Hamza Ayedi – The Best of Manners #5
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Welcome, dear brothers and sisters to our
Allah. Last halachallah On the topic of the best of manners, and
Yani bar kalau fikam for making it even though it's minus 40 almost.
And subhanAllah, the Prophet, told us that hofat in Jannah to will
Makar, that Jannah, the path to Jannah is surrounded with Makari,
things that are difficult. And for sure, coming on a Friday night in
this kind of weather is difficult, but rest assured that, Inshallah,
you are rewarded for that with Allah. And we ask Allah to make us
of those that when they leave this gathering, it is said to them,
pumum of for Allah, that the Prophet said that those who come
and they listen in the in the in the majalis of where Allah is
remembered, that it is said to them, when they leave your you are
forgiven, and your sins have been replaced with hasanat Allah, what
a good deal.
Just yani abushra for you guys and JazakAllah before we start Taban,
there was a challenge for to memorize the poem. And mashaAllah,
we have our young sister, Maysoon, She memorized it. I just listened
to her mashaAllah, and she got a $50 gift card to Baruch Allah. So
and also, we had
our daughter, Hannah. She memorized mashaAllah five lines.
So we gave her also a small card for her effort. InshaAllah. And
like I said, Before
Al haf, it really helps the person keep hold of his knowledge. Tamam.
So right now, when we start reviewing Ibn Allah, when I asked
you guys for to list 10 adab, whoever memorizes biswaram, it
will get like 10 in like five seconds. Those of you who didn't
memorize, you'd be like we did. What Al HEF. You know it's part
of, part of seeking knowledge tahit. And we try to honor those
who who try to memorize and learn tahit. Let's start Bismillah. So
last time,
so we did up to line 20, right? So we got nine to go. Inshallah,
today we'll be doing from line 21 to line 29 I'm going to start my
timer, so my promise is that we will finish at the 50 minute mark.
Ibn,
let's do this
so we have a reader today. Let's
just quickly go through it Allah, so for those of you who don't have
the
poem, you can just scan that and it'll show up on your phone, Bin,
LA, but it's good to have it with you so you can follow. It's good
to have it with you so you can follow. So I'm just going to read
quickly one to 20. Okay, so just follow with me. Just a quick
review, and then we will begin inshaAllah. Salah marhi.
Alhamdulillah.
What a 14 And
Halima
last time we did up to line 20 today,
Inshallah, we'll do 21
to 29 if she's to
29 soldier or
calistina Muslim.
This is like the shortest you can get
with a poem. Some of the poems that ulama wrote are like 1000
lines, and students would recite them to their teachers, 1000
right? So be here for like two hours. Type. Let's start. So we
are on line 21 he says, Actually, salaam, a sahabil Akhi Ara LA to
the insan and a husra. So now we go. He says, spread the Salaam.
Okay, and Sahib Al akhiyara Tama. This is Sahib Al akhir. This is a
for those of you know Arabic. What kind of what kind of word is this?
Sahib? Where's
the
Arab or where's the Arabic student?
What is it? Was this? Is this a noun? Is it?
Is So, this is a falamo. It doesn't mean
any good friend. It means Sahib. Here, it's so and it's supposed to
have a sukkun there, but it doesn't have a sukkun. Why?
Anybody
know? Because there's two sukkuns there. In Arabic, if there's two
sukkuns, you put a kasra on the on the first one. So Sahib, and this
is a command, he befriend the good, the righteous. La to Udi in
San anjara. Don't harm anyone, especially the job the neighbor,
Taylor so spread Salam. Obviously, Salaam is something that is unique
to our deen tamam And subhanAllah. When the Prophet Sallam went to
Medina, the first hood by he gave, and I want you to imagine he just
is starting a new community, new society, and he's going to be
talking to everybody, Muslim, Jewish, everybody Subhanallah, the
Arabian there. And so the first gives, He says, Yeah, Nas AHan nas
afshallam, yeah. What's the Lord
Ham was ALLAH? There's different versions, but the Prophet Salam
says a yohanas, O people, okay? Spread salam. Afshu, and that's
where the poet gets the God, the word FSH, salaam, Alaska, Yara
Yani. Spread Salam, okay? Spread Salam as much as you can, right?
Because spreading salaam, it has a unique thing to it, because it
just brings people closer to each other. Salam. And you see in
communities or societies or majalis or places where people
don't even spread Salam, there's a lot of animosity. There's a lot of
beef between people. Tamam, fa Salaam is the most basic thing you
can do from from Alma a roof from goodness. So he says, salam,
spread Salam and feed those who need to be feeded. Okay. Vaulham,
connect between your kin. Okay. Wasallam, pray in the night when
people are sleeping. Okay, what do we get, oh prophet of Allah that
Hulu Jana tabi, salaam, he will you will enter Jannah in peace and
ease. Subhanallah, very simple formula. So there's so many, so
much to say about about Salaam and the famous Hadith, or as war by
Allah, that none of you will believe, none of you will enter
Jannah until you believe, and none of you will will believe, until
you love one another. And then he says, Shall I inform you of
something which, if you do, you will love one another. And how can
you love one another? He says, Ash Salaam.
Spread Salam between yourselves. So one of the ways that you can
spread love in the Ummah, okay, or in any group or gathering, is
spreading the Salaam. One of the issues, okay, and maybe this is
one of the signs of the Day of Judgment, is what is that we only
say salaam to
those who you know Salam. And so from, from the adab of Salam is
you say salam to everyone, anyway, anyone you see, say salaam,
Alaikum. And also, one of the weird things, I don't know why
people do this, but when they see a Muslim, like in a store, or like
a cashier, they don't say Salaam. So say Salaam. If you know
someone's a Muslim, say salaam, and the person should say waleko,
salaam. It's not something you're not allowed to do in your job. We
should spread Salam Taban. What is the ruling of who gives Salam
first? Since we're doing the adab, who does the salam first? The
younger
Yeah, so methyl and yanima say the one who enters Matalan, she would
say salam first. Okay, that's the Sunnah, the one
who's coming. What else the one who methyl enters? Okay, what
else?
