Hamza Ayedi – The Best of Manners #2
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So welcome dear brothers and sisters to, part
2 of our halaqa series, the best of
manners, an explanation of doctor Amr Bahad's poem
on on manners.
Before
we get started, let's do some review.
Okay. So if you guys remember, we we
we talked about,
the forgetting curve. It's been 2 weeks. We
had a week off. So I'm assuming
everything's gone back to 0. So we need
to do some review. Quick review.
I have some that
some of you did actually
review.
Let's start with you guys, inshallah. So let's
start about What did we talk about last
halakhah? It's been 2 weeks. We talked about,
and
What did we say are the difference between
them? Anybody remember?
Al Farf between Al Adab
Uh-huh. Wal Akhlaab. Who remembers?
That's Abdul Hamid. I think you said Al
Adab was
And adab are the ones that are not
tested to Now so Yeah. Yeah. Almost exactly
what we said. We we said adab so
akhlaq are your natural characteristics, okay? Of your
personality that you have,
that you're born with, and the ones that
you work
on, and you adapt. And we said the
adab is how you apply those in different
situations. How you apply those in different situations
like adab in the Masjid, adab with the
Quran, adab with your parents, adab with Allah,
adab with the Prophet
So that's kind of the definition that we
gave. The difference between them. So because people
usually get confused between them.
Give me something
from the
I guess,
from the
benefits of having good akhlaq. Or some of
the virtues of having good akhlaq? Who can
tell me? We mentioned like 6 or more.
Ah.
Nam, Muhammad. Nahfabbah.
No. So we said that
And we also we said that that the
person who has good akhlaq
can reach the level of the Sa'am Ta'im.
The one who,
fasts
the the day
and prays the night,
voluntarily. Not the wajib,
the voluntary ones. So they can reach a
very high level.
The person who has good
akhlaq. What else?
Remember the Prophet he he said, I I
guarantee a house
for the one
who has good manners in the highest place
in Jannah.
So subhanAllah, there's so many, so many of
of
virtues of of good akhlaq.
So we went through that last, last time.
And we said that today
we were gonna start with the poem. And
I challenged,
you guys to
to to memorize it. Just just curious, who
memorized the the the first line lines that
we're supposed to do today?
Nobody.
Nobody put the effort.
Now if you had nobody wants a Tim
Hortons card?
We'll see. We still have 2 weeks, madam.
And I highly encourage you to memorize it.
And I'll tell you why. This is not
just something,
to
just for the fun of it. Remember what
we said, if you memorize something, it will
stay with you. So if you memorize something,
and you learn what it means,
it will stay with you, and you'll be
able to apply it in your day to
day life.
So al hif has its place.
And it's really only 29 lines. It's really
only 29 lines. And by the way, I
forgot to mention. If you just Google this,
or you put it on YouTube, you'll find
many different people who are reciting it.
Like some of them different voices, some of
them have it on repeat, so you can
actually memorize it.
So there's lots of avenues. Put it in
your car, listen to it.
You can do that. So let's start with
the poem. So,
last week, we did the introduction,
to the topic of good manners, good character.
Today we're gonna start the poem that you
have in front of you. Everybody should
everyone should have a copy of it, of
the poem. If you don't, there should be
a pile somewhere here. And if you want,
the digital version So
inshallah today, we'll be doing lines 1 to
8. Lines
1 to 8. If you need the digital
version, it's right there. You can just,
scan the the QR code
and
you'll have it there with you. Those of
tablets. People who like to use tablets. Insha'Allah.
Jami.
Let's start. I'm gonna ask, our brother Muhammad,
insha'Allah, to recite. If you can, Muhammad, recite
the first eight lines, and if everybody can
follow,
we can start inshallah.
Okay.
So inshallah, today we want to cover,
these 8 lines. Taban, the the the book
that you have in front of you, I
did not make this. This is one of
the students of the sheikh, Sheikh Amr Bahad's
students.
Fahad,
Alhambali.
And so he's the one who
who translated this.
And he has some side notes. The translation
is pretty good. Sometimes we might comment on
some of them.
Maybe it's not the best, choice of words,
but,
may Allah reward him, for doing that.
Let's
start. So
we start with the first line.
So of course,
from the tradition from the sunnah is whenever
you start something, you start with with Alhamd.
So we start with Alhamd.
Alhamdulillahi
Alhamdulillahi All ham all ham inshallah will explain
what that is.
Just a a disclaimer. InshaAllah, I'll try What
we'll do is we'll kinda just go through
the line. Insha'Allah, just kinda make sure we
understand what the wording says. And then insha'Allah
we'll talk about some of the hadith and
ayat that are related to it. So,
he says,
All praise
is due to Allah. All praise is due
to Allah
The one who
What does What's alhibba?
Anybody know what alhibba is?
Hibba?
Not your cousin.
Has a
meaning. A gift, ascent.
Alhibba as a gift to ma'am.
Very close. Okay? But it's a gift that
for for no exchange, and for no price,
or whatever.
So is a gift. So Allah subhan so
the the poet here is saying that, All
praise
is to Allah, who He gave as a
gift. Gave what?
He says,
Okay.
He gave,
Al Adab, which is good etiquette, good akhlaq,
to who?
One thing to notice here, for those of
you who are maybe beginners in Arabic or
maybe intermediate,
you'll notice that poetry is not the easiest.
It's not the thing you start with. Because
in poetry,
they always, you know, they
play around with the order of the words.
So sometimes you'll find the subject
way at the end, and the object before,
and they mix it up a lot. So
so it might not match sometimes with the
translation.
So here he's saying,
So, all praises to to Allah who has
bestowed the etiquettes
upon His close servants. Are
servants or slaves. Slaves maybe a better translation.
The close ones.
Al Kareeb, someone who's close.
So first of all, we see here that
the author is saying that,
good akhlaq, good manners are ahibba from Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala. They are a gift from
Allah
and a gift that deserves thanks.
Okay? And the the the the poet, he
started with
Alhamd.
Alhamd, they say
Like being grateful. So alhamd is not just
being grateful.
Alhamd is being grateful, and also
it has the the the meaning of praise.
Okay? So you're praising and you're being grateful,
and it's coupled with love. It's coupled with
love. So from the definitions of alhamd, is
praise coupled with love and glorification,
and glorification.
And one of the most amazing things about
the word alhamd,
it's not a verb. Right? It's a noun.
It's an in the Arabic language.
And that means it's it gives it the
the the meaning of of eternity. And it's
always happening.
Prays
and thanks us to Allah all the time.
Before, now, after, and everything is is praising
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
And everything is glorifying Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
And but we don't understand
their tasbih. So alhamd
again is praise So you're Because sometimes someone
can have
You might praise someone and thank them, but
inside you don't like that person.
Because you have to. If it's your boss.
Say, you know, you're grateful to them, and
you praise them, Oh, you're so amazing. You
know, thank you so much. But inside, like
you hate their guts. Okay? But when it
comes to Allah here, Alhamd,
it's praise. Okay?
You praise Allah with all His amazing names.
Okay? And attributes.
And you're grateful, okay? And that's coupled with
love. So that's Alhamdulillah
all the time.
Last time we talked about how good character
is attained. So here the author says that,
he starts by saying that, it's something that
is given to a person. Remember we said
that, al akhlaq,
there's something that you are born with, naturally
born with. Fa'ah, you're naturally
haleem.
Okay? You you can
withstand anybody. You don't get angry fast. Or
you're naturally,
always smiling.
Some people just naturally smile. They have it's
very easy for them to smile. And for
some people, smiling is very difficult.
Yeah. And their mouth is like frozen. They
have to put a lot of effort.
So,
the first part of it is is something
that's innate. Allah
Okay? Gifted or
created this person with these akhlaq.
