Haifaa Younis – Woman Needs to Learn the Deen I Women of Paradise P1
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Assalamu alaikum, everyone. Welcome again. It's the last
day here. And
for being an amazing audience, actually. It's one
of the best audience I've been,
talking to. Very tentative. No. Yeah. You deserve
it.
That's not for me. That's for you.
You're very tentative. You, you are engaging
your questions.
So I decided and with an apology to
the organizers to do the same theme we
did yesterday.
So I'll cover the
whole topic in the first session, and the
second session, we'll do questions and answers.
Questions and answers teaches a lot, actually.
Number 1, it it the more you ask
with the intention, as we talked about yesterday,
intention.
With the intention of learning,
not intention. Don't you ever ask
because you wanna be heard. You wanna show
yourself. You wanna tell people I know.
Or even worse, and sometimes I see this,
I haven't seen it with myself, but I
see it with others, is when you ask
to basically
embarrass the
speaker
or to show that you know more than
the speaker or to prove the speaker is
wrong. This is all not for Allah.
Rather, when you ask, ask yourself before you
ask why you are asking.
But in general,
asking questions is one of the best ways
of learning, And this is why you see
even in the Quran,
many times, what did he say?
They ask you.
They ask you about menstruation. They ask you
about,
money. They ask you about the sacred month.
Why they were asking? Because they wanna learn.
Before I start, I'm gonna ask a couple
of questions. You you got used to me
by now. Right?
Alright. If you're always gonna ask us, but
this time is an easy one. How many
of you, when I sit wanna see hands,
know Jannah Institute?
We didn't do a good job.
We, meaning the team. It's if you look
on my right side,
you see the one in between. So you
see faith event, and then you see
I'm I hope I'm saying it right. Kaffir.
Is that right?
Then you see in between, that's Jannah Institute.
And Jannah Institute is actually a woman education
institute.
It's woman to woman.
Just quickly, I'll give you an idea why
is that.
2010, I still remember the time, which I
normally don't. I have a very bad memory.
But,
this one, I remember I was in aqidah
class
studying in Jada, and this was my first
time being taught by women only.
Like, I was taught in women in medicine,
but not Islamic studies
because in the states, we're all men. So
I remember I was sitting there, and she
was an amazing teacher and was beautiful discussion.
Something in my mind went, and I said,
how many women live in the west can
do what I am doing right now?
It's very difficult.
Right? You leave everything
and then just pack and then go. That's
not possible for many, many women for many
reasons, even those who are really interested.
So I actually asked Allah
at that time,
and and I didn't know any of course,
Allah listened. This is also for the question
one of you asked yesterday, and I was
like, I wish I can do this in
the States.
And this is how the institute was born.
It later on, of course, 3 years later,
it was born completely by,
coincidence.
I was still studying group of us, woman
get together, and they said, let's do it.
I said, you go and take care of
all the logistics. There's a lot of logistics
to start an institute in the United States,
and then I'll start teaching.
Long story short,
2017, when I finished and returned back, we
start doing short courses.
And we were and you'll be surprised.
We actually did online before before
COVID.
We used Zoom when nobody knew what Zoom
is.
I remember when I met the the founder,
I was like, what is this behind him?
It it was a picture of New York,
and I was like, he doesn't live in
New York.
Why? Now everybody knows, you know, the green
backs,
the the green screen, the backdrop, that's what
he had. Anyway, so so
when COVID hits,
for us, was not a big deal because
we already had it.
And, actually, COVID
and, again,
you may dislike something,
and Allah puts in it a lot of.
And you all know how much COVID
brought
as much as, unfortunately,
a lot of death
and loss and and all this. So, anyway,
number of the students tripled
because now women
believe I wouldn't say women. We, as a
human, believed that we can learn online.
We had our doubts before.
Right? But then we had no choice.
Children, they had either don't learn or learn.
So we started.
Now
and then
2021
is when I start when I decide I'm
gonna you know, the dream I had, I'm
gonna do it. So we started our full
time course.
It's a 1 year it's 9 months, actually.
Whatever it's called year of knowledge, what every
Muslim woman should know. We do not graduate
scholars.