Whoever's driving?
It's
the
driving. So
someone's like, standing here, a car comes by if I'm standing here,
like, actually, somebody just asked me, Is this Jamal time? One
of you guys asked me, What time is Jamar? So, yeah, they would have
to say salaam first. The adab is to for them to say salaam to me,
because they're coming at me, OK? Or if you're riding your horse or
camel, you say salaam to the person standing. Why? Laughing?
Man. People have horses. But so is this the sunnah to what about
replying? Is replying. Do you have to reply?
Huh? What's the evidence
now?
To reply the Salaam is for what's the Dali suta, Nisa, wait a hay to
meet the hatin. For how you be as Salina urduha, if you're given a
greeting, okay? Fahay, ubi as Mina, urdua. Allah SWT says, If
you greeted with a greeting, then reply with something better, or at
least the same. So if someone says to you, salaam, Alaikum, you say
waliksalam, minimum. Okay, you cannot say wala come. Someone says
Salut, Allah. Can you say walaikum? Salaam only? No. Allah
SWT says, at least the same. But What's better is to reply with
something better, salaam alaikum, Wa Alaikum, salaam Warahmatullah
barkat. You give them the full and you get 10 Hasanah for each 130,
Hasanah said, like this, 1010, 10 for that. Tahit, let's keep going.
So make sure we finish. Then he says, Sahib Al akhiyar. So this is
like
the imperative verb, Sahib, Yani, Kaman, sahab, ahrah and Taman we
all know. Ha what an effect a friend has on someone's life.
Taman, like they say, you want to know someone's ah adab,
etiquettes. Deen, you just look at the top five people on his phone
that they call and they talk to, and you'll know the person,
subhanAllah, and so the Prophet says, A rajuldin Khalili, right?
So the person is on the deen of his, of his close friend, right?
Well, Khalid is a close friend, right? A very close friend.
Falindor, ahaduqum, manuhali, right? So some one of you should
really be careful who they're friends with, right?
The friend, as they say, as sahab Sahib, the friend, like sahab,
like he he pulls you towards himself, right? And so if fees
foul mouthed, you are eventually going to start saying words out of
nowhere, Sama, like the other day, my daughter came to me,
my daughter's grade one, just to give you Ashfall, and she said,
fulan, I don't want to say his name. Fulan. He said to me, don't
listen to your parents.
The worst advice you can give someone, someone is at grade one.
Imagine, I don't know who told them that some show or something,
but he said he said he was telling to my daughter, don't listen to
your parents. Abdullah, my daughter came to me, she told me
this, I'm like, don't sit with that kid. You have to be careful
who, who you're friends with. So, I mean, if you're friends with
someone who goes to the halakah, they're going to encourage you to
go to the halakah If you don't go sah and so on. And Taman, we know,
we know that the hadith of of the goldsmith and the musk seller, a
famous Hadith. We all know it. I think we mentioned it before. Sah,
the good friend is the one is like the one who sells musk. Okay,
usually go and you buy something from them. You take something from
them. You benefit from that good friend. But even if you don't take
something or they don't give you something, Akal, Shaykh, Akhal,
Sheik, you leave that gathering smelling good. So there's a
benefit from that. And the opposite is, like the goldsmith,
right? If you go to him, you're gonna get hurt. You might burn
your clothes. Tama and worst case scenario, you're gonna get, like,
dirty clothes. You might smell bad. We have to be very careful
who befriend. So if you want to be someone who's half of the Quran,
yeah, you have to find a friend who's what, who's memorizing. One
of the things that helped me memorize is I had a friend who was
memorizing at the same time. And we do that in the Quran Halakha
here, right? To compete with others, compete with with with a
righteous friend, right? And they will always push you to go higher
and higher.
Then he says, Let the Insan, and don't wrong. Anyone remember the
definition we gave out has no we says, hustle kholo.
Well, she's the Arab. Looks messed up. Waka, fil Ada, Anas, right?
Waka, Fila, Ada, Anas, so part of the definition of haslo, okay,
meeting people with a pleasant face, okay, doing maharov, doing
like spreading goodness and also removing harm. Okay, not harming
anybody. Tama, so this is a general rule, literally in all
religions, a.
But it's something very serious in our religion. Remember, we said
that Yamil Kayama, people will be thrown Hellfire because they hurt
people, not because they were missing salah. And some people go
to jahannam because they were missing Salah and hydrogen stuff,
but others, they will go to jahannam because they were hurting
others. And so people took back what was theirs. Allah says, Well,
let him Abu. Who
abuse the believing men and believing woman, unjustifiably.
And this is important, because sometimes you could harm someone,
but with any with the right cause, any method and someone,
if someone yells at you, you have the right to yell back at them, or
they call you Matalan, some name. You have the right Yani, this is
the Haqq that the person has. Taban, with a limit, not
everything unjust. Ava, they will be. They will definitely bear the
guilt of slander and blatant sin. Tama, and so don't hurt anyone by
even Yani saying something about them. Oh, fulan, is this? Oh, that
person? He doesn't smell good, or any Don't, don't, don't harm
anyone, not just physically, also verbally.
He says, Leto the insane,
and specifically the neighbor, yeah, and we said that the
neighbor has any a great Haqq. In this Deen, in this religion, the
neighbor has a great Haqq. The Prophet says, makhani, Abu yam, Al
ahq.
Whoever believes in Allah and the Day of Judgment,
Jarah, it is a long adidaments the jar and the daif, and
someone else I believe. So whoever believes in Allah on the last day
should treat his neighbor with kindness, falukim, Jara, and you
know the Hadith, rasalam, like the man who used to throw garbage in
front of him, SubhanAllah. And then one day, the tarasan didn't
find the garbage. And then he went and he checked on him. The man was
sick, SubhanAllah. When I was in Riyadh, I had a neighbor who used
to do the same thing. There was a neighbor, as if she did.
