Hasan Ali – Analysing The Lives Of The Prophets – Episode 63 – Part 2
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The speakers emphasize the importance of learning to control behavior and avoid harming others, disciplined learning, self-quarantine, and flexibility in relationships. They also emphasize the benefits of sleeping early, staying true to one's job, and avoiding bias. The program covers deodle and deodle learning, covering deodle and learning, and is an educational program for Muslims.
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Mr. Mohammed Allah Allah He was
salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
We come to another session of udon Suleiman Allah Hema Salam. And what we'll discuss already is the the fight that Islam was involved in. And he killed dilute, who's Goliath. So it's like the story of David and Goliath.
And those are some other young individual, he had gravely defeated childhood. And what this then did is it raised his status amongst the tribe.
And what they then did is, they started to give him a lot of prominence within the ranks. And what he also did later on, is that he started to become a party judge, because Allah had given him the gift of knowing how to judge between people.
Now, one of the things that is
beautiful about this is that that was a lesson in his own time, he's growing. And he's involved in trying to help people, okay, because if you become a judge, you have to become careful in how
how you see and how you listen to people, specifically,
and
what kind of judgments you actually make. Now, all of this leads to doubt Allah Salaam, eventually becoming a coffee or a judge that everybody
looks up to. And he's then starts to, you know, become a king, Allah says that Allah, Allah gave him the milk or he gave him the, the sovereignty. Now, when he kills, or he defeats dilute,
Allah mentions a few things that he gives out. And this came over time, until he finally become not only a prophet, or a person of wisdom, but he also become somebody who
has got the sovereignty of the kingdom in his possession. So Allah says, last week, Allah gave him the sovereignty, while
Allah gave him wisdom. Now, not every person who has got sovereignty of power gets Heckman wisdom, it is the big lesson here. To have both together is is a real good quality. So not every leader has got wisdom now what wisdom wisdom is when you have knowledge, but but you know when to apply it and when not to apply that wisdom. Wisdom is like tick mark comes from a word in Arabic,
or ha cast me. Now where did that
derived from where did that come from? That comes from the early Arabs, when they had horses. And they used to put a sort of a thing they put on the, the muzzle, and muzzle on the on the faces. And with that they they've got a rain. And with the rain, they used to pull the reins to try and stop the horse. So that muzzle muzzle itself was cold.
So it's the power to stop the power to then again, get the horse to move and to watch Gallup run and then the power to stop it. The whole process of that is known as broken or you know the able to able to have the control over one's horse. So from there comes hikma, which is wisdom, which means a man or a woman, they have got knowledge.
They've got knowledge, they've got power as well. But when they with their power and knowledge if they're not able to stop themselves, and if they're not able to know when to advance and when to hold themselves back there is going to be a problem a serious problem. So let me give an example. If you For example, for if you know
If you know that, you know, let's talk about argumentation. Somebody's arguing with you. Now you've got all the skills like I said this to my to my son the other day, hey, my son is going to secondary school now, you know, secondary schools, especially in the British culture, they learn how to cuss. Yes or no. is natural. I don't know what's wrong with our system, but it's natural to learn how to cuss. And these kids. They go from, like when you say cuz some people might understand the word, the word is actually basically
making mockery or teasing one another. Okay? And and
is there another word for
insulting one another with words and trying to put another down in it in a sort of a match? Where were you were you trying to overpower your opponent? Now, what happens with these kids is that they
know they start so it starts very lightly or you this and instead of over you this, then it says, Well, you this and you that and it gets worse. Unless you give something worse than what your opponent has said, You've lost, you've lost. So then it gets serious because then they start cussing with another guy, they get very personal, they start cussing with parents, mothers and fathers your mom's this and your father's this, your dad's this and bla bla bla bla Okay, so you know what I'm trying to say. And then if it doesn't stop there, they'll they'll make even more personal and they'll make names and nicknames and things that they will jab at them. And he gets so serious that,
you know, obviously one of them will have to back out. But he gets so serious that sometimes they can end up brutal fighting, and sometimes they can end up you know, doing other horrible things. Now, my son got into it. And I stopped him and I got in the car, I drive him to school and I said, Look, you know, I've heard that with your cousin's like he starting it with his cousins. I said, Look, listen, Baba, listen to me carefully. I said, it's a system out there.
You need to know the system. You need to learn the system. But you need to learn more than that. How to put it in your back pocket.
And you only take it out when you really need it.
So I explained to him, I said, Look, you go to go to school, and they're casting and everything is you know, these kids, if you don't, if you're a person who says that? No, no, no, no. You still do, can you? Hi, since they want to clean they'll tell him how can you not you're going to get into this they'll start cussing you because you're being Mashallah a saintly person spiritual, you know, saga saga Rocky? Yeah, they'll teach you sama sumeria. You can be crying blood.
So So the thing is, you know, with the system, you have to learn what it is. So I said, what you do is I said of this, this is me as I know,
how to cuss. Because when I was young, it was happening. But I said, I learned how you need to stop it and not use it. It's not a good thing. Because you're hurting somebody,
someone's gonna hurt you, you're going to hurt someone else. So what you do is, I said, Just don't use it. But a day will come when somebody will just be annoying. And he'll, he'll just not let go of you. And first, you know, you allow him to back off and you don't do anything say look, you know, you get you tell him, I don't I don't want to do this. I don't want to hurt each other. It's not nice. But you see, one day somebody will come and he just does not understand except the custom language. Okay? So I said that day, you take it up, take it out your back problem, and you teach them a lesson.