Okay? Others
are akhlaq that we have to acquire. Okay?
We have to acquire them. And they take
effort. And you have to struggle with them.
And remember we mentioned the hadith, who remembers
it? We said the hadith,
Alright? This
is the hadith that we mentioned last time
even though it has some weakness in their
narration.
But the meaning is right that,
uh-uh
Okay?
Being able to acquire knowledge
is by going and seeking it. It doesn't
just come to you. And al khalm, getting
khalm, getting uh-uh, that attribute
of forbearance, that very high level of sabah,
okay? It's something that you have to practice.
It's something that you have to practice. So,
al akhlaq we said,
some people are born with them. Okay? And
just because you're born with something, it doesn't
mean you cannot improve it. Because in every
khuluq that you can talk about, there's different
levels.
For, you know the sabr of, of, of,
the speaker is not like the sabr of
of Ayyub alaihis salam. Right? The the helm
of,
you know, your parents are not like maybe
the helm of your neighbors. So they all
can be something that can be improved and
acquired.
So,
So then he talks about
So this is something that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala,
gifts
Here it says servant.
Maybe a better translation would be,
would be a slave. Slave of Allah. Some
people are not very comfortable with that word,
slave.
But when we when we talk about the
word,
in in the Quran and the sunnah,
it has absolutely nothing to do with what
we are accustomed to. Especially those of you
who studied the history of slavery and
It's a very dark history of human,
history.
Like when you talk So when you talk
about in this life, and believe it or
not, there are still countries that have,
they have actually
slaves.
And there is no lower status
than a slave. Is there something lower than
that? Anybody know here a lower status than
a slave?
Is there something lower? You're gonna say something?
Yeah. No. So that's the lowest that a
person can be. Because asan, you don't even
own yourself. Let alone owning anything.
And so that's the lowest of the lowest.
So when you're a slave of a creation,
of a person, you are the lowest of
the lowest.
When you are a slave
of the Most High,
that raises you. When you are the slave
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it's actually something
that elevates the person.
Uh-uh. That elevates the person. And when Allah
subhanahu wa
ta'ala mentions
the the the prophets in the Quran, He
gives them that attribute.
Okay? When Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks about,
The Prophet SAW Allahu Wa Salam, SubhanAllah li
Asrabi Abdihee,
his slave. So this is actually something of
an honor. And why is it an honor?
Because it's you know sometimes
our the or the the the the the
the name that you give yourself,
how how good or bad is it is
related to who it's related to. What does
that mean? Yeah. So someone might say,
you know, I, I work with, you know,
I work at a where do you work?
I work at a gas station down the
street.
Okay. Mashallah. Good for you. Somebody else will
say, I work
with Aramco.
I'm an employee at Aramco. He could be
a janitor, but just because it's Aramco, for
those of you who don't know, I think
it's the biggest company in the world or
one of the biggest.
So just because he's related Yeah. And he's
relating himself to it, it raises him. Even
if he's a janitor.
Fahir, when we say
just because now you're the Abd of Ar
Rahman, it raises you to a very high
status. And that's why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
says,
in Surat,
in Surat Al Furqan,
And so in the end of Surat Al
Furqan, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala starts talking about
his Ibad.
The slaves of Allah
And so he says, And the true slaves
of Allah
the true servants of the most compassionate
of Ar Rahman, are those who walk on
the earth
humbly.
So now, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is describing
that his true Ibaad are are are are
those who have good akhlaq,
are those who have good manners. When they
walk on the earth,
with humbleness. They're not arrogant. They're not putting
people down.
And when the ignorant
try to,
speak with them or attack them, Okay? They
say salam, peace.
And they don't reply with something worse, they
don't attack them.
And of course there's more attributes that are
mentioned. But this ayah gives us an indication
that the true slaves of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala are those who have good akhlaq, who
have good akhlaq.
And taban,
from my most favorite lines of poetry by
Al Qadhi Iyad,
explaining
how,
what it means to be Abdu of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. He says,
from the things that most increased me in
in in honor and in pride.
Al Qadhiyad, one of the the greatest scholars
in the history, he's saying that,
The most thing that has increased me in
in in in honor and pride. Okay?
He says,
This thing gives me so much pride
that I feel like I'm stepping on top
of the highest star in the sky.
How much pride I have?
Okay? So what is what is giving you
all this pride?
He says,
Just the fact that I'm included
in the phrase You Ibadi, when Allah subhanahu
wa'ala says, You Ibadi. That's enough for me
to give me Izzah. And Sharaf,
and that you made Ahmad,
the other name of the Prophet shalallahu alaihi
wa sallam, a Prophet,
a Prophet for me.
And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala when he talks
to his,
servants
in the hadith Fusi, You Ibadi, O my
slaves.
The Ayah and Surah Zumr, some of the
Ulema said, Arjaiyah in Quran.
You the Ayah that has the most hope
in the Quran? Anybody know which one it
is?
Muhammadu Alama said this, this ayah has Arj
ayahfil Quran. The ayah has the most hope.
Why? Because it says it's talking about all
the the the servants of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, all the slaves of Allah.
Al Israaf is like, you didn't sin once,
twice, it's and you've crossed the limit. You
and Halas. You've done everything that's possible.
Okay? Don't
despair from the mercy of Allah.
Jameel.
We move to the next to the next
line. So,
then he says the poet, he says,
Okay? And so usually when we when we
wanna give a talk or speech, from the
adab of speaking
or writing something,
is first praising Allah
And what's the second thing?
Is to praise, send salaam, uh-uh, and salaawasalam
So he says,
Then may the peace and the blessings, okay?
Gather upon our Prophet of great manners.
Okay?
So obviously,
This is something that we hear all the
time.
But unfortunately,
sometimes we say it so much but we
don't know what it means. I remember
when I heard it, when I used to
hear it a lot when I was Yeah.
And it's starting to come to the masjid,
and I'm trying to translate it. It doesn't
make sense. How do you
You pray upon the Prophet. What's But what
we have to understand is that doesn't
The technical meaning is the prayer that we
just prayed. Like in linguistically, what is a
salah?
Linguistically?
A du'a.
So it's to actually make du'a, okay?
For someone. Okay? So here,
as ibn Abbas said,
Allah
commanded us to do this. Allah subhanahu tells
us, Surat Al Azaab,
Indeed Allah
showers His blessings upon the Prophet, and his
angels pray for him. O believers, invoke Allah's
blessings upon him, and salute him with the
worthy greetings of peace. Okay? So this is
a command, the Amr from Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala, And
so when we hear the name of the
Prophet what should we say?
And especially on Friday. Especially on the day,
of Friday.
Taib. So he says
to
So what is
ibn Abbas, he says,
ibn Abbas he said, is to send the
salah means to send the blessings, meaning to
supplicate for him.
It's basically making dua for the Prophet
Out of love for him, okay? We've been
commanded to make always to make dua for
him. So So when someone says,
what does it mean?
It's to make dua for the Prophet. It's
to make dua
for him to be blessed. So you're basically
asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to bless the
Prophet.
What's
basically is also a dua but
for his protection.
So ibn Abbas says
means, May you be safe and secure from
any blemishes or defects, or whatever it is.
Okay? So basically, making dua, uh-uh, for the
Prophet shalallahu alaihi wa sallam to be
protected and secure.
So this is
what means. So,
Where did the author get this line?
This is related to an ayah that we
covered last week.
This
is the ayah that we mentioned last time.
That you, O Prophet, are are indeed upon
great,
character, moral character.
So the author here, he took it,
as they say, from from, from Surat Al
Qala.
Bayim. Regarding the salah and the salaam, there's
some important things that we have to always
remind ourselves about the salah and the salaam.
