Hosai Mojaddidi – Gathering Of The Hearts

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The speakers stress the importance of belief in the spiritual path and practice to manage emotions and actions during difficult situations, and the need to be content with one's life and prioritize important tasks. They emphasize the importance of finding the right person for one's job and building in gratitude, and the need to collect responses to spiritual work to avoid confusion and misunderstandings. The speakers stress the importance of empowering women to advocate for their needs and resetting behavior in relationships, and the need to collect responses to spiritual work to avoid confusion and misunderstandings.

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			All right.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.
		
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			Alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salamu ala ashraf al
		
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			-anbiyai wal-mursaleen.
		
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			Sayyidina wa mawlana wa habibina Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa
		
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			sallam.
		
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			Tasliman kathira.
		
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			Again, assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, dear
		
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			sisters.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, we are, for those who are tuning
		
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			in live and also here, maybe for the
		
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			first time, we're just going to pick up
		
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			from where we left off last time on
		
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			the document that we've been reading together for
		
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			a while now.
		
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			It's called Foundations of the Spiritual Path.
		
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			And this is by Sayyidi Ahmed Zarruq.
		
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			And it's really just a roadmap in many
		
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			ways of how a believer can start to
		
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			bring themselves to a spiritual path or how
		
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			they can start to really develop their own
		
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			spiritual path.
		
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			And so he, as we've discussed in previous
		
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			sessions, he starts off laying the foundations.
		
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			Like if you want to be a practicing
		
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			Muslim, you have to strive for these five
		
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			very important foundations first.
		
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			And those five we've covered in previous sessions,
		
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			but just to review them because everything that
		
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			we're now discussing is actually working towards these
		
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			five.
		
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			So the first, he says, is taqwa, mindfulness
		
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			of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala privately and
		
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			publicly.
		
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			So if you want to be sincere in
		
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			your faith, that's the first goal.
		
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			You have to be a person who is
		
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			always aware that God is watching over you
		
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			and that you are mindful of your actions
		
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			because you want to obviously please him and
		
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			not incur his wrath.
		
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			So being mindful of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala has to also be consistent because it's
		
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			not enough to just do it in certain
		
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			spaces or in certain groups, in certain circles,
		
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			but it's always.
		
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			So he mentions here that it has to
		
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			be privately and publicly.
		
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			So wherever you are basically, whether you're home
		
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			by yourself or you're in a public space,
		
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			you have to have taqwa.
		
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			It doesn't change.
		
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			This isn't optional.
		
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			It's not conditional.
		
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			It's just part of the believer's state of
		
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			mind that they are aware that God is
		
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			always with them, watching over them.
		
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			So that's the first goal of someone who
		
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			truly, sincerely wants to be strong in their
		
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			practice, that they want to achieve taqwa.
		
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			Then the second foundation, he says, is adherence
		
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			to the sunnah in word and deed.
		
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			So this is also consistent action in terms
		
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			of following the Prophet ﷺ's example, that we
		
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			recognize that we cannot draw near to Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala independent of the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			He was sent as our exemplar, as our
		
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			model, so that we can follow him in
		
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			every way.
		
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			So in his teachings, that's why we have,
		
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			alhamdulillah, so much description.
		
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			Think about the level of detail that we
		
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			have about everything that he has lived through,
		
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			he did, he said.
		
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			So much of his life is documented so
		
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			that we can actually learn it as a
		
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			study, obviously, of the most important historical figure
		
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			ever, but also so that we can implement
		
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			it in word and deed.
		
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			So we should practice what his teachings are
		
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			and we should know his sunnah well.
		
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			So that's the second quality of someone who
		
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			takes their faith seriously, that they're aware God
		
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			is always watching them and that they know
		
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			that they have to model themselves after the
		
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			best of examples, the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			The third foundation, he says, is indifference to
		
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			whether one or others, excuse me, accept or
		
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			reject one.
		
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			So this is really removing the shackles of
		
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			people-pleasing, of wanting to always, you know,
		
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			fit in and be accepted, because it does
		
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			hold a lot of us back from doing
		
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			the right thing, from just following our faith.
		
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			We're always worried, you know, whether it's in
		
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			work spaces or in our families or in
		
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			friends group, that maybe certain people won't like
		
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			us as much or maybe we won't, you
		
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			know, we'll be ostracized, we'll be removed.
		
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			Whereas when you come to the point of
		
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			seriousness about your faith, those things you no
		
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			longer care about because you realize that the
		
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			only one whose acceptance matters is Allah ﷻ.
		
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			And if He's pleased with you, then the
		
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			rest of humanity, He will, you know, He'll
		
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			deal with them.
		
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			But you don't preoccupy yourself with trying to
		
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			fit into everybody's, you know, circle.
		
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			You just leave it to God.
		
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			And so being indifferent means it doesn't matter,
		
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			you know, whether or not people like me
		
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			or don't like me, as long as I
		
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			am making sure that Allah ﷻ is pleased
		
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			with me.
		
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			So that's the third criteria for a person
		
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			who's really serious about their faith.
		
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			The fourth is now your state in terms
		
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			of your lot in this world, right?
		
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			We know that all of us are, people
		
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			are at different levels, whether it comes to
		
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			finances or the different things that, you know,
		
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			are distributed amongst the creation of Allah ﷻ.
		
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			There's different qualities, virtues, traits.
		
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			We come from different families, different backgrounds, different,
		
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			you know, racial, ethnic backgrounds, knowledge.
		
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			So many things are distributed in a system
		
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			that Allah knows best.
		
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			But whatever it is that you're content with
		
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			Allah ﷻ, and through those difficult challenges in
		
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			life as well, because part of our lot
		
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			isn't just material, but it's also events, things
		
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			that we experience.
		
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			So some people have more loss than other
		
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			people.
		
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			And it's wrong to determine your state with
		
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			God based on those types of things, because
		
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			if that was true, that people who seem
		
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			to have an easy life are closer to
		
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			God, then what do we say about the
		
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			prophets, right?
		
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			What do we say about the awliya who
		
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			were severely tested, tested more than others?
		
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			And that's why it's so important to read
		
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			the stories of the prophets before and to
		
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			read the Qur'an, because when we read
		
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			the Qur'anic narrative or we read the
		
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			experiences of different prophets, we realize that these
		
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			are the elite of the elite of humanity,
		
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			and yet they endured unbelievable tests in their
		
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			physical bodies, with their relationships, loss, right?
		
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			Children being lost, betrayal, deep, deep bonds that
		
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			we all, I think, can appreciate how devastating
		
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			it would be, right, to have your entire
		
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			tribe turn on you and try to harm
		
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			you.
		
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			So they went through all of those things,
		
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			but they are, of course, the closest to
		
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			God.
		
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			So going through different challenges does in no
		
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			way indicate one's nearness or farness to Allah
		
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			ﷻ.
		
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			There's many factors, but to be content in
		
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			either case is a prerequisite of the believer,
		
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			right?
		
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			That whatever your case is, whether you're going
		
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			through a hardship, a trial, that you are
		
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			still, you have rida with Allah.
		
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			You realize that there's wisdom in why you're
		
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			going through what you're going through.
		
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			You don't, it's not, you know, we don't
		
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			have this relationship with Allah where it's only
		
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			when things are going well in my way,
		
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			I feel close to God.
		
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			But then the moment I go through a
		
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			challenge or a difficulty, suddenly my heart is
		
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			off or turned away.
		
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			That's not the believer.
		
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			The believer says, it's all good because it's
		
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			all from Allah, all of it.
		
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			And that's the Prophet's ﷺ teaching as well,
		
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			right?
		
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			How wondrous is the affair of the believer
		
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			because in all circumstances, we say, Alhamdulillah ala
		
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			kulli hal, whether we're going through difficulties in
		
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			this world and our sins are being cleansed
		
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			through those challenges, right, which is why tribulations
		
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			are part of this world.
		
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			It's because we are sinners, we're in ghafla,
		
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			we are forgetful, we're constantly, and if we
		
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			really are being honest with ourselves, we will
		
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			admit that our day to day, we are
		
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			neglectful more often than maybe we want to
		
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			admit, right?
		
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			We may fall into behaviors that we know
		
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			we shouldn't do, a lot of time wasting,
		
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			for example, right?
		
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			Just think about how much time we waste.
		
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			And so we're, you know, we have to
		
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			take ourselves to account.
		
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			And when we realize that Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala is so generous by giving us
		
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			some challenges in this world because he's purifying
		
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			us so that on the day of judgment,
		
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			we come, inshallah, in a far better state,
		
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			assalamualaikum, in a far better state than we
		
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			may think, right, because of all those hardships.
		
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			And I just, you know, think about like
		
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			every pain you've ever had, you know, every
		
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			pain, emotional pain, physical pain, every loss you've
		
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			ever had.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has, you know,
		
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			a record of all of that.
		
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			And there's a cleansing process that we are
		
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			going through that we're not even aware of,
		
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			sins that we may have committed five years
		
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			ago that we forgot all about conveniently, right,
		
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			because that's what the nafs does.
		
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			It has its own accounting system where a
		
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			lot of things are erased, you know, oops,
		
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			deleted that memory conveniently.
		
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			But in Allah's record, all those things are
		
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			there, but what he does is, you know,
		
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			it's a different system of checks and balances
		
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			and erasing.
		
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			So when we go through hardships, we go
		
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			through trial, anxiety is rewarded.
		
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			You know, if you've ever been anxious, you've
		
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			ever been stressed, you've ever woken up in
		
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			a state of panic or just fear, whatever
		
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			it is that you're feeling, grief, loss, all
		
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			of those emotions are not lost.
		
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			They're not empty.
		
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			They're not meaningless.
		
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			They are ways of purification.
		
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			And so when you really think about SubhanAllah,
		
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			Allah is so generous, right, that even in
		
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			hardship, I'm being cleansed, then you still have
		
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			rida with him.
		
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			You're still content.
		
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			And then obviously in the ease, it's, I
		
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			mean, we're all going to be happy, right,
		
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			because when things are going well, we generally
		
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			tend to be more grateful, right?
		
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			We show our gratitude more.
		
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			But the challenge is can you be grateful
		
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			even during the hardship?
		
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			Can you still moisten your tongue with gratitude
		
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			for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala even while
		
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			you're in the midst of a trial?
		
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			That is the true mark of faith, right,
		
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			sincere faith.
		
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			So that's an objective.
		
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			And it might sound easier said than done,
		
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			but this is why spiritual practice is so
		
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			important because the more you're mindful of these
		
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			reminders and you're trying, you're striving, and you're
		
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			catching yourself, okay, I shouldn't complain.
		
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			Complaining is a very natural thing that we
		
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			all do, but you'll get to the point
		
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			where you realize it's empty to complain to
		
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			people, right?
		
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			If I'm just picking up the phone or
		
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			talking to my friends and we're hanging out
		
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			and all of a sudden I get into
		
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			a negative state and I'm just really negative.
		
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			It doesn't, they don't feel good.
		
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			I might falsely, you know, think that there's
		
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			some benefit to that, but I end up,
		
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			you know, maybe, because sometimes we can wind
		
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			ourselves up more, right, when you're complaining.
		
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			Has that ever happened to you?
		
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			Like you might be over something, but then
		
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			a memory gets recollected, and then now it's
		
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			like, yeah, you're just as upset as maybe
		
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			you were when it happened because you're reliving
		
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			it.
		
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			And so sometimes we don't realize the harm
		
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			that that causes, but when you realize or
		
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			when you mature in your spiritual understanding, you
		
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			realize that my complaints are better with Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala because he obviously, I
		
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			don't have to explain everything to him.
		
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			He knows what's going on.
		
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			He knows my heart.
		
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			And so you start to really adjust yourself
		
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			and you become that person, inshallah, that through
		
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			whatever you're going through, you just always are
		
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			in a state of gratitude and not a
		
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			state of negativity and, again, just, you know,
		
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			complaining.
		
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			So that's the fourth criteria.
		
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			Now the fifth criteria, he says, is more
		
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			about reaction, like your proactivity.
		
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			So the contentment with Allah is like that's
		
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			just your state.
		
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			You're always trying to really, you know, be
		
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			mindful of your blessings and magnify your blessings,
		
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			which we talked about as well as one
		
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			of the ways to condition yourself to this.
		
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			But, like, that's just a state.
		
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			Now turning to Allah is more about your
		
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			protocol, right, like what your operating manual is
		
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			set to.
		
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			So, like, if you have, you know, some
		
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			of us, again, when we go through something
		
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			difficult or challenging or if we're in blessing,
		
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			we might have certain, you know, default settings,
		
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			as they say, that we do, you know,
		
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			where we instantly, you know, either let's say
		
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			there's a blessing.
		
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			You know, you get a phone call and
		
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			it's really good news.
		
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			You might be like, oh, my God, that's
		
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			so amazing.
		
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			And you just start to, you know, get
		
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			super excited about it.
		
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			And then maybe you want to, you know,
		
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			immediately call friends or family or whoever and
		
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			share the news with them, which is fine
		
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			to do, right.
		
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			There's nothing necessarily wrong with that.
		
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			But the believer is always, because remember taqwa,
		
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			that mindfulness of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			is always there.
		
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			Your default setting starts to adjust and you
		
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			just, you sit with that gratitude in that
		
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			moment first, right, like alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, right.
		
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			And it really hits your heart that what
		
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			you've just experienced, whether it was a promotion
		
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			at work, good news, you know, from some
		
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			other, you know, place that came to you,
		
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			whatever it is, opportunity, that your immediate mind
		
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			is going, Allah is so generous.
		
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			Because it's easy to, again, remove or come
		
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			to that realization later, right.
		
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			It's kind of like, oh, yeah, by the
		
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			way, that du'a that I made months
		
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			ago is now being answered.
		
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			We can sometimes, if we give ourselves time,
		
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			we'll get there eventually.
		
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			But when you start to attune yourself to
		
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			this, you know, what this is calling for,
		
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			it is your default setting.
		
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			Like alhamdulillah, I see the divine hand in
		
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			everything.
		
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			I don't see all the human, like, you
		
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			know, intervention or the sabab, as we call
		
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			them, right, because they're means to blessings.
		
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			People sometimes are the means to the blessing,
		
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			right.
		
