Channel: Hasan Ali
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi
our older Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah hir rahman Iran
Fi sort of lousy idea reset your brother's Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Laws and make this a moment that we listen with, with our heart, and we try to make a change in our lives, I'm going to get to the point, okay? Our lives have been mapped out, and our lives, the certain things that we can't change. And there's something that allows, Dell has given us a free will. So there's certain things that we can change, we can change it, we're changing as we're moving along. And there are certain things that allows or Dell has fixed is no changing whatsoever. So for example, in terms of our life, that's the actual extent of our life, how many years we're going to live here and how long we are here.
Allah azza wa jal has given us a fixed fixed date of dub Nabina Muhammad, Allah said, I have fixed that time of you dying. Now that fix time, I can't do anything about it. But Allah has said in another part of the Quran, he has said, when we get to the other side, when we get to piano on Dave, gentlemen, when we if we say to Allah, Allah, you know,
please let me go back, please let me make a change. Allah will then say our lamp No, I'm middle Kuma, yetta vacarro mantova. Kira, Allah will say, Did I not give you enough of a life where a person can take heed from that life? And listen to what Allah says, Allah doesn't say that, look, I fixed your death and you died a young death. But Allah does say that did not give you enough of a life within which you can take heed? And the answer of course will be Yes, Allah, then Allah will not hear any other argument. So the fact that I have got a death that is fixed, that is the color of Allah, I can play around with them. But the fact that Allah azza wa jal has given me opportunity to
take a lesson from my life. And it's long enough for me to make a change, that is something within every single person that is listening to this. And the other thing is, if we are good, a lot does increase the life.
And this is in the 22nd juice on my Yamato me Mama, costume enormous Lee lakita. Removing Allah has also written that certain people will have an extension of a life because they have been good. And Allah has written that because certain people have been bad.
Allah will take their life away slightly. And that is also in the book. But eventually, when do you actually die, that is also with Allah azza wa jal, he knows how much he will go up and down, and he knows exactly the time that will come that we will die. Now the thing my brothers is that my sisters, that are going to listen to this is that each and every one of us has got parents or we haven't got parents right now. And that has been fixed by Allah, how long their lives are going to be. Each and every one of us being in this country is another fixed matter that we were going to be in this country, we are going to be born here and we are going to have the normals of a lot of our
lives given. And each and every one of us has got different types of parents, my brothers, my sisters, I will just say this to you that you know, your parents, your parents, their macro of Allah giving you those parents, some have got soft mothers, most probably have got soft mothers, but some probably have got, you know, hard mothers. I mean, if I was giving you that, then hamdulillah is giving you that some have got, you know, hard fathers most probably have got hard fathers and some probably I've got some fathers and if that's the case, then hamdulillah some I've got two parents that are soft. So I've got two parents that are soft, and some have got two parents that are tough.
And then within the parents, you've got certain parents who are able to adapt to a complete new way of life. And some parents who are not because they've gone beyond that, that age. Now what I'm trying to say to you here, brothers is that, you know, some of our parents, like some of our parents, I know we're talking to the third generation. Now, some of our parents, they were not born here, they were born in a different country, where they were born, they learn the culture, they learn the habits and the norms of that country of that country. And because they had certain values in their hearts, they work towards
Those values the values of a Bangladeshi, for example is you go abroad, you become rich, you bring back money, you buy loads of land, you bring it, you you you buy a big, big, big fast dollar building. And you are that dawn my friend. When you walk into the village everyone reads respect you, brother. You know I'm saying like, yeah, that's the dream. So basically the dream was you know, they were peasants and they were farmers and they came down to this country and that dream was you know, I'm gonna go back here I'm gonna buy so much land here people whose will people won't call me by my name and they're gonna call me lazy sob You know, I'm saying they're gonna call me hace sobre
la I'm respected Yeah, I don't care how many people have done hajia but I'm gonna be the you know everyone's gonna call me has is that what I get? The Yeah, and obviously they give you monies to different poor people. So when everyone respects them, when they get a lot of land and then the by the you know, that make their house whatever and then they make it a
what they call a Dolan, which is in a brick house is like, wow, that guy's got a brick house. My rolling mud houses got a brick house, you know. And now that when they make, you know, a big house on the guy's got a bigger house, don't mess with him. And after that, when the guy has got a wall around his whole, you know, his whole home is like, Man, that man, he deserve respect. You know, we go to him, we have to go and we have to knock on his gate. You know, come to my house is like you just walk in without even asking anyone. That's how it is back in Bangladesh here. Right underneath the man's got some serious money. He buys a second home in the in the town of sillett. Isn't that
right? Brothers? Yeah. Come on, guys. Yeah. Is that right? Yeah, he buys another plot of land and other houses. See that? He's like, now he's got two things. He wants to go to the village. He goes the village and he wants to be in the town and he wants to get his respect in town. He gets his respect in the town. Yeah, that's it. The guy's got to the end of Suvarna law and mission in his life. Yeah. Now my brothers, I want to I want you to understand that these parents who came back from those from those countries, they did not ever think that we were going to become a product that wanted to live here. They're like, What are you talking about in Bangladesh, you got son, and you
want to live in the cold that he got this country? Yeah, dad, Bangladesh, listen, we go, we go, you know, we only go to the houses for you. I go the land for you. You don't want to call with that. Know that. You want to live in this little flag that you go with two bedroom flats on the seventh storey and you want to sit down and just watch TV all day? Yeah, dad. And I think Whoa, you know, what's wrong with this kid? Anyway, I won't say to you, the second generation, some of them, they came early here. And some of them they were born here. And what happened is that they have to have got different lives, see their lives is that some of them, you know, going through the 70s and 80s.
