Channel: Haifaa Younis
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blessings from us by our sins and Europe via me in a kiss me on Mooji withdraw as we all have been doing for about maybe three, four months Subhanallah one of the blessings of the COVID-19 if we want to look at everything that has a blessing in it is that we all went online. And the fact we are online, Allah opened up the opportunity for us to get connected to people, which we were connected with before but not all of us. Meaning not virtually rather we were connected physically when we go and travel and 100 Lego brand I mean today and we today we are connected with the other side of the ocean. Actually our guest is from London, and it is 1am their time at hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
gives me a great happiness and pleasure to have Sister ownable her sister from London to join us today. And I'm gonna just give a brief background in case you wonder who's on tell her the fact she's on call her mother to me is enough. And this is the first thing I want all my audience all our audience to look at the fact they are mothers it's a blessing. And that's why the sooner is actually to call the person she or a he by the father of like i said i she did not have children, but they used to call him Abdullah because you take care of her nephew Abdullah Venezuela. So I'm gonna tell her actually join us from London. She's the founder of marital art and unfair profit organization
dedicated to nurturing Muslim woman to become the best version of themselves so they can lead a successful family life. She married Alhamdulillah with one child, Allah protects him and she home educate or as we call it homeschooling. Her teacher and mentor is actually her husband Alhamdulillah Hello blank, Abu talha and Shahada and who is graduate in Sharia from Medina University more than 10 years ago hamdulillah she had the opportunity to advance her studies of Arabic entered read also in Egypt, where they both were for a part of their learning journey. And Paul has been teaching at the popular Saturday. Hallo in East London Mosque for our
US audience. East London Mosque I had the pleasure of visiting more than once. It's huge, nice to say and it is not a Masjid. It's a community center. It's big. It's huge. The first time I personally met on palha is when we both were speaking in our program by the marital arts and the place it was part of the East London Mosque, mosque. It's a huge
I wouldn't say even an auditorium it's a big one. Mashallah Tamara Kola, a very well attended programs May Allah give her genetically for dose. So she actually does started with a very popular Saturday class or holochain East London Mosque which has been going on for more than 10 years. And it continues to date well in the hand. And the reason I thought of impel her for many reasons, one of the most common question I get as a woman is How can you do this? Or how can we do this all and we are so busy. We are mothers, we are sisters, we are daughters, we are
ourselves, we are have our own profession, and the most are the most important number one is we are the servants of Allah subhanaw taala Where will I have the time to work and do it with excellence, study and do it with excellence. Take care of my family and do it with excellence and then do my duty to Allah and do it with excellence and so
Only 24 hours a day. And this is the communist question I get from moment wherever I go. And one of the people came to my mind is actually on Baja. And this is why I asked her and graciously she accepted although it is one I am in London. So salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah Allah. Hi, Jackie, long hair for joining us. And looking forward to have you with us today.
What I want to deliver cargo rack Aloha and for having me and it's an honor to be part of the conversation with yourself. Just like to say, the halaqa that I lead is in East London, but the venue has changed many times. At one time, we used to have it in eastern musty but the halaqa grew so much that we had to actually move it to your community center, which is just around the corner to where it is. So Alhamdulillah now we have a very own community center where we can actually have facilities like to the kitchen to the bathroom, and it's more spacious Alhamdulillah. So I thought just to clarify that whenever we have activities, we hire out the East London Mosque, which is the
big community center, as well as a London, you know, Muslim center for the Muslim, around, you know, UK Alhamdulillah. So
I wanted to actually talk about quite a lot of things. And looking at your poster, it gave me a focus to look at different and responsibility that we have as a woman, and how we try to juggle them. Because I think being a Muslim woman, being a mother, being a wife, being a daughter has a lot of pressure because you're trying to juggle so many different roles. So I thought to myself, one of the things that I would like to begin this whole discussion is with the actual narration of one of the companion. And this narration really makes a huge difference in enabling us to understand how to prioritize, and balance the different roles between being a mother, being a wife, being a student,
being a, you know, employee, so that we can find time for ourselves as well inshallah, because you can't do anything if you're not in good shape yourself. So is it okay, if I begin the generation that I had? Yes, so, so this, this actually is a very useful Hadith that my teacher taught me. And it's actually
the time that we met together in 2018, where we had a conference around me, myself and I,
yes, so I was asking what what can I use, you know, to actually illustrate the point that in our Deen, there's a lot of
