Hamza Ayedi – Be Mindful of Allah Halaqa series #1
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The speakers emphasize the importance of learning and being included in rewards, as well as setting boundaries in public schools and encouraging parents to motivate their children to pursue education in a Christian environment. They also discuss the benefits of being proactive when teaching children to handle complex issues and the importance of parenting and learning to navigate values in a Christian environment. The speakers provide advice on how to motivate parents to take action and learn new things, as well as a book called The Brainy Bunch that describes a family homeschooling their children in a Christian environment.
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You know, basic stuff that we're taught as
children. Right? And we're told that if you
do this, you'll be successful, you'll be happy,
etcetera.
But then there's a conflict where we grow
up, and we start
reflecting and thinking, and many Muslims, they are
not feeling these results that they were promised,
or they're not feeling that spirituality.
So, there's that conflict,
internal conflict between many Muslims, where they're told
something, and they have
they have certainty that this is true, but
they're not seeing the spiritual result of it,
and so there's this internal conflict.
Right? Now, this is not a big problem
if you're living in a Muslim country.
And in many of our Muslim countries, we
are raised like that, and you can get
along with that, you can live like that,
Mafi mushkilah.
Right? Because you're living in a Muslim environment,
you have
Muslims around you, encouraging you, and there's not
many distractions.
But when you're living in a non Muslim
environment, and even now in Muslim environments because
of, you know, the globalization,
and social media, and the opening of the
world,
globalization,
it's a big problem. Why? Because now, there
are so many options.
There's Shailtin calling to their path every day.
Right? There's so many distractions.
For those of you who are raised here,
Yeni, most of your life, you understand exactly
what I'm talking about. And so, there's all
these things, and so now, you have Muslims
who are told to do this, this, this,
right? And, you'll be successful, and with their
eyes and you'll be happy, and with their
eyes they're seeing maybe something different. They're seeing
other people enjoying their life, or what it
seems like they're enjoying their life,
and, you know, going to the dunya, and
being quote unquote successful, and so there's that
internal conflict. There's that internal conflict.
Where in reality,
when we look at our deen, the Quran,
and the Sunnah,
the method of the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam,
and even the method of how Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala
revealed the Quran
to the early Muslims,
is that the early focus was always on
tazkiyah,
purification, values,
right? This was the main focus,
right? And then later, uhkam and rulings came.
I I want you to think about that,
and maybe the way you are you were
raised or the way,
you see people being raised now. So a
lot of times, you know, a young person
is growing up, and they're told, you know,
pray, and they're told fast,
but many times, they're not understanding why.
Right? And, we don't really encourage a lot
of our young people to ask why. Why
do I fast? Why do I pray? Right?
And, we don't see that that's very important,
and we might not see the issues with
that until they reach maybe the age of
puberty, 12 years old, 13 years old. Right?
And then all the problems come, right? Well,
you know people come to the Masjid and
they're like, they're telling the Sheikh, my son
you know, he's 13, 14, 15, 16 and
he wants, he doesn't pray. And then you
have people saying my son wants to leave
Islam. And now you have the issue of
the gender,
issue, and you know homosexuality, and all these
other
things that are are are are young people
are being bombarded with. Right? And so, they're
seeing all these things, and they're
the the Deen, they don't have the spiritual
aspect of it, and so many people are
losing that. And they start having what?
Shabuhat, Shabuhat.
Right?
And all that goes back to what?
The the initial phase of Tarbia and teaching
was not there.
They were not given the tools on how
to navigate through these things. Right?
If you look at this from the Quran
Qur'anic aspect, when Ibrahim alaihis salam,
when he was building the Kaaba with Ismaeel
alaihis salam, he made a dua who can
tell me what that dua was? He made
a couple of du'as actually
right who can tell me what some of
those du'as were in Surat Al Baqarah
were?
In
Surat Al Baqarah,
number 1.
What else?
Okay. And then he says,
Right? Are you guys with me?
So he said, O Allah, send
this is the dua to send the Prophet
Muhammad
so our Prophet
was a was a was a dua that
who made?
That Ibrahim
made. So he made this dua for our
Prophet, and then he says,
and then what?
And then,
So, send a Prophet amongst them, the Arabs,
the offspring of Ishmael,
reciting to them the Ayat, the Qur'an.
And then he says,
And then he can teach them the Kitab
and the Hikma. Generally, Kitab here means the
law. Right? And Hikma here, many Ulema said,
The Hadith,
The hadith of the Prophet and the way
of life with the Prophet
And so, to teach them the law and
the hikma. Okay? The way of the Prophet
the sunan.
And then,
what's the last one? We use a key
in purification.
But when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala accepted the
dua of Ibrahim, the order was switched.
Right? The order was switched. Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala put Tezqiya first.
Right?
And so this is a very interesting
concept if you look at it, Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala
changed the order. Why? Because what's supposed to
happen is, you're supposed to get that first.
When that when that acceptance comes, and when
you understand why you're doing things, you understand
your
You understand that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
is your Rabb, and that Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala is the Provider, that Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala is watching you, that that the Qadr
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala whatever predestined is good
for you. All these things, then when you're
told to pray, is it hard for you
to pray? It's not hard for you to
pray. When you're told to fast, is it
hard for you to fast? No, because now
you understand why you're doing this. Now, you
understand
why you're doing this. And so, in this
hadith, the Prophet
as you will see,
he taught Ibn Abbas
this at a very young age. So, that's
one of the main reasons why I wanted
to kind of cover this book because I
really believe that
it's a very crucial
topic that that we need to address
especially for those who are parents,
those who have young siblings, and even for
those here now to kind of have that
connection between,
what they know about our deen and what's
the connection and how can that help them
spiritually and how can they navigate through problems
and how can they have that relationship with
Allah Subhanahu
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Before we start into the book, Insha'Allah,
I wanted to quickly just go through some
of the virtues of seeking knowledge. Ta'ban, alhamdulillah,
this is our first,
our first lecture here in this masjid. We
ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to make it,
the first of many, many insha'Allah.
Ta'ban, seeking knowledge has many virtues, right? And
just to remind us, taban, you could have
been anywhere. It's a Saturday evening, you could
have been outside having fun with your family,
you know, going for a walk. Well now
it's raining,
so probably you'd be indoor.
But, from the virtues of seeking knowledge, taban,
the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, and Insha'Allah, by next
week we'll have a projector here, Insha'Allah, you'll
be able to to view. I have a
I had prepared a presentation, but, Alhamdulillah.
So, on the authority of Muawiyah radiAllahu anhu,
he said that,
When Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala wants care for
someone,
He gives them fiqh in the deen, understanding
of the deen.
And so, one of the way, one of
the, I guess indications that Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala wants care for someone, and if someone
has has,
put in so much, has built that connection
with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, and Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala wants care for them, how does
is that care manifested? One of the ways
that care, that goodness Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
wants for someone is manifested, is when they
give him fiqh in the deen.
Allah subhanahu wa'ala didn't say, that Allah will
give them knowledge in the deen. He will
give them fiqh and understanding of the deen.
And that includes
knowing the deen and living by it.
SubhanAllah Barak, I make dua for
play it. So
is to give them understanding of the deen.
So number 1, from the virtues of seeking
knowledge,
is that it's a sign that Allah Subhanu
wa Ta'ala wants khayr for that person. So
all of you are here seeking knowledge, bi
ilellah it's a sign that Allah wants khayr
for you.
Allah Subhanu wa Ta'ala wants khair for you
and that should make you feel good inside,
that Allah Subhanu wa Ta'ala I'm here, Youani
How many Muslims arguing?
Like a 100,000 or something?
