Hatem al-Haj – Manazil as-Sa’ireen #42 – Chapter on Character

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The importance of proper behavior and manners when recreational activities is emphasized. The society is expected to suppress criminality and deter crime, but it is unclear if this will happen. Conscious awareness and substantial self expression are essential for doing one's job, and individuals need to evaluate their actions to avoid future mistakes. The importance of practice and empowerment for addressing past mistakes is emphasized, and individuals need to stay true to their values and not give up on past deeds.

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			spinoff from the los los alamos are allowed
		
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			to proceed. inshallah today, we will continue with the chapter of nap character or more of
character.
		
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			And in the fifth session we will try to finish the funeral prayer salado janessa and we will try to
go over special cases cases where you know, either hostless not indicated or hostname, the funeral
prayer are not indicated,
		
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			we will try to cover those special cases in Sharla. First, the moment mala in his book Monoceros
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			sad about the different level levels of our flock or the different levels within the station of our
flock. And I will not repeat what we finished last time.
		
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			It has been recorded so if someone is interested in going back and listening to it, we can certainly
do that. But then even menara we started to talk about the different levels of lap after he started
with his definition and classification.
		
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			And he said beracha to oola and 30, Famicom and 71 aka daddy mirboo tune wafi Takata boo soon,
Weiland helped me mount to foon.
		
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			The first novel is to know the place of the creations and that they are tied to their destinies and
confined within the given capacities and bound by his decree.
		
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			So, in order for you he will then talk about how do you have proper flock How do you have proper
manners? How do you have proper character with the help and the harlot with the creations and the
creator and he will certainly start by talking about how to have proper flap with the Hulk with the
creations and he will focus on one aspect of this the aspect of the metal as a because which is
basically
		
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			tolerating
		
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			very hard
		
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			and being able to forgive and being able to
		
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			extend kindness instead of revenge.
		
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			And that is the aspect of that he will particularly focus on and as we said before character is
about two things doesn't own model view which is to extend kindness or calf will ever and refrain
from harm. These are the two things and you need the element to then sub refer this you need
awareness and you need dude which is liberality and you need substantial self restraint to be able
to do this to be able to do those two things which are basically
		
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			you know the main ingredients of the two main ingredients of a flap calf Mr. Basil and maruf Capital
aza extended kindness and refraining from harm
		
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			an awful lot for hours on end jailene has Allah Spano tala seven surah
		
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			so
		
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			he will talk now about that your key to basically having proper manners was the was the Hulk was the
people was the creations and this is your tea he says your Eman and credit your emember lies in
control the man that they are not in control will be the key to having proper luck or proper manners
proper conduct with creations and daddy from a common help to know the place of recreations when
daddy him or Bo tune that they are tied to their destinies. They are tied to their destinies they
are like on a lease. They are tied to it and they can't really run away from it
		
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			when you can't see him MakerBot soon and they are confined within their given capacity stockpiles
what Taka is energy tapa is capacity. So it no matter what you do, you're trying to reach your
potential. That is true. But who gave you your potential? It's a lost pinata who gave you that
capacity it's less pinata.
		
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			And who decides whether or not you will reach your potential? It is a loss of time. So that's the
lease. So there is you're confined.
		
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			You're within this confinement and within this confinement, you are on a lease. So understanding
this and while and how can you mobile phone and they are bound by his decree.
		
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			They're bound by his decree
		
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			fetta study that we have in modified sarasa tashia when you will gain from this recognition, your
recognition your knowing and realization of the place of the creations and their limitations
		
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			you will be able to
		
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			to benefit from this or to gain from this three things or three benefits 100 healthy men, hot
alcohol
		
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			and non healthy men hot alcohol
		
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			hot and kalburgi here would be the best way to say that you know you know after hot that could be my
super modular on home or for Allah lifted up
		
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			my floral and up to there and this is probably the best way to say so I'm not healthy men cattle
caribou, so the creations feeling safe from you even the dogs
		
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			meaning happy Calibri amendment, even the dogs will feel safe. When I'm happy to help the egg
recreations love view when a judge will help the victim recreations salvation through you the
creations salvation through you. So, once you've recognized that they are confined, that they are
bound, and they are on a lease
		
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			tied to their destinies you will that what will that cause you to feel towards
		
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			empathy and you will find excuses for them because they are sort of tied to their destinies and they
are confined within their face.
		