You know why? Because we need every one
of you to know her dean.
Because very few people can be scholars, and
very few people have access to scholars.
But you need to know your dean as
a mother, as a daughter, as a wife.
So we decide only 5 topics, the basics,
but we,
teach traditional books, but in a modern way.
And it's all practical. What does it mean?
I mean, if you have any taken any
course with me, you will not hear about
this.
What does that mean to you?
And living in Malaysia or living in the
States in the 2023,
what does it mean? So
we finished 2 years.
I have more than 150 students,
and the reason 150 because we capped it.
We have 1,000 students on the waiting list.
Yes. SubhanAllah. I couldn't believe it when they
told me. I was like, no. No. You're
exaggerating.
You and they showed me, actually.
And we almost when I go back, will
be the last week of teaching, and then
we have the final exam, then we start
the new year
into in September. Every year, we start in
September. It's 5 subjects
which every Muslim woman should and every Muslim
should learn, not only woman,
which is basically aqidah, what do you believe
in, how do you practice, is your afik.
And then
what do you know about Rasul alaihi salatu
wasalam? So we chose in the 1st year
commentary of a Nawawi, and the 2nd year,
Shamal,
his life alaihi salatu wa sallam. We teach
tasquia, purification of the heart. Has to be.
Otherwise, we are only know the external and
the heart is somewhere else.
SubhanAllah.
And we do,
so we do and we do Aloom al
Quran in the 1st year, and in the
2nd year, we do tafsir.
So I would absolutely now there's a good
news. We looked at and how many women
can do this for 9 months continuously?
It's 5 subjects. It's 11 hours per week.
So then we came up with,
we we gonna start
year of knowledge self paced.
So you do it your own way. We
have the same material, the same thing you
choose. You wanna finish in a year. You
wanna finish in 3 years. You wanna take
one subject. You wanna take 3. We Yani,
the idea is
we women and and probably the men the
this is there's a difference between men and
women. And one of and nobody is better
than anyone.
The best person, the person of taqwa.
But for women, there is a lot of
I have to use a very careful word.
It was yeah. Because, honestly, I mean, same
thing. The man also has it, by the
way. But in relation to education, there's a
lot of obstacles.
There are a lot of obstacles, meaning, and
I always say, married woman, 5 children, and
she works. Where is the and she's a
wife, and she's a daughter. Where the time
is gonna come from?
Right?
So we have to be really what realistic
and practical. And as one of the rules
of that's
those of you who study, you probably know
this is.
If you cannot do it all, don't leave
it all.
That's a very famous statement. So here you
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I was like, how do they know about
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That's the positive of social media. But, also,
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just the one how many of you saw
the series we did in Ramadan?
Show me hands.
Yeah.
That's disappointing.
Yeah. Because it was very popular in the
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You name it. And we have from Australia,
and we have from Indonesia. We are from,
we are from Africa, definitely from Europe, definitely
from the States and Canada. I just wanted
to say this before I forget because, again,
we all have to learn. I am a
woman firm believer in education.
And, actually, I I I learned this from
my mother.
She was a firm believer of human education.
Not necessarily Islamic education, but you need to
be educated.
You need to know what is going on.
You know why? Because your children when who
are the first teacher of the children?
With all respect to the fathers, it's usually
you the mother. Because the mother spend more
time with the child.
Period. And that's how Allah created us.
So make sure you learn you learn, let
alone you learn your deen.
Because when I'm gonna stand in front of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, he's not gonna ask
me or he's gonna reward me
just because I'm a physician.
Could be. It depends what I did with
this MD degree.
But when I know my dean, I'm gonna
stand in front of him and I'm very
proud and happy.
And this is what we all need as
women. Alhamdulillah. And now with all the technology,
it's becoming much easier.
Everything that becomes easy,
it will be tough and difficult to answer
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Because he's gonna look at you and me
says, why didn't you learn?
Why didn't you learn?
It's all in your home.
Who doesn't have an Internet in this home?
Who doesn't have a phone?
A phone with Internet, smartphone,
let
alone a computer.
So why didn't you lie?