There could be other halaqaat
now, but imagine what a small percentage, Youani,
are here. So it's not a coincidence Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala shows you to be here.
From the other virtues,
the Prophet says
Whoever
goes on a path,
It's very very amazing hadith.
Whoever just takes a path,
Yani,
you don't have to go and spend your
whole life, but whoever just goes on the
path of seeking knowledge. Right? And this is
should be the philosophy of the Muslim. This
should be the philosophy of the Muslim
that, that you know, I'm a person that
is always wanting to learn. Right? And so
whoever is on that path, has that niyyah
that I'm on a path of seeking knowledge,
Allah Subhanu wa Ta'ala
as a reward for that, He makes the
path to jannah easy. May Allah Subhana Wa
Ta'la make our path to Jannah easy. And
so when a person seeks a path of
knowledge, Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la makes the path
to Jannah easy. May Allah make it easy
for all of us. So that's number 2.
Another
virtue of seeking knowledge,
An Anas ibn Malik
says that the Prophet says,
No people gather to remember Allah
Every time a group of people gather in
the masajid or whatever to remember Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala, and to study the deen,
doing it for Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. And
they're not doing it because you need to
show off or any other negative niyyah or
reasons, but they're doing it for the sake
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So this is
a good time to fix our intention. They
do it for the sake of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
Listen to this amazing reward,
right? Except that it will be announced for
them,
When they get up, when you get up
and leave, Insha'Allah, it will be said to
you, the angels will say to you, Get
up, you are forgiven.
Okay? You are forgiven your sins. Ta'ban, your
minor sins,
and we hope inshaAllah major sins as well,
but,
and we know that between every salah, the
Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said what?
That it's a kafarah, right? It erases your
sins. And we know between Jum'ah to Jum'ah
What else? It's a kafar, it erases your
minor sins. So someone might say, Well, what's
the extra virtue here? Well, the Prophet says,
and then you're they will say, the angels
will say,
This is a very nice unique feature about
someone who sits in the halaqaat of El,
that there if you come here with a
1,000 sins, minor sins, all of them when
you get up will be changed to hasanat.
If that was the only virtue, alhamdulillah, that
would be enough. Right? Just
by you coming here and sitting, right? And
for the sake of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
you come with a baggage of sins,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will
change them into hasanat.
And so, the best of us who will
leave today is the one who had the
most sins,
The one who had the most sins will
leave with the most hasanat,
So that's an amazing virtue. So we ask
Allah
to include us in all of these rewards.
So the goal, insha'Allah,
we're planning to do this for about 6
weeks. 6 weeks, Bimillah.
Today, inshallah, we want to go through the
introduction of the book, the author, the narrator
of the hadith, inshallah. And maybe if we
have time,
we go through some,
some, an introduction of the Hadith, some of
the texts of the Hadith. Right? Next week,
Insha'Allah, we'll talk about,
the next week, and the week after, and
the rest of the weeks we'll actually go
through the actual method of the hadith, the
benefits we get from it,
and
so on.
So today, insha'Allah,
so we want to go over the book,
right? The author of the book, the narrator
of the hadith,
the virtues of this hadith, what the ulama
has said about this hadith.
And
then also, we're gonna go through the methan
of the hadith, the actual text of the
hadith.
And actually there's different variations.
There's different variations of the hadith, and we
actually wanna go read through all of them.
InshaAllah, we wanna go read through through all
of them because they have some differences in
in in all of them. We're actually only
gonna go through 3 of them, InshaAllah. 3
versions of the hadith,
And then if we have time, we'll start
with
just
the beginning of the hadith,
Ibnillah.
So,
my personal preference, as we're going through this
halakay, I want us to be interactive. So,
when I ask you guys questions, Insha'Allah, I'm
hoping that you guys will be interactive.
Benefit for me and benefit for you, InshaAllah,
so you don't kind of zoom out, and
and we try to benefit the most, insha'Allah.
So,
we start with the book. So, the book,
of course, it's called Noor Al Iqtabas Fi
Mishkat, you will see it,
And,
if you know Arabic,
that's
quite
a difficult
phrase to translate.
So, Anur, what's Anur?
Who can tell us? I know, like, a
lot of Arabs here. What's
Light. Masha'Allah.
There we go. Next time I'll bring candy.
Whoever answers,
I'll throw over some candy. Type. So,
some means
to kind of, take something from something else,
from another source. Right? If you remember the
story of Musa alaihis salam,
when he was going with his family,
right? What did he say to them? He
saw the fire on the tree, right? What
did he say to them?
Be what?
Is what?
What's a
Yeah. Like so is like when you take,
like a pea wood, and you light it
up from an actual source of fire. So
you kind of take something from from the
actual source. Right? And so it's used nowadays,
you need to take
take a quotation.
Right? To take something from it.
So,
what's Al Mishkat?
Right? Yeah. So, that's one of
the meaning. So, from the famous Ayah of
Ayatunur, right? Ayatunur Suratunur, it's chapter 24.
Right? Some of them say, is
that,
it's like an indentation in a wall.
Right? Like, if you have a wall,
back in the day what they would do
is, they would have
like an indentation in the wall,
and they would put the lamp there, and
that kind of opening would spread the light.
And even when you see the old masajid,
it's also done for the, where the Imam
prays, so the voice can can spread. Right?
So that's, that's a mishkat. Others say, a
mishkat is like the actual
lamp. Right?
So,
the author called it
Right? And, Al Wasiyyah is what? It's like
a very important advice you give to someone.
A very important advice,
you give to someone that you might not
see again.
Right? Something that you have you keep with
you the whole time.
Right?
It's it's it's it's it's a higher level
than a Nasihah.
Right? Is something that is like a higher
level than a And so,
so,
you will see it
in
So, he say basically what's he trying to
say? He called it basically,
the acquired kind
of light, okay? From the advice
of the Prophet
to Ibn Abbas.
So, obviously,
you might not you would say, What's the
advice? InshaAllah, we're gonna go through that. But
that's what he
called, the book. So,
So, in terms of the book, for those
who are interested and you want to read
it, and and there's I found 2 translations,
2 English translations.
The one that I actually went through it's
called 'Be Mindful of Allah',
and, it's available on Amazon,
Kindle,
right?
It's called Be Mindful of Allah by Shu'aib
Shah. Right? This is the first one.
And then there's another one that's called the
Legacy of the Prophet, and it's translated by
Abu,
Rumayza.
And inshallah, maybe my friend will be the
3rd one. Inshallah.
May Allah put in his work. So,
that's the book.
We'll see it
in The author. Who's the author of the
book?
Anybody remember? We mentioned that the author is?
Ibn Rajab. So, ibn Rajab Alhambili is the
author, and ibn Rajab,
anybody heard of this name before? Ibn Rajab?
It's a and he's
a big figure especially in the in the
Hanbali school of thought. And so, ibn Najab
actually was born in the
year 1336
in the Gregorian time. So how many years
ago? You can do the math. 13:36.
That's a long time. Yeah, that's that's a
good answer.
You get half a candy.
How much?
So it's it's it's a good what? Like,
700? Yeah? 700? A bit less than that.
Right? About 6:90 or something. Yeah?
And in the Hijri time, 7:36.
Right? And he passed away, 7:95 or 13:93
in the Gregorian time. 13:93,
in the Gregorian time. So, how long did
he live, Yani? 60 something, Yani.
Not very long. SubhanAllah.
