Hosai Mojaddidi – Emotional Intelligence of the Prophet PBUH’s SisterinLaw
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The speaker discusses the prophesy of a woman who gets on a horse and gets wet, leading to a woman who wants to be transparent and honored. She talks about the emotional intelligence of a woman who wants to be kept on a horse, and how it can be difficult to share certain feelings with her spouse. The speaker emphasizes the importance of privacy and honesty in these situations.
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We're gonna rewind a little bit when she didn't have a lot. And,
you know, her husband as a band was struggling and they had this
horse. At that time in her life, she did a lot, she was the she
would go out early, and get water for the horse, feed the horse,
bring it fodder, she would walk it, she would go and get dates,
seeds, and they would, they would, at that time crush it. And it was
a very labor intensive life. And at one point, she had to walk
about two miles to do this process of crushing these date stones, and
then they would carry these massive things on her head. So
again, try to visualize this, she's walking two miles,
exhausted, she's been laboring all day, just trying to make it
survive and who comes and crosses her path, none other than the
beloved sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is his sister in
law. So you know, sometimes, and this is, again, something that we
should just really appreciate, that is lost. Unfortunately, today
in the nonverbal communication that can sometimes be really
powerful. Not everything always has to be said, sometimes the
States and our hearts are communicating. So the prophesy
centum sees his sister in law in this state, without a single word,
he stops his camel and orders the camel to kneel. And then he makes
a sound.
Or if something to that effect, which was an indication to her,
like, come on, I got you sit on the camel, I'm gonna take you the
rest of the way. He had this compassion for his sister in law
seeing her in the state. But SubhanAllah. And I want you to see
what she does. This is again, the emotional intelligence of a wife,
and a woman who's using her intellect to assess the situation.
There's all these men here, the processes here, I could really use
a ride, right? But
my husband is jealous.
I can't do it. without words, without any words. What does she
do? She just stands there. And the prophesies tell them again, He
knows the hearts, no communication, they just
understood each other. He understood that her shyness meant
she wasn't going to get on. And he just proceeded forward. And she
went home rushed home to tell her husband about this whole incident
what happened, because she wanted to be transparent, we, and we have
to, again, apply this in the modern context. A lot of things
are happening in spaces, private and marriages, and lives all over
the place. And everybody's all about privacy. Now, give me a
break, you're married transparency, you should have you
know, access to one another's, you know, whatever is public, right?
But this idea that no, I can do my own thing. And I don't have to
share to just let's learn from her, she wanted to, again, show
her husband and I honored you in your absence. So she tells him
what happened. And his response is also a really beautiful, because
it just gives us insight that they actually cared about one another.
And it wasn't this whole, you know, power game all the time.
Like, I want this, and I want that they weren't about that they were
about the hearts. So he told her, he said by Allah, you're carrying
the date stones, and you being seen by the promises to them on
with that, you know, with it on your head in such a state is more
shameful to me than you having taken a ride with him. So he's
letting her know like I'm pained that you were in this that I've
put you in this situation, I don't care about that. But there are so
considerate of one another's feelings. So we have to think
about that in the context of, you know, who are we? Are we you know,
again, not sharing certain things with our spouses, or are we taking
these positions that are not really thoughtful about one
another's feelings and this applies to the brothers too. I
hope they're watching this or will watch it at some point. But you
know, if your wife asks you not to socialize with certain people,
it's respect that you honor that request and vice versa and I think
we just have to, you know, take take that, you know, nessa from
this, but she prioritized her husband's feelings in that
incident.