They went through what they call, I'm gonna say this Okay, I'm gonna say this, but I'm it's a term that phrases What happened to them? They had to face what was called the Paki bashing. Right? So Paki bashing was that, you know, they went to school, and then they got they got beaten up because the skin color. I'm saying, you know, like, you know, like, you're not as, as white as some others. You get beaten up because of that. Yeah. So they went through that. And not only that, but they strived you know, some of them, Mashallah. And maybe some of them are your parents, they thought differently. They thought, you know, what, I can't make it to Bangladesh, I don't want to stay in
Bangladesh is not my culture. It's not my life. And you know, some of you who are Pakistanis here, you might, you might, you know, just place the same thing to Pakistani culture. And some of you who are from any other culture, you can almost see the same thing has happened. So they said they want to be here. So they went in a different route, okay, because they were educated here, they might not have got the full education, but they got part of the education. And the education in the 70s, in the 80s, was very much different from the education of the 90s. And the zeros, okay, is very, very different. In fact, in those who grew up in the 70s, and 80s, they were just introduced to TV, they
were introduced to TV, you know, when TV first came out, there's only one channel. And then it happened that two channels and three channels, and that was like, wow, you got a choice, man, you got three channels. Wow. Today, you say that to a kid, he's gonna laugh at you. He's gonna say what, you got 400 channels. And if I want to get sky Plus, I can get 800 channels. And if I want to add another satellite, I can get even more than that. And there was a time when your parents they used to live with just 123 channels that say, and I remember when the Channel Four came out of the big thing got four channels, man, you know, it's like, Whoa, you got a big choice. Yeah. And then you
have five channels on. But those days, it was like the VCR and so on. So loads of shops, they had the video shops and so on. So if they wanted to watch a film, they had to go to the VCR shop, get it rented film, come watch it and give it back and so on. Totally different lines. There's no internet in those days. There was no smartphones. In those days. There was not even mobile phones that those days. So people just about had telephones, they just about had telephones, that were the landline telephones and needs to communicate with each other through landline telephones. Then comes the third generation This is the generation that many of you I'm talking to you, you're the third
generation. Now you can't you grow up you
We're up like, forget, like going through Paki bashing wherever you grew up. And when you grew up, you were born here, you you grew up here you had everything from the beginning, right from the scratch, you had everything from from, from the schools from from England from this, this part of the world. And you are completely different. Because when you grow up is different from your parents, the second generation, they thought, you know what I want to make, I want to make my life by getting into business. And I want to get into like, I want to try and you know, buy some properties over here. That's where they will, that's where their minds went to. So I want to try and
invest in some business that I can actually see accumulating, and it's going to be good for my family, but they want you to settle here, the first generation, they did not want to settle here, they wanted to go back the third generation. They want to settle here fine, but there's a massive difference between the second and the first one and the third one, what am I talking about? Well, the difference is see the first generation because they were born back home in Bangladesh or Pakistan or wherever they were drilled with, with religious education, their foundation was that listen, Allah comes first and so on, whether they were religious or not religious, they understood
that these are things that you don't mess around me. And therefore we have grandparents right now. I'm talking about that first generation, a lot of them are into their params into the tilava into their species into like making something of the Acura the second generation they got it hard from the first generation because you know, whoever you know, the third generation they would have told me that you know what, you got to go five times a day to the mustard you gotta learn you gotta do this and that's it and what better you don't you don't answer you don't ask me a question.
I was it. You the second generation asked the question. They saw a hand that came 100 miles per hour towards the face and bash and I mean, you did ask another question like that you are going to be six foot down is the Okay, man and ask you no questions. That's what that was. That was it. You know, when the shaytan King again was was a second generation lifted their head up, Dad slept came back, is that shaytan gone? Man, brother shaytan gone and got normal, what's inside me. Some of the brothers they had all day, you know, who they are now, our mothers and fathers. Some of them did have certain folks but you know what, they just didn't have that whole environment to have this to
sort of grow all of these verses and so on. Third generation is different. This generation is asking every question you can ask.
Second generation when they got beaten up by their parents here, those days in the 80s you didn't have all of these child helpline and this helpline dial but you got battered in a mosquito bite at home and that was it. You thought, you know, I'm gonna straighten my life up, man. I got this. I got beaten up. I gotta get beaten up. You know, there's only one way man, the only one way third generation like, you know, they go to school here to go to school. And when they miss school, they say to the teacher they go, yeah, yeah. Well, we said, we said
what we say and they make the make the you know, the peers love. And the might throw things in the closet. There's all sorts of stories are coming out of the schools right now because the teachers have been told you cannot do anything.
They ain't got no rights. I mean, I remember when I was in school, I called myself second generation when I was in school. Yeah, the headmistress had they had a strap, a leather strap. So if you actually, you know, misbehave, she'd call in the headmaster's office and she actually took the strap my arm whack straight on your hand
and I'm talking about experienced Brava.
And I'm talking about Yeah, I wasn't the best kid when I was younger. But one point is he is that you went in and Mr. Amish and she's she hit you with a leather strap. And that was official. Forget this Ofsted busted my friend there's no child held by nothing. You took the whack on your hand you put your head down you took it you went red in the face you walk back out Yeah. Forget that got beaten up there got beat in the Moscow beat up a whole Mashallah trick triple hack trick brother. You know, I'm saying this new generation that go to school, they got cocky. They got to come home. I didn't know what they got cooking with their parents. They start asking stuff the parents and the
parents when the parents are like, forget this. These days, kids at the age of eight and nine are eyeing themselves up to the parents. A to nine they tried to show that you know what, no, no. Huh, huh. You know, flowing humps at the age of nine. diva monlam duper is you
know, that means we have a we have we have this. We have this statement in Bangla. Yeah, it's like if you were to squeezing, you know, his mom's milk that he got breastfed with when he first was born. Yeah, it'll come out. And you just squeezy when that milk will come out. And it's
Trying to be cocky and is trying to show them attitude forget that. They go to the mosque and they show attitude, sometimes. And they go to school, they show an attitude. And it's like the whole system that we're living in, has catered for them in such a way that you know what, if they pick up the phone, that you're in trouble, second generation is in trouble. You got to be careful to how you reprimand them, you got to be careful about how you around them and so on. I understand these laws are there but you know what, there's a whole new life that we've got to face your brothers and sisters whole new life. And you the third generation, if you listen to this, right, if you listen to
this, you ain't got an easy, you ain't got an easy, you got a tough because, you know, when I was young, when you did something wrong, it was a slap and it was a hit and you you went straight, you did not you know, you have to have a lot of respect for your elders. These days, youngsters are growing and they've got no respect, they got marriage or you've got a heart. You know why? Because the system is such, that is much easier for you to end up in Hellfire than the second generation or the first generation. And that's what we want to talk about. Because the whole system has changed my friend, the whole system has changed. These days, the kids, they're asking for smartphones,
smartphones, when they're seven, eight years old, asking for smartphones.