Okay, if you ever need to do that, but obviously, you know that other Islam, you know that there are many rules of, of how you Converse, and so on, so forth. So I'm not just saying, you know, like, loose cause I'm talking about you put him in his place. And there are ways to do it without using foul language without hurting without, you know, telling and bringing people's parents in whatever, there are ways to do it. Like, in my you know, in my culture in Bangladesh,
you know, you get to a certain, you know, especially when you get to adulthood, there's something called Hesse has math test is basically you talk to one another, where you give indications in the slide, you say something, but you mean something else. Right? It's a game people play. It's, it's, and I'm sure in many cultures, they have this, will you say something, but you mean something that you give two meanings. But you mean only one of them the one that's probably the bad one, but he can take the good meaning from that.
Is that for example, you meet someone you say? You say, oh, you're looking well today.
There's two meanings in there. Oh, you're looking about today means you're really looking well today, or it means you're looking well today is that you don't normally look good. When you look at well today, what made you dress smart today? So there's always two meanings that you can take. So the thing is in Bangladesh, or Mongolia is generally if you don't know it, they will just spin you around, seriously. And they thought that I was some sort of dumb person who doesn't know what what this is. So when I went to study for my last year, in Bangladesh, they started on me. And I seriously was spinning out what they're doing. I thought, seriously that these are students that are
studying with me, and and they're doing with me, and they think sly things and trying to make you feel like, you know, there's two meanings, everything they're saying. So I started with them. And I'll tell you one thing, I'll have any layer, they don't want to, they don't want to mess with me again. hamdulillah don't get into full conversation with you know, you take it out your back pocket, that they you use it, they will never mess with you again. So I'm telling my son, Look, son, you got to learn how to stop. Just because you can beat someone doesn't mean you beat them.
When you know, let's say for example, you know, you can beat someone in a in a in a fighting match. It doesn't mean you just go out and beat him up and show everybody that you know, hey, can come.
You know, you don't do that. Because you asked him for trouble. I said, Look, I said one day you will cast someone and that person is not good as you are cussing. So you flawed him. That's what these youngsters say. You flawed him like he basically put him straight clean on the floor. You brushed him. I said, What will happen then is that kid can't beat you in a cutting match. So what will you do? I said his jealousy is going to increase. Now you got a serious problem. When his jealousy increases, or when his hatred or his stubbornness against you increases, or his his intention of getting back to you, what he'll do is he will now get back to you in different ways. He
will go around to your other friends, and he will spread bad rumors about you.
He will say things that are untrue to people just to turn them against you. He will do sly things behind you back when you can't even see what he's doing. He will make things about you he'll grasp you will tell teachers things that about you that are not true.
Now it's out of your control. So you need to know how to stop yourself. You learn these things. You only use it when you need to. This is hikma This is wisdom, a wise person will not use this type of thing unless they really need to. And even then they use it in a wise way.
They say that it's better to have an intelligent enemy than to have a foolish friend
is better to have and an intelligent enemy. So if your enemy is intelligent, it's better to have someone like that than to have a friend who's foolish. Because the foolish one will do things you can't predict. But the wise one the intelligent one will do things which you can predict is better to know where you are. So all of this is said where the Buddha a salon.
He not only know he not only has power, but he has hikma, which means he knows when to stop. A wise man in this world chooses his battles.
This is hikma just because you can go out there and you can overpower doesn't mean you just go and overpower.
You need to know where to stop. And I want to just say to you right now we've got someone who's about to come to the forefront of America who has a lot of money, a
lot of money. But he doesn't have sigma.
He doesn't have wisdom. He doesn't know when to stop. Yes or no guys. Yes. You know I'm talking about Yeah, let's not mention his name.
Now, Allah says what Allah who Manisha This is all in Surah. Number two, item number to five one a lot, hold down the lesson, whatever. Now what did he teach you? So the highlight of him he taught him things that ordinary people didn't have. And one of those things that he taught him was, he gave him fast, slow hip hop. Now first of all, he thought is when a person can, in short words, few words give a lot of meaning. Not everybody has this is another power he had, that he could express himself succinctly or in such few words, but he had so much deep meaning in what he said. And the only thing about hostile hobbies. It wasn't complex to understand him. So easy was not again that's another
power to have. Because some people who get in power they talk in a language which mean you can't understand during someone translate
Not everybody can take a board sheet paper, read it and understand everything else inside. Not everyone can can listen to the parliamentary debates and understand everything that they're saying.