Unfortunately, it was someone who, who would go to the Salah, and the
masjid was right in front of, literally, I opened the door, and
the message right there. But I guess his khadama, like his his
cleaner, she would put the garbage in front of our door, like the
building door. And we told him, like, and the person has, like, a
long beard, and he goes, you know, like I told you before any someone
might look righteous, but then he's hurting his neighbor, right?
And we told him, and one of the people who lived in the building
with me, he wasn't like a practicing Muslim, right? He
wouldn't go to the salah. The Masjid is in front of us, yeah.
And he wouldn't go to the salah. And then he saw this, this
righteous man, or like practicing man who threw garbage in front of
our house. What do you think that's gonna what is that gonna
encourage him to go to Salah or No, it's not. But we see now how
bad manners can cause someone to just move away from Islam or from
from righteousness, right? So especially the neighbor, you have
to be very, very kind to them, very kind to them, Muslim or non
Muslim. And there's so many easy things you could do, yeah, like,
you don't have to go sit with them, watch Netflix with them and
have, you know, watch, sit with them and talk. You don't have to
do that much to ma'am. It's actually not that hard. And if
you, if you, if you make a suite, maybe send it to them, tamam, if,
if, if it's, now, there's no just, you're doing your your front to
just do theirs. It will make a huge impact. And the most
important thing, don't harm your neighbor. Absolutely not. And I
mentioned this in the khutbah today, as Muslims here, like our
our our place here, we need to make sure we don't park in the
neighbors lots right, because this is Ada right where we're we're
hurting our neighbors. So we need to be very, very careful about
that, because this will push people away from Islam, just
something as basic as that. You might park it and be like,
whatever. I'm just leaving to pray and but it's not okay in here.
It's not okay. Maybe in our countries, maybe it's okay.
Yeah, I was in royal they would do that. Actually. They would park in
the street, like the main road. They would park there, but it's
like out there, it's sad. People don't mind.
Maybe they mind, but like, here, if you double park, it's a big
deal, right? And so people double park in Juma, and so don't do
that. Make sure you don't do that, because these are our neighbors,
and these people will complain to Allah. What if we push them away
from Islam, right? We will be responsible. Just so you can come,
just because you were late, you're going to hurt someone else. That's
not That's not right. But
so
it's upon the process lightful Jannah, mellahu man jaruhu,
from his So the Prophet says he will not enter paradise whose
neighbor is not secure from his wrongful conduct,
right? He will not enter Jannah. Remember the woman that the
Prophet said, The Sahaba asked about that woman, right? Who
prays, pm and fast in the day, and she does all. She gives sadaqah,
but she hurts her neighbor. What did the parasalam say? What did he
say? Lahi, Rafi, ha. There's no.
Good in her, ajib, no good in her. And then he said, she's from the
people of the Hellfire hajib, just because she would hurt her
neighbor. Yes, so it's a serious matter in her Deen, to the point
that Aisha radiAllahu, Ana, she said
that rasalam says, mazalah, Jibril, you see in Abu jar had an
unto and now so you are. Rito. Can
you imagine? Rasalam said that Jibreel kept telling me to be good
to the job, to the to the neighbor, until he kept telling me
and telling me, until I thought the next thing he's going to tell
me to do is to give him inheritance. You give inheritance
to the job. To that point, we need to be so good, to the point that
the paraslam said thought Jibril was going to command him to give
inheritance to the neighbor,
the jar, and the jar starts with the closest and then to the
furthest. Jadil kurba, al Jalil Juno, okay, so you start with the
closest ones, those have the most right, then the next and the next
and the next and next
time, Jabir next we have line 22 he says, What I Dabby the
torfin Wacha listed Nasi, okay. And so observe the etiquettes of
visiting people. Visiting people has its own set of etiquettes,
right?
And then He gives example, Calab the tar fin, like lowering your
gaze and calisti Nasi al state NAS, okay, is asking permission,
basically seeking. State NAS is very similar to Al ISTE that.
So some of the adab of visiting people, you guys tell me some
actually, Ya Allah, so you guys don't fall asleep. What are some
of the adab of visiting people, visiting someone's house. You want
to go to visit someone's house
now? Yeah, people do that. That's very rude. People go and they
don't find someone, so they go.
That's absolutely unacceptable. I will mention the Hadith in a bit.
The process said that if that person was poked in the eye, then
he's not blamed for that.
Yeah,
no,
yeah, no. DIA, yeah, exactly. That's exactly. There's no deer.
You don't have to. He's not,
yeah, he's not held accountable for that. Someone comes
here, yeah, even here, yeah, they will. Someone comes and peeks
through your door, yeah? Rasam said, if you poke his eye, yeah,
you're laughing. But the rasam said, then there's no blame for
you. And there's in Sharia, if you, if you hurt someone his eye,
there's a DIA. There's a price you have to pay, or your eye, or an
eye for an eye, this is serious
type. So what other adab? Don't peak, yeah, yeah. So
this is a good adab, actually. And I think this is something from the
earth here, maybe back home. Some people don't mind, but I think
here, a lot of people like it. When you tell them ahead of time,
you know, are you free? Yeah, in some like back home, yeah. Every
time you see someone fatal, fatal, even if you're not ready. And now
it became to the point where people say, and they're not even
ready, they're like, I hope
he says, No, house is your house? Yeah, it's
good to actually call ahead of time, because you might be busy.
And then they're going to put you in a position where, let's say you
come to the Halakha, yeah, and you're getting ready, and you're
and then someone just comes, and now you have to greet them,
because they're your guests. And so you become upset. And then, you
know, it's not right. So tell people, especially nowadays, I
think, from the earth of nowadays, is to tell them, what else? What
else,
huh? Yeah, don't just walk in. Yani, ya Asante. Sit to the
Taylor. You said, what else? These are good. MashaAllah Nam
Asanti.