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			And it's easy to focus on those things,
		
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			but the believer always sees that it's from
		
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			Allah.
		
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			And we don't credit anyone before Allah, right.
		
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			We always want to give credit to Allah
		
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			first.
		
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			He is the source of our every blessing.
		
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			So if your parent gives you something, your
		
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			spouse gives you something, your child, your employer,
		
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			whoever it is, your immediate mind is like,
		
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			alhamdulillah, Allah is so generous.
		
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			Even though it came through this person, this
		
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			channel, it's really from Allah at the end
		
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			of the day.
		
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			And He is so kind and He is
		
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			so generous.
		
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			Because we have things that happen to us
		
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			all the time.
		
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			You know, you get, like, for example, you're
		
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			driving and you, a cop pulls you over,
		
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			okay, maybe you were speeding, right.
		
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			Cop pulls you over and you're anticipating that
		
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			you're going to get a ticket and then
		
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			you somehow, something happens, a conversation happens and
		
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			the police is like, you know what, I'm
		
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			going to let you go with a warning
		
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			this time.
		
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			Many of us may look at that police
		
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			officer like, you're amazing, thank you so much.
		
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			And we just forget that, you know, yes,
		
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			the gift may have come through him, but
		
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			who is really the one who let you
		
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			off?
		
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			Maybe financially it would have been a burden
		
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			for you.
		
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			Maybe it would have been too difficult for
		
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			you to go to court and rearrange your
		
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			schedule at work.
		
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			And Allah is giving you that grace, right.
		
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			So the believer always can see the person
		
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			that the means is coming through, but the
		
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			source is always clear.
		
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			And so, alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, Allah is so generous.
		
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			So our attribution system of good becomes, you
		
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			know, calibrated to always seeing that Allah is
		
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			the one that gives your good.
		
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			It could be as simple as a parking
		
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			space opening up for you.
		
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			It wasn't the driver that just happened to
		
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			leave at that time.
		
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			Like, thank you.
		
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			And we can say that.
		
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			And I'm not saying not to be grateful
		
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			to those people because lam yashkuru nas lam
		
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			yashkuru la.
		
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			But it's rather that you realize that all
		
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			of those blessings are really Allah.
		
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			Even if you had, I mean, I've had
		
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			people, for example, I mean, this is an
		
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			example I hear all the time.
		
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			Sometimes people will say, oh, Sister Usai, you
		
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			know, the post, you posted something and it
		
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			really was so beneficial and I thank you
		
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			so much.
		
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			And so, and I have to remind them,
		
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			I say subhanAllah, you know, even if I'm
		
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			randomly putting together a post or you read
		
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			something from anybody, it doesn't have to be
		
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			me, you might feel like that person is
		
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			speaking to your pain.
		
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			But who is the one who inspired you
		
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			to just open that message in that moment,
		
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			right?
		
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			Who is the one who made those words
		
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			reach your heart?
		
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			It wasn't me.
		
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			I have no idea where, you know, my
		
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			posts are going and who's going to read
		
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			them.
		
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			But Allah sometimes wants us to read certain
		
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			things.
		
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			He wants us to receive certain messages.
		
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			In the moment that we're in, because in
		
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			that moment, even like if you've ever opened
		
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			up the Quran or your phone app and
		
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			you get messages, you know, hadith or ayahs
		
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			of the Quran that pop up, a lot
		
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			of people are like, oh my God, you
		
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			know, this message was like, it's so amazing,
		
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			you know, that I read this message, you
		
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			know, in this moment.
		
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			And maybe it was a friend who sent
		
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			it to them.
		
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			So we're easily, we can appreciate the momentousness
		
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			of the event.
		
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			But what this is really about is always
		
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			recognizing that it's from Allah, ultimately.
		
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			He is the one who wants you to
		
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			get that message.
		
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			He's the one who wants to bring those
		
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			words of comfort to your heart when you're
		
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			going through some difficulty.
		
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			And so recognize that this open line of
		
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			communication that we have with our creator is
		
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			always active as long as we're also engaged,
		
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			right, and we have to be.
		
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			And that's where zikr is important.
		
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			That's where prayer is important.
		
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			That's where reading the book of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala is important because what you're
		
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			saying is I seek to communicate with my
		
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			creator and I want to receive communication from
		
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			my creator.
		
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			So being proactive, right, in that way.
		
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			So turning to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			in prosperity and adversity is just, again, what
		
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			is your default?
		
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			How do you deal with problems?
		
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			Do you, you know, go to people?
		
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			Do you attribute things to people?
		
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			In prosperity and adversity, the same thing.
		
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			Are you quick to seek help from others
		
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			instead of turning to Allah and saying, Ya
		
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			Allah, please help me.
		
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			So these five, right, that we've just kind
		
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			of summarized quickly are the starting point and
		
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			the way that Sidi Ahmed Zarouk helps us
		
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			to really shape our objectives as Muslims, right?
		
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			Like these are the five things every believer
		
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			should want to achieve in their lifetime that
		
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			were consistent with all five of these things.
		
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			And then the rest of the document he
		
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			works backwards in order to help us to
		
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			know how to get there.
		
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			So we've already covered some of these lists
		
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			for those who have attended in the past
		
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			and the recordings are available.
		
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			But where we left off last time is
		
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			at the bottom of page 10, we talked
		
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			about, or excuse me, not the bottom of
		
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			page 10, the top of page 11.
		
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			So the top of page 11, if you
		
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			look at the PDF, he's now, because he's
		
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			kind of worked through these different bulleted lists,
		
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			right, of qualities and different things that may
		
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			afflict us.
		
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			Yes?
		
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			Okay, so on the PDF that I'm looking
		
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			at, there is, it's in the corner.
		
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			Yeah, if you look in the right bottom
		
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			corner, you'll see 11, right?
		
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			So the top of the page, but thank
		
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			you, because I know it's a little confusing.
		
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			The top of the page says, I have
		
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			also seen that the seekers of this age.
		
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			Do you see that section?
		
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			That is a section that we're going to
		
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			cover today.
		
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			So he's outlining, and remember, just perspective.
		
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			Sidi Ahmed Zarouk, depending on which calendar you're
		
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			looking at, Hijri or Gregarion, he's in the
		
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			9th and 15th century.
		
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			So right, 9th century Hijra, 15th century Gregarion.
		
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			So in his time, he is telling us
		
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			about what he's witnessing.
		
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			So he says that I've also seen that
		
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			the seekers of this age, so in his
		
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			time, are afflicted with five things.
		
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			So it's an interesting perspective, because you wonder,
		
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			I mean, a lot of us, I feel
		
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			like we forget that history repeats itself, and
		
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			the human conditions have always been the same,
		
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			right?
		
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			Even though we're in 2024, it's not that
		
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			our problems are any necessarily worse than previous
		
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			peoples, right?
		
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			They still had spiritual diseases.
		
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			They still were struggling with a lot of
		
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			the things, not obviously, circumstances have obviously changed,
		
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			modernity and all of that.
		
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			But I mean to say, in terms of
		
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			human diseases and struggles, relationships, problems, real things
		
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			that are just universal, that span time and
		
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			place.
		
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			So for him to say that these are
		
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			five things that he witnesses his time, is
		
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			perspective for us to say that we tend
		
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			to romanticize Islam's history and think that we're
		
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			just doomed, whereas everybody else had it easy,
		
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			right?
		
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			But that's not true, because again, human problems
		
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			have always been there.
		
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			So he says, the preference of ignorance over
		
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			knowledge.
		
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			Now this is interesting, because I think this
		
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			is true, right?
		
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			We say nowadays, ignorance is bliss.
		
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			There are people who literally would rather not
		
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			know.
		
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			Have you ever met Muslims like that, right?
		
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			They don't want to know.
		
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			Yeah, I don't want to know, exactly.
		
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			No, it's a good example.
		
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			Even something as simple as dietary things, they
		
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			would rather you not read the ingredient list,
		
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			because it's like, oh, forget about it, who
		
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			cares?
		
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			We're in America, everything's halal, right?
		
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			And so they'll have these very blasé attitudes,
		
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			and they don't want to do the due
		
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			diligence to actually make sure.
		
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			They don't have that inclination.
		
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			So they'd rather stay ignorant.
		
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			But it's also just in terms of rules
		
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			in general, right?
		
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			A lot of people feel very constricted by
		
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			rules.
		
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			You see this, sadly, from people who've come
		
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			from more conservative backgrounds.
		
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			When they come here, what happens oftentimes, for
		
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			those of us who've lived here most of
		
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			our lives or were born here, and then
		
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			we come into a spiritual practice, we have
		
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			to see, subhanallah, the contrast, right?
		
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			We're raised in a culture that is so
		
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			permissive, everything is allowed, yet Allah guides us
		
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			to live a life of what?
		
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			Restrictions, boundaries, right?
		
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			Which is a proof that Iman is really
		
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			from Him, whereas other people coming from conservative
		
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			backgrounds, their entire life, come here, and then
		
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			all of a sudden they start to, you
		
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			know, the waswasa comes in, the temptations overcome
		
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			them, and next thing you know, they're into
		
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			everything.
		
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			I mean, I saw it when I was,
		
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			you know, I remember in high school we
		
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			had, and Allah will be the judge of
		
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			every person, but I remember feeling very odd
		
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			about people who had just barely come to
		
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			America, and then all of a sudden, within
		
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			a few weeks or so, the dress was
		
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			different, because, you know, our parents were very
		
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			conservative, so they didn't let us wear, for
		
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			example, shorts.
		
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			Like, we could never dress like that, ever.
		
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			My siblings and I, it was unheard of.
		
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			So I thought it was so strange when
		
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			someone was like, what, they've only been here
		
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			like a month, and they're dressed like that?
		
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			But it's because, you know, again, guidance is
		
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			from Allah.
		
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			But for some people, rules and strict, you
		
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			know, it doesn't resonate, they don't want it,
		
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			they want to be free birds, so they'd
		
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			rather not know, and that's something that we
		
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			have to really challenge within ourselves.
		
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			Do we have this problem where we'd rather
		
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			get away with things, or somehow think that
		
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			we're getting away, because obviously it's a delusion,
		
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			right, to think that just because you pretended
		
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			to not know, that Allah wouldn't know that
		
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			you actually, you know, knew, or you were
		
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			purposely avoiding accountability, you were trying to find
		
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			a back channel, you were finding a loophole,
		
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			whatever it is.
		
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			So we just have to be real honest
		
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			with ourselves.
		
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			So that's something that may Allah, you know,
		
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			again, when we're looking at lists like this,
		
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			that He's outlining for us as signs of
		
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			real spiritual disease, we should always first inwardly
		
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			look within ourselves and ask, you know, to
		
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			be real, like, do I do that?
		
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			May Allah forgive me, hold myself accountable.
		
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			If you don't have that, then also don't
		
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			forget to say, protect that, right?
		
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			Alhamdulillah, I don't do that.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, ya Allah, please.
		
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			Because part of our challenge is also recognizing
		
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			that every blessing that we have is from
		
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			Allah, and it can also be removed, and
		
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			a quick way to remove blessings is to
		
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			become arrogant, right, or to become self-righteous,
		
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			to start to think of yourself a little
		
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			bit better or more than others.
		
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			So when you recognize that you don't have,
		
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			you know, a vice or a poor quality
		
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			or a bad habit or something that is
		
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			spiritually blameworthy, say, Alhamdulillah wa shukrulillah, thank you,
		
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			Allah, please protect that for me, you know,
		
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			please protect it.
		
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			I don't want to fall into that, where
		
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			I start to just not really care.
		
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			So that's the first thing.
		
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			The second thing that he mentions is being
		
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			deluded by every spiritual imposter.
		
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			This is also very important because there are
		
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			a lot of people who are very innocent
		
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			in our, you know, community, and they do
		
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			take people for face value.
		
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			They will listen to someone who seems like
		
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			they're, you know, pious and spiritual, and we
		
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			see this.
		
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			We've seen, unfortunately, a lot of people, you
		
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			know, even recently be duped by those who
		
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			perform well, you know, in terms of their
		
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			piety.
		
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			They're good performers.
		
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			And so people who are innocent and don't,
		
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			they just can't operate from that place, they
		
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			would never think that someone could be so
		
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			two-faced.
		
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			Someone could live a double life.
		
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			Someone could be sitting up, you know, giving
		
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			speeches and, you know, acting as though that
		
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			they're self-righteous, but then living a completely
		
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			different life.
		
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			It's impossible for some people to even conceive
		
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			of that, so they may be susceptible, you
		
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			know, to falling for people who are really
		
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			good, and that's why predators know how to
		
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			seek out prey.
		
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			So you always want to ask Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala to never be deluded by
		
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			performance, you know, by oration and eloquence and
		
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			a certain way of dressing and style because
		
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			you do see a lot of that, unfortunately,
		
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			in our community.
		
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			And with the Internet, it's just gotten so
		
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			bad nowadays where there's just a lot of
		
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			people who they don't, they haven't done the
		
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			work, you know, and if you've ever sat
		
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			with true scholars, like if you've ever met
		
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			a true scholar, you see this reluctance in
		
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			them that they don't, they're not eager, you
		
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			know, to, like, be at the forefront.
		
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			They don't really want to do it, similar
		
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			to, like, leadership, right?
		
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			Because we're warned about people who want leadership.
		
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			If a person wants leadership, that's the first
		
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			sign that they should not be leaders, right?
		
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			Because that shows that they don't understand the
		
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			immense responsibility of leadership.
		
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			The same for scholarship.
		
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			Scholarship, being in any position of teaching or
		
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			authority, is such an amanah that it weighs
		
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			on your heart.
		
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			You're always, like, afraid.
		
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			Am I going to slip and give someone
		
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			the wrong advice?
		
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			Am I going to misspeak?
		
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			Am I going to misquote, right, the Qur
		
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			'an or the Prophet ﷺ?
		
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			So that heaviness, that worry of, like, I
		
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			don't want to make a mistake is so
		
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			overwhelming on the person that they're not eager
		
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			to, like, give a fatwa for everything or
		
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			just, you know, throw out their personal opinions.
		
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			But when you see that, as someone who
		
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			just wants to chime in on every single
		
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			issue, then you should see that as a
		
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			red flag.
		
