Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Riyad Al Salihin Haya

Hamzah Wald Maqbul
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The transmission of "hawaya" in Islam is seen as a means to assert the legitimacy of the narrator and remove harmful information from the pathway that people pass through. The importance of speaking truth openly and avoiding embarrassment is emphasized, as well as the need for education and empowerment for individuals to live their values. The sharia and "hamma" in Islam are also discussed, and relationships and relationships are also discussed. The death of a deceased father and a deceased family member leads to sad state of affairs where people use common sense and do things in a sad way.
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The chapter regarding the prohibition

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of

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putting someone in charge

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of some affair

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or of a judgeship

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or the like,

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from amongst the charges of affairs,

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for the one who

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is covetous of that leadership

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or the one who is actively seeking it.

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Abu Musa Alaihi

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who narrates that I entered upon the Prophet

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Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam

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with 2 men from amongst the sons of

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my uncle.

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And one of them said to him, Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam, O Messenger of Allah, give us

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the command for some of the authority that

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Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala

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has given to you, that Allah, mighty and

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majestic, has given to you.

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And the other said something similar to that

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meaning make us people of authority, give us

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positions of authority

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from the authority that Allah gave you. The

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Messenger of Allah salallahu alaihi wa sallam responded

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to him

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by saying,

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indeed, by Allah, we never give authority

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to anyone from the authority Allah gave us

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to one who asked for it or one

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who is covetous of it. It's a Hadith

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both of the party and of Muslim.

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Kitawul Adeb.

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So we start a new part of the

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book.

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The previous part has to do with states

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of the heart.

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This part of the book has to do

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with Adab, with the proper way of going

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out about doing

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something. And

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adab are those things that are speech and

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actions that are praiseworthy

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that are praiseworthy.

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Adab generally translates to manners

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but it doesn't mean manners in the sense

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of a person should use which fork for

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the salad and which fork for the beef

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rather it's

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it's

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knowing

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what the way of dealing with somebody is,

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the proper way of dealing with a person

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or proper way of dealing with

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a matter

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given the time and place and circumstances.

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So adab with somebody may involve having no

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adab with them.

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So hadith it's not it may not be

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a hadith of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam

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but it's a saying of, of the Arabic

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language

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That to show arrogance in the face of

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an arrogant man is to give him sadaqa.

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And so that's not manners, that's actually not

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having manners with a person but that's the

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adab of how to deal with that person.

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So in that sense, it's the proper thing

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to do or say given the circumstance, the

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time and circumstance that a person is in.

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The chapter the first chapter from Adab, the

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book of Adab is what? The The chapter

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regarding

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Haya.

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Haya is a very difficult word to translate

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also because very few people in our culture

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have it. There's not really a word for

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it. They say shame.

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Shame

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implies that a person has done something bad

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and that they feel some sort of regret

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or remorse for it. So Haya Haya is

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not necessarily shame.

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It's perhaps bashfulness. It's

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the,

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the quality that a person has

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that's opposite to being brazen in doing what

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they do. An idea is that the rule

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is that a person should have Haya and

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a person there are certain exceptional circumstances in

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which a person shouldn't have haya.

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The person is on the battlefield

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and they have haya, their head is gonna

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get cut off.

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So that's a situation where it's not appropriate

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to have haya.

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But, you know, in general people should should

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have Haya and it's the the the rule,

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not the exception. And just because the exception

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exists doesn't mean that the rule has,

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the rule doesn't exist or that the rule

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is somehow weak or the rule is somehow,

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any any way diminished.

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And so we need to learn what the

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rule is and haya is one of those

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things again. It's something there's very little concept

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of it in the culture that we're in

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right now. There was a concept of it

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before,

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like old school, like pilgrim

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type protestant people, the first people who

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inhabited,

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America from amongst the colonial settlers but it's

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something that I think later on was more

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or less done away with

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sometime in the last century.

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And Sayyidna Abdullah bin Umar

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narrates

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And it said, Abdullah bin Umar radiAllahu ta'ala

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and whom may Allah ta'ala be pleased with

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him and with his father narrates that the

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messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam passed by

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a man from the Ansar who was chastising

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his brother because he felt he had too

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much haya, he was too bashful.

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You need to be more aggressive with dealing

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with people, you need to be more upfront

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in dealing with people, you need to be

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more front in dealing with people. You need

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to be more in their face when dealing

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with them. Don't beat around the bush. Don't

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pull any punches rather, you know, go and

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kill the competition. That type of thing. He

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was telling his brother,

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you know, that you have too much haya,

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that you shouldn't have that much haya.

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So the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam when he saw this, he says to

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him he says, leave your brother. Why? Because

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Haya is part of imam.

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It's a hadith narrated book by Bukhari Musa.

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Say, Nur Alaihi Wasallam Al Haya. Said, Nur

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Alaihi Wasallam who narrates

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that and may Allah Ta' be pleased with

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him and with his father. Narrates the messenger

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of Allah salallahu alaihi wa sallam said,

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hayah,

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doesn't bring anything except for good. And it's

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a hadith that both Bukhari and Muslim narrate.

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And in an alternate narration of Muslim or

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an alternate two narrations of Muslims,

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the wording comes that is good, all of

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it and, also hayah all of it is

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good.