And I always say to myself, these questions,
I better be ready
because I have no excuse.
So InshaAllah, if one thing came out from
this 3 days program
that at least half of you,
if not all of you, left with one
intention 2 intentions.
1 is to please Allah
in everything you do.
And second is to become a woman of
knowledge,
not a scholar and don't do it to
teach.
If you are learning to teach, that's not
for Allah.
That's for you.
Learn
to get closer to Allah,
and learn to fulfill the Amanah that Allah
give you with your children or your family,
including parents, including siblings, but be a person
who carry the torch of light.
Having said that, so we were I was
asked to talk about the woman of paradise.
Now, of course, questions.
Do we are we gonna go to Jannah?
I'm talking about women.
I love Inshallah.
Okay.
Right. Let's rephrase it.
Are there women in Jannah?
So why this title?
Of course, I'm gonna ask.
When you read this title, what came to
your mind?
I'm sorry. 1 person.
Why this title?
See, if you have an education, you will
answer it right away.
And the clue was in the video that
was
obviously, didn't pay attention, but that's okay.
It was in there.
So who are the women of paradise
guaranteed?
Uh-huh. So let's learn this. Sayyidna Abdullah ibn
Abbas narrated this hadith, and I'll start with
it and then take you through them.
Sayyidna Abdullah ibn Abbas says,
said,
The best woman
of Jannah.
So that means they are in Jannah.
But not only they are in Jannah, but
they are the best
of the woman. Like, imagine this,
we are all in Janayor bi ami. And
then there is more than a 1000 people
in this room. And Rasul, a sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam will say this, 4 people,
You Allah.
Four people
of those
are the best. Don't you wanna be one
of them?
So he said 4,
He didn't say 4. The 4 is a
weak hadith, actually, but he may he mentioned
their names. Said,
The best woman of Jannah.
Or,
say the Khadija been to Kuwait.
Mohammed
or Asia went to Muzahan
or
So
4 of them.
So we have first is Khadija, Seida Khadija.
2nd is Sayida Fatima,
and Mariam of Nithya Imran,
and Sayida Asiya, the wife of Iran.
Before I take you through it, through this
and this is what we're gonna do, this
the first session. I want each one of
you, men and women,
because this is also for men, not only
for women.
And I want them I want you to
say to yourself, write down on a piece
of paper,
why these 4?
Did you notice there's no say the Aisha?
Right?
And 2 of them before Islam.
Why?
What is in them?
Specifically, that's Araswah alaihi wa sallam, and, of
course, Allah taught him that these 4 are
the best.
So number 1, you have to ask this
to yourself. This is how I learn, and
I don't wanna learn information.
I wanna say, okay. So now I learned
Sayida Khadija is one of the best woman
of Jannah. Like, why?
And then that's the question.
Can I be like her?
I'm not gonna be the wife of Rasool,
alaihis salatul Islam. I wish, but it's not.
But is there something in her?
Or in Seda Asiya, the wife of Firaun.
So completely two opposite.
Right? One is the wife of a prophet,
the other one is a wife of a
tyrant
that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala cursed.
Then you have the woman who has no
husband.
Isn't that interesting?
Right? And then the daughter.
The daughter, like, why say the father?
Right? Why not say the Umkhrifon?
Did I make you interested already?
Hamdulillah.
Now you need to write down and tell
me what is it in your
whatever you know, why do you think these
4?
Do they all have the same
one character or 4 of them, or each
one of them has something unique
that I may have it?
This is the whole idea because I wanna
be in paradise,
for sure.
Do I have any of these qualities?
Maybe all of them. So let's take 1
by 1. So this hadith I shared with
you is in Imam Ahmed. Sayyid Nablaq Nabbas,
narrated on or, the authority of Sayid Nablaq
Nabbas, say,
said, the best woman of Jannah,
Khadija
Fatima,
and then he said, Maria to Maria Mobin
to Imran, and then Asya bin to Musahem.
So let's take first.
What do you know about Sayida Khadija?
What do we know about Seyda Khalijha?
Everybody knows. And you know what's the interesting?
From this series,
it was 30 day series.
We covered the 25 women.