Okay, that's very specific. Nam
Nam
Asanti. Asanti, yeah, Asante. So we'll talk about that. Yes,
knocking. Any knock. Some people just walk in. And
sometimes they think it's okay because your relatives, yeah, no,
you can't just walk in and your uncle can't just open your door
walk in. Yeah, your mom and this is your home. People have to
knock, right? People have to knock you. Different rules for knocking,
for the
door
itself. Where is this like? What? Which? I'm curious.
Curious.
So this is like a two of them, huh?
I'm not good.
Good, good. Nowadays we have cameras. A lot of people have
cameras on their doors. So that helps a lot. We have that hole.
Just look,
who's that? Nam, so, yeah, these kind of adapt. They go into the
din Yani, if, as long as they don't run against the deen,
now exactly, not staying too long. Very good. So number one, knock no
more than three times for permission. Tapan, you have to
knock for permission. You don't just walk in. It's a serious
thing. You don't just walk into someone's house. What if they're,
I mean, not dressed well, what if his wife is there, what if the
house is dirty. They don't want you to come in. Absolutely not
allowed. This is haram in Islam. And how many times you knock? So
from the Hadith, we know that the process said you knock three
times, right? And if they don't open for you, you leave. Halas,
you're like, I know he's there. I know I know he's there. I can see
that. I can hear the still. Yani, he could be behind the door and he
knows it's you, but he doesn't want you to come in. Are you going
to embarrass him and make him say, leave? No, just leave.
I drove all the way from You should have called him. What if I
called him and he's not replying? Actually, I'm not sure what the
answer for that. But what if you called someone and they told you
come and then you knock three times? What happens? What do you
do? You have to go. Huh?
Economy now
you use your judgment. If he told you, yes, come and you go and he's
not opening. You
can just knock three times and then maybe call him check, wait in
the car five minutes. It's up to you. Any
law Alam type. So knock no more than three times. Tama and say
Salaam. It's a good edit to knock and say salaam, Alaikum. Who is
it? It's me.
Say your name. Don't say it's me, me. Who? Who's me? So say it's
Abdullah it's Muhammad. It's Fatima. Tama. Tama, like he said,
nowadays we have the holes. We have cameras. If someone knocks on
my door, I can see who's there. Now with technology, you can see
who's knocking on your door, and you can even talk to them from
your phone, right? Subhanallah technology,
go away. Just tell them. Go away. So you say, salaam.
What happened to
lower your gaze. So he said, God, the tar fin. What can list it?
Nasi. So the first thing he mentioned, okay, so you lower your
gaze. What does that mean? Yeah, when you come to the door, right,
you knock, stand to the side, like you don't want to when the door
opens to see the whole house, not all houses have like a side to
cover it, like I had a house when I was on Riyadh. If you open the
door, you see the everything, literally, you could see all the
way to the last room. It was just like an open house the way,
whoever made it. I don't know it was bad, bad job, but yeah, just
stand to the side, because if the person opens the door, like, maybe
they don't want you to see Tamam, stand to the side and just like,
lower your gaze, and you lower your gaze. Also, when,
when you go in, Asanti, when you go in some people, when they go
into people's houses, like, whoa, what's that? They look under the
couch and and they put their hands on the couch, like, really?
Yeah, I checked the Oh, kind of person, this guy, and they analyze
your house. And then they tell others, this lady doesn't clean,
this person is this?
It's very rude to do that. And so when you come in, you don't even
walk in. I remember one time, this is a long time ago, I went to a
brother's house, and he had a gathering, and there's a new
brother, and he just joined us, and he
many from junior high. He doesn't know much, he just started coming
and praying. But when, when he came to the to the brother's
house, he just walked straight to the to the rooms in the back, the
guy's married, and so he got really angry with him. He grabbed
him. Said, what are you doing? Like my wife? Isn't there any and
Miss Kinney didn't know any. But this is the ADEPT we have to teach
our children
and ourselves that when you enter people's houses, it's not a you
just walk whatever you want, right? Even the bathroom. Ask,
where's the bathroom? And they'll tell you, Oh, go to this one,
yeah, but you want to go to the one upstairs? No, it's not up to
you, yeah. Follow what the host says. So lower your gaze
and don't stay too long. And Allah mentioned this, and sul and some
of the Companions would come to prophesy, Lam, right? And they
would stay for a long time. And Allah told us that this hurts the
prophet, but he was too shy to tell them. And Allah revealed
Quran for that, right? And so Allah told Yani that when you come
right and there's food served. You eat the food. How to sleep? You
eat the food. Hall of sleep, right? Don't stay too long.
Now, even
like in things like Aza, when someone passes away and you go
visit them, some people go and stay for like three hours. The
people are mourning. You just come, you know, you say the DUA to
them, and you just make.
Said. The Prophet said that also, okay,
tabassumu, Kafi was Sadaqah. Ajib. Some people say around money to
give Sadaqah. You can give it. You can't smile, smile, smile. It's
Sadaqah. It's Sadaqah. Yeah, when
you smile on your brother's face, it's a Sadaqah. Subhanallah, the
most simple thing. And as of a Shadid, you see people who act
practicing, but they don't smile at you. When you see them, they
look like they're gonna hurt you. And subhanAllah, when you smile at
someone, it just breaks the ice. You know, like the first thing
when the kids come to our Quran class here, the first thing we do
smile the kids coming, and maybe the parent force them. And so when
you smile at the Khala say they kind of relax, okay, okay. They're
not gonna beat me here. They're not, you know, it's not gonna be
boring. These people are nice. I haven't even said a word
Subhanallah, but just smiling, it kind of breaks the ice and makes
the person feel, feel welcome. And you guys know what I'm talking
about, just smiling and it makes the person feel, imagine a
neighbor, you know, new neighbor comes in. You never talk to them.
They don't talk to you. And you're like, oh man. You start thinking,
oh man. They must hate Muslims and all these things that we all go
through. But then, you know, and they never smile. And then you
smile at them.
