Hisham Jafar Ali – Names Of Allah And His Attributes #21 The Limitless in Favour
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The speakers discuss the concept of limit and competition, the fear of losing money when spending on a different cause, and the concept of limited competition and "hasads." They provide examples of people spending money in the path of Islam, including those who spend money in the path of Islam, and emphasize the importance of trusting Allah for financial and retirement opportunities. The speakers also stress the need to stay in a marriage once it is over and emphasize the importance of not letting go of one's spouse's desire and the importance of not wanting to give too much. Finally, they discuss the importance of favoring Islam for men and women, citing the use of different skills and experiences to create human life.
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Alhamdulillah
that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala granted us the
life to return to remembering him and to
knowing
him.
Today
we have a few names of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala that we are going to reflect
on and contemplate together.
The first
is the name of Allah that I just
recited in the end of this verse.
Allah's name,
Alwaseya.
Allah's name,
Alwaseya.
In the Arabic language
refers to when something expands,
when something is expanding.
It's large.
If I were to say that this is
a Wasir Masjid, that means it's a large
Masjid with lots of room, lots of space
inside, Wasir.
And the opposite of Wasir is Bayik,
something that's tight, it's narrow, there's no room,
there's not enough.
When Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala describes himself, one
of the descriptions he gives for himself
is the name Al Wasya. The one who
has no limit.
It's not just here that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala is expansive, but he has no limit.
In the Arabic language you would say
to to mean
he was able to do this much. For
example, if you were to give £10 in
charity
and I would say
that means
he only had £10 in his pocket that
was his maximum
so he was only able to that's all
the capacity he had so when we say
Allah is we
say that Allah's ability,
his capacity,
His abilities
are beyond measure, there's no limit.
Now where does this name
come in the Quran?
This name of Allah comes in the Quran
in a few different themes.
The first of those themes
is when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks about
spending in the path of Allah. Who can
tell me
my beloved huffad?
Where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala uses his name?
It's in Surat Al Baqarah.
No. Actually, no.
In this verse Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala encourage
us, encourages us to spend in his path.
Now what is the biggest fear
when we spend for the sake of Allah,
when we spend for a greater cause,
we always see this expenditure as a minus
in our bank account
we subtract
it I had a £100-ten,
-twenty, -thirty
we always conceive of it as we are
losing it's a loss
right it's a loss making thing it's not
a profit making effort it's a loss it's
a cost this is how you always think
about spending money
when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks
and and the biggest fear we have is
if I lose this money it's not coming
back,
There's a mindset,
many psychologists they talk about it, it's called
the scarcity mindset. What is scarcity?
Scarcity means there's not enough of something.
Scarcity mindset means
you and me sometimes we think there's not
enough money in the world.
So if I get to if I need
to earn this money, that guy, he has
to lose some money,
and if I lose some money, someone's going
to gain money.
Imagine somebody opens a shop
let's say
on a nearby road open a restaurant
and after 2 years one of the very
common someone comes to work for them very
good employee
very good chef in the kitchen next year
they open the same cuisine same restaurant with
a different name next door
what's the fear that the shopkeeper has the
restaurant owner has
Competition.
So what's his worry? My customers are gonna
go there.
In his mind, there's a limited number of
customers. Let's say 50.
All this time, all 50 are coming to
my shop. Now from tomorrow, 25 are gonna
go to his shop.
This is the scarcity mindset. When you think
everything is limited,
50 customers, no more. So when there's a
neighbor, a new shop, half is gonna go
to him, half is gonna go to me.
When you think of Allah's name, Alwaseya,
Allah's giving has no limits.
You think, okay, a new shop, Insha'Allah, he
will get 50, and I will get my
same 50. Or maybe Allah will double the
customers
because there's multiple shops on the road. Maybe
more people will come, and we will both
get double the customers.
Why do we think that we will lose
when other people gain?
This is the idea, the mindset that leads
to jealousy and envy, al hasad.
Because if somebody gains something, we wish they
lost it because we have to gain.
Why does he get it and not me?
Why does she get it and not me?
I didn't get that because they got that.
It all comes from the same mindset. We
think that life is a game of limited
competition.
So if somebody wins we lose
Allah's name Alwarsia teaches you that there is
a world in which both of you can
win because Allah has enough to give you
both
and just before coming here I was putting
my children to sleep telling them a story
When I was telling them a story, I
said whoever answers this question will get a
prize,
so my daughter answered the question.