And it's that it's a dangerous tool to give to a kid or a smartphone. Because the thing is, the human to human relationship can never be placed with a human and robot relationship. Let me give you let me give an example. Yeah, you know, I'm talking to you right now. This is human to human form to you right now.
If you see me on YouTube, and I'm not saying don't see me on YouTube, if you got if you've got a real live lecture going on, go to the live lecture. Don't Don't listen to anyone on YouTube. If you've got no live lectures going on, then fine. You come to YouTube and you listen to someone that's fine. Right? So I want to say to you that there's a massive difference in me meeting you today and seeing you face to face and you see me through a screen. Do you agree Yes or no? You will agree. You know why? Because it's human to human. If I'm if I was to say to you something right now, I for example, yeah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna give you I'm gonna just demonstrate this for you. I never
thought of this before. I'm just gonna say to you, brother, how are you?
How are you? Good here. Mashallah, what's your name? Ba, ba?
Ba ba? I see. You know, when I'm talking to him, yeah, I have to look and look at his face, I have to look at his eyes. And he's saying, Well, now I'm gonna, if I was to talk to him, I know your brother. You're in front of another 200 people here right now. Yeah, I mean to embarrass you, yet. We've also talked to him, then it has to be a mutual conversation where he has to be able to talk to me straightaway, I talk to him straightaway, I have to take a lot of things in consideration. I have to take his temperament. You know, if he was to like, it was to talk to me. And if he was to like, like, keep on doing this and looking at his wrist, his watch? What does that tell me?
What does that tell me?
he's not non non detained. If he doesn't look at his watch and his tone, they can look at what you took towards us. But tell me
it's got a go.
It's got a go. It's the barber is like sort of talking to me. I'm the brothers not wanting to tell me much stuff. And I'm thinking about it doesn't want to talk too much. But if he's carrying on talking to me, then I can talk to me. Depending on the way we talk to each other. We go in a certain direction. That is all fine brother. Yeah. But it's got to be face to face. Now. It's totally different from me texting him if I was to check there. And if I said if I if I text him, I said, How are you?
And he said, I'm fine. As is different from me saying how are you? And he just said to me and find no way? Because it could be like this? It could be? How are you?
who reads that tone? nobody reads that tone is the other end. And he reads that tone. He He's got nothing from this machine coming as a tone. It could be How are you? And it could be? How are you?
And you know, I'm fine. I'm fine. Could be I'm fine. And it could be I'm fine.
I'm fine. There's all these tones that you can read. And that's why people end up arguing because of not understanding each other's text messages and understanding each other's email because it's a robot. You've inputted data into an Android a machine, a machine has sent it to another machine. And that machine, the human reads, that's his phone, His phone is a machine. So I'm talking through a machine to another machine and to that person and that's how we are conversing with one another. Now brother is different from talking human to human. And I'm being straight with you and now me that these kids that are growing up, they've got huge challenges in front of them because you cannot
discipline a human through
an Android device through a robotic device, you can't discipline them. They don't you know, I'll give you I'll give you a typical scenario.
You have memory your memory is you know madman in memory and his guests yet they come to your house in a typical moldy house when the guests come to the house is like you as the host, you have to do everything to make the life like five star.
Okay, these are bommali to bommali Okay, so banglalink gulag Li You went to Cambodia house here. Oh, hi, Sonia, Tasha. kukula categorical so for our COVID takaaki here remote control
is I take the remote control or cha Jordan a PlayStation PlayStation colyton the PlayStation This is the implication here there's a place over there if you don't feel like home
comfortable room and go and play I say that to the kids you do I like the adults come in. Yeah. And in our culture I'll be honest with you I there's so much what they call a color. The color is you go Ott and trying to be good to them is odd and everything. So they come along they bring you stuff Yeah, that that that the hands can carry and your stomach can eat but I have to bring it because like Sharon Lago like you know you're gonna feel embarrassed so they bring you for your return lesson and lesson antennas you should not go Oh, this is not gold. And if they turned up at your door without getting it you wouldn't have been saying that wrong.
They didn't bring this day I wonder why.
So they bring all that stuff and they put it over to your table Yeah, and they you know it's all you're all happy with it and then you have told your wife to cook right go Ott with cooking wants to fish curries one meat curry one chicken curry one buzzy one fried fish year one doll and on top of that you're gonna make the salad and and there's gonna be some dessert as well. And after serving all of that there the guests are going to say yellow otter and Nikita Maggie Oh no. Why did you cook that much for and I you're gonna say that Gina Gina kitchen a kitchen is nothing nothing I couldn't do much for you. And I really the guy is trying to think was the eighth one
was the ninth or the ninth one coming over and if you had cooked two or three or if you had to put one or two the guy would have been at Singh Kham to two cars, two cars two cars my car didn't respect me show man I
didn't respect my two cars that's what's going on he said I was gonna blow your head is oh my god I couldn't do that much it is all it is all on the face of it. And then what happens after that is where the food is a big thing year after that they come sit down now what happens the only is going to the only room
Buddha and go with
the data in and the you know, the older type, you know, they're in their own little room. And then you know, there's just relaxed sitting down on the sofa they're having their conversation. Then the middle aged people are in their own room normally sitting room even sit in room. The one that you had the back What about with the little table kitchen table or they're sitting there and all the kids the ones that we should have been training them islamically they are all upstairs or they're on the ps4 or something ps3 they're watching TV, whatever. And it's like hey, look at me look I let them play now the thing is what happens is in all these functions and social gatherings there's no
human to human to teach manners. That's where it's all going wrong. See the first generation when they were in Bangladesh they never had none of this they had to go to the meetings that to go to someone's house that to sit there no TVs in their days no radios no nothing that to go there that to sit like good men children right? That is sit there that to that to set a table stay quiet. They were bored out their heads half the time. But you know what boredom is? boredom is a good thing. Can anyone tell me why boredom is a good thing for kids and don't turn up hands up
any anyone elder Put your hand up Tell me why boredom is a good thing anyone? Corolla you go on.