Most of the time, they will smile back. And basically, you just
need, just built a bridge to mam, and things can go forward from
there. Type, he says also, ahaka, support your brother. Support your
Muslim brother. Unsur ahaka, there's a famous Hadith what the
parasite says, uraha man o matluma Yani, support your brother,
whether he is the law, whether he's the valeb Or he's mad loon.
Yani, he's the one who's committing the Lum, the
oppression, or he's being oppressed, but okay, well, we
understand how we help the oppressed. Your brother's being
oppressed, wronged, bullied, whatever you help them. How do you
help the oppressor? How do you help the oppressor?
He's the
oppressor. How do you help him? Can you help him oppress others?
Yeah, so you stop him, says, by preventing him from oppressing
others, okay? And so you help your Muslim brother, okay, who's about
to wrong someone by stopping them.
This is, this is your obligation. Here you see someone about to
wrong someone right, about to take their money, about to hit them,
about to slander them back by them, right? Volume and Luma, if
he's about to do something wrong, you stop them, right? You stop
them. Also. Rahaka, volume, Aluma, and then he says at Iran, Al
Muslimah, Al etaR. What does ether mean? By the
way? Al etharuna, Alam fusim, if beautiful concept in Islam. A very
beautiful, beautiful is to prefer someone over yourself. And it's
very difficult because Allah SWT, people love things for themselves.
People are, you know, selfish, either by by by default, the human
being likes things for themselves. They don't like to give things up,
right? And Allah gave us the example, right of the muhajimal
ansa wala Dinah raw Imam, tablihim, yo abuna Man Hajar
elehim, right? As for those who had settled in the city and
embraced the faith before the so those who were in Medina, they
accepted Islam, right? But then the muhajirim came over, right?
The immigrants came came over. And the
when the muhajiri were coming over the Ansar, they didn't have this
feeling of, oh my god, they're gonna come. Because was bringing
them over, and they had did. They didn't have the feeling, oh man,
they're gonna come take our resources, you know, and they're
gonna take our stuff and take over our city, like, sometimes this
happens here, you know, immigrants come in from other countries, and
then people here start saying, Oh man, now the you know, they're
gonna lower the wages, I don't know, and they're gonna make the
Places dirty, and they're gonna make traffic and right? The people
of the Ansar didn't have that when the muhajiri came over to the
point that they what they would give them, like, you know, the
rasalam would pardon them, and they would give them, right, like
half their wealth. One guy, he said, I'll divorce one of my wives
and get you married. * Subhanallah, right?
So this is part of Islam, is that you prefer the Muslim over
yourself. You're sitting down, you're eating, there's the last
piece of meat
from the good akhlaq is to leave it prefer someone over yourself.
Type, you're coming in, there's one parking spot, and you see the
Muslim there. From good Ahab is to prefer that Muslim over yourself?
So this is AR waist well so and whoever received from the
selfishness of their own souls, it is they who are truly successful.
When you are able to defeat your own selfishness, then you will be
from the.
Successful type at a Muslim type. Then he says, ankulima FIFA,
abstain from anything that is evil. Okay, half of Allah, sihati,
kunalifa, okay. So then he says, abstain from anything that is
harmful. So in general, any just general rule as a Muslim, anything
that is harmful, anything that is bad, anything that you have doubt
about, stay away from just a general rule. Okay. So he says,
Okay, what's a left?
FA, yeah, but modesty there, here, it means being modest from
anything that's harmful or anything that's evil assent. So
you kind of stay away from it. You shy away from it. You're not
someone who's always trying to do going towards bad things, evil
things. So in your wealth, anything that's shady, any
doubtful, stay away from it. Tamam, if there's a chance you
might wrong someone, stay away from it. In your health, something
that might be harmful to your health, tamam, stay away from it.
In anything, in your money, in your time. Tamam, something that
you think, oh, there's gonna be a waste of time. Stay away from it.
Be a smart person. Ankul afifa, it's a general rule, okay? And
then he says, half of the Allah, this is what makes Islam such an
amazing Deen, because it encompasses everything tamam and
so being healthy is part of our deen hafada, how do we take care
of our health? You guys tell me
eat McDonald's every day. Sleep late. What else?
How do you take care of your health? Eat well. It's part of our
deen to eat well, and it's part of our Deena to overeat. Prop gave us
even instructions on how to eat and eating the third right, third
food, third water. Leave some breathing space. Tamam, this is a
part of our deen. You know, people go research diets. It's part of
our deen already. Subhanallah, it's part of a deen to fast and
fasting is good for your health. Tamam, so eat, well, sleep. Well,
the best cure is just sleeping SubhanAllah. What are the best
cures for your body and for your mind and for everything? It's just
to sleep. Sleep. Well, some people just try to make it with four
hours. La Habibi, try sleep. Well, this is and sleeping Sahaba, like
they will say, I expect her a word for it, because the way they think
is I'm going to go sleep so I can worship Allah. It's an act of
worship Subhanallah, if you think of it that way, for the person
sleeps eight hours, seven hours. Do you have to sleep eight hours?
Do you have sleep hour? Brother says, yes. Do you have to sleep
eight hours?
Yeah. I mean, it depends on the person, the age. Even the doctors
who say sleep eight hours, they don't sleep eight hours. So the
doctor said, you sleep eight hours. Ask them, did you sleep
eight hours when you got your degree? They never even half of
that. You don't have to sleep eight hours, right? But the
quality of sleep matters. So you can sit in seven hours in bed and
you have bad quality sleep. So sleep? Well, what else? Exercise?
I have to actually, yeah, exercise. And like I said, you can
consider that in ibadah, you can actually expect Alger from that,
from exercising,
walk, exercise, go to the gym, if you can Tamam. So this is all part
of our deen.
