Hosai Mojaddidi – Mastering Patience Overcoming Anger & Forgiving Others
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So I want to go I'm gonna have a delay here, but I can't do this
morning at Fudger I opened up my phone to see a text message from a
very close friend. She sent me an image of a Facebook post from one
of our teachers, the esteemed and honorable Sheikh Mohammed Jacobi.
Have you the whole law, who said today in a post on Facebook, he
said tonight is the night of misfits Shaban. It is the night of
forgiveness, the night of having a pure heart towards brothers and
sisters, the night of coming back to Allah, beseeching him to
forgive us. And in order to receive His forgiveness, we need
to prepare ourselves by forgiving all others. As I read the text,
and then reread it, I thought to myself, Subhan Allah and just a
few words, Chef Muhammad, again had to the whole law perfectly and
concisely covered the topic of forgiveness in Islam, which is
what I was asked to speak about today. Specifically on mastering
patients by overcoming anger and forgiving others. What Sheikh
Muhammad expressed so succinctly, yet powerfully in his post is
something that many people miss when the topic of forgiveness in
Islam comes up. Instead of understanding that forgiveness of
any person or group for any wrongdoing is not about being
benevolent toward that person or group as much as it is about
securing one's own relationship. And standing with ALLAH SubhanA wa
Tada. I get questions all the time from different people Cicero's
side, how can I forgive someone who has hurt me? betrayed me,
cheated on me, lie to me, abused me? What if I can't forgive them?
Will Allah subhanaw taala be displeased with me? How can I let
go of the anger and resentment? What if I don't want to, or feel
ready to forgive them? I always respond the same way. Your focus
is misplaced. Because indeed, the ego the nafs, the greatest enemy
of the human being deceives us distorts reality and conceals the
truth. It's the difference between what our scholars call the camel
vision and the donkey vision. The camel was always looking ahead and
above the donkey is myopic, and limited to what's right in front
and below. So instead of realizing the great opportunity for reward
that stands between us and Allah subhana wa Tada. When we are
tested in our relationships, some of us get too focused on trying to
expunge negative feelings from our heart, which isn't always easy to
do. We're human beings after all, not robots. So in some cases, even
after forgiving someone, the pain still lingers and takes time to
dissipate. And that's okay, because we've already turned to
Allah subhanaw taala and put our trust in Him and the process that
he's laid out for us, which is fail proof, forgive others and
ensuring you will be forgiven. In other words, forgive others and
reap the rewards and benefits that our Generous Lord has in store for
us. Do not worry about the lingering feelings. And what can
we possibly want more than that? More than the forgiveness of Allah
subhanho wa Taala Why are we so focused on feelings which Allah
Subhana Allah can remove from our hearts in an instant, he is on
McCullough Buckelew after all, we just need to submit to Him and
leave the rest of time. Even our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam who forgave more people who harmed him, needed time in
some cases because the pain of their actions are so severe. For
example, after the conquest of Mecca, the prophesy centum forgave
many people like Abu Sophia and Lachey and hand all of whom caused
him a great deal of pain and suffering, before they made Toba
and sought His forgiveness. But with washi especially there was
more distance, because he was often reminded when the promises
and we'll look at why she was reminded of what he did to his
beloved uncle Hamza radiola on during the Battle of a hood. So
when we talk about forgiveness that is in Islam, it is not about
righting the wrongs of the other person, getting our just desserts,
as they say, or withholding forgiveness is an act of self
preservation, or a defense mechanism. It is about returning
to Allah subhanho wa taala. It is about recognizing our own
shortcomings, failures and infractions. First in our acts of
disobedience and of US law, which we're all guilty of, and second in
our harm towards others, which we may not even be aware of. For
example, how many of us sitting here today are guilty of direct
disobedience of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada knowing knowingly disobeying
our Creator. Every hand should go up if we're being honest and
taking a poll. How many of us disobeyed Him even today?
How many
times have we hurt slighted offended or even abused someone
through our words our actions or inactions whether we intended harm
or not. Perhaps we were insensitive or negligent,
inconsiderate or dismissive. Sometimes we are aware of
ourselves and sometimes it is our gross negligence that causes harm.
Just spent one day in the masjid Observing how children are treated
and spoken to in the house of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada a place
where our beloved son Allah audio said and prayed and played
alongside children, and never once disrespected them or treated them
like they were nuisances. But how many of us look at them with
scorn, because they are being children playing and we feel more
entitled title to the house of Allah than them. May Allah
subhanaw taala forgive us.
What I've always found fascinating about human nature is our tendency
to see ourselves in the best light, even when there is ample
evidence to the contrary. But when we're reflecting on bad habits,
vices and poor character we never think of ourselves doing. Rather,
we immediately think of others. If I shared a long list of bad
qualities right now, how many of us would think of family members,
friends, co workers, neighbors, community members, and how many of
us would think first of ourselves, very few among us, we can be sure
of that. For ourselves, we wear rose colored glasses, but for
others, we have magnifying glasses ready to call out every mistake
and faults. This delusion of the self is why the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi salam warned us to be inwardly focused and self reflect
to Ballymun shoveler. Who is able, and are you been nurse? Blessed is
he who is occupied with his own faults over the faults of people.
The reality the reality of your brothers and sisters is that we
all fall short, every one of us is fallible, and we have accumulated
many wrongs against our own souls and against others, whether we
know it or not. And that's why we must understand that the act of
forgiveness is not something that we do from a place of privilege,
but rather from a place of humility and self reflection,
because there's a great opportunity for Toba rectification
of the soul and drawing closer to our Creator. Allah subhana wa Tada
out of His infinite generosity and mercy for us, has not taken many
of us to task for all of our egregious mistakes, violating not
only his laws and clearly defined boundaries of halal and haram, but
also harming his creation. So isn't it time for us to think
twice about holding grudges, withholding forgiveness, and
allowing rancor and resentment to consume our hearts? Isn't it time
for us to see the hypocrisy and Refusing to forgive forgive others
and demanding justice? While we have yet to answer for our own
misdeeds against our Creator and His creation?
Forgiveness is a path to Jannah an act of belief, conviction and
trust in one's Creator and a measure of strength. When asked
what is manhood one of the great scholars have enough even place
said Helmore under Nevada law for under Quadra
forbearance at a time of anger and forgiveness at a time of power.
And the perfect example of forgiveness at a time of power on
multiple occasions, but especially during the FATF Mecca is the
demeanor disposition and the grace of our beloved sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam. It would have asked further added Allah has commanded
patients at a time of anger and forbearance and forgiveness at a
time of being wronged. If what if some if one does so Allah Subhana
Allah kind of that will protect them from shaitan and subdue their
enemies such that they become like dear friends, and even Liam, may
Allah have mercy on him also said forgiveness is more beloved to
Allah subhanaw taala than vengeance. Mercy is more beloved
to him than punishment. Grace is more beloved to him than justice
and giving is more beloved to him than withholding. So dear brothers
and sisters, if you think forgiveness is difficult or
impossible, it is because you are entrusting the matter to your own
soul. We are deficient and cannot do anything worthwhile without
Allah subhanho data. So we must turn to Allah subhanaw taala
especially on this beautiful night of Miss Shavon and certainly
between now in the month of Ramadan. Allahumma but other than
that, I'm Yvonne
and ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada to help us to overcome our enough's,
to forgive others easily for his sake, and to become worthy of His
forgiveness. May Allah subhanaw taala make us people of truth,
even against our own souls and people of Toba. And may He forgive
us all. I mean, just like I'm a little hidden or Sidama they come
Rahmatullah here but again,