Women Inspired By The Beloved 10

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Hesham Al-Awadi

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smilla rahmanir rahim o salat wa salam ala selling say now Mohammed Ali or Savio, Selim, I wanted to end this course with a soft and tender theme.

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I talked to you about

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muscular women or women that were fighting men and women who made men and women who taught men and women.

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I don't want you to leave this place with the impression that woman was doing this or doing something that was violent and doing something that might have been against her nature, whatever, whatever. So I thought I must end it in a soft note, or more

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realistic note, something that every woman should be proud of

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a natural sentiment, a natural feeling,

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that every woman should and must and can have, like men.

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I know that the theme will provoke rejection and will be controversial.

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And I will be included in the club of the dodgy people. I know that, but I will say it and let history judge whether I was right in my decision or not.

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I have called this title, love.

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And I have looked at love from these four paradigms.

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Love between the two sexes is a natural feeling that some Muslims are embarrassed to talk about, because of its abuse, a negative connotation, particularly in the West,

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to Islam recognized love as a form of an emotional energy that should not be denied or suppressed, but channeled in a halaal and in a proper way. Three, the prophet SAW Selim recognized the occurrence of love as a feeling,

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even if not yet consumated with marriage, provided it was not translated into an unlawful practice.

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For when a woman loves she is faithful to the one whom she is in love with, and protects this love with means that two men may seem unusual. And this fourth point, I will justify it with my last story in this theme. I have a few stories.

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And some of them might be a little bit strange to you. But I will have to tell you these stories.

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You remember that I began the course with listing the rights of women that Islam recognized and that one of the daughters of Jafar Ibn Abu Talib went to consult to elderly men from an alpha. Do you remember?

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She went to consult them because her father enforced this particular person by way of a husband on her. Do you remember what the two elderly answer is set to her? They said to her No, this marriage will not happen. Because cancer been turned down. Her father married her against her will.

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And the marriage was cancelled.

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I didn't want to tell you then, one small piece of information

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has been cut down now has actually a story to tell about why she did not like this person that was imposed on her by her father.

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When that person was imposed on her, she actually went to uracil. sallallahu wasallam. And this is a little girl speaking to the holiest of holy, to the purest of the pure. She is speaking to her Azusa Salim she's not speaking to,

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to Allah, Allah to a half hours. No, she is speaking to the shapes of all these shapes to our salsa Salah yet, yet and this is the point. She was not embarrassed to articulate and express her feelings to him. She said you're a Salalah

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I don't want to marry this man.

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And that's literally what she said in

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Villa de la.

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My cousin is more beloved to me, meaning what? I love my cousin.

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He canceled the marriage.

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She could have said to him, I don't like him. That's not the one. That's not the one that I'm dreaming about.

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Are you in love with someone? No, no, it's just that I don't want him

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she is making a positive statement now. No, I don't want him and I am in love with someone else that also sell him say behave yourself you're rude person. Did he slap her? Did you say How dare you? We are in Medina and I'm the ruler, the nebby of this oma

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Come on if someone said Torah so asylum, I want to commit adultery. He did not slap him. Why did this poor girl with legitimate feelings should be slapped?

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I'm trying slowly but surely to introduce love to you. Now. You might. The moment I mentioned, what the hell am I going to speak about? Well, that's exactly some of it.

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Let me give you another story.

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There was a husband and a wife at the time of Aurora Supercell. They might not be famous, or they are not famous to a lot of you if not all, except

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because of their love story.

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What was their story?

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The man was called mu Heath.

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The woman was called boy era. Now. movie was in the love with Bora Bora.

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Bora Bora did not love movie.

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So she asked for a divorce.

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And the problem did not end for movies. Literally sisters and sisters and sisters and brothers literally moreif more or less lost his mind.

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Read in the books of history.

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In fact, it's in Buhari

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movie. Whenever Bora Bora is walking, he is walking after her

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following her and crying and begging her, begging her to return to Him. And Bora Bora just ignores him. And he goes in the city. And I always say this imagine I took you now 2006 and I've placed you in Medina.

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What would you expect to see? You would expect to see someone fasting there someone praying this? This is the idealist isn't it? And you might see someone who is crying and you say surely now I'm in Medina. This is the prophetic society. He's crying out of the fear of Allah and he will look at your say no, I'm crying because I'm in love. What would you say? In love with who with Allah know in love with a woman? What would you say? Am I in Medina? Where am I? You know, I'm in the wrong city or what this is exactly what was happening. So much so that are so seldom looked to open a bus and literally said to him. Yep, now a bus and attachable main hub be movida. burera.