Thank you. That was very good. Mashallah. The one they will learn how to not to disturb people when they're bored. That's really good. And one less time another thing good thing why is good for children to be bored? No, tell me.
I tell you one thing. If children are bored, and they're sitting there, they're bored and have nothing to do. I'm talking about proper board sitting there. No smartphone, no iPad, no tablet, no TV, no console game to sit in there with the adults and they're a bit bored. You know what it does? First, it teaches them sub. Discipline patience, yes or no guys? It is impatience. Second is it teaches them that they need to respect the adults. does it teach that or not?
Without having to disturb them, it's good. Third is when they're sitting there, they're bored out their heads. They listen to the adults, adults talking. Is it true or not true that once they listen to the adults, they're going to start picking things up yes or no. They're going to pick manners up, they're going to pick etiquettes up, they're going to be conversation tactics up, they're going to they're going to pick up how the adults converse with one another. And then all is going inside while they're bored out their heads. They don't want to listen to what you said. But you know what they listen to you.
Have you ever seen kids in you know in a full blown room your kids are playing the game they're you're in the same room and the adults are talking as well kids are talking as well suddenly the adults go quiet. Have you noticed the kids go dead quiet
they're playing but the dead quiet they listen to every single word that's being said. And they don't miss out on the drama suddenly. The thing is you want to teach them good manners we have to have them in front of us. I want to tell you brothers whether whatever culture you're in this new generation they've been spoiled to the to the limits. So what's happening is that many of them don't even come to our gathering they don't even come to us and second thing is we keep on giving them things to take them out of boredom
we give them the smartphone all the kids would be able to take my phone can play on my phone is a big boat Okay, here's my iPad give it to them when a car journey in the car journey you want to give kids something to play in the back Why get them bought at the head sitting there you know when I was younger we used to go in the car journey we used to count all the the bridges that used to go past rubber leases are looking at lorries you know
that's not what the thing is. It teaches you some of that summer. And you know when you need this, you need it when you get married Brava
you know if a kid grows up Never been bored, never been bored yet. He grows up Never been bored. She grows up, never be bored. And they get together here first few days. They can't be bored. You know, I'm saying
they can't be bored. You know, I'm saying every time they get together, it's Bollywood again.
But after a little while, after a while? Yeah. Then the boredom kicks in. Is that what we're gonna do?
So I don't know. Let's look for something. Okay, fine. They'll be alright for a little while. But you know what, when real life kicks in, they need to know subhabrata summer is one that wife hasn't cooked today. Or the wife has cooked but she's cooked less today. Or the wife cooked but she forgot to put the salt or something in properly today. Right? If this kid doesn't know subber this kid's gonna end up divorcing his wife over small issues. And it's happening. Small issues they're gonna fall out if she doesn't get her high heeled shoes. If she doesn't get them on the Boxing Day Sale. You know, I'm saying Labradors. Now Boxing Day comes Yeah, it's like you have to have your credit
card topped up Brava Yeah, you know she's gonna come for it. If she doesn't get it imagine imagine Boxing Day is coming here. Boxing Day Sale is coming. The thing is, you know when the Boxing Day Sale come in, the man is like, Okay, he's just about having a nice rest in a holiday season. Yeah, he's having a nice rest. She comes along she says
she was at
I want to go to the shop. Yeah, she was like
Etosha for nine, but also who like I want to go to the big shop, shopping center Layton center
then I want to go buy some bread today Brava
some serious stuff, you know, I'm saying like, now the thing is, if the guy hasn't got the money,
and he can't give it to her, and he says, forget it. She can say here la Aminu booking DC booking I get a book myself
Whoa, Chanel Lisa. Roof Elisa.
Tasha holiday they're gonna go for a walk in the morning and they're all gathering together I'm supposed to meet them as well. I'm gonna lie.
Is that who told international your friend and refer your friend My man friend
as well it goes wrong. And if the husband is a gimme and server hasn't been taught there that sembrava is gonna be bust up. If you're living in a two bedroom flat and you're and you know one of you wants to just get bigger and bigger and bigger and you haven't learned when to stop saying you know enough is enough. There's big problems in the marriage. And where does it all start from start from? It starts from a young age when a kid says to his dad I want a smartphone right now or out of phone or I want to have let's just forget forget phone. Yeah. What most kids start off with they'll say that I want to have that console forget that ps4 is coming up. ps4 is coming up. ps4 is coming
up. Wednesday coming up. It's coming out December kind of December. Okay, so someone will I get ps4 like a ps4 duck. Please do. I love you. I love you Love data. You love your ps4? I started
I didn't ask you to do that yet. There are computers for ps4. So basically they're doing you know, the 33 the warming the data. So okay, okay, okay, I'll see I'll see ya. So when the actual date comes the kid wants the ps4 so he gets a ps4. Yeah, that goes on give them ps4 now the next you telling me that he's just gonna get ps4 with two games is gonna happy. No, he's not. He's gonna his dad that I want. I want that game. That game. Black Ops, Black Ops, game black. Oh, my friend. So is there a game called Black Ops? Yeah.
I won that game. I won that game. So he gets it for him. Now he's not going to stop there. I want the other game on the other game on the other game on the other game and some of my friends have got found the Godfather I'm pleased with and if you can't go to his dad, he's gonna go to his mom. He's gonna start you know, pulling his mom. Sorry. You know, Mom, please, Mommy, please tell that tell. Tell her she goes and tells that I'm the dad shoutout. Oh, she comes back. Hey.