Then he says, Kun, alifa, right. So be clean. This is also part of
our deen cleanliness, tamam and we tell people our deen is clean, and
then we don't take care of ourselves. So, you know, perform
rusni shower. Do your wudu right. Don't be someone who tries to make
it with one wudu from fajr. Talesha, when we were kids, we
used to do that. Yani, make wudu whenever you can, right. Asmaa, on
the Day of Judgment, the ones who make the most wudu, they'll be the
brightest. Right? So make wudu whenever you can. And
Alhamdulillah, our deed is so Yani. Just if you follow the
Sunnah Yani, you will be from the cleanest people.
Now, it's from the fitrah now soti, right? Something beautiful
about our deen, when you talk to a non Muslim about the things that
we do, just the things that we have to do, they'll be shocked.
You wash your feet five times.
You have to do, you have to do, you have to shave this and shave
that, and that's a long lecture on the Tahara and all those things.
But that's part of our deed, Imam. So what else? Dress well and smell
good. Subhanallah in Allah Jamil, you have UL Jamal. Allah is
beautiful. He loves beauty. Allah loves beauty. Okay, and so look
good. Yani, smell good. Tamam Yani, you can hurt your you can
hurt your Muslim brother without even talking to him or touching
him, just by smelling bad. Subhanallah, you're hurting the
you sit next to someone and you smell like garlic, or you smell
bad, or you didn't shower,
you're hurting the person and husband and wife, they should take
care. They clean themselves and wash and shower,
dress good. Sometimes people complain, Oh, I can't get married.
And then the guy's hair is everywhere and he doesn't smell
good and he doesn't dress well, but you take care of your.
Of take care of yourself, couldn't adeefa and nadafa, shatrul, Iman,
like half of iman is nadafa said a Tahara shatrul, Iman ajib, half of
Iman nadafa. Yes, nadafa is a big deal, right?
The man, we could say so much, but because of time, then he says,
half of Allah al Qaeda. Says,
observe your afkar in the morning and the evening. Takla falahi, and
you will attain success. Tabel and we know the car, what a big deal
there. To the point that RAM says, he says that I sit with someone
from fajr
until sunrise is more beloved to me than freeing four slaves from
the children of Asmaa. And you know the reward of freeing a
slave? He said, It's more beloved to me to sit and do the Akka from
fajr until sunrise, Tama, this is the morning athk. And then he said
that I sit with people remembering Allah from ASR until sunset is
more beloved to me than freeing four slaves from the children of
Ismail. It's a very interesting Hadith. Yani, freeing a slave is a
lot of reward for that. And
so the rasa I'm saying, doing the AFK is more beloved to me. And so
this should make you think that how high these AK are. Look at
this hadith.
And abdirah, he says.
He says, Shall I inform you? Shall I not inform you of the best of
your actions? Allah una be amalikum, the best of your actions
was kaha in the Maliki Kum and its purest, to Europe and to your to
your Lord, WA Arfa AFI zaram, the thing that will raise you the most
in your ranks.
Wala Kum, mean. In faqih, the Abu al fadah ajib, and it's better for
you than spending gold and silver, right? Wahir, lakh men and telco a
it's better for you than go out and fight in jihad, huh? They said
what he says, dhikr, Allah to Allah, remember Allah being in a
saint of dhikr? It doesn't have to be just verbal, but also having
always remembering Allah taba. We don't have time to go over the
Akka of the morning and the night, but he says, tahla, Bil Falah, you
will be successful. How will you be do the afghar, help you in this
dunya. Let me ask you guys, do the AFK, help you in the Sunni. How?
Give an example? Give me an example of a dhikr that we say in
the morning and the
night that
helps you in this dunya, totally, this protects you,
right? What about when you say, Allah, what is kantha, yeba,
wamala, muta, Kabila? You're asking for risk, right? And then,
when you say Asmaa, well haul and then you ask Allah to protect you
from being lazy and all that, that all helps you in your work, in
your business, and all those things. And tapah in the akhira,
right? Sayyida stirfah, the one who says it right and dies, he's
guaranteed. Jana go straight to Jana *, SubhanAllah. And so
it's worth investing. And do you have to memorize them all? No,
just open your phone. Everybody has them, and you just go to the
app, and you put Sabah and the masab, and you just read them. Sit
down five minutes after fajr and just read them. Eventually you'll
memorize them, of course.
Also NAS, what else, et al, KUSI, right? And so on. So in the Fajr,
after fajr and after ASA, so you'll be successful in the dunya
and in the akhira SubhanAllah. So there's a lot of benefits in the
Akka, and you will see that it will change your life if you just
try it. I challenge you to try this for a week. Just do the Akka
of the morning and the night, and read the meanings. Read the
meanings, because you're going to connect with it and see how it
changes your life. You will see it will, it will absolutely change
your life.
Nam, Allah, yeah. Nam, Dan, exactly.
Nam, the Dhikr where the prophet said to ask Allah to take away the
debt. So those of you are struggling with debt, yeah, the
Prophet saw as a hobby. And he said, he's like, what's wrong?
He's like, you know, Humu and sadness and and worries, I have
debts. He said, say this. Dhikr, just a few days after the Prophet,
Sallam told him, he's like, I'm done. My Allah paid off my my
debt. So also, any pilot helps you with your daily life,
and it protects you from being attacked by by a group of men or
just people harming you. So there's a lot of benefit from Al
att. He says, either at Usha mi 10 man Hamid Al Iraq are easy.
Inshallah, he says, either at usta al assas, what? Sneeze, right? And
Alhamdulillah, most of us know these etiquettes, but when someone
sneezes, what should you say? Alhamdulillah, so either if you
sneeze, fahmed, Allah, then praise Allah, subhana, Allah, okay, and
this is washem mitan Man Hamid Al ILAHA a tashmeet is basically to
say, what a.
This is called tishmi to see someone so and this is washem mi
10. Man Hamid Al ILAHA. This is like in the command form the nun
here, washemite. Man Hamid, the one who So look here. There's a
condition here. Man Hamid Al ILAHA. Why did he put that? The
author put that on purpose. Why? Because the Prophet sallam said,
let's talk about the etiquette first
he says, when one of you sneezes, he just say, Alhamdulillah, Praise
be to Allah. Okay? And then he says, Let and then anyone who
responds, he says, Your hamu, Allah, when the person says, Your
hamuk, Allah, what do you say?