And it's something serious because the Prophet one
time, and you all know the hadith.
I don't know why the font looks so
weird. But
one time the Prophet shalallahu alaihi wa sallam
was climbing the mimbar. Sahih was climbing the
mimbar.
And he was saying, Ameen, Ameen, Ameen. Right?
He said it 3 times. And so the
sahaba asked him after, they said, O Prophet
of Allah why are you saying Ameen? Why
did you say Ameen? So he says,
Jibril came to
me. Okay. Jibril came to me and then
he said, May the man The first one
he says,
Okay. So, may the
person
who hears my name mentioned
and doesn't
send salah and salaam
upon me, may he be,
here it says,
may he be embarrassed, may he be,
was humiliated. Maybe that's a good translation.
Put down. Put down is your nose. Okay?
And the Arabs would say to kind of
embarrass someone or for someone to be humiliated
is when his nose is on the floor.
None of us here would put their nose
on the floor except for Allah
And because it's a sign of humiliation,
So he says, the prophet says, May he
be humiliated.
Basically the meaning, the one who hears my
name and doesn't send salah and salaam. Okay?
And so when we hear the name of
the Prophet we should always say,
Also,
not just that, but there's also reward for
someone for the person who says who sends
salah and salaam. The,
the Prophet says, Right? That the one who
sends the
peace and blessings upon me, he will be
Allah will send 10 back to him.
And you send the salaam to Prophet,
You make du'a for the Allah
sends 10 back to you.
Why would you be, why would you be
cheap
on yourself and not do that? Okay? So
whenever we hear the the name of the
Prophet
Okay? We should say,
Jameel. And of course we said,
You are upon,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells the prophet, And
you are truly a man of outstanding character.
And it makes perfect sense, Yani. The Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala,
the last messenger.
Okay? The last messenger, and he's supposed to
be a role model for people. And so,
and so it makes perfect sense that he
has the best of akhlaq. And we said
that subhanAllah, the Arab, were actually people of
good akhlaab. They had good akhlaab. If you
look at the history of the Arab, they
had good akhlaab. But they they were missing
a lot of things.
They were missing a lot of things and
of course, a tawhid was not there. And
remember we said that our our deen is
is compromised of 2 things. And so,
the Prophet was sent there to complete, okay,
the good manners. And Allah khatta also told
us
that, That indeed, in the Prophet
you have an excellent example. You have an
excellent
example.
For the one who hopes to meet Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in
the last day.
One thing
So one of the things that we see
here is that
as
leaders,
as role models, as parents,
okay?
It's important for us to be examples,
okay? For those below us, or those who
are next to us, or for every single
person here who's Muslim,
when you are
outside and you are dealing with people,
the best
that you can do is just the way
you act.
And that's why this topic is so important.
Okay? Because you can actually attract someone to
the masjid or to the deen just by
good khaloo.
And you can do the exact opposite
by bad khaloo. And we've seen that so
many times. We've seen that so many times.
Just, I mean just a few weeks ago,
there was a sister who contacted a brother,
and he told me that she's been Muslim
for 6 years, but she didn't go to
the masjid because she was treated bad.
6 years she's been a Muslim,
Okay? And she hasn't been to the masjid
because she was treated bad when she came.
And people, gave her bad attitude and they
didn't help her. And so it pushed her
away for 6 years. Alhamdulillah, she was able
to come back to the masjid and
with good akhlaah. And
she liked it and she enjoyed it. So
you can see now you can With your
bad akhlaah, you can actually push someone away
from the masjid.
And so even as parents
And here's the thing subhanallah that makes parenting
so difficult. What makes parenting so difficult?
Is that now that you have a child,
you have to fix yourself.
So many times, you know your child is
growing and then you realize you don't want
him to do something.
But what's the problem?
You do it yourself, sah. And so you
don't want your child to be on the
phone all day, but you're on the phone
all day. You don't want your child
to to throw his clothes on the floor.
But you And so what happens, you see
that you have to actually fix yourself.
You have to fix yourself. And so we
always start with ourselves. And one of the
most,
my favorite lines of poetry that I remember
hearing this in, when we were studying Arabic.
Is this these lines by I believe is
Al Mutanabbi.
They're very nice lines. And he's talking about,
this Anybody know what
is?
What's
a A bird? What kind of bird?
If you go to the to the Calgary
Zoo, you see one. Sometimes. If you're like,
Peacock. Right? So
he says,
So one day, this tawus, he started walking
is like crookedness.
Uh-huh. So his little
the the little peacocks behind him, his kids,
okay? They started doing the same thing.
So, he asked him, the father asked him,
Why are you guys walking like this?
You started with it, so we're just copying
you. Uh-uh,
So
now they're telling him,
Fix your crooked walking, okay?
If you fix it, we will fix it.
This is how this is how our children
are. Right? You know, you cannot tell them
don't smoke and you're smoking.
You stop smoking and then they'll stop smoking.
You start coming to salah, they'll start coming
salah. Right?
So they're saying, O father, don't you realize
that every little one, okay?
He follows the footsteps of those who discipline
him. That's how it works.
And the little one of us, he grows
up, okay? Exactly how his father his father,
raised him or showed him.
And so being a role model is really,
important. Whether you're a father, mother, grandfather, uncle,
whoever you are, a leader in your community,
it's very important to be good role models.
And this is really the main goal
of of of of this. We go now
to line 3.
We go line to line 3. He says
now,
Where do you hear this all the time?
And this is just something
basically to to to transfer to a new
topic. Okay? Like
Okay? So
s for what follows.
Okay? Moving on to the next topic.
He says,
What's mean?
Take.
Okay?
It means take.
Okay? So the author is saying to you,
Here you go. I'm gonna give you the
best of manners.
The list of and
are many. In the 29 line poem will
not be even close to be enough. But
he's like, I'm gonna give you now Here
you go. Take
Here are the best of manners.
Okay?
The person who takes these akhlaq,
the person who possesses them,
the one who possesses. In Arabic, when you
say
it doesn't mean friend here, it means the
one who possesses something.
Like you say,
Okay? The one who possesses money. Okay? So,
uh-uh He goes up. He raises himself.
Okay? And so just by mere fact that
he has this akhlaq, he will be raised.
And this is taken from the hadith inshaAllah,
we'll we'll we'll we'll mention in a bit.
The the the the ranks the ranks of
of of piety.
So the person who takes this adab and
akhlaq,
and he applies them, and now he possesses
them, this will raise him. This will this
will raise him in this life and in
the hereafter. And so this is kind of
the meaning of this line.
There's a narration,
where the Prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam after
the battle of Uhud,
when his uncle Hamza was killed radhiallahu anhu.
The Prophet was obviously very close to his
uncle Hamza,
and he was very upset.
And so when the Prophet saw what they
did to him, you know, they mutilated his
body.
And so when he saw them he says,
uh-uh uh-uh as per generation,
he says,
He was very furious. He said, I'm gonna
do this to 70 of them. And it's
of the mushakeen.
So Jibril faja ajibril.
So Jibril came to him with a verse
which is in Surat Al Araf,
And so
the ayah which means
is basically
pardoning or being gracious with somebody. Okay?
So,
and enjoin what is right, and turn away
from those who are ignorant. So Jibreel revealed
this ayah to him at that time.
And so the prophet says, Yeah Jibril
Oh Jibril, what's this?
What's what's this verse?
Jibril says, I don't know. And then Jibril
came back to him
That Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has commanded you
to pardon those who have wronged you.
And to connect with the ones who have
cut you
off, And to give
to the one who has, who has not,
who has cut you or has not given
you.
And so, and so this is something
Why I put this aya? Why I put
this this narration?