So, his full name is
Imam and Hafez Zainuddin Abdulrahman, ibn Ahmad, ibn
Abdulrahman, ibn al Hassan, ibn Mohammed,
ibn Abdul Barakat Mas'ud
Most of us, our names are just
first name, last name. Of course, this is
one of the the I guess the the
the things that, Yani,
part of our culture, our Islamic culture is
people actually paid,
Yani a lot of attention to the to
the nesab of the person and they actually,
Yani, they were very proud of their nesab,
right? And they would all their names would
be like, you know, 6, 7 names long.
Masha'Allah.
So, obviously from his name you can tell
that,
he's linked to the Hambali Madhub. So, he
was a Hambali scholar,
right? And, he was born in the city
of Baghdad.
He was born in the city of Baghdad.
Where's Baghdad?
Irakh, Ascent. Ascent, Masha'Allah.
From his nicknames is ibn Rajab, right? Ibn
Rajab. And they called him ibn Rajab, I
believe because
what's a Rajab?
It's a month, right? It's one of the
months, of our Islamic lunar calendar. Right? So,
it's said that he was called Ibn Rajab
because
he was born in that month or something
like that. Another nickname, Abu Faraj, is his
nickname. So, he was born in Baghdad and
he passed away in Dimashq. Dimashq. Where's Dimashq?
Syria. Nasal.
So, he studied under many great scholars,
from the most renowned are is is Ibn
Qayyim Al Jawziyyah. I think most people have
heard this name, Ibn Qayyim Al Jawziyyah. So,
he was one of his students,
and
he wrote many books. Yeah, many, many books.
This is just this is just was like
a small manuscript, and not even one of
his great books. And,
some of his great greatest books, Al Qawad
Al Qubrafil Furooah which is kind of a
book
on maxims in fiqh. Right? And one of
the the Ulema' they said, This was one
of the wonders of his age, and one
of the greatest books that was written at
the time of of, of Ibn Rajab.
Also he wrote a commentary on
the on
is one of the, Sunan, right? One of
the books of hadith.
And wrote a book on the
is one of the sciences of hadith, One
of the sciences of hadith. Anybody know what
Ilal means? What's Al Ilal?
That's one meaning of Allah. What's another meaning
of Allah?
Yeah. Is like a sickness or the defects.
So,
one of the most difficult,
subjects to study in the science of hadith,
is
or Right? And it tell me they wrote
a book on that and he explained it.
And he did the shah of it and
it's until now it's one of the greatest
works done in that field
And is a very difficult thing because it's
hidden defects. Right? Like a hadith might look
sound
from the text, from the from the synod.
Right?
From the synod and from the from the
text and from the narrators.
But, there is a hidden defect. And, only
few can actually
find that defect. And so, because it's such
a hard
imagine the explanation of it. Right? So, it's
it's one of the greatest works done on
that, and of course many other books.
Some of the things the other Ulla Ma'am
said about him, they said,
ibn Qadi,
he said, he read and became proficient in
the various fields of science. So, he was
in all the sciences of Islam.
He engrossed himself with the issues of the
until he master it. So, he was a
master
of the school the Hambali school of thought,
and he devoted himself
to, you know, seeking knowledge, writing, and teaching,
especially in the field of hadith. Ibn Hajar,
one of the most famous
who wrote what? What's his most famous book?
Ibn Hajar?
Fat Al Bari Ascent which was the explanation
of
Sahih Bukhari. And, one of the greatest and
if you ever seen the actual
explanation, it's like 20 volumes, right? One of
the greatest works that was done. What's interesting
actually,
ibn Rajab
also started
a book writing the explanation of Sahih al
Bukhari, and he was actually writing it before
Ibn Hajar, and he actually called it Fattal
Bayri. Right? But he passed away, SubhanAllah. Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala took his life away,
and he only reached up to, I think,
until
the book of the funerals. Right? And so,
and so, subhanAllah, I imagine that he had
actually finished that work. It would have been
one of the greatest
works, of course, as well.
And so, ibn Hajar praised them. He says
he was highly proficient in the signs of
hadith in terms of the names and the
reporters, their biographies,
their paths of narration, and awareness of their
meanings. He was
a big scholar in the field
of hadith. Ibn Muflah, another hambali he said
he is the Sheikh, the great scholar, the
haphab, the Asseidic, the Sheikh of the Hambali
Madhab, and he authored many
beneficial works. So, this is the author of
the book Noorul Iftibas. This is the author
of
the book Now, let's go to the narrator
of the hadith.
Who's the narrator of the hadith we mentioned?
Ibn Abbas, ibn Abbas. What can you guys
tell me about ibn Abbas Radiallahu?
I'll
hand the mic over to you guys. What
can you tell me about ibn Abbas Radiallahu?
Any from the most common names that you
probably heard about the sahab? What can you
tell me about him? Anything? Yellow. Fuddha. He
was young when he first
like, he was very young when he first
started
like getting heavy. Ascent, Ascent. He was one
of the young sahabas, like very young. Anybody
know how old he was when the prophet
passed away?
Nam?
Like he he when one of the one
of the sahaba asked him, like, Yaniyah, how
old were you? He said, I had just
hit puberty when the prophet passed away.
So, I mean, I mean, you can imagine
between the ages of like 12 16 maybe,
when the Prophet passed away, right?
He was born, I believe 3 years before
the Hijrah.
3 years before
the Hijrah,
and he was born during the time of
when the, there was the,
when the Muslims in Mecca
were, were being,
what's the word?
Boycotted.
They
were boycotted,
and so he was born during that time.
What else can you tell him about about
ibn Abbas?
What else?
Ascent, Ascent. He was the cousin of the
Prophet SAW. From which side? The mother or
the father? Maternal or paternal? Paternal, right. Who's
the father of,
Abdullah ibn Abbas?
Yeah, so literally the uncle of the Prophet
right? The uncle of the Prophet right? Ibn
Abdul Muttalib, so now you have to imagine,
Al Abbas ibn Abdul
Muttalib, right? Had sons, right?
One of his sons was
Abdullah
who's the father of the Prophet SAW. Al
Abbas.
From the brothers of Abdullah was who? Al
Abbas.
And from the children of Abbas is who?
Abdullah,
Abdul Abin Abbas. Right?
And and so he's a cousin of the
Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. What else?
Ascent. Ascent. The Prophet made du'a for him.
Ascent.
So his full name is Abdulla
ibn Abbas ibn Abdul Mutaleb ibn Hashim. Right?
So, obviously he's from the tribe of Banu
Hashim.
And from his nickname was,
Abu Abbas.
He was born around the year 6/19, like
in Gregorian time. You can imagine how long
that is.
And he passed away around the year 687.
And as we mentioned, he's a paternal cousin
of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
What's Al Haber
mean?
Yeah. Al Haber is a it's an Arabic
word, Yani.
Going back to ink, and and they would
use this,
to to to describe someone who is a
huge scholar. Yeah. Someone who would have written
many books and had a lot of. Right?
And so he was given that name and
also Al Bahar, yeah, because he had so
much knowledge SubhanAllah.
Abdullah ibn Abbas, he was one of the
the the Sahaba that narrated the most hadith.
One of the Sahaba that narrated the most
hadith.
Anybody can guess how many hadith he narrated?
Ta'ban, who was the Sahabi who narrated the
most hadith?
Right?
In how many?
In the 1,000, right? Like 5,000 or more.
Ibn Abbas he narrated
Abu Laban Abbas narrated over
1600 hadith,
right.
1600 hadith, SubhanAllah.
And, one of the interesting
they took a Hadith from the Prophet SAW
ALA. They took a hadith from the Prophet
right? Because they were with him. But ibn
Abbas, most of his hadiths were not from
the Prophet
Like he would take them from who? From
the Sahaba because of his young age, because
of this hadith we're gonna be covering, it's
one of the few hadith that he actually
narrated
straight from the Prophet
So, which makes it very unique
from his collection of a hadith. And of
course, as the brother said that the Prophet
made special du'a for him. What was the
du'a?