But Subhan Allah, He not only was succinct, but he could use easy words to express his views and Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam had this quality. He says, ooh, t to be Giovanni in Canada, I have been given the power to succeed. Lee express myself to express my my meanings in my heart with few words, but they have a lot of meaning. Okay? Now, when you have all these powers, every power that you have, you have to be a responsible person. Because with power, you can become arrogant with power, you can start to exceed those limits. Now a beautiful thing that that was a lesson and did. Again, he was he was a person that was disciplined. So hannula, again, that is another great quality
inside. Now his discipline made him divide his days into four days. Okay, so he had one day where he would just worship Allah
one day where he just what he would do is listen to people and their their disputes and judge between them. So that's the second day, the third day,
he would call people and he would just give them naseeha, give them lectures, give them tell them how to be good, and so on, so forth. Okay. And the fourth day was for himself. So he just was private to himself, he had to break. So the first day completely just about Allah, the second day, judging between the third day, advising people and the fourth day, just for himself, this is great discipline. This was the four days that he had, even then on top of that,
what we understand from Sahih Bukhari
is that he was disciplined by day and by night, how He fasted one day, and he didn't fast the next day. He fasted The next day, and he didn't pass the next day. And he continued to alter his fast like this. And Rasulullah sallallahu alaihe salam has told us that up Volusia swam down. He said the best of fasting is the fasting of Elijah. That is if you want to be the ultimate their best fasting you can ever do. You follow this the system of moderation. And he even said obviously, that's that's not for everybody. If you can do that, why? What does it do? Well, you know, when you when you fast one day, then you just got used to not eating.
So the next day, normally what happens is, you don't really want to eat. If you fast one day, natural fast. Next day, you think, well, I'm hungry. And what are you doing the next day is no, I'm eating? Eat. So you don't want to eat one day, a lunchtime. The next day? You your body says
give me food. You say no, no, no, your food required. Saba Saba.
Next day, it's time to look, look, I don't want to eat now you have to now. So this discipline is is really hard on us. And it gives you the self discipline gives you a lot of strength in what you do. Okay, now this the soul of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam on a weekly basis where He fasted on a Monday, and He fasted on the Thursday. That was because he wanted to make it easy for the oma. Because if our Prophet sallallahu wasallam did the same as boundaries around then most of us would want to do the same thing. And it would it would affect us, because not not everybody is up to the level of Tao the lesson too fast one day, and not too fast The next day, but he he praised him to
tell the oma that those of you who can live up to the fasting without lesser then you should do it. But I promise you the last time I had another secret
get another secret. So he wanted to fast like that with a wrestler. But he couldn't fast because if you did, then what we'll do,
they will do the same as him and he wants you to have mercy on the oma. So what did he do secretly? He's too fast. Two days in a row
is too fast two days in a row.
So 48 hours fast.
But sometimes what he used to do is the Muslim used to come at the first 24 hours on the first day and the end of the first day he used to drink something or have a date. So he's broken is fast. But then what he does is that he actually doesn't eat for the next school day.
And sometimes he actually just just carried on it's called Sol Sol that you continue fasting so you fasted 24 hours or one from sorry, from support all the way till if thought and you just carry on all the way the next day until the next day. Now what happens that sometimes
Have a caught on to that. And they started to fast, like the privacy laws and two in a row. And when the professor of law saw that he broke his fast in front of them, like he waited to moderate and he ate that day, he broke his heart and He ate properly, so that they would they would not copy him and he said, No, he said in Anna, Tom, what is up, you know, Indira
said, I am a person who is given nourishment from Allah azza wa jal, so I can do now what he was talking about, he was talking about the nourishment of me, and Vicar of Allah. Because if you actually, if you actually remember Allah so deeply throughout the day, you don't get hungry.
And there's a hadith for it. Because when, when the prophets of Allah has been talked about the the days of the job, they said, that the child is going to come and he's going to, he's going to have, you know, he's going to make one of one of his days, he said, we'll be like a year of yours. And the second day will be like a month of yours. And the third day will be like a week of yours. And then the rest of the days will be like the normal days that you have.
And they were
not the hardest one is the first day, the first day of the job is going to be a whole year it's going to like be like, Oh, we don't know how that's going to happen. But it will feel like a whole year, the first day of the job raining, you know, whatever powers Allah will give him on this earth.
And their concern was Salah, and they said, matter of Allah, how do we how do you pray, he said, just make make certain estimations of when you should pray. And in the process, a lot of us will continue to say that the job will stop your provision, so you will not be able to eat and he will stop the rains. He will stop the it'll stop the rains from from your crops. And it actually, you know, he'll destroy or you'll have no cops. So they put two and two together. The one day we're going to have is one year if all the crops are not there, we can't eat and it's not raining for one year for us. They said Mr. Hala, how do we eat?
And the problem is our last one then said he said your food for that day is going to be the vicar of Allah
is remembering Allah. I'll give you I'll give you a life thing. We like to think of how some of these happen. You know, when you're in a normal day, normal day, and you know, a normal hot day or normal day when you take a long hours when you're not eating, you feel hungry. You go straight to the home. You go to the gym or karma, karma. And Tony these brothers those of you been there or not. You sit in the harem. You haven't been a Zamzam whatever, okay, fine database. But yes or no, you feel less hungry in the harem? Yes.
Yes. You think that's why? Because you've got so much remembrance of Allah. And so many people are remembering Allah. And the places have so much Baraka that you actually feel feel less hungry naturally. Yes, you do eat but you feel less hungry. When people are spiritually high, they feel less hungry. Okay, so why are we saying all of this is that the elderly seldom discipline himself with this, um, Rasulullah sallallahu, his daughters are fast. Another thing that they did is that in the nighttime,
he split his night into six paths,
a six paths.