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			And it's actually, you know, signs of the
		
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			latter day were warned about that there will
		
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			be people who are very eloquent speakers, and
		
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			there will also be people who are very
		
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			impressed by their own opinions, you know?
		
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			And so when you think about, like, which
		
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			really bothers me in today's day and age,
		
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			and we should, and our teachers warn us,
		
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			and I'll just put this out there because
		
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			I think it's a good warning, to be
		
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			cautious about getting into this whole trend of
		
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			taking your Islam from soundbites, right?
		
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			Because we've created a soundbite dawah now, where
		
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			it's like, and I feel like it's very
		
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			dangerous, and as someone who speaks publicly, I
		
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			also, like, just for myself, I'm like, God,
		
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			I don't, it's scary.
		
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			It's scary to think that you're, instead of
		
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			wanting to just communicate the truth, that you're
		
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			too busy thinking about, like, wanting to sound
		
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			clever, right?
		
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			That that becomes the purpose with which you,
		
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			for why you're doing what you're doing, right?
		
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			That you want to have that perfect soundbite
		
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			that's like a 20-second clip, and it's
		
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			just like mic drop, boom, you know?
		
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			But I feel like that's the kind of
		
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			age we're in where a lot of people,
		
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			they're not aware of how dangerous it is
		
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			to curate your content, not for the purpose
		
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			of, is it knowledge that's really beneficial?
		
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			Is it important?
		
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			Is it gonna, did it impact you?
		
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			Are you speaking from a place of authenticity?
		
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			Is that your concern?
		
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			Or is it like viral video time?
		
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			You know, let me write it in a
		
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			way where it's gonna make that zing and
		
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			I'm gonna get those likes and followers.
		
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			So there are just so much of that
		
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			today that, and we can fall, like, in
		
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			the habit of liking that kind of content
		
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			because it's like time is precious.
		
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			I don't have a lot of time.
		
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			I just need to look for quick zingers,
		
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			you know?
		
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			So be careful, though, that that's not the
		
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			bulk of what you're taking because real knowledge
		
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			takes time.
		
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			It takes, like, you have to understand things
		
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			and sometimes, you know, you have to sit
		
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			through something.
		
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			It's not always gonna be comfortable.
		
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			You know, you have to, you know, sit
		
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			through courses and classes and maybe even fall,
		
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			like, asleep during that, you know, because your
		
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			nuffs is, you know, for whatever reason, it's
		
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			just, but if you're a true seeker of
		
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			knowledge, you're gonna have to go through the
		
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			challenges that a seeker of knowledge goes through
		
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			and it's not gonna be always bite-sized,
		
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			you know, portions that are just curated for
		
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			your palate that you can then, you know.
		
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			You know, it's just, it's very, it's become
		
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			very, unfortunately, it's watered down and it's just
		
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			not the way that I think knowledge has
		
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			been transmitted, which is heart to heart.
		
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			It's really impactful.
		
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			It's meaningful.
		
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			And there's a level of heaviness and weightiness
		
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			that you feel receiving and giving knowledge.
		
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			That's what we need to look for, not
		
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			just this quick turnaround.
		
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			So being deluded by every spiritual imposter is
		
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			something that we should ask all to protect
		
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			us from.
		
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			Like, we don't, I don't want to just,
		
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			you know, look for personalities and become obsessed
		
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			with people because of the way that they
		
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			look and the way that they sound, but
		
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			I want to really take from people who
		
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			I feel are connected, who are part of
		
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			a senate, who are part of a chain
		
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			of tried and tested and really, you know,
		
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			known teachers who are out there with sincere
		
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			intentions.
		
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			That's what I want.
		
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			That's who I want to take knowledge from.
		
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			So seek out those types of teachers, you
		
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			know, and ask Allah to protect you because
		
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			it is definitely an issue that I would
		
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			say our age also has to contend with.
		
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			Now, the third thing that he lists, and
		
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			remember, what he's saying, what he, this list
		
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			is, is the seekers of knowledge of his
		
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			time were afflicted.
		
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			So he's talking about us.
		
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			We are the seekers of knowledge, and he's
		
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			like, look out for these qualities.
		
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			If you prefer to not know, ignorance over
		
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			knowledge.
		
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			If you're always deluded by everybody who comes
		
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			along because they sound good, that's a red
		
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			flag.
		
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			And then the third thing, the inability to
		
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			prioritize important matters.
		
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			I mean, again, how many of us, you
		
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			know, this is a daily struggle that we're
		
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			always, you know, kind of whether it's just
		
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			time management or also like which domain of
		
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			my life deserves my attention, right?
		
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			And I think as women, and you know,
		
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			all of us here are women, and I'm
		
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			sure those who are watching, the majority are
		
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			as well.
		
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			I feel like for us, it's a very
		
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			difficult thing to do to know how to
		
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			manage our lives because we are always pulled
		
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			in different directions, you know?
		
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			And the roles that women have, whether it's
		
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			daughter, sister, mother, auntie, friend, community member, I
		
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			feel are so often emotionally intertwined that we're
		
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			usually prioritizing based on emotion, right?
		
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			And so wherever the guilt, because guilt is
		
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			a motivator, right, of behavior.
		
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			So wherever I feel the most guilt tends
		
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			to get my most attention, right?
		
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			And that can be internally sourced or external.
		
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			Like if you have people in your life
		
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			that guilt you a lot, they say the
		
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			squeaky wheel gets the grease, right?
		
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			And I think we fall prey to that
		
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			a lot.
		
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			So the one who complains the loudest and
		
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			the most sometimes gets our attention, even if
		
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			they don't necessarily deserve it because we don't
		
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			like that feeling of, I'm disappointing someone, I'm
		
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			hurting someone.
		
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			So emotional manipulation is used a lot, I
		
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			think, on women.
		
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			I mean, not to say that, I just
		
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			can't speak on the experiences of men.
		
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			I'm not a man, but I do think
		
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			that from my experience in life, I feel
		
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			like we tend to prioritize based on those
		
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			types of factors, right?
		
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			Or it could be your own internal guilt.
		
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			So you feel inadequate.
		
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			Now, for example, perfect analogy is women who
		
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			have to work outside because they're providing, they're
		
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			providers for their home, or they have parents
		
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			and children they have to take care of.
		
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			They, I think, are plagued by their own
		
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			internal guilt, especially when it comes to their
		
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			children, right?
		
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			Because it's like, I have to work outside,
		
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			but I'm a terrible mom because I didn't
		
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			do this for my kids or I didn't
		
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			do that for my kids.
		
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			And then every, quote-unquote, failure of our
		
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			children, we go back to, it's my fault.
		
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			If I were home, if I didn't do
		
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			this, maybe I shouldn't have worked.
		
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			So we start to just really go down
		
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			a spiral there.
		
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			So I feel like this quality of not
		
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			prioritizing important things, part of it is because
		
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			what we give value to is shaped by
		
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			our environments, right?
		
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			Your culture, your upbringing, it shapes what you
		
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			think is important.
		
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			And so when you go back to the
		
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			drawing board, then the criteria has to adjust
		
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			to, well, what does Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala expect of me?
		
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			Where are my priorities based on his standards,
		
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			right?
		
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			Not mom, dad, husband, auntie, grandma.
		
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			Like, there's a lot of people in our
		
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			lives that dictate to us about what we
		
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			should be doing, what deserves our time, what
		
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			deserves our attention.
		
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			From a very young age, I mean, we
		
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			were all children once, right?
		
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			And sometimes those voices, they stay.
		
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			But at a certain point, we have to
		
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			scale back and say, who am I accountable
		
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			to the most?
		
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			Who should I be more concerned about?
		
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			Going back to the foundations, right?
		
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			The foundations that we talked about in the
		
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			beginning, that taqwa, that taqwa is what's dictating,
		
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			right?
		
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			That I have to stand before God.
		
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			So God has already made clear for me
		
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			the standards, right?
		
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			And the number one focus is what?
		
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			What's the number one thing that deserves our
		
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			attention all the time, every day, no matter
		
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			what?
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			And how does he expect us to fulfill
		
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			that all day, every day consistently until our
		
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			deathbed?
		
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			Prayer.
		
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			So if prayer is not your number one
		
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			focus in life, but you're very good at
		
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			cooking meals or paying bills or serving this
		
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			and that person in your life, your priorities
		
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			are off.
		
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			Does that make sense?
		
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			And this is the kind of real talk
		
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			that I think a lot of times people
		
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			do need to hear because you hear the
		
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			justification from a lot of people about why
		
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			they're not praying.
		
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			But I have to work.
		
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			It's really hard.
		
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			It's so difficult for me.
		
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			I have this and this and this.
		
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			And the nafs will start to give you
		
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			a plethora of reasons why you can't do
		
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			something consistently.
		
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			But when you understand, right, that you have
		
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			to adjust your list of priorities to the
		
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			one that you are the most accountable to,
		
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			and that's not mom, it's not dad, it's
		
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			not husband, it's not your children, it's your
		
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			creator, then you start to build from there.
		
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			Then what do I need to do?
		
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			And logically it should, I mean, it makes
		
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			sense to do it that way because, first
		
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			of all, barakah and time, who controls that?
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, right?
		
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			So if you want to see an increase
		
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			in the blessing of your time to try
		
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			to bypass obligations to God and serve everybody
		
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			else, it doesn't make any sense, right?
		
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			But to say that if I prioritize my
		
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			prayer, then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, who
		
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			controls time, who controls blessings, he will reward
		
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			me, right?
		
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			And I remember there was a sister, she
		
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			attended one of our halaqas, and we talked
		
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			about this in terms of her fajr prayer.
		
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			She said that because of her work schedule,
		
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			it was very difficult for her to make
		
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			her prayers because she had so much to
		
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			do, and so she couldn't do them.
		
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			And so we had a whole discussion about
		
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			it, and I said, I know that in
		
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			your mind you're thinking, but I have to
		
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			work, and you're sacrificing the prayer because of
		
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			work, but logically, and I kind of explained
		
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			the same thing to her, I said, don't
		
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			you think that Allah will give you more
		
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			barakah if you pray first, right, and then
		
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			get your work done?
		
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			Because what she was doing is she was
		
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			trying to get all her work done, and
		
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			then, oops, I forgot about prayer.
		
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			So prayer would always end up being something
		
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			that she had a struggle with and she
		
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			would forget to do, or she ran out
		
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			of time because she had it flipped, right?
		
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			So this is dealing with this issue of
		
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			just not prioritizing.
		
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			So anyway, when we talked about it, I
		
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			just said, well, I think it would make
		
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			a lot more sense if you would wake
		
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			up early, fulfill your prayers, and then go
		
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			on about whatever work you needed to do,
		
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			breakfast or reports or whatever meetings you had
		
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			for work.
		
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			But don't flip it because Allah will give
		
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			you the barakah.
		
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			So I remember, I think it was Ramadan
		
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			of this year.
		
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			This was like last year or the year
		
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			before, and she saw me in the parking
		
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			lot.
		
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			She came up and she was like, sister,
		
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			I have to talk to you, I have
		
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			to talk to you.
		
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			And I said, yes.
		
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			She kind of caught me off guard.
		
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			She said, I have to tell you something.
		
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			She said, subhanAllah, I remember that one time
		
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			I attended your halaqah and we had this
		
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			discussion.
		
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			She said, I started doing everything, and oh
		
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			my God, I've been on my prayers, I
		
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			never miss my prayer, and everything changed for
		
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			me that day.
		
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			And I said, see, Allah is so generous
		
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			because maybe it wasn't explained to her that
		
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			how her thinking was so faulty.
		
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			Because sometimes, you know, Iblis, of course, is
		
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			a factor, but the nafs justifies things because
		
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			you feel like, well, I'm fulfilling a priority,
		
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			I'm not just doing nothing.
		
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			But, you know, again, just make it make
		
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			sense.
		
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			Why do you think that you would suddenly
		
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			have all these openings and blessings when you're
		
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			not prioritizing properly?
		
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			So Allah is first always, and then we
		
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			have the proper order, right?
		
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			Bir al-walideen is very important.
		
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			If you're going to reject the responsibility you
		
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			have to your parents, but you're a really
		
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			good friend, you have a problem.
		
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			You can't like, oh, I'm going to end
		
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			call on my mom because I'm here sitting
		
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			talking to my friend about her problems.
		
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			No.
		
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			You pick up the phone and you do
		
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			your due diligence to make sure mom's concerns
		
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			and needs are taken care of.
		
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			Is everything okay, mother?
		
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			And you tell your friend, it's my mother.
		
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			I have to answer my phone call.
		
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			I have to answer my mother.
		
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			I don't let her go to the voice
		
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			note.
		
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			But there are a lot of people who
		
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			feel like, well, you know, my friend was
		
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			going through a difficult time.
		
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			Yes, but you're haq.
		
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			Who has rights over you more?
		
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			How can you face God and say, what
		
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			if there was a life-threatening thing?
		
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			What if there was something important that she
		
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			needed in that moment, right, and that you
		
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			preferred one that you didn't have rights over
		
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			in the same way over your parent?
		
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			So these are all ways that we have
		
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			to understand there is a system already in
		
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			place, it's already defined for us, in order
		
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			for us to learn how to prioritize things.
		
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			But we have to be willing to submit
		
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			to that system.
		
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			And that's where the battle continues because, again,
		
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			if it means my heart leans this way,
		
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			my time, it's more convenient, we may, you
		
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			know, totally throw out the proper system and
		
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			do things according to nafs.
		
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			And this is where paying attention to, you
		
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			know, what's dictating to you.
		
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			Is it your own, as I said, mind,
		
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			convenience?
		
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			What are these things that – because if
		
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			it's Allah, then it's clear.
		
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			You don't – you comply.
		
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			So the inability to prioritize important matters is
		
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			just – it's a very large – I
		
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			mean, it's a – it covers a lot,
		
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			but I think we can all take inventory
		
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			independently and individually about what we need.
		
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			What does that mean for us?
		
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			Is it my time?
		
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			Is it that I don't fulfill my obligations
		
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			in the proper logical order that God expects
		
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			of me?
		
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			Do I waste a lot of time, right?
		
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			And time wastage is something we all have
		
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			to be mindful of.
		
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			I mean, you know, like I hate to
		
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			look at it, but I do feel like
		
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			it's important that we all look at our
		
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			screen time.
		