Yeah, thereation, but you just ask them, ask Allah to forgive them.
Yeah, Allah, for Allah Ali wala or Allah, may Allah, forgive you and
myself. Yallah.
Lee wala, this is one narration. Lee wala, Kum ya May Allah,
forgive me and you. What about if someone didn't say hamdullah,
you don't
do tashmit. You guys agree. So
if someone sneezed right now,
they don't say Alhamdulillah. Do you say Alhamdulillah?
Sure, yeah. And that's what happened the rasalam one time,
there was two people that sneezed. One said Alhamdulillah. One
didn't. So and the rasalam only says tashmeet to one of them, the
Alhamdulillah. So they asked him, and then the Prophet says that
one, he says Alhamdulillah. He praised Allah, but the other one
didn't. So the Ras Al only said, Ya hamilah, may Allah have mercy
on you. Okay, for the person that says Alhamdulillah, what if
someone sneezes like seven times every time we have to say
Alhamdulillah after three, and it's fine, and it's your choice.
The Prophet told us, Yani, after three, it's up to you, and it's
not because Hala said it's going to become a
distraction type. Allel Yamini, tahiran, Namba, okay, so then now
he says
about sleeping, the etiquettes of sleeping. So now you want to go to
sleep. He says, first of all, Ali Amin on the right, tahiran, Utah.
Ara, numb back, on sleep early, okay, wakulli at Karl, menami
dakira, and remain observant of the of the of the ADKAR of
sleeping, of the AAD of sleeping. So, so now we go to other 7374 76
so first of all, you want to sleep on your right. You sleep on your
right. This is the Sunnah is to sleep on your right, okay, with
Tahara. It is recommended that you sleep with Tahara, and you will
see that Inshallah, that will help you getting up for Fajr. Okay?
Because shaitan has less influence on the person who sleeps with with
taharam, jameem. And then number three, sleep early. So it is
actually part of the sunnah to sleep early.
And the Prophet Sallam didn't like to stay up too long after Isha.
Man here in Calgary, it's like roller coaster. Like, Isha will be
like, as early as what? What's the earliest sense here, six? Yeah. So
as early as six. So are you telling me, brother, to go to
sleep at 637?
O'clock? No, yeah. Depending on the eastern countries, it doesn't
change too much. Here it goes from six to 11.
But obviously, as soon as you pray isha 11, ASAN, I don't have to
tell you, most of you are like, just like your head's falling,
just like praying Isha with like,
not an author twice. But
when, when, when you pray. Asha, Don't stay up too long. Come on,
unless you have to. Yeah. One kid said, What about Qiyam elay, what
about Qiyam? El, Does it contradict someone wants to pray
him? Ali, how does it not contradict Sleep early so you can
get up for Himal. And the best Qi yamail is when, right before Fajr,
the third part, that's when the Allah comes in a way that befits
him. And he asks, who's here to ask for Stephan I will forgive
them. Who's here to ask for any, for anything in this dunya, and
I'll give it to them. Subhanallah, this is the third part of the
night right before Fajr. So sleep early if you can, and you try your
best to sleep early and wake up early. Subhanallah,
the prophet sallam, made dua, and he said that my ummah barakah is
when at night or in the morning, in the morning SubhanAllah. So if
you have an important task or an exam, you're looking at, oh man,
it's already 11,
go to sleep and in the morning, and you'll see you'll get three
times as productive as the night SubhanAllah. It's just Allah put
Barkha in the in the morning. Of course, say the athkr, Sayyid kar
of the of course, what are some of the ADKAR before you sleep? Tabana
et al, qur's see what else before you sleep.
Now to akhiya, the end of Sut al Bakr, last two of sul Bahar, Kula
falaq nas the hadith of when Ali Nam,
Nam,
Nam Asanti. So when they had the famous hadith of one Fatima
radila, and she told Ali, you know, you know, I'm getting really
tired at home, and can you ask the person to get me, like someone to
help me? Okay? And so Ali brought it up and told them, If you just
say, subhanAllah, 33 Alhamdulillah.
33 in Allahabad, 34 it's better for you than
some. It will give you strength to do more. This is very interesting.
It'll give you strength to do more. Try it. Try it. Subhanallah,
this is from the Sunnah of the Prophet saw other adab when you go
to sleep, lock your doors. This is from the adab of go to sleep, lock
your doors, cover your bottles, your utensils. Some people just
leave their food and open. Yeah, you just like open for the jinns
and the shayateen to come eat and have a feast. So cover your food.
This is from the Sunnah. Cover your food, cover your bottles,
lock the doors. What else? Turn off your lights. These are all
cover your utensils. Turn off your lights. These are from the Sunnah.
Before you go to sleep, turn off your lights and you'll sleep
better. InshaAllah type and brush your teeth. Thank you, and brush
your teeth. Now brush your teeth just at night or in the morning
too.
In the morning or in the night,
what about the morning?
Yes, in the morning too. Mean type we go to the adep of sleeping,
from the ADEPT, when he would go sleep,
he would say the DUA lamina Tabata, ibadah, Allah, samely,
from the punishment when your slaves will be resurrected on the
day of judgment, and Bismillah, Mahi and so on. Taban. Because in
reality, when you go to sleep, you're actually dying. Sach Allah,
fuss, Hina matiha, and so some people go to sleep and never wake
up again. Yeah, subhanAllah to have. I've heard many stories like
that, like the Imam and the masjid in Riyadh. He had two daughters go
to sleep and never woke up. Against Subhanallah, just was they
have no problem, no health, just went to sleep and never woke up.
Is Allah. Can take your soul, and that's why, when we wake
up, what do we say? Alhamdulillah, yeah, we ask. We thank Allah, who
gave us life after he he took it away, subhanAllah, so you're
actually dying every night, subhanAllah, but we don't realize
that we're almost done, he says, Mima Ali, kulbil Amini, send me.
