a place of privilege,
		
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			but rather from a place of
humility and self reflection,
		
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			because there's a great
opportunity for Toba rectification
		
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			of the soul and drawing closer to
our Creator. Allah subhana wa Tada
		
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			out of His infinite generosity and
mercy for us, has not taken many
		
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			of us to task for all of our
egregious mistakes, violating not
		
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			only his laws and clearly defined
boundaries of halal and haram, but
		
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			also harming his creation. So
isn't it time for us to think
		
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			twice about holding grudges,
withholding forgiveness, and
		
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			allowing rancor and resentment to
consume our hearts? Isn't it time
		
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			for us to see the hypocrisy and
Refusing to forgive forgive others
		
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			and demanding justice? While we
have yet to answer for our own
		
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			misdeeds against our Creator and
His creation?
		
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			Forgiveness is a path to Jannah an
act of belief, conviction and
		
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			trust in one's Creator and a
measure of strength. When asked
		
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			what is manhood one of the great
scholars have enough even place
		
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			said Helmore under Nevada law for
under Quadra
		
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			forbearance at a time of anger and
forgiveness at a time of power.
		
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			And the perfect example of
forgiveness at a time of power on
		
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			multiple occasions, but especially
during the FATF Mecca is the
		
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			demeanor disposition and the grace
of our beloved sallallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam. It would have asked
further added Allah has commanded
		
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			patients at a time of anger and
forbearance and forgiveness at a
		
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			time of being wronged. If what if
some if one does so Allah Subhana
		
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			Allah kind of that will protect
them from shaitan and subdue their
		
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			enemies such that they become like
dear friends, and even Liam, may
		
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			Allah have mercy on him also said
forgiveness is more beloved to
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala than
vengeance. Mercy is more beloved
		
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			to him than punishment. Grace is
more beloved to him than justice
		
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			and giving is more beloved to him
than withholding. So dear brothers
		
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			and sisters, if you think
forgiveness is difficult or
		
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			impossible, it is because you are
entrusting the matter to your own
		
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			soul. We are deficient and cannot
do anything worthwhile without
		
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			Allah subhanho data. So we must
turn to Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			especially on this beautiful night
of Miss Shavon and certainly
		
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			between now in the month of
Ramadan. Allahumma but other than
		
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			that, I'm Yvonne
		
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			and ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada to
help us to overcome our enough's,
		
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			to forgive others easily for his
sake, and to become worthy of His
		
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			forgiveness. May Allah subhanaw
taala make us people of truth,
		
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			even against our own souls and
people of Toba. And may He forgive
		
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			us all. I mean, just like I'm a
little hidden or Sidama they come
		
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			Rahmatullah here but again,