Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Remedial Tasawwuf The Fear of God 10142017
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The natural limits of deeds and fear of fear and misogyny are emphasized in the conversation. The importance of affirming one's love for someone and not hating them is also emphasized, along with the story of a man named Hatima Atai who found out he was a generous man and eventually became a Muslim. The importance of affirming one's faith and not giving charity to anyone is also emphasized.
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So we continue,
with the
lesson on Taqwa,
the Hadith of Rasulullah
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
and sayna Abi Hureira radiAllahu anhu
So this is an interesting hadith
narrated by Sayed Abu Horeiro, in
which he mentioned that someone once said,
oh, Messenger of Allah,
who are who who is the most noble
of people?
Who is the most noble of people?
And the wording is it was said or
Rasoolullah
was asked.
Why did they not say who asked? It's
not because they didn't know.
Because
it's because there's a sort of deficiency in
the question.
And so this is is
that they didn't use to unnecessarily expose other
people's faults,
because the the the the method in which
the question was asked
conveys a little bit of still left in
the person. Person.
And we don't I don't say that to
denigrate any
of the rather their was still in progress.
With them, they came they got their and
they got better, which is a lot more
than what we can say about ourselves.
So
Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was asked,
who's the most noble of people?
And he said, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam without skipping
a beat, he said,
the ones who have or fear god the
most.
This is the answer to this question.
So
the questioner
was like, oh, that's not what I'm asking.
Meaning what? He wanted to ask about lineage,
specifically nobility and lineage.
Whereas Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam ascribed nobility
to what? The fear of Allah ta'ala. And
this is the text of the Quran in
The
most noble of you,
in the sight of Allah ta'ala is the
one who fears him the
most. So he said, no. No. We're not
asking about that. We're asking about
lineage. So then Rasulullah
he's like the doctor. He's treating the patient.
You know? So the first answer he gave
him was to dislodge his
mind from the track it was on.
That one tribe is better than the other.
Then he gives him a second answer to
also dislodge his mind from the track it's
on. He said it's Yusuf, Alaihi Salam, because
he's a Nabi and he's a son of
a Nabi, and he's a son of a
Nabi who's a son of the Khalil of
Allah to Allah, Yusuf the son of, Yaqub
the son of, Ishaq the son of Ibrahim
Alay Musallam.
And he says, no. No. No. That's not
what I'm asking about. I'm asking about the
Arabs.
And so Rassoulullah
says, oh, you're asking about so he said,
no. No. That's not what I'm asking about.
Rassulullah
says, oh, are you asking about the
the the the the medal of the Arabs?
And he says, yeah.
He says, then just know who that that
who, that the best of you in Jahiliya
are the best of you in Islam,
as long as you bother to learn and
understand the religion.
Meaning, the same habits that cause you to
be successful in Jahiliyyah
are the same habits which will give you
success in in the deen as long as
you understand the deen.
This is why another reason why it's not
good to just give people the stage
if they don't understand.
Give them the stage in the world of
business, in the world of other things, that's
fine. But in terms of dean and the
master and things like that,
if a person understands the dean,
then they will go very far,
with their
with their own practice of Islam, and they'll
help other people. If they don't if they
don't bother to understand Islam, then
it's like the the tools that Allah gave
them that are good, they're not gonna be
able to use them properly.
And this is an issue. We have this
issue, like, celebrity or whatever, celebrity culture. Okay.
Find someone who's, like, a professional sports player
or a celebrity. If they become Muslim,
we kind of be like, oh, this is
amazing. And, like, that person, we put them
on a pedestal and on a platform. And
it's obviously good to honor somebody who becomes
Muslim or somebody who is maybe was a
Muslim from before.
But because they're celebrity or because they're something
else, we give
them
a
platform.
That's fine, and there's some in it, but
only for the ones who actually what they're
saying and what they're talking about.
Some people some people are like you have
some people. I mean, what
I don't wanna name names even though when
someone does something publicly, there's nothing wrong in
doing so.
And, really, some of these cases are so
egregious, there's no need to do so.
So if there's somebody who is, like, quote,
unquote, a Muslim and he has a show
on, like, TV or something like that and
he, you know, talks nonsense, like, oh, you
know, I think, you know, a big mistake
of this age is people taking their religious
convictions too seriously.
Okay. That's kinda like Kufr. It doesn't matter
if you're, like, have a show on TV.
You know? That's not
that's not that's not really worth that's not
a person that's worth, like, giving a platform
from the Masjid or from the Mimba or
whatever.
These things these types of things, unfortunately, they're
very common in the age we're in.
And, you know, it doesn't necessarily mean you
have to denounce everybody all the time, although
I think that that statement was especially egregious.
But, you know, you don't have to denounce
people. Like, for example, if you're a professional
sports player who's a Muslim,
you know, you don't have to, like, give
them the platform to talk about Deen. You
can definitely recognize them and things. You don't
have to give them the platform to talk
about Dean. That doesn't mean you hate them.
It's just if someone plays basketball for a
living, they're obviously not gonna be, like, a,
you know, erudite scholar of theology.
And some of them are, like, you know,
Marcela
Houston.
Right? Hakim El Wajan, who's actually a very
practicing person and he did and so it
doesn't mean necessarily that I'm, like, I have
axe to grind against people. There are some
people actually who are the mistak of this
hadith that they actually
they make good on their Islam. I mean,
he's not a convert, but, I mean, he
came came closer to Islam later on in
his career that they made good on their
Islam
and
they do bother to understand the deen and
that's what makes them the best when they
practice
versus afterward. But remember Rasulullah
put that that put that condition that you
have to bother to learn what the deen
actually teaches rather than just,
you know, freestyling it.
That indeed the duniya, the material world,
the the the the lower realm. So the
duniya is not just only the material world
because there's parts of the material world. For
example,
if somebody goes to Makkabu Kalama and looks
at the Kaaba and says, oh, it's just
duniya.
If what the Kaaba is to
you only a money making opportunity, then it's
for you it's dunya.
If what the Kaaba for you is an
object that
reminds you it's an emblem of the Deen
that reminds you of Allah Ta'ala then it's
not part of the dunya.
If a person is married and he takes
care of his wife and children
because, you know, he wants to impress his
wife and children
or impress other people about how he takes
care of them, then that's the dunya.