Yeah, the Prophet made du'a for him and
says,
O Allah, give him understanding in the Deen,
and teach him.
And as we know, one of the greatest
Mufassireen is who?
Abdullah ibn Abbas.
When you go read any book of tafsir,
right, you have to see the opinion of
Ibn Abbas, Like in
any tafsir that you open. Ibn Abbas is,
radiAllahu Anhu is there.
SubhanAllah,
one of the stories that's mentioned about Ibn
Abbas
is that
when he was a young boy,
this is after the passing of the Prophet
shalallahu alaihi wa sallam. He would have his
friends, right? And like they wanna go play.
Young people, they wanna go play, right?
Fa Fa' ibn Abbas would say, Let's go
take hadith from the sahaba.
Let's go take some hadith
and memorize them. And so the kids like
his, one of his friends that he remembers
he says, this is Ibn Abbas saying, he
would be like, Man, why would anyone want
a yaani? Why would you waste your time
getting these hadith? There's the sahaba who know
them.
You're not going to benefit anybody from that.
Right? So his friend would go play and
even Abbas would be like, Okay, Khaledi,
you go play man.
And so he had this thirst for knowledge.
And he would say that, I would go
to the houses of the Sahaba.
He would go like imagine this is a
young man like maybe 13 years old,
12 years old and he would go to
the houses of Sahaba. He said, Sometimes I
would knock on their door and they would
be having a they'd
be having an app. And so, I would
just take my like, hamama and put it
down and just take a nap and wait
for them to come out. Right? And so,
even when he would open, when they would
open on him, they would they would say,
Yani, what do you need? Oh, cousin of
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. And so,
he said, I just wanna you got hadith
from the rock? They would say, Yes. He
said, I wanna get those hadith from you.
And the sahaba would say to him, Yani,
why didn't you tell me? I would have
came to you Because he's from the house
of the Prophet he's from
and out of respect from And so, ibn
Abbas would say, No, it's more befitting that
I go to you. Right? Because the Ullama
say that knowledge is sought and he's supposed
to go seek knowledge. He's supposed to go
to the knowledge, not the knowledge
comes to you.
And so,
he says about this
friend of his, this Ansari kid,
so he says that after a while, right?
When I gained a lot of knowledge and
people started coming to listen to Ibn Abbas,
thousands of people would come and listen to
Ibn Abbas.
The same kid who grew up with him,
he would come and he would tell him,
I wish I did the same thing as
you. Right? He would tell him, you know,
I wish
I invested in my youth, and now look
at all the benefit you're bringing to people.
And look at me I'm just an average
guy SubhanAllah. I'm just an average guy. So
you can see from a young age, ibn
Abbas, radiAllahu Anhu was was very wise and
he always and he had a
he would think of the future, a long
term thinker.
Also an interesting story of
Umar radiAllahu Anhuvan Khattab,
he always loved to take Ibn Abbas with
him.
Now, I want you to imagine like,
you know like the Khalifa, right? The khalifa
of the Muslimin, or someone in a very
high position.
Right? And he's taken this kid, and the
senior scholars would ask like, Why are you
bringing this kid with you? Why is he
always with
you? And, they didn't understand that Ibn Abbas
was a very wise man and Umar actually
took his opinion even at that young age.
And, one of the stories that's mentioned
is that,
Umar
was in a gathering with the Sahaba,
and they asked him like, you know why
bring
him in so he wanted to show them,
he wanted to show them why he brings
them. So, he asked them, he said,
Surah Al Nasr.
Everybody knows Surah Al Nasr? How does it
start?
Yeah. Abu Bin Ash Shahlajeem Bismillah Al Haram,
surah 11
110, right? Or, 110, right? Surah 110.
So, I mean, if you know some Arabic,
it's not that hard to understand what's going
on here. So, Umar in Khattab, he asked
him like,
he asked the senior Sahaba like, What does
this mean? What is this? What's the tafsir
of this
surah? Right? And so, they said, you know,
when the victory of Allah comes,
and the victory
And he saw the people
entering Islam in groups, and that's what happened.
When kind of Islam gained some victory,
groups, tribes started coming to to to to
to to to to to to accept Islam,
from all of Arabia.
Then, glorify your Lord
and do
He is the Most Forgiving, right?
And He's the one that accepts Tawba. So,
they told him the very
obvious meaning of the surah, and so he
turned to Ibn Abbas and he said,
O cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam, like
is that what you understand from the surah?
And he said, No.
So he said, Umar asked him, What do
you understand?
He said, What we understand from
the surah
is that now that the victory of Islam
came
and the mission is complete, it means the
time of death for the Prophet SAWALAWAYSALLAM has
come. SubhanAllah.
And, and just
literally this was the last revelation,
this was the last surah that was revealed
in the Quran, and the Prophet
just after that,
passed away. So, you can see that he
had a very deep understanding of the Ayat
of the Quran, a very deep understanding
of the Ayat of the Quran.
1 of his students,
and if you ever read the book of
Tafsir, you always see his opinion.
He said, By Allah, I never saw anyone
who respected the sacred limits of Allah more
than Ibn Abbas.
I never saw anyone who respected
the Hudood of Allah, the sacred limits of
Allah Subhanu wa'ala more than Ibn Abbas. This
is a very interesting quote and I picked
it intentionally why because
the whole hadith is about that.
When you'll see now, Allah Subhanahu Wa Salam
said to him, It
basically means
Be mindful of the limits of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala. And, and he's saying, I've never
seen anyone who respected the limits of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala more than Ibn Abbas. And
he says, By Allah, if I wanted to
weep every time I mentioned him I could
do so.
Of how much uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh
uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh uh-uh
uh-uh how righteous he was in his time.
About this
hadith, ibn Rojeb
the author he says, This hadith comprises pieces
of advice of paramount importance and universal principles
that deal with the greatest and most noble
aspects of this religion. Right? And you know
this hadith, it's mentioned in the 40 hadith
and and Imam Nawi
he went and he was a right? And
from all the thousands of hadith,
he only picked like 40 how many? How
many is the, hadith
the book of, the 40
42. Right? Around 42. So,
they call them 40, but in Arabic, 40
means could be 41, 42, 43.
Means could
be. So, one of them is this one.
And and and, he picked 40 that he
believed are the essentials of the deen. And
so, this hadith is definitely considered one of
the essentials of the deen.
Ibn al Jawzi he says about this hadith,
he says in his book,
He says, I pondered over this hadith and
it amazed me to the point that I
almost became light headed.
Just from pondering over this hadith. And he
says, What a pity for the one who
is ignorant of this hadith
and has little understanding of its meaning.
Ibn Al Jawzi says, What a pity for
the one who is ignorant of this hadith
and has little understanding of its meaning. Now,
many of us might have heard this hadith,
but do we actually have deep understanding of
this hadith and do we apply it in
our daily life?
Abdul Qadir Jelani says, Every believer should make
this hadith a mirror to his heart, his
way of life, his shelter, and his topic
of conversation.
He should act by it in all times
of motion and stillness so that he can
be saved in this world
and
in the hereafter.
And so you can see there's a lot
of virtues for this hadith. Now we get
to the hadith,
Right? Now we get to the interesting part.
So what I wanted to do actually is
I wanted to read the method of the
hadith, the text of the hadith in Arabic
and in English,
and we're gonna read 3 versions of it.
I was hoping that we'd have the screen,
Insha'Allah, next week we'll have it, but just
try to follow with me Insha'Allah. And if
you have your phone, you can actually just
look it up, it's a very easy hadith
to find.