what can I say? guidance in teaching us to create a balance because the prophets of Allah when he, when he came to mankind, he came to show people how to live the life in a way that gives them success. It be near one Acura and he was a role model. So my teacher taught me this idea and it is a wonderful headed, I often narrate to many sisters and many different circles. I've used this narration. So this narration is narrated by Abu hanifa. And he said that the purpose of Allah He established a bond of brotherhood between salmonella clerici, and a Buddha salmaan, came to visit a Buddha and he saw that his wife was in a shabby state. Now this was in the time where hijab was not
ordained, so he was able to see her. So he asked her, What was wrong? Why is she in this state? So she replied, and gave a hint, saying your brother has no need of the luxuries of this world, meaning he's not interested in me. Anyhow, he went inside and he met a Buddha and a Buddha presented him with some food. But above that, there was fasting. So someone said, I'm not going to eat, you need to eat with me. So
a Buddha, he broke his fast he was the worshipers and he ate with Excel, man. When the nighttime came,
Selman stayed over and he noticed a Buddha was anxious he kept waking up, but then someone said go to sleep. And he kept on waking up. And then someone again said go to sleep. When he was last part of the night he said, Okay, let's get up and let's pray. So they prayed together. And then supine on the what's the man said to a Buddha was a wonderful piece of advice and he can see the importance and the benefits of having righteous companion, righteous sisters in your life because they can tell you thing, although even at life,
It is actually good for you. So we know the importance of having good friends in our life, they guide us to the right path. So what did he say? He said
to his friend, and I can almost imagine, you know, a brotherly talk Listen, Brother, you know, and he gives him a very concise piece of advice. He says, look, in the mirror, because like, how can you Lord has a right upon you? And it's true. Our Lord has a right upon us. And then what did he say when he nexica like, and your body yourself has a right upon you. And then Willie retallick Hopkins, and you family has the right upon you. And then he says, For articular de hockey, so they forgive everyone they do right. Now, what's interesting,
I will die He goes to the gym and he narrates the whole story. Now, the whole system, think about it. All what a Buddha was trying to do was worship of Allah is that what he was trying to fast? He was trying to do. chiamo Lael, but at the expense of what though?
What about us? We some time do you think that he's wasting time being on social media at the expense of water. So here you can see that a Buddha was trying to do extra good deed he said that because he became Muslim at a later stage. So he was trying to catch up, we wanted to do a lot so that he can actually you know, compensate. So the process of awesome he he is what a Buddha is saying, what happened between him and salmonella heresy. But then the panel the comments from what did you say, he said, it's called dockerfile man, that a man spoke the truth. Here you can see the corpus callosum he approved of what the manifest he did to his friend, meaning strike a balance. And this
is the reality of our life, we need to strike a balance. The thing is,
like Dr. Hefner said, Every one of us, we have 24 hours. And interestingly, those who managed to stretch the 24 hours are those who use the 24 hours wisely. If you abuse the time, then you will not feel the Baraka in your time. But if you use the time, then you will see that you will get more out of your time. So one of the things that I really believe in, is to plan your time. Now they say if you fail to plan, then you're planning to fail. And I think one of the things that we really must do, as a busy person is, think about the plan for the day, look at your schedule and see where the blank hour or where the time slot is for you to do the things that you like to do, for example, many
systems, they say they want to go for a walk many places, they want to have time with their loved ones. Now, if you look at your time, see there are one hour here, one hour there and think of this time as a time that you can do for yourself. You see, you can't pour from an empty vessel, you have to fill yourself, you have to do look after yourself, only then you will be able to be of good service to others. And that includes your Ada as well. Now with regards to a Bada, we sometimes feel that it's just for Allah and it's just song. That's true. This is a bother, but
shuffle is not even to me, he says Eva is more comprehensive. And I think that's where, I don't know, some time. I see in our community, we have a narrow vision, or narrow understanding of whatever that is, we think it's just, you know, being on the prayer mat. And that's it No, a bad is everything what Allah loves and he approves of. So when you're not doing your prayer, you're at work, how are you as an employee? Are you consuming your trust? Are you speaking the truth? Are you disciplined and principled, all of this is a bother. And I think sometimes we have, you know, misunderstanding, we think, okay, you know, you're just doing a bother in the masjid. Or when you're
doing your fasting, and then you could just behave how you are even when you're having a party. You have to be mindful of what Allah likes and he dislikes. You can't go ahead and put the music on. You have to be mindful. You know, there are ways in which you can celebrate. So it's not okay, you're in a zone where you're an avid, and now you're going to be a facet. It's not like this. Everything in our life.
It's to do that which is pleasing to Allah is original. And I know there's time for this and this time for that. We find one of the narration of humbler he once was really upset and aboubaker us today.