Because this is something that Allah
commanded the Prophet
And the the word he use here is
take.
And this is where the the the the
the the poet, he got this from. Can
you take these good manners? Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala said the same thing here, Surah Al
Araf. And this remember this came down when
when the prophet was very angry, and he
was in a bad and he was very
emotional because of what happened in Uhud, Ta'an.
And he saw his uncle, Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala came down with the ayah, hudal afu.
Always take the better option. And the Prophet
was the one that always took the the
better option,
Okay? And do what is right.
Always try to find the the the the
best option,
And stay away from those who are ignorant.
Taban,
the the the
poet he
says
Where did he get this from? Okay. He
got this from the from the hadith that
we mentioned last week,
So Aisha she
mentioned that the prophet said that the believer
will attain with his good character
the rank of the
Imagine, this is not
the the siyam Ramadan.
This is not the tahajjud of Ramadan.
This is just
an extra, extra siyam. Okay? And that is
something that is a high level. And so
you can reach that high level just by
having good akhlaq.
Just by having good akhlaq, you can reach
the level of the qa'im sa'im, which is
a very high level, and these are from
the greatest
of good deeds.
And then he says,
Now it's gonna get a bit dense, we
have a lot of content now.
He says,
So now he says, Here's what the first
thing you have to do when it comes
to manners.
The first thing that you have to observe,
and you observe,
is the adab with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Okay?
The first thing you have to do is
have good adab with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
What's good adab with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
he says
That's basically it.
The first thing you have to do is
have good with Allah
What does that entail? It's basically,
do what Allah told you to do, and
stay away from what Allah told you to
stay away from. And this is basically what
is.
To be steadfast on the straight path, is
basically
to do what Allah commands you and to
stay away from what Allah
prohibited you. So the first thing we have
to do is, have
good
with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Because remember we
said
that okay? We can break them up in
2 things.
Okay?
We have
and with Allah
the creator.
And we have
with the creation.
And both of them are part of the
deen. It's not enough for you to just
pray, and fast,
and pay your zakah, and go to hajj,
and then you are root to your neighbor,
you are root to your mom,
you don't have respect for people, you don't
smile. It's not enough. It's not enough because
that's gonna end up you wronging people. And
remember what we said about the muflis on
the day of judgement? Al muflis, the one
who goes goes
to the day of judgment with good deeds.
But they are taken away from him because
he wronged others. Because he missed that second
part of of
with the creation. But the first thing is
Right? And that's why remember, this always comes
up. Okay? And people say, Oh, you know,
what if someone has good akhlaab but he's
not a Muslim? What if someone does so
much good? Well, he's missed the first most
important part which is of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Okay? It's it's absolutely bad adab and
bad akhlaq that someone gives you everything you
own and then you disregard them.
Allah gives these people uh-uh-uh everything. Allah gives
everybody everything. And then a group of people
decide to say, Oh, this is not from
Allah. This is from us. Isn't that the
worst of adab? The worst of akhlaq? And
so, uh-uh,
the first thing is
So Adab with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
2 things we said,
Okay? By leaving
sin,
Okay? And to do what Allah commanded you.
It's very basic, Yani. That's that's basically our
religion. Okay? When the sahabi came to the
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he asked he
asked him,
uh-uh tell me something in Islam
that if I ask you, if you tell
me I don't need to ask anybody else.
He said,
Say I believe in Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
and then stay steadfast on that.
Have the conviction that you really believe in
Allah
and then just do what He tells you.
Stay on the straight path until you meet
Him, Until you meet Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala. So this is the adab of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. 2 things. Okay? Is
to do what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala commands
us, and to leave,
what He prohibited us.
And subhanAllah, sometimes like we say, Oh, you
know like,
it's tough. You know, this makes my life
hard. But subhanAllah like,
you will see, and and you have to
we have to believe this. That by obeying
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and His Messenger,
it's gonna improve our life. It's not just
something you do for the akhirah. No, it
will improve your life in this life.
And you have to believe that. Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala says,
Reply.
Reply
Look how Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, He
says, O believers,
respond to Allah and His Messenger
when He calls you to to that which
gives you life.
The sharia is here to give you life.
When you follow the commands of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala and the commands of the
Prophet it's supposed to give you life, it's
supposed
to improve your life, it's supposed to raise
you. Not just in the a'thirah but in
this life as well. So we have to
have that mentality. Don't ever think that by
obeying the commands of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
you're lowering yourself.
It's exact opposite. It's exact opposite. It's actually
raising you in this life and in the
hereafter.
Then he says, Now we start with
with the with Allah
So in a nutshell,
it's doing what he tells you, and then
to stay away
from from
that which he prohibits you from. But now
he starts talking about some of the
So in our deen,
we have a lot of
that you do
them
it's an action. Like what?
A salah. What else? What's
that you do with
your limbs?
You give zakah,
What else?
So many things, so many are actually you
do them, it's an action. But a lot
of them, and from the most important
are
The types of worship
that are in the heart. And nobody can
see except Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Because you
can pray,
you can pay you can pray your zakah,
you can do your hajj, but if there's
something wrong inside,
then maybe all that doesn't count.
And maybe some of it is deficient.
And so from the first adab with Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala,
and from the most important is So
he
says,
We have 6 of them here. We have
6 adab with Allah
6 acts of worship, and taban, each one
of these is a lecture by itself.
So we're not we don't have time to
go deep into them, but inshallah will try
to cover some important points for each one
of them. So he starts
with husn adhan.
The band husn adhan What's husn adhan?
I'm sure you've heard this before.
When you insult someone, they say, Have of
me.
Have of me. Have
of that person. What's
To have good thoughts of someone,
To think good of someone,
with Allah
is to think good of Allah
And this is such a crucial part of
of a person's
iman. Right? Because remember,
you have a group of people
who
had too much.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala when when he tells
us to ask him for guidance,
Oh Allah guide us at a straight path.
He says,
They had absolutely no hasna done with Allah
Subhanahu wa ta'ala. And you'll see that those
people, they always think of Allah as an
angry God, like he's just waiting to punish
them.
And so, this is not how a believer
is. A believer has of Allah
Then you have another group who thinks Allah
is just
love, just love, love, love. Allah forgives everything.
Do whatever you want, you know.
And that's another extreme.
Right? When it you you you are basically
deceiving yourself.
And you're saying that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
lets you do whatever you want. No.
With Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is is right
in the middle. Okay? And so
is to think good of Allah
And all the other that we're gonna mention
here, okay? They all depend on having Hasnudhan
of Allah
Because when we talk about tawakkul,
okay? To have tawakkul in Allah, don't you
have to have Hasnudhan?
Shouldn't you be able to have good you
have to think good of Allah
To have to think good of Allah
If you have just without
you're destroyed.
Is a very important aspect
of of, of with Allah
And actually it's very soon. It's very bad
manners to think bad of Allah.
You know sometimes,
it discounts in everything. Think about your dua.
And and and I bet you that most
of us do it and we don't recognize
it.
How many times you make dua to Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala and in your heart you're
not sure if it's gonna happen?
But that's sudan of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
You are asking Allah who can
make anything happen,
but when you're asking Him you have Sheikh
in your heart.
Isn't that sudan with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?
Isn't that bad adab with Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala? And so from from bad from good
adab is when you ask Allah,
When you ask Allah, ask Him and you
have full
Yeah, and you ask Him and you know
it's gonna happen. You have fully Yaqeen that
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is gonna is gonna
do it. In the famous hadith Fudsi,
Where?
There's a Hyundai Sonata blocking the parking. If
it's yours insha Allah, move it.
The famous hadith Fudsi that, where Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala says,
That
I am as my slave expects
of me. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
I am exactly what my slave, my abd
expects of me.