My son started to cry straight away.
Why?
He thinks there's only one prize.
His brain doesn't understand there can be 2
prizes, or 3 or 4 or 5.
We think in this way, we are brought
up in this way, if somebody wins, I
lose.
There's only one reward, one winner, the winner
takes all. This is exactly the idea that
Charles Darwin
you know very famously pushed into society with
his idea of Darwinian evolution. What is his
idea?
Survival of the fittest.
His idea is what life is a competition
only the fittest will succeed everybody else will
lose you have to be at the top
you have to eat everybody else alive you
have to win they have to lose this
was the idea. Daoism is not just something
in biology it's a it's a it's a
mindset for life
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala when he teaches us
his name Alwaseya
he comes completely from the opposite side.
He says there's enough for everybody
because the one who is giving you doesn't
have 50 customers or one prize
or one spouse
he has enough for everyone and more
when Allah talks about spending in the path
of Allah
he says the people who spend for the
sake of Allah
is like
an ear a grain of wheat
When you look inside when you look inside
a stalk of wheat,
every grain you look inside it there's a
100 more grains. You look at there's more.
The the deeper you look the more you
find
and so what is he saying the ones
who spend in the path of Allah
as they spend they will realize that their
expenditures not a cost is not a minus
it's actually bringing them more
but because it might be bringing them more
other things they don't realize it's not a
simple mathematics
I lost 10 I made 10 tomorrow that's
not how it works
maybe you lost 10 today but tomorrow Allah
granted you a child
maybe you gave £30 for charity and you
are safe from an accident you don't know
what Allah gave you
you only see what he took from you
what you spent so Allah's promise is this
when you imagine when you understand Allah is
when you spend for His sake when you
sacrifice for His sake it's going to come
back to you
Allah has more than enough to give
but you have to have the confidence to
trust
This is the first one in spending in
the path of Allah.
The second
also in Surat Al Baqarah
Allah uses his name or Allahu wa siyoonalim.
Can anybody tell me which story
this name comes in?
Famous story of Banu Israel. It ends with
Wallahuasiran
Alim.
You guys are rusty.
Yes. I've left you for too many weeks.
Where's your brother today?
No?
Allahu wa siyoonalim.
Very good. Who said jalut? Where?
Somebody in that direction.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks about his name
Al Wasih in the context of power.
What is the context? Allah says
The children of Israel,
they have prophet and messenger after messenger.
And at one point, Allah sends a particular
man by the name of Talut,
and he becomes the king of Israel, of
the Banu Israel.
And when he's made king over them, what
is their response?
How can this guy become the king?
We are more deserving of being the kings,
and he's not very wealthy, he's not very
rich,
he doesn't have the money to become king.
Who promoted him?
We should be getting the promotion. This is
what Balu Swayla thinking. What does Allah say?
Allah chose him, simple as that.
He deserves it because Allah chose him, and
Allah has more he has more knowledge
and more strength than you, even if he
doesn't have enough money.
Allah gives power
and kingdom to whoever
He wants.
And Allah is limitless in His abilities
and all knowledge. Now tell me,
what does these two names, Wasi and Ali,
why did they come together?
What's the link between them?
Yes.
Yes.
Everybody's been waiting for you to answer the
question, Sheikh. Bismillah.
Yes.
Mhmm.
Mhmm. I see. He's limitless Alwasir and He's
limitless in His knowledge.
Very good. Masha'Allah.
In this particular verse,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, when he chooses a
prophet, very often people will say, why him?
They said that to the prophet, sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam.
Why didn't the Quran come to one great
man from amongst us? Why this guy? Who
is this guy? Where is his money? Where
is his bank account? Where is his CV?
Who is this guy?
Why didn't you see Allah send the Quran
on some great man from the leaders of
Quraish?
What was the answer?
Do they get to choose where Allah's mercy
goes?
When Allah says He gives power, He gives
kingdom to whoever He wishes, whoever He wants,
and Allah is Wasir.
When Allah gives somebody power, that doesn't mean
nobody else can get power.
When Allah gives somebody kingdom, that doesn't mean
nobody else is ever going to be king
again.
Why do we see things in a limited
way? This is what leads people on a
political level to being impatient.
