Hosai Mojaddidi – Emotional Intelligence of the Prophet PBUH’s SisterinLaw

We're gonna rewind a little bit when she didn't have a lot. And,

you know, her husband as a band was struggling and they had this

horse. At that time in her life, she did a lot, she was the she

would go out early, and get water for the horse, feed the horse,

bring it fodder, she would walk it, she would go and get dates,

seeds, and they would, they would, at that time crush it. And it was

a very labor intensive life. And at one point, she had to walk

about two miles to do this process of crushing these date stones, and

then they would carry these massive things on her head. So

again, try to visualize this, she's walking two miles,

exhausted, she's been laboring all day, just trying to make it

survive and who comes and crosses her path, none other than the

beloved sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is his sister in

law. So you know, sometimes, and this is, again, something that we

should just really appreciate, that is lost. Unfortunately, today

in the nonverbal communication that can sometimes be really

powerful. Not everything always has to be said, sometimes the

States and our hearts are communicating. So the prophesy

centum sees his sister in law in this state, without a single word,

he stops his camel and orders the camel to kneel. And then he makes

a sound.

Or if something to that effect, which was an indication to her,

like, come on, I got you sit on the camel, I'm gonna take you the

rest of the way. He had this compassion for his sister in law

seeing her in the state. But SubhanAllah. And I want you to see

what she does. This is again, the emotional intelligence of a wife,

and a woman who's using her intellect to assess the situation.

There's all these men here, the processes here, I could really use

a ride, right? But

my husband is jealous.

I can't do it. without words, without any words. What does she

do? She just stands there. And the prophesies tell them again, He

knows the hearts, no communication, they just

understood each other. He understood that her shyness meant

she wasn't going to get on. And he just proceeded forward. And she

went home rushed home to tell her husband about this whole incident

what happened, because she wanted to be transparent, we, and we have

to, again, apply this in the modern context. A lot of things

are happening in spaces, private and marriages, and lives all over

the place. And everybody's all about privacy. Now, give me a

break, you're married transparency, you should have you

know, access to one another's, you know, whatever is public, right?

But this idea that no, I can do my own thing. And I don't have to

share to just let's learn from her, she wanted to, again, show

her husband and I honored you in your absence. So she tells him

what happened. And his response is also a really beautiful, because

it just gives us insight that they actually cared about one another.

And it wasn't this whole, you know, power game all the time.

Like, I want this, and I want that they weren't about that they were

about the hearts. So he told her, he said by Allah, you're carrying

the date stones, and you being seen by the promises to them on

with that, you know, with it on your head in such a state is more

shameful to me than you having taken a ride with him. So he's

letting her know like I'm pained that you were in this that I've

put you in this situation, I don't care about that. But there are so

considerate of one another's feelings. So we have to think

about that in the context of, you know, who are we? Are we you know,

again, not sharing certain things with our spouses, or are we taking

these positions that are not really thoughtful about one

another's feelings and this applies to the brothers too. I

hope they're watching this or will watch it at some point. But you

know, if your wife asks you not to socialize with certain people,

it's respect that you honor that request and vice versa and I think

we just have to, you know, take take that, you know, nessa from

this, but she prioritized her husband's feelings in that

incident.