So what he would do is he would sleep for three sixth of the night, which is half of the night. So for half of the night you sleep, then he would get up for two sixth of the night, which is like a third of the night. And then he would sleep again for one sixth of the night. So to give you an example of how this works, is that if he slept, let's say, for example, he had from they had the whole night.
There, let's just say he had he had, he slept, let's say about eight o'clock. And he's got nine hours till
dawn breaks. So that's going to be five o'clock. So five o'clock is going to be the time when he has to be a professor or something. And eight o'clock is when he goes to sleep. So he would sleep from
let me get this right here half of the night. So half of his four and a half hours. Yes. So you sleep from eight o'clock all the way to 1230.
Okay, so 1230 he gets up
and now he's going to do that for three, four.
hours.
Okay, so from 1230 to 330, he continuously does a lot better than 330. He sleeps again, for one and a half hours to five o'clock and bang on five o'clock he gets up, and then he's ready for his start of his day with whatever worship or whatever thing that is, okay, it was to the discipline that he did this. Now, this is a beautiful way. And Rasulullah sallallahu prays this. Why? Because you get your know your rest. If you sleep in one go all the way and then you want to wake up. There's an effect of your body. But if you sleep, you get yourself up and then you sleep again. Your body gets more rest.
You want to try it out. There's a lot of things about sleep. There's a lot of things about sleep that we get wrong. The first thing is like a lot, a lot of brothers, you know, sisters, they complain they can't get a father. Yes, there are brothers and sisters. Yes. Not talking to you guys.
Yeah, there are brothers and sisters yesterday, guys. Okay. The biggest problem is that, when it's the nighttime,
we are on our mobiles on our phones on the TV, on somebody else, chit chatting, phone, talking to people, spending time surfing the internet, whatever it is, reading books, whatever it is, you're spending time and you're delaying the sleeping time. Now when you've delayed it to 10 1112 o'clock,
you've now had your heavy sleep at 12 o'clock or 11 o'clock, there is no way you're going to be up. You know, early in the morning, you'd have a heavy sleep. And because normal, normal human being needs about seven hours of sleep, a normal human being would need seven hours of sleep. And sometimes you can't cheat yourself when you sleep.
But if you sleep at 12, and father is a six, and then you're trying to get up well then you still heavy by the time six o'clock, you're getting up at seven o'clock. And that's when your sleep is breaking. So the first thing is that you sleep early. Second thing is when you sleep early, the body gets a lot of rest, like straight after a shot, like chapter a shot meaning that after a shot, you know, like maybe you might have a meal or maybe you had the meal before which I will be good. Even better before I shot the sooner the person loves him is that shot was the subpar meal was before the shot.
Okay, before the shot sometimes around a short time and sometimes Randy mcgrattan that's when he used to have it according to certain other parts of the lesson. So he never used to eat late. That's another problem. When you eat late, like you're eating nine o'clock 930 10 o'clock, you just eat it is heavy, it doesn't digest properly, you get a big beer belly. Right? That's one thing. And you also use your sleep becomes heavier as well. Okay, so anyway, what I want to say say to you is that down the lesson I'm sleep where he sleeps early, and he has half the night sleep, he gets up Now what happens is when you get up, your body wants to sleep that time but you get up
the body
at sort of no mid part of the night or half of the night.
The better that you will do at that time. You will never get the same thing any other time in the whole of the day.
No, you can't you can't give any comparison.
There's something special about nighttime. When you sleep, then you get up and you worship Allah because it's quiet. Everybody else is asleep is the night is very, very sort of, you know, the whole night is calm, okay? There's no business that's going around you and Allah azza wa jal, according to a Hadith, he descends to the first guy in the third part of the night. And he continues to ask us who is asking for forgiveness, I will forgive them who is asking for something, I will give it to them, who is you know, whoever it is, I'm here to listen to you.
So now, when he worships Allah if he was to worship Allah, and then just carry on with the day you get tired,
so you wish it's alive and he goes back to sleep because the body gets like tired, he goes back to sleep and then he gets up and you don't want to do this sleep, get up and asleep. Get up when you do that. Your pattern of sleep starts to shrink.
Try this, try this.
You know if you if you sleep in one long go and then you've woken up and say,
Can I get up?
You don't want us to doze off in a snooze and you get up and you snooze. You get you caught
Got into the water. Because throughout the day can at some point of the day you start yawning.
And your body will want more rest, especially if you do one of those sleeps where, you know, you just sleep right across the night or somebody's night, and then you sleep after further, you know, throughout till about 1011 o'clock, you know what happens? You get up Have you ever had this, uh, you slept like over? Like you said, like nine hours or 10 hours, right? You got up and then you had a bit of breakfast, and you feel like going straight back to that yes or no? Well, that's what happens the body you sleep extra and then the body wants to sleep even extra to put it back together again. To put it back to self enough, put it put it readjust itself, it is strange, but you don't
want to do the opposite the opposite happens. So when you sleep and you just get up and you force yourself to get up. Right as soon as you wake up, you want to get up straightaway, no snoozing, guarantee, your body will start to wake up more.
So basically you go back to sleep again after three hours go back to sleep again. And as soon as you wake up and just get up just get up straightaway. Your body will ask for less sleep.