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			How does that not make you fatalist or determinist?
		
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			What
		
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			would the criminals be punished in this case, if they are bound by their destinies are tied to their
destinies and confined within their given capacities?
		
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			There are many things that need to be clarified here. And we have done some clarification in the
past. So we will not repeat everything. But it is important that you that you ask yourself certain
questions.
		
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			One of the questions is this is this about me or it's about the society. And when it comes to your
rights, you should be more forgiving. And when it comes to societal rights, a society that will
allow criminal criminality and it will allow transgression as a society that is doomed to
destruction. So you're less forgiving, yet the society will also will punish the criminals, punish
the criminals and punish criminality, but the society will look into the root causes of criminality
and whether you know, there is
		
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			whether the society is in some way responsible for the criminality of the criminals and our society
does not look at the criminals in the you know, from the perspective of revenge, it is there in the
society punishes them for deterrence, to protect them and protect people who are like them from
their own vices to deter them from their own vices. And that is the theory of punishment and Islam.
It is not about revenge, it's about deterrence. And the society does look compassionately at them to
some extent, in Islam way before that Italian core to the side, you know, you know, there was like a
famous, famous case last year, in an Italian court, they said that thieves who steal to eat will not
		
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			be punished, if they steal to eat, you know, in Islam, this is an established fact you have the will
be suspended if you are starting to eat, in fact, we have you know, cut off for the, for the, you
know, amount stolen, below which had will not be applied Amaro the lawn suspended had in
		
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			the year of famine. So, it is not, it is not at all that, you know, the punishment of criminals in
an Islamic Society in a virtuous society is meant for revenge, it's meant for deterrence, it's meant
for the greatest good for the greatest number, it's meant for this, you know, well being of the
society at large. So, you will do consider that you will consider if this is a like an offense
against you, you as an individual instead of friends against the society, if the person did this out
of you know, transience, lapse of judgment, if the person that this out of ignorance of the person
that this out of reaction, sort of a reflexive action, or if the person is bent on evil and there is
		
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			a difference between the two. You will
		
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			to basically assess whether, you know, responding with firmness and assertiveness
		
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			and some force is is the best course of action or with forgiveness and compassion and kindness is
the best course of action to deter more evil or to prevent more evil. So, there are many
considerations, there are many considerations, but when it comes to you, particularly when with
people who have you know wronged you be out of luck you know, lack you know, failure of judgment or
		
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			some reaction to something that you may have said or may have done, some people that are not
frequent offenders, some people that are not bent on evil, then you will be forgiving and then you
will find them excuses, excuse the end, the most important excuse is the excuse of other, you know,
that they have been sort of pre determined to do this or to act in this way or to react in this way.
So, that is the first Mashhad that's the first angle that you will look at this incident from this
is the first angle so someone you know slapped you on the face or someone curse Do you hear a bell
curve Ramallah said it is not just one angle that you look from, it's 11 different angles. See, I've
		
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			mentioned the angle of Qatar, and we you know,
		
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			and we can talk about this it from one angle forever, but the the angle of further
		
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			when you look from the angle of credit, you will have acceptance of the decree, even if it is your
own sin, not someone else's sin, you will have acceptance of the sin in the sense of how it came
from Allah subhanaw taala in that sense that the origin of this, the one who decreed this, I
committed the sin, let's say, you know,
		
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			you didn't not slap in the face, I slapped in the face hiking minutes. So how do I look at it? Do I
hate this? Or do I like it depends on how it depends on the perspective. If If you are looking at it
from the perspective that this was something law had decreed, before your creation before the
creation of the heavens and the earth, you know,
		