In another narration that I mentioned here, he
says,
I am as what my slave expects
of me.
If he has
good thoughts of me, if he thinks good
of me, then he will get the good.
Okay?
And if he expects bad, and that's what
he will get.
And so, it's a trap of shaitan. Now,
you know when we're in a good state,
things are going well, you know it's easy
to think good of Allah. But when someone
is in a bad state,
maybe he's going through a rough time, maybe
he's done a lot of sins, it's easy
for shaitaan to come in and say, Halas,
you're doomed.
Allah will never forgive you. Allah will never
do this.
Don't even bother asking Allah. Allah will not
answer your dua. But this is a trap
of shaitaan.
Is a trap of shaitaan. And so even
when you are in the lowest place,
you should think good of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
Even if you've done a big sin, you
should expect Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Yeah. If if if you have a Hyundai
Sonata, it's blocking the the garage door of
the bakery of of dolish inshallah. If it's
your car, please remove
it. Or nobody gets their dough, or their
but we're saying that Yes. So, when
you deal with Allah
you always have to have You
always have to have
Don't deceive yourself and say that, Oh, I
will I can sin as much as I
want, and Allah will forgive me. No, that's
another extreme.
But whenever you commit something
bad,
have that Allah will forgive you.
And whenever you want something,
have that Allah will give it to you.
When you ask him for something, have
So
is something,
a major adab that we when dealing with
Allah
Then we go to Tawakkul. So he says,
What is Tawakkul?
I mean, I don't think we have to
define it. What's Tawakkul?
Now I'm from the sisters, nobody's answering today.
To to trust Allah to rely on Allah
To rely on Allah
And so,
one of This is an act of worship.
We never think of it like that. But
a is an act of worship. And it's
easy to have
when we are
prosperous, and having a good time, and things
are easy, and we claim we have
But when is
really tested?
When is really tested?
Is really tested when you're going through difficulty.
Right? And when you realize that,
There's nothing in your in your power, you
cannot do anything about your situation
except by the the the the the permission
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And so
But what's the most important thing about tawakkul?
Is that yes, you rely upon Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala but first what?
You tie your camel as the Prophet
said. You tie your camel and then you
you put your trust in Allah
You tie your camel and then you put
your trust in Allah
If you don't have asnudhan of Allah, can
you have good tawakkul of Allah? You cannot.
And so
part the precursor of having good tawakkul of
Allah to expect to to be able to
fully put your trust in Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Right? You know like sometimes we are
in situations where
we don't have any other choice. You know,
I was one brother came to me today
he said, I'm losing my job in a
few months. And you know, I have a
wife and this, I'm basically gonna be homeless
in a few months. I said, No, no.
Have have personal and
have
tawakkur
Allah Actually, I told him, Have personal
that to expect a better salary and a
better job. Why not? And this is what
our deen teaches us. When something
you're going through a difficulty,
don't think negative,
don't be pessimistic.
Have tafaa'ul,
be optimistic.
This is part of our deen.
And actually,
say, Alhamdulillah,
and hope for something better.
Have that conviction in your heart that Allah
is gonna give you something better. Because remember,
Allah says, I am what my slave thinks
of me. So if you think Allah is
gonna give you a better situation,
you will get it. And if you expect
that Allah is gonna give you a bad
situation, then maybe He will give you that.
And so you always have to have that
and then when you have
that
the is not hard. You rely on Allah
You do your job,
for that brother he searches,
resume, he sends And
you basically like, You know, I fully submit
to Allah, and a tawakkal to Allah.
Because there's nothing else you can do.
And part of the Muslim psyche is that
to believe that,
I don't care if you're graduate of Harvard,
if your father is the president,
if Allah doesn't want you to get that
risk, you will not get it.
And if Allah wants you to get that
risk, you will get it.
This is part of the the Muslim
psyche and psychology.
So he says,
Now he talks about rajah.
Okay?
Ta'ban,
uh-uh, many narrations about tawqul.
Umar he said that Samir Surah Alaihi Wasallam
Okay?
Omar Khattab says, I heard the prophet say
that, If
you truly depended on Allah, if you truly
put
your in Allah
He will provide for you just like He
provides for the bird.
The birds, they leave in the morning empty,
empty stomach, and they come back full.
If you had real then
that's what will Allah will deal with you
like that.
In another, of course, the famous verse in
surat Al Talak.
And it's interesting how Allah put this ayah
in surat Al Talak. One of the most,
I guess difficult,
situations that a person can go through. It's
very emotional, it's difficult for those who have
gone through it. It's a difficult moment, right?
The person feels like, you know, the the
world is over, you know, they've gone in
such a low place.
And it's very difficult on a person emotionally.
But Allah says
in surat
Whoever has taku of Allah, Allah will find
a way for him. Okay? But not just
that,
And He'll provide him from places
that he couldn't expect.
Yeah. And he didn't expect that. That's part
of tawakkul of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and
has not done. But then he says,
This is an amazing verse because he says,
Whoever has full tawakkul on Allah, then Allah
is enough for him.
Allah is it's a guarantee
It's it's Jawah shop. That if you have
tawakul in Allah, Allah aqfeeq.
Allah is enough for you. And that's what
it means when we say
That Allah is enough for me,
and he's the best of protectors.
And so whoever has full tawakkul Allah
okay? Allah is enough for him, you don't
need anything else. Allah
is enough for you.
But then we go to What's
is hope.
And so, one of the most important acts
of
of the heart is hope, having hope in
Allah
Okay?
And the opposite of hope is despair. And
so,
part of our
to always have hope.
Right? And then we're gonna talk about hope,
and we're gonna talk about love, and we're
gonna talk about
hope and love, and fear of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala. And so ibn Qayim says that
the
the the the believer has to balance between
those.
And so he worships Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
upon love.
And he worships Allah upon fear as well.
Okay?
Upon love and fear. You do this because
you love Allah
and you also do this because you fear
the punishment of Allah
Okay? And you balance those with hope.
And so,
you do what Allah tells you to do,
but at the same time you don't know
if it's accepted or not, so you have
that hope that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
accepts it. And gives the example of like
a bird. Okay? One wing is hope,
one wing is love, and the other wing
is fear, and the head is like hope.
Hope is what guides that person
to
find
the balance.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says, Surely
Surely those who have believed and those who
immigrated and those who struggle in the way
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
They hope for
Allah mercy.
And so part of
the adab, of the believer is to always
hope for Allah mercy. No matter what you're
going through, you always have to have
that hope in Allah
mercy. And you know,
when you look into kind of, I guess
secular psychology,
they say that
to have hope,
you first have to believe that you can
actually change your situation.
Okay? And that's what this deen tells you
to do. And you have to believe that
your situation can get better.
And the second part is to have the
resources.
And what better resource than Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
Right? And so when a believer understands that,
that, Yes, I can change my situation.
And when you read the Quran, the sunnah,
there's so many examples.
And then he realizes that Allah is with
him.
Allah is the one that's there to support
him, then insha'Allah there's no reason why that
person should despair. There's no reason
why why that person should despair as Allah
says,
Okay? Don't despair from the mercy of Allah
subhanahu
wa ta'ala. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
My rahmah
surpasses everything
else. Right? So the rahmah of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, it's only one small portion that's
on this earth. There's still a huge portion
of rahma that Allah
has not
used
on his slaves. Right? And so the person
should always have
a hope
of
Allah There's a narration, an Anas
that the Prophet
entered upon a young man,
who was dying.
And so, the Prophet said to him, How
do you feel? He said, I hope I
have hope in Allah
Oh Messenger of Allah.
But I fear my sins.