I met him and he said What's wrong? He said, I think I have committed before I can he said Why are you saying this? And is it because when I meet the proper system I feel as if I can see Jenna you know, I feel so spiritually high. But when I go back to my family, I forget so you know, I'm in a different mindset, a book or acidic somehow Subhana Allah Abu Bakr Siddiq, he said, then I have become the same because I feel the same, that they both go into the Prophet sallallahu, Alayhi Salaam, and the Prophet, ascertain what what happened. So they narrated and they said, you know, we feel like we have committed, you know, you know, you know, we feel so high when we with you. But
when we go back to our family, we don't feel like the freedoms that we have when you're with you. Now then the promises some kind of like he explained, he said, you know, if you were to save the way you feel, when you're with me, he will come and shake your hand, you know, but Well, I can start unless I'm for this time for that. And we know this is the reality, you're not going to always feel this spiritual high all the time. Because life happens, you have to go to work, you have to study you have to be with the family. However, if you engage in all the Allah likes, then know that this is also a bad when you're breastfeeding your child. Don't think I'm just wasting my time, you are
fulfilling the rights of the child. This is a bad, you know. So it's about mindset, when you're purposeful when your mind full of what you're engaging in this also constitute that. So I think as believers there are certain ways that we can bring in the Baraka in our life. And that is a force being mindful, being intentional. I mean, Subhanallah Nowadays, there are a lot of non Muslim you know, coaches and you know, books talking about, you know, key to productivity, to be mindful to be conscious, in our Deen is all about Nia in the Mala Mala, Binya, whatever you do, you have to be mindful, you have to be purposeful, because every single thing that you engage in, we will see it on
the Day of Judgment kamiyama.
So nothing that we do, is to be belittled by the process. And he says that, do not belittle any good deed. Even if you meet your brother with a cheerful face. Because that is like a father call. And how many times we know people say, you know, I was having a rough day, I saw someone and they were smiling at me. And this made my day, just a smile Subhan Allah. So sometime, we think Eva is doing big deeds, no, sometime, you know, a by the his smoothies that you do, but if you do it consistently, it monster a big deal in the end, because it's making a difference to other people. I was discussing with my son during dinner time, but this conversation that I'm going to be having
with the typer so I asked him, so what do you think, by the is, you know,
in your understanding, but then he said
it's also to bring joy to the other people. And, and I found that quite interesting, because
he's a type of person who always greet everyone in our estate, you know, we live in black, and all the neighbors, they know him and he always says, Hello, hi to everyone. And, you know, I was thinking to myself, panel, I you know, small things like this goes a long way. Because some people may be very lonely, and they don't have no one to speak to. So when they see you, saying hello to them, it must really cheer them up. And sometimes we get surprised when different, you know, um, community members, they speak to him, it's because he always, you know, makes a way to greet them or say hello to them or say hi to them. And this is something that I think we really don't take time
doing, especially in western world where we live with non Muslims. And sometimes they may not know much about Islam. But if we do small gestures, like speaking to our neighbors, saying hello to them, it must change your perception of Islam and the Muslims. And also we must, you know, make an effort. So that in and of itself is a bother because you're trying to be the best model with the people that are living around you. And I think
we have to be intentional, we have to be more mindful of the impression that we give to the people living in our myths, particularly our neighbors. That's one area that I think sometimes as Muslims we under estimate the influence that we can have
On our neighbors who live with us in a being good to them, you know, giving them you know, attention, giving them, you know, sometimes food as well. So yes, a brother is more comprehensive than what we think
you should see. Yeah, I know I actually you brought a beautiful point. So I if I want to summarize, or if I want to make it in a
in a different way, I will say the following. Because I can I can hear it, some of the sisters says, Oh, this is beautiful. Yeah, I love this. But come on, let's live reality. And I wake up at 5am. In the morning, I'm running to get breakfast to my children, get them ready. Now, reality not in the COVID time in the real time when we lived, and then I have to put them in the car, and then I have to drop them to school, then I have to go to work, then I'm back at five, or I'm coming to the house, I have to prepare dinner that I have to make sure they did their homework, and then I have to get the dishwasher and all these things by the time nine o'clock comes in I am energy less. And this
is very common scenario. So if I will put everything you put together, this is what I will add. Number one, exactly. It's your intention. It's your need. And I think this is CNE
how many times you repeat is not enough. Because if I am going to stand up and do the same actions of sila, but my knee was not set out. This is not Salah. So the knee of the intention you say Yeah, I know. I know, we all know. But we unfortunately we forget. So for example, yeah. And I actually this is one of the first thing I was taught from my first teacher is every time you open a door to see a patient, so yeah, this is for you. spa, and I was like wow. And then then I learned is like why is this because if it's for Allah pure, it's a big people, thank you hamdulillah vigilent, thank you doesn't matter, because Allah will, that's pride for 10 minutes or 15 minutes I am with a
patient, right? I don't feel I'm very anxious because I have not done my 30 minutes allotted.