If he does it because he feels responsibility
because it's a commandment of Allah and His
Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi to take good care of
them, then it's not.
But, you know, everything has a natural limit
to how far it goes as part of
the deen.
You need to get to work that's why
your Toyota Camry is part of your dean
because you have to earn a living and
pay your bills.
If that Toyota Camry turns into a Lexus
then
the differential between the 2 of them may
be dunya for some people.
If you're like the president of a country,
then maybe even the limousine is like a
bare minimum for you. Right? It depends on
a person, their circumstances,
whatever. Right?
If somehow the Lexus actually, like, makes financially
more sense for you or,
you know, it was you know, it's something
that, like, you know, you have some sort
of condition and, like, you're very sensitive to
whatever and the temperature and the climate control
is not good for that person and maybe
the the the the, you know, it may
be just part of what they need.
Whereas another person, maybe even the Corolla, the
Camry or Corolla or whatever is too much
for them.
You understand? It depends on your context, but
the point is is the material world, the
part of it that you need in order
to
execute your your your your dean properly,
That's not what we mean from the dunya
but we mean like the perks and the
extras on top of it. And not all
of the dunya is Haram by the way.
So even if you don't need to buy
the Lexus you can buy it. It's fine.
Not all of the duniya is haram
but
the halal part of the duniya is like
food.
Okay?
Haram is like the poison and the halal
part of the duniya is like food.
Poison in any amount is gonna harm you
and in relatively small amounts has the potential
to kill you.
Food is one of those things like if
you ate it you ate it, but like
if you're you know drinking a 6 pack
of Pepsi every morning
before you wake when you wake up and
in the evening before you go to sleep,
it's probably gonna kill you as well.
Whereas if you have a Pepsi once a
week that same Pepsi is not gonna you
know probably most people
it's not gonna harm them.
So
Rassoula,
that's why he
he warned people about the duniya. Not all
of its haram,
but even the halal part of it, if
taken in excess and without common sense, it's
gonna kill you. And in general, for your
spiritual health, it's
in general better to cut down whenever you
can.
If someone's like, oh, you know, like, oh
food, that's the dunya. I haven't eaten for
like 4 days.
Okay. You're going too far with it but,
you know, let's be honest.
You and me are not in that problem
right now. Right?
Very few people get to that point. That's
that's an issue. For the people who get
there, that's fine, but most of us don't
have that issue.
And lest we just criticize people who are
a little bit heavier,
it manifests itself in many other ways. I
know brothers I know brothers who, like, buy
like, like, 10 pairs of sneakers in like
3 months.
And I tell them you should be ashamed
of yourself. You know? And, you know, these
types of things, everyone has these. So you
can't, like, necessarily say buying 10 pairs of
shoes in a month
is haram, but at some point like you
see like some sign of something is in
imbalance. Whereas
the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam teaches you
just like in order to be healthy it
actually teaches you the less food you eat
the better.
Really essentially after the bare minimum, the less
food you eat is the the less food
you eat, the better. Just like that spiritually
the teaching of the the
the the sunnah is that the the the
less dunya the better.
And this is part of the prophetic philosophy
that
Rasulullah
asked for barakah. He didn't ask for a
lot.
He didn't ask for a lot of stuff.
There's only 2 things, 1 in the Quran
and 1 in the hadith that's ever recorded
that that Rasool Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam asked
for an increase in anything.
One is
and that's by the commandment of Allah Ta'ala
where he says
Allah says, say, oh, Muhammad
say,
my lord, increase me in knowledge.
So knowledge is one of the things that
a person is excused for never
feeling satiated from
and encouraged never to be satiated from.
And the second is,
the second is milk.
This is a dua that
when when he used to drink milk, he
would say,
As a dua for drinking milk, oh, Allah
put barakah in it for us and increase
increase us in it. And the the milk
itself in the symbolism and imagery of of
of the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam, it's a metaphor for the fitra,
for the for the original and organic human
nature of a person, which is considered to
be good. Unlike Christianity, we don't consider
a person to be born of original sin.
We consider the fitra to be a good
thing.
And,
it come and the reason I'm not
just saying that because I wanna sound all
all all all philosophical
and and deep and, like, you know,
spiritually and stuff, But
this is actually a narration
with regards to the Isran Miraj that Rasulullah
was offered by Saydul Jibril Alaihi Salam 3
drinks.
And
one was
water, the second was milk and the third
was wine.
And Rasool Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam chose the
milk
And Saidin Jibril alaihi wasalam said to him,
had he had you drank drank the water,
your ummah would have,
would have turned it neglected the dunya to
the point of its own destruction.
Everyone would have
gone out and starved themselves to death and
become monks and nobody, you know, nobody would
have
run society civilization, you would have all died
out. And had you drank the wine, they
would have become materialistic and hedonistic
and,
they would have deviated from the path in
that way. Whereas, the milk is a happy
medium.
There's so much nutrient in it. It's filling.
It can
substitute for a meal,
real milk, not the 2% that,
you know, the 2% that that we have
nowadays, 1% skim milk that the ulama joked
that you can make wudu from it. It's
closer to water. But like actual milk, if
you drink an actual cup of milk
it's it's it has enough dunya to, you
know, give you everything you need but it's
not gonna become drunk and cause you to
like marry
merrymaking and, like, party and go crazy and,
like, whatever. You know?
It's a
good balance. It's it's a it's it's a
it's it's a balance that gives you what
you need and spares you what you don't.
So at any rate so that's why I
say that. I just say that that's not
something I kind of made up in order
to be all interpretive. It's actually something also
a teaching of the sunnah.
So anyway,
coming back to the hadith, Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam said the dunya.
Right? And what did we say the dunya
is what's beyond what you need for the
material world?
The dunya is sweet,
and it's lush.
It's beautiful.
And Allah Ta'ala,
he put you in charge of it.
He said why don't you watch this for
me for some time?
Not that Allah is not watching but you
know he said here I give you enough
power to control what's going on around you.
Here. So Allah Ta'ala put you in charge
of it for a time. He trusted you
with it and he's watching. How are you
gonna what are you gonna do with this?
How are you gonna how are you gonna
deal with this?
Which is which is which is what's happening
right now. Allah is watching. Everybody has some
sort of
responsibility.
Allah gave all of us some sort of
control.