Okay, so now we're going to talk about the etiquettes of eating.
Okay, the etiquettes of eating very easy. We all know them. Okay,
FiO wali from Muhammad, so when you eat, give me some etiquettes.
When you're about to eat, huh, it's really hot and you huh?
Should you wait? Should you blow huh?
Should you put in the freezer? What do you do? Huh? So wait,
wait. You see how little suburb we have. People will burn their
tongues just so they can eat and they know it's hot, just wait
until it cools down. Tamam what else are the other adabun Eating
you eat with your left right, huh? Eat with your right. Tama, some
ulama said It's haram to eat with your left. Some said it's makru.
Why? Because the Prophet, the famous Hadith, when, when the pram
told the man, eat with your right. He said, I can't. And the man
could right. And then the Prophet made dua, may You not be able to
to eat with, with your with your right right? And they said the man
could not eat with his right after that day. And of course, because
shaytaan eats with with his left. And so even if it's not haram, do
you want to eat like shaytaan? You want to eat like shaytaan? You
want to be a role and you want him to be a role model. And also, we
use this for cleaning. And so it's it's better to use your right
hand. Okay, I'm left handed. Brother, no, try your best. Get
yourself used to eating and drinking with your right so, so
from the adab of eating so you eat from what is near to you. Is this
always like, if you have your own plate? Do I have to eat from
what's near to me? What
do you guys think? Yeah,
so some of the
Ulama said that it's actually talking about when you're eating
as a gatherer, and you're eating, like in Saudi Arabia, like when I
was there, the culture is you eat in a big
it's like, sometimes 20 people sitting, and so you get up and you
see that meat over there. You get up and, like, right, actually,
over there, from the etiquettes. What they do is they, the host,
will actually start cutting the meat and throwing it in front of
you. And this is from good, I guess it's good hosting is you cut
the meat and you put in front of them, but you just eat what's in
front of you. What if you only have rice, yeah, from what's in
front of you. Usually the meat is in the middle. So you can actually
get from your meat, but you want from the thigh and no, whatever's
in front of you, this is what. Allah, yeah, okay. Are you allowed
to get up and go from the other
side? Allah, maybe. But when you're by yourself, that should be
fine. Should be fine. And if you and it's your play 10, you know
you're not harming anybody. Because I think that's the main
Allah, here is that you don't harm anybody. Yeah, you don't harm
anybody. It's what's in front of you. Eat from what's in front of
you. Type, so eat from you. Eat with the right hand. We said, What
else say? Bismillah, so I forgot. What do
I do? As soon
as you remember Bismillah wala, Ah, okay, and the barakah and that
food will be there inshaAllah, sabism Allah, before.
You begin, and then when you finish, Alhamdulillah. There's
some ADK that are famous, like, what? Huh?
Namah, who said it was timing, and there's a car, but the minimum,
just say Alhamdulillah. Say alhamdul Alhamdulillah. And we get
this from the Hadith. What the Prophet sallallahu said, yahuah
samilla, O young boy, say, bismala samilla, wakul, miylik, wakul, Bey
Amelie, wakul me Malik, right? He said, sabisma and eat with your
right and kulmi Malik, and what's in front of you, right? This is
from the adab,
dear child. Mention Allah's Name, eat with your right hand and eat
from what is next to you. And then he says, Muhammadan, Allah faham.
And then he says the last one, Ahmed, hulla musalla and Allah
Nabi Inaya, Rabbi, not me. FAQ Bala. So what are the etiquettes
here?
So alhamdulillah. You say Alhamdulillah. Also, from when,
when you finish something. So when you finish something, whatever,
you finish something, okay, when you complete a task, say,
Alhamdulillah, okay, just finish your homework. Alhamdulillah. You
finish your assignment. Alhamdulillah, you finish cleaning
the snow. Alhamdulillah. Get yourself used to always being
grateful and praising Allah. So, from the adab also is when you
finish something. So that's why the author, he says he's praising
Allah for finishing, for being able to finish the poem. Okay? And
then from the also from the adab is to send peace and blessings
upon the Prophet, right? When you finish something. This is also
from the adab that is mahadjura, that are forgotten when you finish
something. Say, Alhamdulillah, osawato Salaam, alasulla. Just do
that, right? And sha Allah, Allah will send 10 salaams for you. And
also, from the etiquettes, is asking ALLAH to accept,
yeah, ya, Rabbi nav mi faqab, Allah. So even the poet, and you
see in all the poems that are written by the Ulama, they always
ask Allah, Allah for Kabul, because you don't know if it's
accepted, right, when Ibrahim was building the KAB, but what did he
say? Is Abraham, what did he say? Is Abraham and his child and his
son ismaid raminna. Ibrahim is saying, and he's WHAT'S HE IS HE
building Yani. He's building his own house. He's building the
Kaaba, the house of Allah. And he's saying, oh, Allah, accept
from me.
So Bin babulah for us. So when you do something, ask Allah to accept,
right? So we ask Allah to accept all your efforts for coming here
and coming to the Halakhah. Really appreciate those of you who came
through to all of them and ask Allah to make this beneficial. Is
there any questions? And I tried to finish by 15 minutes, any
questions? No, I'm told.
After
salah, when you pray, you say the famous ones. You say, stuff,
Allah,
right now, my blood, my brain, is black. You say, What's God after
salah,
salaam, salaam, aha,
Nam,
Nam, Nam. There's a dua for Kabul. I think there is. I think so. I
think it's just,
yeah, that one, it kind of falls there, Allah. Oh, Allah, help me.
This is the Prophet told us a hobby Yani, don't ever forget
this. Oh, Allah, help me, remembering you and thanking you,
Romania and to do the best to worship you in the best way. What
other questions? Good question.
Halas Taylor,
inshaAllah, next week, Ali will take over Ibn ala the topic Allah
Alam Shala will announce it be Illah Barga alfiqumen, OSA,