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			when it comes to Allah's knowledge, this particular incident has no beginning in his knowledge. So,
because Allah is eternal God was beyond time you cannot comprehend it, I can't comprehend it,
because we are you know, confined within time, but this particular incident a lot decreased. So, I,
this is my sin, I am except I will accept it, I will accept it. I will not say Why did you let me do
this? Why? You know that you decree this for me? I will accept it. As far as it comes from him. I
will rejected and I will, you know, hold myself accountable. And I will blame myself. Certainly,
definitely I will do all of this. As far as this one relates to me not relates to him was
		
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			Chevrolet's de la Eva has not attributed to you. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to say this, in
his supplication to his Lord. And evil is not attributed to your shadow lace at this particular
incident is good in his master plan.
		
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			This particular evil is good as it relates to him in his master plan. It is bad as it relates to me.
		
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			You know, you look a little bit surprised, this will not be surprising.
		
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			This thing of mine is good in his master plan, nothing he does or decrees is bad. Because you cannot
look at it in isolation from the rest of his master plan.
		
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			This is Part Part of the carpet, you know, the anthem, the carpet, this is part of the master design
that you are unable to behold, because you are the end, how could the hand to behold you know, the
design of the carpet. So as as far as this sin relates to him, it's good and it is to be accepted.
		
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			And as far as it relates to me, it is bad, it is evil to be rejected and you should hold yourself
accountable. And you should you should blame yourself. Nuff said lawan reproaching. So,
		
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			so but this is much headway. This is one perspective one angle that you will look for from the angle
of Qatar, you know, and so now we're talking about how looking at from the angle of other will make
the
		
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			People feel safe from you and will earn you the love of the people and they also would earn
salvation through you, through you after they have loved you. It will pay him said one angle that
you save mentioned, there are 10 more angles that you need to look from when someone transgresses
you when someone presses you, there is the angle of arrival,
		
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			after the angle of putter, there is the angle of rather, because product means that it means near
acceptance rather means acceptance with pleasure, acceptance with pleasure, not only that, you will
accept it because this is what a lot decreed, you will accept it with pleasure, because nothing that
comes from him is evil, or bad. As it relates to him, it's part of the likeness and part of his
master plan use it. So, not only that, you will have this acceptance of other you will have also
read, you will have pleasure with it.
		
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			The third one, and I know it is hard and it does require practice and this is that is what we that
is what we're trying to do here. We're trying to earn the knowledge that will empower us to do the
work. The knowledge will not get you anywhere unless you use you do motor habit. you struggle
against yourself and you do the work and you act upon this knowledge but at least what we're trying
to do here is trying to earn the knowledge and you know, allow him ever nada Rahim Allah to open
that little crevices and recesses in in our hearts and show us, you know, shine some light on the
darkness is within our hearts, to show us how we can overcome our weaknesses and our failures. So
		
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			you ought to have this product the masthead of a cutter or you're looking from the angle of other
you're looking from the angle of rubber. And you're looking from the angle of circular because keep
in mind, if you were oppressed, you should be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala that you are not the
oppressor. Because if you were to choose if you are really wise and you are to choose between being
the oppressed or the oppressor, which one would you choose?
		
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			Be in the oppressed? Right?
		
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			Would you choose being the oppressor? Okay, you would certainly choose be in the oppressed. So this
transgression that happened, you know, we were in a meeting, you know, our organization, our Islamic
organization relief organization with this organization, we were in a meeting, and someone cares to
me. And two days later, I think about it.
		