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Meaning that they're the same things. One of

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the things that the hadith of the prophet

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salallahu alaihi wa sallam, the wording of it

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is transmitted with great accuracy but every now

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and then you'll see a hadith where the

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wording is transposed like this or that which

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is fine. The meriar, the minimum standard for

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the transmission of the hadith of the prophet

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sallallahu alaihi wa sallam set by the ulama

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is that the transmission

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should be correct in its meaning. So they

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are allowed for paraphrasing

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even if,

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many if not most almost all the Hadith

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are are transmitted verbatim word for word. And

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if there's a doubt that the narrator has,

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generally, they'll express a doubt. I don't know

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if you used this word or that word

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but,

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that being said,

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the hadith will be considered to be acceptable

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as long as the meaning is there's no

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doubt in the meaning. There's a doubt in

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the

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wording, there's some leeway for that. If there's

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some doubt in the meaning,

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there's no leeway for that, then the hadith

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will not be transmitted. But you can see

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all 3 of these wordings mean exactly the

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same thing. The gist is that what

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all of it is good.

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Who narrates a hadith that's found both in

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Bukhari and Muslim.

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That the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam said, Al Iman

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is

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70 some odd branches

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or iman is 60 some odd branches. This

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is a this is an example of a

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hadith again that the the attempt here is

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to narrate the hadith,

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verbatim and so the narrator doubts how many

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he mentioned. He said, is it 70 Samad

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branches or 60 some odd branches.

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And this is something that should

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put in the heart of the the the

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listener,

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some sort of trust that if something like

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this which doesn't change the qualitative meaning of

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the, of the hadith at all.

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If something like this still the narrator has

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to admit to,

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that they didn't memorize properly or did it

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they didn't remember properly,

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then, the rest of it, you should have

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trust that they're they're

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they're narrating it and they are passing that

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information forward with a high level of veracity.

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So there is either 60 some odd branches

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or 70 some odd branches, 70 some odd

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branches or 60 some odd branches.

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The most virtuous of which is to say

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that there is no god except for Allah

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ta'ala

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both on your tongue and in your heart.

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And the lowest of which is

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to remove,

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something that is harmful for people from the

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path,

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from the path that they pass through. And

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Haya is also a branch of faith and

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so hadith that's narrated both by Bukhari and

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Muslim.

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The idea is what?

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The iman and a person saying La ilaha

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illallah is what they enter

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into Islam through and the iman of a

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person

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that,

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removes some,

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some

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some harm from the path that people pass

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through. That iman is that at least Allah

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they know Allah is watching and at least

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they know Allah Tawra rewards a person doing

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something to benefit other people. This is an

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act of iman also. I would definitely caution

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people from stopping in the freeway and removing

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things. You might get hurt. You you know,

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this is very dangerous thing to do if

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you think you can do it and it's

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legal or whatever and you you're very, you

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know, you have your wits about yourself, that's

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fine. But, you know, things like walking through

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the hallway and seeing a piece of garbage,

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you know, seeing like rocks in the driveway

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or rocks in the,

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or garbage or thorns or something like that

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somewhere seeing that the place is dusty and

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just finding a broom and sweeping it. These

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things are all things that confirm the imam

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the faith in the heart of a person.

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So the highest is what? To say that

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there's no god except for Allah and the

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lowest is what? Is to remove something harmful

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from the pathway that people pass through. And

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the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says also,

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hayah is part of iman. Hayah is part

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of iman, to be meek people and to

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be humble people and to be people who

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are not just ready to say anything and

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everything just in order to get noticed and

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just to draw attention to themselves. This is

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part of iman.

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Unfortunately unfortunately,

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many of us pride ourselves on our boldness

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and many of us raise our children

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to be bold in such a way,

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to the point where they learn this lesson.

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It's not that it's a good thing to

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speak that truth

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openly.

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It's not a good thing to use the

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speaking of the truth openly in order to

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further your own ego. It's not a good

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thing to use the speaking of the truth

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openly in order to browbeat or humiliate a

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brother of yours. Know that this is a

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sin in our deen. To humiliate another person

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is a sin in our deen even if

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what you're humiliating them about may happen to

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be true. There are very certain specific cases

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where you can call out another person. For

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example, you know, one brother is going to

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kill the other brother. You can go call

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them and call the police and say, okay,

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this guy is gonna go kill that person.

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Go stop them. Right? In fact, you have

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to. Why? Because there's a haq of another

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person involved. But these are exceptional cases. This

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doesn't mean that every time something does someone

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does something that's wrong, that the first thing

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you have to do is in front of

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everybody say, ah, this, that, and the other

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thing. How come you did this? How come

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you did that? How come you did the

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other thing? Rather there's something being reserved and

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being shy and bashful and not, always trying

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to jump into the fray,

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which is something, unfortunately, we don't, you know

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some of us pride ourselves in not teaching

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our children to behave that way and some

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of us pride ourselves

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in being that way. And it's not something

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that the messenger of Allah sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam taught or appreciated

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nor is it the sign of a person

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who has faith inside of their heart and

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we ask Allah for his protection.

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So we could continue with that part afterwards.

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That's in Abu Sa'id al Khudri

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who narrates that the messenger of Allah Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam

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used to have more hayah, more bashfulness

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than a virgin girl who is

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raised in seclusion. But imagine that such a

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girl if she were to,

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be, you know, put out in front and

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handed her a mic and say, here speak

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to everybody. How how much

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how reserved would she be and how much

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reservation would she have? And the messenger of

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Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam wasn't one who

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would just always say everything all the time.

