Hasan Ali – What to look for in HimHer
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The speaker advises the audience to focus on finding the person with a positive attitude and a strong religion. He also emphasizes the importance of having deeds and being religious in every situation. The speaker warns of potential problems if the audience doesn't have deeds and recommends asking the master's questions to understand their mentality.
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You're looking to find the person who's on
the inside,
not on the outside only. Yes. You want
beauty. There's nothing wrong for you to getting
beauty. Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam told us
that. That most people, like, don't look for
1 of 4 things. Okay? So they're gonna
look for beauty. It doesn't mean that you
find the religion and you don't find the
beauty. It doesn't mean
that. Look for at least beauty that is
nice to you. Fine? But religion must be
something which you give priority to. Don't miss
out on that. And I'm gonna tell you
why. A lot of people suffer later on
because of these wrong choices.
Have a beautiful person but have religion with
it. Have a person with wealth but have
their religion with it. What's the point of
you having wealth if you don't not have
religion? Honestly, what are you gonna do? You're
gonna destroy yourself. I was telling a businessman
the other day. A businessman the other day,
I said, listen, bro. I said, you're trying
to make the millions fine. Alhamdulillah. May Allah
bless you. Rahmulillah bless you with the millions.
But if you don't have taqwa, if you
don't have God consciousness, then that money will
rule you. That money will take you to
ways that, you know, you to areas that
you never wanted to go in your life,
but the money will take you. Why? Because
you got no fear of Allah inside you.
You got no consciousness of Allah inside you.
You do not want a man in your
life who's got money, who doesn't have Allah
in his heart. Honestly, I'm telling you, it
will it will lead you to a lot
of problems. You do not want a woman
with money because some guys honestly, I know
one guy here. He actually is up from
north. Yeah. He's not getting married. I said,
why are you not getting married, bro? He
goes, because I'm waiting for the rich sister.
Like, guy doesn't wanna work. You know what
I'm saying? Like, he wants to hang around
and sit down. Honestly, for years, every time
I ask him, he doesn't wanna get mad
at wife because he's looking for a rich
sister.
Rich sister who's gonna basically you know, people
think that money solves everything. Money does not
solve everything. Anyway, if Allah's blessed you with
wealth, Alhamdulillah, may Allah bless you more. There's
nothing wrong in having wealth, but you better
have the deen. Okay? If you don't have
the deen, if you don't have religion, you're
gonna take yourself to destruction. Now, the third
thing Rasool Allah said, he said, lineage. People
look for lineage like this family, noble family,
this family. Yes. It's all good. Have a
good family. Have a good background, but don't
sacrifice the 4th one, the most important one,
which is religion. And when we get to
religion, what is religion? Is religion when you
pray pray 5 times a day? No. It's
not.
Religion doesn't stop there. Religion doesn't stop at
the hijab.
Religion is inside.
It's a state of the heart.
Okay? When you have religion inside you, you're
religious in every single setting.
It's not just, you know, when when other
people see me that I'm religious. No. It's
not just for, you know, just a few
salahs. Oh, yeah. I'll tick the boxes. No.
It's not that. You're religious from the inside.
You're religious wherever you are, wherever you go,
and you gotta you gotta ask those questions
to understand. So what kind of questions you're
gonna ask? You know the question you wanna
ask when you when you're seeing a prospect,
you wanna ask the question which master do
you go to?
What's what's the master you frequently go to?
Which
sheikh do you do you listen to online?
And now you're getting to something because now
if they say I listen to this sheikh,
that sheikh, that sheikh, it gives you an
idea of the person mentality.
Then you say to the person, okay. What
are the favorite quotes you've heard from the
shayuk?
Right? Now we're getting into proper fights. You
know what I'm saying? Like, before marriage. Like,
not after marriage, bro. You know what I'm
saying? Before marriage, ask these questions. What are
the favorite quotes of a sheikh? Now, if
she says my favorite sheikh my favorite sheikh
is so and so, and he said, you
know, when a husband comes home, he cleans
all the dishes for me, and does everything
in the house, and he looks after thing,
he's my favorite
guy.
My favorite quote. Yeah? You listen to that
bro. Yeah?
Alright.
Basically, you're gonna be if you love that,
bro, if you love that, go for it.
Honestly, there's some men who like this. Honestly,
there's one talk I gave. I think it
was in the middle and somewhere and the
brother, you know, put his hand up. He
said, I happily do all the chores of
the heart.
Good. Alhamdulillah. Barakallahuwik. May Allah bless you. But
there are men who don't wanna do that.
And there are women who want that done.
Now you better start talking about this. In
front of the. As I said, in front
of that father father figure, in front of
that, you know, the brother is the older
brother of hers who's there to prevent the
loose talk. You wanna ask these questions because
there are different sets there are different mindsets
that we have. You better get to know
those mindsets before you get into that marriage.
Now