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			You know, I'm sorry to reflect on how unjust unfair, you know, how aggressive he or she was,
		
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			you know, you should be really grateful that you were not the aggressor. You are not the oppressor,
you saved me from being the oppressor, what is the oppressed waiting for a lot of enjoying them or
rewarding them for their patience? What is the oppressor waiting for
		
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			the opposite. So,
		
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			so, this is this is the, this is an important match has not had a stroke, and I'm at a loss, it is
to be thankful and grateful. So powder, river and shock, then there are three other machines that
are intact
		
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			Rafi
		
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			and those who suppress the rage forgive people have a lot of those who
		
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			are benevolent, those extend kindness after this. So, it is like three different levels, soccer guys
as much how to sub self restraint, master the sub self restraint. So you want to look at it from the
angle of self restraint.
		
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			Being able now to demonstrate your ability to restrain yourself and self restraint is there is
another mesh that is interconnected to this with which is one of the shuddha it is the the you know
the attribute of Kurds.
		
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			Do you have enough courage, enough courage to stand up to yourself now because yourself is
whispering to you to events events, to retaliate for it on its behalf? And now do you have the
courage to stand up to yourself and suppress it? So sub is an important message. Then a laugh a soft
inhale? This is all one message. It is the pardon to forgive to show forbearance pardoning
		
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			is another measure, you could show self restraint, but you don't part of them. And the higher method
is to show suffering is to forgive.
		
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			And then the, within this group,
		
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			the highest would be accent, it's the extend kindness, it is to say, you know, he did this to me or
he said that about me, I'll send them a gift or something or I will
		
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			hold myself from, you know, abusing him or her.
		
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			And I will, in instead, extend kindness to them. And so, you know, more benevolence towards them.
And then, mmm, Kamala, so these are six different angles that you will look for, right? We said the
other we said the river, which has pleasures of showing pleasure, we said a shock, gratefulness, we
said, the three others which has sobbed self restraint is a laugh, which is forgiving, and exam
which is kindness or benevolence. And then there are two that are somewhat
		
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			related, which is an AMA Salama, the sub m is your own safety and your own security because when you
return, if you retaliate, they will also retaliate, we always get, we have sometimes this primitive
way of thinking griptilian way of reaction, retaliate, retaliate, three, three, and then after some
time, a couple of years, you've been doing this with like, some people do this with their spouses,
you know, like, it is all sort of sequence of retaliation. And then we try to figure out who started
it and we can't really remember, because it's been a couple of years or 20 years, and you've been
retaliating against each other, you've been harmed causing harm to each other and it is like a
		
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			vicious cycle, no one is trying to come back to their senses and say, Well, if I stop, you know,
maybe we will be able to break through the cycle.
		
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			So, it is
		
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			it is your security or safety from further harm. If you actually consider this if you look at it
from this angle, you will be able to
		
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			to show proper a flap concerning this particular incident that happened. The other thing is it is
not only about your external safety, it is also about your internal safety which is Salama to
Southern Salama to Saturday it is basically having inner peace. It is basically having no grudges
because that holding grudges will harm you first, the or hurt you first before it hurts anyone else.
So if you want your own well being then just think about it. Think about you know, whether avenging
yourself now
		
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			is really the best course of action.
		
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			So these are two that are interconnected. The two others that are the this is the you know, you're
getting close now to the end isn't Mujahid Otto heed and Machado, Machado, Machado, it is this
struggle against yourself, you will say to yourself, this is an opportunity this person hurt me.
		
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			But keep in mind this person is
		
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			because he or both of you Takata him Booz Allen helped me malkuth he is tied to his destiny can find
within his capacity,
		
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			given capacity and he is bound by Allah's decree. So, he will say to yourself, this person is simply
like
		
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			the wind
		
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			is simply like bad weather. Simply like you know this particular answer this particular
		
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			person is simply like, you know, a branch of a tree falling on top of your head
		
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			or a log or something for on top of your having causing you a concussion or even breaking your skull
right around. To some extent, yes, this person is only a tool. You know, this person has no mind or
power or influence or control by himself. This person is just like the branch of a tree that fell
off on top of your head and caused you concussion, like the wind, like viruses like bacteria
		
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			You know, should you really be should you really be holding bacteria accountable?
		