That's a no. Okay, now he knows he's gonna wait for one more week before you come to him again. This is gonna kind of take him on that on the Mongols back to the day. Your dad said you can't have it. Okay, he knows he's gonna wait for one more. two more weeks here. He's gonna carry on. He knows the system. He goes unanswered. His mom. His mom is fed up. She nags at the dad. The dad gets fed up and says Nikki
just get up. Come back. Now listen, man, you can do this when you're young. Yeah, if you don't teach your kid when to stop moaning and when to stop nagging in the in the house. Then when he gets to she gets to a married life. It's game over. Can you imagine a 22 year old 25 year old together and it's like, I want this I want now got it. I've got to get that dress. I've got to get that dress now.
Okay, take the dress. You know it doesn't stop that. I want that dress is nice. But I want the shoes that matches on the shoes that match the shoe that matches okay.
But then I want the handbag that matches the shoes of the
shoe The Great.
Thank you. I love you.
Now I want the second one.
The second dress is to your luck. Second dress second shoes, second back. Third dress to just head back. Right? And then it doesn't stop. And that's the woman forget what the man the man wants to go and he wants to go and do what he wants. You know, as does Yvonne. Hi lamb fasciata Howdy, hi Rhonda tinta All my life I had five careers. My mom used to go five cars and she cooks three. Yeah. How does she cook three? Or she cooks two? I can't take this anymore. Come on. When Where did this come from? The monster came from a young age. And if he's not stamped out at a young age and subber hasn't been taught at a young age, then it's game over when the gold I know what in between that the
same things happen in school as well. They think they can do what they want this new generation, they want to do what they want. Now my point is brothers is that if we want to reverse the clock, we have to see is to take everything on the table thing. What is going on? What is going on is shaytan hasn't changed in any of this shaytan never changed for first generation shaytan never changed to second generation and shaytan never changed for third generation. The first generation if you wanted to make them go astray. He had loads of his ways what happened is I don't know TV to take them astray. He's got no radio, no stumps, smartphones are nothing okay. But with the first generation,
what happened is he came and he started to whisper in them different whispers his whispers were something on a different level. Right? On a second generation, it changed with that with the amount of things that are going around, he changed his tactics. With a third generation he changed his tactics. But the Quran has also given us ways of fighting all of this. The Quran has given us ways to fighting all of this. Now I'm going to say a few steps for you to take on board in Sharla. Today, from now I'm gonna give you few steps and how to fight all of this. The first and foremost thing my friend if you want to fight the shaytan. And if you wanna fight his rage, and you want to make
yourself the better person is first and foremost thing is please, I don't care what part of your life you're on yet. You need to go into some solitude place, switch off everything. You've probably stressed out. I don't know, if you're stressed out because of a husband who's stressed out with a wife. you're stressed out because of college or university, you're stressed out because the parents and home you're stressed out because of your house and you know there's all fighting and said I don't care what's going on in your life. The first thing is you switch off for a little moment. Switch off means to stop everything. Stop all your thoughts in your head. Just stop everything for a
And if you can please just go away for a few days. If you really can, if you're adult enough to go away for a few days. You just go away to a different place for a few days and just get away from everything. If you want to fight the shape.
Because I don't know, maybe some of you are in gangs, maybe some of you are, you know, in a life that you want to get out of maybe some of you and sinful thing, maybe some of you might be hooked on to, you know, some certain things on the internet, you're not supposed to be watching. Maybe some of you are taking stuff in your bodies, you're not supposed to be taking whatever the case is, what I want to say to you is, first thing is you just switch off, switch off mains, switch off all forms of technology from yourself.
Forget your sanity, but get your human self back. Robots around you. And I'm being serious here the amount of technology that is flashing in our eyes, and we'll communicate in your smartphone, everything has just switched it off. Get back to your human self. A human can only say the human, a robot will not save a human, a phone will not start telling you you know your Siri on your Apple is not going to say to you, I'd like to give you some advice
was advised when you give me I'd like you to start doing some Vicar, sir.
What is the kid? Say? Subhanallah? Sir, are you serious? Yes. Why is that? Because we're all going to go to the academics are we talking about academic, I'm not gonna go after your iPhone. No robot is going to be ever trained to think like a human being with the beliefs of the architect. So first, switch it all off.
Second thing is you know, whatever is going on around you whether it's stress, whether it's arguments, whether it's your own self, just pull away from all of it. pull away from those friends for a small moment.
And then reflect. When you switch it all off, reflect on you reflect what you reflect on is what is happening to me. Just think to sit down and think you are good enough to find your own solutions within yourself. And the first and foremost huge thing you need to think of is
if I see my parents as the source of my problem, if I see my brothers or sisters solsmart problem if I see my friend so smartphone, if I see my enemy source of my problem, if I see that I am the source of mind problem, because sometimes your biggest enemies brothers, the biggest enemy is this self
is bigger than your biggest enemies you've got the biggest enemy is yourself and the human needs to realize that. What am I talking about? How can you be your biggest own enemy
when the eagle inside has not been trained, and the ego becomes a monster inside, and it becomes something uncontrollable, that you keep on doing what something inside you wants you to do, it keeps on making you do it. And it's so easy for the shaytan to come and make you go straight because your own enemy within you is taking us straight. And let me explain that to you. Because some of you look to be confused. Let me explain that to you. When a person is addicted to something, he is addicted because of his own self, his own ego, his ego makes him addicted to that thing. And once that is turned towards lust and desire and addiction, then the person becomes the slave a slave of the
master which is the ego within himself. He can't or she can't control it.
So first is switch everything off, then reflect. Then when you reflect start thinking all these people, parents, siblings, family, relatives, enemies, friends, well outside their colleagues, Muslims, non Muslims, whatever you're in technology, put that all aside and then think
who is the strongest? out of all of them?
Who's the strongest one? Who's going to save now my friends gonna save me? Because what happens when my friends go in trouble? Unless you save reflect to think for a moment? Let me just ask you these questions here. If I think my friends can help me in my situation, and they can help me in emancipate me and let me lose from my troubles. When my friends get in trouble. Who do they turn to? What's the answer to them?