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			Like I can't even believe this number right
		
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			now because I didn't realize I was on
		
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			the phone this much.
		
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			But, you know, when it's counting from midnight
		
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			until now, you're like, wow, I spent almost
		
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			12 hours and 36 minutes on my phone.
		
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			What was I doing?
		
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			You know, and it's obviously telling you.
		
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			You got maps, you got this, you got
		
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			that, whatever it is.
		
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			But looking at your screen time is a
		
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			good way of acknowledging whether or not you're
		
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			wasting a lot of time.
		
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			And if you work on your phone and
		
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			you do things on your phone and you
		
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			know what you're doing, alhamdulillah.
		
00:44:54 --> 00:44:56
			But if it is like, oh, TikTok was,
		
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			you know, three hours, uh-oh, you know,
		
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			what was I doing, right?
		
00:45:01 --> 00:45:03
			So that's the kind of inventory that we
		
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			need to take.
		
00:45:03 --> 00:45:05
			So that's the third thing he mentions.
		
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			Now the last two, the fourth one he
		
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			says, which is interesting, using the spiritual path
		
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			as a means to inflate the selfish soul.
		
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			So this is really interesting because this speaks
		
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			to, again, about the tricks that the mind
		
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			plays, right, and the nafs.
		
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			Because, you know, we've covered this before, but
		
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			how many of you know or remember the
		
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			four different sources of evil?
		
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			What are the four sources of evil that
		
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			Allah has created in this world?
		
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			So, good.
		
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			Iblis we know, right, shaitan.
		
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			What else?
		
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			What was it?
		
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			Very good.
		
00:45:46 --> 00:45:47
			Very good.
		
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			So the nafs, right, the nafs is the
		
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			second.
		
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			Your whims and your desires, so like hawwa,
		
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			right, which fluctuate and they differ.
		
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			And then, what was it?
		
00:46:05 --> 00:46:08
			So the fourth one is dunya.
		
00:46:08 --> 00:46:10
			It's the material world, right?
		
00:46:10 --> 00:46:10
			Yeah.
		
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			So the material world is very, you know,
		
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			it tempts us all the time.
		
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			And so, you know, power, wealth, wanting, luxury,
		
00:46:23 --> 00:46:27
			ease, these kind of, you know, abstract things
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:32
			that we strive for, those are parts of
		
00:46:32 --> 00:46:38
			how we divert our attention from Allah subhanahu
		
00:46:38 --> 00:46:38
			wa ta'ala.
		
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			So the nafs, though, from all four, right,
		
00:46:42 --> 00:46:47
			the material world, shaitan, and hawwa, the nafs
		
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			is the most dangerous.
		
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			It's the most evil of the four.
		
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			Because it resides within you and you don't
		
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			know how to acknowledge the evil unless you
		
00:47:00 --> 00:47:01
			start really paying attention, right?
		
00:47:01 --> 00:47:03
			Because it's your voice.
		
00:47:03 --> 00:47:04
			So how are you thinking like, oh, this
		
00:47:04 --> 00:47:05
			is evil?
		
00:47:05 --> 00:47:07
			It's just your mind telling you, you know,
		
00:47:07 --> 00:47:07
			things.
		
00:47:07 --> 00:47:10
			So when using the spiritual path as a
		
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			means to inflate the selfish soul, it's like
		
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			you think about that for a moment.
		
00:47:14 --> 00:47:15
			How could that even happen?
		
00:47:15 --> 00:47:16
			Well, it happens all the time.
		
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			There are many people who want to take
		
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			on a spiritual identity, not because they really
		
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			want to get close to Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala, but because they see it as
		
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			a means to status, as a means to
		
00:47:32 --> 00:47:33
			an identity, right?
		
00:47:33 --> 00:47:35
			It's like I want this identity.
		
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			I want the benefits, the privileges of being
		
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			seen as a pious person or as a
		
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			person who, you know, is taken seriously.
		
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			And they forget that Allah knows what's in
		
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			your heart.
		
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			He knows the motivation.
		
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			So if you're going to suddenly behave a
		
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			certain way or take on a certain practice,
		
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			and you're not aware that God knows very
		
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			well what your ultimate intentions are, your motives
		
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			are, then this is what happens, right?
		
00:48:10 --> 00:48:14
			So you're, you know, going to classes, attending
		
00:48:14 --> 00:48:14
			things.
		
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			Suddenly your attire changes.
		
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			All of these things, that's why it's so
		
00:48:18 --> 00:48:20
			important to check your intention.
		
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			Like why am I really doing all these
		
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			things, right?
		
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			If I want to be front and center.
		
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			And that's like the man who he prayed.
		
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			I don't know if it was 70 years
		
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			or 80 years, but it was a very
		
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			long time.
		
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			He prayed every single prayer in jama'at
		
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			in the first row because we know, right,
		
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			that there's more reward for men when they're
		
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			in the first row.
		
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			And he said that it wasn't until one
		
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			day he walked in because he missed his
		
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			place and he had to pray in the
		
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			back, that in that moment he realized he
		
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			was embarrassed, that all his prayers were for
		
00:48:56 --> 00:48:59
			the status of praying in the front.
		
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			So he actually spent the rest of his
		
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			life trying to make up all those 80
		
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			years of prayers because he was like, what
		
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			good were any of them, right?
		
00:49:08 --> 00:49:09
			That's Isha, right?
		
00:49:09 --> 00:49:10
			Yeah, okay, I'm sorry.
		
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			If anybody wants to go pray, please, we
		
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			can maybe take a pause and then come
		
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			back, inshallah.
		
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			All right, Jazakumullah khairan.
		
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			Oh, thank you, my dear.
		
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			Yes, Jazakumullah khairan.
		
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			You collected them?
		
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			Thank you.
		
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			Jazakumullah khairan.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Thank you, John.
		
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			I have no water.
		
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			Thank you.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Good, I'm glad they brought them.
		
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			Was that for someone who passed away?
		
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			I couldn't hear.
		
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			He did.
		
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			Who is it?
		
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			Oh, okay.
		
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			Yeah, he said Prophet Muhammad, but I was
		
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			like, I don't know who passed.
		
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			Allah arhamuhum.
		
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			Amin wa ajmain.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			I'm sorry, you were saying, John?
		
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			So, you know, for us women, right, when
		
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			we have all these duties and responsibilities, and
		
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			sometimes when we're just setting that boundary, like,
		
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			I have my own duties, I need to
		
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			do what's right, you know, by Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala.
		
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			And then, you also mentioned, like, you know,
		
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			we have people who are half-brothers, right?
		
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			We have our spouses, our children, our mother,
		
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			and I'm just thinking that we all have
		
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			lots of other responsibilities, and we're kind of
		
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			telling them, no, I have to do my
		
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			own priorities.
		
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			But then you kind of get a little
		
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			bit pressured from them, like, wait a second,
		
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			she's all of a sudden not doing things
		
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			for us anymore.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			She's putting her own iman up for us.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			I think, you know, it's true, especially, well,
		
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			this is where communication comes into it.
		
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			Because if we make our worship, like, it's
		
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			self-serving, then that's when you're going to
		
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			get pushback, right?
		
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			But if it's like, no, I fill my
		
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			cup, I'm doing everything because there's a barakah
		
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			flow, right?
		
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			When I'm fulfilling my obligations and I'm, as
		
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			the matriarch, as the maintainer of the home
		
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			culture, the vibe in the home, if I'm
		
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			imbalanced, all of you benefit from that.
		
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			So it's not like I'm just doing this
		
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			for me, right?
		
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			So I think you have to communicate to
		
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			them that they should support you, that they
		
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			should want you to be doing more.
		
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			Because when you do more, everybody benefits.
		
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			Your state is better, you're more calm, you're
		
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			more loving toward them, you're willing to give
		
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			more.
		
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			And I think that's the secret of women
		
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			that is lost on a lot of people,
		
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			is that if our cup is filled, you
		
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			will be fine.
		
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			But when we're depleted, that's when everything goes
		
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			astray.
		
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			And they don't seem to get that until,
		
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			unfortunately, sometimes it's so late in the game,
		
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			you're like, if only I'd learned this lesson
		
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			20 years ago, you would have saved us
		
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			all a lot of heartache.
		
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			But we also have to communicate that.
		
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			That my worship might seem like it's self
		
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			-serving, but it's actually beneficial to everybody in
		
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			the household, and everybody in my life.
		
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			And I make the intention, of course, that
		
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			it's for God, but because the nature of
		
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			women is to always care, and always consider
		
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			other people.
		
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			It's very, I don't know, I've just rarely
		
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			come across a woman who I think is
		
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			so incredibly selfish in everything she does.
		
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			There's always other people factored into what she's
		
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			doing, because it's how Allah created us.
		
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			It's like our fitrah.
		
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			We're nurturers.
		
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			We're caretakers.
		
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			We have that natural instinct to give.
		
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			But I think what happens is we're pulled
		
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			in so many directions, and then it's like
		
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			you're not, you're working hard, but you're not
		
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			working smart.
		
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			An efficient household is run by really making
		
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			sure that the one in power is taken
		
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			care of.
		
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			If she's not, it's going to be very
		
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			hard to maintain a balance in the home.
		
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			I mean, I know it's so cliche, and
		
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			it's used so cheaply by people, but I
		
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			think it's true, and people just need to
		
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			understand.
		
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			Happy wife, happy life.
		
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			That's what they say.
		
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			Happy mom.
		
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			I don't know what the rhyme is.
		
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			But yeah, you just make sure she's fine,
		
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			and her needs are taken care of.
		
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			And obviously, she has to be a good
		
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			person.
		
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			I mean, we're not saying to give to
		
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			just anybody, but I'm saying Muslim women who
		
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			are trying to manage their homes, I think
		
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			have to find a way to communicate to
		
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			their loved ones that I am not being
		
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			self-serving in my worship.
		
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			My worship is actually for God, yes, but
		
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			because it puts me in the right place
		
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			so that I can then give.
		
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			And that's why I fill my cup first,
		
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			and then I can pour into your cups.
		
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			But if my cup isn't filled, and you
		
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			can't fill my cup, only God can.
		
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			You cannot fill my cup, right?
		
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			So that's our challenge, is communicating that to
		
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			them.
		
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			Does that make sense?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			So that's why language matters, words matter, how
		
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			we convey things matters, because the nafs will
		
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			defend itself if it's feeling attacked, right?
		
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			But if we're able to communicate in a
		
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			way where this is an attack, I'm not
		
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			accusing you of anything, I'm not angrily saying
		
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			this, I'm just trying to foster understanding.
		
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			And in my attempt to foster understanding, I
		
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			want you to understand that my worship, although
		
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			it seems like I'm in my own room
		
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			or I'm doing my own thing, it seems
		
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			like I'm neglecting you, that's not how I'm
		
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			doing it.
		
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			I'm actually very mindful that when I worship
		
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			God and I feel like I'm fulfilling my
		
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			obligations to him, it creates a state of
		
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			total equilibrium within me that makes me feel
		
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			at peace, that makes me want to give.
		
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			And you will be the benefactors of that.
		
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			That's it.
		
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			So if you want me to give more,
		
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			don't take from me.
		
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			Make sure that I am supported in what
		
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			I need.
		
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			And right now, this is what I need.
		
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			I need to have...
		
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			I think women, we just don't advocate for
		
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			ourselves enough because we're plagued by guilt all
		
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			the time.
		
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			And so when I was talking about earlier
		
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			this manipulation, emotional manipulation, we fall for it
		
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			so easily to our detriment and to the
		
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			detriment of the very people that we think
		
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			we're helping.
		
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			But when you assert yourself a little bit
		
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			more and you say, no, no, no, no,
		
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			this is in line for me.
		
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			I work, I cook, I clean, I'm a
		
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			driver, I'm a this, I'm a that, I've
		
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			got way too many roles.
		
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			And so when I say I need to
		
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			go take a break once a week or
		
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			go do this or go do that, and
		
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			this is what really helps me reset, that's
		
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			not me being selfish.
		
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			That's not me...
		
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			I'm not going to fall for your manipulative
		
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			tactics of trying to guilt me.
		
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			I know what I'm doing.
		
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			I'm filling my cup in a way that
		
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			only God can help me.
		
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			And you just have to respect that boundary.
		
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			But we have to, I think, empower women
		
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			to be able to say that, not when
		
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			it's so late, you know, when it's already
		
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			in crisis mode and things are falling apart
		
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			and now we're reacting to like, you know,
		
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			but rather at the onset of like their
		
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			relationships.
		
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			So like a young girl when she gets
		
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			married, I think she should be taught how
		
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			to advocate for her needs.
		
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			But first we have to understand our needs.
		
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			And that's where, you know, going back to,
		
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			as you guys know, the topic of emotional
		
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			intelligence.
		
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			The first topic is, the first point is
		
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			self-awareness.
		
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			So if you don't have that self-awareness
		
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			of within you of what your needs are,
		
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			then it's like a cat and mouse game.
		
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			You're just going to be, everybody's, you know,
		
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			blind following the blind.
		
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			So you have to know your needs and
		
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			then work on communicating those needs.
		
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			So it is a process, but we're, a
		
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			lot of times we're just so late into
		
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			becoming self-aware that we end up creating
		
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			habits.
		
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			And once, you know, like, especially in a
		
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			relationship, if things, like some relationships are just
		
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			not moldable, you know, they're, they get set.
		
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			It's like some have more malleability, you know,
		
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			where you can grow with your partner.
		
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			Others are like, nope, rigid.
		
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			It becomes firm very quickly.
		
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			And this is why you look at, you
		
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			know, marriages.
		
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			You can see very clear where, where a
		
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			relationship, they're, they're two that are growing with
		
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			each other and adapting and they kind of,
		
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			you know, allow for that flexibility and others
		
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			where it's like things were set a long
		
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			time ago and now it's very hard to
		
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			change ways.
		
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			So anyway, we got off onto a tangent.
		
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			Welcome back, ladies.
		
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			May Allah accept all of your prayers.
		
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			I'm not sure if Qari Amr's dua was
		
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			for, like, someone who passed on.
		
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			We couldn't hear.
		
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			Two people.
		
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			Today?
		
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			May Allah accept,
		
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			inshallah, them, forgive them, grant them Jalatul Firdaus.
		