You know, one day you'll be married, you'll
have a family, you'll have children, you'll go
from being the, you know, you'll go from
being the,
whatever, the mill working in the mailroom at
work and making coffee as an intern. One
day, you'll actually be a manager and you'll
have people underneath you.
Allah's watching, like, how did you behave when
you were at the bottom of the chain?
And how did you behave? How did you
change when you got to the top?
And change is not necessarily bad. People can
change for the better as well.
But,
just like that, they can change for the
worse.
So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, he gives this
test to everybody,
and then he says
he says,
in a wording that's probably not, like, the
most politically correct
or or suited to the modern sensibility,
but it's very rooted in common sense. And
it's the Kalam of Nabuwa, so I really
don't care what what, you know, how it's
gonna look on CNN.
Why? Because there's a lot of hikmah and
there's benefit in it for us.
He said he said that, the the the
dunya is sweet and it's lush,
and Allah has trusted you with it. And
he's watching what what you're gonna do with
it. So fear Allah when it comes to
women and fear Allah when it comes to,
sorry. Fear Allah when it comes to the
dunya and fear Allah when it comes to
women.
And he reminds the Ummah, he says the
first fitna of Banu Isra'il is with regards
to women.
Now before we throw up the flag of,
misogyny and patriarchy on the play, try to
understand what it means.
It doesn't mean women are evil.
If it meant that
we would have had a large amount of
corroborating material from the Quran and from the
sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
extolling how evil women are and how horrible
they are and how their original sin is
their fault and they're white.
I said, Adam got kicked out of Jannah
and they have this fault and that fault,
and none of that's there. That's some of
it is there in the Christian and Jewish
material for sure. It's not there in ours.
But the advice is for a number of
reasons that fear the Dunia and fear women.
Why?
Because,
first of all,
a woman in the household of her husband,
specifically
and in general,
a person can abuse them much easier than
they abuse another person and get away with
it.
And,
again, people will throw up the flag of
misogyny and this and that. The fact of
the matter is it's just how it is.
Women, some wives abuse their husbands, you know,
and stuff like that. It happens but it's
the exception, the rule is generally the other
way around. Why? Because generally speaking, a man
has power over his wife
even if it's the most, like,
modern progressive liberal enlightened couple in the in
the in the world. When the rubber hits
the road human beings are human beings. They
act in certain ways that are very normal
and predictable
and those things happen.
And if you have any,
what you call doubt about this, just open
the news.
It's everything. What is the whole Harvey Weinstein
thing? The guy has been doing I've got
like a serial
like barbarian
type dude who's been doing this stuff serially
for like how many years, and it like
overnight it's like this guy has been abusing
everyone,
and nobody said anything. Why? Because they're all
afraid, and this and that and the other
thing. It proves, you know,
this is just a thing.
When people have power they do these things.
Okay?
And then people call me up at night
in the middle of the night, oh, Sheikh,
I heard about this scandal, I heard about
that scandal. You know, at least Harvey Weinstein
you could say, oh, he's not a Muslim.
I heard about this and that in the
Muslim community as well. Well, guess what?
Allah knows best what's true, what's not true.
I'm not a judge, so thankfully, I'm not,
obliged by Allah to,
you know,
scrutinize,
every claim and every counterclaim of every person.
I just tell people in general,
you know, if something wrong happened then that's
not right and victims should receive justice.
And if, something wrong didn't happen, then people
should stop spreading fitna and,
you know,
as far as in the middle who scrutinizes
claims. I don't have the authority to do
that and I know for a fact that
trial by public opinion never works out. It
doesn't actually benefit victims. Even when something wrong
happens, it doesn't benefit victims at all. So
whatever.
But the point is is this, is that
we ignore these hadith of Rasool Allah sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam to our own detriment.
Unless the sisters think that they get off
the hook very easily, and yes, the men
are, mashallah, doing all the abuse, this applies
to you as well
because has a mother-in-law ever not abused her
daughter-in-law
or vice versa?
Or have women never backbitten one another or
talk garbage about one another? Knowing that they're
gonna get away with it much easier than
if they take on the patriarchy or whatever,
right? It's just it just has to do
with what? It has to do with
Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam knowing that
women are
going to be in this position
of
basically being taken advantage of and oftentimes they're
not gonna have any recourse to anything. So
he's reminding the Umrah, don't don't go there.
Don't do that. It's not worth it. There's
no benefit in it for you, for them.
It's not okay. It's not cool. It's gonna
end up destroying you. It's the part of
the dunya that's going to
destroy more people than anybody else. And he
reminds of Ummah why because the first and
greatest fitna of the people of Banu Israel,
to which it seems mister Weinstein belongs as
well, was,
was what? Was in their treatment of women.
And Rasool Allah Salam
doesn't and Allah Ta'ala Himself doesn't tell the
stories of Bani Israel
so that we can laugh and say, oh,
look Jews.
That's not the point of it.
Those people were people who believed in Allah
and they believed in his messengers and they
also carried the the message of revelation through
difficult times.
Rather, the reason their stories are told and
their mistakes are pointed out are what?
Are that
Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, you will follow
the people who came before you hand's breath
for hand's breath to the point where if
they went into a lizard hole, you would
have gone into a lizard hole just because
they did it. And
Sahaba radiAllahu anhu asked,
do you mean the Christians and the Jews
and the Christians? And Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa
sallam rhetorically
asked, who else do you think I mean?
Meaning, of course, that's who I mean.
There's another narration of this hadith,
in which Rasulullah sallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
you'll follow them hands breath to hands breath
to the point if one of them openly,
committed zina with his own mother, you would
have done the same thing after afterward.
And Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
didn't if you, like, read the hadith, if
you read, like, thousands of hadith afterward, you'll
realize there's very few occasions in which he
says things that are that harsh.
Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
In fact, usually he shies away from saying
things like that. Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. He
had a lot of Haya in him. Just
to say things like that, it was like
over the top. There's some people when they
talk, you know, they're always over the top
in everything they say
and they go too far and they just
like to be very, like, like they have,
like, a very,
like a strange rhetorical flare that that they
use words in order to, like,
exacerbate situations or or exaggerate, you know, what
they're talking about or to gain some notoriety
or attention. Rasool Allahu alaihi wa sallam, his
speech is very simple
and he used to shy away from things
like like that and he used to when
talking about the adab of, you know, the
adab of, like, using the restroom, he wouldn't
say, like, urinate and defecate. He would say,
like, well, when one of you has to
go out or he'd use some sort of
kinai or shada, some sort of metaphor
or allusion toward toward those things because he
didn't like mention of things like that.