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			Certainly we allow it to hold them accountable because he is a rational agent. And Allah whim
offends you. But from your Think about it for a moment that this person is, you know that this
particular incident comes from Allah subhanaw taala. And yes, it is evil as it relates to this
person, it is not evil as it relates to your Lord, who is in complete control, complete control,
once you have this feeling you won't have, you know, particularly young people have a lot of
insecurity have a lot of anxiety, because they think that I should be in control.
		
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			And they don't really think that there is someone else in control, and you are not in control, you
can do your best and do your best, but you're not in control at the end of the day. So my dad is
saying here that a lot, you know, sent me this opportunity to struggle against myself. Now, now, my
struggle is not against my spouse, my business partner, my neighbor, you know, my struggle is
against myself, to stop it from his aggression, or stop it even from showing better or less than
optimal, sub optimal, less than optimal.
		
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			And then the final mesh head or angle that you look from is the measurement of the head. That is
what shaken haraway is all about. Because in that lingo, of the many of the masters of paths, or the
Alice to Duke, is about finance, about annihilation.
		
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			We are all we are, we're talking about all of this because you're still aware of yourself, you're
still focused on yourself, and that is why you're feeling the pain of that incident. That is why you
feel the humiliation from that incident, because you're still holding yourself at the center of your
universe.
		
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			But if you had already walked away, if it vanished,
		
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			you know, and if your focus is on Allah subhanaw taala, that you have been distracted from yourself
or yourself had already vanished, and all of your energy, all of your thoughts, all of your plans
are Biola and forumla, viola and for Allah,
		
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			then he will not be even here,
		
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			we will not be talking about this, we will not be talking about self restraint, we will not be
talking about forgiveness. Because in the first place
		
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			you are not consumed in yourself and you're not busy about your own feelings, your own hurt, thing,
your own this sort of that because you use subsist by Allah and for Allah. So you look at it with
complete impartiality. You look at the incident, not from within you not from piano, the spectacles
of your own ego, but you have already walked away from this ego, and you're looking at you and your
adversary, or your spouse or your neighbor from outside. And then you are judging this and then you
are concerned about what's the best course of action. You know, what is the best course of action in
the sight of Allah subhanaw taala? Because the you're looking only from the sight of Allah.
		
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			Not from your own perspective, or your own egotistical perspective.
		
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			Okay, so these are 11 different angles right? Now, then.
		
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			Okay, okay, you're keeping count.
		
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			And so what is the 11th? Because we're done. The 11th should be should be basically in your company
throughout the 10 different massage, which is much harder as well, which is basically about the the
honorable role model, who's your role model, you know, when you when we talk about in this
particular incident to hear when this incident happened?
		
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			Whom are you looking for, you know, for a role model, or you're looking for the messenger sallallahu
sallam, Mohamed Salah, the best of all role models and then the other role models that are
		
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			You know, Sahaba and so on the other prophets of the Sahaba and so on. So who was your role model
the prophets that and did he ever avenge himself? He never did, as I
		
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			said, so you're looking here at this incident as an another opportunity to show that you are true
real role model is
		
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			Mohammed Salalah Alayhi salat wa salam ala Salallahu alaihe salam, it's an opportunity. Now show us
who you know, who's your leader? Who is your Who's your role model who's yours?
		
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			Okay, so having said this, now, if you look at this incident from these 11 different angles, then
this is what this will earn you.
		
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			The creations feeling safe from you, even the dogs, creations, all creations will feel safe from
you, if they really know this about you.
		
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			And know from previous experience, how you react, people will feel safe around you.
		
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			And this is extremely important to how do people feel when they are around you? How do you know? How
does your spouse feel about her future with you or his future with you?
		
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			Do they fear that you may at one point transgress they fear that you may at one point? Use dirty
tricks or?
		
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			Or
		
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			it's an important question to ask ourselves business partner and not just spouses as part of
neighbors and so on and so forth. How do they feel when they are around you? How do they feel
concerning their future with you their future relationship with you? Do they feel safe? Even the
dogs you know we have no problem.
		