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			We couldn't, it was hard to hear, but
		
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			we heard the dua, so alhamdulillah.
		
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			We were part of the group that was
		
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			able to make dua for them, inshallah.
		
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			I mean, thank you.
		
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			So alhamdulillah, I know that because of my
		
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			start, late start and the prayer, we got
		
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			a little bit delayed.
		
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			But I won't keep you too long.
		
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			I just wanted to finish the list and
		
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			then read.
		
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			I mentioned that I would be also reading
		
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			from Imam al-Ghazali's The Book of Councils.
		
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			It's a really great text.
		
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			So I'll read from that in a moment.
		
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			But just to cap or recap what we,
		
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			what we discussed.
		
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			So the, you know, Sidi Ahmed Zarukh is
		
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			talking about, in his age, the things that
		
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			he is warning us about, right?
		
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			Not to fall prey to these spiritual diseases.
		
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			So he talks about, you know, not being
		
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			of the mindset that if I don't know
		
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			it, it's fine.
		
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			You know, preferring to be ignorant.
		
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			Actually doing the opposite of that, which is
		
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			seeking knowledge.
		
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			So we need to be pursuing knowledge.
		
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			So if someone sends you something, whatever it
		
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			is, information you read, you read it, try
		
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			to be that sincere person who wants to
		
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			have a better understanding of it.
		
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			And pursue knowledge in whatever way that makes
		
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			sense for you.
		
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			You know, some people are able to take
		
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			classes and study formally.
		
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			Other people are just doing the bare minimum.
		
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			Whatever it is, wherever you are in your
		
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			life, just be the type of person who
		
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			seeks to know and who seeks to understand.
		
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			So it's not that we're just taking in
		
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			information and, you know, accumulating a lot of
		
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			knowledge that we never do anything with.
		
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			But rather that you really are intentional about
		
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			understanding and growing in your connection with Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			And so that would be the way to
		
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			protect yourself.
		
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			And of course asking Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala for protection from that kind of a
		
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			state.
		
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			And then being deluded by every spiritual imposter.
		
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			As we said, we ask Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala to protect us from falling into
		
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			traps, being swayed by charisma, by charm.
		
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			We're really looking for serious people who are,
		
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			who's, who's, the proof of who they are
		
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			is in their character.
		
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			And that's why it's important to, as you'll
		
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			look at the rest of this document, he
		
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			talks about how to know if a person
		
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			is like, you know, spiritually you need to
		
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			stay away from them.
		
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			Like what are those characteristics?
		
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			So he gets into that soon.
		
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			But it's important to ask Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala for protection.
		
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			And to seek out true, true sources of
		
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			knowledge.
		
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			And then the inability to prioritize important matters.
		
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			We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for
		
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			barakah in our time.
		
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			We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
		
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			be people who are really serious about the
		
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			blessings we're owed.
		
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			And just briefly, because the story has come
		
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			up in the past few weeks, but there's
		
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			a verse in the Qur'an, and it's,
		
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			here I'll read it for you.
		
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			It's Surah, I think is it Al-A
		
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			'raf or, yeah, it's Surah Al-A'raf,
		
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			verse 175.
		
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			So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, وَتْلُو
		
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			عَلَيْهِمْ نَبَأَ الَّذِي آتَيْنَاهُ آيَاتِنَا فَانْصَلَخَ مِنْهَا فَأَتْبَعَهُ
		
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			الشَّيْطَانُ فَكَانَ مِنَ الْغَوِينَ Which is, and so
		
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			he's talking to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam.
		
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			He says, and relate to them, O Prophet,
		
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			who is them, us, right?
		
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			The story of the one to whom we
		
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			gave our signs, but he abandoned them.
		
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			So Satan took hold of him, and he
		
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			became a deviant.
		
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			So this ayah came up, and I remember
		
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			looking at the tafsir of this, and it
		
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			was a story I had never heard before,
		
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			which I thought was really an interesting story
		
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			that pairs well with what we're discussing here.
		
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			But this is the story of a man
		
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			named Bal'am bin Baura.
		
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			And he was actually in the time of
		
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			Musa alayhi salam.
		
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			So after, you know, Fir'aun and Musa
		
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			alayhi salam, after he was expelled and he
		
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			died, Musa alayhi salam visited Jerusalem, where Bal
		
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			'am was from.
		
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			Now he was known, this man was known
		
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			as a very, he was known to be
		
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			a very spiritual person, that Allah subh'ana
		
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			wa ta'ala had actually revealed to him
		
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			his great name, his ism al-adham, right?
		
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			The hidden name of Allah subh'ana wa
		
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			ta'ala.
		
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			He gave it to this man, and he
		
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			was known in his, amongst his tribe and
		
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			family of having very powerful dua.
		
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			So he was, you know, considered, you know,
		
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			someone of prominence in his time for that
		
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			reason.
		
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			So Allah says that we gave him our
		
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			ayat, we gave him these signs.
		
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			So he had this ability to make dua,
		
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			and his duas will always be accepted.
		
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			So when his people learned that Musa alayhi
		
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			salam is coming to Jerusalem, they actually went
		
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			to him and they asked him, they said,
		
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			can you make dua against Musa?
		
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			Because they didn't want to change their ways.
		
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			You know, this was a big struggle for
		
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			many of the prophets and people before us,
		
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			is the people didn't want to have to
		
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			change, right?
		
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			We talked about rules, and suddenly, you know,
		
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			you have to follow rules.
		
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			No, I don't want to.
		
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			So they were, like, scared of, oh, no,
		
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			everything, all of our customs, all of our
		
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			ways are going to be different.
		
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			So they knew that he was, you know,
		
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			close to God, and they said, can you
		
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			make dua against Prophet Musa?
		
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			So Bal'am, he knew, he's like, why
		
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			would I do that?
		
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			If I pray against a prophet of God,
		
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			I will curse myself and all of us.
		
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			I can't do that.
		
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			So he rejected them.
		
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			But then they lured him, and this is,
		
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			you know, where the delusion of the nafs
		
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			is so, you know, it's real.
		
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			He's someone, imagine, who had Allah's name, like
		
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			he was able to ask for anything.
		
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			But these people came, and they, you know,
		
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			his own people, they swayed him, and they
		
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			begged him, and they said, please do this
		
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			for us.
		
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			And then that wasn't enough.
		
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			They actually offered him riches, and they offered
		
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			him wealth.
		
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			And so he finally said yes.
		
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			So he actually proceeded to go to this
		
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			mount, I forgot the name of the mountain,
		
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			that the soldiers of Musa, they were, like,
		
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			on the other side of it, and he
		
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			wanted to go basically address everybody and make
		
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			this dua in front of all of the
		
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			people there.
		
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			So he ends up riding a donkey, and
		
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			he goes toward that mountain.
		
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			So he's going to do this whole, because
		
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			his people asked him, make, like, basically a
		
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			public dua against Musa.
		
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			So he goes, and on the way there,
		
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			the donkey gets, it actually stops.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, you know, orders
		
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			the donkey to stop.
		
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			And Balaam, you know, gets up, and he's,
		
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			like, getting upset, like kicking the donkey, and
		
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			then the donkey would proceed more, forward a
		
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			little bit more, and then again it would
		
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			stop.
		
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			And at one point there's one narration that
		
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			says the donkey actually warned him, like, what
		
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			are you doing?
		
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			Like the donkey spoke to him and said,
		
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			what are you doing?
		
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			You know, you're about to go and curse
		
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			a prophet of God.
		
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			So in a way Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala is trying to give him time to,
		
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			like, wake up from his delusion, you know.
		
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			So anyway, he gets up there, and he
		
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			ends up making, he starts to make a
		
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			dua.
		
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			But what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala does
		
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			in that moment is his tongue actually flips.
		
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			Instead of making a dua against Musa alayhi
		
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			salam, he actually makes a dua against his
		
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			own people.
		
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			So he's not able to fulfill his intention,
		
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			right?
		
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			His intention, his niya was real.
		
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			He wanted to do it because, you know,
		
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			the offer was too good to give up,
		
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			right?
		
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			Wealth, riches, whatever they offered him.
		
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			So he had the wrong niya.
		
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			He goes up there.
		
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			The tongue doesn't comply, doesn't do what he
		
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			wants it to do.
		
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			And his people are like, what are you
		
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			doing?
		
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			We asked you to make dua against Musa,
		
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			and you're cursing us, and you're making dua
		
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			for Musa's victory.
		
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			And what is this?
		
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			And he says, it's against my will.
		
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			So he can't do anything about it.
		
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			The tongue is by the command of God.
		
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			And they say, subhanAllah, he was cursed in
		
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			that moment where his tongue actually was hanging
		
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			from that point forward out of his tongue.
		
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			And he died in that state.
		
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			He knew that he made the wrong choice.
		
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			But this is the danger of the nafs.
		
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			Imagine, I mean, when I read about this,
		
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			I said I cannot believe, I mean, how
		
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			scary it is, right?
		
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			It's terrifying that someone who had the name
		
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			of Allah, who was given ayat, who was
		
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			given karamat, whose duas were accepted, can be
		
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			so easily duped and tricked, right, by the
		
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			what?
		
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			The manipulation of people that he is close
		
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			to, by dunya, by all those things we
		
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			talked about, right, the evils of the world,
		
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			that he actually went with this horrible intention.
		
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			And then, you know, we're talking about him
		
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			now because Allah commanded the Prophet, to tell
		
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			the story of the one to whom we
		
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			gave our signs, but he abandoned them.
		
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			So he's the one who made the choice.
		
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			He decided that the signs of Allah subhanAllah
		
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			were not as good or good enough, right,
		
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			and that he would rather take the world.
		
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			So when we talk about the susceptibility of
		
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			the nafs and all of us to the
		
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			tricks of nafs and shaitan and dunya and
		
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			all those evils, we have to be real.
		
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			These are stories for us because if you
		
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			get so self-righteous and you think you
		
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			can do this without constantly asking Allah subhanAllah
		
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			for guidance and realizing that our salvation hinges
		
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			daily on our realization that we can't survive
		
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			without Allah.
		
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			We have to realize that, right?
		
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			So what that does is it puts you
		
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			in a state of constant asking, right?
		
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			But if you think like, okay, I've been
		
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			Muslim my whole life, I pray, I wear
		
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			hijab, I did hajj, I did this, and
		
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			you start to let your mind shape this
		
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			idea that you're safe, it's very dangerous, right?
		
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			And it actually is part of what we're
		
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			addressing here, which is this delusion that we
		
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			can easily fall under of the nafs.
		
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			And so it's just, again, an important one
		
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			of many stories, one of many examples or
		
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			cautionary tales that are shared with us.
		
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			And these are stories before Islam.
		
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			So this is from the Israeli tradition.
		
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			There's stories that come from what we call
		
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			the Israeli stories, which are before Islam, but
		
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			they're shared in hadith literature or in tafsir
		
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			because they're cautionary tales.
		
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			They're tales that warn us about the delusions
		
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			of nafs or iblis and shaitan.
		
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			So that one is, I think, a really
		
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			good one because the fact that a person
		
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			can have such a terrible fall, right, from
		
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			grace, from, I mean, what more could you
		
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			ask for than to know Allah's great name
		
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			and to have your du'as answered?
		
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			But you sold that for the cheap price,
		
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			the paltry price of dunya, and just having
		
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			what being liked by your people.
		
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			So everything we're talking about is real.
		
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			We're susceptible to falling for these types of
		
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			delusions, and that's why we have to always
		
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			ask Allah for guidance and protection.
		
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			So alhamdulillah, just to wrap up the list,
		
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			the fourth one that we talked about was
		
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			using the spiritual path as a means to
		
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			inflate the selfish soul.
		
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			This is where we have to, again, recognize
		
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			the greatest evil within us or the greatest
		
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			evil that we have to deal with on
		
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			a daily basis is our own nafs and
		
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			ask Allah to make sure that even in
		
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			our pursuit of knowledge, even in our pursuit
		
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			of spirituality, that we're not being deluded, that
		
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			the nafs isn't putting us on a path
		
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			of piety and righteousness because we're seeking something
		
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			else, right, that it's actually really for Allah
		
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			because we recognize judgment day is real, *
		
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			is real, jannah is real.
		
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			We want to obviously be protected from the
		
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			fire, and we want the pleasure of Allah.
		
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			And if that's your motivation, alhamdulillah, it's good.
		
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			It's better than being fueled by other things.
		
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			So that's the fourth point.
		
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			And the fifth point he talks about, again,
		
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			he's talking about the diseases that he witnessed
		
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			in his time.
		
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			The last one that he mentions here is
		
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			attempting to expedite a spiritual opening without fulfilling
		
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			its prerequisite conditions.
		
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			And this is actually really important, too, because
		
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			a lot of times people will fall into
		
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			this mindset that in order to, like they
		
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			have to experience certain things, right?
		
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			It's like, well, if I'm going to worship,
		
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			then I should feel something, right?
		
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			I should have some sort of opening.
		
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			And that almost becomes a condition in order
		
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			for them to continue.
		
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			I've heard people, unfortunately, say that.
		
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			You know, like, prayer, like, I don't really
		
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			feel anything.
		
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			So, okay, so that means you just stop
		
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			praying, right?
		
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			Or, you know, I don't really like to
		
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			listen to this, or I don't like to
		
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			go to the masjid, or I don't like
		
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			to, you know, whatever it is, the act
		
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			of worship.
		
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			But they'll make some association with it that
		
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			it's not necessarily doing anything for them.
		
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			And therefore, that's why they don't want to
		
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			do it.
		
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			And it's like, astaghfirullah, so you expect the
		
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			heavens to open, right?
		
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			You expect, like, the angels to appear before
		
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			you because you did one prayer or you
		
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			sat up one night.
		
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			Or, like, prayer, a lot of times dua
		
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			becomes conditional, too.
		
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			Like, well, I made dua, and it didn't
		
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			get answered.
		
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			So I'm going to just stop making dua,
		
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			right?
		
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			These are all parts of the delusions of
		
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			nafs, is that we're expecting answers.
		
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			We're expecting all of these sure, you know,
		
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			signs to appear before us because we think
		
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			we've put in the work without realizing that,
		
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			you know, is that why you're doing what
		
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			you're doing?
		