While I'm in the office now, and this is something that balance, I want to bring it to people at the moment where Allah puts you, what does he want from you as a priority, because I cannot be five people in one minute, I can't. Meaning if I am at work now that's just before I come here, that's not including the obligations. obligation to our was an obligation, nothing comes before it. So when I am alarm, speaking about myself or any woman who works, whether inside the house or outside the house, when I am in the office, when Allah is looking at me, he wants to see, as we say it's in the in the casual way, I am putting the physician hat, he wants to see the servant of Allah that his
not the servants of Allah, that's a teacher, or that's a student or a mother, because I'm in the office. So I cannot take care of my patients. And I spent 45 minutes doing my Lord, that's not pleasing to Allah, because I'm letting my patients down. And so I think what you said the priority is so true. And you need to see, what's that moment where did the law put you, for example, and this is going to make it much easier on the day of our offer. And there is no more beloved action or deed to Allah pantalla de Sala but on the day of our offer interesting the Salah is actually combined and shortened because the relay by the on the day of our offers to our
allies teaching us priority. I cannot fast yesterday it's Monday, we will all I can't tell you how many people called me. And I said no, how long? Because the data of the ad is a clone wash or one medical long. It's you eat you drink, and you remember Allah so what we need as women is number one to teach our self that at the moment I am living at that time of the day. What is my act of a body? What is my act of worship that Allah wants from me? As long as it's halal, of course, there is no act of worship in an X that's not Tyler. So if I am cooking my dinner, preparing dinner for my children, I shouldn't be huffing and puffing and I was like Oh, I missed the class. Oh, I should be
reviewing my Quran. No. Where are you better to Allah Mother of time you're on that suggested praying mob, but you're preparing food for your family. That's your a bad your new year for Allah. You're looking during it in the best way in the halal way.
Longer word, this you might want that this balance and a lot of the woman don't see it this way, once you see it this way, this anxiety that a lot of the women go through with, I'm not doing enough, I feel when I was single, I get this, I'm sure you get it too. When I was single, I used to review five as out of the Quran. Of course, you were single,
yeah. And once you learn your act of worship is not one.
It is what is that one in that moment, then you feel so much in peace, and you want to have everything as an act of worship? Do you agree? Of course, I actually thought once
I think you were doing a lecture or when you came to UK, and you were mentioning how sometimes, you know, we resist with the different, you know, flow of opportunities that comes away, we should be like the body that's been washed, you know, like a diseased body, you know, just go with the flow. And I think that's where there's a lot of anxiety and tension where people feel that no, I want you to do this. So therefore, you know, I'm frustrated because I can't do this, you know, sometime, you know, Allah will put certain things towards you. It's an opportunity, you can either shy away from it, or you can embrace it. And if you embrace it, thinking that Allah wanted me to be here and
discuss this issue, because maybe I'm the best person Allah thought fit for me to have this certain discussion. Don't think, oh, why me? Why can't someone so no, rather embrace it and think, okay, you know, why not me, you know, because Allah is the best of planners. Also, another thing that I find in our community, there's a lot of
was the word conflict of, you know, interests with regards to fulfilling the different roles that we have. And this is something that we need to understand that every role that Allah has put us in, will be questioned about it, because these are rights of other people in our life that we have to be mindful of, like, for example, you know, the rights of children should not conflict with the rights of your spouse, if it does, then you need to really have a discussion so that there is no conflict, because both are important rights. From time I see sisters, they're very engrossed in the rights of the children at the expense of the rights of the husband. I mean, both, you know, relationship is
important, and they should not really interfere with each other, you know, children have their rights, you put them to sleep, then the husband has certain rights, and certain rights between husband and wife, if you don't fulfill them, then there will be a problem, you know, because you You are his wife, and he is your husband. And we know there are certain rights only a husband and wife can fulfill, you know, such as intimacy, for example. So these things sometimes creates a lot of problem and tension, because it's been neglected. And, you know, we have to be mindful that every primary rights that we have in our life, we have to balance it in a way so that nobody is feeling
neglected. That makes sense, because sometime I hear complaints, you know, my assistant, they say, I feel so tired. If you do too tired, then that's a cause for concern, you may need to see a physician to sort out what's going on maybe you're low in iron, for example. Or maybe you've taken on too much on yourself, and you are really struggling or maybe you need to rise early so that you can catch the hour with his Baraka or maybe usually lots of God because through the code we can get a lot of assistance from Allah like he says, You know what, Kula kitty law remember Allah much why Laila? Come to flee Hoon so that you may become successful. And we know that when, you know, partying, or