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Rather when he would become angry,

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he wouldn't have to say anything. Why? Because

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we would just look at him and we'd

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see that his face would flash red and

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we'd see that his his his there's a

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certain vein in his in his forehead that

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would protrude when he would become upset. Oftentimes,

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he wouldn't have to say anything. He wouldn't

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say anything and he wouldn't have to say

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anything. We would see what's, you know, we

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would see what his feeling is about and,

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you know, an issue without him having to

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say anything. Now there is great hikmah in

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this. Right? There's a there's a saying in

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many of the languages of Muslims. Right? They

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say in Arabic,

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The person who has half a brain inside

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of their mouth in their head, you don't

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have to wait to be told explicitly to

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do things. You should be able to figure

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stuff out just by seeing, you know, what's

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going on. The Sahaba radiAllahu ta'ala anhu, they

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used to make muraqabah of the prophet sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallallahu.

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That, like, you know, you don't

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if you want to save your own, honor

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and you wanna save your own dignity,

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don't be somebody who waits for someone to

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tell to say something. Don't be the guy

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that, like, there's garbage in the bathroom, there's

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garbage in the hallways,

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people are talking, people are doing this, that,

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and the other thing. You know, during the

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prayer, people are being disorderly.

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Don't be the person that until the imam

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gets up on the mic and says, ah,

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everybody this, that, and the other thing. Be

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quiet. You know? Don't be that person.

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Don't be the person that, you know, leaves

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garbage somewhere and tell the imam or the

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president says,

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pick up your garbage. Do this, do that,

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do the other thing. Because what have you

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done? You now forced the people in leadership

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to call you out and to humiliate you,

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and that humiliation is not their fault. It's

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your fault. And in fact, you probably will

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get sin for the amount of discomfort that

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you made that person,

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go through in order to have to call

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you out like that because nobody wants to

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do that. Unfortunately,

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we don't have Tarbia

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ourselves. This is one of the things I'll

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tell you very honestly, very frankly. Unfortunately, there's

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very few people in the room. It's something

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I would have liked to share with,

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the entire Mujhmah except for there's probably Hikma

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and not sharing it with them.

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It is that in this month of Ramadan,

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literally several people every day ask me, Sheikh,

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make an announcement about this, make an announcement

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about that, make an announcement about the other

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thing.

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We're not supposed to be people that make

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an announcement about every single thing. Right? And

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more often than not, the people who come

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forward and say make the announcement about this,

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that, and the other thing, they themselves, if

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someone were to make an announcement asking them

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them to do something, they're the first ones

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to get upset about it. Right? Don't worry

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about what other people are doing. 1st worry

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about yourself. Everyone worries about themselves. The entire

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system flows

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perfectly without need for one announcement. Right?

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And

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you know, back to this issue is that

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

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I don't expect that your leaders are going

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to be people who are very nice and

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very humble and very pious and Haya and

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things like that if their

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face is going to have anger in it

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and you're not noticing.

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Right? There's a hadith of the prophet SAW

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Alaihi Wasallam

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However you are, that's how your leaders are

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gonna be for you. If you have a

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leader who is someone who's so sensitive and

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so

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caring and so kind and so reserved

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and,

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you abuse that, then that person people like

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that are not going to be in demand

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anymore.

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Those people you drive them away, and then

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you bring in other people who are going

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to be harsh with you. This is a

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fact of life. We've noticed this in many

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countries. We don't have to

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take names. There have been entire nations,

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in front of our eyes. Population of tens

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and hundreds of millions of people sometimes.

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What happens? There's a ruler who is very

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harsh, extremely stern and harsh with the people

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to the point of being a tyrant and

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killing people and torturing people and blah blah

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blah. People make dua for this person to

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leave. Right? The problem is not in the

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ruler, the problem is in the people.

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If the people were okay, the ruler wouldn't

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have a chance to be able to behave

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the way he was. But the problem is

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people may go, okay. Khalas, you had a

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revolution. Your your ruler is gone. Not one

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person. It could be any one of a

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dozen people that we've seen before our eyes.

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Now look at all of those countries. They're

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in even worse chaos. Why? Because people are

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so unruly.

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The only thing they react to positively is

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what? Is bad behavior. This is something everyone

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should think about. Right? There's a there's a

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book, although I don't necessarily agree with all

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of the, conclusions and findings they have in

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it, but they bring up a very it's

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it's a very easy book to read. InshaAllah,

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maybe after all, you could take a look

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at it. It's called Freakonomics. This is written

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in the nineties. It's something you probably buy,

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use for, like, a dollar on Amazon or

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something like that. Maybe the shipping will cost

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you more than a book. But,

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the idea is they do, like, they do

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statistical analyses of

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how certain problems are solved,

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and they just find, like, effective solutions are

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always the ones that incentivize

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that incentivize the behavior that's that's that's wanted

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out of people. If you incentivize

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bad behavior,

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then your result is going to be bad

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behavior. Even if you preach to people to

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behave well, if the person who behaves badly,

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you reward them, and the person who behaves

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poorly,

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you antagonize them for their their their behavior.

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Right? Forgiveness is a good trait on an

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individual level. Forgiveness for everything on a communal

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level will end up making community criminals.

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You have to incentivize

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you have to incentivize the type of behavior

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that you like, or that you wish to

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see. Otherwise, don't don't be a person who

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incentivizes one type of behavior

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and then wishes for another and then becomes

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upset that that that that the type of

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behavior they wish for is not is not

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being manifested.

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So this is something, obviously, Haya is one

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of those things that, like, if you're the

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only person who has Haya,

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you know, if there's, like, 30 people and

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there's,

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you know,

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only, like, you know, you know, 10 liters

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of water for you to share for the

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next 2 days. Right? And nobody has haya,

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then unfortunately, even the one person who has

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haya has to act like a barbarian if

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they wanna survive, if they don't wanna die.

