Haitham al-Haddad – Remarriage during ‘Iddah is Invalid & Haram to receive proposals!

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			First of all, she, as we said she's not allowed to remarry.
		

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			This is the main point.
		

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			Let me stress on this point and explain it again.
		

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			Because, unfortunately, this point
		

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			is not clear. Although those who understand Islam read about Islam, they should understand this
point. Clearly, a woman during her age is not allowed to remarry. If she was a divorcee, and it
happened that she got married, then her marriage is invalid.
		

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			Yes.
		

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			The woman
		

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			the divorce see from the first divorce or the second divorce, she is our IP during the period. What
does that mean? It means that if she dies, her husband will inherit her. If her husband died, she
will inherit him.
		

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			This means that she cannot remarry any other person nor she can receive proposals.
		

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			It is haram haram for her to receive proposals during this period.
		

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			If she is divorced from the if she is
		

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			inherited the period from the first divorce, the second divorce and the third divorce, but it is
more how long in the first divorce and the second divorce? Because he during that time she is the
wife of her husband.
		

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			Is it clear to you Hannah's that she is the wife of her husband?
		

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			Okay,
		

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			we received this common question
		

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			that I was divorced from my husband. And after one month of brother proposed, Mashallah, he's good
Indian, etc, etc, as they always say.
		

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			And after one year, he is the worst person in the world. No problem. And then I accepted the
proposal. I got married to him.
		

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			And we have so many cases, she got married to him, she had two children and from him, later on, she
studied that during the period, she cannot remarry.
		

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			And then she comes and asks, What is the ruling regarding that?
		

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			Okay, so during that period, she's not allowed to re marry at all. Okay. I remember the worst
scenario that I heard of,
		

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			in, in this particular issue, a brother and his excuse that he was reversible other although he been
Muslim for some time, but that was his excuse. He asked me the following question.
		

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			He said that he divorced his wife because they agreed that they cannot continue it's not working.
		

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			And then
		

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			he said because I have a child diplomat, I was looking for a good husband for her. Because the
husband will be will look after my child or she will be living with my child with him. So he was
looking for a man to marry his ex wife, he found the good brother, Mashallah. Okay. Then he acted as
the only of his ex wife.
		

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			Not only that, not only that, but he agreed that the new
		

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			husband or the new brother will marry her and he got married to her after less than a month from the
divorce.
		

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			So I said to him, so she got married to him within a month. He said, Yeah.
		

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			But he said that was not the problem. I said, What else? Is that any other bigger problem than this?
He said, No, I'm talking to you because my heart was broken. And I don't know what to do. I said
what he said, because he was living in my house, the brother who proposed to her, came to my house
and I was heavily. So we have done then he got in my house.
		

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			I said interesting.
		

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			We have a meter. I say in Arabic, English.
		

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			If you live until the month of Roger, you will see so many amazing
		

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			things. I said, Okay. He said, after we conducted the marriage, this brother
		

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			took her and said to her that you are my wife. This is in my house. So he took permission for me to
go to another room to sleep with his new wife.
		

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			And he slept with my ex wife in my house.
		

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			I said, very interesting, Marcia.
		

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			We love but we should cry for these incidents that we see in our community. All of this mighty
respected brothers and sisters is because of what?
		

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			ignorance.
		

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			We don't study our Deen. And then we put ourselves into so many problems.
		

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			I told you, I don't know whether I told you previously about that sister who her husband took care
of during that period, or she slept with the husband during that period. And she became pregnant and
then she got married to another man because her husband, her father refused or did not allow her to
go back to her husband whom she slept with him.
		

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			So many problems are happening because we don't have enough information about the basics of our
Deen. And that's why the scholar said, fallible and might be
		

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			seeking knowledge might be obligatory if that knowledge is needed to correct your actions.
		

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			So if you are about to divorce or you want to get married, then learn the basics before you put
yourself into big problems. Okay. So during the period, please brothers and sisters pass this
information to whom you know,
		

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			the woman she's not allowed to remarry, and it is not allowed to it is not allowed for her to to
receive proposals. And brothers are not allowed to propose to a divorce See, until her death is
over.
		

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			Is it clear?
		

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			This is another common problem. very frequent question. Chef, this sister was divorced. And I want
to propose to her. Yeah. How can I go for the procedure? I said she's divorced, how long? She's been
divorced. I don't know or Yeah, she was divorced last month or
		

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			as one brother has done.
		

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			And this is a case I dealt with recently and his wife.
		

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			Unfortunately, she was
		

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			she was not Muslim. And she accepted Islam.
		

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			And her husband was giving her a hard time.
		

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			She was not a Christian.
		

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			But she was from the People of the Book. Okay, she got married to a brother who gave her a hard time
as she said. Then another brother knew about her. And he felt sorry for her. And he facilitated the
divorce for her.
		

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			And then when they went to an Imam, a brave Imam who dissolved her marriage.
		

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			Okay. The brother proposed to her immediately on the spot.
		

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			This is a big Hello.
		

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			If this wife
		

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			Okay, if it is not the first provided that this was valid. I don't believe that it was a valid first
anyway. Okay. But if you propose to divorce woman inherited as if you are proposing to a married
woman.
		

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			Is it clear?
		

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			Yes.
		

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			Is it clear or not? As if you are proposing to any of your friends wives, can you do this?
		

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			This is exactly the same.
		

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			So that's why we need to understand this ruling.
		

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			It is a ruling that is misunderstood. I always speak about it. That divorce see is what
		

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			is alive.
		

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			And that's why as we said yesterday, last time that she
		

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			does not have to consent