Somebody's the king. Somebody's been given power.
And the people of that city, of that
country, they feel defeated. They feel
weak. They feel we are powerless.
So what do they do? They try and
seize the power through military means.
And Allah
is teaching us
sometimes you have to be patient.
You may not be powerful today, but Allah
may give you the power tomorrow. This is
Musa, alayhi, Sam, the words he said to
Balu Israel.
They were they were getting impatient. Musa, alayhi,
Sam, you came with all your nice shiny
miracles,
but you've done nothing, Firaun is still sitting
on a chair,
you know, nice stick, but Firaun is still
sitting there, please do something, so Musa alaihis
salam tells them
This land belongs to Allah. He gives it
to whoever He wants. Right now, He gave
it to Firaun. Wait.
Allah
can give power to whoever He wants at
any time. He can make you powerful over
this tyrant if he wants, but he's alim.
He knows when to give it and who
to give it to. Be patient.
Don't demand power. Don't be power hungry.
It will come if Allah wants it to
come to you.
The 3rd, we talked about spending, spending money
for the sake of Allah.
We talked about power.
And the third one,
the young men will be very excited about.
Allah used his name, Alwaseh,
when encouraging
young people to get married.
Allah says in the Quran, who can give
me the aya? So it's a nur.
Allah says,
marry off,
you know, those under your protection,
and the righteous ones from your male and
female slaves.
Then here's the point you should listen to.
If they are poor, not well off, Allah
is going to enrich them from His expansive
ability.
Wallahu
wa siyaunaleem
and Allah has no limits
and Allah is all knowledgeable.
Something personal I can share.
I got married at the age of 18.
I became a father at the age of
19.
I still remember when I got married,
I was embarrassed
about the money that was in my bank
account. I was praying my wife should not
find out how much is there's not very
much in there.
And I'm telling you as somebody somebody who
has been through this experience,
knowing that Allah is Wasiah, He is limitless,
He can give,
does not mean that you can snore and
the money will come to you. You have
to work, but you have to trust if
you work, He will provide.
One of the things I'm grateful for that
I have experienced with my own eyes from
my own experience,
although I got married young,
every time
when I got married, Allah blessed me with
a source of income where I didn't expect
it. When I had my first child, Allah
blessed me with a source of income where
I didn't expect it. When I had my
second child, Allah blessed me with a source
of income where I didn't expect it. Every
single time,
I've seen it with my eyes.
If you trust Allah and you take the
leap,
He will provide.
But you have to you have to graft
as well. You have to work for it.
Allah's provision is not free. It's not for
muft. It's not with it's not my journey.
You know, It comes with work, but if
you trust him, he's going to surprise you.
But you have to think he is waasir.
You know? You know, when you there are
many banks in the UK. They have a
interest free overdraft. What does overdraft mean? You
have if you go minus in your bank
account
they will let you go into minus, right,
maybe for 30 days without charging you interest,
but you know there's a limit £1,000
you can't go below that then you're in
trouble.
When we say Allah is limitless, you know,
you live then in fear of this lower
barrier.
When am I going to hit 0? You
live in in fear. When am I going
to lose? When am I going to be
in trouble?
Somebody, a Muslim who believes Allah is alwaseya,
you don't live like that.
You take calculated risks
because you know
that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has no limit.
There is no, you know, red line.
You keep going, you keep trying, you keep
forging ahead, and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will
provide.
There's a reason why
and who can tell me what was the
occupation, the profession of the vast majority of
the prophet's companions?
The vast majority. There were shepherds.
There were shepherds.
More specifically,
Even a shepherd is
a certain type of profession. Yes?
There were trades people. They bought and they
sold.
Right? Even the shepherds would buy and sell
sheep. Yes? Even the prophet
at the age of 25,
where was he?
Going to Syria, going to a sham in
order to trade.
What's the difference between somebody who gets a
payslip at the end of every month?
Yes? And somebody who wakes up in the
morning not knowing how much money they'll make?
What's the big difference between these two people?
Risk and risk.
High risk. Yeah?
Sorry? Somebody else was saying something. Leap of
faith. It's a leap of faith.
Yes? It's tawakkul. You have to trust Allah.
You have to trust Allah. Yes? You open
shop in the morning. You have no clue.
Will I make my takings today?