the Allahu Anna, she went to her father, you know, the practice allows them to get a seven because her hands will go in really, you know, dry and she was feeling the effects of household chores in her hands, is supposed to give her a separate note. Rather when he came to see her. He said, I will teach you something better than that. What did he teach? He taught her to say the car when she goes to sleep. Why? Because he's teaching her to depend on a laser within and that's one of the things that I try to advocate systems. If you feel really stressed and you have no time you feel overwhelmed. Do not have a car. A car is the easiest thing to do. Why? Because you don't need no we
do we don't need to be in a particular you know, a sitting position. You can just do a quarter, wherever you are and how do you you know you just need to remember a lot and you have the tongue to do that. So when we try to look at ways to
Get more energy gets more Baraka in our time, then Believe me, you will get that time. But I think one of the things that I like to encourage system is to be mindful. What are you doing with your time you see, you know, when you look at the time matrix, there are things that are urgent that you need to attend to. And there are things that are important that you don't need to attend to right there and there you can attend to it later on, you know, so you need to understand what is urgent, what is important. And then there are, you know, something that is not important, not urgent, but you are spending a lot of time on, I understand, we have to be connected with other people through
the phone, through social media media. However, even with that have a slot of time where you check your Instagram, your WhatsApp, whatever, don't carry the phone around as if this is something that you have to keep on checking. Many times I see on the street, in massages, when it was opened, like sisters will have their phone on their hands, why have we made the phone rule our life, the phone should be there to serve us, not the other way around. So sometimes we may not realize that gadget is actually consuming so much of our time, valuable time. And then we ask ourselves, where has the time gone? You see, sometimes people think that you can multitask. And actually, you really can't
multitask. Because if you try to multitask too many things, something, you know, something happens to one of the tasks like say, if you're cooking and you're trying to do this, you're trying to do that, you will always find the cooking is affected because it's burning or something happening. When you multitask, you always find this, that's why my rule of thumb is that, you know, I'm just gonna monitor because if I'm cooking, I'm just cooking, you know, I'm just trying to focus on the different ways and I see doing that the time is actually less because I have given my attention. And I have done what I need to do. And that thing, nothing bad. Nothing, you know, you know, gets you
know, neglected, I've just done that next task, then next next talk, then the time of the hawk comes, for example, then you get ready. So I think when we look at the way we spend our time, we have to be mindful, are we actually eating our time away with things that are not important? Or not? urgent? Is it just timeless is that you know, we are using our time because if we don't use our time, well, then don't be surprised if you don't have enough time to do the thing. You know, like they say, if you want something done, always get a busy person to do it. Because the busy person is smart. They know Okay, I have to do this task, this task. So I have to plan in a way so that I can
execute all of my tasks. And Subhanallah sometimes, you know, sisters, they see me go to the HELOC or do the event. What they don't realize, for me to do what I'm doing in the community, I had to wake up early, do the cooking, clean the house, make sure that everything is set, you know, and that means I had to wake up early, obviously people don't see that, we will just see that, you know, we organize and conferences, but amount of background work goes into that. And not only myself, even the other team members, they have to do the cooking, they have to raise the babysitting. So so much goes behind the scene that people don't really see anyone who's involved in, you know, say efforts
in the community, they can resonate because they know what we are talking about. So that's with anything, if you are passionate, if you are keen to do something, if you are intentional about your actions, then you will find a way to manage your time it all goes back to your intention. And what is it that you want to do? Are you just like one of my teacher, you know, she is a psychotherapist, she says we are so much into like, we like human doing. We just do doo doo doo doo. But we need to stop and be intentional and become human beings. But she uses the term to being human doing where you just doing one thing to another, like a rat race and become human beings where you're
intentional. Where you're thinking, where you're reflecting, what am I doing and making choices that will help you to become more successful in the sight of Allah azza wa jal and life is all about choices you know you will get to do you will get to us do this do that. Sometimes you have to stop and think Can I really do this? Will my lifestyle allow me to do this in my family commitment, allow me to do this. And then the next thing, you know discussing with your spouse, and having a consultation, I'm thinking of doing this, you know, so all of that you do so that you can really make a clever decision and choice because when you reflect over your
decision making process you can really see the pros and the cons and you can really weigh things up and really ask yourself, you know, whether you I will to commit to whatever comes your way and then make that decision and it is good and if you are intentional about doing something and you ask Allah azza wa jal din Allah azza wa jal, he always facilitates it. And he I want to mention something really beautiful that I was looking through my note book and I found this and it's a statement by northiam He says, the level of the slave sincerity in his intention determines Allah's Tofig and his aid for him, for depending on how sincere you are in an intention, and how you know, that intention