The highest views
was which one?
Sayedeh Khadija.
To my surprise, actually,
I thought people will see more because we
brought women even contemporary,
and especially women who people don't know.
Right? To educate everybody. So I I was
like, you know, everybody knows about Sayna Khadija.
So let's see. Who is she?
What we all know, she's the first wife
of Rasulullah.
Okay.
But there's other wives.
But what was special
about her?
Woman, you need to know this.
She was the first Muslim.
She was the first Muslim, not Muslim woman.
She was the first one who believed in
Rasool alaihi wa sallam.
You all know the story, which you just
heard it, so we're not gonna repeat.
She was the first. So she the first
wife of Rasul, a s a t h
a s a t h a. She was
born, this is just for you, to learn
556
in Makkah.
556
in Mecca. And her father is Hoidid, of
course,
her nickname.
And I want everybody in this room, men
and women,
ask yourself this question.
I took a group of youth, and, again,
I live in California, so hiking is something
very popular there. So I took youth for
hiking on a weekend,
and they they were, like, a twenties,
and that's the age. The youngest maybe was
16 or 17. Anyway so we had to
and We reached to the top of the
mountain, and and for some reason, and everything
Allah makes you see
is a learning message. Remember yesterday?
It's a text message from Allah,
but Allah doesn't text the way we text.
He send it in front of us. So
as we were walking, there was a plague.
There was a pla like a a plague
a plague there. It says something about somebody
who did something for the county.
The issue is not who is this person,
or the age, or was was written. So
I kept reading,
and then I looked at the girls,
And I said, what do you think they
will write
on my grave and your grave
after we die?
My name and the day I was born
and the day I died,
and then how many Mohammed or how many
Fatima, how many Khadija.
What is the unique thing you want people
to remember you with?
The mother, the wife,
the Aveda,
the the worshiper.
Say the Khadija, her nickname was Abahera,
the pure.
The pure.
SubhanAllah.
Although
when she married the Rasool, alaihis salatu waslam,
she was not virgin.
She already married before she was a widow.
So this has nothing to do with the
physical.
This is something to do with
spiritual with Allah and in her character.
So her nickname is Abahira.
And never even before Islam, never worshiped idols.
Never.
And she was, again, married before Araswari, yes,
salatu, wa salaam.
How many of you in this room is
single parent?
Alhamdulillah. May Allah make it easy for you.
You're Abdiany. She was one of them. She
was a single parent.
See, we're gonna share things that you say,
oh, you know how people feel for themselves?
They are single parent?
And it's like,
say the Harida was a single parent.
So
she
was a single single parent,
and
she was rich.
And I wanna I'm gonna emphasize on rich.
She was probably the only wife of Rasulullah
Sathushan who was rich, well known, rich businesswoman.
So now people come and tell you, you
know, Islam doesn't give the woman their rights.
So Islam tell woman stay at home. I
was like, really?
Really? Okay. I'm not gonna talk about myself.
The the first wife, Ofaraswadi, he was
a businesswoman,
Not a teacher,
not a physician,
businesswoman, very tough.
Right? Because it's mainly men dominated
profession, even these days.
So she was a businesswoman.
Single parents. Right?
And she dedicated her life to these 3.
That's another message to everybody.
She dedicated her life to 3 things, to
her business,
to her children,
and to her home.
So if you are a person taking care
of your home, don't feel bad.
Don't let
anyone
make you look down at yourself. I see
this in my office. With the woman, I
was like, you know, profession, what do you
do? Says, oh, I must and this is
the the way it says it said,
I'm a stay home mom.
Now she's feeling pity for herself. Why?
And I said
only,
you're a mother.
You're a mother. You know what mother is?
You know what Islam how Islam looks at
mothers?
Why do you feel sad for yourself?
Right? And same thing is when when somebody
is studying Islamic studies or Quran teacher and
they start to announce, like, I'm only a
Quran teacher. Only?
Why?
Because that's what they are making us feel
that studying Islamic studies, memorizing the Quran, teaching
Quran is like how much they will pay
you.
So being a mother, she dedicated her life
as a mother to her home and to
her business. This is before she married her
Rasul, alaihis salatu wa salam.