Or, you know, instead of you know, he
wouldn't say things like, you know, sexual *.
He would say, like, well, if one of
you,
you know, goes to his wife. Like, he
would use euphemisms like that. The only times
when he would use
harsh expressions like this is when it was
needed in order to convey a message or
a a teaching from the teachings of Revelation.
So
that's why Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said this
was the first fitna from from the fitna
of Bani Israel.
Meaning what? You're all gonna go through this.
All of you are gonna go through this.
And
lest a person lose sight of this fact
because this is contextually very relevant to us
in a way it hasn't been in the
past. Okay?
The female form is completely commoditized.
It is completely commoditized.
It is used to sell all sorts of
things. It's just used to sell stuff.
If you wanna buy
Mach 3 Razor,
why is there an attractive woman in the,
in the in the advertisement for it?
Why? Because the female form is for sale
and it's used to sell things.
That's a fact. That's
something that has effect on men, has effect
on women as well.
And
it's very
hypocritical
of people who on one side,
wish to
flaunt the the the the female form
and throw it up into people's faces to
the point where
how a woman looks becomes
essentially the primary
the primary and first thing that you form
judgments about her based on
and celebrate that.
And then at the same time at the
same time, you wanna say like, oh, you
know, how dare you be attracted to women
or treat treat a woman as a consumer
good or whatever.
And obviously
doing one doesn't justify the other but
philosophically these two things are inconsistent.
This is one reason why
I, myself,
not only
and not like kinda like modernist progressive lip
service. I genuinely,
I genuinely,
have respect for our sisters
because brothers are, like, undercover brother. No beard,
shaved beard, beard with like a baseball cap
on so you look like a hipster or
something, and like jeans and a shirt, and
you just be like random dude out out
in the out in the street. Right? When
I was in high school before I could
grow a beard I used to get pulled
over by the cops because everyone thought I
was Mexican
and, you know, I'd just get harassed by
them and like randomly pulled over and like,
oh, you fit the description of a drug
dealer that we're looking for. I'm like, yeah.
Like all of them.
You know. But now because I have a
beard and I dress traditionally, now the cops
like are asked me for being Muslim, for
being who, you know, who I am.
You know, so brothers can, like, kind of
randomly, like, taqiyah, like, dissimulate into society,
whereas sisters
become like the the basically, like, the the
finger that's, like, being poked in the eye
of Kufr
because what? They're like, we refuse to
we refuse to,
you know,
participate in the system where our value is
based on what we look like.
That's why I have respect for that because
you have to understand how,
how much of a slap it is in
the face in the entire niram in the
entire system of Kufa for a woman
to know that her form will get her
ahead and you'd completely boycott it. Completely boycott
it. Just like,
you know, in Selma, we're not gonna ride
the bus anymore, so we're completely not gonna
we're not gonna, you know, like, we're gonna
boycott the system a 100%.
Which is why I'm not super excited about,
like, you know, hijabi cover girl commercials. Why?
Because you're kind of missing the point. You're,
like, finding a way to
make it back into the system, you know,
like, okay. If I sit in the, like,
the middle of the bus instead of the
back of the bus, is that cool?
You know, this is an entire system. There's
something very wrong and flawed with it. You
have to understand that.
And and by boycotting it, it's like boycotting
capitalism at its, like,
Freudian roots.
Because the whole idea of why is it
that they put
they put women in the advertisement for everything
is because they know that, like, it triggers
subconscious
means of pulling and pushing people in,
you know, in in getting them to do
what you want whether it's to vote for
someone or whether it's to modify their behavior
in a certain way or to buy something
or whatever,
any of these types of things. It's a
very it's kind of very primarily pulls on
a person,
both men and women
for different reasons, but both men and women
are very primarily
pulls pulls out people in order to behave
in a certain way. Men be for obvious
reasons and then women
for the reason
that that like, they see how much attention
that that these women who do these things
get and nobody wants to get left behind
or ignored or whatever. But there's probably more
to it than that but I think
it's it should be
open for a person who is
halfway thinking why why this is like, there's
more going on here than than is
than than first meets the eye.
So
this
admonition of Rasool Allah
to taqwa, to fear Allah Ta'ala when it
comes to the dunya
and then fear Allah Ta'ala when it comes
to the affair of women.
Again, does it's not like a very, like,
a PC sounding sound bite, but I wish
people would do it more often.
And we ourselves as a community, we'd be
saved from so many more fit and so
many more tribulations
if we were like,
our aslaf and very careful in the way
that we,
that we dealt with women both as men
and as women, and Allah knows best. I
will give an opportunity because I know this
is probably
jarring enough for the modern mindseted person,
to hear that, if someone has, like, some
misgivings or questions, instead of judging one another,
ask what your question is or what need
you have for reconciliation,
and we'll attempt our best to
offer some explanation.
You know, I actually actually
at the program, one of the sisters came
to me and she said she said in
the 1st day and I don't fault her
for it because this is like this is
the the this is the custom of the
place we're at. You probably noticed, like, I
just look at the men's section. Right?
One of the sisters actually at that program
in Turkey, she's like, Sheikh, you know, I
think it would be better if you looked
at the women's section because,
you know, if you don't then we don't
feel engaged in this and that and the
other thing. I said, what can I do?
I'm sorry. This is a part of our
tradition.
And,
nobody is nobody is Masoom. Nobody is divinely
protected from from from error.
And,
you know,
just because a person a man observes certain
protocols doesn't mean that he hates women or
whatever. In fact, I've seen from the masha'ikh
the people who are probably the the ones
who have the least problem.
They're the ones who are most scrupulous in
these issues, and that's probably why they have
the least problems.
And so,
you know, we have in America celebrity culture
and groupie culture and, you know, people, you
know, whatever, not observing the protocols
both men and women.
And then bad stuff happens afterward and then
everyone's like, oh my god. The whole deen
is a lie and it's just men who
are taking advantage of women and blah blah
blah. And the funny thing is that in
the Muslim world people know this.
People have this common sense like, you know,
if your 18 year old daughter is like
going every single
whatever talk or lecture of the handsome young
imam in the in the Masjid, you know,
or whatever
and she's like, oh, can I go? He's
having a private meeting in his house.