So we're gonna go to the first version
inshaAllah.
So,
on the authority of
Abu Abbas, Abdullah ibn Abbas
right? He says,
right?
So this is the first variation that I
wanted to cover, and the translation of this
is,
On the authority of Abu Abbas, Abdullah ibn
Abbas
who said, One day I was riding behind
the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
We're gonna explain this whole hadith in detail,
but I just want you guys to be
familiar with the text. He says, One day
I was riding behind the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam and he said to
me, and he said to me, O young
man,
I shall teach you some words of advice.
Be mindful of Allah
and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of
Allah and Allah will protect you.
Be mindful of Allah and you will find
Him in front of you.
If you ask, and if you have to
ask, ask Allah
And if you seek help, seek help in
Allah
And know that if the nation
were to gather together to benefit you with
something,
they would not benefit you with anything except
that which Allah has already recorded for you.
And if they gather to harm you by
something, they would not be able to harm
you by anything except
what Allah has already recorded against you.
The pens have been lifted
and the pages have dried.
And this is generation
in Atirmiri.
And
it's a hadith that is
we don't have time to go through kind
of what that means, but is just a
lesser grade than
like it has all the conditions of a
sahih hadith which is the highest grade that
you can get of a hadith,
but the only thing that
the raawi has dubbed, like his accuracy is
a bit less,
Like it's not the highest accuracy of a
narrator, right? Because the narrators of the hadith
have different accuracies, right? Different kind of memories.
And so this one would be which is
still a very acceptable hadith.
The next version that we wanna go through.
Right? And we're going through different versions. Why?
Because
there's different,
Alfaab, different phrases,
in the different narrations.
Now someone might ask a question. What's the
question that someone might ask right now?
Right? Why is there different?
Naham?
Ascent, why is there different versions? Who can
answer that?
Don't be shy.
Why is there different versions?
Jameel. So obviously, that's kind of the logical
reason. So,
so someone might say, Well, how can we
be sure that this is the actual hadith?
Is sahih from its meaning.
What does that mean, Yaani? You have different
narrations, okay?
But they have
different
versions. Okay? So, why? Because some of them
maybe remembered it this way, some of them
remembered it this way. But as long as
there's no contradictions, and the men who narrated
it, and there's no issue in the senate,
then it is an accepted hadith. And as
long as there has no contradiction
in the in the in the meaning,
in the meaning of,
or any concept in the deen
of our deen, or in the hadith, or
in the Quran. Right?
Because sometimes like a narrator will just narrate
part of it.
Right? And then somebody will narrate all of
it. And so you put the puzzles together
and you get the whole meaning, the whole
picture. The whole picture. But, in the second
version,
that is not found in Telmid in other
books, he says,
So, the whole part of Oh, young man,
it's not there.
Okay.
This is a new addition.
So, this is there's you could see there's
additions to this one. So he says, Be
mindful of Allah, you will find Him in
front of you. Become beloved to Allah during
times of prosperity. Get to know Allah in
times of ease, in times of prosperity.
And Allah
He will know you in times of adversity.
This is an additional thing to the first
hadith. And know that what has passed you
by
was never to befall you.
Right. InshaAllah, we're gonna go through the meanings
of all of these. But I just want
you to be introduced to the meaning, to
the hadith.
And know that what has befallen you
was never to have passed you by. And
whatever has happened to you was never going
to miss you.
And know that Victory
accompanies perseverance,
and relief accompanies affliction,
and ease accompanies
hardship.
So this is the the second version.
The third version
is the one that's found in Musnad, Imam
Ahmed. Right?
And,
and the author, Ibn Rajab, he says that
this is the strongest narration actually. This one
that has the strongest narration,
from
the from the from the senate of of
Al Habesh.
He says,
So now you have you see the addition?
So now the Prophet is asking me a
question, Shall I not teach you some words
that
Allah will benefit you with?
So now, Ibn Abbas says, Yes.
When
So, So, you see now, so the translation
is, I was riding behind the Prophet Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam
and he said, O young man
or, O You Willayim. Which is basically another
way of saying, O my dear young,
dear young man. It's like a more kind
of nicer way to call a young person.
Shall I not teach you some statements by
which Allah will benefit you?
So, ibn Abbas said,
Certainly, yes.
So the Prophet says, Be mindful of Allah
and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of
Allah and you will find Him in front
of you. Become
Get to know Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala during
times of ease and He will get to
know you during times of hardship. If you
are about to ask, then ask Allah. And
if you want to seek refuge, seek refuge
in Allah, the pens have been lifted with
what will occur.
If all of the creation wanted to benefit
you with something that Allah had not recorded
for you, they would not be able to
do so. And if they wanted to harm
you with something that Allah had not recorded
against you, they would not be able to
do so
and realize that there is a great deal
of good in having patience over those things
you dislike.
So this is an
addition. And also realize that victory accompanies perseverance,
relief accompanies difficulties, and ease accompanies hardship. So
you can see like these are major life
lessons. Like for some of you,
these lessons took you time to learn,
right? The Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam is teaching
Ibn Abbas this at a very young age.
SubhanAllah, at a very at a very young
age. So those are the 3 narrations that
I want to kind of go through and
the repetition kind of helps us
with the hadith. So
we have some time to kind of just,
Any questions so far?
Questions so far?
Right. So
we have some time to just kind of
go with the beginning of the hadith. So
he says,
One day I was riding behind the Prophet
So now inshallah, we wanna try to go
through the hadith
section by section, and this is just introduction.
So he says, one day I was riding
behind the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
Jameel.
So we mentioned that this is ibn Abbas
this was one of the few hadiths
that ibn Abbas actually got directly from the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Because remember like he's
a young man yeah, and he was literally
born 3 years
before what? Before the Hijra. So like when
the Prophet migrated to Madinah
like you know he was a baby and
he was barely about walk, and he just
learned how to walk. SubhanAllah.
So this is one of the few hadith
that he narrated directly from the Prophet Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam.
And what's one
of the things you see here
or one of the questions that we should
ask ourselves is,
what is a young boy doing with the
leader of the Muslims?
Yeah. And, this is a question that that
I would I would ask.
What is a young boy? And imagine a
young boy is is
is riding and so some of the hadith
says I was behind the Prophet
the other narration says I was riding with
him.
They were on an animal
and the Prophet is in the front and
I want you to have that image in
your head and ibn Abbas,
this young man maybe 10 years old maybe
11 years old, right?
How old are you?
Yeah, mashaAllah. So someone his age, mashaAllah.
Alright.
Riding with the Prophet with the leader of
the Muslims,
like the khalifa of the Muslims. SubhanAllah.
Right.
Like
what's a young man like that doing with
the leader of the Muslims, right? Why am
I asking this? Why am I asking this?
Because many times like you know we
we see young people and we say, Yani,
you're too young for this.
You're too young for this. Go play. And
you go on your, Xbox, go on your
PlayStation, go play out with the kids.
And even though the child might be ready
to receive information,
to learn, to mature, to grow, right? We
don't give them. And Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
he's riding with him and he could have
had one of the big sahabas with him
but he wanted to take an opportunity to
teach him a lesson,
right. So what do you learn from this?
Like what's something that we can take home
with us from this?
What do you guys think?
Yeah, any of those of you have children
especially, what do you learn from this?
Yeah, exactly. It's a great opportunity
to teach your child.
Like does education have to happen in class?
Does education have to happen in a halakah
all the time? Right? It doesn't. Actually a
lot of the tarbia that you do with
your children and SubhanAllah like,
this is my opinion.
The tarbia
of a child I would say is probably
the most difficult task that anybody can take
on. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
bless
the parents that invest their time in raising
their children, especially the mothers. Right? And this
kind of emphasizes the importance of the role
of the mother.
