Haifaa Younis – What is Feminism in Islam- I Faith and Feminism – Part 1

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The discussion on feminism and feminism is about the movement that treats men and women differently, which is a movement for equality. The speaker discusses cultural differences between men and women in Islam, including the words peace be upon him and peace be upon him, and how it is a movement for equality. They also talk about a woman who wants to be equal, but the speaker argues that it is not possible to achieve this goal. The discussion also touches on the "verages" of Islam, including peace be upon him, peace be upon him, and the verse which a woman asked the presence of peace be upon him.

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			Allahumma alimna ma yanfa'una wa manfa'na
		
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			bima allamtana innaka al-sami'a wa al
		
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			-mujeebu al-du'aa.
		
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			Allahumma inni ya'udhu bika min almin la
		
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			yanfa'a wa qalbin la yakhsha'u nafsin
		
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			la tashba'u wa adwa'a inna yusma
		
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			'a.
		
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			Rabbana la tuziqqulubana ba'da idh hadaytana wahab lana
		
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			min ladunka rahma innaka anta al-wahab.
		
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			Rabbi shrah li sadri wa yassal li amri
		
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			wa ahlul uqdatan min lisani yufqahu qawli.
		
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			It's always good to be back.
		
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			It's becoming home more and more.
		
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			So alhamdulillah rabbil alameen.
		
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			May Allah keep the blessing in this place.
		
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			Ya rabbi ameen.
		
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			And increase you and give you more.
		
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			And most importantly, make you among the grateful.
		
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			If I can ask that we have the
		
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			children.
		
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			Where is...
		
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			If we can have the children in the
		
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			room.
		
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			For many reasons, but especially the topic.
		
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			And if I can ask everybody in the
		
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			back to come a little bit to the
		
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			front.
		
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			And...
		
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			Can we do that?
		
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			Jazakallahu khair.
		
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			So I was asked actually to talk about
		
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			this subject.
		
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			And we're going to talk about it also
		
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			in a different way in the morning for
		
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			the youth.
		
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			And we will talk about it definitely in
		
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			way more details tomorrow for the women from
		
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			11 to 1.
		
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			So what is faith and feminism?
		
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			And I'm going to ask you here.
		
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			I'm not going to just give you a
		
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			lecture.
		
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			And I'm going to start from feminism and
		
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			then I'm going to come to faith.
		
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			What is feminism?
		
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			I don't want you to Google or give
		
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			me the definition.
		
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			As the word comes to your mind.
		
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			And this includes the brothers also.
		
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			Because by the way, this subject is for
		
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			both.
		
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			What is feminism?
		
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			It's a very common word.
		
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			You hear it all over thrown in our
		
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			faces day and night.
		
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			What is feminism?
		
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			Who can tell me?
		
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			Please.
		
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			Okay, so realizing the potential of what woman
		
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			is and can be.
		
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			So why it's negative?
		
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			This is a very beautiful definition, positive.
		
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			But it's usually comes as most of the
		
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			time as something negative.
		
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			Am I right?
		
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			She is feminist.
		
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			And then that's a question mark after it.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			So the fact that the man, the woman
		
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			wants to be equal with the man is
		
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			a negative thing.
		
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			This question is to the brothers.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, we did just to give you the
		
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			background of this topic.
		
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			We had a woman conference two weeks ago
		
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			in California in Irvine.
		
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			And it was only for the women.
		
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			And we had 750 women attended.
		
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			And I received many requests from the brothers
		
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			but also from scholars.
		
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			And I said this is a woman place.
		
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			However, we're going to open it for live
		
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			stream.
		
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			And you are free to listen to it.
		
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			So this subject is not only for the
		
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			woman.
		
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			This subject is actually for both.
		
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			And this is, again, I'm saying to everybody.
		
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			When I travel and I especially overseas and
		
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			I meet scholars, very frequent question I get,
		
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			what do you think of feminism?
		
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			Me as a woman.
		
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			So if I ask the brothers, what is
		
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			feminism?
		
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			For you as a brother.
		
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			So you heard what the woman said.
		
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			Anyone can raise their hand and tell me.
		
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			Negative, negative.
		
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			Let's hear it.
		
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			Positive?
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			What is feminism for you?
		