You have no clue. This was the vast
majority of people, you know, until very recent
times, until the Industrial Revolution,
you know, until capitalism, Industrial Revolution, people started
working in factories. Before that, the vast majority
of people on the planet were business people.
They bought and they sold, small businesses.
Our Bakr as Siddiq was a textile merchant.
Silk, textile, cotton, that's what he would buy
and he would sell.
Uthmar ibn Affan, when he comes to Madinah,
who remembers his famous statement? He comes to
Madinah. He's left everything in Makkah.
What does he say?
The prophet says, he this is your brother.
He is happy to share half of his
wealth with you, half of his divorce his
wife for you. Show me the market. What
did he say?
Show me where is the market. I will
make my own wealth.
What is that? That is a man who
trusts Allah.
See, this knowing Allah, as Allah said, it
makes you daring.
It makes you courageous.
You know, you stop you stop being scared
and fearful of every small risk. You are
willing to take a careful risk
and forge ahead because you know Allah is
the one,
and His provision is limitless.
You know? Don't limit yourself to the paycheck.
Don't live always in the security of the
paycheck. I'm not trying to sell you any
10 day course to get rich. I'm trying
to teach you about Allah's name, Alawazia.
Right? It is a name that frees you.
It is in it frees you from corporate
slavery,
frees you from the golden handcuffs,
from depending,
needing something guaranteed.
Allah's risk is guaranteed, but we have to
take the leap.
We have to take the risk, you know.
Do it calculated. Be careful. Be smart.
But don't hold back out of fear because
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is waza and alim.
Now,
one of the places Allah uses his name
now we talked about marriage and getting married
young.
Allah uses his name al waza in the
opposite scenario, which is
divorce.
Imagine,
the same name Allah uses
for us to reflect on, to to motivate
us to get married, and the same name
he's going to use now to help us
when we go through bad times in marriage.
Surat Al Nisa.
Allah these actually these 3 verses Suratul Nisa,
128 to 130.
These 3 verses is one of the great
examples in the Quran
that every situation in life you should remember
a different name of Allah.
Every situation in life you should think and
remember one of the names of Allah
appropriate to that situation. Let's look at the
example,
Allah first says
If a woman fears that her husband might
have cheated on her, no shoes,
or something less than that, maybe the husband
is just neglecting her rights. He's not looking
after his wife.
What is she to do? The marriage is
breaking down.
She just started to notice it. The first
time a woman has noticed it. What does
she do? Allah says,
What is Sul in Arabic? Does anybody know?
To make peace, to rectify, to compromise. This
is the most important word in marriage.
To compromise, to come to middle ground. You
sacrifice something, she sacrifice something, you agree on
something in the middle. Now
what is going to be the barrier if
a husband and wife, they are they're not
looking, they're not seeing eye to eye?
What's gonna stop them from making peace
is greed, ego.
I'm not gonna let go of my right.
You better get let go of yours. I'm
not gonna let go. So if they're both
not letting go, they're in a stalemate, they're
locked. No nobody is moving.
They have to move to come back to
the middle.
So Allah says,
the worst thing
in this process is for you to be
greedy. Don't be greedy. Sacrifice, compromise, let it
go. Okay?
If you, try to be your best,
and you fear Allah, fa inna Allaha kana
bima ta'maloona
habira.
When you get into a when you have
a serious problem in your marriage
and you come to the table with your
spouse to sit and say, right, how do
we make this work?
In your heart,
you are negotiating, fighting, debating, not letting go.
Remember, Allah is kabeer. Kabeer means he knows
what is deep hidden in your heart.
He knows what you're hiding. He knows your
motivations. He knows what ego how much ego
is in you, in on the table in
this negotiation.
Let it go. Allah is watching. Khadeer.
Next phase, the marriage gets worse.
They're not able to come to a middle
ground
yeah
things have gotten to the point they are
talking about maybe we have to finish it
off
then Allah says
wa'in
tooslihruwatatankufa'in
Allaha
kana ghafoolawahima,
okay now I'm not going to ask you
for Ihsan,
to be excellent with each other,
Just do Islah. Just try and make it
work.
And then Allah says,
Why?
When a husband and wife have their marriage
has deteriorated, is broken to such an extent,
Do you think they're going to talk to
each other with smiles and how are you
okay for? Hello,
Kaya? Is that going to happen? No. Right?
They're going to hug and be best friends?
No. They're going to say things that are
wrong. They're going to shout at each other.