You tried it'll happen and one of the teachers said this and we tried it and so halala it works. Which is if you wake up and straight away you get up like I said my eyes open up just come back to you know, I've come back to like awake mode. If you get a straightaway sit on your bed. You read the draw
a straightaway you just get up and go to the woods ready to start brushing your teeth or whatever to do. If you do straightaway, even though you're tired,
the whole day you will not
guarantee
the whole day you will not go That is why the professor Lawson says one Hadees
he says that yearning is from the shaken
there's a read there's a hadith saya di yawning is from Israel and why because you the way you slept and the way you got up from bed because if you if you sleeping early in the morning and then you like you get up and you want to snooze again. That's really the shaytan telling you because the Hadith says the shaitaan says to you none none Malaika slaving away he says sleep sleep you got a long night left. So the shaitaan has had influence on you and you listen to the shape on when you got up instead of getting up straightaway. You snooze and you listen to him and therefore he's had an influence on you so they will later on in the day when you yawn is from the from the shutdown and
that's what the purpose of lots of men and if you want to stop yawning just do what the province of Alaskans was told told us and you will not be yearning. Okay. Sorry, just do what the what what my teacher said in terms of getting up straightaway and then inshallah you will not. Okay. Now this is what he did in terms of his discipline the nighttime now what allow him to teach him allow him to teach him a lesson alone to teach the lesson of a lesson. Because when you have the power, you've got the hikma you've got the wisdom, you've got the way of speaking to people, you know how to judge between people. You've got really good self discipline.
And you think you've got a perfect Well, you know, Samsung people, they make a perfect role. Seven o'clock is tea time.
That's it 77975 710 is going to be seven o'clock. Such people you might admire them.
But then what happens the day when it's late?
They're all nuts. Go crazy.
You are late today. Come on. People are human beings. He's telling his wife, you're late today. He said people are creatures of habits. They want to they want to use the toilet even at certain times like 10 o'clock morning, use the toilet. Next time I use it is like two o'clock.
Central calendar seriously, certainly will allow that bang on everything on track, which is good. But it's also bad.
Good if you want to self discipline, but bad. If you've got other people to serve.
If you've got commitment to other people, is not the right thing to do. So what happens is Dowdell Islam
in his day or a battle has four days, the first day that Allah rabada what he did, he made himself in
a chamber large chamber. He locked his chamber. This chamber was a room does he himself with a law, I said and he started and this this was a chamber that are high walls.
Those are open sort of air that came in. So he had fresh air. And he sat there, he meditated. He did a lot of liquor, add Salah, he did his Avada for the full day, no one disturbed him. And then the next day, you will just judge and judge and judge between people. But the people who he judged, could not cross over to the day when he had his own rather, like, this is my day. Rather, I thought, you know, you get on with your life. I'll listen to you tomorrow. But today is my day off.
One day, he's sitting in there, and this is
he sits in his chamber. And he's just
thinking of Allah azza wa jal doing his worship and so on. And all of a sudden, what happens is,
all of a sudden, this is in suit number 38 is number 21. Law says, well, * attack another olhausen has the story of the dispute come to you. In the south, Rob, when two individuals,
they jumped up onto the wall, okay. But were those wrestlers, they climb to the top, and then both of them leftover and constrict down in front of the other Silicon Valley is generally bad. And suddenly, he was shocked by the fact that two people had just come come into his chamber. Now who would want her to her and come straight into his, his chamber is Elijah Wood when they entered in front of the restaurant,
he got scared, by the presence
of they said, Don't be scared,
they will believe is they will believe is in the face of Islam at that time. Cost man, we are two that have got
a dispute. Bah, bah, bah, bah, bah, one of us has mistreated another, for convenience. We've only come for you to judge between us with the truth while I
was denied so so don't be bias.
Don't be one that when you make a judgement,
you start to move away from the truth. We want the truth from you and the truth whichever way it is, why deny our
guidance to the best and the most middle path of what we should do.
So one of them says, one of his speaking and he says in the habit. this other person is my brother in religion. They're not real brothers, but their brothers in religion. He's a friend of mine. And he's a brother of mine the religion.
And he has got 99 us or 99 sort of sheep. Keystone what is on another one Leonardo. I only have one new, one sort of sheep. He's got 99. And I've only got one
for color Akina. He's telling me, he's trying to persuade me to give my only one to him.
And what happens is, I don't know how to express I can't argue, I don't know how to argue I don't know how to express myself. And he he overpowers me when he speaks to me.
What do we do?
And here in this case, to suddenly doubtless always be shook already from two people jumping right in front of him. And then he thinks that they would actually Harmon he thought that they come into harmony and the elderly salon straightaway when he hears that they're saying that there's a dispute is that okay, let me quickly just get their dispute over. And if I get the dispute over, then I can carry on doing what?
And he heard this. And obviously, the one who's speaking was the one that was, you know, giving him the story. And the other one was just standing there wasn't saying anything wasn't interrupting at all. Now, normally, what happens is that if one speaks and says, you know, he's done, the other one will say no, no, no, no, no, I want to add something here. He's not saying that. It happens, right. The other one was to completely just design.
Now from the looks of it is like
this one, just given a case about that one, that one's not speaking. Well, we know where we're going. So now the restaurant said, and he wants to also get it over and done with because it's a wrong day for these people to come to him for a dispute. And he was he didn't tell them to just go straightaway. What are you doing here because these people
I've just climbed the wall, which nobody did. I mean, they're serious people to get in. Let me just quickly finish and get them out. So he said, lack of Viola McCabe. So Elena Jessica,
this brother of yours in the faith in religion has wronged you
by asking that he wants to take your lonely sheep.