is you know, pure for his sake, then Allah will give you his tofik depending on that Nia so it really goes back to our intention. If you want to do something for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, then Allah will give you tofik dependent on your sense of Nia, your purity of the Nia, and then Allah will facilitate it. And that facilitation will be in accordance with the level of your intention, how pure it is for Allah sake. And Sukarno Allah, I'm sure you know, Dr. hefa. You can think of some of the, you know, examples and stories that you have heard from different systems, the committee and yourself that, you know, if you really want to do something for the sake of Allah azza
wa jal, for example, in your workplace, you want to pray your father, it's just your fork. And you're thinking, How can I discuss this, you know, with my manager, if you're really sincere about it, you will see that you mentioned to your manager, I should be so facilitating, she'll be so happy to facilitate the prayer break for you. But it doesn't mean that you take advantage and you start thinking, well, I can have an extra reg No, it's in the money you have to be mindful. But the point I'm trying to make is whatever you intend to do for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, you will see Allah will give you two feet depending on the level of Nia that you have and Subhanallah if I tell
you some stories you know like you like it just goes to show that Allah's mercy you know, envelopes the person who is seeking to do the right thing so here this is don't feel disheartened that you know, I really can't manage it you know, you have to stop and you have to really evaluate Okay, what's going on in your life? Is there a lot that you are struggling with? If so then perhaps you need to seek help and get some assistance you know, or it could be that you feel that you know, your time is just you know, flying and you don't know where the time is going? Maybe there is some blind spot that you're not able to see so maybe as an exercise you could look at your schedule and see
what is it that eating your time is it you know, the phone for example, is it you know, unexpected visitors for example, you know, and whatever it is try to be you know, discipline so that you can cut out this interruption because you have to be mindful, there are certain things that you need to give priority so that you can execute these, you know, the jobs in your life so that you can be on top of things. And there are certain things that you can do it later on. So I think it's very important to look at your schedule and really see okay, how are you managing with every task that you know, in your like, schedule.
There's one thing I want to add what you put it beautifully is a comment on ignore is basically how truthful you are in your, what you want to do for the sake of Allah. Allah will make it so easy It reminds me of the verse in the Quran solitary saw men or other laughter f0 was Salah. hassayampa
that we like to kind of say you homeschool loss of the soul to the straw man Narada This is your knee This is your intention. Whosoever want Allah Hera the hereafter want number one you want number two doesn't come free wasa Surya you work hard for that intention, meaning I'll bring the Salah in the in the workplace, right I really want to pray and I'm really gonna try say Allah use the word say say is hard. say there is a rush. It is one of the hardest thing in hedge your heart meaning. That doesn't mean necessarily physically, but I'm very uncomfortable.
asking this from my manager, she, I'm sure she will say no, this is how she found comes to her were so shy you have to put the effort
in and he or she believes, of course, this belief has many meanings. But in this example, you fully believe that Allah will not let you down.
Kind of saying how much Cora Allah says, Those who have put the effort, their efforts will be rewarded, how I'm going to be rewarded in dunya by Allah making it easy mean in a way. hateful leftism. In a way, I don't know how it is one point I want to add. And as you were speaking, it's came to my mind. And the wives of roswaal is AutoSum is the best example. We are not the same
as women. I'm not talking about men and women, I'm talking about women, and we are not the same what I can do, maybe you cannot do and what you can do, I cannot do so I shouldn't keep looking at says but she did that she did this, look at her children don't and look at them, then the mothers of the of the believers. May Allah be pleased with them, right? I say the house I didn't have children that she
she is the HUD data she is this, this color. This follow up scholars have many scholars writing verses over selama and hakima. The why's that she gave him an advice. So the whole major issue. So on each one of us, as we are prioritizing, as you're saying, very important to prioritize, look at what did Allah gave you specifically different than the others, as we call it here in the States, what's your niche
is it and don't compare with the other meaning we'll come back to the cooking woman you have to have guests before the COVID and inshallah after. So you have guests, you are a woman who is not a very good cook, this is you. And it takes a lot of your time. And then I if I can order from someone that is needy, and I am having three meals here, helping a needy person serving my guests, using the time that I use in cooking and doing something else more pleasing, pleasing to Allah. So don't compare what you have. And if you don't know what Allah gave you. That's where I turn to Alanna says, You show me, you show me what you gave me and what you wanted from me from that thing. So number one is
look at what Allah gave you another thing comes also a lot of the questions every time has his do right?
