Hasan Ali – Tips for Family Life

			And centuries and centuries, it worked like this.
		

			Right? The man becomes the sole breadwinner of
		

			the of everything for the house from outside.
		

			The woman becomes the one that looks for
		

			everything inside the house, and they this man
		

			and woman are a unit together. Alright? It's
		

			the same thing I saw in my my
		

			own mother and father.
		

			And I'm sure many of you I don't
		

			know. If you're not as old as me,
		

			maybe you saw saw it in your grandfather
		

			and your grandmother.
		

			They stuck by each other. Doesn't matter how
		

			bad it got. But this is how they
		

			live their lives. And I've told my son.
		

			You know what I've said to my son?
		

			My son's 19 years old,
		

			and I've set him straight. I said, son,
		

			I he's working right now. Okay? And I've
		

			said to him, son,
		

			I want you to find a woman who
		

			you're gonna provide everything for her. You're gonna
		

			you're gonna make her whole future and a
		

			whole, you know, whole life is gonna be
		

			something that you can guarantee for her, but
		

			I want you to find a woman that
		

			looks after the inside of your house. She
		

			cooks, she cleans, she looks after your babies.
		

			Okay? She does that and you look after
		

			her future. So, it's a complete union and
		

			it's been working for centuries. You know what
		

			I've said to my 16 year old daughter?
		

			I'm
		

			saying this to you separately. I said to
		

			my 16 year old daughter. I said, daughter,
		

			she's studying at the moment. Right? She's studying
		

			at the moment and inshallah, she'll get a
		

			she might get a part time job and
		

			so on. Fine. But you know what I
		

			said to you? I said, when you find
		

			a husband, I want you to find a
		

			husband. That husband says, I'll provide everything for
		

			you. You look after his house.
		

			You do everything that he needs. Look after
		

			his needs
		

			and the house's needs and the children's needs,
		

			and let him look after your future and
		

			guarantee your protection and everything. I've said this
		

			eye to eye. Look an eye to eye,
		

			my daughter. You're thinking that I'm just making
		

			this up now. I'm not making this up.
		

			Why have I said this? Because when the
		

			balance breaks, it goes cuckoo shape. Right? Balance
		

			breaks, it's all * lose break. Now