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Women, both the burera mckeithan.

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And the tears is coming on the beard of movies. You know what also someone said to me in a bus. He said to him ebonheart bus?

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Aren't you surprised?

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Isn't it strange to you? To see this

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emotion to see this love from Maui to Bora Bora.

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And on the other hand, he says, And isn't it strange to see this hate from Bora Bora to Heath. He's talking is is so sensitive that he wants even a bus to share with him this amazement of two extreme emotions. Neither were rejected. He wasn't making a critical statement about either. He was just saying, isn't it strange? Isn't it strange that when someone is in this deep love, this is what he does. And isn't it strange when someone was in deep hate? This is what he does.

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And then also seldom

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respects the feeling of movie. He respects his feelings. He's a human being he's in love. He goes to Bora Bora.

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Why don't you return to Maui?

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He's crying day and night for you. Can't you see what you are doing to him? He's going off to you in the streets of Medina.

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Isn't there a possibility that you might consider

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and borrow your assets? And this is the I'm not talking about her rude feminist girl no decent, but just doesn't love him, says Yara Salalah is this an older? He says no. It's just a shefa. I'm just trying to mediate. She said then no jasola

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then no era Salama so seldom stops the End of story.

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I have thought about the story and came up with

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Five comments. One comment was

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who Heath is walking publicly in the streets crying?

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Not feeling ashamed, not feeling embarrassed. And I don't recall in the Hadith that there were people clapping and saying look at movies. He's in love. What a loser What a sad man. I cannot recall in the Hadith someone coming and giving hotma for half an hour. A tequila movie. What are you talking about? Go and pray. In fact, it's the opposite. I am in front of two people. One is the greatest of the great. The second is hybridoma boss watching this image and sympathizing with it. Number one, this is one comment.

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second comment.

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It is this genuine feeling that movie articulated.

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It is this genuine action of him is what made movies famous. I don't recall that movies have narrated a Hadith, or is famous for being knowledgeable of a he's a companion. Yes. But whenever you mentioned to a scholar movie straight away the movie, the lover of Barrera.

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He have registered himself in history because of this genuine articulation and expression of the feeling so much so that a hadith an entire Hadith was built and based upon this action, and Buhari comes and registers this hadith in the book of Buhari, the Hadith says Karlin Wu sallallahu wasallam the Ibis, you have nobis Allah Tada, woman movies burera woman booth Marina movie, this is a hadith because you know that whatever so seldom mentioned is a Hadeeth. Even if it was a comment on something that you might think is trivial. It's a hadith. And scholars sit on that Hadith to try to extract the key and Hadees and and from this story. I don't want to be extreme. But if I wanted I

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could by saying I am grateful to my wife, because it's because of movies that are so solemn uttered this hadith and that we learned from Mohit is action, this hadith that we now worship Allah through memorizing, if I wanted to be extreme, or maybe it's because we are living in an extreme age. That's a statement that is otherwise normal is considered extreme.

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Number three, the fact that this person is crying in public, the fact that he is gaining sympathy from someone who of course, when the Sahaba sees that he is gaining sympathy, of course not Sahaba will be also sympathizing. No one will say Dada Samira Salalah What are you talking about? How can you sympathize with a lover? No, he is the master and whatever he does, you should do that means that the entire of society accepted this phenomena. This is number three. Number four, also Salim did not just sympathize, recognize, I understand I know exactly how you feel. No, he actually interceded and interfered and left his battles and left his problems in administering the political

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affairs of the oma to solve a love problem, an emotional relationship between a man and a woman and went and actually spoke to Bora Bora. And said, Boy, is there a chance in which you can consider he said no. So it's more than just recognition and understanding.

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The fifth and final point, is that the word no No, no shows that woman has feelings and strong feelings, and that Islam and also a solemn respect these feelings, even if these feelings are considered by the man who is expected to be loved, but in real terms is not even if that is painful to him. But this is life. But this is life. We should respect I mean, also, Selim did not go and say, Look, I owe you. And I would expect that if movies came and said to you, Anna Salalah. What did she say? Also, Selim would say she said no. jasola like, can you force her Salaam of course would say no. So all in all, respect for this concept of love. I know that l o v, and this red heart, love

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heart and Valentine's Day. I know that in the West, the word love now is being abused and has negative connotation, but I'm not going to allow that this abuse of the word to make me refrain from using it because it was there. It's a human phenomena. It's a natural phenomenon, the way that you express it, yes, we can discuss that. But as a feeling, it's legitimate.