They're going to get angry with each other.
They're going to say things they regret.
In the process of making the marriage work,
they're going to 100% say things that they
will regret.
But because they're trying to make it work,
Allah says, you might you might do some
regretful actions, but remember,
Allah is Ghafooru Rahim. Don't be hard on
yourself. Allah is forgiving and He's merciful.
There's still hope.
You made a mistake, you got angry, you
shouted, you didn't stop talking to each other.
It's okay. Allah will forgive you. Just keep
trying to make it work.
So in the beginning of the process, Allah
is kabeel.
Don't try to scheme against your spouse. Allah
knows what you're hiding.
The process is heated. It's breaking down argument
this, but you're trying to make it work.
Allah is Ghafoor Ar Raheem. He will forgive
you. It's okay. Keep trying.
What happens if finished? The marriage is over.
It's not gonna continue.
When a husband and wife divorce,
when they are no longer together.
Now remember
what Surah is this?
Nisa. And Nisa.
Who's the primary
person primary people Allah's talking to in this
particular verse? Women. Women.
When a woman gets divorced, what's her biggest
fear?
Security.
Security. Specific type of security.
Economic security. What is it, sir?
This guy knows about divorce, man.
Economic security, money, right? Yes. Why? The vast,
you know, the vast majority of women in
the history of pre modern societies were not
earning. Right? They were not earning members. They
were looking after the family. Now a woman
has looked after the children for 10, 15,
20 years. She's broken her back, and now
she's divorced.
In 20 years, she didn't get any BTEC
qualification. She didn't get any degree. She cannot
work, or she's never worked for in a
very long time. What's her biggest fear?
How will I pay the bills?
He's not obliged to continue spending on her.
He's no longer her husband.
When a woman is paralyzed with fear, you
know what she might decide?
It's okay.
Let me stay in an abusive marriage. Let
him continue to be horrible to me. Let
him torture me. I have no who's gonna
give me money? Nobody. Right? Let me just
stay in the marriage.
That's not why Allah created marriage. Allah did
not create marriage for people to suffer and
torture themselves, Allah.
Allah created marriage for sakeena,
for peace of mind.
So if marriage is a source of torture,
that's not the reason Allah created it.
When Allah is talking to these women who
are scared of leaving a bad marriage, where
they are unhappy, they are dissatisfied, they are
feeling tortured,
Allah says to them,
if you split up,
Allah will give you both
richness,
from His infinite
limitless reserves.
Allah has no limits in what he can
give, and he is all wise.
This happened for a wisdom, for a reason.
Be patient.
See the names of Allah.
In every situation, there's a different name.
When you are fighting with someone and your
ego is coming in the way, Allah says
watch out, I'm kabeer, I know what's in
your heart.
When you get into a fight because you're
trying to make things work, Allah says Allah's
gafoorulrahim, he'll forgive you, keep trying.
But when you're scared of letting go
because you think who's gonna give me money,
Allah says I'm wasiya.
Don't doubt my ability to provide for you.
Yurnilahuqullam
min saati. Wakanallahuwasyan
hakeema.
Allah is limitless, and he is wise. These
things happen for our wisdom, not for anything
else.
In every phase of our life, if we
connected with 2 names of Allah, it would
help us. It would reassure us. It would
give us motivation, the ability to go or
to keep going.
See how Allah used this name Alwaseya
to motivate you to spend for His sake,
to motivate you not to be impatient when
there is a tyrant in control,
and to motivate you to get married and
to get you through a divorce, all with
the same name of Allah, Alwaseya.
This is how we should connect with the
names of Allah.
There's a very similar attribute of Allah Allah
uses in the Quran, similar to Alwaseya.
And it's not a name, but it's a
description.
29 times in the Quran Allah talks about
his fadl.
18 times in the Quran He says fadlullah,
6 times He says dul fadl. What is
fadl? Who can tell me what is fadl
in Arabic?
He's saying it's a favor.
Anybody else?
A bounty. That's what
the Mamadouq Pickthal translation says. Yes?
Good. In the Arabic language, fadl is something
extra.
I'll give you a good example. You get
your salary at the end of the month.
Let's say it's £1500.
You pay your rent, your council tax, your
bills, your electric gas, everything.
You have £100 left at the end. What
do they call this in English?