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			Because, you know, you want to experience those
		
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			things, or isn't the satisfaction of your creator
		
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			enough, right?
		
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			Is it that you're trying to fulfill some
		
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			personal need or desire?
		
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			Because that is.
		
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			It's like if there's an enjoyment that you're
		
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			seeking through worship that becomes the reason why
		
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			you're, you know, you're worshiping, then you're not
		
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			doing it simply because it's the right of
		
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			God over you, right?
		
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			Allah brought you into existence.
		
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			He expects you to do certain things.
		
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			That is enough for you to do them.
		
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			Any enjoyment you get out of it is
		
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			just icing on the cake, but it shouldn't
		
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			be the reason why you do it.
		
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			And so if you're getting ahead of yourself
		
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			or the nafs is telling you, like, I
		
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			need to feel certain things, then that's definitely
		
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			something you want to check yourself about and
		
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			say, Astaghfirullah, you know, that's just because I've
		
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			heard and read stories that if you do
		
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			this or that, this can happen to you.
		
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			It doesn't mean that I'm necessarily entitled to
		
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			that or that I qualify if God wishes
		
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			to give me those types of dreams or
		
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			experiences, alhamdulillah, but that's not, that's not, my
		
01:27:34 --> 01:27:37
			worship isn't conditional or that's not required for
		
01:27:37 --> 01:27:38
			me to worship, right?
		
01:27:38 --> 01:27:41
			So just alhamdulillah, things to think about.
		
01:27:41 --> 01:27:43
			And again, he's outlining these things for us
		
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			so that we can really deeply think about
		
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			our own sincerity because if you're claiming that
		
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			you want to be on a spiritual path,
		
01:27:49 --> 01:27:51
			then you've got to do this type of
		
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			internal work.
		
01:27:52 --> 01:27:53
			You know, you've got to take, again, inventory
		
01:27:53 --> 01:27:57
			of your heart, of your desires, your intentions,
		
01:27:57 --> 01:28:00
			and make sure that it's not lip service.
		
01:28:00 --> 01:28:02
			You're not just trying to fit into some
		
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			group or, you know, whatever or be perceived
		
01:28:05 --> 01:28:07
			a certain way, but you're truly sincere.
		
01:28:07 --> 01:28:09
			And this is the kind of necessary line
		
01:28:09 --> 01:28:11
			of questioning that helps you to get to
		
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			those conclusions, right, by digging deep.
		
01:28:14 --> 01:28:16
			So alhamdulillah, and I'll just end on reading
		
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			because I said I would read it, but
		
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			these are from the Hadith Qudsi that Imam
		
01:28:21 --> 01:28:25
			al-Ghazali compiled, and they're really powerful messages
		
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			that are spoken directly from Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala to us.
		
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			And so I'll read the fourth counsel here
		
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			where he says, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			says, O son of Adam, whoever becomes sorrowful
		
01:28:40 --> 01:28:43
			over the world, the material world, only increases
		
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			in distance from Allah, only in hardship in
		
01:28:48 --> 01:28:50
			the world, and only in pains in the
		
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			hereafter.
		
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			In other words, if you're going to cry
		
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			over dunya, then you're going to have an
		
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			increase in distance from God, you'll have more
		
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			hardship in this world and more pain in
		
01:29:01 --> 01:29:02
			the next life.
		
01:29:03 --> 01:29:04
			So in other words, don't cry over dunya.
		
01:29:05 --> 01:29:08
			Allah exalted and joins his heart with sorrow
		
01:29:08 --> 01:29:12
			that never ends, distress which never ceases, poverty
		
01:29:12 --> 01:29:14
			that never becomes wealth, and hopes that are
		
01:29:14 --> 01:29:15
			never fulfilled.
		
01:29:16 --> 01:29:17
			So if you're going to cry over the
		
01:29:17 --> 01:29:18
			dunya, that's what you're asking for.
		
01:29:19 --> 01:29:21
			O son of Adam, every day you decrease
		
01:29:21 --> 01:29:24
			in what remains of your life while you
		
01:29:24 --> 01:29:25
			are not aware.
		
01:29:26 --> 01:29:30
			Like the grains of sand that come down
		
01:29:30 --> 01:29:32
			in an hourglass, that's life.
		
01:29:32 --> 01:29:35
			Our breaths are counted for, our years and
		
01:29:35 --> 01:29:37
			days, our numbers and hours are counted for,
		
01:29:37 --> 01:29:38
			minutes are counted for.
		
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			So it's all decreasing.
		
01:29:40 --> 01:29:43
			Every day I give you your sustenance, and
		
01:29:43 --> 01:29:45
			you do not give praise.
		
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			Thus you are not content with little, nor
		
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			are you satiated with much.
		
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			O son of Adam, not a day passes
		
01:29:53 --> 01:29:55
			except that I give you your sustenance from
		
01:29:55 --> 01:29:56
			what I have.
		
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			Not a night passes except that the angels
		
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			give me ugly deeds that you have.
		
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			You eat what I provide for you, and
		
01:30:05 --> 01:30:06
			you disobey me.
		
01:30:06 --> 01:30:09
			You call on me, so I answer you.
		
01:30:10 --> 01:30:12
			My good is sent to you, but your
		
01:30:12 --> 01:30:14
			evil is bestowed to me.
		
01:30:14 --> 01:30:16
			How good of a master am I to
		
01:30:16 --> 01:30:19
			you, how evil a slave you are to
		
01:30:19 --> 01:30:19
			me.
		
01:30:19 --> 01:30:22
			You * what I give you from me.
		
01:30:22 --> 01:30:32
			I forgive you for disgraceful act after humiliating
		
01:30:32 --> 01:30:33
			disgraceful act.
		
01:30:33 --> 01:30:35
			I am embarrassed for you, yet you are
		
01:30:35 --> 01:30:37
			not embarrassed in front of me.
		
01:30:38 --> 01:30:40
			You forget me, but remember other than me.
		
01:30:41 --> 01:30:43
			You fear people, but feel safe from me.
		
01:30:44 --> 01:30:47
			You fear their disgust, but feel safe from
		
01:30:47 --> 01:30:47
			my anger.
		
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			So this is, you know, again, just a
		
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			perspective, right?
		
01:30:53 --> 01:30:54
			Think about everything we talked about today.
		
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			Wanting to please other people, you know, not
		
01:30:58 --> 01:31:00
			doing enough gratitude to Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala.
		
01:31:00 --> 01:31:03
			Not holding ourselves into account, right?
		
01:31:04 --> 01:31:07
			And it's just good reminders to ask Allah
		
01:31:07 --> 01:31:09
			subhanahu wa ta'ala to guide us and
		
01:31:09 --> 01:31:11
			to forgive us and to recognize that we
		
01:31:11 --> 01:31:14
			are nothing without Him and that everything that
		
01:31:14 --> 01:31:17
			we have is a blessing no matter what
		
01:31:17 --> 01:31:19
			you're going through, no matter where you are.
		
01:31:19 --> 01:31:20
			And that's why it's so dangerous to compare
		
01:31:20 --> 01:31:24
			yourself to people who have more in the
		
01:31:24 --> 01:31:25
			worldly sense.
		
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			Always look at people who have less than.
		
01:31:27 --> 01:31:29
			Where we should be comparing is people who
		
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			are better in their practice, have more knowledge.
		
01:31:32 --> 01:31:35
			For those people, that's a good comparison because
		
01:31:35 --> 01:31:37
			then it humbles you to say if they
		
01:31:37 --> 01:31:37
			can do it.
		
01:31:38 --> 01:31:40
			If they're using their time, you know, and
		
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			this is a good example.
		
01:31:41 --> 01:31:43
			Like we're all living in the same area.
		
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			We all, you know, like whatever excuses you
		
01:31:46 --> 01:31:48
			give for why you can't acquire knowledge, why
		
01:31:48 --> 01:31:50
			you can't, you know, do this and that.
		
01:31:50 --> 01:31:52
			Just look around and say, okay, all these
		
01:31:52 --> 01:31:53
			other people are doing it and they're in
		
01:31:53 --> 01:31:54
			the same boat as I am.
		
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			So what makes them better than me, right?
		
01:31:58 --> 01:32:00
			Sometimes it just does come down to will
		
01:32:00 --> 01:32:03
			and desire and you can't excuse it other
		
01:32:03 --> 01:32:04
			than that.
		
01:32:04 --> 01:32:05
			It's just they have more will.
		
01:32:05 --> 01:32:09
			And that's why it's important to look around
		
01:32:09 --> 01:32:12
			and find those people that you admire, that
		
01:32:12 --> 01:32:14
			you look at and say, you know what,
		
01:32:14 --> 01:32:16
			there's something really special about them and I
		
01:32:16 --> 01:32:19
			wish I could have those virtues or those
		
01:32:19 --> 01:32:19
			traits and qualities.
		
01:32:20 --> 01:32:22
			Because then you have a goal but you
		
01:32:22 --> 01:32:23
			should also in the back of your mind
		
01:32:23 --> 01:32:25
			say, you know, I have to keep in
		
01:32:25 --> 01:32:26
			mind they live in the same area.
		
01:32:26 --> 01:32:28
			They have the same sort of lifestyle that
		
01:32:28 --> 01:32:29
			I do.
		
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			So really it just comes down to, you
		
01:32:33 --> 01:32:33
			know, sincerity.
		
01:32:33 --> 01:32:37
			And sincerity is tested with action, right?
		
01:32:37 --> 01:32:38
			Because we can all say things.
		
01:32:39 --> 01:32:40
			We can all make claims and we can
		
01:32:40 --> 01:32:43
			all, you know, say we want this or
		
01:32:43 --> 01:32:43
			that.
		
01:32:43 --> 01:32:46
			But action is really what proves those who
		
01:32:46 --> 01:32:47
			are sincere from those who are not.
		
01:32:47 --> 01:32:49
			So we ask Allah to keep us sincere,
		
01:32:49 --> 01:32:50
			inshallah.
		
01:32:51 --> 01:32:53
			And so, alhamdulillah, good reminders.
		
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			But any questions before we end here?
		
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			Because I know we're very past.
		
01:32:57 --> 01:32:57
			Yes?
		
01:32:58 --> 01:33:02
			When you give us the paper, on every
		
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			one you have like three times, four times.
		
01:33:05 --> 01:33:06
			Where do you get that from?
		
01:33:07 --> 01:33:07
			Very good question.
		
01:33:08 --> 01:33:10
			No, jazakallah khairan, excellent question.
		
01:33:10 --> 01:33:12
			So when we read the word, this is
		
01:33:12 --> 01:33:14
			the word of Imam al-Haddad, right?
		
01:33:14 --> 01:33:17
			Imam al-Haddad, it's on the cover.
		
01:33:17 --> 01:33:19
			Yeah, so this is his word, right?
		
01:33:19 --> 01:33:22
			So he has this one, it's called the
		
01:33:22 --> 01:33:22
			ratib.
		
01:33:23 --> 01:33:24
			R-A-T-I-B.
		
01:33:24 --> 01:33:25
			Yeah, al-ratib.
		
01:33:26 --> 01:33:29
			And then he has another one called the
		
01:33:29 --> 01:33:30
			wird al-latif.
		
01:33:30 --> 01:33:33
			Now these are all based on the Qur
		
01:33:33 --> 01:33:35
			'an and Sunnah, but Imam al-Haddad is
		
01:33:35 --> 01:33:38
			the one who came up with the formula.
		
01:33:38 --> 01:33:41
			So this formula of reading, you know, certain
		
01:33:41 --> 01:33:43
			du'as three times, four times, it's all
		
01:33:43 --> 01:33:46
			from the Sunnah and it's his way of,
		
01:33:47 --> 01:33:49
			you know, maximizing the benefit of the du
		
01:33:49 --> 01:33:50
			'as, right?
		
01:33:50 --> 01:33:53
			The Prophet ﷺ was known to, when he
		
01:33:53 --> 01:33:55
			wanted to really relay something, he would repeat
		
01:33:55 --> 01:33:57
			it once, twice, three times, more than once.
		
01:33:57 --> 01:33:59
			So there is wisdom in why we repeat
		
01:33:59 --> 01:34:00
			certain things, right?
		
01:34:01 --> 01:34:04
			More than one time, just for conviction, clarity,
		
01:34:04 --> 01:34:04
			all of that.
		
01:34:04 --> 01:34:06
			So it could be from that, but it's
		
01:34:06 --> 01:34:07
			his formula.
		
01:34:07 --> 01:34:09
			So this is, and many of the scholars
		
01:34:09 --> 01:34:12
			of the past, they would put together awrad,
		
01:34:12 --> 01:34:14
			all from Qur'an and Sunnah.
		
01:34:14 --> 01:34:15
			So it's not like they're making up these
		
01:34:15 --> 01:34:16
			du'as.
		
01:34:16 --> 01:34:18
			These are all from the Prophet ﷺ, but
		
01:34:18 --> 01:34:19
			what they did is they would arrange it
		
01:34:19 --> 01:34:22
			in a formula so that, and it's smart
		
01:34:22 --> 01:34:25
			of them because then he gets the sadaqa
		
01:34:25 --> 01:34:28
			jariyya, of compiling the du'as of the
		
01:34:28 --> 01:34:31
			Prophet ﷺ in this arrangement and then sending
		
01:34:31 --> 01:34:32
			it to his students.
		
01:34:32 --> 01:34:34
			And here we are, you know, centuries later,
		
01:34:35 --> 01:34:38
			reading the Wird of Imam al-Haddad that
		
01:34:38 --> 01:34:39
			is all based on Qur'an and Sunnah,
		
01:34:40 --> 01:34:41
			but he gets the ajr, part of the
		
01:34:41 --> 01:34:42
			ajr for it.
		
01:34:42 --> 01:34:46
			I do appreciate it that they have been
		
01:34:46 --> 01:34:49
			closer to their time, and Hazrat Muhammad ﷺ
		
01:34:49 --> 01:34:51
			and his people were there, and he was
		
01:34:51 --> 01:34:54
			closer in understanding that in his own life,
		
01:34:54 --> 01:34:56
			and then he created this system.
		
01:34:57 --> 01:34:59
			I just wanted to know what is the
		
01:34:59 --> 01:35:00
			secret.
		