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			We don't have any agenda against dogs or any vendetta against dogs it dogs were created by Allah
subhanaw taala
		
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			we have rulings concerning dogs. We don't keep dogs as pets and this and that.
		
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			We keep them for good purposes.
		
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			But we don't have any like any bad feelings towards dogs.
		
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			And then he said one habit will help so after they feel safe, and this is important, then this will
take a little bit of time people may initially think that you are a little bit weird, they are a
little bit just quirky. This you know, don't look right, look a little bit weird act a little bit
weird, but it will take them some time. And these late realizations, sort of like late phase, not
early phase realizations. Late realizations are more enduring than the early impressions. You know,
he's nice, he's like very jovial he is and you should be cheerful and you should not be really
		
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			depressed pressing. But, but this is not a hero. This is enough to figure out who the person is, if
there's just a crack jokes and they're like nice and, and,
		
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			and casual, and they're sort of behavior that is not enough, these realizations are the most
important realizations
		
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			and they will be based on experience and true
		
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			knowledge of the personality. So after a couple of years from marriage, you'll be able to tell you
know about your spouse, it you may not be able to know everything about your spouse for several
weeks, months, couple of years, because there are certain things that you would have to figure out
		
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			considerably experience.
		
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			So once they have the feel safe, then they love you happy to help direct the creations love of you
and this is something that you should be keen on. You should be keen on, you know, earning their
love.
		
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			Because ultimately you are you are his agent. He are his agent. And does he want his creations to
love him?
		
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			Does he want his his
		
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			creations love? Yes, he does. And you're working for him You are his agent. So
		
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			you will lead them to Allah subhanaw taala and unless they unless they love the agent, they may not
be able to reach the sender
		
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			who commissioned to you and they will not be able to earn salvation through you. And that's the last
thing that the sheikh said when other managers would have liebeck the creation salvation through you
and that is what
		
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			We want for all people. We want eternity in the garden in general for all people, and that is why we
are keen on giving our and reaching out and doing all this work, not for self gain, but for people's
welfare and well be. Then the sheikh said a barrage of funny attacks you know how become hacked.
What I see no woman can tell them. Okay, we are done with recreations.
		
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			Now, the creator and the true one. The second level is perfecting your manners with a true one and
it is accomplished by knowing that one and akula t Minka, Yuji Borotra. Everything from you mandates
your apology. It truly is. And sometimes we may say, but we're really hard on ourselves. Like if I,
you know, if I'm trying to do my best and
		
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			trying to fight all the odds and struggle against myself struggle against the environment, the
environment around me that is really not conducive to righteousness and listen that
		
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			why should we be so hard on ourselves, you will not be too hard on yourself to the point you should
not be too hard on yourself to the point where you cause yourself the spear for sure.
		
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			And that is not what the shape wants, but that she wants you to understand your deficiencies,
understand your failures, understand their faults and recognize that you are defective.
		
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			You are defective, anything that comes from you shall also be defective, because you are defective.
Or you are the you know, the deficient in, in many aspects.
		
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			So everything that comes from you mandate your apology. That's why the prophets of Sodom once he
finished his prayer, he would say a structure of law, Stanford Law at Stanford Law, it is when she
once he finished what is pray. He would say structural law, structural law, structural law, because
		
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			he was whose prayer is that? The prophets prayer.
		
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			Think about our prayers.
		
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			And think about how
		
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			you probably want to spend the rest of your day just asking for forgiveness.
		
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			So column A it meant YouTubers that are everything that from you mandates your policy, when economy
terminal hachioji bushwalker. Everything from the true one ad hoc mandates, your gratefulness,
everything from him and it's your gratefulness, while laterra luminova that you see that there is no
salvation salvation or rescue for you except through fulfilling his covenant, fulfilling his COVID
		
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			adonijah 230 sir, the third level is
		
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			locked with a sphere and hollow refining the character through purification of the character of the
hollow metal sphere to the hollow, which is refining the character by purification of the character
		
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			or by purification. How do you do the sphere to hollow the hollow of generosity for instance, Karen
is who as we said before, you know on one side of this quote up of generosity is what to have the
Seraph wastefulness extravagance, right. And on the other side is what bohannan shot miserliness and
stinginess, and you're trying to hit the golden mean in the middle, hitting the golden mean the
right golden mean in the middle between the vices is basically what we call correctness,
correctness.
		