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And it shows that we are humans, we are not machines or animals. It shows that it shows that to parents who want to marry their daughters by force to x and y. It shows that I am a human being, even if I was 16.

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Let me tell you another radical story.

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This time, it's zeyneb, the daughter of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Zeynep is the first baby that was born from this marriage between also Solomon Khadija.

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So she is the eldest daughter.

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You are aware that all the daughters all the sons died during the lifetime of Rasul Salaam except Fatima that died six months after the death of eresources. So saying I've actually died during the lifetime of our associates. And also send him love Xena a lot, a lot A lot because he loved the idea. But he loved his first baby.

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She was born when I was 30 and 10 years before he became a prophet.

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Now Zeynep got married, based on her consent

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to her cousin

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about last year, that was his name. A lot of you might not know him.

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She actually had two children from him. One was called Ali, and the other was called Mama. Mama is the girl Ali is the boy and he passed away.

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Mama grew up and got married to a Navy pilot. This is not important. I'm focusing on zeyneb now, but I just thought that I might introduce Zeynep to you.

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Abdullah has loved Zeynep so much, but he was not willing to embrace Islam.

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During the Battle of better Abdullah has fought with the mushriks

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incidentally before I tell you this, during the migration of our asylum and everyone migrated, but there were a minority that were left behind Zainab was one of them. So Zainab did not mushy remained with her husband. That is before the verse that a woman should not be associated with a non Muslim. Then she departed. But during that time, she was living with her husband mushrik Catherine.

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So during the Battle of better he traveled with the machete keen to better to fight our muscles are Salim, and he was taking a hostage. So zeyneb,

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the daughter of our saw, Selim got the news received the news. But what can she do? She's a Muslim. He's a mushrik. This is also seldom her father.

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Legally speaking, she can't do anything.

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But life is more complicated than legalities. And life is about emotions as well.

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Even if you cannot confess it.

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What are you talking about? What I'm saying is that she loved him. And she was in love with him. This is her husband for the last 20 years. She loves him.

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So what did she do? When Allah Sousa seldom pronounced that we can release cap hostages, provided that you can pay for their anthem? You know what zeyneb did?

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She took her Nikolas

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and said to the mushrik on Mon Khafre person said to him, go to Medina and give this to my father. This is my ransom to release my husband.

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When our resource lm Sol, the Nicholas, he immediately realized where it's coming from. Do you know where it's coming from? This Nicolas has been given as a gift from Khadija. Now this is my Beloved Women. I also sell them. I also sell them by the way.

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I heard one psychologist, Muslim psychologists in Saudi Arabia, Dr. Tara Habib,

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he said are so seldom loved Arusha with his heart, but love Khadija with his heart and mind. And this is a I'm not going to talk about hydrogen fuel cell. But this is you know, to love someone with your heart and mind. I think this is the highest level of love. Sometimes you love a woman in your mind. Sometimes you love a woman in your heart, but to be able to love with the heart and the mind. It means a lot. It means a lot. So Salim

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DJ was different. Something else

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had to do was different. Full stop. I won't say more than this. You have to appreciate anyway.

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Actually, if you know why you would then appreciate why Ayesha was jealous from Khadija even when Khadija is dead. Can you be jealous from a dead person? Yes. If she is so special

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So also Salah Mooney saw the Nicholas. He shivered. This is the Nicolas that Khadija gave to my daughter on her wedding day.

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Now, taking this Nicholas as an answer means what means that you will take the Nikolas you will give it to the Muslim army, they will sell it. I don't know what they will do with it and build something with the money. That means the Nicholas has gone. So also a seller wants to do two things. He wants to release

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Apple OS so as not to break the heart of his daughter put at the same time doesn't want to lose the necklace. So he said to the Muslims, he said would you agree to release a blouse?

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And he can take the necklace with him home?

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Of course Sahaba No, no, the Nicolas No, no, no who is

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know about also Solomon Khadija know about also solemn enseigner know about I mean, come on. This is his father in law.