Of course, the father as well. But the
mother that's spending most of that the time
or supposed to be spending most of the
time. Right? A terabyte is one of the
most difficult things. Right? Sometimes
we we for some people raising a child
means what? Just keeping them alive.
Just giving them food, drink,
giving them an education, khalas that's it. But
is that enough?
Is that enough? Especially like in these days
you're living in a non muslim environment. Right?
Like
just like just a month ago, yeah, we
were,
Pride Month. Right? And a lot of people
kinda woke up to, you know, kind of
the dangers of just leaving your child to
just, you know, grow up,
blindfolded like in this society and then all
of a sudden, you know they're teaching them
all these things that go 100% against our
values. Right. So, is it enough just to
do those basic things? It's not enough. And
so SubhanAllah, one of the most difficult tasks,
this is my personal opinion
is to raise
a Muslim
with Adab, with Akhlaq, with a proper Aqeedah,
right?
In this society. I believe that is one
of
the hardest tasks. It's not impossible, it's actually
very possible, right? But knowing how to do
it from a young age,
right? And we see here the Prophet is
teaching Ibn Abbas fundamentals of the deen. Right?
Fundamentals of the deen that many of us
like we just learn like when we're old,
when we're in university,
you know, when we're older.
Right?
And can you imagine someone going through
all the battles
in this society?
I was raised in this society and I
know exactly what I'm talking about for the
young people and now it's probably worse. For
the young person to go through a public
school and the environment here
without having these kind of foundations
is very difficult.
And, it's very difficult to and it makes
sense of everything that's going around you. Right?
And, sometimes as parents we take that for
granted
and even if he's in a Muslim school,
an Islamic school. Even if he's in Islamic
school. Okay. Any okay? He's in an Islamic
school. Okay. That's nice. He might have a
sort of an Islamic environment. I'm not putting
down Islamic schools. I'm just telling you that
even in an Islamic school, he has to
go through all
that.
Even in the Islamic school, things happen.
And in the Islamic school, they have phones,
right? They have internet.
Right? That's
it. Right? As long as they have Internet,
they have laptops, they have this, they have
access to the outside world.
So what we learned from this is that,
terbia starts from a young age.
Right TB,
teaching our children these important aspects.
What what are the things that we focus
on when we are raising our children? You
guys tell me. What are the things that
we emphasize
when we're raising our children?
Let's be honest with each other. What are
the things that we usually emphasize and focus
on all the time?
Education. Like you're talking about like secular education
and science and stuff, school, make sure you
get your As. Excellent. Nothing wrong with that.
What else? From Islamic point of view, what
else?
I wish everybody did that but, okay, Taib,
some parents would do manners. Do you guys
think that's something that a lot of us
focus on?
From my experience,
like, I mean, I deal with in the
Quran Academy here in the, in the northeast,
and we're dealing with kids every day, and
I don't know, I'll probably give a 50%
for manners. Maybe
We have children coming to the Masjid and
they can't use,
the bathroom. And they don't know how to
use the bathroom,
you know, they don't know how to sit,
they don't know how to pray, they come
with, you know,
10, 12 years old, they come with like,
you know, short shorts to pray and so
I'm not sure about that. What else? What
other things?
Someone said salah?
Did someone say salah? Yeah. So
that's one thing we focus on. Right? Make
sure that they know how to pray. What
else?
All the what else? Fasting. Right? We tell
them, you know, if you fast, as soon
as they're like 6, 7, 8, if you
fast we'll give you, I don't know $100.
We motivate them. We give them incentives, right?
So that's all great, Sahih. But what about
the fundamentals of faith?
What about the aqeedah the creed? Right? What
about
planting the seeds of
in our child brain and heart about who's
Allah. What's your relationship with Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala? Why are you praying?
Right? And sometimes a parent might say, Well,
he's too young to know. Is he too
young to understand that? Like, is a child
too young? Has anyone tried to teach their
child about Allah, about Jannah at a young
age?
Yeah.
6 years old, 7 years old, they'll understand
it. And you tell them that if you
do this you will get Jannah, you'll be
Every person you describe to them in a
certain way but it's not something hard to
comprehend.
Is it hard to comprehend to tell a
child that if you if you do what
Allah tells you Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will
will protect you. Is that something hard to
understand?
Like is it some kind of complicated? What
do you guys think? Is that something complicated?
Is that complicated? It's not complicated, right?
So, so also another thing that we benefit
from this hadith is the Prophet SAW Alaihi
Wasallam was riding with Ibn Abbas, right?
How much time do we spend in a
car with our children? SubhanAllah.
For those of you who take their children
to school, right? Every day, right? What do
we do in our cars with our children?
Just a question for you guys.
Listen someone's listening to music?
Hopefully not.
InshaAllah.
So yeah. But this true. Right? Some some
parents, they'll put some music. Okay. What else?
Radio. Put the radio on. You just wanna
listen to the news, and then you tell
your kid to,
you guys tell me. I don't wanna just
come up with this stuff because it might
sound biased. You guys tell me, what do
you do with your child? Who does this?
If you say it, that doesn't mean you
do it. Like, no one's gonna judge you.
What what did you say? Yeah
road rage right your kids are are are
are are are are upsetting you and and
they're and they're yelling and screaming
and we yell at them. What else?
We give them a what? What do you
give them?
Phone? Ascent, Khalas, the honesty is coming. You
give them a phone. And if you're driving
to Banff,
what do you do?
And now you have these big cars with
screen on every,
right? On every chair there's a screen, or
there's a big screen. You put a movie,
you could put an Islamic content movie or
whatever, there's benefit in that. But what I'm
trying to say is this is like prime
time with your child, if you think about
it.
Don't you think this is a prime time
with your child? And, and SubhanAllah, especially like
when you pick them up, and they're very
excited
and you ask them what did you learn,
right? It's a prime time with your child
SubhanAllah. Do we take advantage of that? Do
you take advantage with your child when you're
driving with them? Especially when it's like just
you and them,
right? You and that child, the mother and
the child, the father and the child.
It's an amazing time to kind of you
know, put something in there.
It's a it's a you're educating them but
it's not a class. SubhanAllah.
Alhamdulillah it's not a class,
but
they're learning and it's something that will stick
with them if you do it in the
proper way. Ibn Abbas is that how old
is he we said 10 11 years old
he remembers exactly the incident SubhanAllah,
Ajib he says I remember exactly riding with
him and I was behind him and he
remembers the time and so it was an
emotional thing for him. Right?
So that's one of the benefits that we
can take that when you have that time
with your with your child when you go
for a walk with him, right? And you
talk to them, right? It's a great time.
A lot of the times for us parents,
we're very what?
Proactive or reactive?
What do you guys think?
Reactive. We're very reactive. What do I mean
by that? And so we address an issue
after it it comes up.
And so we see our child doing something
wrong, and then we react to it.
Let me ask you guys for, Yani, your
opinion.
Which one is more likely to be more
effective?
If you proactively tell your child about something
or when you react to him and you're
probably angry or upset
and they're not ready to accept it. Which
one do you think is more effective?
The proactive way, right? When you're proactive and
you teach them these these things,
it's more likely that they will take it
in. Right? Because you're not reacting to them,
you're not being emotional,
you're not attacking them. Right? And many times,
we we we react to what our children
do.
Right and and that's not the right way
right because you're always gonna be behind you're
always gonna be falling behind when you're raising
your children like that.
So then he says,
so he says, one day I was riding
behind the Prophet and
he says,
and the Prophet says,
O young man,
so the Prophet says,
What's a Gulam? Young man. And the other
narration he said,
My dear young man.