So the messenger of Allah he said to
him, These two things hope and fear do
not coexist in the heart of a person
in a situation like this, but Allah will
give them that which he hopes for, and
keep him safe from that which he fears.
And so the prophet here is giving him
good news that if you
have hope in Allah
and you have that fear of Allah
then Allah
there's nothing for you to worry about. Allah
will give you that which you expect of
Him. And remember this all goes back to
of Allah
All these acts of worship,
they all actually stem from having in
Allah
Next we go to, the next
which is
love. Right?
I remember asking one of my teachers
in one of our tawheed classes.
I said to him like, Do you have
to worship Allah upon love? Because he said,
When you worship Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, you
have to worship Allah
upon love and fear.
Fear that if you don't do it, Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala punish you. And love because
you love Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And he
said, The complete
act of worship is when you do them
with both. And so, part of when we
worship Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, we do it
out of love to Allah
We do it that we love, because we
love Allah
Allah tells us,
And there are some people who take others
than Allah or they take others equal to
Allah, and they love them the same love
that they love Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
But
Allah
says,
The true believers,
okay? They have the most love for Allah
But the true believers love Allah even more.
Their most love goes to Allah
Then we go to
and we kinda discussed as well, that and
they kinda go Okay, they go together. So
is what?
Is fear. Okay? So he says,
We skip the kid, we'll go to that.
Is fear. And so we worship Allah
because we fear His punishment.
And so this is part of the
Now, some people,
it's easier for them to worship Allah out
of fear. And that's not a problem.
But really
the most complete way of worship Allah is
out of
love and fearful of Allah
Like hope and your father.
No.
Angles.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says,
And this is in the in the Surat
Al Imran when,
when they were in the battle
and the people said to them,
uh-uh, that the the people have got have
gathered around you. And the people are coming
to to attack you.
So be afraid of them.
Okay? The believers were being told that you
should fear the people.
Okay?
And from the attributes of the believers is
that they only fear Allah
Okay? And Allah told them that this was
from shaitaan.
It was shaitaan,
okay, trying to use his allies
to put for you to fear him. But
who you should should you truly fear is
Allah
Okay? And when they
neglected those calls, and they feared Allah
Allah increased their iman.
That it increased their iman when they actually
freed Allah
Okay? Because the true believer knows
that, uh-uh
true victories from Allah
Right? It doesn't matter if they're twice as
much as you, if Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is on your side, then insha'Allah, you are
victorious.
They It increased their iman. When they realized
that it's Allah who really deserve to be
feared, and then Allah And then they said,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is sufficient for us.
It's sufficient
for us. So that's And
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us,
And whoever is is has the kuf of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, and and and the
the statue of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, then
for him are 2 gardens. This is a
promise for Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in Surah
Ar Rahman, and also in Surah
The one who fears,
standing in front of Allah
the day when he has to stand in
front of Allah
and he prevents his nafs from just following
its desires,
Then his ultimate destination is Aljannah. May Allah
make us of those people.
So now, and then he mentions tawheed.
Tawheed is basically the essence of this deen.
A tawheed is worshiping Allah
alone.
And this is from the fundamentals of iman.
Okay? And so we have a tawheed arububiyyah
that worshiping Allah as the rub. The one
who sustains, the one who gives us, the
one who provides for us, and for us
and the non muslims, and everything on this
earth. Okay? So we worship him as the
rub. And we worship him as as as
as the Ilah. So
that we that everything,
every
every kind of worship has to go to
Allah
That nobody deserves worship except Allah
and we also worship Him through His names
and attributes.
That we worship Allah with His amazing attributes,
okay? And we recognize Allah
through His amazing names, to His beautiful
names and attributes.
At taban, there's many ayats in the Quran.
The most one that the common one Allah
Subhan says,
The only thing they were commanded with is
to worship Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala with a
clause.
On on on on on on the religion
of of Ibrahim alaihi salam which is
of Ibrahim, which is the straight path of
tawhid.
Okay?
Then we go to
tawhaanah from the amazing things of tawhid, is
that the person who dies on tawhid, the
Prophet said that he will enter jannah.
The Prophet said,
Whoever dies, and his last words are
And of course,
all of us, we try to be smart
and say, Khalas, you know, I'll just make
sure I memorize this. And when I'm about
to die, I'll make sure that whoever's next
to me recite it to me, and I'll
say it. Like in For those of you
who've seen people pass away, it's not easy.
And for some people, you tell them, Say
la'a, they don't say it. Because you cannot
say
on your deathbed if you didn't practice that
in your life. And so, for for you
to be able
to to say this this kalima,
You need to be able to practice it.
You have to believe it.
The uncle of the Prophet
he saw the Prophet, he lived with him,
he even defended him.
But he couldn't say it, subhanallah.
And the Prophet is there talking to him
like just say the word, and he couldn't
say it.
Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the one
who gives you that
that tafir.
It is Allah
who keeps people steadfast
to be able to say that word. And
you're only able to say that when you
live by by that kalima, by that kalima
of tawhid.
Now we go to line 6, our goal
is to finish up to 8. So
now we go to line 6.
Now he we go to
So now we're done with the adab with
Allah There's many other things, but these are
kind of the most important ones. And we
mentioned 6 of them. We
said, And what else?
He's successful.
Okay?
Will be safe and successful.
Now he goes to the adabut the Prophet
Now we go to line 6, he says,
So now we are talking about the adabud
of the prophet shalallahu alaihi wa sallam. Okay?
The first thing is he says,
is basically when you
like when you kind of glorify somebody and
you give them respect.
Okay? Like Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
Okay? And then when Allah subhanahu wa'ala talks
about the prophet
and they give him that that that status
that he deserves. So it says,
Revere him.
Maybe that's the best translation that that you
could use. It's to revere somebody. And to
give them that the the the respect and
status that they that they deserve.
Okay? Because sometimes we
Maybe a bit more the newer generation,
when they speak about the Rasulam, they speak
of him like a normal person.
Of Rasulam.
Imam Malik Rahimahullah,
and he was from the people who had,
who was known for his respect for the
Prophet
To the point that he would never talk
about a hadith unless he had wudu and
he was dressed well. This is from the
Ikhiram
that Imam Malik had for the sunnah of
the Prophet
Even they mentioned that when he was on
his deathbed, Imam Malik, and he couldn't get
up.
He was towards the end of his life,
and he couldn't get up. And people are
coming to ask for hadith because he was
like from the most knowledgeable of his time.
And so he said, Okay. Help me get
up. They said, What do you mean help
help you get up? He said, Help me
get up so I can make udhu and
dress. To dress well, you want hadith? I
have to. And there's respect for the Prophet
Okay? So we need to,
uh-uh, respect the Prophet
Revere his Prophet,
and glorify his sunnah.
Right?
Sometimes people when they talk about the deen,
Quran is up there.
But when it comes to the sunnah, it's
like you know,
they pick and choose.
They pick and choose, oh this is good,
this is nice, this is No, I don't
like this, this doesn't work with my lifestyle.
No, no, no. If the hadith is sahih,
okay?
Then you need to respect the hadith.
You need to follow the hadith, you need
to glorify the hadith. And you have to
understand that this hadith only makes your life
better.
Whether you see it or not, whether the
benefit is mentioned or not.
And so when there's a sunnah of the
Prophet
or there's something mentioned in the hadith,
then we listen to it and we follow
it, and we have that belief that this
is good for me.
Sometimes,
Okay unfortunately,
we follow a sunnah after we find out,
you know, others speaking about it. Yeah?
Like Methylene.
Methylene.
Like from the sunnah of the prophet is
Methaline. Okay? To do the
And so many people Modern people, you hear
them and they say, Oh, this,
What's up with this? And you look like,
it's very unprofessional.
Then Okay. And this is true story. Just
a few months ago, I saw an ad.