No.
What are you saying stuff for? Are you
saying Sheikh is like an abuser?
No. He's not. You're not going though. Why?
Because they have common sense about these things.
Because people
have lived in those places for centuries,
they've dealt with imams for centuries, they've dealt
with ulama for centuries, they've dealt with all
of these things for centuries.
They know
if you, you know, if you behave, like,
recklessly, then dumb stuff happens.
It's very summarized. You can write this down.
Right? If someone asks you, what did you
learn from this class on Sufism?
Write this down. Play stupid games, win stupid
prizes.
What are you saying, Sheikh? The imam is
a bad guy and he's an abuser? No.
He's good. Whatever. I mean, if he knows
what he's talking about, then by all means,
benefit from his teaching,
benefit from his,
you know, the hadiths you learn, you know,
ask questions in the dares, all of this
other stuff.
And then afterward, you know,
if
the possibility comes up to meet at a
hotel room or, like,
you know, you've been Whatsapp Whatsapp,
exchanging Whatsapp messages for, you know, whatever, like
between the hours of 1 and 3 in
the morning.
Something went wrong in the middle.
He should have known better
95%.
5% of you also should have known
better.
And so that's something that, like, we as
a community have to mature because a lot
of these experiences are really new.
Most massages in America didn't even have imams
in the nineties and, like, so we have
we're kinda going around the merry-go-round the first
time.
This will happen again and again and again.
You know, again, I'm not commenting on specific
I don't know. Right? I'm not defending anyone.
I'm not not defending someone. I'm not whatever.
I don't know. And I really, you know,
this is from the the
I thank God every day that there's so
many things I'm not responsible for
and I'm not a judge either. So,
you know, people who are in those positions
of authority in the community have the obligation
to investigate these things and figure them out.
You know, I don't have access to
anything that I should, you know,
be able to scrutinize what happened, what didn't
happen. And if you think I'm talking about
one scandal, trust me, I know of, like,
12 of them going on right now involving
imams and things like that. So don't don't
worry about that. What's the what's the thing?
On one extreme, all men are pigs and
I hate every, man and they're all after
the same thing and,
they all use the religion in order to
manipulate people and blah blah blah. Right? And
the other extreme, oh, my sheikh is like
an angel walking in the earth and he
would never do anything like that. He would
never think like that. He would never this.
He would never that. And, you know, both
of them are, like,
rooted in some sort of like fantasy world.
The first one is like a nightmare and
the second one is a fantasy. Both of
them are not true. They don't reflect actual
reality. The reality is what? We're all here
in the dunya.
Everybody likes money. Everybody likes, you know, every
man likes having attention for women, every woman
likes having attention for men. There may be
exceptions, but in general that's the rule.
You know, everybody likes,
you know, somebody who speaks nicely to them.
Nobody
likes doing work. Nobody like, you know There's
again exceptions to the rules. Most of them
have to do with, like, you know, different,
like, mental conditions.
But in general, this is how it is
for everybody.
So be polite, nice to everybody,
don't subject yourself to harm, and thereby subject
other people to harm as much as you
can. That no one's saying that, like, you
know, and the the burden of this is
just as much on men as it is
with women. One very unfortunate thing
is,
that culturally,
Muslims oftentimes in the family,
they completely put the burden of these things
on their daughters
and they don't, you know, their sons are
running around doing God knows what. I have
I cannot sympathize with that because my parents
basically
decided to raise all of us as daughters.
And,
you know,
so I was very sheltered in the way
I was growing up and, like, I think,
like, whatever. My mother, like, saw me standing
with a girl one time in school and
I got beaten up. So that was basically
the end of that.
But the point is is that okay, fine.
Like, I'm totally, like, I I totally accept
the fact that that's bogus
and parents should teach their their sons, hyat
just like they teach their daughters.
There may be a little bit more anxiety
with women just because physically if if, for
example, if I'm in
if if, you know, somebody of my hyphen
build is
in
finds themselves secluded with a woman, right, of
a of a like a normal whatever strength
and proportions,
she's not gonna be able to overpower me.
So there's a little bit maybe people should
recognize that there's a little bit of of
dynamic because of that because of which women
need to be a little bit more cautious.
But Aslan, at the end of it, if
both people
make the niyyah to do something wrong,
then
God save us. It was a hadith of
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
that that that state is such a bad
state that when a believer commits zina,
the iman literally leaves their their heart, and
it hovers over them, and it intervenes bit
between them and the heavens. And if it
wasn't for doing that, Allah Ta'ala would have
struck that person down in that in that
moment.
But at the flip side, also, we read
from the story of the Quran. Right?
The previous hadith we read was of Sayna
Yusuf, Alaihi Salam.
Hafsaab. Right? You read that. Right?
What is the?
What?
Hold on. Clearly.
Say it clearly.
Uh-huh. What?
How does I go?
Go ahead.
Yeah. So that she was, like, overwhelmed and,
like, taken by him, And he would have
also been taken by her. Was it not
that Allah showed, that he he was shown
the the burham, the the decisive proof of
his Lord?
The tafsir of this ayah is that that,
literally, Allah taught
Said Nayyousaf the form of his father
chastising him that, what are you? What are
you? You're gonna commit with this woman right
now? Right? So he's a, and he's seen
the form of his father who's also a
nebbi,
chastising him. This is the protection this is
what we when we say the
the prophets are
are divinely protected by error
from error, it doesn't mean that they themselves
are infallible.
Christians believe in infallibility as something in internal
to a person of sainthood.
We say no. Everyone's a human being. Allah
protected him.
That this is such a temptation that he's
a nebbie and he has to be shown
his father who's also a nebbie chastising him
in the moment.
Otherwise, he would have been taken by her
as well.
Who here is a nubby? Raise your hand.
Whose pops is a nubby?
Just don't go there.
Right?
That's the that's whatever. And I apologize. I
know, like, there's, like, a lot of issues
that are, like, wrapped up in this, and
it's not
it's not, like, super PC, but, like, what
are we gonna do? It's the. Yes? Go
ahead. I need a question.
So what would the be if you, are
learning from a scholar, like, 1 on 1?
There is. I would just say make sure
it's always in a public place and never
never the in the interaction. If your
if your goal is only to learn that
the interaction is like you come on time,
you leave once it's over, it's always in
a public place.