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But the idea is this is that we

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should cultivate the qualities in ourselves and in

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our children that you should have haya and

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hopefully, you know, there'll be enough people that

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they will they will be able to, as

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a group, you know, have this this this

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value in them. So we don't have to

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act like barbarians and so everyone can survive

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and everyone can get by well,

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get by in a and it calm state

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and a peaceful state.

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So,

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this is the hadith of the prophet

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that that he didn't have to, like, loud

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mouth yell at people and call them, you're

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a hima, you're this, you're, you know, you're

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a gadaa, why don't you see this, can't

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you do anything right, blah blah. They would

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themselves be very keen to, like, watch him

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and they would know what he's trying to

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say oftentimes without him having even to say

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it. And this was their sensitivity as well.

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Allah to Allah, Masha'a gave the best of

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Umas to the best of

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So the hayah the spiritual hayah is what?

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The spiritual hayah is,

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has a different definition.

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So Imam Nawawi says that the ulama say

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that the reality of hayah is

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a set of,

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a set of characteristics,

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in a person

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that causes them to leave every ugly thing

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and never to say anything ugly, never to

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show anything ugly,

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never to act in an ugly way, or

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in an excessive way,

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and also to, you know, a set of

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qualities that forbid a person from

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falling short in,

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giving the of people who have

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a. Right? This is a as well. For

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example, if I owe somebody a $100

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and I have a $1,000 in my bank

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account,

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I should feel ashamed of myself.

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That shame is also part of. I should

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do something bad should happen. Right? If I

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owe someone a $100 and I have 0,

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I still should feel bad that this is

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a a hack over my head and I

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I shouldn't flaunt it. I shouldn't,

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you know, I should there should be something

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inside of me that says that this is

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not right.

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That says that this is not right. This

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is not the way it is. If I

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haven't prayed for the last week, you know,

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I should feel there should be some feeling

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of remorse inside of me. If I've done

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something in a way that's that's that's deficient,

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there should be a feeling about that. This

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is one of the other interesting things, right,

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about this kind of tendency to, like, oh,

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Sheikh, make an announcement about this, that, and

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the other thing. Oftentimes, the people who are

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asking for the announcement need to hear a

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couple of announcement themselves, but they don't feel

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they don't feel shy about that. They disconnect

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what they wanna see from other people, from

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what they should be seeing in themselves.

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And Haya is what? Haya is engendered by

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what? By being beholden to your own state

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before being beholden to other people. So saying,

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Imam Nawi

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says I narrate,

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from Imam Abu Qasim Junaid

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who was a great sheikh and great alim

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of the,

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history of Islam. Junid al Baghdadi is someone

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who came after after the generation of Imam

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Ahmed bin Hanbal

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a universally celebrated person of great spirituality,

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in the history of Islam. So he narrates

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from the sheikh Abu Pazim Junaid

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who said that, Haya is

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to be beholden of the gifts of Allah

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and to be beholden of how you fall

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short in your duty to him

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and to,

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to be always conscious of the angst of

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the the the disparity between those two things.

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That that's that's what Haya is. That's what

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a person should.

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That that's what a person should have, the

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state that they should have. That if they're

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in such a state, that's a state that's

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known as Haya and Allah knows best.

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In this chapter regarding keeping secrets.

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Something that you will be asked about.

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And a shir is what a secret is

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a promise not to tell someone about something.

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So Imam Nawi is saying that this is

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If someone ask you to keep a secret,

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then this also counts as that. And the

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interesting thing is that these things are are

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put in adab, they're put in the chapter

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of adab.

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Why? Because they're not legally enforceable.

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You cannot say, so I told I told

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doctor Arshad not to tell anybody that, you

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know, like,

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I don't know that I have, like, you

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know, that that I that I was sick

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last week and he told someone and so

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you go to the court and sue them

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about that. Right? In America, we're very litigious

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people. You may be able to get some

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money out of someone for stuff like that,

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but in the sharia, you can't.

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It's something that the court doesn't have any

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any there's no material

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any loss that happened between people. The court

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doesn't have any jurisdiction there. Just because the

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court doesn't have jurisdiction doesn't mean it's not

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wrong and it's not a sin.

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In fact, some of the greatest sins and

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the greatest breaches a a person can make

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are completely nonmaterial

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and the court has no jurisdiction in them

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at all whatsoever.

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But they will be more important than those

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things that the than the than than the

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court judges on the day of judgment. And

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all of these things will come out on

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the day of judgment.

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So,

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hadith of the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam,

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that the, messenger of Allah

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said, narrated by Abu Sayl al Khudri al

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Ansari

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that verily from the most evil of people,

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with Allah

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and the people of the worst station with

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Allah on the day of judgment

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is a man who,

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shares intimacy with a woman and she shares

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intimacy with him and then he goes and

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tells other people about it. He tells the

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scribes her to other people. And this is

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if the intimacy was halal or if it

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was haram. If it was haram, the sin

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is bad enough, but the sin isn't compounded

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if a if a person then shares with

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other people or tells or describes her to

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other people. So we know from this hadith

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what? That this hadith also means that a

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secret is something that has to kept and

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that you don't have to

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be told

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that this is a secret, don't tell anybody.

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That you should know that there's a mafoom,

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there's a a type of a common understanding

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between people, a customary understanding between people that

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there are certain things that people

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don't like to have shared with other people.

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And so in those matters, the assumption is

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that it's a secret without having to be

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told that it's a secret.

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You're not allowed to share those things with

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other people. It's sin to share those things

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with other people.

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Again, there is a,

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there's a, you know, there are exceptions to

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these types of things. Right?