I saw an ad on, somewhere on Facebook
or something. There non muslims selling
And then mentioning the benefits of
Right? And then Muslims commenting, Oh, we have
this in our deen And the guy probably
never used in his life. The man. And
so, something that we need to have conviction
in our heart that whatever the prophet said
in his Sahadeeth,
Piranhas said, Just you have to have that
belief that this is good for you, and
it's true. And you don't have to wait
for some science to tell you it's true.
Yeah. And the famous example
is the hadith of
the
the the fly.
Right? People hear the hadith of the fly,
that when a fly comes on your, you
know, on your water or your food, that
you're supposed to what are you supposed to
do?
Dip it in. So logically, many people are
like, what kind of I remember one guy
told me, he said, what kind of any
madness is this? This is not
This is illogical.
Right? But And then
some scientist comes up and tells you, No.
Yeah. You should do that because part of
the the the the cure is in the
other wing of the fly. So when you
put it in, it takes out the the
microbes or whatever it is. And now they're
like, Oh, okay. Assalamu alaikum.
No, no. We should believe in it before
we see that. And that's part of iman.
That's part of iman.
There should be nobody that you love more
than the Prophet
Right? And we're gonna talk insha'Allah, an incident
that happened with Umar Al Khattab. So the
Adib When it comes to Adib
3 things you should keep in mind. First
of all, revere him.
Okay?
Respect him, revere him, put him in his
place, the place that he deserves
Okay? And we know that on the day
of judgement, the prophet is gonna have, Al
Maqamul Mahmood.
Right?
The highest place that a human being can
have. And we make du'a
after adhan, right? After the adhan, we always
make du'a
for that for that status. So first of
all, revere him.
Second of all,
Okay?
Glorify his sunnah. And for the parents here,
make sure you do that in your house.
Put the sunnah
give the sunnah the respect it deserves. Okay?
Don't treat sunnah like something like,
It's cute if you do it. If you
don't
do it, nothing No. No. Make it part
of your life. And let your children know
that this is what's gonna make you a
better person, and what's gonna make you successful
in this life. And then, uh-uh
and then place his love first.
The love of the Prophet comes first. So
the Prophet he said,
No, none of you have
has full iman. None of you believes
till I am dearer to him than his
father,
and his child,
and all of
mankind. So we we ask ourselves, is the
Prophet the most beloved
person to us? Okay. It's easy to say
yes.
Yes, he is. But how do we know?
What's the litmus test?
When the Prophet said, Do this.
And then my father says, do this. Which
one do I follow?
When the prophet says, don't do this.
Okay? And my desire and my howl says
do this. Which one do I follow? This
is the test that you have to Okay?
Ask yourself, do you really put the prophet
first? Do you love the prophet first?
Uh-huh. So, one time,
Umun Khattab was walking with the prophet
And so, uh-uh, Umun Khattab he said to
the prophet,
O Messenger of Allah,
you are dear to me than everything except
my own self.
I love you more than anything except myself.
I love myself more than you.
Muhammad
was very honest man. He's a very honest
man. So he just told the prophet, I
love
you more than anything except myself.
So the Prophet says, No.
By Him in whose hands my soul is,
you will not have complete
okay? Until I'm more beloved to you than
your own self.
The Prophet was talking to Ool Khattab, that
you'll never have full until I'm more beloved
to you than your own self.
Okay? And so then Umar came back to
me says,
now O Prophet of Allah, you are dear
to me than my own self. And then
the Prophet says,
Now you have attained full iman.
Now you've completed your iman. That Now that
the Prophet is more beloved to you than
your even your own self. Okay? So part
of
is to love him
ahead of everybody else. Everything else. Okay?
Next we have
Okay, we're almost done, inshallah.
He says,
by the way the first day is the
most intense inshallah the rest of them are
a bit easier. Number 7, he
says,
So now we had we talked about the
Adab with Allah.
We talked about the Adab with the messenger
of Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. What comes
after them?
Allah subhanahu wa'ala says,
What's next?
Okay? And so the parents come next. So,
the poet he says,
So now, we go next What's next in
line in order is having
and being beautiful to your parents.
Being dutiful to your parents. And this topic
again is in of itself it needs a
whole
lecture, or lectures.
Okay?
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentioned it right after
himself.
Not to worship anybody except Allah.
Okay.
And to have Ihsan with your parents.
What if they're non Muslim?
Now, does that give you the right to
to not be good to them? Even if
they're non Muslim.
As Allah subhanahu wa'ala mentioned in several ayaats
in the Quran, even if they're non Muslim
you still respect them, and you still treat
them with kindness,
you still treat them with kindness
and dignity.
And so he says,
and obey them. And obey them. What if
your parents are not good to you?
Do they have to be good parents for
you to obey them?
Even if your parents are difficult for you,
maybe that's your test in life. You still
have to be good to them. And especially
when they grow, especially if you are lucky
enough to be with them. When they grow,
that is the time when you really need
to to be good to them.
Right? The verse that we mentioned,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
Your Lord has decreed that you to worship
Allah to
worship none other than Him and honor your
parents. Then he says,
If one of them or both of them,
okay?
They
they grow in old age and you're with
them, okay?
Then never say to them,
And subhanallah, unfortunately, many of us, we say
worse than
Your father tells you, Go take out the
garbage.
Do you have to say for you to
be sinful?
No. Just the fact that you don't like
it. Or it's, Oh, I'll do it later.
This is a sin. It's a major sin.
It's a major sin to disobey your parents.
Okay? So Allah subhanahu wa'ala says, don't even
say off to them.
And don't even like neglect them.
Don't neglect them. And so that's the least.
So anything higher is even worse.
And some people yell at them, some people
raise their voice, some people swear at their
parents, some people don't
visit their parents,
don't talk to them.
This is from the worst,
from the major sins.
And so after the adabutullah and the Messenger
we have to be good to our parents.
Okay? Before we even go to the neighbors
and we go to everybody else, the parents
come right after that.
The Prophet he says,
The same thing. May he be humiliated.
Okay? They said, who, O Prophet Raul, who
who who are you making dua against? He
says,
Anybody
who
who was able, had the the the opportunity
to live with their parents when they're old,
and he doesn't enter jannah.
Look how he the Prophet phrased it. Meaning
that,
just the mere fact that you're good to
your parents,
they reach the old age, and you're good
to them.
Why specifically old age? Anybody
know?
Why specifically old age?
When is it when is it harder to
be good to your parents? When they're young,
and you're the one that's weak, and they're
the one that in charge, Or when you
are the one in charge and you have
your own life and they're older. And you
know when people grow up, they become more
difficult to deal with. And subhanallah, people when
they grow,
when they grow, they become like almost like
children. Subhanallah.
And so it's difficult, right? And so the
old age is when it's difficult.
And part of this culture is that when
your parents are old, what do you do
with them? You put them in the senior
home. Such a bad
adab of the parents. The ones that raise
your whole life, you throw them in a
senior home.
Subhanallah.
And so that's not part of our deen.
Part of our deen is to take care
of our parents, especially when they grow old.
And they raise you, and they give you
everything, and they they they put up with
you for all your life, and then you're
gonna throw them.
Okay? So the prophet said, make dua against
the person, because just by being good to
them at that age,
from this hadith we know that you enter
jannah. Just for being good to your parents
at this age, then automatically enter jannah. So
the prophet says, May he And he may
be humiliated.
The person who has this amazing opportunity
to enter jannah, and he doesn't take it.
He's not good to, he's not to he's
not dutiful to his parents. The other thing
is salatulrahl.
Okay?
To be good to your kin. So, we
talked about adabutullah, with the Prophet
with the parents, now we go to
the kin. Who are the
kin?