This is a a a sensibility that the
the,
our Aslaf had. So for example, there are
many people in the
in the
even in Tassowuf
where there are many women of of of
remarkable spiritual achievement to the point that that
that the men used to honor them. Hussein
Al Hasan al Basri, he used to give
ban every now and then. He used to
give a a,
and he would have never he never would
give,
he never would give,
his lecture until,
Rabia Al Aduia was there. She's a one
of
the pious women of the Ummah and a
person known for her to
the point where he used to say he
used to say that,
most of what I say, it's like wasted.
It goes on deaf ears. She's the only
under person who'll understand what I'm teaching.
But
there are stories in the past where, like,
for example, someone would come and benefit from
one of the from one of the the
women of of knowledge or of taqwa
or, you know, come to ask for duas
and things like that for years.
And then that that man will make a
comment like,
oh, you're the clothes you're wearing are so
nice
today.
And then she'll say that's it. This is
that before you were coming because for something
else, and now now I'm
made aware that your eyes are seeing something
other than what, you know, what you claimed
you're looking for. Go somewhere else, you got
lost.
Obviously, not in in such rude words, but,
you know, still not mincing words either. So,
yeah, I mean, part of me wants to
say, like, use your common sense, but common
sense not so common. So
I I would I would I would just
say, like,
I would just say keep it keep it
to keep it to business.
I I would say this. If if if
such a person asks you to wear niqab,
you shouldn't take it, like,
personally or be offended by that
because oftentimes, the the reason they're doing it
is not cause they're trying to, like, enforce
some sort of patriarchy or be culturally insensitive
or any it's, like, far more practical than
that.
And, I understand myself that there is a
there is a a line that can be
crossed
where
the separation between men and women becomes so
so,
onerous that the sisters essentially get shut out
of any sort of benefit from Dean.
And,
again, my you know, I I don't know
if I can give some sort of one
size fits all answer except for like, everybody
just remember we're in the dunya for a
short amount of time.
We have to work with one another, help
each other out.
So, you know, people should have some sort
of,
some sort of, concern,
for the for the benefit of one another
and not be completely, like, selfish,
in in what they what they what they
want both in their desires or in their
overzealous, like,
taqwa for themselves
that, you know? So,
this is a very important I mean, this
is something that happened.
At some point told the women, stop coming
to the Masjid.
And,
this is something that, I guess because there's
so much argument about this, and nobody knows
how to read books. So the argument becomes,
like, even sillier Alice in Wonderland silly type
argument.
So, for example, people say, well, women in
the could came to the Masjid in time
of Rasool Allah sallam, therefore,
They only used to come for 2 prayers.
You can read this. If you don't believe
me, you can read Abu Walid al Baji,
the Andalusian,
hadith and commentator on the Muwata.
He wrote in his.
He brings narration. It's not like he's just
talking about it. He brings narration. So the
women used to come for 2 prayers only,
for Isha and for Fajr.
And there was no light in the masjid
of the prophet
until the 7th year of Hijra.
So less than 3 years, there was Talmih
Mudari had the idea we should light candles
in the in the masjid at nighttime.
If you light candles in the room,
you know, from where me and Bilal are
sitting, you cannot make out a face.
Right? If it's just like a a candle,
unless you're gonna have, like, super, like, 80
candles in the room. If it's just, like,
2 or 3 so people don't bump into
stuff. Right? You're not gonna have a lot
of candles in the room.
And so,
in the Fajr of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasalam, it's a narration of the Muwata
that they used to pray it so early
because part of Fajr is it's pretty much
like almost day outside. You know, the end
part of Fajr last half hour of Fajr
is almost like daylight outside. So we used
to pray fajr so early that,
that, at this distance, you cannot make faces
out outside, much less inside the building.
And,
even then,
the the the women used to come right
before the and used to leave right after
salaam. You know why the imam turns to
the side and makes zikr before getting up
from his place?
It's because Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used
to do that. He used to sit, and
from his peripheral vision, he would see the
women.
And once they're all gone, then he would
stand up and the sahaba knew, okay. Now
we can leave without jostling them.
And even then, even on top of all
of that, Rasulullah SAWSAWN said what? He said
the best place for the best place for
the salat of a a woman is in
her home and the place that's more secluded
is more reward than the
the the place that's not. And this hadith,
I one one of our preachers, he actually
completely erroneously interpreted this hadith
as being specifically for 1 person, and he
brought narrations that I've never seen in a
book before.
And I called several of them hadithin and
said, have you read this before? No. This
is I have no idea where this guy
get this from. And he actually later issued
an apology.
And then afterward, Allata forgive all of us.
And, but the problem is when you make
a mistake, a 1,000 people hear you and
you make an apology. Like, 15 people hear
you. So the the point is is this
is that no. It's a general pronunciation
or sorry, pronouncement.
And, Rasulullah,
just like
he said that the salat of the men
is
better in the masjid than the salat at
home, it doesn't mean praying at home is
haram.
So the likewise, it doesn't mean it's haram
for a woman to pray in the masjid.
If she sees some benefit or needs to
get out of the house or whatever,
she can pray in the masjid.
And it's it's the mirror of what? Like
a man praying at his own.
It's not a sin. It's just
it's it's suboptimal.
But, you know, even on top of all
of those circumstances
what happened was that
that Rasulullah
said still the the best prayer of the
women is in their home and the part
secluded part of the house receives more reward
than the open part. And even then, Rasulullah
said what? He said, the
the the best of the rows of the
men are the front ones, and the worst
of the rows of the men are the
back ones. And the best of the rows
of the women are the back ones, and
the worst of the rows of the women
are the front
ones. And
even then, Rasulullah
also said don't forbid women from the slave
women of Allah from coming to the
masjid. So in Sayna Umar so you have
to okay. So these are all disparate data
points.
You could either say, oh, this conflicts with
that.
But the fuqaha and the ulama of Islam
always said when you have a situation like
this,
the superior
explanation is the one that allows all of
the data points to fit into the picture
harmoniously rather than conflicting with one another.
So the idea is that, yes, it is
superior for for a woman to pray at
home in in seclusion,
but if for example,
you know, there's gonna be a a talk
or a class of benefit in the masjid,
they can come.
And if they pray in the masjid, it's
not like they committed a sin.
It's just that they, you know, they did
something like my wife, for example, she studied
for 7 years in Madrasa. She speaks classical
Arabic fluently with somewhat of a Desi accent
but still fluently.