And he wants 100 and leave you with zero. We're in a Cathy Romina Nakula PA, many people who get into business, who get into partnership in a business owner who get into friendship, see, this whole law has many meanings. Either it means that they they had a business going on, and they ended up with one with 99 and one with one or they had shares. And and yeah, they were in a in a sort of business or they will try to say okay, we will try and see how we can make make our produce increase. And it happened. So that one ended up 99 and the other with 100. Or according to some tough series, they were just friends. And you know, it's like jolly, my friend has got 99 I've got
one but the other one just wanted to take this away. So the others have been saying that sometimes.
Those are simply saying that many, many friends or people who get into partnership with a venture layer believe but I'll do Humala about some of them tried to
do wrong to the other.
Elon Lavina, Anwar Saleh, except those who believe, and those who do good, real good, good actions, so people who have got faith and they do good actions, they will do that locally in my home. And there's only a few of them like that. Now, that organism straightaway has gone into telling this brother, how he's been wrong, how the other one has wronged him and so on. But suddenly what then happens is both of these individuals
disappear.
presscon literally just gone.
And the algorithm realizes
they will not humans.
They were angels.
Allah sent to angels, and angels dropped in front of him. And the angels acted outward. Allah wanted them to say to him, and that was a wrestler. I knew this was a big test from Allah. And he knew he had made a big mistake.
Now what was his mistake was one nada, hoodoo. Anima fatahna Tao doesn't realize that we were testing him and teaching him a lesson for stuff for our raba. So he sought forgiveness from Allah. And he went straight into Rico. And he stayed in Roku stayed in Roku and he turned to Allah. Allah says, Allah who bellick I forgave him. And then Allah says, we're in Allah who are in denial as soon
as taoglas Allah has now got a very close rank. To me, who is Allah? Wa cinema and when he returns back to me, he's going to return to a very good place. Now, what was it that thou the lesson gorillas Mufasa have said a lot of things. Number one is that thou that Islam has made for days for himself.
If you make for days like this, and people have got disputes every single day,
isn't it better that you have all four things you want to do in one day that you have one day for each?
So instead of having one day for a bad one day to advise people, or to to judge between people one day to advise people or give them a hand by hands on? And one day for yourself? Why don't you do all four in one day? So why don't you in the same day, do a bad in the same day judge between people in the same day to give people something to say hi, in the same day, you keep some time for yourself? Right? Because I was teaching him that look, people have got disputes out there. And you're sitting here just doing my rather and they have to wait every fourth day you will come out and just between them. So that's one lesson that a lot told now that I said, Okay, that you got to be a bit more
flexible. The second thing some person have said it wasn't this it was something different.
They said that thou shalt Salam on that day because he was shook up by the whole incident.
The other SLM on that day, he rushed to judgment.
He should have listened to both parties, though the other one was silent.
And it looked like, well, he's guilty. He's not saying anything. And this one just talking, and I've heard his story, and he's convincing, doesn't matter how convincing a case is, you have to allow the other party to speak. And if the other party hasn't spoken, then you have rushed to judgment, you made a big mistake. How does a massive lesson here brothers and sisters were listening? Number one is, you know, when you got when you've got duties to other with the first see, when we got duties to others, you have to be flexible. So you know, sometimes when seven o'clock you want tea time, and seven o'clock, you don't get tea, you have to be understanding. When your world breaks with rules,
you have certain rules the way you want your world and things don't go the way you want it. You have to be, you know, a person of Southern patience, and tolerance.
Sometimes your best rules they break. And you have to learn from that. Sometimes people have a need more than your own need of wanting to worship Allah is sometimes better to go and be at the need of others than for your own need of worshiping Allah. I'm not gonna give up talking about no mafia, and extra things that you do for love. That's one, another big lesson according to the second tafsir have not listened to two parties. And we make this mistake. A lot of the times
when someone comes to your friend comes to you, you're you know, your relative comes to you, your daughter comes to you and says, Papa, you know, the way my husband's treating me
or someone comes to the side, your sister says, you know what's happening with me or your brother comes and says something, or someone close to you says something. Usually the thing is, you just listen to them, and you get sucked straight into everything they say.
And what happens with people is, you know, the first person to give you the story, you have a bias towards it.
Mm hmm. You will not people either, the first person will give you the story style, okay, that's how it is. The second person will give you the stories like, Huh, what if he said that the first one has become the norm for you. And you you're trying to listen to the second one and match what the first one has said and reject the second one? Well, you're not rejecting the first one. How do you know which one is telling you the truth?
Okay, and most cases people don't even hear the second story. They're like, Oh, my sister. Hello. Oh, so bad. He took
this seriously did that. Who and What happened after that sister? So he says another whole part of the story.
Give me a hug. Just give me a hug.
Took my real sister. Yeah.
Okay, guys, not assisting religion? No, I'm saying like, yeah.
Sister, give me a hug.
I feel sorry for you. I wanna, I wanna, I want to do this. I want one. I'll see you next time. I'm gonna say this. You rush to judgment, my friend. Give him a chance to speak. You know, people come to me with disputes, husbands and wives. I've got a few things that I that I say, and I want you to learn from this.