And
she was a strong woman
and a woman of vision.
Why I'm saying this?
How did she get married to Raswa, alaihisattusa?
Come on. You all know the story.
She saw him.
She saw in him,
not he looks
but was what attracted
her to him was
his character.
So this is a woman of vision,
and this is all for all the women
here and for all the brothers here is
when you choose a spouse,
choose a spouse based on character,
not wealth and money.
Now she
really liked
because she dealt with him in business, and
this is how you know people. You know
the famous line of Sayyidina Umar, When he
was entering the Masjid and he heard somebody
praising someone,
really praising.
And you know Sayyidina Umar?
So he said, do you know him well?
He said, yeah.
He said, have you traveled with him?
Said no.
Have you dealt with him?
Have you dealt with him with money?
He said no. He said then you don't
know him.
You know people
when
absolutely when you travel, especially if you share
our own with them,
because they can't make it up all the
time.
And when you deal with them with money
so she saw him,
dealt with him. She liked him,
and she send, you know the story, send
someone to
literally propose to him. And he said, will
she take me?
She was a woman of honor,
well known in the city. Imagine, like, here
in Kuala Lumpur, you have this one very
well known.
Right? Respected,
well known, older than him. And he said,
what, Gani? What she she wants me, looks
at me,
and he's a Rasool alaihi salatu wa salam.
And he was not wealthy.
Money is not the reason to get married.
This is everybody needs to learn this because
you will be miserable.
You'll be it's a glamorous thing in the
beginning. But unless that person that you are
marrying is, alhamdulillah, has money that's hairun alaakayir,
but has to have more than just the
money.
So this is how she was.
She was the 1st Muslim
and number 2, the biggest supporter of Rasool
alaihi wa sallam.
That's how wives should be, and that's how
husbands should be.
It's a matter of support.
Love in the beginning needed, but the love
changes.
It doesn't change to hate, but it changed
to mawd,
solace.
You missed them, but it's there's no this
huge passion. Huge passion only in the beginning.
So she was his his main supporter, and
she was the first and the only wife
for 25 years. He didn't get married when
she was alive, alayhis salatu wa salam.
She gave him 4 children, 4 girls and
2 boys, 6.
You know the names?
Bismillah,
Fatima, everybody knows.
Seyda Zaynab. Don't call them by their first
name. They're not your friends.
They are the the children of Rasul, Alaihisatt,
Ursula.
So we have Seyda Zaynab,
Seyda Fatima,
Rokayya and Seyda,
umukartum.
And then we have
Al Qasem,
Ibrahim, Sayid Nabraham,
Abdullah Fayib,
that's something for you to go and check.
The name that he Rasul alaihi wa sallam
is called the father of.
Al Qasim. Al Qasim.
That's one of his, nicknames, Rasul alaihi salatu
wa sallam. So she actually had 6 children
with Rasul alaihi salatu wa sallam. Sayed Ibrahim
was not from her.
You all know
that, I hope.
Otherwise, you absolutely have to see the series.
Now it's became an obligation.
So, yes, she had Al Qasem,
Abdullah,
and then the 4,
children, the 4,
daughter.
When she died, her home was purchased by
Sayyidina Muawiya,
and there was a how there was a
mosque in there. She died in Ramadan.
And ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to that
takes you on a Friday in Ramadan and
you're in Mecca and you're in Ihram
as death,
Especially in the last 10 days, so millions
will pray also.
Honestly,
million will pray Janazah. That's what she
and the year she died, they they called
the year off,
sadness.
They they yeah. Aam al Khozun, because she
passed away, and then the uncle of Rasool
alaihi salatu wa sallam passed away.
Now, the most important thing, characters.
This is just a history. Now let's come
to the character.
Before wealth, she was known to be noble.
How many of you in this room, don't
show me hands,
when you go home and sit with yourself?
Again, brothers and sisters, you're gonna say to
yourself, you know, when my name is being
mentioned, remember the play?
I'm gonna be remembered as the noble woman.
The rich, the beautiful,
you know, the talented
versus the noble.
Which one is harder?