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So for example, if a woman a man

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is intimate with a woman and she says,

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oh, yeah. By the way, I have AIDS

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and you know that that woman is going

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to then whatever,

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you know, be intimate with another man. You

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can tell them why because there's a there's

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a hap involved with somebody else. But that's

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the exception. The default cases, that's not,

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that's not, you know, generally what happens. But

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there are a number of things. I failed

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my exam.

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I I'm I'm you know, I have this

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issue. I have that issue. I, you know,

00:28:26 --> 00:28:27

I I owe a $100,000

00:28:28 --> 00:28:28

to the IRS.

00:28:29 --> 00:28:30

You know?

00:28:30 --> 00:28:32

Okay. Well, if there's someone who says, you

00:28:32 --> 00:28:34

know, like, I'm thinking about marrying such a

00:28:34 --> 00:28:36

per such so and so person, my daughter,

00:28:36 --> 00:28:38

then you, you know, then you tell them,

00:28:38 --> 00:28:39

like, you know, I don't think it's a

00:28:39 --> 00:28:41

good idea to marry the daughter. You don't

00:28:41 --> 00:28:42

have to tell the lurid details, but you

00:28:42 --> 00:28:44

tell them that I know something about that

00:28:44 --> 00:28:46

person. Well, what is it? Well, he's not

00:28:46 --> 00:28:48

in financially in a very good shape. Okay.

00:28:48 --> 00:28:50

That that's an exception. But the rule is

00:28:50 --> 00:28:52

you can't just go around telling people those

00:28:52 --> 00:28:54

things, especially if you know that that person

00:28:54 --> 00:28:56

wouldn't like that or if generally normal people

00:28:56 --> 00:28:58

wouldn't like it. And if you're in doubt,

00:28:58 --> 00:28:59

then ask the person first,

00:29:00 --> 00:29:02

but don't assume one way or the other

00:29:02 --> 00:29:03

because,

00:29:04 --> 00:29:06

it's something that that you can really get

00:29:06 --> 00:29:07

burned on on the day of judgment.

00:31:27 --> 00:31:30

Okay. So Said Abdullah bin Umar radiAllahu ta'ala

00:31:30 --> 00:31:32

Anhu An Nurri said his father Umar radiAllahu

00:31:32 --> 00:31:33

Anhu

00:31:34 --> 00:31:36

said that Hafsa his daughter,

00:31:36 --> 00:31:37

Umma Mumineen,

00:31:38 --> 00:31:40

when she lost her husband, her husband his

00:31:40 --> 00:31:41

name was

00:31:43 --> 00:31:46

Khunais bin Khuzafata as Sahmin is a Qurayshi

00:31:46 --> 00:31:47

who had accepted Islam

00:31:47 --> 00:31:48

and he

00:31:51 --> 00:31:52

had passed away.

00:31:53 --> 00:31:56

He said that when his daughter

00:31:57 --> 00:31:59

became a widow meaning she lost her husband,

00:32:00 --> 00:32:02

Hafsa radiallahu anha, he said

00:32:03 --> 00:32:05

I saw Uthman, I met Uthman

00:32:05 --> 00:32:06

and

00:32:08 --> 00:32:09

I said to him,

00:32:09 --> 00:32:10

I offered her to him and I said

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

to him, if you wish,

00:32:12 --> 00:32:14

I will marry you a Hafsa,

00:32:14 --> 00:32:17

the daughter of Omar. Omar Sadat radiAllahu anhu.

00:32:17 --> 00:32:20

And so Sayna Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala anhu said,

00:32:20 --> 00:32:21

I will

00:32:22 --> 00:32:23

look over my affairs

00:32:24 --> 00:32:26

and get back to you.

00:32:26 --> 00:32:28

So he waited

00:32:28 --> 00:32:29

some nights

00:32:29 --> 00:32:31

and then he said that he met me

00:32:31 --> 00:32:32

again

00:32:32 --> 00:32:34

and then he said

00:32:36 --> 00:32:39

it doesn't seem it doesn't seem to me

00:32:39 --> 00:32:41

that I wish to get married right now.

00:32:42 --> 00:32:43

And so then after that,

00:32:44 --> 00:32:47

Sayid Omar alayahu anhu met Sayid Abu Bakr

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

Sadiq alayahu anhu

00:32:49 --> 00:32:50

and he said to him, if you wish,

00:32:50 --> 00:32:53

I will marry you, Hafsa, the daughter of

00:32:53 --> 00:32:53

Omar.

00:32:54 --> 00:32:56

And Abu Bakr was

00:32:56 --> 00:32:57

silent

00:32:57 --> 00:32:59

and he didn't say anything to me.

00:32:59 --> 00:33:00

And

00:33:02 --> 00:33:02

he said that,

00:33:03 --> 00:33:06

I became more upset by that than I

00:33:06 --> 00:33:08

was even with Sayna Uthman because at least

00:33:08 --> 00:33:09

Sayna Uthman said no.

00:33:10 --> 00:33:12

So I became upset and I became even

00:33:12 --> 00:33:14

more upset than than I was with Usman.