01:35:01 --> 01:35:05
			Because I think, I read that each letter
		
01:35:05 --> 01:35:09
			of Qur'an has the concept of quantum
		
01:35:09 --> 01:35:13
			energy packets in it, absolutely, there's barakah for
		
01:35:13 --> 01:35:14
			every letter, every harakah.
		
01:35:23 --> 01:35:25
			Of course, no, it's a great question.
		
01:35:25 --> 01:35:27
			Yes, Imam al-Haddad.
		
01:35:27 --> 01:35:29
			Alhamdulillah, of course, no, I love the question,
		
01:35:29 --> 01:35:31
			thank you, because it is important to understand
		
01:35:31 --> 01:35:33
			why we're doing what we're doing, and that's
		
01:35:33 --> 01:35:34
			what we're talking about.
		
01:35:36 --> 01:35:39
			Exactly, exactly, so it's his formula, but if
		
01:35:39 --> 01:35:41
			you look at Imam Nawawi Hazwer, there are
		
01:35:41 --> 01:35:44
			other scholars who have their, it's the same
		
01:35:44 --> 01:35:46
			concept, it's like we're going to take the
		
01:35:46 --> 01:35:48
			du'as of the Prophet ﷺ, as well
		
01:35:48 --> 01:35:49
			as certain verses of the Qur'an, and
		
01:35:49 --> 01:35:52
			then just put it in this formula, because
		
01:35:52 --> 01:35:56
			we're supposed to have a practice of, a
		
01:35:56 --> 01:35:58
			devotional practice of saying du'as every day,
		
01:35:59 --> 01:36:00
			and these are protective du'as, they're du
		
01:36:00 --> 01:36:02
			'as that we should be saying, the Prophet
		
01:36:02 --> 01:36:03
			ﷺ left them for that reason.
		
01:36:04 --> 01:36:06
			So we have our prayers, because Allah commands
		
01:36:06 --> 01:36:09
			us to pray, but then we have means
		
01:36:09 --> 01:36:11
			of protection, that the Prophet ﷺ gave us
		
01:36:11 --> 01:36:14
			through these du'as, but sometimes we're just
		
01:36:14 --> 01:36:16
			not doing it, because it's like, okay, I
		
01:36:16 --> 01:36:17
			have to read this book, and that book,
		
01:36:17 --> 01:36:18
			and this book, to get that du'a,
		
01:36:18 --> 01:36:20
			so it's genius that they said, you know
		
01:36:20 --> 01:36:22
			what, let me simplify it, put it in
		
01:36:22 --> 01:36:25
			one document, order it, and then give it
		
01:36:25 --> 01:36:27
			to my students, and then those students shared
		
01:36:27 --> 01:36:29
			it with the masses, and here we are,
		
01:36:29 --> 01:36:30
			right?
		
01:36:34 --> 01:36:35
			Alhamdulillah.
		
01:36:38 --> 01:36:41
			Exactly, no, alhamdulillah, the benefit of sohbah, the
		
01:36:41 --> 01:36:44
			benefit of du'as, mashallah, yes, jazakallah khairan,
		
01:36:44 --> 01:36:46
			sister Mohamed, mashallah, yes.
		
01:36:56 --> 01:36:56
			Right.
		
01:36:56 --> 01:36:57
			Right.
		
01:37:17 --> 01:37:19
			Right.
		
01:37:24 --> 01:37:25
			Right.
		
01:37:25 --> 01:37:26
			Right.
		
01:37:35 --> 01:37:35
			Right.
		
01:37:48 --> 01:37:49
			Sure.
		
01:38:01 --> 01:38:01
			Sure.
		
01:38:02 --> 01:38:04
			No, it's an excellent question.
		
01:38:09 --> 01:38:11
			Yeah, no, it's an excellent question, jazakallah khairan,
		
01:38:11 --> 01:38:13
			I love these types of questions, because they
		
01:38:13 --> 01:38:16
			actually reveal a lot of things about just
		
01:38:16 --> 01:38:18
			human nature and our relationships, right?
		
01:38:18 --> 01:38:20
			Like, if you think about, like you said,
		
01:38:20 --> 01:38:22
			what would be the motivation of two people
		
01:38:22 --> 01:38:23
			having a conversation, right?
		
01:38:23 --> 01:38:25
			You can do a lot of, like, you
		
01:38:25 --> 01:38:26
			can put yourself in that position, maybe we've
		
01:38:26 --> 01:38:30
			all had conversations like that, sometimes it can
		
01:38:30 --> 01:38:32
			be as simple as you're being really sincere
		
01:38:32 --> 01:38:34
			in the moment you really are having self
		
01:38:34 --> 01:38:36
			-doubt, and you're vocalizing that self-doubt, and
		
01:38:36 --> 01:38:39
			the other person is also trying to remind
		
01:38:39 --> 01:38:41
			you to have a higher opinion of Allah,
		
01:38:41 --> 01:38:44
			so it's actually a very sincere, real conversation,
		
01:38:44 --> 01:38:46
			right, from two hearts that are just in
		
01:38:46 --> 01:38:48
			their own feelings, right?
		
01:38:48 --> 01:38:50
			And so they're both right, because it's important
		
01:38:50 --> 01:38:52
			to remind people that we should always have
		
01:38:52 --> 01:38:53
			the highest opinion, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
01:38:53 --> 01:38:57
			says, and there are other hadith that also
		
01:38:57 --> 01:39:00
			talk about that weak conviction when you're making
		
01:39:00 --> 01:39:02
			du'a is not good, we should have
		
01:39:02 --> 01:39:04
			firm conviction, like when we do something, we
		
01:39:04 --> 01:39:07
			should feel like Allah, it's not that we're
		
01:39:07 --> 01:39:09
			good and we think of ourselves as anything,
		
01:39:09 --> 01:39:10
			but rather we have such a high opinion
		
01:39:10 --> 01:39:13
			of Allah, that Allah is so generous, that
		
01:39:13 --> 01:39:15
			even if I made mistakes, that He is
		
01:39:15 --> 01:39:17
			so generous, He will accept it, so that
		
01:39:17 --> 01:39:20
			person who is telling you, no, you shouldn't
		
01:39:20 --> 01:39:21
			think that way, inshallah, they're coming from a
		
01:39:21 --> 01:39:24
			place of, you know, reminding us to always
		
01:39:24 --> 01:39:28
			have a very magnified, magnanimous kind of view
		
01:39:28 --> 01:39:29
			of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, which is
		
01:39:29 --> 01:39:31
			very important in this day and age where
		
01:39:31 --> 01:39:34
			people let their self-doubt kind of, you
		
01:39:34 --> 01:39:37
			know, go the opposite direction, and that's actually
		
01:39:37 --> 01:39:39
			waswasa, if you start to pick apart every
		
01:39:39 --> 01:39:41
			little thing you do, you can go into
		
01:39:41 --> 01:39:44
			what we call like scrupulosity or OCD, where
		
01:39:44 --> 01:39:45
			people start to, oh my God, I didn't
		
01:39:45 --> 01:39:47
			do this right, and then now you're spending
		
01:39:47 --> 01:39:49
			10 minutes doing your will do because you
		
01:39:49 --> 01:39:51
			think like, it's not good enough, so these
		
01:39:51 --> 01:39:53
			are the real things that happen to people,
		
01:39:53 --> 01:39:55
			right, so we do need a balance, so
		
01:39:55 --> 01:39:57
			I think my point is, if two people
		
01:39:57 --> 01:39:59
			are having that conversation and they're really both
		
01:39:59 --> 01:40:03
			individually very genuine in trying to, you know,
		
01:40:03 --> 01:40:06
			vocalize their feelings, it's, I think, just, it's
		
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			beautiful, but sometimes I think what happens is,
		
01:40:10 --> 01:40:12
			and this is where it's so important to
		
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			be self-aware, like are you just making
		
01:40:14 --> 01:40:16
			conversation, right?
		
01:40:16 --> 01:40:19
			Is it just what you think you should
		
01:40:19 --> 01:40:19
			say?
		
01:40:19 --> 01:40:21
			Like if you just came from Hajj and
		
01:40:21 --> 01:40:23
			you feel like, oh, I want to be
		
01:40:23 --> 01:40:25
			perceived as a humble person and I'm not
		
01:40:25 --> 01:40:28
			trying to be showboaty, then I have to
		
01:40:28 --> 01:40:30
			say, oh, may Allah, I hope it's accepted.
		
01:40:31 --> 01:40:33
			You know, sometimes we are, it's almost like
		
01:40:33 --> 01:40:38
			we're programmed to give these pat responses and
		
01:40:38 --> 01:40:41
			answers to certain questions about spiritual work because
		
01:40:41 --> 01:40:44
			we're trying to deflect from looking like we're
		
01:40:44 --> 01:40:46
			being self-righteous, right?
		
01:40:46 --> 01:40:50
			So that's very interesting because it goes into,
		
01:40:50 --> 01:40:53
			like, you know, like psychology, like why are
		
01:40:53 --> 01:40:56
			you so concerned about your worship, first of
		
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			all, being perceived any which way by anybody
		
01:40:59 --> 01:40:59
			else, right?
		
01:41:00 --> 01:41:03
			Like you shouldn't care, you shouldn't care how
		
01:41:03 --> 01:41:05
			people see you because it's not for them.
		
01:41:05 --> 01:41:07
			And that's why when you study diseases of
		
01:41:07 --> 01:41:10
			the heart, like when you study ostentation, riyah,
		
01:41:10 --> 01:41:12
			there's two sides of the coin of riyah.
		
01:41:13 --> 01:41:15
			One is that you're doing things because you
		
01:41:15 --> 01:41:17
			want people to see you and you want
		
01:41:17 --> 01:41:18
			to be perceived a certain way.
		
01:41:19 --> 01:41:21
			The other side is that you don't do
		
01:41:21 --> 01:41:24
			certain things because you don't want people to
		
01:41:24 --> 01:41:25
			think that you're arrogant, right?
		
01:41:25 --> 01:41:27
			So let's say you walk into the masjid
		
01:41:27 --> 01:41:29
			and you're like, oh, I should pray tahiyyat
		
01:41:29 --> 01:41:31
			al-masjid, two rak'ah, but all these
		
01:41:31 --> 01:41:32
			people are watching me and they're going to
		
01:41:32 --> 01:41:34
			think, oh, who does she think she is?
		
01:41:34 --> 01:41:35
			She's going to go in front of the
		
01:41:35 --> 01:41:35
			masjid.
		
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			You've just committed riyah, right?
		
01:41:39 --> 01:41:45
			Because your preoccupation is with the people.
		
01:41:45 --> 01:41:46
			You're not thinking about Allah.
		
01:41:46 --> 01:41:48
			You're thinking, oh, they're going to think this
		
01:41:48 --> 01:41:49
			of me, so I'm not going to do
		
01:41:49 --> 01:41:49
			this.
		
01:41:49 --> 01:41:51
			I'm not going to speak up because they're
		
01:41:51 --> 01:41:51
			going to think this.
		
01:41:51 --> 01:41:53
			Then you're just preoccupied with people.
		
01:41:54 --> 01:41:56
			So I think my point is it really
		
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			depends on the people having those conversations, what's
		
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			going on.
		
01:42:00 --> 01:42:03
			If you're falling into a habit of talking
		
01:42:03 --> 01:42:06
			about your spiritual practices in a way that's
		
01:42:06 --> 01:42:10
			self-deprecating because you're trying not to look
		
01:42:10 --> 01:42:12
			like you're so full of yourself, that is
		
01:42:12 --> 01:42:13
			dangerous.
		
01:42:13 --> 01:42:16
			You shouldn't do that because who are you
		
01:42:16 --> 01:42:18
			trying to impress, right?
		
01:42:18 --> 01:42:20
			And who are you trying to make them
		
01:42:20 --> 01:42:23
			think of you as someone who's not so
		
01:42:23 --> 01:42:24
			this or that or whatever?
		
01:42:24 --> 01:42:29
			So the best answer is to just collect.
		
01:42:29 --> 01:42:33
			I feel like instead of individualizing these things
		
01:42:33 --> 01:42:37
			because it's dangerous, speak in collective terms, right?
		
01:42:37 --> 01:42:40
			So if you were to come back from
		
01:42:40 --> 01:42:41
			Hajj and you're having a conversation, just say,
		
01:42:41 --> 01:42:43
			yeah, I'm Allah's prophet except from all of
		
01:42:43 --> 01:42:43
			us.
		
01:42:44 --> 01:42:47
			I just feel like this magnification of me
		
01:42:47 --> 01:42:49
			and I is really part of the problem.
		
01:42:50 --> 01:42:52
			Just speak in collective terms, right?
		
01:42:52 --> 01:42:53
			We're all in this together.
		
01:42:53 --> 01:42:57
			And that way, wherever it is, you're not
		
01:42:57 --> 01:42:59
			trying to get attention on yourself, right?
		
01:42:59 --> 01:43:02
			You're actually preventing that from happening.
		
01:43:02 --> 01:43:06
			Because speaking in a collective is saying, nobody
		
01:43:06 --> 01:43:07
			knows, and that's actually real.
		
01:43:07 --> 01:43:08
			We just don't know.
		
01:43:08 --> 01:43:10
			May Allah make us all sincere.
		
01:43:10 --> 01:43:12
			May Allah accept all of our ibadah.
		
01:43:12 --> 01:43:13
			But what if it's like, oh, I don't
		
01:43:13 --> 01:43:14
			know about me.
		
01:43:15 --> 01:43:17
			Now what you're doing is you're spotlighting yourself,
		
01:43:17 --> 01:43:17
			right?
		
01:43:17 --> 01:43:21
			I don't think it was a spotlight from
		
01:43:21 --> 01:43:21
			that person.
		
01:43:22 --> 01:43:24
			I think the other person who did Hajj
		
01:43:24 --> 01:43:26
			actually got offended.
		
01:43:27 --> 01:43:30
			It was kind of like, yeah, we all
		
01:43:30 --> 01:43:30
			went.
		
01:43:30 --> 01:43:31
			I was coming in.
		
01:43:33 --> 01:43:36
			So of course Allah should think better of
		
01:43:36 --> 01:43:36
			Allah.
		
01:43:36 --> 01:43:40
			So it's like one person sometimes said that.
		