Disposable income please don't dispose of it
yeah don't dispose it they call it disposable
income
because after all your expenses this is what's
left this in arab they call fabil
What's extra? What's excess?
Somebody tells you, gives you the glass, can
I have some juice, please? You pour, you
pour. They said, that's enough. You keep pouring.
This is fabil.
They didn't ask, but you're still giving them.
Right? This is what happens when you go
when you go to a village, you know,
in South India or Pakistan or Kurdistan or
Iraq and Somalia. You go to a village,
your plate is there. You start you put
the food. Someone hits your hand, don't put
the food. They start putting the food. They
say, that's enough. No. Then they give you
fabil, ziada.
Right? This is the meaning of fabil. Now,
Allah calls Himself, the
one who always gives you extra.
He doesn't just give you what you ask
for, He always gives you extra.
When was this used in the Quran?
You know, when people would go for Hajj,
before there were steam engines and trains and
boats
200 years ago,
they would walk or they would go on
a camel or a horse for the vast
majority of history.
Going to Hajj means you have to quit
your job, give your notice, say to your
family, your wife, and children, say, you know,
I might come back, I might not come
back, and walk for a year
from Bosnia to Mecca.
You know?
You might walk for a year, for a
year and a half, for 2 years. You
will come across so many countries. You might
come across rubbish. You might never come back.
So Hajj was really
it's like a a a very big break
in your life, 2 years, one and a
half years.
What's the biggest fear when you leave Fahj?
Survival.
If you're gonna go
and walk in the desert for one and
a half years, you need to survive.
And so many people would be scared. How
would we survive? And in Jahiliyyah, before Islam,
in the pilgrimage season, the disbelievers were not
allowed to do business, not allowed to trade.
But what does Allah say when it comes
to Hajj?
Allah
says,
There is no problem for you to do
business.
But how does he say it? There is
no problem for you to seek and look
for the Fadal of Allah,
the excess, the bonus of Allah.
Even if you're on Hajj, don't worry.
You are seeking the fadl of Allah.
When Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks in Surat
Al Jumah,
when he says when you leave the Masjid,
you leave Jumah.
You know, Jum'ah, people take it it's a
sacred day, it's a holy day, it's a
very important day.
But the moment you step out of the
masjid, what does Allah want you to do?
He says it here in the Quran.
Spread out throughout the earth. Go, make an
effort to go and do what?
Go and seek Allah's bonus. What's Allah's bonus?
Go and work hard for His provision. He's
going to provide you, but you have to
go. The moment your time for worship ends,
your time for hard work begins.
And whatever Allah provides you, that is from
His bonus, from His favor, from His fadl.
When Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks about fadl
in the Quran, one of the ways to
understand fadl
is
Allah has made society not all of us
are the same.
Some people are rich, some people are poor.
Not all of us are the same. Some
are male, some are female.
Not all prophets are the same.
Allah has given
some fabil over others, some bonuses over some
others.
When Allah talks about provision, He says,
Allah gives some of you more than others.
When Allah talks about Prophets,
right,
We gave some Prophets bonuses more than others.
When He talks about male and female,
Right? He says that Allah
says that he gave males, men, some fadl
over women and vice versa.
But what is the most important thing he
wants us to remember when we realize this,
that Allah created society, all of us are
at different levels. He gave us different amounts,
different skills. 1 person's intelligent, 1 person is
fast, 1 person, you know, is hardworking. Everybody
has something different.
What's the most important thing?
If only the feminists understood this verse.
Do not wish for the fadl Allah gave
somebody else.
Don't wish for something, a unique gift that
Allah gave somebody else That's His, that's not
yours
Don't try to be them, be you
Yes?
You know, Allah gave somebody the benefit of
knowledge Allah gave somebody else the skill of
business.
If a successful businessman who's never studied, read
a page in his life tries to become
someone knowledgeable, they will fail. They will struggle.
That doesn't mean they shouldn't do it. But
don't try to be them. Be you.
Allah opened a door for you. Worship him
through that door. That's how Allah will open
their way for you. Some people worship Allah
through charity. Other people through fasting. Other people
through the night prayer. Other people through being
good to their family. Everybody has something unique.
Yes. Women have something unique that men don't
have. What is that?
That men can never even dream of having.
Sorry?
Right? Allah creates human life through women.
He places new human life in women, not
in you and me.