00:33:15 --> 00:33:15

And so,

00:33:16 --> 00:33:18

after a couple of nights, the messenger of

00:33:18 --> 00:33:20

Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam came to me

00:33:20 --> 00:33:22

and proposed to marry her, marry Hafsa

00:33:24 --> 00:33:26

and I married her to him. This is

00:33:26 --> 00:33:29

one of the things also to remember that

00:33:29 --> 00:33:31

prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam from all of

00:33:31 --> 00:33:33

his wives, all of them were widows,

00:33:34 --> 00:33:35

either widows or divorces,

00:33:36 --> 00:33:37

except for Sayda

00:33:39 --> 00:33:40

Aisha So this is a you know, it's

00:33:40 --> 00:33:42

a tragedy that that Sayda Hafsa Radha Wa

00:33:42 --> 00:33:45

Ta'ala Anha, her husband had passed away. So

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

he he married her out of a number

00:33:47 --> 00:33:49

for a number of reasons, not,

00:33:50 --> 00:33:52

you know, not excluding which is that this

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

is a tragedy for her that her husband

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

passed away and then she's a widow.

00:33:56 --> 00:33:59

And so, you see, did the prophet proposed

00:33:59 --> 00:34:01

marriage to her and then said that I

00:34:01 --> 00:34:02

married her to him.

00:34:03 --> 00:34:06

And Abu Bakr alaihi wa anhu after afterward

00:34:06 --> 00:34:08

he met me and he said that, it

00:34:08 --> 00:34:10

seems like you, you because they knew each

00:34:10 --> 00:34:12

other. They grew up together. They they all

00:34:12 --> 00:34:14

know each other. And he says that I

00:34:14 --> 00:34:16

think maybe you were upset with me because

00:34:16 --> 00:34:19

I didn't because, when you said when you

00:34:19 --> 00:34:21

offered your daughter Hafsa to me, I didn't

00:34:21 --> 00:34:24

say anything to you. And, he said,

00:34:25 --> 00:34:27

yeah, I was. He says, he he says

00:34:27 --> 00:34:29

to him, he says, the only thing that

00:34:29 --> 00:34:30

prevented me from,

00:34:31 --> 00:34:32

coming back to you with an answer

00:34:33 --> 00:34:35

was a answer to that which you proposed

00:34:35 --> 00:34:37

to me was that I knew that the

00:34:37 --> 00:34:40

messenger of Allah salallahu alaihi wa sallam had

00:34:40 --> 00:34:42

mentioned that he was perhaps interested in marrying

00:34:42 --> 00:34:44

her or he mentioned her in a way

00:34:44 --> 00:34:45

that indicated to me that he may be

00:34:45 --> 00:34:47

interested in marrying her. And I didn't want

00:34:47 --> 00:34:48

to

00:34:49 --> 00:34:50

I didn't want to,

00:34:50 --> 00:34:53

reveal the secret of the Messenger of Allah

00:34:53 --> 00:34:54

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.

00:34:55 --> 00:34:57

That what, you know, if someone is interested

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

in somebody for marriage or these types of

00:34:59 --> 00:35:01

things, these are personal things.

00:35:01 --> 00:35:03

These are personal things. These are not things

00:35:03 --> 00:35:05

that, you know, you just go and let

00:35:05 --> 00:35:06

peel what peel Waqal. And this is one

00:35:06 --> 00:35:07

of the,

00:35:07 --> 00:35:10

really, I guess, sad sad state of affairs

00:35:10 --> 00:35:11

in the Ummah

00:35:11 --> 00:35:14

is that these types of things people used

00:35:14 --> 00:35:15

to have some common sense about them. When

00:35:15 --> 00:35:18

they get together, they'll talk about substantive things.

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

Right? Big big minds talk about ideas.

00:35:21 --> 00:35:23

Right? Small minds talk about like people and

00:35:23 --> 00:35:24

things.

00:35:24 --> 00:35:25

Right?

00:35:25 --> 00:35:26

But these are the only things we have

00:35:26 --> 00:35:28

to talk about because we don't really think

00:35:28 --> 00:35:29

about a whole lot. So all we have

00:35:29 --> 00:35:31

to do is talk about other people and

00:35:31 --> 00:35:33

it's not it's not a good thing. So

00:35:33 --> 00:35:34

Sa'dan Abu Bakr was saying that, you know,

00:35:34 --> 00:35:36

I had a feeling that he was,

00:35:36 --> 00:35:39

that he was interested in marrying her and

00:35:39 --> 00:35:41

but I didn't want to reveal the secret

00:35:41 --> 00:35:42

of the prophet

00:35:42 --> 00:35:44

that I knew because of my proximity to

00:35:44 --> 00:35:45

him, his personal matters.

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

And, he said that if the messenger of

00:35:48 --> 00:35:50

Allah, salallahu alaihi wa sallam, if the prophet,

00:35:50 --> 00:35:51

salallahu alaihi wa sallam

00:35:52 --> 00:35:54

decided not to marry her, he said I

00:35:54 --> 00:35:56

would have been honored to accept your offer.

00:35:56 --> 00:35:57

He said if you decided not to marry

00:35:57 --> 00:35:59

her, I would have been honored to accept

00:35:59 --> 00:36:01

your offer. And it's a hadith narrated by,

00:36:02 --> 00:36:02

Bukhari,

00:36:04 --> 00:36:04

Sahih Bukhari.

00:38:31 --> 00:38:34

Sayedha narrates that all of us, the wives

00:38:34 --> 00:38:37

of the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam,

00:38:37 --> 00:38:38

all of us were together.

00:38:38 --> 00:38:41

When Fatima Radhi Allahu Ta'ala Anha,

00:38:44 --> 00:38:46

she came walking with the Prophet

00:38:47 --> 00:38:49

and she was walking

00:38:51 --> 00:38:53

slightly off the path that the messenger of

00:38:53 --> 00:38:55

Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was walking.