And that's basically priority, but I'm not talking about a I'm talking the time of your life.
The question always comes in I'm sure you get it too young palha should I study? Or should I get married? Should I get pregnant? Should I delay my studies? Should I not go to college and study static studies? All these? Every time has a priority? And the best one to answer this question is who?
First thing I tell the woman you go praise the horror.
Ask and you're sincere. Coming back again to our sincerity. Sometimes I hear people say one line. She she's talking to Allah. If you show me what you want from me, I am doing it right now.
He wants you to stay home, take care of your children and deny your postgraduate studies.
Yeah, that's your act of worship. Now. He didn't give you children who tried Salah hostaria you really tried he didn't want his or her keen don't keep looking at the others and says what the others have I don't you look and says Alhamdulillah he gave me now all this extra time.
I'm gonna use it. So the priority is not what you like, is a lot of people is what I love, is rather what he wants you to do. And if you don't know what he wants you to do turn to Him in Doha and he will show you Subhan Allah Subhana Allah and the more and you said it beautifully, of course. The more you are connected with Allah Subhana Allah, Allah the decree law he talks about in your club, worldly by remembrance of Allah hearts, hearts, inner peace will reach serenity. I cannot say more about this. I
You are connected with a law by the Vic, that that act of worship that costs nothing more you are in peace. There is Baraka not only in your time, but even in your effort,
you're in peace if it happened Alhamdulillah if it didn't happen Alhamdulillah this connection is extremely. And I think more the the thing, number one, I see it that we lost as Muslims is this real connection, not the external connection, I'm not talking about only Salah as a job, I'm talking about this the feeling of him, me, I talk to him, I'm overwhelmed, child is sick, I need to prepare I have an exam tomorrow and I'm overwhelmed. Where is me turning to him and says yamo you're serious.
You think it's a very good point you know you made because I think a lot of the time we are so busy in doing things that we don't stop to reflect and do that, you know, the fact that the predecessor needs to do you know, sometime I just think you know, human beings we need that time to just reflect you know, just reflect and see where we going and this is something that Allah invites us again and again in the Quran. You know, he says, you know, to reflect, to ponder to really use our intellect because we need spend time in thinking and analyzing Where are we going we can see our shortcomings. But when we're busy just doing things we don't realize where we are heading we don't we don't
see where we are going. So I think it's very important to make it you know, a part of our routine after throttle fudger we do a car and we think we just think today is a new opportunity Today's a new day Today's a you know a life that I have been given by Allah azza wa jal you know, how am I going to use it? I've got x, y and Zed to do okay, what am I going to you know begin with asking Allah for help and assistance all the morning and you know, evening God is actually designed to prepare you for the day designed to prepare you for the evening. So that each day and each evening is a time where you maximize yourself you know, you are more grateful and what does the law say
about gratitude? You know, when let in shackled to the alley then yeah, so when you're grateful in your pursuit of doing things, then Allah will give you more, Allah will increase it for you. And having that constant connection with Allah is wonderful, isn't it? Because if you look at the life of a believer you wake up in the morning besotted? fudger that's connection number one. Then Then you do you do your winning and the winning of God you use that the day you set the intention for the day, that I'm going to be a Abbot of Allah azza wa jal Abbot of Allah azza wa jal then budget after budget is bar time. And then after time, then Margaret time they share time and then sleep times
upon Allah. So Allah has made our schedule in such a way that we have regular stops to refuel our spirituality so that we can keep on going being connected to Allah subhanaw taala Now sometimes sisters who are not praying due to you know, masturbation or postpartum bleeding, you know, don't think that you're on your break. At the time of Salah pause for a minute Do you accord you can do your declare, so that you still connected with some form of a data even in your menstruation. So it's not all or nothing because many times I hear sisters, they complain of having a mandate because they're not praying. It shouldn't be like this. You shouldn't be like this. You think, okay, my
family is going to pray. I'm going to sit down. Now look at my phone. I'm going to do a car, stop for Allah Subhana Allah Alhamdulillah for 10 minutes, I'm done. you've connected without being in Salah because you're not praying, but you can still be connected to a legislator. So the more you feel that connection with Allah, the more you will get the help and assistance from a legislature. And this is the key.