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They said of course era Salalah. So abuelas took the colada

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and went to Mecca. And he's of course zeyneb was happy and he said look, he gave me the colada. Mohammed your father, of course he did not yet become a Muslim. Then also sell them ordered Zainab, that now the verses are revealed, you should leave your husband you should divorce.

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So Zeynep told us told him and this is where now emotions must stop because of halal and haram and because of legal and because pleasing Allah. You see I'm not as dodgy as you think I am aware of what am I talking about? I am saying that in a context of halaal emotionality is not a source of embarrassment. But when something is being committed Haram, I'm not going to recognize this dodgy word called love. Now I will agree with you. And that is exactly what Xena understood. So she said to us, I will have to leave an apple house was a real gentleman. He said to her I will secure your travel from Mecca to Medina. I will make you know a group of men and women escort you to Medina.

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Take care of yourself.

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I don't know if he said to her, I'll see you soon or maybe one day we'll meet. But that was the last time they saw each other in that context. So she left years past and years past one day. I will house was traveling on a trade business trip. He came from Damascus moving into Mecca and he was captured again by a group of Muslims because Muslims you know caravans you are aware of the caravans any caravan they would attack and take the booties etc. So they captured them again.

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They captured him took him with

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to come to Medina who is in Medina.

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Xena

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zeynab now is in Medina.

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Believe me or Don't believe me? You go and check it out.

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Our Rasul saw Selim respects those who make ijarah for prisoners, What does ijarah mean? means that if you are someone who is respectable, if you are someone who is trustworthy, you can go to autosol salah and say Allah so Allah Allah, I will give ijarah to this person, I will protect this person, this person should be treated decently, no one should harm no one should attack this person and also sell them with respect that

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Xena went and made ijarah to Apple OS.

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And also Salim knew that

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he spoke to the society and said, we have to give a genre to whoever you accept the genre of Xena, I have the quotes here.

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Yes, the colored Xena, a tequila woman who went to jail for college and Abby Island Muslim. Elena yohannes helps me to masa mercadona for leadin fcbd marlink to be shamima can Hata Samia to ladies seminar to its alone. She says to him Zeynep says to also sell them your Oh my father, I have protected

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upon us and he is in my house. And I also sell him said to the companions in the mosque. Have you heard what I have heard? They said yes you have a Salalah he said one lie. I have not heard this before. Don't think that this is a setup. Don't think that I've done it with my daughter. Just to

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You know, we will be pretending This is the first time I hear it. Nonetheless, do you agree nonetheless, do you accept her? ijarah They said, We accept your rasulillah Okay, fine. Then he goes into the house of Xena. He says Dana, like Robin Nikki, Zainab, don't go closer to him.

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Don't take him to your bedroom basically, paying

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for fuel for he is not permissible.

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What am I Rasulullah Zina la acaba Leanna la luna, who, Madame America, he stayed for a while, and then lived for a while in Medina saw this amazing woman. So this amazing father in law saw this amazing society saw this amazing people that offering him protection, he said, Zeynep I must go.

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I have business to do in Mecca. He went to Mecca, sold everything, and came back, knocking the door on Xena, saying Xena, will you marry me?

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I became a Muslim. And she remarried him again. Did they live happily? Ever After? Unfortunately, no. Because a couple of months and years Xena passed away.

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This is a story of love or not? What is it? Some of these stories have been for years narrated to you. But from our point of view, from a Sharia point of view, from a Heidi's point of view today, I chose to do something different.

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I have a final story.

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I have a story of a very powerful woman, very jealous woman who was called on Selma.

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On Selma was married to one important ruler in the Umayyad Caliphate. Her mother in law is almost bending. But her husband died. And she fell in love with a Ba ba ba, ba ba ba is the founder of the other side caliphate. He was extremely handsome, good looking. So she loved him. And she wanted to marry him.

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And she sent a girl to propose to him. And he said at that time, he was not a Caliph, yet. He was not a founder of anything. He was a poor man. So she proposed and he said to the girl, while I'm extremely poor, I cannot pay her any dowry.

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So she went and said to him, Look, I want to marry you. Now, you take the 700 dinars and give me 500 dinar by way of a dowry and keep the rest. So she actually paid for her dowry, and she gave him an extra pocket money. What a fascinating wife. I don't think she exists today. So she loved her and I bought a sofa. And she loved him a lot, a lot A lot. And she was a very romantic woman. One day, of course, he became rich, he became the Calif SFR.

