Hasan Ali – Men Vs Women
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The speaker discusses the tension between men and women in modern Western society, highlighting the responsibility of men in establishing their authority and the historical responsibility of the prophet's chores. They also mention the use of the sunGeneration and the woman in the household's responsibility to provide love and mercy to children. The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking care of the household and not being deserted, highlighting the historical responsibility of the woman in bringing the household's needs from outside, and the men in bringing their needs from 0 to 7. The woman had the responsibility of bringing the household's needs from outside, and the men provided for the women from the time of 0 to 7.AI: Transcript ©
The role of a woman
and the role of a man in the
house, this is massive tension.
Yes or no, guys? Yes or no?
Yes. Now let's get down to it. Let's
do it. Alright? What's happened over time, my
friends, is that we've had 2 different movements.
We've we've had a movement from women
to try and become
equal as men and then superior to men.
And now we've got a movement of men
that wanna become like,
what? We are this and that, these kind
of men and so on. We're gonna establish
our authorities and so on. And what we
found in this liberal, democratic western society is
over the last over the last 100 years,
we've got women and men pitched against
each other.
This is not something Islam gave to us.
Not something Islam gave to us. Now, I'm
gonna take you back to the sunnah of
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam because let's
let's go to let's go to the sunnah.
And, things I'm gonna say to you my
brothers and my sisters, things I'm gonna say
to you, I want you to understand I'm
only giving you
my 30 something
years of of this life, of studying
the rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam, studying the
Quran, and I'm telling you now what the
sunnah told us how to be. Okay? So
we're gonna go right back to the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam's time.
From there, then we're gonna come back to
this time, and then we're going to see
what our modern world brought to us, and
what the differences are. Because honestly speaking, a
lot of people, they want to quote the
sunnah, but they only quote what they like.
They don't quote the other side. Let me
give you an example. Look at the prophet,
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, and especially our sisters
will quote this, and there's a lot of
Islamic speakers as well, they'll say like this,
but they're only taking one part of the
sunnah and not the other part of the
sunnah. What they're saying is correct. Don't get
me wrong. What they're saying is correct, but
they're only taking one part. What did they
say? They quote the hadith,
When the prophet
came home, he used to do some of
the chores of the house. He used to
do some of the light tasks of the
house. This is a hadith we've heard and
yes, prophet
did it. But when did he do it?
He did it when he wanted to.
He did it voluntarily.
He never came home
and his wives were like,
we left the dishes for you.
No.
Not a single hadith. He never came home
and they said, that part of the household
things that needs to be done
it's your duty to do it. No. Never.
Never.
He salallahu alayhi Let's go to the sunnah.
Come on guys. I I want you to
be on the same page as me. Right?
You gotta take the sunnah, you gotta take
it properly. Don't take it half don't quote
quote the thing that just makes you happy.
No. And Rasulullah SAW wasalam said when he
used to do the chores of the house,
he used to do voluntarily.
It's his it's his choice
when he did it,
however he did it. No one ever
expected him to do it. SubhanAllah.
The next thing is this, what did Aisha
radiAllahu anha do? It's an hadith of buhadi.
She was making the dough, sometimes she used
to even fall asleep doing that. You know,
basically she used to go to sleep and
she left the dough and so on. Fatima
radhiallahu anha Hadith, sai hadith. She comes to
the prophet and she says, I want a
servant, messian of Allah. Please give me a
servant. Why? Because my hands are my skin
of my hands are peeling off because of
the rough dough that I have to make.
Their dough was different from the dough that
we have. We have soft we have soft,
you know, powder soft sort of what what
are the wheat wheat wheat that we have,
the powder that the ground, the the ground
went down to, but they had rough they
had rough roughness there. And he used to
peel the skin off sometimes he peeled the
skin, of of their hands. Now, Rasulullah
never gave a a servant. In fact, he
went to the house of Ali and and
Fatima
and he told them to do the famous
Tasbih Fatima. He said, do you want your
chore basically to get the chores of the
house done easily? He said, say 33 times,
Alhamdulillah 33 times, and Allahu Akbar 34 times,
and so on before you go to sleep.
That was the way and he said the
hadith of buhari and so on. Right? So
the thing is, yes, they were chosen. Who
used to do them? Well, it was primarily
it was the women of the time that
they used to do them. What did the
men used to do? The men in the
prophet of Allah's most time, they had the
responsibility of bringing
the whole
of the household needs from outside. They were
the breadwinners. They were the people that made
what was No. They they bought they bought
all the money that is needed for this
household to run. And not only that, the
men
provided for their women, they protected their women,
and they made a life such a life
that the woman has no worries for the
future. That's that's what it was about. Rasulullah
did the same thing. His sahaba did the
same thing. That the women of that time
knew that we are gonna be looked after.
We're just not gonna be deserted, and we'll
be we're gonna look after whatever the household
thing is needs to be looked after. They
looked after When it came to children and
so on, yes, tarrbiyya was done, and nursing
the children was done by both of them.
Yes. But there was a different balance at
different times. So the woman, by nature, you
will give more love and mercy and compassion
to the child and looking at the child
when they're from 0 to 7. Then there'll
be a time when you're giving, like, equal
time more or less, right, from 7 to
14. I'm not saying the men don't do
anything at 0 to 7. No. But I'm
saying there'll be more from the women at
0 to 7, but there'll be more from
the men from 14 onwards. That's what the
kind of balance was from one of the
statements of Ali
My my friends, what I'm trying to say
to you is that it was a whole
era of what? Allah said in the holy
Quran,
Allah said in the holy Quran, Allah said
that you men, I have made you men
that are responsible for women. Why? Because you
have to provide from your wealth. Do you
realize my my sisters,
you by default,
the money comes from your husband. He has
to provide for your shelter. He provides for
your clothing. He provides for your food. He
provides for your necessities. He provides for your
he builds your future. He makes you what
Allah has in the hallowquran, what is your
status in Islam? Allah said, look at the
5th Jews of the Quran, Allah said,
Those women that have entered fortresses.
Women
entered fortresses. What does that mean? Women who've
accepted marriage, Allah said, You've entered a fortress.
He gave you the he gave you the
name mussanat. It means it comes from hissen
which is a fortress. You've entered a fortress.
What does that mean? You're protected. You're looked
after. You're you're you have got a a
fortress around you where you have got, you
know, where you feel that you're at ease,
where you're where you're where where you got
a structure that is solid around you and
the man has to provide that protection
and a solid future for you. That's where
your that's where your status comes from. As
for the man,
what did he what did he did the
what did he do? And so what what
does he want? And what did Allah say
about him? Allah gave him the responsibility to
provide that. And look, this ayah, surah number
4, ayah number 34 says, the women,
they
are gonna take the monies from the men,
and the men are gonna provide and look
after, not just money, financial needs, you know,
emotional needs, and looking after you, making you
feel secured.
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