Haifaa Younis – The Quran Has It All #21 Divorce
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The speaker discusses the rules of Islam, including boundaries and rights of the woman and man. They also mention the importance of learning from the Quran and the importance of following boundaries and not harming oneself. The speaker emphasizes the need to learn from the Quran and follow its teachings to avoid becoming a divorceist.
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So as Allah
taught us in the Quran,
as a community,
we fell in love with each other, we
get married.
Unfortunately, sometimes
things doesn't go the way. We wanted it
or planned it, and Allah knows that, and
he mentioned it in the Quran.
And that is actually
divorce.
SubhanAllah.
And Allah put it in a way
that it is not
encouraged,
neither it is condemned.
It's something that is going to happen. But
what do we need to learn? What is
he teaching us in the Quran? The rules
of it. What are the boundaries?
What are the rights of the woman? What
are the rights of the man? Or what
should he do? Or what she she should
do? And there's 2 places in the Quran
where it is detailed, if you want to
use the word. One of them is actually
in Surat Al Baqarah. In Allah,
it's almost 2 pages of the Quran, but
the interesting thing is a whole chapter in
the Quran
is actually
covering
the divorce.
And start that chapter.
Allah is addressing Rasul,
as if he is telling him, this is
really serious. I am telling you, I want
you to learn this, and which means
I and you need to learn this. And
he says,
when you are gonna divorce the woman because,
there was
a, a strong opinion that he divorced Hafsa,
the daughter of Sayidna Umar, and then he
brought her back.
And then Allah
is telling you and me
what are the things that we really need
to be very careful about.
There is
a waiting period.
There is times the man cannot divorce the
woman.
What happens if she was pregnant?
What happens if she was breastfeeding and the
divorce happened?
All these rulings
in detail in the Surat Upalah
chapter of divorce.
How about
because usually the waiting period is related to
menstruation.
What about if the woman
does not have menstruation?
What is the ruling?
What is so interesting that we all have
to learn,
that Surah Al Tanakh, the chapter of Tanakh,
is only 12 verses.
Out of these 12 verses,
5 times Allah
mentioned the word taqo in different way.
And most commonly is,
the person who practice taqo
because it is an action.
Divorce is not something very easy.
It's unfortunately
something
that cause harm, cause pain,
ego goes in it,
pain, emotions.
And the only way for me and us
as human beings
to do it this the way that pleases
Allah
is to remember again the taqwa of Allah
that Allah is watching,
Allah is allowing it. Allah put boundaries.
I need to
follow these boundaries. For example, one of the
boundaries Allah said is do not harm them.
Do not hold them, meaning don't divorce them
so you cause more harm to them. He
also taught us, don't do that so that
she will not be able to marry somebody
else.
Do not let them leave the house
or the woman should not leave the house.
This is all in the Quran. SubhanAllah.
Now when we and this is sometimes what
shaitan brings inside us. If I am gonna
do this or I'm gonna do this, I'm
gonna lose this or I'm gonna lose that.
And Allah said one of the most beautiful
verses
that Rasool, alaihis salatu wa salam said about
it. There is a verse in the Quran.
The person who practice it will be more
than enough for him or her.
Whomsoever
practice taqwa, Allah conscious,
Allah will make a way out for him.
And there is so many meanings
of this way out. But let's say financially,
if I am gonna not obey Allah in
the divorce, I'm gonna lose money. Remember,
you obey Allah. You'll be Allah conscious. Allah
will find a way out for you.
And I am going to go through divorce
and life is going to be very
difficult. If you're gonna follow Allah's rule, Allah
will make it easy for you.
One of the interesting thing again in chapter
talaq,
the name of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
so much repeated in it.
And as Allah talking about Talaq or divorce,
you see in between,
Allah brings
the result or what happened to a nation
that disobeyed Allah.
They
absolutely did not obey Allah.
They paid the price for it. SubhanAllah.
And in also very interesting,
everything
in the heavens, in the earth, and what
comes in between them.
So you know Allah is capable of doing
anything and everything.
So you know Allah
encompass everything. He knows the suffering he or
she is going through. He knows the pain
you are going through. He knows the feeling
of failure sometimes people feel.
And Allah knows everything.
Islam is a beautiful religion
and Islam is a faith or a religion
that
touch on realities.
The beauty of Islam is that it has
this
sublime
nature
of a religion. It takes it serious, but
also it takes
it reality,
teaches me.
When I, and may Allah protect all their
marriages, But these things happen.
And what we all need to learn is
when we go through this difficult time,
remember Allah.
Learn what Allah have taught us, you and
me, in the Quran. Obey Him. Follow it.
Even if
externally it's gonna
make us feel that we may be losing
something. Remember,
Whomsoever
practice Allah consciousness,
Allah will find a way. May Allah protect
all their marriages. May Allah makes divorce a
way that to bring as we've said many
times in this series. Everything comes from Allah,
is khair, everything Allah allows,
is good, even if externally it doesn't look
this way.