01:43:40 --> 01:43:41
			The other person sometimes said that.
		
01:43:42 --> 01:43:44
			But I'm just thinking that was an interesting
		
01:43:44 --> 01:43:45
			conversation.
		
01:43:45 --> 01:43:50
			And I understand that one person was trying
		
01:43:50 --> 01:43:52
			to check themselves.
		
01:43:54 --> 01:43:55
			I'm not just some person.
		
01:43:56 --> 01:43:57
			I'm not a newborn baby automatically.
		
01:43:58 --> 01:43:59
			We don't know if that person did it
		
01:43:59 --> 01:44:00
			or not.
		
01:44:00 --> 01:44:01
			Only Allah knows.
		
01:44:01 --> 01:44:03
			Yeah, that's what I said.
		
01:44:03 --> 01:44:04
			I feel like a lot of our conversations
		
01:44:04 --> 01:44:07
			around these things are automatic.
		
01:44:07 --> 01:44:09
			Because it's like, oh, you just came back,
		
01:44:09 --> 01:44:11
			so you have to have certain responses ready.
		
01:44:11 --> 01:44:14
			Yeah, someone says, oh, you're Hajji, you're this,
		
01:44:14 --> 01:44:15
			you're that.
		
01:44:15 --> 01:44:16
			Or if you wear a hijab.
		
01:44:16 --> 01:44:18
			Or you go through some life event.
		
01:44:18 --> 01:44:20
			We kind of are programmed to come up
		
01:44:20 --> 01:44:21
			with all these answers.
		
01:44:21 --> 01:44:22
			And I think even women in general, just
		
01:44:22 --> 01:44:25
			taking compliments for anything is so impossible.
		
01:44:25 --> 01:44:28
			Because we're always thinking like, oh, if I
		
01:44:28 --> 01:44:31
			take the compliment, I'm somehow full of myself.
		
01:44:31 --> 01:44:33
			And I don't want them to think I
		
01:44:33 --> 01:44:34
			think of myself as anything.
		
01:44:34 --> 01:44:36
			So I'm going to self-deprecate in order
		
01:44:36 --> 01:44:37
			for them not to think.
		
01:44:37 --> 01:44:39
			But I feel like that is really not
		
01:44:39 --> 01:44:40
			healthy either.
		
01:44:40 --> 01:44:41
			We just have to say, alhamdulillah.
		
01:44:41 --> 01:44:44
			But I think just, like I said, maybe
		
01:44:44 --> 01:44:47
			a good way to avoid that whole self
		
01:44:47 --> 01:44:49
			-doubt, and is my intention this or that
		
01:44:49 --> 01:44:50
			or this?
		
01:44:50 --> 01:44:52
			I just feel it's better to just focus
		
01:44:52 --> 01:44:55
			on collective language, where we're all just speaking
		
01:44:55 --> 01:44:59
			in terms where it's like, you're not trying
		
01:44:59 --> 01:45:00
			to spotlight yourself.
		
01:45:00 --> 01:45:03
			Because it's the spotlighting of the self that
		
01:45:03 --> 01:45:05
			I think is a slippery slope where you
		
01:45:05 --> 01:45:07
			can now really get into all of these
		
01:45:07 --> 01:45:09
			messy areas.
		
01:45:09 --> 01:45:13
			Whereas just collective language is, we're all in
		
01:45:13 --> 01:45:14
			it together.
		
01:45:22 --> 01:45:28
			Totally, general comments, alhamdulillah, may Allah accept.
		
01:45:29 --> 01:45:30
			Exactly.
		
01:45:30 --> 01:45:33
			It's the personal response or the desire to
		
01:45:33 --> 01:45:36
			make it about you that I would say
		
01:45:36 --> 01:45:38
			with other people, especially when it comes to
		
01:45:38 --> 01:45:39
			worship.
		
01:45:39 --> 01:45:40
			It's not a good thing.
		
01:45:40 --> 01:45:43
			We should just keep those things to ourselves.
		
01:45:44 --> 01:45:46
			If you have self-doubt about whether or
		
01:45:46 --> 01:45:48
			not your hajj is accepted or your ibadah
		
01:45:48 --> 01:45:50
			is accepted, that's a conversation with Allah.
		
01:45:51 --> 01:45:52
			Nobody needs to be a part of that
		
01:45:52 --> 01:45:53
			conversation, ever.
		
01:45:54 --> 01:45:55
			You never have to talk about that with
		
01:45:55 --> 01:45:56
			someone else.
		
01:45:56 --> 01:45:57
			That's between you.
		
01:45:57 --> 01:45:59
			You're like, ya Allah, please accept it.
		
01:45:59 --> 01:46:02
			And if there was shortcomings, deficiencies in my
		
01:46:02 --> 01:46:04
			ibadah, please, ya Allah, forgive me and give
		
01:46:04 --> 01:46:05
			me an opportunity to redo it.
		
01:46:05 --> 01:46:08
			But for us to take those conversations and
		
01:46:08 --> 01:46:10
			make them public, I feel like there's something
		
01:46:10 --> 01:46:12
			there that we need to explore why.
		
01:46:12 --> 01:46:13
			Why do I have to invite someone else
		
01:46:13 --> 01:46:16
			into my insecurity about my worship when it's
		
01:46:16 --> 01:46:17
			for God and God alone?
		
01:46:17 --> 01:46:19
			Am I trying to get attention?
		
01:46:19 --> 01:46:22
			That's what using the spiritual path as a
		
01:46:22 --> 01:46:23
			means to inflate the selfish soul.
		
01:46:24 --> 01:46:27
			These are hidden sort of things that come
		
01:46:27 --> 01:46:31
			up if you're not inspecting the true motivation
		
01:46:31 --> 01:46:32
			behind why you're bringing that up in the
		
01:46:32 --> 01:46:33
			first place.
		
01:46:33 --> 01:46:36
			So spiritual struggles I don't think should be
		
01:46:36 --> 01:46:42
			openly discussed unless you're seeking advice from a
		
01:46:42 --> 01:46:45
			teacher on how to fix something.
		
01:46:45 --> 01:46:49
			But when we speak openly about our own
		
01:46:49 --> 01:46:55
			struggles in a way that is spotlighting, especially
		
01:46:55 --> 01:46:57
			when it comes to Niyah and those types
		
01:46:57 --> 01:46:59
			of things, that's concerning.
		
01:47:00 --> 01:47:02
			Because Niyah can't be remedied by someone's perspective.
		
01:47:02 --> 01:47:04
			I can't tell you, no, no, no.
		
01:47:05 --> 01:47:09
			If you're asking for clarification about doing something
		
01:47:09 --> 01:47:12
			the right way or the wrong way, yes,
		
01:47:12 --> 01:47:13
			speaking about that is fine.
		
01:47:14 --> 01:47:15
			But if it's like, oh, I don't know
		
01:47:15 --> 01:47:17
			if my thing was accepted, that's just a
		
01:47:17 --> 01:47:19
			conversation between you and Allah.
		
01:47:20 --> 01:47:21
			Don't bring that to people.
		
01:47:23 --> 01:47:24
			That's just my advice.
		
01:47:25 --> 01:47:26
			We have to do our best.
		
01:47:26 --> 01:47:29
			Because the traps of Iblis and nafs are
		
01:47:29 --> 01:47:31
			everywhere.
		
01:47:31 --> 01:47:35
			It's like a minefield, a spiritual minefield.
		
01:47:35 --> 01:47:38
			But part of being self-aware and growing
		
01:47:38 --> 01:47:43
			and maturing is like, you just want to
		
01:47:43 --> 01:47:44
			be with Allah.
		
01:47:45 --> 01:47:49
			And I think your worship becomes more and
		
01:47:49 --> 01:47:49
			more personal.
		
01:47:50 --> 01:47:52
			You really retreat more inward when it comes
		
01:47:52 --> 01:47:53
			to your connection with Allah.
		
01:47:53 --> 01:47:56
			Can I just clarify, when you said the
		
01:47:56 --> 01:48:00
			example of Adam, it was the nafs that
		
01:48:00 --> 01:48:01
			really brought him down.
		
01:48:02 --> 01:48:04
			But it's actually a combination.
		
01:48:04 --> 01:48:05
			It is.
		
01:48:05 --> 01:48:07
			Because Shaytan, Dunya was tempting him.
		
01:48:08 --> 01:48:11
			The nafs is like the greatest culprit.
		
01:48:11 --> 01:48:14
			It's like Iblis is your co-conspirator in
		
01:48:14 --> 01:48:15
			your sin.
		
01:48:15 --> 01:48:17
			But you can't blame Iblis for everything.
		
01:48:18 --> 01:48:20
			And you can't entirely blame these nafs.
		
01:48:20 --> 01:48:21
			Exactly.
		
01:48:21 --> 01:48:24
			Well, in this case, yes.
		
01:48:25 --> 01:48:27
			Because remember, he was given all of these
		
01:48:27 --> 01:48:28
			signs.
		
01:48:28 --> 01:48:32
			That's why Allah says, exactly.
		
01:48:34 --> 01:48:36
			Well, I think it's a combination of things,
		
01:48:36 --> 01:48:39
			but the main reason why he fell, and
		
01:48:39 --> 01:48:41
			he recognized it in himself when he was
		
01:48:41 --> 01:48:42
			asked initially.
		
01:48:42 --> 01:48:45
			He said, why would I curse the Prophet?
		
01:48:45 --> 01:48:47
			I would be condemning myself in Dunya and
		
01:48:47 --> 01:48:47
			Akhira.
		
01:48:47 --> 01:48:51
			So he had awareness of how grave this
		
01:48:51 --> 01:48:53
			act would be, but then it was the
		
01:48:53 --> 01:48:56
			temptation that got him.
		
01:48:57 --> 01:48:59
			So the nafs was weak to whatever they
		
01:48:59 --> 01:48:59
			were offering him.
		
01:49:00 --> 01:49:02
			And also, as we talked about, wanting to
		
01:49:02 --> 01:49:04
			be not ostracized from his people.
		
01:49:05 --> 01:49:08
			There's just so many lessons from this story
		
01:49:08 --> 01:49:11
			that we can explore, but that point is
		
01:49:11 --> 01:49:13
			also really important because I feel like going
		
01:49:13 --> 01:49:16
			to the beginning of the conversation we had,
		
01:49:16 --> 01:49:19
			as a foundation, being indifferent to whether you're
		
01:49:19 --> 01:49:23
			accepted or rejected by people, is really important
		
01:49:23 --> 01:49:25
			because we may find ourselves in situations where
		
01:49:25 --> 01:49:29
			we're tested to do something or not do
		
01:49:29 --> 01:49:31
			something because people are going to talk.
		
01:49:32 --> 01:49:33
			The people are going to not like this.
		
01:49:33 --> 01:49:34
			The people are going to like that.
		
01:49:35 --> 01:49:36
			And we just have to go back to,
		
01:49:37 --> 01:49:40
			I hold myself accountable to God and let
		
01:49:40 --> 01:49:43
			the chips fall where they may, as they
		
01:49:43 --> 01:49:43
			say.
		
01:49:44 --> 01:49:46
			Whatever happens after that.
		
01:49:46 --> 01:49:48
			Because if I'm holding myself accountable to Allah,
		
01:49:48 --> 01:49:50
			then I have full trust that everything else
		
01:49:50 --> 01:49:51
			will get taken care of.
		
01:49:51 --> 01:49:55
			But if I'm going to sacrifice that connection
		
01:49:55 --> 01:49:58
			for people, then now you're playing with fire.
		
01:49:59 --> 01:50:00
			So anyway, there's a lot of lessons from
		
01:50:00 --> 01:50:00
			that story.
		
01:50:00 --> 01:50:03
			But yeah, the nafs was the main, his
		
01:50:03 --> 01:50:04
			downfall.
		
01:50:04 --> 01:50:05
			Alhamdulillah.
		
01:50:06 --> 01:50:06
			Thank you.
		
01:50:07 --> 01:50:09
			Any other questions?
		
01:50:09 --> 01:50:10
			Comments?
		
01:50:10 --> 01:50:10
			Yes.
		
01:50:14 --> 01:50:14
			Yes.
		
01:50:17 --> 01:50:18
			I believe he is Yemeni.
		
01:50:18 --> 01:50:19
			Yeah.
		
01:50:19 --> 01:50:20
			Yeah.
		
01:50:21 --> 01:50:21
			Yeah.
		
01:50:21 --> 01:50:22
			His birthday is actually.
		
01:50:23 --> 01:50:26
			No, it says here 1132 is his death
		
01:50:26 --> 01:50:27
			date, 1721.
		
01:50:27 --> 01:50:30
			I actually don't have his birth year.
		
01:50:33 --> 01:50:33
			Yeah.
		
01:50:34 --> 01:50:34
			You know what?
		
01:50:34 --> 01:50:37
			It's Imam Abdullah bin Alawi al-Haddad.
		
01:50:37 --> 01:50:37
			Thank you.
		
01:50:38 --> 01:50:38
			Alhamdulillah.
		
01:50:39 --> 01:50:40
			You're very welcome, sister.
		
01:50:41 --> 01:50:41
			MashaAllah.
		
01:50:42 --> 01:50:43
			Alright.
		
01:50:43 --> 01:50:43
			Alhamdulillah.
		
01:50:43 --> 01:50:44
			Jazakumullahu khayran.
		
01:50:44 --> 01:50:46
			Sisters, inshaAllah we'll go ahead and wrap up.
		
01:50:46 --> 01:50:48
			And I'm sorry again for the late start.
		
01:50:48 --> 01:50:50
			InshaAllah next time we'll be more on time.
		
01:50:50 --> 01:50:51
			So we'll end in du'a.
		
01:50:52 --> 01:50:53
			Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.
		
01:51:18 --> 01:51:19
			Jazakumullahu khayran.
		
01:51:19 --> 01:51:19
			Thank you again.
		
01:51:20 --> 01:51:21
			Ladies, inshaAllah.
		
01:51:40 --> 01:51:41
			Yes.
		
01:51:41 --> 01:51:42
			Jazakumullahu khayran.
		
01:51:42 --> 01:51:43
			Drive safely.
		
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			Thank you ladies.
		
01:51:44 --> 01:51:47
			Thank you guys.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.