Who do our friends turn it on? What's your answer to that? They tend to their friends from the right and who their friends tend to when they're in trouble con.
Parents there's others and who their parents don't do and then trouble.
their own friends your parents have got friends you know who they turn to when they're in trouble.
And who do they turn to when the troubles
eventually gets to what?
Allah azza wa jal there comes a moment in everyone's life that you see no one that can help you except Allah. When my brother is in trouble he can go to his friends or my brother is in trouble. He
can come to his own brothers and sisters. When his brothers and sisters are in trouble they can go to brothers and sisters. But when no brothers and sisters can help, who do you turn to? A law? When parents can't help you? Who do they tend to? Allah? When every one of these human beings if they're in trouble, they're going to turn around and let me give you CINAHL you might think well, you know, not everybody does that, you know, the certain moments. I don't care how bad the person is. They see nothing but a lot. I'll give you I'll give you a an example. Yeah, it's happened to me quite a few times. You're on a plane. Have you guys been on a plane? Yeah. You've been on playing Yes.
Good. When in the plane Yeah. And you're going through bad weather
and suddenly the plane starts to shake.
And you got bad conditions on the seatbelt sign comes up. And they and the you know, the pilot says Can everyone get into their seats please? Yep. When that happens Yep. Okay, that's nothing people take me out to a trial or a
bit of a shake and so I came to my seat Come on, get my seatbelt on here. But you know suddenly what happens is sometimes the plane Yeah, it drops
in air it drops out when he drops what happens to your inside
it goes up you know your intestines and everything goes up
you know what you hear that moment from all these people who don't practice Islam Allah
all the people whether they're wearing the covering their heads or not covering their heads whether the praying not praying, whether it's the meaning of God the center, Chiquita, Viva La Cienega very
serious and I've been on with non Muslims pray with non Muslims.
And the same thing the god god Oh, God.
The plane drops either in in you know, your anomaly. 1000 feet up in the air. You got bad weather and something happens that everyone seems to know Allah.
Sitting on the sitting thing. Yeah, yeah, guys, I wish I wish that was the case when you get back on the ground.
See, when people get back on the ground, is like when they get on the ground. You have some problem comes as a rebel rebel. I sought out for the sort of, like, I will come to my rescue. Yeah. Yeah. You don't know Allah straightaway. I mean, when you're under 35,000 feet or whatever, you're, you're in that plane. Yeah. And he's dropping like that. You don't you don't say Hey, hey, man.
You don't you don't say that? Do you don't say your mom and dad were on the plane, he wouldn't turn around to them. And he's a pilot. So you wouldn't even turn on the pilot. airhostess no one you just turned to Allah. And Allah said that in the Quran about the time and Rasulullah saw some time, they will used to be on a ship. They had no planes those days. And the same thing used to happen
when the seas used to search, and the cloud used to start getting thicker and thicker above and used to get dark and the storm was brewing and the seas was surging, and the boat was like a toy in the middle of nowhere. And any moment it could flip over this huge bulk of flip over. A lie said in the Holy Quran he says for eval Aki boo Phil Farooqi de la meclizine. Allahu de, he said all of them on the ship at that time. They say to me, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah save. He said, Those who used to believe in several other gods, the policies they this time on the boat, they don't call Hubble. They don't call lat they don't call Rosati, other gods. They only call me they only say Allah, Allah
because they thought they knew that only Allah can save you on the seas. And Allah then says, When I return them back to the land, then they don't know me as the first call.
When I don't when I return them back to the land they don't know me as first call now they have first call friends. Second, call this this day to this thing, third core fourth call on everything else is going to hell. You know, lose the car, go tell you what, then they come to me. When really you switch off, and you sit there and you think you know what, who's the first call in every single matter. Take his name. Who's the first call? Allah, it should never be friend. You're in trouble, my friend you will emancipate yourself. You want to save yourself. The first thing is you sit down you think if you don't go if I don't go back to Allah, there is no one that can save you. You can pick
up Hadith books. You can go to Islamic lectures. I know brothers who are trying to get themselves out of the hot on the go to stomach lectures. They're going
Listen to the YouTube channel, some of them Alhamdulillah, they come straight out. Some of them, they, they're trying to come out, it takes them a few years, some of them they stuck in a limbo,
they make an intention to come out, then they get sucked back in, they make the intention to come out, they will not come out, they get sucked back in, and they come out and they get sucked back in. And they in that limbo. And some of them they listen to these YouTube channels of Islamic scholars. And when they listen to them, they say, Yeah, I like him. Yeah, I like him.
The guy I'm gonna move an inch off of that he's not gonna get up to praise, I'm gonna get up to do anything and nothing is all I can listen to another one.
On is chilling the marking, I say, and the some of them who will come across the standard channels, or TVs, whatever and the local thing, you take it away.
Is that changes on the same day. So people know that.
The thing is the one who's gonna change if it's you, you're only going to change because of a loss of a job, you're not going to change because of yourself. So the thing is, you need to be humble enough to call Allah.
And my friend, you're gonna say to me when I call a loss of a job, when I call him, is he really gonna listen to me?
You're gonna think is he gonna listen to me? You know, me, in the middle of this world, Hear that? I've done all this. Listen to mark, listen to my friend. You've got no escape. You've got nowhere to go. Eventually you have to go to Allah and I have to go to Allah agree or disagree. Eventually there comes a day when you don't want mom don't either matter that don't even matter. Allah Subhan Allah. Brothers don't matter. Sisters don't matter. Nobody matters. Nobody cares where Allah says Allah, Quran, Allah and
on the Day of Judgment is going to be no relatives isn't going to be no one calling anyone, uncle. No one says dad, nobody says son. Nobody says daughter. Nobody says brother. Nobody says sister on the Day of Judgment. Voila. Yet the SIR alone they don't even ask how is my brother? They don't even ask how is my dad? They don't even ask how is my son? They don't ask how is my wife? They don't ask how is my husband? Questions? Because everybody is asking? How is me? How is me?