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			Anybody?
		
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			No, you're not raising your hand.
		
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			That's going to be tough on you.
		
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			Yes, anyone?
		
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			No idea?
		
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			Yes, please.
		
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			Say that again.
		
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			Man and woman are equal?
		
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			Anybody has anything to add?
		
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			Anyone?
		
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			So next question.
		
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			It's going to be question and answers.
		
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			Because this subject cannot be covered in 45
		
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			minutes.
		
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			Are men and women equal?
		
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			That's the biggest question.
		
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			As Muslims, I'm not talking about outside.
		
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			Outside is a completely different story.
		
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			We as Muslims, do you as a woman,
		
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			do you as a man, a sister and
		
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			a brother, a husband and a wife, a
		
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			brother and a real sister, are we equal?
		
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			Are we the same?
		
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			There's two important questions here.
		
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			Are we the same?
		
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			Yes or no?
		
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			Are we equal?
		
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			Yes or no?
		
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			So what is feminism then?
		
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			You all answered right.
		
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			We are equal, but we are not the
		
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			same.
		
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			That's confusing for a 15 year old.
		
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			Or 13.
		
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			And even some of us.
		
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			So what is feminism?
		
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			I'm going to give you some background.
		
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			There was a lot of history.
		
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			I don't want to give you a lot
		
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			of history.
		
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			But feminism, basically, it's a movement.
		
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			Bismillah?
		
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			I didn't finish it.
		
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			I just said one word.
		
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			Where is the movement?
		
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			And where did it come from?
		
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			Unless you know the background, don't judge yet.
		
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			And then we're going to bring whatever this
		
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			movement, and then bring it to our faith,
		
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			and see.
		
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			And you have to be extremely balanced.
		
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			And not judgmental.
		
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			Don't say Islam is against feminism.
		
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			Because, please forgive me, you're wrong.
		
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			And don't tell me Islam is all feminism.
		
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			You're also wrong.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			So what is feminism?
		
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			It came at the end of the last
		
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			century.
		
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			Not the end of the 1800s, 1900s.
		
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			This is the definition in Wikipedia.
		
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			So that's easy, you all can see it.
		
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			It's a range of social, political, ideological movement.
		
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			It's a movement.
		
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			Social.
		
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			There's no religion here, by the way.
		
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			Social, political, and ideology.
		
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			And what is the goal?
		
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			What is the goal?
		
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			Establish political, economical, personal, social equality of the
		
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			two genders.
		
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			Are you with me?
		
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			So are we equal?
		
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			In front of Allah, are we equal?
		
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			Absolutely.
		
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			So the first thing Islam, when I go
		
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			back to Islam, and I said, I don't
		
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			need this.
		
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			I don't need this.
		
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			I don't need this movement.
		
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			Islam came to me 1400 years ago, and
		
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			I'm going to quote the verse which a
		
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			woman asked the Rasul, peace be upon him.
		
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			How come when we read the Quran, the
		
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			reward goes to the men?
		
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			What about us?
		
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			And Allah revealed it.
		
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			It's in Surah Al-Ahzab.
		
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			Some of you may be familiar with it.
		
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			Verily, the Muslim, men.
		
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			Muslim, women.
		
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			Believing, men.
		
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			Believing, women.
		
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			All the description, including those who are in
		
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			always a state of dhikr.
		
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			But he in every act of worship, he
		
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			puts men and he puts women.
		
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			In general, in the Quran, when Allah does
		
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			not differentiate between the genders, that means both.
		
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			But this was revealed because a woman asked
		
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			about that.
		
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			Where is my reward?
		
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			Am I equal in the sight of Allah?
		
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			And Allah revealed it.
		
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			All the above, men and women.
		
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			So bring back the feminism.
		
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			Am I, and again, I'm not talking about
		
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			culture, both sides.
		
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			Culture is a completely different story.
		
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			And this is where the confusion is coming.
		
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			Culture treats men and women differently.
		
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			You know, the biggest question I get from
		
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			the youth, you may be a little bit
		
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			surprised.
		
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			And this was actually in a program I
		
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			did in Irvine.
		
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			I did mother and daughter program.
		
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			The masjid was packed.
		
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			There was more than 500 people.
		