Yeah.
It's just, in Arabic it's kind of like
a more intimate way of calling someone.
Right?
And,
the Prophet didn't do this randomly.
He could have said what?
People say these days.
Right? But he said
kind of just trying to get his attention
and to kind of be close with him.
He says,
Right? And we said that Ibn Abbas was
between the age of 10
right maybe 10, 14 at that time right?
So before puberty,
right? And so we said that one of
the things that we learned here is that
the child can actually
process this kind of information at this age
and even before that, even before that. Right.
One of the books inshaAllah maybe we can
cover later is children around the Messenger SallAllahu
Alaihi Wasallam. And you will see when you
go through some of the children that the
Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam used to interact with,
they're very young
children
like Anas, ibn Malik,
right you will see that he was a
khadim of the Prophet SAWAYAM and the Prophet
SAWAYAM would tell him things and he's just
a kid and he's just a young boy
right and you see all the hikam that
he learned from him.
And you see here that the Prophet like
we said he's teaching him fundamentals of the
deen not just
basics right he's teaching them what?
Fundamentals like really important aspects of the deen,
aspects of
any aspects that that will
if a young man just learned these things
right and you put him
in this environment
wallahu alam I believe that he will be
able to process the information he will be
able to make the right decisions
right because he will be able to to
deal with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala He will
be able to deal with difficult times.
Remember like when if you remember the things
that the Prophet told him. I mean the
Prophet is talking to him about what?
He's teaching him things about patience,
right? Victory.
That victory comes with patience. Look at these
important aspects, right? Important topics.
Hardship.
That you're gonna face hardship
and that
after hardships there's ease, right? Imagine a young
man grows with these things and he's faced
with hardships but he knows how to deal
with them, right? He's faced with all these
challenges and he knows how to deal with
them. He's teaching about Tawakkul
right about Tawakkul Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. He's
teaching them about how to deal with Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and the importance of
keeping within the limits of Allah.
So you're not just telling your child this
is haram,
okay. So at a young age will the
child listen?
I'm asking you guys, will the child listen
if you tell him this haram?
If you tell them at a young age
and you keep telling them they'll do it.
You tell them this haram, this haram, Right?
When does the child start thinking
and asking?
Right?
As as they start to about right before
puberty 10, 11, 12, now they start thinking,
Okay. Why? Why is this Haram? Right? And
many times, we don't let them ask those
questions
or we don't even know the answers for
them. Right? But they're thinking, right? And so,
sometimes, if we don't give them those answers,
they're gonna go look for it or they're
gonna come up with these answers
or they're gonna assume that, you know what?
This this salah doesn't benefit me. I'll leave
it. And you see most of the young
people they leave salah when?
They leave salah when?
Yeah, in the teenage
years kalaazim they're like, Okay, I don't see
any benefit. And because a child at a
young age you can just
you can bribe them, Adi. You tell them
you incentivize them. You tell them pray, fast,
you know you get this reward
and they'll listen, the child listens, right? At
the young age but as they grow and
they start maybe getting different
role models. Right?
And so this age,
this age between
some some child psychologists they say that one
of the most important,
I guess,
times for a child's
moral
development,
moral and beliefs and stuff is the age
between 612.
The age between 612. Those of you have
children that age or maybe older,
you will understand how important this this this
time is. Right? The age between 6 and
12 because this is where the the child
actually the most changes happen in the body
of the child even physiologically
right and mentally and emotionally
and so this is prime prime time
yeah any prime prime time for the child's
development
after that it slows down.
Right?
And so the Prophet SAW is teaching him
fundamentals when the child is very,
it's like a sponge, right? At a young
age the child is what? Like a sponge,
he absorbs whatever you give them, right? If
you told him there's unicorns in the in
the sky,
he'll believe you. Yeah. You tell him, yeah.
And if Santa Claus comes and goes to
the chimney and he they believe it. Alright.
You tell him if you put your tooth
under the
the the what what did they say? Under
the pillow.
What what happens? You find money and then
some parents will actually put money. Right. Is
all like
right? But they believe it, right? When do
they start to, to ask questions?
Yeah.
10, 11, 12, right? And then you tell
them, Yeah. This is all like the hocus
pocus.
Right? And so, at the young age, it's
very easy for them to absorb these things.
Right? And so it's prime time.
And so now I want you to to
to to yeah and hypothetically imagine. Yeah imagine
a child
who grows up with these values.
We kind of have an idea of what
the hadith is about, right? We talked about
patience and
and knowing Allah and staying within the limits
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and that Allah
will protect you, Right? All these things. Imagine
a child grows from the age of 10
and up. Right? Versus someone who just has
been told to pray, fast, you know, go
to the Masjid. Do you think there'll be
a difference between those two children?
Especially in this society because I told you
one of the issues is that we're not
in a Muslim environment, right? And so when
a child grows,
right,
what's the biggest impact on a child?
It's their environment. Right?
Are you with your child the whole day?
So half the day they're at school. Alright.
And so, if they're at school, yeah, and
technically,
they're getting all these different messages,
invitations to ideas. Right?
The child who has these,
teachings, these fundamentals,
these core values, right? He knows how to
navigate between them, right? And if he has
a challenge now he can go ask the
parents. He can go ask his role models.
He can go ask the imam, right? He
has the tools to kind of deal with
them but the other one is just absorbing
right and so he goes with the flow
he goes with what his peers are doing
right? You got peer pressure and all these
things that the young man or young girl
has to deal with and so they're just
gonna go with the flow and the parent
doesn't see much until when
and he doesn't see a problem until when
yeah until too late. He's a teenager he's
grown up and Halas
now he has his own ideas
right? And you can ask the Imams how
many stories they get of
young men, women,
you know they wanna they wanna leave the
deen, they don't wanna pray anymore.
Now you have issues with, with people like,
you know, I don't feel like this is
my gender.
People who, you know
they fall into the sin of homosexuality and
all these things. Why? Because they're being fed
all these things they're being fed all these
messages and they don't know how to navigate
with,
so the person who has these values at
least he has a compass.
He has a compass and he knows where
true north is yeah he knows how to
kind of deal with them he has weapons
to and he goes into battle with weapons
the other guy, miskin
Allah says he has no weapons to he
has no self defense, nothing. And so it's
a serious thing. So a parent might say,
Well,
uh-uh, it's hard to raise our children here.
Yeah, it is hard but if you if
you build the fundamentals, if you invest
your time
and I mean
the most
important
place is where?
It's the home.
We can kid ourselves and say, you know,
I'll put an Islamic school, I'll move to
an Islamic country. You can move to an
Islamic country but if the hard work is
not being done at home,
it's like you're flipping a coin with your
with your with your, with your child's future,
From an Islamic point of view. Right? Right.
One,
one interesting book, that I read a couple
years ago is called,
The Brainy Bunch. Anybody heard about it?
The Brainy Bunch?
So, it's a book about this family,
this American Christian family,
and,
they homeschool their children.
Right? I'm not promoting homeschooling even though I
believe it's an excellent method, Yani, if you're
up for it, Yani.
But,
in it,
they talk about they have like 12 kids,
right?
And the very interesting thing about this book
is that
all their children,
some of them are still young, but all
of them 6 or 7 or 8, the
ones that reached the age of 12,
they
all entered university at the age of 12.
Ajib.
Is that something like shocking or I think
that's pretty impressive, right? Is that impressive? I
think that's impressive.
But like for 1 child, okay, but 7
of them, I think that's pretty impressive. And
SubhanAllah, it's interesting the the mother her name
is, her name is Mona Lisa I think.
What a name.