How is I? That's the question. And that moment when death comes from that moment till Jana, nobody knows anyone except Allah. No one knows anyone. I'm telling you a lie he brothers, I'm telling you now. And if I if I can wake your consciousness up, if I can wake your mind up, nobody will know anybody except Allah from the moment of death onwards.
And that's going to be first call. And that's going to be the call the only call we will know. So the thing is, I need to switch off, I want to show off, I can't really reflect, I want to reflect, I reflect where is the ultimate, the ultimate help gonna come from and that is Allah, when I recognize that I need to understand.
Allah has loved me to have come to this reflection. That's the first thing you realize brothers, I don't care what state of sin you are in. You say to yourself that you know what if Allah didn't love me, then I would not know that some of you listen to this talk right now. For you to come to this Masjid right now for you to have listened to this talk right now. Allah would not have even if he didn't have any love for us, he wouldn't have even got us in this master.
I wouldn't be here, you wouldn't be here. So let's just say Allah has loved me for me to come and and listen to this. Second is what do I do? After I realized that you know what? Allah azza wa jal has loved me. Sit down and start to say to yourself,
how many times have I gone away from Allah and he's still showed me his love. Now start going in your head about the sinful times that you've gone mess yourself up going towards sin. I'm talking about major sins minuses, every time you go into another direction. Think about how many times has Allah still had mercy on me still fed me still clothe me still gave me a job still kept my job still gave me a good life still make gave me good education. Think about it. And then say to yourself whether Allah loves you or hate you? Because the ultimate answer is Allison loving me.
He is loving me. The problem is I have created a monster within myself. And I need to tame that monster. And to tame that monster I need to ask his help. And without his help, there is no rescue for anybody. Allah has said I'm gonna spend with you brothers.
Maybe till quarter past nine. Is that is that okay? Because I can see some of you want to start going off if I spend too.
quarter past nine is okay. It's okay inshallah. So
I'll give you 12 minutes inshallah and then we'll try and wrap up.
So when we have that connection with Allah, how am I supposed to connect myself with a lot of my friend, listen to me to connect with Allah is very, very easy. You don't need to go to a molana You don't need to go to a chef. You don't need to go to anybody you have got direct connection with a lot, take advantage of it. And in taking the direct advantage of it, what you do is just raise your hands and just ask him and just say to him how beautiful you are, and say to Allah azza wa jal, Oh Allah, Allah, I'm asking you to save me. I'm asking you to save me. Even if that night you're gonna go and sin again the next day, you're gonna sin again, this Raise your hands and say, Oh Allah, I've
got these evil thoughts inside me. I want to stop myself, please show me and direct me and guide me how I'm going to stop myself. I'm asking you, I'm begging you. And even if you commit the sin, because you're going to be really, really bad Hamas was put my hands in front of Allah. And I know I'm going to commit that sin again. My brother, sister, raise your hands and ask him and even if you commit the sin, and what you do is after that turn to him again, and say, oh, Allah, I did it. I know I did it. I feel really bad. I did it. I shouldn't have done it. But I'm really asking you if you don't get me out of this. I don't know how to get myself out of this. I'm just sincerely asking
because you know what, when the shaytan took an oath, this is the key I'm going to give you now of how to unlock yourself from the shaytan when the shaytan took an oath that he is going to misguide all the sons of Adam, he put in there
everything he could and Allah said to him, two things if my servants have, then you will not be able to misguide them.
and shaytan even admitted that you know, these two types of your of the sons of Adam, I can't take them astray. He said
that men who move Laci, he said first is if they are in your servitude. If your servants, if the sons of Adam are actually worshiping you, then it's really hard for me to take them away. Number one, and listen to this carefully because this is the way you unlock yourself from shaden. Number one is if your servants or your sons of Adam, if they're actually worshiping you, I can't take them astray, I'm gonna find it really hard. And number two is if they've got sincerity mozillazine if they've got sincerity inside them if they're sincere for you say that I really have got a tough time taking them away from you. So the number one thing you do to turn yourself away from the shaytan is
that you say to yourself, you know what? I'm going to do two rockets for LA even though I'm a I'm a you know, I'm a criminal in the sight of Allah. I'm going to do two rockets, just do two rockets. Just do some test speed. Do some Vicar do some karate do whatever you can switch something on that Islamic Just do it. Just do it and keep it going. Keep going and try to get into there a better a better is what you actually do you Salah I don't care how sinful you are. Just turn to Allah and even if you if you feel that you know what, I can't do Salah if and if you feel that just get into sujood gone too soon you bow down to Allah get on you get on your knees and get on get your forehead
on the ground. Do sudo then ask a line the sudo to save you asked a lot in sudo to save you because there's no one that can save you except for Allah first second is do it for Allah sake. So make sure when you're alone, and you you switched everything off, and you've spent some time to yourself nobody knows of this. Nobody's watching you. Nobody will know of this is just between you and Allah that sincerity. Now you got the shaytan by the headlock, my friend. You've got him by the headlock. Because the shaytan will find his soul so hard to come at you at that moment. Yes, he might come back to you when you get back to normal again fine doesn't matter. You get back at him with another
two rockets with another Salah with another tilava with another with another dog with another student you get back at him and make it make it again sincere for LASIK Don't feel bad inside just make you for Allah sake. This is the way you're going to start unlocking yourself from the shape and the next thing you do is you can't reflect and spend an hour wanting to go away and never come back again. And I'm saying like the guys don't miss it was from asthma. He listened to shaker and his go missing.
I don't want you to go missing. You come back. Yeah, when you come back.
When you come back, try to do one thing well
Sister if you're in some trouble here try to do one thing is that you know this tongue here
in loads of trouble. So you're not part of your problem you have to realize is you
is you is me. So you got to learn how to control the tongue.
A part of the problem is, if you're in some problem is that you need to control our tongue fine. With that tongue, you're going to still ask Allah azza wa jal, but you know what you're gonna have to do slowly, you're gonna have to slowly change your environment. And that means that you know, the friends you've got, and the people who are influencing you, you have to see how to change those friends how to replace them. And it's got to be done very suddenly understand, you can't suddenly just come back and say, Hey, you
don't know you, man.
