Haifaa Younis – Why Good Friends are Essential in Islam
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The speaker discusses the importance of staying strong in one's deen when dealing with negative behavior. They stress the need for protecting one's position in the community and reminding oneself of the negative consequences of not being strong enough. The speaker also talks about the importance of avoiding false assumptions and the need for strong deeds.
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Number one is patient.
Number two is your company.
I wanted to start with the last message
of the, which is basically the verse 28.
This is how you stay strong in your
deen.
Don't say, I'm not going to get affected.
You will be.
Nobody will not get affected.
Every time I see a girl or a
woman, all her company, she is the only
one who wears hijab.
And everybody around her doesn't, unless she is
extremely strong.
Gradually, gradually, you see the hijab changes.
You all are nodding your head.
So basically, or let's say you are with
people who don't pray and you're the only
person who pray.
You're the only person who go to the
masjid and the negative.
You're the only boy and all your friends
does A, B, C, D, E, F, G
of the haram.
First step in the change, you know what?
You will accept it.
The first step in the change is not,
you're not going to do it yet.
You're going to accept it.
You start defending it.
First, I accept.
Second, I defend.
I justify them, what they are doing.
Third, I will start debating.
And fourth, illa ma rahi ma rabbi, I
will end up the same thing.
This is why you want to stay strong
in your deen when we talk about community,
community.
I'm not talking about people who speak the
same language or people who eat the same
food.
Those are beautiful community, but that's not necessarily
the people who's going to keep me strong.
The real community I and you need as
Muslims living in the West, living in the
time of temptations, is you surround yourself with
the people who are definitely ahead of you
in your deen.
And you are jealous of them.
Ah, she can do this.
If she can do it, I can do
it.
But don't surround yourself with the people who
are 50-50 or no, you will be
weak.
This is, again, I'm going to read again
the verse 28.
Remember I told you Al-Kahf has four
main stories and in between a complete different
story.
Every story at the end of the story
is the summary.
Because normally, okay, this is the problem.
What am I going to do about it?
Okay, I'm tested in my deen.
What am I going to do about it?
So for you as a person, I've said
this many times, I remind usually the youth.
I mean, maybe here is not, maybe in
Irvine, but there's places where this girl is
the only one who wears hijab.
Is that boy is the only boy in
this thousand school that he doesn't have a
girlfriend.
Or he doesn't vape.
Or he, I mean, don't look at me
as this is not real.
This is real.
This is everywhere.
What can this boy do or this young
girl does or me and you?
Because we are failing also.
You live here longer, you will get numb.
It's norm.