00:38:56 --> 00:38:58

All of us were together and we and

00:38:58 --> 00:39:00

and she was walking slightly to the side

00:39:00 --> 00:39:02

from where he was. So I assume that

00:39:02 --> 00:39:02

that

00:39:25 --> 00:39:25

I I don't,

00:39:26 --> 00:39:27

let's see.

00:39:43 --> 00:39:44

She walked in the way she walked in

00:39:44 --> 00:39:46

the way with slightly different than the walk

00:39:46 --> 00:39:47

of the messenger

00:39:48 --> 00:39:51

wa sallam. At any rate, when she entered

00:39:51 --> 00:39:53

in, the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa

00:39:53 --> 00:39:55

sallam welcomed her and said, welcome my daughter.

00:39:56 --> 00:39:58

Then he sat her down either on his

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

right side or on his left side then

00:40:00 --> 00:40:01

he told her a secret,

00:40:02 --> 00:40:03

after which she

00:40:04 --> 00:40:05

she started to cry,

00:40:07 --> 00:40:08

she started to cry intensely.

00:40:09 --> 00:40:11

And when he saw

00:40:15 --> 00:40:16

the the the the kind of fright or

00:40:16 --> 00:40:18

the kind of horror that was,

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

in her face,

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

he told her another secret and it made

00:40:23 --> 00:40:24

her smile and laugh.

00:40:24 --> 00:40:27

And so Sayla Aksha narrates a Hadith, she

00:40:27 --> 00:40:27

says,

00:40:28 --> 00:40:31

she says, I said to her the Messenger

00:40:31 --> 00:40:32

of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam

00:40:36 --> 00:40:38

special picked you out specially from between,

00:40:39 --> 00:40:40

all the women

00:40:40 --> 00:40:41

in the house

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

to

00:40:42 --> 00:40:45

tell you a secret or to tell a

00:40:45 --> 00:40:46

secret to you

00:40:46 --> 00:40:47

and then you cry

00:40:52 --> 00:40:54

is why did you cry? And so when

00:40:54 --> 00:40:56

the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

00:40:56 --> 00:40:59

got up and left, said I asked her

00:40:59 --> 00:41:01

again, what did the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu

00:41:01 --> 00:41:02

Alaihi Wasallam say to you?

00:41:03 --> 00:41:04

And she said,

00:41:05 --> 00:41:06

I'm not one to

00:41:06 --> 00:41:08

reveal the secret of the Messenger of Allah

00:41:08 --> 00:41:11

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. So when he passed

00:41:11 --> 00:41:13

when the Rasul sallallahu alaihi wa sallam passed

00:41:13 --> 00:41:14

away,

00:41:15 --> 00:41:16

I said to her again,

00:41:17 --> 00:41:18

I I, you know, I asked you, like,

00:41:18 --> 00:41:21

I'm, you know, I really I ask you,

00:41:22 --> 00:41:23

you know,

00:41:23 --> 00:41:23

please

00:41:24 --> 00:41:25

tell me

00:41:25 --> 00:41:26

what,

00:41:27 --> 00:41:27

you

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

know, what was it that the,

00:41:32 --> 00:41:33

you know, you know, tell me, you know,

00:41:33 --> 00:41:34

if there's any hap if you have if

00:41:34 --> 00:41:36

I have any right over you, tell me

00:41:36 --> 00:41:38

what did the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi

00:41:38 --> 00:41:40

wa sallam say to you that day? And

00:41:40 --> 00:41:41

she said now,

00:41:42 --> 00:41:43

yes, I'll tell you.

00:41:43 --> 00:41:46

As far as the first secret that he

00:41:46 --> 00:41:47

told me,

00:41:49 --> 00:41:52

he informed me that Jibril the Angel Jibril

00:41:54 --> 00:41:57

he used to come every year to hear

00:41:57 --> 00:42:00

the Quran from me once or twice,

00:42:01 --> 00:42:03

and now he came to me to hear

00:42:03 --> 00:42:03

it twice.

00:42:04 --> 00:42:07

And I see this as nothing but a

00:42:07 --> 00:42:07

sign that

00:42:08 --> 00:42:10

my time of death is near.

00:42:10 --> 00:42:12

So fear Allah and have patience

00:42:14 --> 00:42:16

and and know that I'm the best of

00:42:16 --> 00:42:18

people to go forth before you. Meaning, I'm

00:42:18 --> 00:42:20

going also I'm gonna go before you

00:42:20 --> 00:42:23

and, I will I'm the best of, you

00:42:23 --> 00:42:25

know, people to send forth before you. I

00:42:25 --> 00:42:27

will intercede on your behalf, etcetera. Meaning, I'll

00:42:27 --> 00:42:29

intercede on your behalf and, you know, my

00:42:29 --> 00:42:31

going forth before you will be

00:42:32 --> 00:42:33

a will be a cause of good for

00:42:33 --> 00:42:34

you.

00:42:34 --> 00:42:35

And so she said that I,

00:42:36 --> 00:42:38

I then started to cry the crying that

00:42:38 --> 00:42:39

you witnessed.

00:42:40 --> 00:42:41

And then when he saw

00:42:42 --> 00:42:44

the fear or the horror on my face,

00:42:45 --> 00:42:47

he told me another secret and he says,

00:42:47 --> 00:42:48

oh Fatima,

00:42:52 --> 00:42:53

is it does it not please you to

00:42:53 --> 00:42:56

know that you will be the the sayida,

00:42:56 --> 00:42:57

you'll be,

00:42:58 --> 00:43:00

the the master of the women

00:43:00 --> 00:43:01

of the believers

00:43:01 --> 00:43:03

or the master of the,

00:43:03 --> 00:43:05

women of the people of this Ummah

00:43:06 --> 00:43:07

in Jannah.