I don't know who you are, man. You shaytan You know, I'm saying
I reflected man, I've reflected three days, man.
You're the biggest a
rough you know, you don't want to come back and scare the life out of people wanting you to do is that you come back. If you realize that some of your friends have been taking you away to the Titanic way, then you need to, you know, come back. And yes, you're gonna meet them again, you need to, you need to slow down and cut down on your meeting times with them.
Cut it down,
cut it down. And you need to replace them with other friends now how you're going to find those friends who you're going to replace it with. Again, you tend to Atlanta or LA or LA I want you to find new way of replacing these friends. Our la show me and guide me just ask Allah and allow show you and one good place to come to, if you can make it is come to the mustard. Come to the mustard mustard has got a lot of good brothers who pray, who are who have changed their lives, to make friends with them. Whether you like them straightaway, you don't like them straightaway. Just Just come to the masjid come to the house of Allah. This is a place where you can change your life. And a
lot of brothers have changed their lives through the masjid. And if you've got if you've got no friends in the masjid, you want to make you know what to do. Come again to the masjid. And when nobody's around or little few people around, sit in the corner somewhere. Just put your head down. And again ask Allah Allah Allah, I'm asking to save me from the problem that I'm in. I'm asking you to guide me and to guide me to put me into the straight path. Just ask Allah you will see miracles will come. I've known brothers who've done this and if he's assisted as listen to this, then sister there's many circles out there. There's many good things out there. There's massive that that except
sisters, so you go to those mustard you go to those circles and make new friends once you make new friends. I'm not going to say to you everybody in the machine is gonna be perfect 100% no Brava.
And just because people are not perfect in the musty doesn't mean you don't come to the masjid is that can you imagine if you went to the doctor? Yeah. And he's an Indian doctor, you know, I'm saying like, Indian doctor, you know? Yeah, he wants to save his money. Like, you know, she's got a budget here. And with his budget, he just wants to save his money. And every time you come you say yeah, you Next please. Yeah. Are you Yeah, what's wrong with you? Yeah, policy demo. Next one, please. Next Next, policy tomorrow. And next one Oh, like, you know, LinkedIn. This one the few few medicines he gives whatever. If you find that your doctor is not helping you any more than the
common thing? Are you going to stop going to the doctors? Are you going to change your GP you're going to change your GP blah, blah. So if you find that one mustard is really not making it for you, don't change Don't, don't leave a lot. Just because some people are in the masjid and they making life difficult for others or there's politics going on or whatever. Don't leave a laws with a gun. Find a new master. There's plenty of matches out there. Don't sit in another Masjid go go to another locality master. Don't sit there and no one knows you. Don't don't make any friends that don't make any friends. If you don't have to just go there. Just go for Allah. If you go to, if you go to the
bazaar, you're gonna end up buying things Yes or no? Yes or no guys, you go to a place where the sports going on where there's football going on. Right? You're gonna watch football, you're gonna be with football players. Right? You go to and you're gonna be influenced by the football you go to
a family gathering. You're gonna be impressed by the family. You go to come to the masjid you're gonna find a lot.
You come to the masjid you're gonna find a lot. Don't leave a lot because of some politics in the masjid. You come and you'll find a lot just ask Allah again to guide you. And the thing is, once you find the replacement with your friends, you're going to start a new leaf you're going to start a new way. The shaytan is very easy on a singular person, the shaytan find it difficult on a group of people and Rasulullah sallallahu mostoles when you have a group of friends and then what you want to do is you want to then slowly move towards a good life. I want to say gee brothers is and sisters is you know the thing I said
Are you earlier about this technology and about these phones, I'm telling you, brothers and sisters, many people are losing themselves because of these robots they've got in their hands. They're losing themselves. They they're looking at a robot, they're communicating with a robot when you're in front of another human being, and you're looking at a robot looking robot, and your eye contact has gone away from the human being, then you're talking to a robot, my friend, you're not talking to human anymore. And this is causing us damage. And what you need, I'm not saying to you get rid of these phones, no, I've got a phone as well, but you got to limit it. And you got to understand that real
tarbiyah real way of changing someone is through survive and companionship, see the Sahaba were called the Sahaba. Why?
The Sahaba, the 11 109, they'll call the Sahaba. Why? Because they stood with the profit and loss of them, they sat with the person loves them, they ate with the person loves them, they walk through the process and lots of them, they their manner started to develop according to the province that allows them the lifestyle change according to the laws. And because they they saw they looked up to perhaps aloha ism, and the companionship over time changed. And this is real change. If you got bad friends, guaranteed your friends, start to use foul language, you're going to use foul language. If your friends are good, and they have good language they use, you're going to use good language. If
your friends are out there doing nice things, then you're going to end up doing nice things. If your friends are doing rude and you know horrible things out there. And you know, messing around with people out there, you're gonna start doing the same thing, or at least you were affected by that. The sahabas companionship change them, then the Sahaba went away. And the next group of people came, they sat with them, they got up with them, they ate with them, they walked with them, they they stayed with them, and they live change according to their lifestyle. My friend, you know, the thing that I said to you earlier in this talk. And I said to you about, you know, this first generation,
secondary third generation, you know, what we need to do, we need to in our household with this third generation, we need to get them to sit with us. And we need to get them to, you know, we need to get them to get their morals and lives adopted come to us and I was 19. Right now, I'm going to finish this Give me a minute or so we need to get them to finish even to get them to mold themselves, according to our lifestyle. And that's only going to happen to human to human. That's it human to human. And if he's not that way. And if we think that we're going to change our lives any other way is going to be difficult, my friend. So I'm going to summarize the whole talk, I'm gonna
say to you, if you're going to take anything from this talk, I want you brother and I want you sister, to go away, to reflect to switch off from everything. And to think that the only Savior is Allah. And if we don't return to Allah before he returns us back to him, then it's going to be at a woeful state to us a woeful state to us. Allows angeliki me to tofik inability to do this. He gives you the tofik inability to this Zack no head waffle Donna