I'm not trying to. I'm not claiming that I'm the best. Okay, but I've got a few rules. The first thing is that you've got to be able to listen to both parties equally, is difficult.
And what you what I normally say is I say, okay, when I tell one of you to speak,
I want the other one to stay quiet.
And when I say to the other one, okay, that's enough, and you stay quiet, then I want the other one to speak. But this one to stay quiet. That's rule number one. The other rule is Look, if you've come to me for judgment, then that means whatever I will decide in the end, you will both have to go with it. There's no point of view coming to me and seeking a fact seeking fatwa just to share agree to what I think.
Yes, I like that. They come to you. And they say, you know this happened to happen when they see you agreeing.
Not
forgetting. And we find a new ship. We go to the second chef chef, you know this happened that happened? What do you think?
Well, I don't know.
They look for the Fed when they find one reason that Vice Chair they call
the callback to say that
he agrees to what I said they don't quote the first two. The first two that says, rubbish. You're the one in the wrong. Don't quote him. That was the third one because that one is to do with the fact worship
You know, some people go window shopping. Yeah, this is patois shopping, they go and look for the suits.
So what I tell them is straight up, listen, when I'm not here to try and get my view with you. No, no, no, you're here to listen to me as an impartial person, to whatever I'm concerned when I say, I want you to accept what I've said. And if I tell all of you to do something, or give up something, or accept that you're wrong, you have to do that.
The other thing is,
when you're listening to people, and you're trying to judge who's saying what, you have to have your independent reasoning, and you have to corroborate what they're saying. So what that means is that when one says something, you say, okay, fine, and it's best to have pen and paper. But anyway, if you if you listen to one for five minutes, and they say this, and the other one's dying to say,
okay, we start Calm down, okay, now you speak, they'll say, Well, I didn't have that Nam, you have to not be bias. You can't say, Well, the first one's right, or the second one, right, you have to make your own judgment about who's right, who's wrong, if you don't have the power to do that, my friend, don't become a person as a jump between
some people that have a soft heart.
Some people that have an inclination towards when it's like, you're my daughter, you've gotta be right. Because if you're not, right, you're gonna make me look bad.
So bohannan law, if you've got a person like that judging, then you know what the judgment is going to go, it's going to go in favor of that person who they're close to. And all these things, you have to put them out. Even if it's a close one, we have to judge against them saying they're wrong.
And what I usually do when people come to me with disputes, I say, look, before you start, can you say three things positive by him? Can you say three things positive about her. So Suba, Han Allah, they come to complain. And you start with positive, you got to do this.
Because you know, if the whole thing is negative, negative, this one like
that will like
the whole thing that you watching a boxing match.
You don't want that you want to sell a nice few things nice about him nice about her, then we start talking about negatives. And every time he gets to negative you say, but you like
you said that in the beginning.
But you like him, and he gives you this treat. You said I'm beginning you can lighten the mood.
And the other thing is that, you know, when you're dealing with a dispute, you have to allow for time, you can't say I've got 10 minutes, yeah, or 30 minutes and in that, whatever, listen to that. See, I've got to come to judgment. You can't do that. Something like that. The reason why a lot of disputes are comfortable saying of the time. I haven't got the time, because I know it takes hours. You will listen and listen to this one. Bring that part of history now. And then you will deal with that. And why that in the end. It started maybe four years ago, five years ago. You know how it started? I'm giving you real case here. Yeah.
She said she wants a new cooker.
He said, You can't have one. She said well, Can I have it? He said I just spent money on the kitchen on the tiles. Now you want a new cooker. I've just been on the tiles. She says but the tiles are new. The cook is now looking old.
Seriously, and from there. They start arguing, arguing, arguing hockey. He says what I'm doing is spending she says but you need to spend a bit more. He says, Well I don't want to do she says you love me. He says she says
he says just because I don't spend money doesn't mean I don't love you. She said would you love me?
He says
she says Really? Okay, that means you don't love me.
That's an evidence. He says you watch I'm not going to do you make me do?
That's it.
And then for five years that didn't have any other arguments. Because now you're not going to do this. Okay, I'm gonna do this for you. I used to wash your clothes. I'm not gonna wash your clothes for you anymore. Hey.
Yeah, the steps one by one one by one. And all starts from something. So all I'm gonna say to you is a swan law. judging people is not easy, but please make sure that if you're going to judge now, I'm not gonna say that. Every time it's easy to listen to both parties. Sometimes you can't listen to both parties. Sometimes you see the case is so serious. You can only listen to one party it happened like that. I basically someone's in domestic violence, whatever. Sometimes you just can't because the moment you tell the other person who will speak it gets worse. So what I'm trying to say is that normal case, you will want to hear both sides but please brothers and sisters well listen to this is
not easy to judge between people. And the worst is when you finish the boat gonna hate you
They're both gonna hate you. Because you put both of them in that place, you have to tell both of them. You were wrong in this, you are wrong in that you were right in this, you're right in that. But you were wrong in this, you're wrong when they hear that.