It's a power law saying this and this has come to my mind. There's kinsmen cruising Jana. A treasure are the treasures of Jenna La hawla wala quwata illa Billah. The Baraka in time is not me being so organized, and me being so proper, so efficient. You know what I'm saying? Because we all
Say that Masha Allah how she can do multitask is not she is not to me. It is not hola La quwata illa Billah no chain, no power, no change in any station in any status without him. So if I want to have more Baraka in my time before I become so I read five books or I put too many schedules that Allah knows how much I'm going to follow number one now whoa La quwata illa Allah, Allah Allah Allah be holy whatever it is not by my planning is not by my strength. This is amazing word that we are what forget I mean these are all to all my beautiful sisters listening to us. These are very simple practical things to do this doesn't need anything. Another one which is Dre and Vicar.
Musalia ala Sayyidina Muhammad
and the famous Hadith when the Sahaba asked him how much I send Salah on you 1/3 1/4 all my time he said took for hammock.
You said Salah sorry So to sum all the time, all your worries will be removed. I think that again this is the mindset we talked about. Changing the mindset is not like I'm not gonna worry, it's not gonna work this way. Because we're not inspiring me. changing my mindset in my relationship with Allah in how I look at him, he can do things versus he can do things or swabbing his Auto Salon reading my Quran, whenever I can read the Quran is also the curse, all the all the stuff I want to sum up as well unfortunately getting at the end which was beautiful. If I want to sum up number one is your intention.
Everything have an intention for everything they used to say the Sahaba of the Lama. We learned ruler intention before we learned what to do. So number one is your intention. And look at everything you do and see how many I can be in this
is not one only you can have 510 so your intention for Allah is what I am doing right now. Number one is pleasing to Allah. If it is not pleasing to Allah, there's no Baraka
pleasing to Allah pantalla is this is the most important thing I do this moment.
What do you call it? urgency emergency dire need? Is this is that the right time of my life to do it.
Or now I have more important things to do. When I studied rubella, turn to Allah and Allah, we make it easy, and it is not impossible. Because all the people before us people who are very righteous, I have met they're still living. I learned I studied with them. These are you name it, they are mother, wife, professional. alima Have you ever you go to her house and you see the house sparkling?
And I was like if she can do it, we can do it. Yes. What is the difference between her and me? And I'm speaking specifically about one of my teacher, her relationship with Allah.
Yeah, it's beyond. It's beyond. She span Allah. So I want to leave the last words for y'all follow her. And then unfortunately we have to stop. Yeah, I think one of the things that we don't realize is that Ava is not just you know, you doing your Salah, it's everything that is pleasing to Allah azza wa jal. And our Deen teaches us that there are certain a bada that you do, where you pray to Allah azza wa jal make your art to him. You do the recitation, but there is another type of robot the way you fulfill the rights of his creation. So you have to be mindful of being validated, being good to your parents, you know, fulfilling the rights of your children, protect the rights of your
spouse, fulfilling the rights of your relatives, fulfilling the rights of your, you know, relatives who are near and who are further, also your neighbors as well. And when you look at your life, a life of service to others, Allah azza wa jal and to his creation, then you will find that your life will become blessed because everyone is being
served in the way that you can deliver your best, and Allah will facilitate it for you. And so panela One of the things that you know, I find it really amazing when a person passes away. One of the things that people really miss about this person is how connected he was to the creation. sala zeca. It's for all
But when you are being observed is to his creation, especially in the time of COVID-19 where you see your neighbor who is struggling vulnerable, you offer to do shopping for their them, then that Subhanallah is some time more of a virtuous thing because you are facilitating for somebody who is not able to go to the shop. So sometimes you know, we need to widen our horizon and think about that is being of service to the creation of Allah azza wa jal and this is something that we need to really open our minds to because again, when you're intentional, then you are maximizing yourself to worship Allah in the best possible way. And isn't that what we ask Allah as as the vigil every
single time you pray we say along mine yellowdig rica or shoukry ka Hosni by the tick beside Allah helped me enabled me to remember you to thank you and to worship you in the best of manners and what is the word nd helped me
is I can do it
and this is a job number we are sorry So to sum total
and he said are hymnbook lotton centerpull dwaraka Don't forget to say after each salah and whether it's before you say Salaam or after any meaning your Allah helped me I have no power I can do it alone. So this is what I will we'll we'll start we'll end up with May Allah reward you on pal Hispaniola was beautiful really enjoyed and I hope all the sisters I see sisters enjoying joined us from India from Malaysia. May Allah rewards everybody we all by Allah grace again purify our Nia, focus on Allah in everything you do and he will help and he will make it easy Bismillah exactly now please accept my sincere thanks for joining us at 2am UK time and give my Salaam to all the
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