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			And then you're trying to do this in light of the guidance, that last panel Atala provided to you in
you know, his book and through his messenger that he sent to you as a role model. Once you hit the
golden mean, once you hit the golden mean, is there still room for improvement? Absolutely
quantitative only, like meaning more of the same only, not only more of the same, not only more
generosity, but also to refine the generosity qualitatively to work on this generosity.
		
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			It is basically the perfection of this generosity in not only quantitatively not only by just more
of the same, but working on this generosity person working on how you you demonstrate this
generosity and the most important aspect of this qualitative qualitative improvement enhancements
promotion of the lab is what then a year
		
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			you your intention? Are you doing this for the right reason for the right cause for the right
purpose or not? And if you're not doing it for the right purpose,
		
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			you know, you're
		
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			seating is very, very, very low.
		
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			And if you're doing it for the wrong person, you know, you will be losing.
		
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			But if he and and then more and more of the same as as possible, more sincerity as possible,
absolutely. More devotion as possible. Absolutely. And then this is basically it was fair, it was
fair.
		
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			This this way, as we said before,
		
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			and maybe we'll maybe we'll address with where it was. The second point here is exempt from assault
on Africa.
		
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			Hello, so Massoud to come up with a sphere to pull up is the first one refining the character
through purification is the first one. And then he said some Massoud want Africa to look rising
above the dispersion of the HELOC or refining the character. The dispersion at the far rock, the
dispersion is basically anything be it is that being distracted by anything other than Allah
subhanaw taala and seeking the pleasure of Allah, some people can be distracted by refining their
character from Allah. true or not.
		
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			But isn't it Allah who wanted you to refine your character? Yes. But you could then become consumed
in refining your character? are Muslims, only people who refine their character? No, you know, a lot
of non Muslims have more refined character than men and many Muslims. So does refining the character
then mean that you're devoted to Allah? Not necessarily, what is the ultimate goal, the pleasure of
Allah subhanaw taala. So how could the defining a refining of the character which is something along
the lines of you be a distraction, it could certainly be a distraction from Allah subhanaw taala.
		
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			Because you could become too focused on this character, that refining this character, we give an
example last time you are a member of this board of this organization, and then you tend to be a
little bit
		
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			like, as we said, last time, short fuse, and then you decide that I am not going to do anything in
public, I'm not going to participate, I'm not, I'm not a good team player, I'm not going to be part
of any team because I don't have control
		
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			over myself, and then I'll just, you know, stay home
		
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			until I refine my character, I till I have good control, until I have you know, I until I master
this, I will not go back into public life until I have absolute mastery of this particular
		
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			aspect of my character, having the you know, forbearance, Hedman and so on. And then he could spend
the next few years trying to figure this out. And then Meanwhile, you could be busy going to work
and coming back, you know, working on your career working on your family issues, and so on, and he
could get, and he couldn't, he may never come back to serve the community, you may never come back
serve the community in any capacity. Now, certainly, if you are if you if you have no control over
yourself, you don't need to serve the work on it. But ultimately, it is about the balance of benefit
and harm.
		
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			Not for your own gains, not for from your own self serving perspective, but from how last serving
perspective from God serving from a god serving perspective. Is it in the best interest of the
community? Is it in the best interest of this organization isn't in the best? Is it in the best
interest of our last cause? That I was draw from this? Or should I continue to be involved and
continue to refine my character, keep in mind if we, if we try to refine our character, we, if we
abandon certain, you know, good deeds, to refine our character first, we may be that may be the the
sort of the most, you know, pernicious plan by the shaitaan. To keep you away from if we sit down
		
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			and figure out how to be how to completely upgrade ourselves from our self serving. We're extremely
egotistical, extremely self serving. I, I could we could sit down and figure out how, you know,
		
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			that charity that you gave in private with Kim, you know, without anyone knowing even your spouse,
without even that recipient, knowing how it could still be self serving. Right here and that is it.
		
