Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Hayat alSahabah Shamail Sharifah IV.mp4
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The speakers discuss the importance of working on one's own mental health to avoid overwhelming and avoid damaging relationships or health. They suggest setting aside time for silent speech to see if one's speech is useful and giving oneself a sense of comfort when eating. They plan to continue with the hadith tomorrow and emphasize the need to not speak until it's a life or death situation.
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Continuing
with the Shamal of the prophet,
which
which is narrated by Sayedan Hassan
of
the
prophet
from his uncle Hindib Nabi Hala. There's a
difference of opinion. I went and looked it
up. There's a difference of opinion whether he
is,
whether he is the half brother
of or the half brother of
but at any rate, he is a relative
of,
Sayedan Hassan from his mother. But through a
husband other than the prophet
mother of Sayedan Khadija or of her,
of her mother.
So,
he asked, who to
Sayid Al Hassan asked him,
Describe for me how does he speak? How
was his speech?
The messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam,
he,
would go from one grief to another. The
grief struck him so many times in his,
in his life
to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, that
those people who
are the most severely tested are the prophets
and then afterward,
the people who are the most like like
them in descending order. So as much as
you are like the, alaymus salatu al salam,
after them, you'll be tested,
according to,
your rank according according to your rank with
comparison to their rank.
Diamond fiqati,
always engaged in thinking,
not, not absent minded, but always engaged in
thinking, which is a characteristic also we should
inculcate in ourselves.
Nowadays, there is a lot of currency amongst
imams
if they talk on
social media and from the pulpit in Facebook
and Twitter about the Bulls game and the
Bears game and this game and that game.
All of us are
above the age of 7. Those of us
who are not,
it's okay. If you're into these things for
a little bit,
you know, that's part of your childhood. Anyone
who's a serious person
and is seriously emotionally tied to these things
I'm not saying this to to to to
say something bad about a person, but, you
know, it's one thing, okay, as a means
to keep good relations with their family members
or with other people who may not be
as, serious about their existence,
fine. You sit, watch the game, talk a
little bit about it with them. If some
team loses and you actually feel very sad
about it or, like, ruins your day or
ruins your week or something like this, this
is something it's, you know, it's it's a
problem. I'm not judging a person that you're
a good person or bad person. Everyone has
problems or issues that you work through. But,
like, you know, this happens in the Muslim
world as well. One, you know,
you know,
versus the other in the same city, they'll
they'll one team will beat another team and
all of a sudden people are cursing each
other and one neighborhood is being burned down
for another and whatnot. This is this is
not it's not good. It's it's a problem.
People need to work on these types of
things. It's not it's it's just a game.
It's not that big of a deal. Who
is it? Baseball, basketball, cricket. These are it's
not that big of a deal. And then
He always was engaged in deep thought. He
should be thinking about things that are important,
and thinking is is is an important thing
in and of itself because Allah rewards you
based on your thinking, not based on what
happens.
What happens is his choice. The outcomes are
his choice, but he rewards you based on
how you think about things because it's through
this thinking that your
and your intentions are made.
He would never,
he would never feel
relaxed.
This dunya is not a place that a
person should be, relaxed completely. Obviously, you have
to relax yourself a little bit, otherwise you'll
kill yourself from stress.
But, he always, you know even his relaxation
was in order to do something,
do something,
with more force and with more ability,
when when he's done with that rest and
without with that repose.
Relaxation, inshallah, will be in the grave. You'll
have all sorts of time. You you got,
you know, 6 hours of sleep instead of
8 8 hours last night, trust me, we'll
all make it up one day. There's nothing
to do in there other than,
what you did in this side. So a
person, you know, it's obviously, if you don't
sleep for, a lot and it gives you
health problems and you're, you know if I
get some sleep. But after that, if you're
just a little bit uncomfortable because of your
lack of lack of rest, you get over
it inshallah.
They said
even his his his relaxation was to
an aim, to a goal, he was never
completely
at ease in his life
He
wouldn't speak unless there was,
some need to speak. So Hajjah is,
you know, something that there's a benefit in.
It doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't speak
until it's a life or death situation, but
at least you should, you know, you should
reserve your speech until,
there's some benefit in speaking and this is
something we'll discuss
at a later time in more detail but
there's an entire there's an entire
very practical,
measuring stick that a person can use in
order to,
see whether or not their their speech is
useful.
He would be silent for, a a a
long time.
He would be silent for long periods of
time. Silence is a food for the heart.
Silence is a food for the for the
for the roof.
Silence is something that that that's like it's
a spiritual,
imdah. It's a spiritual,
help that a person receives.
Being silent is good.
It doesn't mean a person can't speak ever,
but a person should set some time aside,
in the day when they're they're they're silent,
where they don't speak as much. And then
obviously, don't be like, oh, I heard this
hadith and then you go home and your
wife is like, oh, how was your day?
And you're like,
be quiet. Don't you know the process
Find a time to have your silence, insha'Allah.
That doesn't mean that you also, you know,
walk around. Because these are the internal states
of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. These
are not things you impose on other people.
These are things that you do on on
on yourself.
Right? Because there's also the the the hadith
about about him being so loving. You know,
when you're with other people, you should be
loving. You should be smiling. Smile.
You should be,
you know, giving from yourself. You should talk
to your guests. Instead of fasting when you
have a guest, you should feed them and
eat because it'll make them feel more comfortable
eating. These are for himself, salallahu alayhi wa
sallam. These were the states when he was
alone. So don't, you know, get it mixed
up and then, you know, all of a
sudden, your wife and kids are saying, man,
this guy went to Maghrib and now he's
become
markedly more disagreeable than he was before.
He would
start his speech and end it from the
sides of his mouth. It's a style of
speaking that was considered to be,
considered to be eloquent from the Arabs.
And when whenever he would say something,
it would be there'd be few words and
a lot of meaning in them.
Everything he would say would be decisive.
He wouldn't speak too much,
as to be to to say something that
he could've said in less words and more
words, but he also wouldn't say so little
that people wouldn't understand what he's talking about.
And this is something I think it's a
it's an art lost on a a lot
of people one way or the other. InshaAllah,
we'll continue we'll continue with the hadith tomorrow.