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One day they were on the top of their palace, and he was playing with his wedding ring. And his wedding ring dropped.

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Let me wear it before my wife. So it dropped from the top of the palace.

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And, on Selamat took her wedding ring and dropped it so that it touches on the ground, his wedding ring. He said to her, why did you do that? What are romantic statements, she said, I don't want your wedding ring. To stay there alone for a long period of time. It will feel lonely, so I had to keep this in touch with it. You know what is amazing is that these words have been registered by historians they will not rosy pink key words said in the middle of the night in a bedroom. No, they were words that maybe a servant heard them and wrote them and now I am telling these words to you. So they were in great love.

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But that's not my story. My story is that one day she heard a well known speaker eloquent speaker he can really manipulate you and play with you like a Scientologist any scientologist he Okay, so he can play and manipulate you.

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His name is Khalid Eben soft one, a very well known speaker, well known eloquent speaker so hard, even soft one one day was sitting with me about his stuff. He said, Yeah, me,

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too. How many women are you married? He said I am married only to one. He said yeah, I'm someone who is rich like you someone who's handsome like you.

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You know you should get married. Anyone will marry you. I can bring you the beautiful black woman. I can bring you the beautiful red woman. I can bring you the

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blonde, blonde. So I can bring you old colors, I can bring you the tall, I can bring you the short, I can bring you the thin, I can bring you the fat, I can bring you all the attractive women in their age, in their time in their culture. And he began and I've got what he said to him

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and said, Hello. When I read it, sometimes I say, you know, what is kind of the most often I would like to get to know him.

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He's describing women to him.

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He says, I will bring you this with this knows I'll bring you this way. So I'm gonna pass at the beginning of the beginning said, No, no, no, no, no. But then he said to him at the end said, voila.

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You've changed my mind totally.

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To such women exist? He said, Yes. You just say you just make the new year and I will do it. And then he said, Okay, let me think about it. He did a mistake about a bus he did a mistake. Like is it when he went and said to me, Benny, about Hajaj, I will have bus in the middle of the night cannot go to sleep.

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So um, cinema says to him, what's wrong? what's what's in your mind? Why can't you go to bed? He said, No, nothing.

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She said, No, no, tell me why. And, you know, when a woman insists, and you cannot escape, so he had to tell her at the end. He said, Today I was actually with Khalid ivantsoff one.

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And he began to tell me about getting married. And you know what he began to tell me about this woman and this woman and and she began to insult Khalid and what else did this person with this? I don't know what word she used. What else did he say to you? What else did he say to you? He said, Look Why Why are you insulting him? He wants the best for me. Why you are attacking him? Why are you What did you do to you? Come on Don't you know anyway, so why are you insulting him? She said Okay.

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I will

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deal with heart The following day. She was not like oh, well Benny in bring her judge to me. No, no. Khalid bin Safar. Now we zoom the camera into Khalid's house. cousins have fun. He says, One day I was in the front of my house. The following day, after having this conversation with the halifa said I was standing in front of my house chatting to some friends. And suddenly I saw a group of huge, muscular people wearing the clothes of the palace. And I said to myself, I know why they are coming. They are coming to give me this great gift of money as a result of what I said to the halifa. yesterday. They came to him. They said you are Khalid he said yes. And they began beating him and

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beating him and beating. He said I was about to die. I ran into the house and shut the door.

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And he said I stayed there for a while and not for a while he was actually put under house arrest. He said I feared opening the door. These you know, I don't know who will attack again. So I remained in the house until one day after a week or two someone knocked on my door and said I am from the palace. The halifa wants to speak to you. I opened the door. Are you sure that Khalifa? Yes.

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And then he said okay, I will go with you. And then he went to the palace and met al Abbas again. And I said to him, I missed you.

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Where have you been? He said, incidentally, you have to be aware that there are bugs, you know, in palaces, and usually there are not electronic bugs. But women are sitting with that. So listening. So now he's aware because he learned now whatever I'm going to say now I'm going to pay up a high price for it. So he said No, nothing. I was really i mean i'm

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sure you so he said I was really I'm hearing more meaning. He said you know why I called you today? He said yes. Why? He said I want you to resume your beautiful talk. Since a couple of weeks I've been thinking about nothing other than the very beautiful words that you are saying. said what? What beautiful words what auto you know, what did I say? He said to him, you talk to me about women beautiful woman. He said look, you know me, I must tell you something. The worst thing to do in this life is to marry a second wife.

