Hasan Ali – This is destroying families IC Reminders
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We're living in a liberal Western democratic world
We've got ideas around us that pitches against
men pitches against women We've got certain situations
in our modern day life, which wasn't there
in the process of life Do not quote
one Sunnah by not quoting the other Sunnah
I'm gonna quickly tell you a story of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Okay, and
then we're gonna go straight into Q&A
What is the story because a lot of
people want to quote about the great character
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yes,
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
His character was Absolutely perfect.
He was so merciful.
He was rahmatullahi alamin.
He had mercy for all of mankind He
was he used to come home.
He used to walk inside.
He used to straightaway smiley face Cheerful face.
Okay.
Salaam first to his wife.
His wives couldn't say salaam to him before
him He comes in he picks his wife
Aisha on the cheek.
This is how are you Aisha?
How's your day?
How you been feeling genuinely?
Okay, then after he knows she's okay.
He goes to his quarters SubhanAllah al-azim
such a wonderful wonderful character and such a
wonderful person Allah sent to this world now
people want to quote that But then they
don't want to quote the other side.
What's the other side did Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam get ever?
Did he ever become angry?
Yes, he did Well, how come you haven't
heard about it?
Well, let me tell you about it very
briefly because nobody wants to talk about it
And what was his anger about his anger
was about his values And this is one
of the strongest men you will ever find
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in a
hadith he says he was stronger than 100
men of this world right mentally.
He was Absolutely strong.
Nobody could break him now this Habib beloved
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
What happened is When you got mad let
me ask a question, right?
If you women were in the time of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was looking to
get married again Which one of you women
if you were not married which one of
you women?
Would want to become the next wife of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam put your
hands up Put your hands up on that's
good.
That's good Right, if I was a woman
if I was a woman and honestly the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam honestly I would
have no hesitation in answer that question because
you're getting married to the best best creation
Allah ever created But guess what?
Let me tell you one thing.
Did you know let me tell you the
other side Did you know that the biggest
Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
in a marriage with his wives?
Biggest thing was there's no expectations.
There's no money.
There's nothing there's no expectations I shall be
Allah and she says I saw from one
full moon to another full moon to another
full moon two months in between This not
even the stove of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam house was lit with fire because
nothing was there to cook It was a
time of poverty.
They were living a time of poverty and
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had what what
did you have?
She was asked what did you eat?
She said dates and water.
That's what we had for two months So
when women want to you know, when they
want that beloved husband or like you better
think about the Sunnah Which is no expectations
that what happens is this seven years into
Medina life the battle of Khyber happens Okay,
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He wins the battle.
He has a lot of land that comes
to his possession With this land.
What does he do?
He first distributes it as falls of war
to the soldiers who fought in the battle
After that, he gives it to poor people
after that He then calls his wife and
for the first time ever He said to
his wife's yet nine wives alive at the
time all of his wives He said all
of you are gonna get a piece of
land for each and every one of you
equal to another One piece of land equal
to another they were so happy.
They were so elated.
They went away They had a discussion that
day and they said you know what the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He's got more more land Why don't we
go and ask him tomorrow to give us
more land Before he distributes it to the
poor people and the masaki and those who
need it So the next day when the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gathered his wives,
they said mercy of Allah We've got something
to ask you.
He said what?
One of them said we want you to
give us more land, please because you've got
more land Just give us more now because
you've got it with you just some additional
land We can all have it equal share
again Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam face changed
I shall be Allah now She said when
he was angry there was a vein in
the middle of his forehead that was swell
It was like pomegranates that you could you
could you would have squeezed into his cheeks
That's how red his cheeks became with a
white complexion of a face that he had
and Rasulullah says, you know what he did
He did not go to his wives that
night Nor the next night nor the next
night nor the next night nor the next
one until what 29 nights He didn't go
to a single wife.
This is how angry the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam was and you know what happened?
By the 30th day the rumors spread the
rumors spread inside the masjid that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has divorced all of
his wives It was a false rumor.
Umar came in.
He said what he said the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam has divorced all his wives
He said where is he and they said
he's in your daughter Hafsa's house His daughter
was married to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam.
He went straight to his daughter's house There
was a staircase there Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam was at the top.
He went there He knocked Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam gave him permission to come inside
when he came inside.
He said messenger of Allah He drew his
sword in messenger of Allah.
I heard you have divorced all your wives
Give me permission to behead my own daughter
Hafsa's head Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam calmed
Umar down.
He calmed him down He told him he
hasn't divorced his wives Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam came down to the masjid He spent
time with the Sahaba.
He quelled the whole situation down from that
night He went back to his wives one
night after another night in his rotation His
wives never asked him again for anything that
ayahs came down This is in the end
of the 21st of the of the Quran.
It says Ya ayyuhan nabi Ya Allah Allah
says Oh Prophet Qulli azwajik Tell your wives
In kuntuna turidna alhayata dunya If your wives
want to have the world more the world
because these were the wives of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Then tell them here.
I'll give you more.
But after that, I'm gonna say goodbye to
you with a divorce with a nice divorce
I'll give you more.
I'll tell you go Wa in kuntuna turidna
allaha And if your wives tell them if
they want Allah and if they want their
next life Then tell them this is how
they should live This is a hadith which
most of us will not be talking about
now You see Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
how he did how he had his anger.
I want to tell this to the men