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			This is the sort of the harvest exercise the exercise, harvest spiritual exercise rehab, which is
defying true sincerity in our actions could be extremely, you know, debilitating
		
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			unless you seek Allah's help and allows assistance and a loss no feat, but if we if we do this and
give up, you know, good deeds, you may be even not only giving up good deeds that you do in public,
you may be even given up good deeds, this may be the chiffons way to your, to you to destroy you,
you may be given up good deeds that you do in private, in the darkness of your bedroom, you know,
		
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			you may be given up because you may say the shape on material all of this is basically to fit into
your role as a good righteous person or this or that it's still self serving this thing that So,
don't get distracted by the refining of the refining of the character, even when it comes to
something as important as devotion, do your best Excel do your best don't give up certainly do not
give up on you know this particular most important aspect which is devotion to Allah subhanaw taala
but at the same time, don't give up any good deed that you do for that continue to do that that
which is right and continue to improve you're
		
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			in a year
		
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			okay, so hold on to the HELOC which is the rise above the dispersion of Aflac you're tracing all of
those Aflac
		
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			and now,
		
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			rise above that, and will you know,
		
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			be in your DNA at of Karbala, or in your togetherness with Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			and make the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala your most ultimate pursuit and don't get distracted
even by refining your own character and members except for the majority.
		
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			Then refining the character by transcending leaving behind one's character.
		
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			Remember, last time we talked about, you know how
		
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			they may have no payment at all. Now we're having this discussion about you know, the refining of
the character and how it could be a distraction and you know, if you get distracted, getting all the
snakes and scorpions in your way to Allah subhanaw taala those snakes in the scorpions could cause
you distraction and slow you down. But unless they will make catch up with you later and hurt you
		
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			leave them
		
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			you know, walk over the run to a last marathon. Those snakes in the scorpions are your own
		
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			deficiencies, your own faults, your own failures, if you try to address each one of them, it will be
an endless pursuit. Because, you know, the,
		
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			the our deficiencies, and, and the evil traits that we have are endless, boundless. So it could be
an endless pursuit to chase after each and every one of them.
		
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			But sometimes, there are those snakes that you need to kill, you know, completely. Yeah, or to sort
of handicap them so that they don't catch up with you. And sometimes you just need to carry on.
		
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			Shave is ultimately is ultimately saying here refining the character by transcending even behind
one's character. Because for the shave, for example, how do we get a Kamala we know this is the
third level here. And the third level is about self annihilation, self dissolution, self
annihilation, you're not even here to define your character, whose character if you're not here,
		
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			right. So this is what he means by transcending the hammock the Mojo was a tough luck in finding the
character by transcending leaving behind one's character.
		
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			If you're suddenly finding your character, it means that you're still here, right?
		
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			defining your character means that there is still Hassan Harare or Fatima
		
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			but, you know, at this level, which is the ultimate level self-annihilation
		
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			now that there is no Hassan Ali or problem anymore, because they vanished in the pleasure of their
Lord and the only subsist for him and by him
		
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			we've we've talked about this several times in the past and then repeating and again it may not
necessarily be warranted at this point. But we will come back and talk more and more and more about
this particular concept of finance because there are certain things, you know, fatalism you know
		
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			zadan what we should,
		
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			how we should perceive it, there are certain things that are important for us to clarify, and to
have the proper understanding of, so that this journey
		
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			becomes not only
		
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			a journey of devotion, but also a journey of correctness and authenticity.
		
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			compliant with the revelation was with the Quran and the Sunnah protocol yada, yada comes back not
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