Hasan Ali – Honeymoon Period

Everyone who gets married, they have a period

called the honeymoon period.

Right? Honeymoon period, if you don't know what

it is, it brings a lot of smiles

to your face.

Okay? It's the best period that you've got

of

Everything's so wonderful. You look at her, you

just see smiles, and, you know, and she

looks at you and it's all about, oh,

this can just get better and better. Right?

Now there comes a day when the honeymoon

period got come you know, it it's over.

I'm gonna ask you guys. Right? If your

honeymoon if you're married and your honeymoon period

lasted

for 6 months, like, 100 like, basically everything's

hunky dory, everything's really happy. If you last

for 6 months, I'm gonna put your hands

up. Hands up.

My god, you guys are so depressed over

here, man.

I don't see 1 single hand up. What's

wrong?

For anyone if it lasted for a month

or more put your hands up.

Yalla, how will I'm only getting 2 3

hands? Yeah. What do you guys do man?

I'm not saying honeymoon as in, like, you

go on holiday for a month. I know

you guys haven't left England yet. I'm not

talking about that. I'm like you're talking about

your good days when you're like, you know,

all very nice and happy. My god. I

only see 2 hands, man. You guys what?

You're starting to fight from the 1st day

or something? Now let me ask, seriously, come

on. You know those happy days in the

beginning of marriage? If you have had those

happy days, hands up. Come on.

Marshall, that's good. Now you're being honest. Now

you're being honest. Right? Good. Anyone's honeymoon period

lasted for a year or more? Put your

hands up.

Good. Good. Good. That's good. That's good. Okay.

Now now look. It can last for a

long time. Now

1 day, what you're gonna do is 1

day you're gonna wake up and you are

gonna have some kind of argument or some

kind of disagreement with your spouse. It's natural.

It's gonna happen. I'm gonna ask a question

right now. Anyone who's basically been married for

more than 1 year and never had a

single argument with their wife or their husband?

Put your hands up right now.

No 1.

No 1. Okay? Actually actually can you see

that? Right? Because you see that there's gonna

be some kind of some kind of Then

I actually asked this question in the other

talks that I did, and 1 guy put

his hand up.

Right? 1 1 guy put And I said,

this was just yesterday or something, and it

looked like an elderly figure and I said,

I said, brother, how long have you been

married? He goes, 20 years.

I go, I go, you've never had a

had a argument ever? He goes,

a little bit little bit.

You can't put your hand up. Right? You've

had some kind of argument. Right? Come on.

You can't claim that. Anyway, there's another person

who put their hand up. It's a woman

from the background. She put their hand up

and said, sister, do you speak the same

language as your husband?

Do you live in the same country? Like,

or is it through Zoom? Basically, you know,

you get these situations where it can happen

for a year, it can happen for less

or more but, alhamdulillah, Allahu Baniyalah bless all

of you. May Allah give you long periods

of happiness. Say I'm in.

Right? But it's not gonna always last. Now,

what happens is This is the truth. It's

truth because most of you never put your

hands up, right? It's not gonna last. I'm

gonna let me give you a story

and this story is gonna tell you how

to keep your marriage

lasting

nice for a long period of time.

Okay? Without any arguments. Imam Ahmed Nuhamal Rahimullah,

he was married for for

for 40 years. He was about 60 years

old when his wife passed away.

He cried,

and his disciple said: Imam,

why are you crying? He said: I've had

a marriage with my wife,

a marriage with my wife for 40 years,

and we never had a single argument.

A single argument. They said, how? He said,

when we got married, I took it on

myself, and I said to my wife

that if you're if you're ever,

you know, mad at me, or you're, you

know, you're kind of angry at me, and

you're saying things I don't like, I'm gonna

take you on me to stay quiet until

you've calmed down, and then we'll speak.

And if if I ever get mad at

you, and if I say things to you

that you don't like, you're gonna take it

on yourself to stay quiet, and zip yourself

up

until

I calm down, and then we talk nicely.

This is the recipe

to make sure that you have a nice

marriage.

Insha'Allah, say Insha'Allah.