And,
she studied a lot, and,
you couldn't tell if you met her. I
think some of the sisters here may have
met her because she's not, like, super, like,
shake up in your face and giving about
everything all the time like I am. And,
but, she's, like, very learned. When she goes
to the masjid, if there's, like, a a
like, one of the olamah comes and visits
and she she wants to hear them speak,
even if the prayer time comes, she'll pray
separately from the congregation because she knows that
she'll receive more reward doing that. It doesn't
mean that if you pray with the congregation,
there's nothing necessarily wrong with
it.
But
if there's a benefit, go ahead and go.
No one should stop you. The benefit could
be just as much as, like, for example,
you know, who feels as spiritual at home
as they do in the masjid?
And mothers, it's even worse because, like, you
know, the kids are constantly they don't let
you go. This and that. You need, like,
15 minutes to get away or whatever and
Go. Go. There's nothing wrong with that. Right?
So Sa'da Amar radiAllahu anhu went why did
he tell the women stop coming to the
Masjid?
He told the women stop coming to the
Masjid. He didn't bar them. He just told
them stop coming. And the women went and
complained to Said Aisha.
Right? We're gonna start women's march now, right?
So they went to complain to say
that Aisha that this is she's gonna like
go to bat for us because it was
no one said no Omar who had utmost
respect for the the mothers of the believers.
And if they said something to him, he
did not he didn't say anything back ever.
He never said anything back. He'd just be
quiet and listen. That's it. Done.
In in the in the last year of
his Khilafah before he was assassinated,
he actually
himself
paid for all of them to go and
make Hajj in the in the official
Khalafil
caravan and things like that. He used to
he used to take very good care of
them and he used to honor them and
he used to not give them a hard
time.
Rather, he would he would show them, like,
so much respect and deference that, like, that
he would never said anything back to them.
What did Saeed Aisha radiAllahu anha say? She
said if Rasool Allah SWAMI knew the way
you're coming to the Masjid nowadays, he would
have himself told you not to go.
What does that mean?
That means
again, there's no hard and fast rule.
The hard and fast rule is what? If
there's khalt, if people are mixed in with
one another, that's haram.
After that, if someone gave me the the
the,
what you call the
Ikhtyar, the choice,
I would have had a a barrier between
the men and women. It would be like
a screen or something like that that the
men exit
at a different time. The women exit at
a different time
and, you know, they don't see one another
or whatever.
But at the same time, I'm not gonna
waltz into somebody else's
show
and be like, oh, stuff for a lot.
I'm out of here. I'm this and that.
I mean, we were guests in Turkey, right,
in the So
I'm not gonna be like, oh, how dare
you guys have this? This is horrible. Don't
you guys know hadith, this, that, and the
other thing. Why? Because what I read from
the hadith and what seems to be the
the from the hadith of Rasulullah
with this with regards to this, which we'll
talk about later on when we talk about
the the the limbs of the heart,
is that, look, you know, everybody has to
just work with each other and, like, have
some sort of respect for one another and,
like, have some sort of common sense and
things like that and we'll we'll get through
it. You know what I mean? So if
you're gonna alienate all the sisters by putting
up a a a parda because they you
know? Then don't do it.
And if, you know, if but on the
flip side, if it's gonna be like, okay,
following someone on Twitter turns into, like, direct
a message, it turns into, like, WhatsApp at
3 in the morning,
then
nobody should nobody should, like, pretend like something
wrong is not happening here.
I don't care how wonderful and pious your
Sheikh is. Allah
will will,
you know,
the person who doesn't fear him,
he'll,
he'll he'll teach that person the lesson of
why he should have feared him.
And
Allah protect all of us.
Muslim. So the 2 hadith left in this
bab inshallah.
Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used to it was
a habit of his to make the du'a.
O Allah, indeed I ask you for guidance
and for for for taqwa, for your fear
that I should fear you. And
virtue,
and,
meaning that I should be a a a
a person of ifa, not a person who
hankers after the dunya.
And it's all of its different forms previously
mentioned forms,
rather a person who, like their virtue, makes
them a person of akhirah,
then I ask you for for freedom from
need. It's a very short dua. Everyone should
memorize it.
That this is what you, Rasuulullah SAW, used
to ask for all the time. The idea
is that your taqwa is something also like
tawba, something Allah Ta'ala does for you, and
then you do it just like that. Taqwa
is also a capacity Allah Ta'ala gifts you.
And so you should ask him for it
all the time, and he'll give it to
you,
and he'll give it to you.
You know? And by the way, you know,
like, all these things, all these, oh my
god.
This is Haram. That's Haram. The dunya. Now
I can't have Alexis anymore. And, like, I
have to whatever and
blah blah blah. And
now I have to stick it in the
eye of capitalism, so I'm gonna have to
wear nihab from now on. And, like, oh,
I like, you know, I saw a girl
at school. I'm going to * and all
this thing. The point of all of this
is what?
This is all for our benefit.
The
Allah says in his book, he says,
Muhammad. I didn't send the Quran onto you.
I didn't send the Quran onto you so
that you could be wretched. That Allah ta'ala
wanted the kuffar to have fun, and then
he's gonna fry them. And he wanted the
believers to, like, have a horrible time, and
then you'll go to Jannah later.
No. Right? If you understand why you're doing
what you're
doing, then
you're no longer miserable doing it. If you
don't understand why, it's gonna be misery. There's
so many people like, oh, I gave up.
I couldn't deal with it anymore. I'm tired
of feeling bad about having a burger at
Burger King, and I'm tired of feeling guilty
about, like, you know, this and that and
everything in Islam is haram, and, like, I'm
just done with it, and Allah will forgive
me or some people when they're done with
it, like, they actually, like, leave the deen
and stuff.
It's for your own benefit. It's for your
own good.
It's for really, it's for your own if
you understand how how beneficial it is for
you and how good good it is for
you in this world as well as the
hereafter, then you won't feel so bad about
it.
And if you slip up and trip up,
you'll be you'll still won't, like, wanna
abandon the whole program. Right?
So
it's not it's not so that you you
be wretched. Otherwise, why would Allah
have made if the point is that every
believer should be wretched and, like like, you
know, feel horrible all the time? Why would
Allah make, you know, marriage lawful? Why would
Allah make it lawful for a person to
spend their wealth on so many things?