You're their person they don't like. But you have to be able to take that as well. That was a lesson learned a big lesson that he judged you rush to judge now doesn't also learn
that he thought he had everything, everything Christopher himself. And Allah was teaching him that even when you make your intention of worshipping me for the full day,
don't you ever think that you have the power to do that I'm the one who gives you the power to do that I can send to people that disturb me. Just to show you that don't forget who's in charge. And who gave you the power. So brothers and sisters, one of the things is that don't think that you're doing really well. Everything that we've done is should be handled in law, a law so that gave me the power otherwise I won't be able to do. Okay, so that's another lesson that some of them have said that he learned. Then Allah tells him that there's one more. One more is that though the lesson was actually by listening to this whole case,
he thought to himself, Yala, I'm not good. As a judge. I failed in judging between people. I made a big mistake. So there's no way I could become a king. There's no way that people wanted him to become a king. People wanted him to take over and no show power. And he thought to himself, there's no way but Allah said Yeah, that would. This is an iron number 30 as of 26th, of surah, number 38 sort of sod. I am number 26 Allah says yada Whoo, oh, that would imagine an alcoholic
I have now decided because they were going to Salaam you know he is asked forgiveness from Allah He went into Roku and he said Allah forgive me. Now I'm not capable capability. And when a person shows their humility in front of Allah, allow them to raise them up. When you say I've got it, I've got it. Allah give it to me give it to like at least if he wants you to have the power let's
give to you.
When you're
capable of this, Allah says no, I'm gonna give it to you. This is the Quran. And the Hadith says mantova
Allah if you show humility, if you are humble for the sake of Allah alone raising woman, Taka Bharat, if you get arrogant and proud of lessons, what are
so that's the Hadith, what is a Muslim? So then Allah says, I'm going to make you the halifa on the earth, you will just be two people.
Now you judge the two people, but you're going to be king now.
judge between them with the truth, while I cut the barrel. However, when you judge between them, don't follow your whims and desires. You've got to look at the truth. As an independent person, don't put your own own. You know how it is like a person has got their own wisdom, design, the thing, they think about themselves, if I was in this position, I would do this. It's not about us position, you got to think about them in that position. is hard to do these guys, I'm being honest with you. It's hard to do this. If you can't relate to a woman, you're a man. If you can't relate to a woman and her emotions, you're not an emotional person. You have to change your mindset to
understand her. Because for a woman a little hurt for a man, it takes a lot for him to be hurt. Yes or no. Generally generally, some women I know so they had a lot.
brothers had it Manuka my train says, I'm the wife, she's the husband.
But but most women, you say a little bit to her she gets she gets emotionally he hurts a lot more than the man who works who can take a lot. Now in your judgment, what you have to do is you have to think why the Wonder Woman says, you know, by heating the details, and it's a small thing, if you're a man.
You're you're being biased here because you're following your own. However, your thinking, your passion, your design, the way you are molded. You can't just be that you have to judge according to how the woman feels.
You have to be realistic with the what the woman is going through. And that's not an easy thing to do. You have to take yourself out of your body and try and think how would a woman let's say you talk with a child, you can't judge like an adult. If a child comes to you and says I was hurt a little bit, just wipe it off, get on with it. Now his little hurt is a big hurt yes or no
You can't just like an AB you can't think will grow up, man. Gotta be a man be a man.
And I'm gonna see no tears on you. You are my son. That's right. You don't show me no to me Don't cry. A poor kid, you just like suppressing.
Gone away. You just told him to just swipe his tears and be a man and he's not even a man yet.
All right, so you've got to drop yourself to his level and think about his level and his world. And your daughter's well, wherever you go to judge it between them with their mentality that takes a lot of markets. You know, a lot of times what we do in our lives is that we carry on thinking like adults the way we are, if I was that I would have I would have not done that. That's you, that's not them. Okay, so Allah says, Don't follow what's inside is a passion desire for you can study logic and this could lead you away, especially the secret of how, how it is that, you know, if a person thinks, well, who cares? Who cares about the right, I'm going to do my way. Allah says Fabian, the
cancer we like it will lead you away from the pathway of Allah in Almudena, Luna and Sevilla, those who are lead away from the path of a lot lahoma da Vinci, they have a great punishment, we managed to Yamaha sad, because they forgot the day of the day of the day of reckoning, and the day when allow, start counting and judging people what they did. So what Ally's trying to tell now the lesson is though, you're judging today, but you're going to judge tomorrow, and
you're doing several people, you're doing a proper analysis of people today, tomorrow, it's gonna happen to you.
So tell the people who get biased and the people who actually don't care about other than their rights. The fundamental reason is that they're not thinking about the data.
If you if you got the data in your mind, you can't do you can't come and say, You can't.
Once Abdullah bin Masuda the Allahu anhu, he had a slave. Abdullah Masuda de la he picked his hand up, and he was about to hit a slave. And he was in the action of after there and the prophets of Allah will call him from behind.
He said, Oh, I do love
the power that you have over this slave. Don't forget, Allah has no power over you.
You understand that? You got power today over your slave and you can hit him but don't forget how law can strike at you. He's got more power over you and you got a dead judgement to answer what you do and how you treat us your slave. And he from that day on he would not strike is les Swaminathan, who will do inshallah is Next week, we'll carry on. So lesson 30.
Any questions? I'll try and take the next one. No, I say that I
will try next week. inshallah I'll transfer early and take your question answered. These have been ready.
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