Mona Lisa. So she says that,
what inspired them to to to pick that
number? Like, why that why 12? Can you
guess why 12?
Yeah. Yeah. So you read the book?
So
12 disciples you mean? No, it has something
to do with age.
It's directly related to age.
So they took it from the Bible actually.
So they said that when Isa
according to the Bible Yani
started studying the Torah
right
he was 12 years old
SubhanAllah. And so they took that and they
said you know what our children should be
ready for university
University,
calculus, and all these big topics.
And all the any some of their children,
and if you read about them, and it's
a very interesting book, Some of their kids
like they had like a PhD at the
age of 23 or something.
Yani,
how much? And one of the reasons why
they homeschooled them actually, they said so they
can pray, and they can have their Christian
practice, and things like that. And,
it's Ajib and at the age of 12,
so so so I don't I don't buy
into the belief that 12 is too young.
These kids are going to university at the
age of 12 to the point the mother
was saying,
she was
like a lot of university wouldn't accept them
they wouldn't accept the kids. Can you imagine
seeing a 12 year old in a in
a university? And so one of the she
mentions one of the professors
made it a condition
that
the mother has to come with the kid.
Yeah?
What do I do with a 12 year
old? The mother would go and sit with
the child in the lecture
and the classmates,
they would think that the mother's attending the
class and the child is being,
babysit. Yeah. She's doing babysitting. SubhanAllah. And it
was the opposite. And the child and the
children were there, they were able to understand.
Some of them got top marks in the
class.
Right? So, it's not like they're geniuses. You
have 7 geniuses in a row?
Our children have great
potential. Right? And sometimes we belittle that. Right?
And they're from this hadith.
Yeah, ibn Abbas
he was a 'alem at that age.
He was getting all this knowledge at a
young age. He was giving Fata'w at a
very young age.
Right. So, we need to kind of encourage,
yeah this is one major lesson we learned
from this inshaAllah we'll stop here. Is that
we need to encourage our our children to
do that like we need to encourage them,
we need to uh-uh not belittle them, treat
them like babies all the time. Because when
you treat your child like a baby what
happens?
They will have that mentality,
right? And they will not be motivated and
inspired,
right?
To learn
and move forward.
One of the things also we learned from
this hadith,
the Prophet says, he says, I shall teach
you some words.
Okay. He says, and another narration shall I
teach you some statements by which Allah will
benefit you. And so one of the adabs
that we learned here is that when you
wanna
especially when you're talking to a young child,
what's the best way? The best way is
to kind of get their attention, right? So,
ibn Abbas might be riding with him and
he's looking around, yeah, and he looking at
the desert, looking at the animals, whatever. And
so, the Ras alaihi wa sallam is doing
what here? Because let's say you're driving with
your child, right, and you're driving,
and they're sitting behind or next to you,
right. They could be what what are they
doing? They could be like daydreaming,
looking around, so many distractions. And so from
from,
the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam wanted to get
his attention.
So he right away he says, I want
to teach you something, I want to give
you some advice. Right in another narration I
want to give you advice that will benefit
you. So now he got his attention
right so now the child got the Prophet
SAW got the attention
of the person he got him prepared and
also he said
uh-uh
what do you understand from
is a word right? In the Arabic language
means what?
Perfect small statements
so he so what what happens many times
when we talk to our children?
Yeah. Why? Because?
And we give them what? We give them
a lecture.
50 minutes.
Yeah and once upon a time like the
kids' Khala he's gone right and Subhanahu Wa
Salam said he he yeah and he prepared
him and he told him I'm gonna give
you something short
yeah yeah I just want to give you
something short. Why
Kalimaat? Statements
so it's easy for him to remember
right and did he remember them? He remembered
them SubhanAllah and so he gave them like
very short phrases
back in the day it was the norm
to memorize
people dependent on their on their memory. So
now nowadays, if you give them like a
hadith this long,
they might not remember and so and you
deal with it according to the situation. But
but he gave him, he prepared him that
that I'm gonna give you something easy so
now the child is what?
He opened his mind now now he's relaxed
okay something easy InshaAllah that will benefit me
so now the ears are open subhanAllah this
is from the adab of the Prophet Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam so he didn't give him
a lecture you know and many times we
lecture our kids
and the kid Khalas and and what happens
they build this this uh-uh
this habit
Khalas when dad says I want to we
need to talk what happens?
Khallaz, they turn off. Turn off the button,
go on to la la land, they start
daydreaming and then the father said, You understand?
You said, Yeah, yeah.
He didn't understand anything. So, hulla, isn't that
true? And so, we want to develop that
habit where we where we are a role
model for our kids and we're not some
kind of burden, we're not lecturing them, right?
And that's something that you have to work
on with your child.
Ta'bana your child, your your nephew,
your relative,
maybe it's your student, right? Maybe it's a
friend of yours whoever it is, Youani. It's
a ma'am. So these are kind of some
adab that we learned from this hadith.
That's all I wanted to cover today.
What time is motherf?
Oh, Yes Salaam. Perfect. So,
I think we can do like for some
questions. Any questions?
Don't be shy. Questions?
Quickly,
what are like 3 things that we can
take home with us of today insha'Allah?
Tell me 3 things.
Jameel, Jameel, you should seek knowledge,
when you're young. Ascent. Ascent.
What else?
Be given shorter lectures.
The father is here, right? The
son has given him a sign. So, yeah.
So especially when you're talking to children, keep
it short, Yani. Straight to the point,
and they will absorb it much easier. What's
another lesson?
From
the fathers. All the young young men are
like, Yeah, this is our chance.
From the father, from the Nam.
What what's what's the lesson that we can
learn?
Yeah, yeah. Don't don't underestimate the potential of
your child. Yeah. I need,
inspire them, motivate them.
In that book, Insha'Allah, it would be beneficial
if you read it, the Brainy Bunch.
The parents actually something interesting, a lot of
parents asked them,
How did you manage to force them to
learn at home? He said, We didn't actually
force them.
It was very interesting concept. He said, We
actually discovered
their inclination at a young age
and so the rest was easy. Do you
understand the connection between that and the hadith?
If you if the child understands what they're
doing,
is it hard for them to tell is
it yeah, is it a big deal for
them to tell them go do math?
If you study math, it will take you
to that which you want. So, one of
the children he was saying,
that you know, I took my young young
daughter
to, they were looking for a bigger house.
Right? They're like, 12 people. Yeah. He needs
a bus to take them to school. So,
he was going to look for a new
house and he took one of his daughters,
young guy, she was probably like 10 whatever,
and,
she started noticing like
how the lighting comes into the house and
stuff and how the rooms were put. And
so, the father is very attentive so he
took it to and he started a conversation
with her. And so he took it to
understand that she has a inclination towards what?
What would you say? Like a future career.
Architect. Yeah. And she grew up to be,
I believe one of the youngest architects to
graduate in the United States. Actually, she was
one of the people, who helped build the
mall in Burj Khalifa, like in Dubai. And
so, subhan'Allah, like,
they have great potential, right? And if you
can spend that time at a young age,
it will save you a headache. And imagine
you tell your child, you know, they already
know what they wanna do, you help them
get to that point,
and it's easy, you just tell them, Oh,
if you wanna be an astronaut, you go
do your physics. They wanna be an astronomer
for example. Right? Khalas, they'll go do it.
SubhanAllah. So this is another another lesson we
get. Any questions? I think we'll stop there,
InshaAllah. BarakAllahu fikum. Next week, InshaAllah, we'll go
straight into the hadith. And
hopefully, we'll have a projector here, inshaAllah, so
we can benefit more. Barakallahu fikum. You
can definitely do it then. Yes.
Just