Why would Allah ta'ala, you know, give a
person Jannah forever and ever? Right?
Christians find find our notion of jannah to
be almost ludicrous
because
every every
single and every single desire a person has
indulged in Jannah.
So what does this I thought you guys
were all spiritual people. What? Do you want
us to play the harp and read the
Bible all day? Come on.
That sounds like that sounds like a punishment.
You guys don't even like doing that. Why
would we wanna do it?
You know what I mean? And so that's
not it's not it's not the reason. Allah
didn't give anyone
he wants the best for that person. These
things are for our own good
and they're mercy from Allah ta'ala.
And, you know, like, sometimes some someone gives
you good advice
and you know you're not even gonna take
it.
You know, people come to me like, shit.
You should get more exercise and eat right.
And I'm like, yo, You're right. You know
what I mean?
Right? Because the person, they said it because
they love you. It's not because, you know,
they want you to if they wanted you
to go down, they would have bought you
a pack of cigarettes. You know?
So, yeah, even if you're not gonna take
the advice sometimes, like, you know, you should
appreciate that this is nice. It's for your
own good. It's not like somebody hates you.
They're not hating on you. That's why a
lot of, like, wants you to, like, live
horrible or whatever, and that's why he's making
life into, like, twisting a knife in your
back and making it really horrible. And they
said, don't worry. It'll be Jenna and then.
No.
This is there's in all of these things,
doing them is so beautiful. Even struggling to
get there is beautiful.
Even loving that, even if you're not able
to do it yourself, even the love of
these things makes a person beautiful. In the
eyes of all that, it makes them beautiful
also just as a human being.
And if you don't believe me, look at
the people who don't care about these things
anymore, how those people they are able to
do such ugly things.
Allah to be our protection.
The last hadith in this baab is narrated
by Hadid bin Hatem
Ata'i.
Hatem Ata'i was the legendary hero of the
Arabs.
He was the paragon of of virtue amongst
the Arabs before Islam.
After Islam came, their their the model shifted.
Right?
But Hatem was what all of the the
the the heroic
traits that that the Arabs used to value,
Hatem was, like, the legendary
example of that.
And,
Adib bin Hatem actually took the battlefield against
the the Muslims
and he was
he was
arrested not arrested, sorry, imprisoned
and taken as a captive because they lost.
You're not gonna win against Sahaba
It doesn't work that way.
So,
when it was brought to Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam's attention that Adi
is one of the
captives, he commanded he he commanded Rasulullah salallahu
alaihi wa sallam commanded that that treat him
well
because Wallahi, his father his father was a
man who loved good character.
Meaning even Rasulullah
SAW HASAN
appreciated, you know, how how noble of a
person Hatima Tha'i was.
And,
he was he was such a generous man.
It's said that he, one time,
he owned a horse. It was the fastest
horse of all Arabs. And to this day,
the Arabian horses are the the fastest horses
around.
And
so the Roman emperor sent
an ambassador
to find this Hotham who had this fastest
horse around
and offer him anything anything he asked for.
Anything Yeah. Any price he asks for. Name
his own price and get his horse from
him. So what happens this guy goes in
the Arabian desert, has no idea what's going
on, and he's coming from Rome and he's
The Arabian desert is even a desolate place
even for like ancient times
standards.
So he gets lost
and he gets rescued by a Bedouin
who nurses him back to health
and feeds him this big meal
and,
you know, he's like, why did you help
me? He says, this is what we do.
You know, we honor our guests.
And so he says that he says, what
are you doing here? He says, I'm looking
for Hatem Atai.
I come
on behalf of the the emperor of of
Constantinople
in order to offer him whatever price he
asked for for his horse.
And so he says I'm Hatemathai
and you just ate the horse. He says,
we honor our guests, I had nothing else
to feed you so you just ate the
horse.
So that's that's how generous of a man
he was. So so this the Adi ibn
Hatim actually the Rasulullah
will free him,
and he, he will become Muslim later on.
He'll go back to his people and then
he'll he'll sorry. He'll accept Islam, then he'll
go back to his people and call them
to the deen,
And he'll tell them that that all of
you accept Islam
because this Muhammad, alayhis salatu salatu salatu salatu
salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu
salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu
salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu
salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu
salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu salatu
salatu salatu salatu. He he's so generous. He
gives without fear of poverty,
which is a big statement coming from the
son of Hatemata'i.
Right? So he became very good friends especially
with Sayna Ali
And he narrates a hadith from Rasulullah sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam.
And he said, I heard the messenger of
Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam say, if any
of you ever swears an oath, I swear
to god I'm gonna do this, or I
swear by Allah I'm gonna do that. And
then they find another
another course of action that would be that
would be more in line with the fear
of Allah ta'ala.
Oh, I swear to God I'm never gonna
talk to my
whatever relatives again. Or I swear to God
I'm never gonna give charity to such and
such person again. Or I swear to god
I'm gonna this and that. People swear oaths
about all sorts of things. Right? So and
this requires a little bit of, but in,
if a person swears an oath to do
something,
this is not another, but it's a.
Another is a swearing oath to do an
act of worship, those you have to fulfill.
But if you swear,
something that something's true or false or I'm
gonna do this, I'm gonna do that from
other things,
If you swear something that cannot be fulfilled
or isn't true,
then the kafar, the expiation for that is
that you have to either feed or close
6 indigent people.
And if you can't do that, you fast
for 3 days.
And, so Rasulullah
was saying that if one of you because
the Arabs used to consider
consider it to be a a sign of
their their worth that they religiously fulfill their
oaths. The problem is they used to swear
all sorts of crazy things like this. Oh,
I swear to god I'm gonna drink wine
out of so and so's skull.
Okay. Drinking wine is haram. Killing people is
haram. Drinking out of their skull is gross
and, like, sick and
gonna send you to jail and probably, you
know there's like a whole bunch of, like,
wrong stuff going on there. Right?
So if you do that, Rasoolullah
SAWS
teaching was
that, there's no dishonor in breaking your oath
and then and then doing the expiation and
and
moving to a different course of action if
that course of action is more in line
with the fear of Allah ta'ala.
That's what he was trying to say.
I think
we will
we will stop here, and I'll take questions
for the next, like, whatever,
23 minutes because
inevitably people have all sorts of questions.