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And one law IE those who are having more than one wife one lady they live in hell. I tell you this. That's literally what he says. Yeah, you know meaning attainment. woman can an extra minute kind of you know what, dude, but he is what what the heck to get married to as well.

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You're laughing.

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To get married to another woman. He said, This is not what you told me.

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He said, No, that's what I told you. I mean aluminum. Maybe you forgot.

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And if you forgot, I'm going to remind you.

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I told you that three women are like three crusades coming to you in the middle of the night.

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had been abuzz. Li buzz is related to our SOS lm he's from the other side. He says, Well, I am not related to our SOS lm by Allah. I have no relation to our SOS lm if this is what you told me, it's an Arabic way of saying, This is far away from what you told me.

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One lie I have never heard these words before.

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No, he said to him, Well, I this is what I told you. I even told you that for women is like, illness and diseases coming all on the top of you all together. He says, Well, I I've never heard this from you. And then he said, Well, I said this to you. He said, Do you mean that I'm a liar? Or crazy? said no.

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But I told you that those virgin women are rubbish, actually. They are not virgin. And actually they are. In reality. They are men in disguise that what he says? That's what he says. Actually, he says, you know, very bad word, but I'm not going to say it. He wants to rescue himself from another kick in the face. So he can say anything. And when he said this, like old virgin women are like men, he could see someone giggling from behind a curtain.

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He said, and I told you Yeah, I mean, meaning that the best women on this earth are those from Benny masoom.

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This is not this is how to try. And she was sitting at the back saying, oh, Allah. Yes. Yes. Well as your law. You're right.

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What law You're right. Yeah, ma Oh, my cousin will law You are right. And then he said, I left.

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And a couple of days, I saw the same muscular men with or know what we know what's wrong. Did I do they came, they gave me a donkey. They gave me a horse. They gave me 10,000 dinar. And they gave me lots of gold.

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So I was happy.

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Sisters and brothers, I am done with this course. I hope you enjoyed it, but not just enjoyed it. I hope you learned from this course. I know that there were a lot of problems in this course, I know that there were politically incorrect statements that I did articulated, please accept my apology. And I am sorry, if I've offended anyone. This is number one. Number two, I was not here. coming all the way to narrate stories, these stories, I could have written them in a book, emailed them to you, or just written them and came here and read them to you. I want us to get from this course, with practical lessons I first of all want to entertain. This is that slogan of the BBC. I want to

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inform, educate, and to entertain. I'm not here to entertain, entertain and entertain. Although I feel that we need to be entertained in this hot weather and you have been very patient audience with me sitting here. You know, with all these bottles of water. People are doing like this. And I'm sure that some people had headaches with my crazy stories. We all suffer. So are we going to waste all that? Are we going to take the tube now home and open friends? And you know, watch this movie or this film? Oh, are we going to say how can I benefit from this course? How can I be a different person after this course. So this is I leave it to you. Number three.

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I would like you to establish a friendship with one woman only in that entire course. Which women is it? Which one will you choose? Was it the women that had a U turn? Was it the woman with success? Was it um selama that will beat everyone up who wants to get married to Aspen. All what you need to do is to identify your potentials, and capacities and capabilities. and identify then the woman that her story has some relevance and compatibility to your story. And try then to be inspired by this woman. Don't think about all the women. Not all the women are suitable for all of you. But certainly, I hope I have succeeded in introducing even if one woman that you found attractive that

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you found appealing. All brothers.

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You can be attracted to one woman that I have mentioned here. Maybe there is one woman that was compatible to your own aspirations to your own, you turn to your own success. Don't let the fact that

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She was a woman makes you feel that she is not relevant. She was a human being a decent human being. And I think that we all have to learn lessons from the women that I have introduced. I am happy now, with what I did. I always wanted to do great men. So for great Imams, I always wanted to do children because I am a father. But I always felt doing injustice to a lot of sisters who come and attend. And I say to myself, if I was a sister listening to Bihari Shafi, etc, I want to know about women. So I said, This is my thanking statement to you. And I am happy with these three series of courses. And maybe I need a couple of years to think about something new. But maybe if I thought about

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something, it would be an overview on Islamic history. But that would not be in the summer because you will have a terrible headache from lecture number one, or Sierra, the Sierra of our Susilo SLM, but I thank you all for being with me today and Zakouma lucky