Who's a rahm?
Who are the kin?
What's kin?
Your relatives,
Your relatives, those are your kin. And
sometimes the relatives are the most difficult people
to deal with.
Sometimes the most difficult people to deal with,
and very easy for them to cut you
off.
And very easy for you to cut them
off, you will find any reason to cut
them off.
He says here,
Be good to your kin.
In hadith Qudsi, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
This is in a hadith Fudsi. That I
am the Most Merciful.
Okay? And then he talked about the rahm.
The rahm is the is what? The womb.
The womb of the mother where the
where the
the baby, is. So he says And this
rahm,
okay, comes from the word So
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says that this rahim
comes from the word
Okay? So
then Allah subhanahu wa'ala says,
Whoever
enjoins
it, okay? I shall enjoin him.
And whoever
stays connected with it, I will stay connected
with them.
And whoever cuts the tie of kinship,
I will cut him off.
And so has a very high status.
You think of
your aunt, and your cousins, and all everybody.
And as one of the ullamahi said,
is not to reciprocate good
to
your kin.
And not because your kin calls you and
hate, you call them and hate. He says,
The real salatulrahm is when your kin cuts
you, and then you you connect it. When
they cut you off,
and you reconnect it.
Your brother cuts you off, or your sister
cuts you off, and you do the effort
to
connect that raham. This is true, salatul raham.
And salatul raham has one of the most
amazing benefits. The Prophet he says,
Uh-huh.
Look at this amazing hadith. The prophet said
that whoever desires
a lot of risk.
Yeah? You know sometimes we go every direction
to increase our risk, but this is such
an amazing
way of getting risk. The prophet said, Whoever
wants his risk to be increased and prolonged,
okay?
And he wants to live a long life,
okay? Then he should
maintain good ties with his blood relatives.
And so when a person
has
connects
the rahm, when a person stays connected with
his family, with his relatives,
okay? Out of worship to Allah
as an act
of okay? Then Allah will increase in his
risk. And the opposite is true. Sometimes you'll
see that your risk, you know, there's no
barakah in it, or your risk is being
cut.
Then ask yourself, Am I cutting some relatives
off? Are there relatives that I'm cutting off?
Because this could be the reason. This could
be,
the reason.
And the last one that we wanna cover
today, he says,
Now we go now to we were opening
our circle wider now. So now we talked
about
the
Prophet, the parents,
the relatives.
Now we go to
okay? He says now,
Respect the elderly,
and show mercy towards the young people.
You know subhan'ala like when you just read,
you know these basic things about our deen.
You know if somebody just looked at our
deen, just about these basic things, there's absolutely
no reason why nobody will enter this deen.
But unfortunately the way our deen is presented
outside,
is this deen is just about like, you
know,
uh-uh, stoning someone and cutting their head off,
and you know, just the hudood. You know,
insanAllah, when people explain the when they put
Islam on the news etc, they just talk
about the hudood, right? The Kabul of Punishment,
like that's the deen. But they forget to
mention
This is the crux of the deen.
The hudud, yes, you need hudud.
But the main part of the deen is
this, look at these amazing things.
Respect the elder,
show mercy to the young people,
Respect the older people.
A person
an older person comes and they need to
sit, you get up and you let them
sit.
When you later we'll talk about when speaking,
you let the older speak first.
When you're eating, you let the older one
go there. When there's an older person, you
don't speak.
Uh-uh. Abdullah ibn Umar
the son of Umkhatab,
one time he was in the he was
young person, he was a young kid Yani,
and he was in the gathering of the
sahaba. So So the prophet he was asking
a question. He said,
the he's saying that the believers are like
a tree. And but he's asked them, What
kind of tree? Nobody would
answer. Ibn Umar, Abdul Abhim Umar, he says,
I knew the answer.
But out of respect to Omar is there,
like his father is there, Abu Bakr is
there, you know the other sahaba are there,
he didn't want to, out of respect to
the elders.
Right? And then after,
uh-uh, somebody eventually said it, then he told
his father,
You know, O father, you know I knew
the answer
but I didn't wanna say it. He said,
Why didn't you say it? Because you know
the father wants the son to to make
him proud. But he said, Why didn't you
say it? He said, Because you know like
I was shy Because there was older people,
than me. So this is our deen. This
is our deen. And then it says,
Help
the weak. And subhanallah, as we mentioned before,
if you open just
the Quran, you will see it's full of
that.
Okay?
Okay?
The one who ask don't and don't deny
them. Okay? And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks
about sadaqa. Sadaqa.
When
he's talking about a sadaqa, just saying a
nice word to somebody,
a good word, is better than someone giving
salakah and then hurting them and reminding them
that, You know I gave you salakah and
I helped you. Just a That's
all part of our deen. Okay? Helping the
poor and the faqir. So,
from honoring the elders, the prophet told us,
he says,
The prophet said very clear, an older man
came to talk to the prophet and the
people were hesitant to make room for him.
An older man came in to talk to
Rasulullah, and people didn't make space for him.
Out of respect, they should have done that.
And so the prophet says, He's not one
of us.
He's not one of us who does not
have mercy on our young, and does not
respect our elders.
Okay? So part of our deen,
yes pray, do your zakah,
be good to your parents, But also you
need to have respect for the elders. Not
just your grandpa or your uncle, anybody that's
older than you have respect for them. Have
respect for them, and also
to have mercy on the young people.
Right? And so, I mean, this is a
bad, something bad culture in our back home
That the children are not There's no mercy
shown to the children.
Like a man came to and
he saw Rasulullah kiss one of
his children. So he asked Rasulam, Do you
do that? He said, Yeah. He said, I
have 10 children and I don't kiss any
of them. He said, What am I supposed
to do for someone who Allah took out
all the rahma from his heart?
You have 10 children, you don't have even
the mercy to just kiss them on the
head. And so part of our deen is
to have mercy on the young people. Right?
Have mercy on them.
Don't treat
Young children especially in this time and age,
right?
They need a rifq, they need rifq, they
need
to to to to be treated with mercy,
with rahma. Because it's very easy for them.
Back home it worked.
Back home
it's either your
mom or your dad, or your mom or
your dad.
There's no running around that. Here
the young people have different avenues to go.
And so if you're not gonna be gentle
and good to them, okay? They will find
other role models.
And sometimes they will leave the house. And
so we have to be show mercy
to the young people. Right? Show mercy to
them. If they're in the halaqa and they're
making noise, show mercy to them. Na'am, yes,
teach them to respect the masjid, but have
mercy,
have mercy towards them.
We're almost done. And then he says,
of course, to help the weak and the
needy. The Prophet said that, Whoever relieves a
Muslim This is an amazing hadith.
Whoever relieves a Muslim of a burden from
the burdens of the world, Allah will relieve
him of a burden from the burdens of
the hereafter.
Right? Because sometimes and we we get selfish.
Right? We get selfish, there's an opportunity to
help someone, and then we we're like, I
don't have time, I don't wanna do it.
This is an opportunity
of And not just that, you relieve this
person from this difficulty. And this life Allah
will relieve you from a difficulty when you
really need it in the hereafter.
Right? And whoever covers the faults of a
Muslim, Allah will cover his faults.
Another one of the adab is to cover
the faults of the Muslims. Not just you
saw something bad about a Muslim, you spread
it to man. When you cover the fault
of a Muslim, Allah will cover your fault
as
well.
We'll stop here
Sorry. We went a bit overtime. Any questions?
Any questions? So, alhamdulillah, today we finished,
lines 1 to 9.
Next week we'll cover, I think, 10
to 18 or so.
So just read them over before you come.
Any questions
before we call it a day?
I went a bit longer just because we
didn't have a halakal last week. So
you guys benefited.