00:43:08 --> 00:43:10

And so she said that when I heard

00:43:10 --> 00:43:12

that I smiled and I laughed,

00:43:12 --> 00:43:15

the smile and laughter that you saw. And

00:43:15 --> 00:43:17

it's a hadith narrated both by Bukhari

00:43:18 --> 00:43:19

and by Muslim.

00:43:19 --> 00:43:21

And this hadith is narrated,

00:43:22 --> 00:43:23

narrative with slightly different wording,

00:43:25 --> 00:43:26

in the other narration.

00:44:29 --> 00:44:29

Is

00:44:30 --> 00:44:31

a Hadith sorry

00:44:32 --> 00:44:33

a Tabiri,

00:44:35 --> 00:44:36

He's a Tabiri

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

and he's someone who narrates from San Anas,

00:44:40 --> 00:44:43

Bin Malik radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu. So he narrates

00:44:43 --> 00:44:45

from Anas radiAllahu Anhu that,

00:44:46 --> 00:44:48

that what he said that that the messenger

00:44:48 --> 00:44:51

of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam once came to

00:44:51 --> 00:44:53

me because he was served in the house

00:44:53 --> 00:44:55

of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. He

00:44:55 --> 00:44:57

said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi

00:44:57 --> 00:44:59

wa sallam once came to me while I

00:44:59 --> 00:45:00

was playing with the other boys,

00:45:02 --> 00:45:04

and he said so am to me and

00:45:04 --> 00:45:06

then he sent me to go take care

00:45:06 --> 00:45:07

of some business,

00:45:07 --> 00:45:09

which held me back from going back to

00:45:09 --> 00:45:10

my mother

00:45:10 --> 00:45:12

at the usual time that I would go

00:45:12 --> 00:45:13

to my mother.

00:45:13 --> 00:45:15

And so when I came home,

00:45:16 --> 00:45:18

she asked me what held you back and

00:45:18 --> 00:45:20

I said the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi

00:45:20 --> 00:45:22

wa sallam sent me to to fulfill some

00:45:22 --> 00:45:24

need of his. And,

00:45:24 --> 00:45:26

she said, what was that need?

00:45:27 --> 00:45:29

And he said, radiAllahu anhu, it's a secret.

00:45:30 --> 00:45:31

And so what did she say?

00:45:33 --> 00:45:35

No, I'm your mother, you can tell me.

00:45:37 --> 00:45:38

I won't tell anyone.

00:45:39 --> 00:45:41

How dare you say that to me, I'm

00:45:41 --> 00:45:42

your mother. No.

00:45:43 --> 00:45:44

This is this is the the the women

00:45:44 --> 00:45:45

of the Ansar

00:45:46 --> 00:45:50

they mashallah this is Sayyidah Sulaym radhiyallahu ta'ala

00:45:50 --> 00:45:51

Anha she was one of the one of

00:45:51 --> 00:45:53

the 4 women of the Ansar, she took

00:45:53 --> 00:45:55

the Bayah of the first bayah tul Akaba

00:45:55 --> 00:45:57

and the second bayah tul Akaba with the

00:45:57 --> 00:45:59

prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam to,

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

protect the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi with

00:46:02 --> 00:46:04

her life if if necessary.

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

So she was actually one of the few

00:46:06 --> 00:46:08

women that the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam because

00:46:08 --> 00:46:09

they were present at that bay'a, he actually

00:46:09 --> 00:46:11

gave them an exemption and they actually were

00:46:11 --> 00:46:13

allowed to go out. They took up arms

00:46:13 --> 00:46:15

and armor and went out in jihad's feast

00:46:15 --> 00:46:16

of illah.

00:46:16 --> 00:46:18

So they're not people we're gonna play, you

00:46:18 --> 00:46:20

know, they're not kind of weak weak character

00:46:20 --> 00:46:22

type people that are gonna play about these

00:46:22 --> 00:46:24

things. So she said she said what? She

00:46:24 --> 00:46:26

says to me immediately, he said it's a

00:46:26 --> 00:46:26

secret.

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

She says to me immediately, indeed, you should

00:46:29 --> 00:46:31

never you should never tell anyone the secret

00:46:31 --> 00:46:33

of the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam

00:46:33 --> 00:46:34

ever. It's

00:46:35 --> 00:46:35

a it's a it's a

00:46:36 --> 00:46:38

emphatic statement.

00:46:38 --> 00:46:41

It's a double emphatic statement and never ever

00:46:41 --> 00:46:43

tell the secret, of the messenger of Allah

00:46:43 --> 00:46:46

Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam to anyone and she

00:46:46 --> 00:46:48

just left it there. And so Sayna Anas

00:46:48 --> 00:46:50

radiAllahu ta'ala who then says to Fabbet who

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

is the narrator, his student who is narrating

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

from him, who is telling this hadith to

00:46:55 --> 00:46:56

as a sign of love to him, as

00:46:56 --> 00:46:57

a sign of love to him, he says,

00:46:57 --> 00:46:58

wallahi,

00:46:58 --> 00:47:01

if I was able to tell anyone, if

00:47:01 --> 00:47:03

it was if it would have been permissible

00:47:03 --> 00:47:05

to tell anyone, I would have told you.

00:47:05 --> 00:47:07

Said I would have told you. And, this

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

is, the narration of

00:47:09 --> 00:47:11

Muslim. Bukhari narrates the same hadith but in

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

a abridged form.

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