And any man who has witnessed the miracle
of childbirth, you realize
what an amazing
fadl of Allah that is.
That experience,
that connection, A man can never have that
connection with a child.
We simply, biologically, we have not been given
that father. Does that mean that I should
want to hold a child in my stomach?
No. That's for her and that's for me,
and there are people today that might want
to do that. Yes?
Yes.
And vice versa. Yes? Allah created males, men
physically different to females. In all the societies,
Sweden, Nordic countries,
where
they try to be very equal, egalitarian,
you know?
They try to remove any barriers
for men and women to work in any
profession.
You still find 95% of women are working
in nursing, in medicine,
in caring, in teaching.
Why do they naturally drift?
Why do they naturally go to those professions?
Because that's the Fadl Allah gave them.
That is what Allah purely and uniquely provided
for them psychologically, physically. He didn't provide to
men, and vice versa.
Why is it that 99.9%
of men of bricklayers and plumbers,
etcetera, are men?
They have been given something unique that others
have been given. Do not wish for what
Allah gave others. Why?
That will make you satisfied.
That will make you grateful for what you
have.
Be grateful for what you have. The Fadl
of Allah, when Allah reminds in the Quran
Allah's bonus, His favor, the excessive things He's
given you is it's phenomenal, it's magnitude is
you can't even count it. So why are
you looking for somebody else's fadl?
He gave some to you as well.
The greatest fadl,
the greatest of Allah's favors, what is that?
What is the greatest of Allah's favors?
Al
Hidayah.
Al Hidayah, guidance, al iman.
This is the greatest of Allah's favors,
you know. Yes, this is one of Allah's
greatest,
guidance, one of Allah's greatest father.
Because many of us,
you know, human nature, we, especially today with
social media, you know, I'll give you an
example.
200 years ago, you would never know, you
would never know what your neighbor ate for
dinner.
But today, your neighbor
took a picture of what they ate for
dinner, and it's on the Instagram story, so
now you know.
Yeah?
Now you know. You don't need to know,
but you know whether you like it or
you don't like it. You are exposed
to so much information about people's lives, where
they went for dessert, what they which or
Amrara trip, what part of Spain they visited
in their holiday.
So you your brain is now overwhelmed with
so much information about other people's lives. What's
the natural human instinct? To want what they
have.
It's so difficult to remember this verse.
Don't hope for what they have. You know,
they might be hoping for what you have,
but you didn't write you didn't make the
story.
One time, you know, I sat with him
talking to somebody,
and he was complaining
that he was not able to go on
a holiday to another country for 5 years.
His friends are going to Morocco, Spain, Taiwan,
Bosnia,
and he's
stuck here driving to Blackpool and back.
I said, okay.
He said, one of my friends,
you know, he has a big job.
He's not married. He goes, travels here, there,
here, there. I said, okay. That's fine. How
old is he? He said, 30. I said,
he's 30. He's unmarried. He has no kids.
Ask him. Go and ask him.
Would you like to enjoy the blessing of
a family? He'll cry.
If you go to your house right now,
you've got a wife and you've got 3
kids smiling at you waiting to see you,
excited, running to the door. He doesn't have
that in his life.
Why do you think he's running away to
Morocco and Spain?
Something's lacking, something's empty, there's some emptiness in
his life. Don't wish for what he have.
Go home and see what you have.
You will be grateful to Allah.
This is what the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam said.
Don't look at those who are doing better
than you in this world.
Look at those struggling.
Because that will make you somebody who will
not belittle Allah's favors.
The last thing about Allah's name, Alwasiyah,
it makes you somebody generous
because you know Allah will replace it for
you and give you.
The prophet one of the most remarkable and
amazing statements about our prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam
Never was he asked for anything except he
said yes, take it.
Never.
Never was he asked for anything he said
yes, take it. I don't want it.
To the extent people would abuse him, be
rude to him, a Bedouin comes.
He's wearing a new,
you know, he's wearing a new coat today.
Imagine you bought a nice new coat for
Eid, and you came outside, and some guy
some somebody from the road came and grabbed
your new coat.
This Bedouin came and grabbed him. You Muhammad,
give me what from what Allah has given
you. He takes off the cloak and he
gives it to you. It's all yours.
And His provision is endless.
Give, and you will receive. Spend, and you
will get. Sacrifice, and He will provide. Don't
hold it to yourself.