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			Because the youth, they really wanted to hear
		
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			it.
		
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			And mothers wanted to see what is going
		
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			on.
		
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			So a 14 or a 15 year old,
		
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			she stood up.
		
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			And I said, what is the issue that
		
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			you face with your parents?
		
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			Right?
		
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			Your mothers are here.
		
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			Let's talk about it.
		
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			She raised her hand.
		
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			And she said, me and my brother are
		
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			treated differently in the house.
		
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			I was like, subhanallah, tell me about it.
		
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			Because sometimes our perception is wrong.
		
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			I said, how come?
		
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			She said, my parents say, and actually she
		
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			said, my mother said, I have to be
		
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			home by 9 o'clock p.m. But
		
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			my brother can be up out till 2
		
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			a.m. That's not fair.
		
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			What is the answer?
		
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			Let's hear it from you before I tell
		
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			you what I said.
		
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			This is one of the roots where women
		
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			get absorbed to feminism.
		
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			How many of you do this in their
		
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			homes?
		
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			Now I'm exposing the community.
		
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			Don't raise your hand.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			How many of you think what is wrong
		
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			with this statement?
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			I tell my son come at 2 a
		
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			.m. but my daughter needs to be home
		
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			at 9 p.m. How many of you
		
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			say that?
		
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			You're too quiet today.
		
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			I had a feeling.
		
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			Because this is a very tough, sensitive subject.
		
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			And we don't want to admit it.
		
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			But unless you admit it we will lose
		
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			these girls.
		
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			Unless we start looking at this as Muslims
		
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			and we know how to respond in 10
		
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			years those who are playing in the masjid
		
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			there's a good possibility we will lose them
		
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			because unless you understand your deen very well
		
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			and you practice it the way it pleases
		
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			Allah you can easily be pulled to the
		
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			other side.
		
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			I said to her both of you need
		
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			to be home before 10 p.m. because
		
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			they are absolutely right to be worried about
		
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			you but what they are worried about you
		
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			maybe does not apply to your brother but
		
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			there is a lot of other things applies
		
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			to your brother doesn't apply to you.
		
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			Both of you needs to be at 10
		
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			before 10 to the house.
		
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			So feminism is not exactly equality but it
		
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			is also equality.
		
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			Right?
		
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			There is a beautiful book written by Sheikh
		
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			Jamal Badawi more than 20 years ago it's
		
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			a very small book I highly recommend everybody
		
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			reads it it's in English, beautiful, easy and
		
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			he said I can't remember the title we
		
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			are equal but we are not equal we
		
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			are the same but we are not the
		
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			same but I want I want all of
		
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			us to come from this base now I'm
		
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			going to ask everybody and all of you
		
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			will answer me inshallah you will not hesitate
		
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			is Allah just?
		
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			show me your hands everybody Allah is just
		
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			we have no doubt absolutely even if what
		
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			we see is not just but that doesn't
		
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			mean it is not just it's just what
		
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			I'm seeing right now with my limited knowledge
		
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			so when Allah said the woman cannot do
		
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			that and the man can do that or
		
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			the opposite I come to this verse or
		
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			to the hadith of Rasul from the base
		
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			that it is just I'm just not seeing
		
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			it how many of you adult in this
		
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			room when you were a teenager myself included
		
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			a lot of what my parents wanted me
		
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			to do I didn't like it and it's
		
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			not fair and why I have to do
		
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			this and we did it because they are
		
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			our parents 20 years later you're telling your
		
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			children exactly what your parents told you because
		
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			now you've seen that this is right so
		
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			the first thing when you come to feminism
		
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			it's a movement for equality because there was
		
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			no equality the woman paid less than the
		
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			man the woman cannot vote did you know
		
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			that?
		
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			we're getting to the voting very soon did
		
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			you know that in this country at one
		
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			point the woman had no right to vote
		
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			yes or no?
		
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			let me ask you now let's see how
		
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			much you know about your deen does Islam
		
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			allow the woman to vote?
		
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			yes?
		
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			brothers?
		
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			anyone disagree?
		
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			what is your proof?
		
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			you cannot just throw things on Islam and
		
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			you don't have a proof you answered right
		
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			all of you what is the proof that
		
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			the woman can vote?